#453: Make Your Birthday A POWER PLAY With Heather!
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I'm on this journey with me each week when you join me we are going to chase down our goals overcome adversity and set you up for a better tomorrow I'm ready for my close-up hi and welcome back I'm so glad you're back here with me this week okay so as you know I'm sure you've heard me talking about on social media I'm turning 50 this week which is so wild it's kind of bizarre I

But I'm super excited. And a lot of people say to me, why do you tell people your age? Why wouldn't you? Like to me, to hide something is like shameful. Like why would I feel bad about how old I am? I feel great about it. It's funny. I actually did a post on LinkedIn about this a week ago. And I said something like,

Listen, some people say like, I look really good. I think I look really good. I work super hard. I take really good care of myself. I've been working out every day of my life since I'm basically 10 years old. So for the last 40 years, I so invest in myself insanely, always have. Like I put myself first, I make myself a

priority. Right. I really, really am committed to being the best version of myself as much as I can be right on the daily. And it's a lot of work. Yeah. And it's exhausting and it costs a lot of money. It takes a lot of time and you know, it's not for everyone, I guess, but I am super proud of myself. Okay. So to say all of that,

I did a post about it and I was actually posting about how some people make it a negative if a woman's getting older, but it's often celebrated when a guy's getting older, right? Like guys get better looking as they get older. Like, you know, women are trying to hang on to their youth, blah, blah, blah, right? There's this like,

push and pull back and forth around it. And I'm like, heck no, I'm celebrating this. Like I'm super hyped. First of all, it's way better than the alternative, right? I'm so blessed and lucky to be alive. I'm so grateful. I'm healthy. I'm, and I'm super proud of who I am. And like, I

I'll tell you, I have more clarity now at this point in my life than I ever have before, right? Like I'm so sure of myself and so clear on where I'm going and just excited for everything, right? It's just so good. Okay. And my gosh, there's been a lot of learning that's gone on, a lot of growth that's gone on the last five decades in this girl's life. Okay. To all that. So I put that post up. The post did really, really well, reached like a couple hundred thousand people and it

I got a lot of hate messages. It was wild. I laugh at this stuff like it's entertaining because, listen, the reality is this, and I've seen so much of this with the Olympics on, right? And so many professional athletes saying this, like, yeah, everybody's a hero from the internet hiding behind hate.

you know, a screen and sending a DM and, you know, and can send nasty notes, but no one's doing that stuff in real life, right? Like no one's walking up to me at a restaurant and cussing me out. It doesn't happen. It's just so funny. It just speaks a lot to like who haters are. So keep that in mind if you get, you know, crazy messages sent to you. But I got a bunch of crazy messages and it was funny. I got a few from guys saying,

saying like oh you're so full of yourself and this and that and it's funny like that's one person's perspective okay that's for you I personally if I didn't like something that somebody created in regards to content or a post I personally wouldn't take the time to like go find their

profile, send them a DM and tell them how much I don't like it. I'd unfollow and move on. Like I wouldn't, it's just, I operate differently, I guess, you know, Hey, whatever works for you. It definitely, I didn't respond to any of the messages that I got, but I did find it pretty entertaining and pretty funny that it definitely hit a nerve for some people, but it goes back to like this whole narrative around, um,

you know, women aren't supposed to talk about how old they are, or you're supposed to not feel like, you know, proud of what you're doing or investing in yourself or taking care of yourself or how you look. I'm just going to be me, right? Like I'm going to rock me. And if it works for me, great. And if it doesn't work for you, like don't follow, don't feel the need to have to be there, right? Like it's please do you like do whatever works for you. And I'm

We're so blessed to live in a free country where we get that opportunity to do that. So I'm going to keep living my life like that. And I hope you are too, for sure, regardless of what anybody else says to you. Okay. So.

I have been talking a lot about what I've been learning. And one of the things that I've been thinking about, this is so wild because I just had the anniversary of my seven years of getting fired. Seven years ago last week, I got fired. And it seems like seven years seems like a long time, but it doesn't seem like a long time ago that I got fired. Like that was such an impactful, big, pivotal moment in my life, right? Reflecting on that, here's what I was thinking about that I

I would do differently or I learn from it. Like, I'm just trying to think of something I can teach you that could be helpful for you is I was so full of fear. I was so full of worry. It was ridiculous. Literally like for at least the first year, if not first two years, I mean, completely, I was starting over as a beginner. I didn't know how to do it. I didn't know what I was going to do. I didn't know how to write a book. I didn't know how to sell books. I didn't know how to start a speaking career. I didn't like, I didn't, I didn't know how to do any of these things, right? Like I was

starting over. I went from being a C-suite executive with 25 plus years experience and expertise and a huge network to starting over ground zero in a completely new industry. And it was boom, hard. It was hard, right? So I figured it out. Here's the spoiler alert. I figured it out and you will figure it out too. But here's what I want you to know. When I look back,

I wished I had had the knowing that I have now, which is it's always going to be okay. It's always going to work out for me. Like the dots will always connect. I'll work hard. I'll find the right people. I'll invest in myself. Like I've seen these movies before, even though it might not be the same movie, right? Like I made it on the way up in media. I started from nothing. I started as a beginner and I figured it out. Like I'll figure it out again. Having that faith, having that knowing that,

is everything, right? Because you waste so much energy. And I'm saying you, I mean me, I wasted so much energy putting my thoughts and feelings towards fear and worry, like preparing for the worst thing that could happen.

Instead of putting my energy and attitude and feelings towards the greatest things that were going to happen, which would have meant I would have moved faster. Things would have been easier, right? Like I could have made it so much easier on myself. So that's one of the things like that's a big takeaway for me that I've been reflecting on as I look back over the last decade. That's what I would do differently, which means that's what I'm going to do differently today. Anytime I catch myself moving,

Feeling fearful, feeling worried, anticipating that's preparing for everything I don't want. Pump the brakes, not doing that anymore. That strategy does not work. Right. And it was funny. My son was reading a Bible verse to me the other day about, you know, there's no need to worry and worry is waste.

And I just thought, like, great point. Thank you for bringing that to my attention because, you know, listen, we all have different times in our lives where we are worrying or things are really, you know, tough and we're going through difficult seasons and we can let that bleed into our life and become our norm. That is not the way to live, right? Like...

finding joy, finding things to celebrate, being grateful on the daily, praying, connecting to God, working out, taking care of yourself, spending time with loved ones, like finding the joy, finding the good and focusing on those things, focusing on all the things that you want and understanding, having faith and a knowing that everything is working out for you. That is what I would do differently. That is what I'm doing differently now. And I'm so grateful that I have this

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I ask you to try to find your passion. She's here.

Gosh, it took a long time to get here, right? But it's about putting it in practice on the daily. It's about getting rid of negative people in your life and surrounding yourself with positive people that uplift you. It's about doing work that really matters to you. Spending time doing things that feed you in a positive way, not tear you down, right? Like for a long time, as you know, I was in a work environment that was really toxic.

So it's hard to focus on all the good when you're feeling like you're barely getting by and you're panicked that you're going to get fired and that this one's talking bad about you and stabbing you in the back. You start focusing on the negative. You start bringing about more negative. So fire your villains. Get out of the negative work situation. Like if you don't know what that big...

picture answer is start taking steps now to build a side hustle, to invest in yourself, to like start the plan, whatever it is, but take action now. Don't wait and have a knowing that the more you move towards what your purpose and true passion are in life, the more the doors will open for you. The more momentum will be built. The better you're going to feel, the better energy you're going to put out there, better things will get.

So that's the big knowing that I have now. When I look back, done with worry. Worry is planning for what you don't want and sticking with gratitude, sticking with joy, sticking with the vision for my future. And knowing, and also knowing this, I don't always know how it's going to unfold, right? Which makes it so exciting. You don't know exactly what's going to happen. You just know it's going to be good when you're moving in that right direction, when you're doing that next good thing, that next right thing, right?

You just know more good is coming. And that, oh my gosh, it's like a joyful way to live. It makes it exciting to get up every single day. So I'm excited to be here with you today. I hope you're excited to be here with me. If you haven't left a review yet, please do. And please share the show with someone that you think

Might like it. No one succeeds alone, and that includes your girl right here. That could be your birthday present to me. I've had people messaging me asking what I want for my birthday. I would love it if you would share the show with other people, if you would leave a review of the show. If you haven't bought my books yet, please do.

Oh my gosh, one of my dearest friend's daughters sent me a note the other day and said, it's time for you to write another book. She's 10. And I was cracking up. I said, why do you say that? She's like, I've already read the ones you have. And she said, you could do anything you put your mind to, Heather. And it was just so cute. It really encouraged me and made me think, gosh, this is a sign. I think I need to write my third book.

I already know what it's going to be called. I started working on an outline. I just haven't forced myself to do it yet. You ever have that, like there's something really big and you know it's going to take a lot of work and you're kind of just like waiting. Like, oh, do I really want to start this yet? Because, you know, once you go down that rabbit hole, you're in it for a while. So I have been putting it off, but I have a feeling that might be one of the big things that's coming out of the 50th year, right, is the third book, the trifecta.

that would be saying, what big thing are you working on this year? Right. You don't have to wait for 50 to accomplish some major goal, but you know, one thing that I wanted to share with you, I have this practice that I do with me and my son and like really anyone that I love in my life that I spend time with is on birthdays. Birthdays are a huge deal. My son was saying, he's like, mom, your birthday is like your most happiest holiday of the year. It really is. I love birthdays. I think they're so incredible. Um,

Because it's such a great time to reflect on who you are and being proud of who you are and all you've accomplished and what you're going to accomplish and your vision for your future and what you're excited for. There's just so much good. So anyhow, one of the things that I do, and I do this religiously with my son, I do it with myself, and I do it with my closest peeps, is...

take a moment at your birthday dinner to reflect on what you're proud of over the past year, right? The year that you're wrapping up, like what you're proud that you accomplished, what was exciting, what was surprising, you know, what were some of the tougher moments that you didn't know if you'd get through, but you did get through them, like really setting yourself up for success on reflection of that last year and celebrating you. And then, um,

forward to and casting that vision for that next year. Like what is to come? And you don't have to know, you know, this is one of the things that I've learned in the last seven years as I left corporate America. You don't have to know exactly what that looks like, but like big picture, you know, what's your sense, right? Listen to your intuition and like, what are you feeling called to do pulled to do what's on your heart and,

And listen, there's plenty of partnerships and things that I thought was going to happen over the last year that did not come to fruition. There's plenty of things that came out of left field like

Saudi Arabia that I would have never expected I was going to go to Saudi Arabia and headline, you know, the largest tech conference in the world. Like I never thought that was coming and that happened. That's one of the most proud moments I have from my 49th year, right? So sometimes there's these unexpected massive things that can happen. And sometimes there are these things that you're like so certain and sure are going to happen and they don't, right? So it's just being open to

whatever is going to come forward and knowing back to faith and knowing having a knowing that no matter what it is it's all working out for me right when one door closes a better one gets opened and we don't know what that next door is going to be that's going to be open we don't know what the redirection is no it's not rejection it's a redirection to something so much better it's just having that faith that belief in that knowing that it's happening

And we don't need to know all the details and we can let go of the wheel, right? Like you don't need to control everything. Let it go. These are like the big lessons I wish I had known at 40. Instead, I'm just learning them at 50. I mean, am I the only one out there that's just learning this stuff? And why was it so hard for me? Do you ever feel like that? You're like, wait a minute. Is this just tough on me? I do think I'm getting a lot better at it. Like anything with practice, with discipline, with

With intention, right? Like having a practice and intention daily, you know, whether it be your affirmations, whether it be your meditation, whether it be routines, like the conversations you have with yourself, you're in your own head and speak to yourself more than anybody else in this world, right? Make that conversation so positive, so uplifting, so encouraging. Be your biggest cheerleader and encourager, right? Like all of these things have ripple effect and, and,

It's just so powerful when you put them into place on the regular. Be disciplined about it. Be intentional about it. Okay.

So to that end, as I look back over my 49th year and I'm doing so many birthday dinners this month, it's insane. I have so many people in town. I'm so blessed and so grateful. And I love good people. And when you show up for people you love, it means the world to them. Oh my gosh. It just, it makes me so, so happy. And I know it's a pain and I, and I feel bad for people flying all around the country to do it, but it means the world. Okay. Super grateful for my people, my team. So, um,

As I reflect back on 49 specifically, one of the things I'm most proud of for sure, well, I ran my first mastermind ended during my 49th year. And that was something new. It was like a new business model I had never done before, a new initiative, a new team that I had built. Super proud of how it went. I mean, literally my...

team members had incredible transformation, accomplishments. One person left a marriage, one person left a job, one person sold a company, one person landed at TEDx, another one wrote a book, like massive things that they accomplished, which is so cool. It's so important, the team that you run with, it greatly and profoundly impacts what you see as possible for yourself and the level at which you hold yourself accountable to, to deliver and make things happen. When you're on a team with

professional athletes, you'll be running a lot faster than if you're working out with, you know, part-time people who, you know, sometimes occasionally work out and sometimes don't, right? Like raise the bar on yourself, run with a faster group, run with people who are ahead of you and you will push yourself further.

So I'm super proud of that. But I will say like the biggest out of left field never saw it coming was the Saudi Arabia. I'm speaking in Saudi Arabia. The irony of all this. OK, this is that happened when I was 49. I never saw it coming. It was completely shocked when I got the message that they wanted to hire me to go to Saudi. And I wanted to say no, but I knew if I said no, I would be.

not growing. I would be succumbing to fear, not to growth. And that's not who I am anymore, right? Like F that, forget that. Bye fear, bye in the rear view. And so I closed my eyes, hit yes, and was having panic attacks and freaking out, so nervous, so scared. And it was amazing, literally amazing.

literally amazing. Nothing bad. I mean, it's a long flight. I'm not going to lie about that. But other than that, the time zone change stinks. But once you get beyond that, incredible. Best people. I've made the most incredible friends. I'm so connected now in the Middle East. It's wild. I'm

I'm super grateful for the experience. And they hired me again to go back in February already. And then I'm working with them as a partner now, connecting them to other speakers that I'm friends with to bring other, you know, US peeps over. And it's just, it's so cool to see in just a few months how things can change so drastically when you step into fear, when you step into the unknown and you take on new challenges that you don't know if you're ready for. And yeah,

I have lifelong friends now that I've made and I'm so hyped to go back in February. I cannot wait. I really can't wait. I'm so excited for it. It's going to be incredible. So I guess the big takeaway for me, I'm 49 was be prepared for unexpected blessings and unexpected adventures because they're common. Be open to it. Say yes. When you get the call, even though you might be scared, even though you might be doubting yourself, even though you might have a lot of questions, um,

you'll figure it out on the way. And I did. And, you know, and I had no idea how I was going to do it, but it turned out so much better than I ever could have imagined. And I'm just so incredibly grateful for it. So incredible trip, incredible experience, incredible friendships. And I'm hyped and can't wait to go back in February and help my career massively. That's what landed me on Tony Robbins stage. As soon as I got back, like just so many doors open for me as a result of it, it was incredible. Right? So none of those things would have happened if

If I didn't take the chance and jump on that flight and head to Saudi, not knowing what in the world I was walking into. So say yes.

say yes. Okay. So that's from 49. That's probably like my big takeaway that I'm super proud of is that I did that. That was like, again, just really unexpected. And then another thing that I'm reflecting on turning 50, my health has been so good. And years ago when I got fired, right before I got fired, I threw my back out. I was in traction for months. I was in rehab. My back

was a disaster. I could barely walk for a couple of months. It was that painful. Again, it was all stress, obviously, like lack of sleep, stressing myself out about that toxic work environment.

As soon as I was actually out of there, my back healed up and I've been fine since. And so if you are facing, you know, physical challenges, health challenges, really tap the brakes for a second and say, hey, what's going off? Like what? Something's off the rails here. Like, what is it? For me, it was my work situation was a toxic work environment and relationships I was dealing with at work. Once those were removed, I got better so much faster. Right. So figure out like where is a toxic situation in your life?

Pump the brakes on it, remove it, fire that villain and let yourself heal and start taking care of yourself and make yourself a priority. Because I'll tell you, just reflecting on the last year, I was healthier at 49 than I was at 43 when I got fired. That doesn't make any sense, right? Like makes no sense.

But it's true. I could barely walk at 43. Literally, I was in that PT rehab place every single day. I mean, electrical currents on my back. It was crazy. I was in to see surgeons. I mean, it was a lot, right? But the reality is this. My body healed itself once I was out of the difficult negative situation and yours will too.

So figure out what's negative, figure out what's not right and not aligned with you. Cut it out. Move into what does feel good for you. Make yourself a priority. Get yourself enough rest. Take care of yourself. Invest in yourself and get better.

So I'm really grateful. I'm really grateful that my 49th year, I've been very, very healthy. Right. And, and that's something that I want to celebrate because I know what it's like to not feel healthy. I know what it's like to be in a lot of pain and gosh, I'm super grateful for that. I love running. It's like one of my most favorite things to do. And I just feel super blessed that I can do it again. Cause at 43, I didn't think I'd ever be able to run again. Isn't that crazy? Just six years ago, I didn't know if I'd ever be able to run again. And this girl be out running all the time. And it's so fun.

Another thing that I want to share with you, sometimes we go through a hard time. My son went through a really hard time during COVID. And then a few years pass and we forget about it. I'm trying to remind myself and you, let's not forget about it. So meaning my 49th year, my son did incredibly well. Like he's

He turned 17. He's driving. He did well in school. He's killing it in basketball. He has incredible friends. He has so much faith and incredible relationship with God. And I'm so proud of him. He's so healthy. He's so disciplined with his eating, his working out. He has a vision board. He journals. He meditates. Like he's such a good kid. I'm so, so proud of him. However,

It was not always that way, right? So I look back at COVID and oh my gosh, I basically shut down my business because I had to go all in and support my son. He was going through such a difficult time. And when I stop and think about that, oh my gosh, I'm so grateful. I am so grateful for where he was and where he is today. That growth, that the transition that I've seen in him, the evolution to becoming the young man that he is today. I'm so proud of him.

I was reading a letter that his advisor had written him from the end of last school year as we're preparing for school this week. He's going on my 50th birthday, August 14th, my son's first day of school. And so I was reading and getting the paperwork ready. And I was just I was feeling so proud of who he has become because it seems really easy now for him. And it wasn't it wasn't for a while. Right. So no matter who in your life is going through a tough time, it can change and it can change quickly. Right.

Have faith, right? Like do that next right thing. Pray about it. Support them. Show up for them. Pour into them.

And when you do that, it's incredible what can happen. So, so grateful that my son is doing incredibly well because it wasn't always that way. All right, so that was another thing I'm so hyped about about my 49th year. What else am I so hyped about? I mean, there's so many things, right? But those are some of like the big things that I've really just been reflecting on and feeling super grateful for. And then as I look forward...

To the next year, one of the things I've realized is that I can no longer say, this is what's going to happen and this is what's going to happen and this partnership's coming and I'm starting this company. Because every time I try to do that and control and lock everything up, it doesn't happen. Right. And then things like Saudi Arabia come out of left field that I had never planned for it.

So I'm trying to shift my thinking to be more big picture and say, like, I know that my business is going to keep flourishing. It's going to keep growing exponentially. Hockey stick trajectory taking off like I seriously know this is the year it's going to completely explode with your help, of course. And please share the show, as we mentioned. Thank you. OK, so to all that.

I'm not saying anymore that it has to be this way. It has to be through this partnership. It has to be through my speaking. It has to be through a third book or whatever. I really want to surrender to God and God's plan and say, whatever is the highest good for all, please show me that way, whatever that may look like.

And it's taking the biggest stages in the US. I'm on it. I'm here for I can't wait to impact people and connect with them and help them live their best life. That is like fires me up beyond anything.

If it's doing more speaking in the Middle East or overseas, I'm hyped for that too because I have a son now who's actually flourishing in his junior year in high school and is so much more independent than he used to be that I can travel now where a couple of years ago I couldn't. So it's just being open to whatever amazing and incredible opportunities decide to come up. And

Of course, there's certain partnerships that I am pursuing, that I've been pursuing. There's talks that I've been in. There's a lot of different things that are always going on behind the scenes, but I don't have to be desperate for one of them to work. And if there's red flags when I meet with people, I pull back.

Right. Before I wanted to really force things like this has to happen, this has to happen. And I've just learned that following the signs, right, like following what seems to be working easily and coming together well, like there's something good there. Right. There's like this feels right versus what feels like I'm forcing this feels like it's not happening. It feels like we're butting heads. Maybe that's not the right fit.

right and being open so that's okay i'm gonna be divinely led and i will know which direction to go and i'll know which partnerships to ink or to walk away from right i'll know which stages to take or not to and just having that belief having that faith and knowing and casting that vision for an incredible year for so much success spiritual health abundance financially right like

Through partnerships, through new creations, whatever those may be, new brand partnerships, right? There's so many different things that I'm open to as long as it's going to be helping other people, elevating others, right?

You know, tapping into the teachings that I have available to me from my experience and my expertise in business and sharing that with other people, like making the world a better place. As long as I'm leaning in and doing those things, working with good people on the daily, I am so hyped for it. I am so excited for it.

and going to new places and experiencing new things like Saudi Arabia, you know, just continuing to go on new adventures and be open to meeting new people and partnering with new people and, and just being open. That is really where I'm living right now. And I wanted to, I'm going to share with you real quick.

I was thinking about this and I pulled out the papers for my son's birthday just a couple months ago. And he was saying what he was really proud of over the last year for him. This was over his 16th year. His expectations for basketball that he had have been delivered, right? Like he's very expectant, which is so important to have that confidence and knowing things are happening. He knew he would be here. He knew he would make the growth. You know, he grew a lot. He's

so disciplined, works out multiple times a day, practices every day for hours. I mean, he's just super committed. He did a great job in school and he wrote all that stuff down. Like I did a great job in school. I am driving successfully. I am grateful for how far God has taken me. Right. He wrote all these things down and like taking ownership of that super powerful. So like it's an exercise. I want you to try for yourself, for your loved ones, right? Like own those things, own those victories. Those are yours. You should feel proud about them. That's freaking incredible. Right.

And then I wrote down some of the things that I'm super proud of him for the last year. And I'm so proud of how kind he is. He's such a kind, sweet kid. How he speaks truth to others. How he speaks encouragement into others and love into others. And his relationship with God.

and how much he reads the Bible and how much good he does. Like those are the things to me. And of course, his discipline with basketball and pursuing his passion, even though it is very challenging, like watching all of that makes me feel so proud. So it's just such a positive conversation you can have with someone you love when you sit down and reflect with them on what you're proud of them for and what they're proud of, right? And it's also a learning moment to cast that future vision for what's next for you.

Okay, so then he had written for looking forward to 17. He was talking about, again, expecting what he's expecting for himself. So being expectant, it's all over the Bible.

You've got to see this, right? Like, you've got to be expecting it to happen. He wants to continue it to improve, continue to trust in God and where he takes him, working towards college scholarships, working towards basketball, you know, for college, having fun in the summer, looking forward to his whole entire next year. I didn't know, but I have a good, strong vision for my future. And so, you know, just, gosh, watching that growth as humanity

he claims and owns these different visions for the next year and just steps into it and then is expectant for it and then achieves it. And I don't know, it's all that builds upon the next thing and gives you more confidence that you can do that next thing and can do that next hard thing and can get through that next challenge, right? Is really writing these things down so you can go back and reflect on them. Highly, highly, highly encourage it.

Okay, so I am going to be going through this experience with one of my dearest friends, Nikki, and my son, Dylan. Actually, we are having like a little tiny dinner, just the three of us in a really special place. And we're going to go through this exercise together and I'm super hyped to do it. I love doing things like this. It's so, so fun. Okay, so...

A few years ago, maybe this was eight years ago or maybe seven and a half years ago. It was right before I got fired. It was like two weeks before I got fired. I was on a work trip in L.A. My son was with me. So Nikki came. Nikki lives in San Diego. Nikki came to L.A. to help me with my son so that I could be at work during the day.

and we were staying in this incredible hotel in la the three of us and we were there for like i don't know four days maybe and so during the day those two would go out around la and my son loves sneakers and like you know all the kind of kids stuff that you could imagine so la for him was like incredible so they had the most incredible time my son ended up

up winning a $2,000 pair of sneakers at some store. And it was like the most hype best day ever. Of course I was at work the whole time and I was just getting text updates from them, but I was so excited for them. It was so, so cool. Anyhow, I get back to the hotel. They were already back in the hotel and it was like mayhem at the hotel. I actually wrote about this in my first book, Confidence Creator. There's a chapter on this.

And so I get back to the hotel. It's mayhem. And I'm like, what is going on in here? And I say to someone at the hotel and they said, oh, Justin Bieber's staying here. And I said, oh gosh, this is crazy. I mean, it was literally like thousands of people out. It was insane. I could barely get in the hotel.

And I thought, well, this is a pain. You know, I don't like this at all. But of course, I get up to the hotel room and my son is freaking out. I think he was like, what was he, 10 at the time, 9 or 10? And he says, Mom, I got to see Justin Bieber. I got to see Justin Bieber. Now, he had met Justin Bieber before at a concert because I was in the music business. So I'd had him, you know, get an autograph and do a picture with him, whatever. But he wanted to hang out with Justin Bieber. And so I said, OK.

I was a little irritated. I had just gotten home from work. I was starving. And we were supposed to be eating dinner in the hotel, but there was no way we were staying in the hotel now. It was insane. Like, literally, people going crazy. So I was on the balcony. I was looking outside at all the insanity. And I thought to myself, hmm...

think, Heather, like, if you're Justin Bieber, where would you be? And I thought to myself, I bet he's not even here. I bet he left because this place is crazy, right? So I said to my son, I think he probably left because I want to leave. You know, it's insane here. Why don't we go across the street and go to one of these restaurants, you know, down the street and just like reconvene over there and talk about maybe what a plan can be to find Justin Bieber. Okay. He

he was kind of bummed out because he's like, I really wanted to stay in the hotel and wait for him. I'm like, I just, I don't think that's going to work.

So we just left with a good attitude, being super positive, Nikki, me, and Dylan. And we went into this really nice restaurant, walked in. I didn't have a reservation. I went up and I was like, listen, oh my gosh, I'm staying across the street. We were supposed to be eating at my hotel, but it's complete insanity over there because of Justin Bieber. And I just, I can't take it. Please tell me there's some way you can sit me, my son, and my good friend. I would mean the world to me. I know we don't have a res, blah, blah, blah.

he started laughing he's like well how about i sit you right next to justin bieber i said oh my gosh you're kidding me my kid will freak and so he looked at my kid and he said listen you cannot speak to him you cannot touch him you can't do anything let him eat his food but if he's not at the table or he's leaving you know you could say something to him but let him be when he's sitting at the table and eating you know don't bother him my son said i swear i promise and so they sat us right next table to justin bieber and his security guard we had dinner

My friend Nikki and I, of course, forgot he was sitting there and we were just like laughing and having a great time. My son did not move, did not eat a piece of food the whole time. He was like eyes locked on Justin Bieber. And it was so cute. Justin Bieber got up to go to the bathroom at some point. And remember, the host had said, if he's not at the table, you could go talk to him.

my son didn't say a word to me or Nikki. He beelined out of there and went right to the bathroom, right behind Justin Bieber. You know, he saw an opportunity and he went for it. And I was so proud of him. I guess what had happened was in the men's room, he had said to him, hey, can we do a selfie? And Justin said, I can't do selfies right now because I don't want the paparazzi to see me. I don't want to be snapping pics, but I will give you a hug. And I guess he gave him a hug and was like, thank you for listening to my music. He's super nice to my son, right?

But understandably, he had literally thousands of people chasing after him. He didn't want to, you know, be taking pictures outside with people. So moral of the story is this. One, I get so hyped around when me, Nikki and Dylan are together because always incredible things happen. And who knows what incredible thing is going to happen this week? I'm so, so excited for it.

But also it's like the energy that you put out there is what comes back to you. Right. So we could have sat in the hotel that day and cried about not knowing where Justin Bieber was. Or we could take a breath and say, OK, where do you think we should go right now? What can we do that's fun? What can we do that? Yeah, we're sad that we're not going to be eating in the restaurant with Justin Bieber. But let's like put it out there. Good vibes. And let's go for something different. And then look what happens. You walk into a restaurant and Justin Bieber sitting at that restaurant.

So you never know. Stay in good energy. Stay positive. And stay focused on what could be possible because you never really know what is. So that's my birthday message for you this week. Yeah, Wednesday, August 14th.

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4.50. I can't even believe I'm turning 50. This is a trip. Okay. Until next week, keep creating your confidence. You know I will be. I decided to change that dynamic. I couldn't be more excited for what you're going to hear. Start learning and growing. Inevitably, something will happen. No one succeeds alone. You don't stop and look around once in a while. You could miss it. I'm on this journey with me.

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