Good Advice or Bad Advice? EP 41
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From the art of the deal to keeping it real. Live from the Simply Vegas studios, it's The Power Move with Jon Gafford. Back again, back again, back again for another exciting episode of The Power Move. Indeed, with us today in the studio, I am your host, Jon Gafford. As always, to my left...

Colt silverware fetcher, Amaden. I appreciate you bringing it. Well, your wife sent you to fetch silverware today, so that's what you call the silverware fetcher. Thank you. And we'll go with that. And as always with us in the studio, the counselor, Chris Connell. How are you, sir? Living the dream. And guest sitting in with us today, man, power mega agent, an all-around good dude and personal bro, Eric Gordon. What's up, Gordon? How are you? Thanks for sitting in with us today, buddy. I appreciate that. Always a pleasure. Always a pleasure.

So today on the Power Movement, we're going to talk about a lot of stuff, you know, because I just think people get a lot of bad advice. I think they get so much bad advice. And I saw, you know, call it a meme, call it a post, call it what you will. But it was kind of advice from an 80-year-old guy. And I read it, and I thought it was pretty good, and I thought we would share some of that. But, you know, so we're going to get into that in just a minute. We're going to talk about good advice you've gotten, bad advice you've gotten over the years.

Like hang out with Colt. That's bad advice. Give Colt a segment. We can talk about anything as bad advice, but no, but just things like that. Great advice. You can go with on that, on that aspect.

But let's start by some current events because we've got stuff going. First of all, do you guys, is anyone not aware of the Ponzi scheme going on in Vegas right now? You told me a little bit about it. Yeah. So here's the- Which one are we talking about? No, here's where we're at. Is there like one individual? No, no. You mean gambling? No, no. So here's where we're at. I get a phone call last maybe Thursday or Friday, 7.30 in the morning, and it's from one of our escrow officers at Clear Title.

And for all your title needs clear title. So one of our escrow officers and she says, Hey, the FBI is like outside our doors. And I go, what do you mean the FBI? She goes, again, she goes, the FBI is here. She goes, there's like a tank thing. And there's like a bunch of dudes in FBI vests. I'm like, what?

there's no reason they should be there as I'm randomly scouring through my head at every possible bad thing. You're like, my VPN was supposed to protect me from this. Everything I may have possibly done going forward. And I'm just scouring through this. And then I'm like, so she texts me back. She goes, okay, they're not here for us.

I go, what do you mean? She goes, well, I went outside and I said to him, I go, hey, can I move my car? And they go, no, don't worry about it. And she's like, you know, should we be worried? And the guy just looked at her and said, ma'am, we're the FBI. If you can see us, we're not here for you. It's like very little sneakier than all this. That's pretty slick, actually. We're not going to have the rally meeting in front of the house we're about to raid. Anyway, so they all take off and they actually go up the hill into Ascaya. What?

which is a very, very nice neighborhood at the top of the hill here in Henderson, Nevada. Now, oddly enough, the people that we carpool with, my wife shares drop-off pickup duty of children to school with, the house that was being raided was the neighbor's, was the next-door neighbor. So she's calling and says, what's going on? Now,

Terrible part of this, what was happening immediately was the first thing I hear about it is that there's a big wedding. Their daughter or son was getting married that weekend and all of their extended family was at the house when the FBI hit it. Wow. So FBI comes looking in, bang, bang, bang. Turns out we're starting to put some stuff together. I hear it has something to do with buying out or advancing money on lawsuits that are pending.

Right. Big returns. I start thinking to myself, I'm like, man, I've heard something about this before. So I was like, my attorney had mentioned this at one point. So I call him, call one of my attorneys and I say to him, hey, what's the name of that dude that you were that was trying to get you to invest with money with him? He said the guy's name. Yeah. And it was him.

I said, this is the guy the FBI just kicked his door in. Right. And so from there, there was an article yesterday in the RJ about an attorney that was associated with this that pulled a gun on the FBI. If you didn't see that, Marshall's went to his house. He put a gun to his head, his office, to his own head, and then and then pointed at the cops, at which point they shot him not fatally, but in the hospital. So now he's going for that.

And so as this starts to unravel, I did a post yesterday on the gram where I just said, hey, look, be careful in what you're investing in because we're always raising money for our real estate deals. And I said, look, if you can't touch it, walk it, feel it, be careful with what you hear. And if the returns are too good to be – sound too good to be true, they probably are. That post alone, I probably got 30 messages last night from people saying –

I have a friend that has a million dollars with that guy. I have friends that have, I mean, a lot of the lacrosse parents lost money with that guy. I mean, it was like, this is going to wind up being a billion dollar Ponzi scheme. Dang. A billion dollars is going to evaporate because-

People got some bad advice. And here's how far reaching it is. So this morning, I get a text message with an image from the Nevada Secretary of State website showing an entity. And that entity has the main guy who got raided, his name.

You can say his name. I don't know where it is, but below it. Matt Beasley. Okay, below it is the attorney who pulled a gun on the cops yesterday, right? Is the registered agent of said LLC. And the third person is a guy's name that I had not seen on this corporation, whatever it was, was pest control company. I'm like, who is this? So my buddy goes, you might want to search your website for that guy's name. So I search his name. First thing that comes up, this cat,

Agent at Simply Vegas. Really? Yeah. Now, granted, I don't know this guy. I don't know who he is. He's only been here for like a hot second. He's done one real estate deal and it was his own house up somewhere very quickly. Wait a second. Pest control? Yes.

That's the LLC it was under? It was a pest control LLC. So, yeah. So, needless to say, needless to say, as soon as I saw this, we sent his license back. I want to steer clear of it, which let that be a lesson to you. That's him, Paul? I think it was. I don't know. I turned him on to the company. Oh, no. He's my pest control guy. Oh, is he? Oh, I don't know. Shut up, bro. I turned him on to the company. To this one? Yeah. Oh, I don't know. Maybe.

I don't know. Maybe it was. The views of Eric Horton do not represent the views of Sibley Marius. No, no. But my thing was, here's the point. The point of it is this. If you think in this country, whatever, there's due process and all of those things, there may be. These guys may get their day in court. They may be able to figure out what it is. But as a business owner, I'm out. You're even remotely tied to this. I'm gone. I'm gone. I don't even want them doing my pest control.

No, no, but I don't think this guy... Now, granted, I don't think this guy... He's got bigger problems than having his real estate license that he did his only one deal, which was his own deal to our company. I think he's got bigger problems. Do you know that that guy's involved in it? I don't care if he was. Because he's a manager. Well, I just... Because here's the thing. Obviously, you don't want the witches out, right? You don't want the pitchforks out. You don't want to...

imply that somebody could be involved in something if they weren't, right? So even if at the end of the day, what happens is being associated by stuff is enough to not want people to represent or be associated with you. But being on an LLC doesn't necessarily imply that you had any part to do with this other thing. 100%. But if the only other two people listed on these LLC docs are

Were people now implicated in this Ponzi scheme? But was that company named? No. Was the company on the LLC? That lawyer was just an officer or that lawyer was just... The lawyer was a registered agent. Yeah. The main Ponzi scheme dude was a member and this other guy was a member. Okay. So, because here's the thing, right? There's other companies. Like, I'm a member of other LLCs for, you know, Rock Pro. Yeah. I'm a member of Rock Pro. So, if my partner in Rock Pro was doing dirt...

It wouldn't mean my legal business is doing anything weird. I understand that, but to the public, people would draw those lumps. Absolutely. But like I said, it's just one of those things where- Yeah. Look, I get it. But the point being is, and again, if you're in real estate, you work somewhere, you're an independent contractor. That's right. So your contract states I can turn to you for any reason I want. Perfect. Instantly can't.

So this is not violating any employment rules or laws that I'm doing. But just keep in mind that sometimes guilt by association can be as bad as guilt itself. So you've got to, you know, have 360 vision, understand who you're, who you're hanging around is a, is he, is you. Absolutely. You are that perception. Cause there's been times in my life when I've been left holding the bag. Oh, shite. And I've had to, you know, settle up seven figures because other people were not honest. And you know, you pay the price and it is what it is. But, but,

I just want to clarify that nobody's implying Paul. Anyone named Paul? No, nobody named Paul. Can we just talk about how horrible would it be to be shot by the FBI because you're trying to do a suicide probably by a cop? Why would you? Just kill yourself. Why is suicide by a cop supposed to just do it? I mean, I don't know why that's a preferred. Get a cigar. Jesus.

get a cigar shoot yourself this is a mental health week yeah no don't shoot yourself don't shoot the police how these guys are still doing ponzi schemes like isn't it easy enough to do well this is like that's a legit that is a legit way to make money if any all these ponzi schemes you can make no not say not ponzi scheme

I'm out of here today. All these Ponzi scheme people would be worth a lot of money if they did what they're saying they're doing. Legitly. The problem is there's no way to do what they say they're going to do. Absolutely. You could not tell me you could not go do this. What they were doing. I just want to point out.

the what i'm understanding is that this was tied into litigation funding okay yes so here's how that works and here's why it's easier at first to pawn people scan people but i'm telling you you could do it legit and make some money all my clients not to use litigation funding okay i don't use it as my law firm i pay for all my litigation out of my own pocket

But sometimes litigation can be up in a half a million, million dollars. Should you want your law firm tying up a million dollars pursuing litigation? Now, I pay for my own, but I thankfully haven't had a million dollar case in cost for litigation that I fronted.

But there's companies out there that will loan you money if you have settlement money coming in. And I have in my retainer agreement, don't use them. I can't loan or advance you any money that's not related to case costs specifically. And also don't use these companies that are out there because the VIG is insane. Like you're paying 50% of the money back and you're giving them on interest.

For periods of time right people that are hard up and they have a rough go at life and they got rent I'd rather you paid rent and got a sweeter pot well these these guys were super slick and what they were doing and how because because literally one of my attorneys was like look when they sent me this opportunity they sent me the case like it wasn't just like a pool I put money into specific cases and

And he goes, I saw the case. He goes, I caught, I looked it up. I contacted the attorney said, yeah, you know, this is how it's going. The problem was they would get a specific case and then sell it 50 times, a hundred times. So that can do that in the short term, right? You can get a lot of bites at an apple before someone realizes you're in the apple orchard. Yeah. Right. They always get caught.

So if you want to take your upfront, you know, if you want to steal money, you can steal money with fraud upfront. There's a lot of people that commit fraud and get away with it for a while, but it always comes out. Let's ask this. So do you think I, part of me instantly goes to this when I think about this is, do you think these guys are like, you know what, man, I've lived a good life. I'm in my fifties. I've done it.

I'm going to go ahead and set my kids up forever, and they're on almost a Balzarian plan. Because my son, who barely knows anything, will become literally the greatest poker player in the world for one year and win $50 million, which nobody believes that really happened. But there you go. I mean, it's almost like that's the plan. I'm going to take a pinch. I'll put this away, and this is how we're going to get the money back out for the family next generation. Yeah, I mean, maybe with crypto.

Right, because now you can launder money a lot easier. Yeah. How much of that money has gone into crypto? How would you ever know? How would you know? No way to track it. It turns out there are if you watch line goes up, the problem with NFT. Yes. But...

The FBI and all those things, it could be on some server in China through some NFT bounced around 12 times through different cryptos. I'll tell you that. Let's talk about this, though. Let's talk about this because we had something else happen. It's like legal week here. So we had a situation where one of our agents here, I'll tell you a story. This is an interesting story. One of our agents here sold a house, had a client come in that was a crypto whale. That's how they present themselves. I'm a crypto whale. I don't know what's going on with crypto. I don't really want anything in my name.

can hook up with like a hard money lender. Hard money lender agreed to buy a house for this client and then carry the note for seven months. Nothing illegal about that. Perfectly happens every day. Do like a bridge finance deal for them.

So the hard money lender bought the house and then kind of this guy kind of disappeared. They're like, what's going on? He's supposed to be making option payments. He wired like $150,000 in option money for this property and they disappeared. Turns out not a crypto whale. Turns out he's a dark web, a Coke dealer and has been literally sending cocaine all over the planet through the, through the mail for years. And so he,

He lost the option. And now his wife was trying to sue somebody. Vegas, the cement is that, don't matter. But the point of it is, I went through and I read the complaint. The US government against this guy. Because I was just kind of interested, right? Dude, they followed this cat for years. The DEA followed him for years. And every time they were moving crypto, they had it.

So if you think your crypto is anonymous, guess what? If the U.S. government wants to see what you're doing, they're going to find it. Because they were documenting every single one of his untraceable accounts. They had them all. They had everything. And that dude's going for a very long time. So don't think that just because you're in some deregulated, it's going to go that way. Bro, the United States government blew up the president of Panama on one of its planes and then basically was like, yeah, fuck you.

If you don't think the United States government is going to figure you out, you think by using Signal and Parler or whatever, you're getting away from the grid. They're going to figure it out. Well, let's get into advice. So first of all, I'll go through this and I'll give you guys a chance to ponder. I'm dying to hear the worst advice Colton ever got. You want my worst advice? Just had it today. Eat a rice cake. How fucking horrible is that? They're delicious. Have you? What? Rice cakes? Rice cakes?

That's what it was. It was not styrofoam. It was a rice cake. No. Plain, no. Flavored, yes. This one was salted. There's white cheddar and then there's ranch flavored rice cake. But doesn't that defeat the whole purpose of eating them? It's just a lightly flavored... I had one lightly salted and it was lightly the greatest shit I've ever ate in my life. It was...

Styrofoam. No, it's delicious. No. Totally. Top three worst foods ever. No, rice cakes are wonderful. Is that going number one on that? No, it's number three. I don't mind them. Number three worst. No, get out of here. What are the worst three foods ever, Colt? Number three now is rice cakes. Rice cakes? I mean, horrible. You know what else was horrible? Kicks. Remember kicks? Tastes like kicks, too. The cereal? Yeah, it tastes like nothing.

The number one would be anything vegan. You are 100% wrong. Here's a shout out to the modern vegan on Paradise. I'm going to tell you one thing. That Impossible Burger that they have now, I don't know what wizardry they went into it. But I had a client that was a vegan and he wanted to go to a restaurant. So we went to this place. They said, we have the vegan Big Mac.

And I haven't gone to McDonald's. I don't eat fast food. So he had the vegan Big Mac and I ate it. I was immediately transported back to 1987. First time I ever remember having a Big Mac.

And it was wonderful. Really? No. Wonderful, and it was $30. The worst. That's a problem. Colt, I'm with you. Something must die for every meal that I have. I agree. If something doesn't die, it's not a meal to me. And was 87's McDonald's the greatest restaurant ever? With the playpen outside? Oh, and a toy. Yeah. 100%. That is great. Sorry, but rice cakes. Me and you are going to fight. McDonald's has a rice cake now.

Really? It's called the McFoam. They just take the packing material with the cones coming in. I'm shocked, Chris. You must agree with me. For something about sometimes really things that are really bland,

and crunchy it's just a little bit of flavor on them i'm telling you it's not as bad let me get you a flavored one you'll change it we'll do that next spring one next tuesday yeah when we want to lose the last of our listeners we'll do a rice cake taste test live on the power move

For the three of you still listening, this is going to do it. You're going to be gone after this. That's all right. I like the barbecue one the best. It's delicious. Barbecue is a Tom Hanks of food. Oh, God. All right. So let's get into some advice here because shockingly, we talked about nonsense for a solid 15 minutes.

but this was this little thing i'm going to combine some of these because they go together but like the first one says have a firm handshake and number two is look people in the eye sure and i think that is uh if you're going to teach your kids anything teach them this and i'll say this because you know i had a couple different people come up to me at the party we had at my house a couple weeks ago and they said to me man your son is just like a little guy a little man now i'm like really i'm like that's like there's no better compliment you can hear as a father than your son's like a little man

And I went up and I said, man, somebody just said this about Hayden. My wife was like, oh, I told him to make sure he looked everybody in the eye, stood up straight and shook their hand. I like shook for a firm handshake. And I'm like, there you go. I'm like, that's great advice. There's nothing worse than meeting somebody and getting a wet noodle. Wow. Can we though, especially from a kid, can we normalize the fist bump already?

Is the fist bump all right, though? Oh, I love that. Can we just normalize the fist bump? I'm sorry. I appreciate a good for a man chick. I get it. You know what? I'll fuck that, bro. Just fist bump. I don't need that. All right. Well, hang on a second. I will concede the fist bump for one thing. Yeah. If you stand when people enter the room. Great. If you're sitting and somebody comes in, you should fucking stand up. That's right. If you don't, no. All right. I think there's a time and a place for a fist bump.

I don't think it's always, right? Like if you're meeting a girl's father for the first time, there's no fist bump. What's up, bro? If you're saying I'm sorry at a funeral, there's no fist bump. Most inappropriate places for a fist bump. I like this. Can we do it? This is better.

Top three Gorton's worst places for a fist bump? There's two. What's number one? Meeting girls' parents. That's two. What would be the number one worst place for a fist bump? I don't know, but yeah, funerals are the best spot for a fist bump. Maybe meeting a president or foreign dignitary. Sorry about your loss and the hand goes out for the fist bump. Maybe a foreign dignitary. Terrible. Yeah, the queen. It's almost like the woo-woo. Like when he's asking for the ball. Yeah. Yeah. All right.

I'd rather hug than shake a hand. Eric's got to be with us because Eric's just like me. He's kind of germaphobe like I am. I appreciate a good fist bump when it's warranted, especially people I don't know. If a landscaper comes up, you want to say hello more than just a fist bump. You got to give me a little something.

You know, I mean, someone that you know really well or if you haven't seen him in a while or you're showing a sign of respect, there's no fist pump. When he comes out of the bathroom and his hands are still wet a little bit, then I'll shake his hand. I wouldn't go for a fist pump. I know it was recently washed. Well, hopefully that means it was washed. Yeah, yeah. I was going to say, you don't know that. I think I...

It's so funny. I'm scouring my brain right now for any place worse for a fist bump than a funeral. I think he nailed it. He did, right out of the box. Girl's dad. I don't know if I came up with that real quick. I'm just saying, if the hammer came over and gave me a fist bump right out the gate, it's like... Yeah, you'd be like, no, you're not doing it. Next one, or next two, actually. It says, sing in the shower and own a great stereo system.

Overrated. Overrated? I have AirPods. I have AirPods, bro. I get 8K surround system infinitely better than any bullshit. I have kids. I start playing loud music. They start complaining. They want to hear we don't care about Bruno or anything. No, no, no. But here's the point. And it's off.

Yeah, here's the point, though. I think the point is, you're hearing that as just go buy the giant boom system, which is what you're hearing. I'm hearing that as invest in quality to enjoy the finer things in life. That's what I'm hearing. That's like a Henry Rollins. That's what I'm hearing. Henry Rollins has like 60,000 records or some shit, and like the toppest and...

of all stereo equipment possible in this house is fitted out. A straight hi-fi. Straight hi-fi. Right from Buck's super hi-fi world, was it? On the I-95. That's it. Call Bucks. With every turn deadly, you get a free bowl of tea. That's it. Are we just not going to talk about singing in the shower? No, singing in the shower. Go ahead, Colt.

Don't do it. No. I can't sing. I'm the worst singer. You don't like to do a shower? Yeah, I'm the worst singer. I got an Alexa. You got an Alexa? So I'll go with a playlist and then I'll roll out. Dude, I'll tell you this. When I whistle in the shower, my shower sounds like the damn Sistine Chapel. It is magical. Next time you come over, you're going to be like, I got to hear the whistle in the shower. We're not going to get in there and soap each other up. Let's all get in the shower. But you can walk in there. Shope up, Gafford. Do you guys honestly not use the shower as a moment to make up arguments with nobody that's around and win them or lose them? Oh, yeah.

all the time in my head. I'm sorry, wait, what? I'm with Chris on this. I get arguments in the shower by myself, John. And get all pumped. I've gotten worked up or I've fucking dunked on people that don't exist. I can see him in the shower like Cameron from Ferris Bueller's Day Off. They'll keep calling. They'll keep calling. I spend my shower time doing one of a couple things. Either just thinking about nothing, like a straight wah-wah-wah.

Thinking about my day and pumping myself up for my day or talking myself out of the ridiculous reason I'm mad at my wife for the dream that I just had where we got an argument. Oh, you're one of those, huh? Yeah, dude. You know what she did to me last night? You want to know what we did last night? This is what she did in my dream last night. Because, of course, we didn't go to Mardi Gras, so she was concerned about it. So we end up going anyway, right? We went last minute, but we've already given our rides away. So I didn't ride my parade. I stayed home and then she went up. You know what she did?

She rode in her parade. And then she was like, well, there's an extra spot, so I just did it. Oh, I woke up. I was ready to murder. Woke up, looked at her. I'm like, you're just. Did she apologize to you? Keep sleeping. In real life? No, she didn't apologize to me in real life. She never does. She never does. Shameful. Never. Never. Terrible. Anyway, moving on to the next one. Keep secrets. It says you should do. Be good at keeping secrets. Very much so. Oh, yes. Very important.

That is, that's top. And when you don't keep a secret, what you're doing is you're making you responsible for the, my secrets now. Like, let's say, let's say somebody has some juice or some dirt and I go, okay, you can't tell anyone this.

Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Now, I've got it off my chest and you're fucked because you're the one that has to hold it now or your character's at risk. And then you go tell someone, tell someone that gets back that nobody keeps secrets. Secrets is why 9-11 wasn't an inside job. Now, see, this one I'm going to disagree with. It says never give up on anybody. Miracles happen every day. Yeah, give up on people, guys. They'll drain you. They'll drain your ass. I'm going to disagree with that one. A bit of bad advice I heard. Yeah, that's a bad piece because here's the deal.

You know fool me once you know the you heard the old thing whatever say when life gives you lemonade Fuck the lemons and bail. That's it. No you get one Yeah, you get two chances, right? Yeah, people have certainly died Yeah, two chances, but I would say you know what like I always tell people when people show you who they really are believe it believe them They're not lying. Yeah, they show you that really bad. Yep always accept an outstretched hand no I

No, you don't think so? I'll pull you back sometimes. I'm with you. Is that like if somebody says, is that like a handshake, always shake their hand? No. I know you ain't doing that. You need a help. You need a help. Always accept help because a lot of people have a hard time sometimes accepting help, which is true. But not all help is help you want. No. There's some truth to that. I mean, you've got to make sure there's no ulterior motives and everything. But I think a lot of people would be a lot further in where they are if they would have the ability to even ask for help for people.

People's ego gets in the way. You got to ask for help, but not always. You don't always take it. Just like you said, look, our room right here, if I asked Eric for help, Chris, you for help, you guys would truly mean that help. Yeah, I'd help you. If I went out to...

you know, 50 people out there, 30 of them are going to be like, what's in for me? And it's kind of screw you. So, or if 50 people came up to you offering to help, you want to pick and choose. That's an intervention. Yeah. Yeah. 50 people show up. That's an intervention. That's a whole nother problem. Oh my God. That was hilarious. Did you guys see that? See the SNL monologue from last weekend? Yeah.

what's his name? What's his name? John Maloney. John Maloney. Yeah, he says, I walked into a room and, you know, there was a bunch of my friends there and he goes, you know you're on a bunch of drugs when you open it, when the first thing you think when you see a bunch of friends in a room is, man, this is an intervention for me. First thing you see. And he goes, I got to the point of the steps when you have to break up with your drug dealer, right? So he goes, my main drug dealer, I text him and he's like, you know, hey,

I'm sober now. I'm not going to be doing more drugs. So I'm going to delete your number. And he's like, but I'm a nice guy. So I'm like, but I appreciate all of your quick and prompt service over the years. And he goes, before I could even block the guy, he sends me back, I'm so proud of you.

And it was like, I thought that was really weird for a drug dealer to send me. I'm so proud of you. And I was like, you know, he's like, yeah, that means. And then he texted me immediately after. He's like, that means that I don't have to go buy drugs anymore. He's like, what? He goes, yeah, the only reason I was buying drugs is because I was scared you were going to find them. So you were going to get a bad patch or something off the street. And he's like, wait a second. Are you a drug dealer? He's like, no, I'm a painter. Yeah.

he's like do you sell drugs to anybody else but me and he said no he's like how did this come to be and he's like well you just kept asking laughing

That was great. That was one of the best. Always accept help. Yeah. Oh, my God. So great. You got to watch it. It's hilarious. So great. Next one. Be brave even if you're not. Pretend to be. No one can tell the difference. I like it. I like that, too. I think there's a big difference between having courage and being brave. Having courage is being scared and doing it anyway. I think being brave is just being too dumb to understand it.

understand the danger inherently. It's kind of like one of the power ones. Yeah, it is. That list was awesome. We should still go to the power one. Don't show weakness. Yeah, the 48 laws of power where Colt only found the evil in that show. Did you realize he's probably got a short list of countries that he's planning on taking over? He definitely is.

He definitely is. I don't mean democratically. I think personally you can show some weakness, but in life and business, you can't show weakness. No, I think, I think, look, I think vulnerability is one thing. It's one thing to show weakness and vulnerability are separate things. They are. Number 10, whistle. In the shower. Yeah. In the, you know what? In the shower would be good. I think that just means that, you know, I,

Does it really say whistle? It says whistle right there. But again, see, I'm trying to project meaning into these like one word. Hold on. Carry a pocket of Werther's Originals. How old is this? Oh, those are amazing. No, no, no. Those are great. No, no, no. We're going around the room. I want to see who can whistle. Play the Gang Gang Twins whistle. Let's hear your whistle. No, I can whistle, but I need my shower to get the full effect. But the point of it is this. I think what do you gain when you whistle? What do you get? Happiness.

You are moderating your own mood. I think it's hard to be in a pissed off mood and walk around whistling, right? So I think it's one of those actions you can take. I think it's one of those takes. You can take an action that then puts you in a state. It's monitoring your own state by doing it, by taking action. Is there an asterisk there that says by yourself? No, there's not. People are walking around the mall...

There's nothing. There's no quick way to annoy other people. You should be able to punch somebody in the throat for that one. Yeah, good one. Just saying. Yeah, and then this is just not going to go along at all with this. Avoid sarcastic remarks. Oh, boy. Well, hold on. I actually think there's a lot of value in that. In the sarcastic remarks? Well, here's the thing. Like with your friends and stuff like that, but it's easy to fall into a trap of negative becoming normalized behavior.

I really believe that, right? You'll have friendships or whatever where, oh, guys just break each other's balls. But it's like at some point it becomes insidious where if the reaction is always sarcastically at some point, you're like, do you even like me? Like, are we? Because it's got to be sprinkled in when it's funny and appropriate. I had a conversation yesterday. I went to lunch with one of my partners, Gavin, who owns Simply Vegas, and Gavin is a phenomenal partner.

He's a great partner to me, but I always crack to everybody. I would, and it was just really just a joke saying that Gavin doesn't do anything. His job here is just kind of be pretty and sell expensive houses. That's his job. Like I do everything else.

And I've been saying that shit for years, right? Just as a joke, not thinking anything of it, sarcastic remark. And yesterday at lunch, he said, can you please stop saying that? It really bothers me. Yeah, no, absolutely. And I was like, wow. I mean, I never would think in the world that would bother me. No shit. And I felt terrible. And I was like, bro, you know, I never, I mean, dude, we run this company equally and do everything together. And I felt terrible that just something stupid like that. But it's true, man. You're just something that you think is so benign and so stupid. Right.

You really can, you know, you can hurt somebody else that you love and it does good things for you. So, so yeah. It's not only friends, business partners, but family. You can do that too. Anybody. Like kids eat that shit up and they do like now all of a sudden it plays with them. Yeah. Well, positivity is, is essential. It is essential. And I tell you what's, what's really gotten bad. What's bad in my house is now they had this. So the 90 day fiance thing, if you haven't watched this disaster on Andy, you probably don't. My wife loves this stuff where she,

You have guys go across season and trying to marry these women, whatever. That guy made my gun. So yeah. So he's the reason that I can't say, Hey, just Google Colt from Las Vegas. Right, right, right, right. So it's one of those things. So it's one of those things where, but now they got, they do something called pillow talk.

where they've got the show going and they cut in people that used to be on the show now talking about the show. So the whole thing is just talking shit about other people as you're watching it. And you get sucked into it. So now me and my wife are like, yes, you just start harping in. And you're like, bro, this is not, we're sitting here making fun of people we don't know. And this is not healthy at all. There's nothing productive about that whatsoever. No, I've been really being mindful of

cutting people out when it's appropriate not becoming just constantly sarcastic trying to consider you know how other people take things whatever it is well i think it's big to do that conversation last week yeah sitting at my desk yeah would you give up for lit yeah i gave up being i gave up negative thinking that's what i told them that's what i gave up negative thinking well we're going to come back in a minute we're going to take it it's going well it's going well we're going to

We're going to take a quick break. And I promise you. My wife applauds me, too, because it's easy in this business, especially in this business, to get caught up in the negativity. Shit on everything. A series of things where it's 10 bad things to one good thing. And luckily, the weights and balances shifts all the time, so it's not always like that. But it's easy to get caught up in negativity. Well, we are going to come back, and what I'm going to read, I guarantee you, all of you will agree with it wholeheartedly. We'll be back in just a minute.

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When we left, we were just talking about great advice or bad advice as we read it from some stuff. And I love this one, number 12. It says, choose your life's mate carefully from this one decision will come 90% of all of your happiness or your misery. Walk off home run. Yeah. Total home run. So you've been on both sides of that coin, counselor. Sure have. Yeah.

Sure have. I assume everybody's dated people. Yeah, I was going to say. I was going to say, I think we all have. Maybe not Gordon. No, dude, Gordon sent us a picture today, literally from 1988, for those of you. 88, baby. 88, for those of you that were keeping it real in 88. Where is it at? And it says, this is what me and the bird looked like in 88. And it was... You guys together then? Oh, dude, yes. Yes, dude. Well, that's the year we met. Yes, dude. Look at that.

that is strong i'm gonna get i'm trying to get i can't really get a close-up on it but yeah there's eric right there and it's wow looking like a child with uh with shelly gorgeous wife she looked like like seriously she looked like cindy crawford yeah she did bro mca was still alive the beastie boys were humming life was better what a day to be alive like chris said i think we both or both all been on maybe not gordon but bad relationships and that will drain you tear you apart

tear you apart. You know, as you go through it, one of the things that I saw was, and this is an interesting thing, and I've thought a lot about this as I saw it, but it said, you know, you got to make sure, and I think a lot of people make this mistake, you're marrying your wife's finances as well or your husband's finances. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. A lot of people, you know, everybody says marry for love and for no reason.

I think you got to have some common sense in that. And I think a lot of bad marriages come out of that situation where they don't understand that. Well, so everybody that would talk about marriage, what are we doing with marriage? It's a religious tradition. It's a civil tradition. It's a financial tradition, right? It's a contract with the state that says I will do X and you will do Y, right? It comes with different benefits for that. If you just love the person and you don't want to commingle funds, just date them. They,

You don't need to get married just because you've been together a long time. And anybody that has that false understanding of why people get married, right, should maybe reevaluate what's going on. That's some advice. Well, I think if you come from like, Eric, a deeply religious Catholic background, I think that getting married is more than those things. I think it's a union you're looking to make

under the eyes of God. Yes, no? Yes, and it's taken on such a whole new meaning as I've gotten older because when I was young, I was bred to believe this is what needs to be done. Step one, step two, step three. Step one, step two, step three. You get married young, you have children young, and then you go through life together. Buy a house three blocks away from the mom's house. And at that point, seriously, when I started dating Michelle, I thought I'd be in New York forever.

right so it's certainly evolved into something that we know and bear in mind we've been together this june 18th my wife and i will be together 30 years together that's crazy but you

you know there's been a series of peaks and low valleys like you'll actually have like a 50th wedding anniversary wow that's crazy i'm down there i'll never get that like we'll be married 27 years or if i do i won't know about it i'll be wheeled out there yeah exactly drooling on myself if i ever get to that point and i think a lot of people just marry to marry

They're there to feel companionship. Because they feel like they need to. People have kids because they feel like they're obligated to have kids and they shouldn't, right? It's a series of keeping up with the Joneses, too. You have 10 friends that have been married. You're the last...

Person on the totem. Yeah, dude. How often do you look at some people? This is gonna sound terrible and I hate to be judgy But sometimes you just meet some people when you take a look at them and you're like bro, you guys should not have four kids Oh, there's just nothing about these five times a day. We'll talk about It's like does the world really need four more of you

Like Bill Burr says, just because you look at a wall of these family trees and they had four kids and they had four kids. He goes, I don't recognize a single one of you never did. And he did shit.

stop making that guy over and over again we don't need that guy the plant's closing down we don't need four more guys in the middle of traffic doesn't get in to let you pass on the yellow light or whatever like we didn't need that guy and there's our blowing avoid sarcastic we tried for a couple minutes uh make it a habit to do nice things for people who will never find out that's interesting is that i mean how practical is that though it's not practical at all but it's

You still feel good, right? Being charitable. Like charity, that whole Jack London thing, right? I do like doing... Here's the thing, though. I'd rather see... I want to see the joy that people experience when I do nice things for them. That's the payoff for me. Here's something that's toxic in charity and philanthropy is that people go... The cell phone? No, no, no. People that go...

Hey, go do charity without telling them when you're doing charity. And I go, every time I see someone doing charity, it makes me think, hey, maybe I should go do more. It's one of those things. But isn't there a line, though, with the cell phone? I don't care why people do it. Hey, we're going to go out and give this guy $100. Cool. I hate that. I hate that.

it's like at the end of the day, to me, the ends justify the means at all costs. I tell you what I do like. A bunch of my friends in Utah have been doing this lately, and I do love this. Started with $100. We'll get like 30 guys together, and they'll all go out to dinner, and they all tip $100. And they just give it to the waitstaff. And then now they've been doing $1,000 dinners. They go out. I mean, they gave a $30,000 tip the other night.

Wow. That's life. Dude, if somebody's waiting tables in Utah, that's life changing. I mean, yeah. At least you're changing. Yeah. Yeah. It's your change. You can buy a house with it. All of a sudden, now you're in a real estate game. Yeah. Which I thought was- At least upgrade a car. Yeah. Or get decent transportation. Your kids' braces, whatever. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. You'll put that on a hand of blackjack. Yeah. Yeah.

Is it a rice cake? Of course. Turn that 30 into 60, baby. That's it. No, do not do that. The thoughts and feelings of Colt Amidon do not reflect those of the Power Move. Do not go gambling. Yeah, don't do blackjack. Don't put it on the first 12 of roulette. Stop. 60 to 180. Stop.

Look, roulette, baby. No, do not do that. That's terrible. Uh, do, uh, make a habit where we're no lend only those books. You never care to see again. Do you get booked? Do you get booked to be? I give books out and I give out the books that I would be happy to buy again. Yeah, I agree with that. I give out books all the time because if I've made me, if it's a book I'm giving you, yep. It means like I just bought three Sophie's choices and it's just like, there's people I know that should read them. Yeah. Sophie's choice. Yeah.

Absolutely. That book is... Did it say to give away the one good one? No, give away the books you never expect to see again. If you think you have a good vocabulary, go read Sophie's Choice and let me know if that wasn't just one of the most... Challenging? Challenging. I could read it then. Oh.

No, but anyway. I'm not going to listen to it. But anyway, there's all these books. Replay by Grant Ken Grimwood I've probably bought five times. Yeah. I've sent it as a gift ten. I bet Obstacle is the way I bought 25 copies of that book. It's a great book and everybody should have it. Everybody should have it. What's it called? Obstacle. Obstacle's Away. Obstacle's Away by Ryan Holiday. I probably. Can we do a little power move advice?

Yeah, what's the part? Go ahead. C, as I say, C, what is it? C. The point is, look, this is just some old cranky man that somebody made a meal of. We can drop the goodness in him. Here's the best advice I was thinking about the other day. It is that C, Wisp, Packham, Parabellum. In order for peace, prepare for war. Okay, yeah. In life, I'm constantly preparing for war that I'm never going to ever face. Pray for peace. Well, yeah. In the shower, you will, though. Well, again, case in point, case in point.

Looking at a deal today in Utah, in St. George, we're going to build a bunch of houses up there, right? Took down the lots today. Everything's moving forward. It's good. And as I'm sitting with my partners going through the plans and we're looking at everything, everything, everything, the financing, looking at all the deal points on it.

I said, where is it if the market turns on us? Because St. George is going to stop. Like Vegas will be a slow turning market when the market turns here. It'll be like the Titanic. That's going to be like a car hitting a wall in St. George because there's no economy there. There's no reason for people to be there. People are buying houses there because the economy's good. That's it.

And so I said, what happens when that happens? And one of my partners said, well, no, no, no. We just got to charge forward. We're doing this or not. I mean, we'll take our lumps when it happens. And I'm like, that's not a good enough answer. We've got to model out this disaster. Because that's how you stay calm in the eye of the storm. That's how you stay that. You don't want that to happen, but you've got to mentally prepare for the worst possible scenario. You're not underwriting your deals that way. You are going to be...

I've been to bars before. I've been to bars before with the guys that do martial arts with different gyms over years. And I remember one time I went to a gym, I went to a bar after martial arts, and I was with some really, really tough guys. And a couple of the guys started trying to pick a fight with the table. I can't remember what it was for, but it was really innocuous. And I remember everybody at that table was perfectly calm.

It wasn't any pounding chest or puffery or whatever. And these guys were totally wrong. There's two of them. And they were probably drunk and just creating a scene. Everybody at that table that had just literally prepared for war was the most peaceful. Just, hey, you know what? We're good. Don't worry about it.

No ego. And you know, you're like, I kind of want him to get up and murder these guys. You're like, we are not going to beat these people up now? Why are we not going to beat them up? And by we, I mean me standing in the back going, yeah. That's going to be my contribution to the barroom ball. People are prepared for war. They're a lot more open to peace. 100%. 100%. So model everything out. I think that's a great piece of advice. Great piece of advice.

Loosen up relax except for rare life and death Matters nothing is more important. Nothing is more is as important as it seems This is a good piece of ice I get people all the time today, which we talked about, you know memento mori Which is my favorite little stoic saying which means death comes first on really translates to death is coming Whatever we all die everybody dies remember death remember death everybody dies and you know like like your son

Gordon jr. Right it comes to me. It's like man. I said, but buddy you're too you're too you got too much anxiety about things Stress out too much and I said here's a good anxiety. Here's a good exercise for people have too much anxiety I said the next time something happens that just crushes your world in or you feel is crushing your world in take a second and just Write it like schedule 30 days from today go into your calendar and schedule an appointment for yourself and just write out the problem And 30 days from today when that pops up on your calendar, you're gonna be like, oh dude, I don't even remember that anymore and

And I said, and once you start to see that enough, enough of those, I don't remember that anymore, you're going to start to realize when these things happen that nothing is going to end the world for you. It's just not going to be. You take shit too seriously. So I do love that piece of vest, which is good. Yeah, there's not a problem I had two years ago that I still have today. No.

Luckily. Well, I professionally manage people's problems, right? Yeah. So I do have things that, you know, there's legitimate problems that get created. All of them have resolved themselves between all parties.

Yeah. I could never be an ER doctor because you are dealing with life and death. You are. That would eat me alive. Is that the reason you could ever be an ER doctor? It's a personal choice. Is that what we're going with? Guess what? There is four people here and 50% of them have college degrees. That's a good point.

That's a good point. Actually, I don't know if Eric does. Has what? A college degree. I do not have a college degree. There you go. You guys are talking shit. I'm a step closer to being an ER doctor than you are. That is a good point. You are one step closer than I am to being an ER doctor. I was an emergency room EMT when I was 18. I did my practicum there. I was an EMT, though. Oh, so there you go. There you go. Can we all just agree that I was an AEMT able to advance narcotics into people in the back of my head? Narcan? Narcan.

Hmm. So at the end of the day, though, working in the ER is probably one of the most depressing things. Yeah. Oh, without a doubt. And you know what? People, you know, thinking back when I was a kid, I want to be a fireman. I want to be a fireman. You see some turmoil being a fireman and a cop. And those are not easy careers. And these guys are so underpaid and so underappreciated that the world should be ashamed of themselves the way most of these guys get treated. Yeah. Mm hmm.

Firefighters? People love firefighters, but some people hate firefighters. Who hates a firefighter? In New York, at some points, they used to go after firemen and basically sabotage their gear, their trucks and stuff. Those were cops. No, no, no. They were condemning these...

vacant apartment buildings, closing down the crack-ins, and drug houses and stuff like that. They're first responders, so they're in a dangerous position for sure.

I could not pull up to a car wreck. It's gross. Plus, when you're dealing with family on scene and you're not giving any information or you're treating somebody, they can't get close to them. Believe me. Firemen are widely recognized in society as people that are helpful. The kitten in the tree. That's the visual. That's the visual you want. You ever check out a firefighter's pay in Clark County?

They make good money. They make good money, yeah? They're making good money. Well, it's hard to get on Clark County. Is there a better profession that has like a better hero? Like lifestyle? No, just like hero look at them. I'd like to think that cops and lawyers and real estate agents are thought of in a similar way as society. I was going to become a fireman. I took the test, and by that time when I got called, I was already in the casinos. You were already there. I didn't go. Already doing that.

Next one on here says, be a good winner, be a good loser. Totally. I think... Agreed.

What's worse? A bad winner or a bad loser? Ask Brittany Mahomes. Ask Pat Mahomes' wife and brother. Did you see that video of him just over it at a game? Oh, yeah. And she looks to the side. She's like... You know what she said? You know what he said to her? No, but I'm dying to know. Oh, that's great. Patrick Mahomes looks at his wife and goes, Would you knock off the resting bitch face? And she goes...

And that's why she turns and goes, he told me not to drop my best in bitch face. She's like, does that face? I'm like, God, he's got to know better. How long before? Okay. Say, how long is this going to last? Patrick? I think he's over it. I think he's, I think he had a kid with her. You think he's probably already talked to the attorney? Like, okay, what's this going to look like? They're not married.

Oh my, what are you doing? They're not married. What are you doing? He's, they just had a kid together. Oh boy. True love. Oh boy. Yeah. True. It must be true love. Cause the entire world. It's terrible. Oh man. Uh, when someone hugs you, let them be the first to let go.

No. No. Because you might have somebody else. This is old man. This is where there's an original in the pocket. Yeah. No. Creepy old man hugging you and sniffing you at the same time. The question is, what happens if two people read this and they know you're hugging forever? How's that work? And that's not something I ever thought about, but no, I don't agree with that. You quit when the erection hits the inside of your head. Okay.

Male hug, you got to do the hips out. There's a lean in, hip out. Hit hips first. That's how me and Chris go in. Colt, you do not leave with the hips on a man hug. Oh, me and Chris are going hips first, man. I don't even know if our tops touch. In a good sword fight, Colt, there's no reason to...

Don't let go Chris. It feels so good. You guys just hold each other's hands and kind of twirl in a circle. Slow motion. The fan comes out. And we're getting canceled for that. But of course, yep, that's it. Beware the person who has nothing to lose. I agree with that. I say this all the time, John, as an attorney. Eric, don't do business with losers.

Oh, I agree. It's like getting in a fight with a gang member. They have nothing to lose. They'll kill you. Our whole justice system is predicated on the principle that at the end of the day, somebody has something to lose, right? Yeah. Now, if I'm doing business with you and you have nothing to lose, I can't sue you for nothing. There's nothing you can get done with somebody that has nothing to lose, right? Yeah. Don't pick a fight with people who are losers and have been to jail and don't mind it.

This is something I literally, this is something I feel like I have to explain this to one of our people once a week when a lawsuit or something comes up or we get threatened in a lawsuit. We didn't do anything wrong. We didn't do anything wrong.

While I completely agree with you, that is not what we're talking about right now. Talking about what do we have to lose. Yeah, because the point is, it doesn't matter if we did something wrong. We're still going to have to pay to defend this thing. There's still a deductible on our E&O insurance. There's still a lot. I mean, this could still cost us a truckload of money, even though we did nothing wrong. Because you have something to lose. Even if we win...

We're still going to have to pay for all of this. Because they can't pay because they're losers. Because they can't pay because they're losers. So, yeah. Why do attorneys do that? Why do attorneys take case with people that they know can't pay them? Well, because here's the thing. If you want a bit of a, you know, I'm not trying to show the magicians never show the cards, right? Yeah. But at the end of the day, when you look at something, you go, hey, it doesn't cost me a lot in terms of my time. Just to send the demands. To roll the dice. If you come back at it and say, go fuck yourself.

And I say, well, now you have to pay me to go forward. Yeah. If they don't and can't, that's the end of it. Yeah. If they can, now you got to figure out, okay, like what does that look like? How are we going to do this? So that's the whole issue with contingency versus hourly. Because if I'm incentivized hourly to pursue all that stuff, if you have someone that can pay. Yeah. If not, there's no incentive to go to war for people that can't pay you. Yeah. No, there's not.

I love this next one. It says, be bold and courageous. When you look back on life, you'll regret the things you didn't do more than the things that you did. And I know, counselor, this is 100% your ethos on the planet. Every day of my life. Every single day. Let's go around. Colt, something that you wish you'd done, haven't done, whatever. Because I'm going to give you a good point for this. Go ahead. I think that what I will...

hopefully do is, but I'm mad I haven't yet, a fund for real estate stuff. That's what it is. Okay. That's the number one. Professionally. Probably the only one. Yeah, professionally. That's everything else you're good with. Yeah. Life's great, man. I've been very happy. Good. Gordon, what about you? What's the one thing like you wish you would have done, which you haven't done yet? I have a couple of regrets. Yeah. And I made a few. What do you got? So number one, I wish I would have traveled around the world by myself.

before I had responsibilities, obligations. And not that I don't think, I think I've, I, I didn't rush into my life. I feel like I, uh, didn't think about it before I got into it. Cause I knew what I always wanted and I'm so glad the way it turned out. However, I think that there was more than I wanted. Well,

Well, see, it's so funny because me and Gid talk about you and Shelly all the time. Not always flattering, but I'm just kidding. But what we talk about is because you guys got together so young and had your kids so young, and now, like, Mikey's 24.

Mikey's 26. 26 tomorrow. 26 tomorrow. You know, Maddie's 24 now. 22. 22, whatever. But they're grown and out of the house and gone. But you and Shelly are not a place where you are young, fit, healthy enough that you can go do whatever you want to do. Yeah. You know, me and Gidge did a lot of whatever we wanted to do before we got married in our mid-30s and had kids. But, you know, by the time my kids are 25 years old, I'll be mid to late, you know, I'll be old. I'll be in my mid to late 60s. Yeah.

Now, granted, with my high level of income and the advances in modern science, I probably live to be 200 to 40 years old. We talk about that a lot, too. Yeah, we talk about that. But it's just different. I look at it this way.

A lot of my younger days or a lot of time when I was younger, I was not necessarily in the best financial situation. So I couldn't just go do whatever I wanted to do. Not at all. So would it be better to be young and be struggling and hostile? And yeah, you could still get around and be able to do it all the time, stay in the $8 a night Thailand hostel and lose a kidney, whatever it is. Dude, $8 in Thailand? Or be where you're at now. Because literally, is there any place on the planet right now that you couldn't afford to go? No.

No, you can literally go, you can stay at any hotel, five star Dubai, whatever you want around the globe and not even, it's not going to make a difference in your life. It's not that the cost won't make a difference. We talk about that a lot, but now it's like, you know, yeah, no, we can absolutely travel. Right. But it's,

What my mindset was, my regret was, I wish I would have taken a couple of years. Yeah, just to yourself. Just to myself. And kind of... Bartending the Caymans or... No, just anything that came up. Just something that packed around where I was. You could be on a beach one day or at a mountaintop the next, right? Or the next month, whatever it be. But...

Then you'd be probably selling ready-made yurts or something right now. But here's the question. Let's dig deep on this. Do you think you had the brass really when you were 21 to just throw a backpack on and crow across the country? I did not. I didn't. Because I was raised by a...

a pillar of a woman, right? That gave me the, you know, it's, it's not what people are feeding their kids with in with right now for the participation trophy and everybody's, you know, it, you know, exceptional in their own right. She truly walked that walk and promoted it to me every day. So I could have done anything that I wanted. Yeah. In my mind, that was kind of my fulfillment growing up because my mother kind of gave me the reinforcement that I can achieve anything that I want. However,

because of the society around me, I not only listened to my mother, but I was acknowledging and witnessing other people that have done it before me that I admired so much. Like my Uncle Mike, when he passed away, my aunt and uncle, who he was like the guy who stepped in as my father, married 66 years, loved each other like you wouldn't believe, like teenagers at 80 years old. So these are the people that I wanted to emulate and kind of be like. And I think you guys are doing that. Yeah.

What about you, Counselor? So you know my whole thing. At 17, though, I did move out to the mountains by myself without any money. I had the stones to go do it. I just didn't know you could go do it outside of that small window of what was available in my small town, small area. So for me, the older I got, the more I realized how big the world is. It became very important for me to travel it. So I've been to 42 countries, been to 46 states, and it's only because no one's stopping me. Yeah.

Yeah. And I do stuff all the time because no one's stopping me. And one day... We need a new adventure. We need a new adventure. We've gone to archaeological digs in Egypt. I got my pilot's license. I've climbed Kilimanjaro. I've run with the bulls. I want to do absolutely everything. And I realized...

probably too late. I probably didn't have a lot of people doing a bunch of stuff around me. The world's not that difficult. You can just go do it. No one stops you. It's not as expensive as you think. It's not as time consuming as you think. Think of all the weekends you've sat there and sat at home and watched Netflix or whatever. All that time you could have gone on a couple...

It's not that hard to get to Europe. Isn't it wild that Americans... Like, Americans probably have the easiest way to travel, right? Out of any country. For us, no, just us to jump into Mexico, to jump across. Like, it's so easy for us, and we don't.

right like you don't like i and i still i don't have desire to do that stuff well people always say this thing too they go i can't go to europe i don't have ten thousand dollars i'm like you don't need ten thousand dollars you don't need ten thousand drive fly to italy on a four hundred fifty dollar flight yeah my buddy and i one time grabbed a rental car we drove around hit like eight or nine countries you know we had lunch in bratislava we had you know went to you know some some uh ruin bars in budapest it was awesome it was a great trip

Totally inexpensive. I love the room bars. It was so much fun. You should all go run them with the Bulls. You just said it. Yeah, you should. I'd all go do that. That'd be fun. There's no one stopping you. No one stopping you. It doesn't cost any money. It's free. You know, like for me, I'll tell you what mine is, and I'm curing it right now, which is this is going to sound really stupid compared to this, but the reason I want it to sound stupid to people because...

there's a lot of things that you probably want to do in your life that ego is stopping you from doing because you don't want to look stupid learning to do them that's pretty much that that is that is such a massive part of my life is and i don't want people looking at me when i do that i look like an idiot and i'm just finally got to point my life when i'm over it so you know i grew up in florida lived there my whole life grew up water skiing grew up skating all that stuff never really took the time to invest in learning how to surf now i got the house in newport i'm

I'm literally 400 feet from one of the best breaks in all of Southern California. I looked it up yesterday, man, surf school. I'm going to get private lessons tomorrow.

I'm learning to surf. That's what I'm doing. Greatest workout. And I don't care how stupid I look standing on the damn beach. I'm going to do it. Greatest workout. What's that? Yeah, him and I took surf lessons in Huntington. I've been surfing Hawaii in Huntington. Yeah. We took surf lessons, and we both were absolutely dog shit at them. Terrible. But still, it's fun. I'm still thinking, like, I'm going to go take some more surf lessons. Yeah. No, no. I'm doing it. It's fun. It's good. To me, the sharks scare me. Yeah.

There's no sharks? There's no sharks that you gotta worry about. In Florida, they care about you. There's probably 600 people died in a car in Los Angeles trying to get to the beach. And he's worried about the one shark bite that happened in South Africa. Did you guys see the guy from Australia get eaten? He's in Australia!

australia it doesn't matter worry about sharks in the tip of south africa and then parts of australia yes and in florida they get bent in florida montauk and california there you go are we just going to name the whole world because you'll get bit california that water it's not sharks don't really

have an interest in biting people. They're not hunting you. No. Just saying. Just saying. You've seen jaws to many times. Be brave. Oh, boy. Never waste an opportunity to tell someone that you love them. I love that. Love it. Yeah. Love that. That's good. If you don't, when I was young, I saw a lot of death, crazy death. I saw two of my friends get their heads chopped off in a freaking car wreck, stuff like that. Like, if you don't realize that leaving your house is dangerous every day.

You know, people, the sharks. Nah, but you know, my regret is not saying I love you to people I've died. That's the only regret I have. Yeah, I just got into a motorcycle accident not too long ago. Your day started off beautiful. And I fell off a ladder once.

But that scared the shit out of me. I won't ride a motorcycle again. And that literally was almost like when someone told me I had cancer. That changed my life. Oh, yeah. I like this one, too. It says...

When friends or relatives are in the hospital, go see them. You only need to stay for a few minutes. Yeah, totally. I see, you know, yeah, you don't appreciate that until like my dad was in the hospital. Thank God, knock on wood, I haven't had a lot of friends in the hospital for any kind of extended stay. But I always do try to make it to go see them. But one thing I tell you I have lacked at in my life over the years is not making it a point to go to funerals.

And I think that's something. Really? Yeah, I don't know why, man. As a younger kid, I had a couple friends pass away. And I had something about it. I was like, no, I don't want to go. I don't want to go to the funeral. I went to my first funeral when I was 35.

Four years old. Really? Yeah. I'm 41 now. I went to my first funeral 37 years ago. Yeah. And a lot of people have died and stuff, but they didn't have funerals. No, but the point is, I mean, dude, I want people fighting over the microphone at my funeral. So it's like anything else. You give what you give. And I think...

You know, even if you just, I mean, one of the things we did, like our friend Scott, his grandmother died. And I think he was so touched by all of us going down there. He was so touched just to be there to support him. Even if you're not that connected to people, try to, you know, if it's somebody that's important to you and somebody that's important to them, try to show up for them. Do you know what, Tom? Have you seen that movie, The Big Kahuna, with Danny DeVito?

You've mentioned this before, but we've never... About the whole thing about... If you talk to somebody, if you really want to get to know somebody, you really want someone to understand that you're there for them and not yourself. It's kind of like visiting someone at the hospital, ask about their kids. Ask about their kids. So because...

if you go to visit somebody at the hospital, you're doing something. It's an act of service for somebody else for their benefit. You get nothing from it. It's a time when someone's down. It's not like there's some popularity content. Oh, I went to my friend's hospital today. That's truly like an act of love or service, I think. I think visiting someone in the hospital, it definitely shows that they're valuable enough to you for whatever reason to go. I like that one. The chicken wings and the grilled cheese at hospitals. Yeah.

I'll say this. St. Rose up the road is like Sizzler with doctors. It really is. It really is. Oh, yeah, dude. St. Rose comes pretty strong. You guys want to meet up at the hospital tomorrow for chicken wings? No, every time we had a baby, I was more excited about the Sizzler than I was about the baby. It's just that good. Yeah, I'm with you. It's that good. Really? It was. It used to be. I don't know if it's still that good, but it's still that good.

I'm going to run through these just because we're running short on time. Take charge of your attitude. Don't let someone else choose it for you. I agree with that. If you wake up in the morning and say I'm in a bad mood, that's a choice you're making. Not that. Begin each day with some of your favorite music. Love that. Helps put you in a positive state. Try Back in Black by ACDC. Oh, I play a different song every day. And usually my go-to is Judas Priest, Breaking the Law.

the law. Is it breaking the law as you wake up? Setting the standard. My wake up song when Alexa wakes us up every day is Lovely Day by Bill Weathers. We wake up to Bill Weathers every morning. I go to Rob Halford. It's hard to be right to Rob Halford. That's how I wake the kids up. When the kids are sleeping late, I'm always like, Alexa, play Swedish death metal in Hayden's room, volume 10. That's my standard. Shh.

That's my Santa wake-up call. When I was growing up in high school, you know, you had the audio. I mean, you didn't have Alexa or anything like that. So it was a clock radio. And 6 o'clock a.m. every morning on Z100 in New York, they would play Money by Pink Floyd. So it was the first note as soon as it was. So I would wake up to that every single day of high school. Every day. Not bad. No.

Show respect for someone who works for a living regardless of how trivial their job. I cannot agree with this more. You can tell more about a person by how they treat other people in working in service situations than anything else. How did we not talk about we were Julia Roberts freaking Friday night at the bar? We did. We did. Oh, man.

You saw Julia Roberts? No. We got treated like pretty women. We got pretty womaned. We are pretty women. Really? We asked to leave? Pretty much. You know, we won't talk about the place. Eight. Eight at Resorts World. Dead to me. We went to the Cigar Bar at eight, right? And they got there before I did, and they sit down. And the lady says...

Hey, just so you know, this table is reserved at 9.30? I think it was 10 o'clock. Whatever it was, 9.30. It was 5.45 when we showed up. She's like, 9.30. So at 9.30, it's like 5.30. I can go home and take a nap and come back, and it's still not going to fucking be me. They're like, bro, if we're still here. I can play a game of cricket. If we're still here, something's incredibly wrong.

And we're sitting there and it's like half hour later, half hour later, she comes over and I just saw another drink. We drop now at least 180 bucks at this point. Yeah. And 30 minutes we spent, we spent 200 bucks. Right. And I just ordered another drink and she, the hostess comes over. She goes, Oh, I'm sorry. The party that's going to be here later. They got here early. So you guys have to move. There are empty tables in every direction. Do you look at us everywhere? Every table. And do you know where she tries to put us?

Yeah, at the bar. No, no. She tried to put us outside. Oh, outside. She tried to move. It was 40 mile an hour winds. It was 50 degrees. She goes, you can go outside. We're like, look at all these things. We're like, can we at least go to the bar? She goes, I guess. Yeah. They showed up three and a half hours and then some guy sits there for 45 minutes by himself. So we go to the bar and I sent my drink back. I'm like, we'll go somewhere else. I don't want it. And then they put it on the bill. Yeah.

It was bad form. It was all the way around bad form. If you have reservations at 9.30 and you show up at 6, are you expecting your table? No. You need to be better at managing. That place is fucked for a million reasons. Yeah. And I don't even want it to do well. I just hope it tanks because it's got that air about it. It's like, look how special we are. We offer literally nothing. Yeah, you're not that special. You're not that special. I don't know what makes you think that customer service shouldn't be paramount, but either way...

When you work with nightclub people or whatever, you go to industry people and they talk down to you. I hate that. Oh, God. No bar that does that has ever survived. No, it hasn't. And this place is, you know, there you go. It's on the crosshairs because I'll never spend another nickel in there. Never, ever again. All of Resorts World.

Well, you know, it's funny. It's like, it's like the next one. Remember that 80% of success in any job is based on your ability to deal with people. Shockingly apropos from the ideal man. And the last one we'll read from him. We'll settle it up with this one is don't expect life to be fair. Fair is in my house and my, and my word, I don't know if you guys know this fair is actually a bad word in my house.

Like if my kids say fair, it's like they're in trouble. Because I'm always like fair is where you buy cotton candy and hot dogs. Clint Eastwood and Unforgiven, it deserves got nothing to do with it. It deserves got nothing to do with it. Exactly right. It's like there's only what a man can do and what a man will do. That's it. There's no fair. And we do that. So, Colt, give the people the best piece of advice you can give them as you're listening. Both of them. I mean...

Be careful about eating the fair's hot dogs. Those will not settle in your stomach. Well, the fair hot dog. No, either cotton candy. The hot dogs will make you sick. Okay. No, I think, I think the most important thing is there has been studies after studies after studies of going and talking to 80, 90 year old people and their only regrets not doing something. It's not what they did. It's what they did not do. So that's being said. So yes, take action. Yes. Yeah. Counselor, what do you got?

Order the guacamole. Order the guacamole. Who's got the best guac in town? Probably El Dorado. El Dorado. I give it to him. El Dorado downtown. At the strip club? No, at the strip club. El Dorado Cantina. It's good. Guac is good. Guac is good. Gotcha. It's good guac. You should go have some. It is good. Counselor, what do you got? You already said it. Guacamole. Oh, you said the guacamole. I'm just saying, like, don't.

it's what do they say money and time don't don't don't chance order the extra live it live it love it you don't spend it well what are the guacamole you're gonna die one day you really are gonna die one day think about how lucky you are to exist in this point in time in re in in terms of we have modern dentistry so it doesn't hurt that much to fix your teeth

We have surgery where you can be in and out and not even realize laparoscopically. Every other point in human history prior to today was harder. Yeah. Okay? Every other point in human history, right? And just appreciate it. Just understand that you're blessed with... Do you think it's harder? Do you think...

I think 1986 was probably pretty solid for me. I think life was much easier. I think life was easier in 86 for me now. If you had to go back to 1986, you may want to blow your brains out. Dude, I was at the skating rink keeping it real in 86. That was a solid run. Do I get 1986 energy? Then yeah, actually. That was a lot cheaper. Gordon, what do you got? Final bit of advice for folks.

There's so much, but at the end of the day, find yourself the right woman. Amen to that. That makes the most sense. Unless you're a lady who's into men. Find your equal in the opposite gender. Which is International Women's Day, so I had to clarify. I can agree with that.

My best piece of advice, I guess, as I would say, as you go out there is if you have kids, remember they're watching everything you do. And if you want your kids to turn out to be great people, you need to focus on being a great person yourself. And we'll go with that. Well, I hope you guys enjoyed today's little tidbit on advice. We'll be back next week with more power move. Remember, if you hated what we talked about today, if you absolutely couldn't stand it, tell two people. Cause then, but if you liked it, tell, tell, tell four. Cause it doesn't matter if you're talking good or bad.

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