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Amberly Lago: Turning Pain into Purpose by Helping Others Heal | E88

2023/11/21
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Amberly Lago:分享了她克服童年性虐待创伤、酗酒成瘾和慢性疼痛的个人经历,强调了韧性、积极思维、感恩和社区支持的重要性。她介绍了她的PACER方法论(视角、接纳、社区、耐力、休息),并鼓励人们设定可实现的目标,将自己列入待办事项清单,并与积极向上的人为伍。她还谈到了写下目标和进行感恩练习的重要性,以及寻求指导而非意见的重要性。 她认为,成功需要了解自己的目标、拥有强大的社区支持、寻求正确的指导,并坚持自己的原则。她还分享了她在TED演讲和企业演讲中的极度准备经验,以及她如何将痛苦转化为帮助他人的目标。 Randall Kaplan:分享了他十年前心脏病发作的经历,以及由此引发的后续事件,包括被误诊为吸毒。他强调了保持良好身体状况和积极心态的重要性。他还谈到了写下目标的重要性,以及他如何通过制定和遵循个人商业计划来取得成功。他与Amberly Lago讨论了韧性、社区支持和克服挑战的重要性。

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Host Randall Kaplan shares a personal story about his heart attack and recovery. He discusses the symptoms, diagnosis of myocarditis, and the emotional impact of the experience. Amberly Lago opens up about her struggles with depression, alcoholism, and suicidal thoughts following a series of medical treatments.
  • Randall Kaplan experienced a heart attack and was diagnosed with myocarditis.
  • Amberly Lago struggled with depression, alcoholism, and suicidal thoughts due to chronic pain and medical challenges.
  • She found solace and support in a 12-step recovery program.

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Welcome to part 2 of our amazing conversation with Amberly Lago. Amberly is a peak performance coach, TEDx speaker, top 1% podcast host, motivational speaker, and a leading expert in the field of resilience, transformation, and health and wellness. She is also the bestselling author of the book True Grit and Grace, and the founder of Unstoppable Life Mastermind.

Amberly has an incredible life story and she is sharing pure gold advice on how to overcome life challenges, how to deal with trauma, and become resilient and successful.Time stamps:

00:54 Randall’s emotional story about his heart attack

  • Life-threatening situation and a traumatic experience
  • Finding he had myocarditis
  • Death of a close friend
  • Asked by doctors if he was taking cocaine
  • Grateful for being alive
  • The power of endorphins

10:30 Hitting a rock bottom and suicidal thoughts

  • Amberly was always a high achiever
  • The pain became unbearable
  • Alcohol numbed the pain
  • It worked until it didn’t
  • Became addicted to alcohol and went to rehab
  • Didn’t want to live but had to endure because of her daughters

15:15 The importance of resilience

  • We have to decide to take action and thrive
  • Shifting perspective to gratitude
  • Focusing on what you can do, not what you can’t
  • Acceptance and being aware of who you are
  • Connecting to a community – Success is built on relationships
  • Resting is essential for resilience

21:08 The power of writing down our goals

  • There is power in writing things down
  • The story of Amberly’s book
  • Randall’s thoughts on writing things down

24:36 Put yourself on the to-do list

  • Amberly likes helping people and meeting their needs first
  • It’s important to take care of yourself as well

28:33 Surround yourself with the right people

  • Get rid of the doggie downers and stick with the puppy uppers
  • Surround yourself with people who are passionate and go-getters
  • Avoid energy vampires

21:28 We are all superheroes

  • We all have superpowers and resilience in us
  • It’s hard to become aware of that
  • Focus on what brings you joy
  • Gratitude practice and Amberly’s gratitude group
  • A sense of purpose and giving service
  • Ask people what your superpower is

37:25 Sexual abuse and its consequences

  • Amberly was sexually abused by her stepfather
  • Takes a lot of courage to tell someone
  • Told her dad but he didn’t do anything
  • At 23, she told that to her abusive husband
  • Dealing with triggering situation
  • Writing about the sexual abuse was very cathartic
  • The importance of therapy

1:01:28 The importance of extreme preparation

  • She was an athlete and a dancer
  • Always worked very hard
  • Preparing for a TEDx talk
  • Preparation gives you confidence

51:16 What are the key ingredients for success?

  • Know your Why
  • Have a strong community
  • Seek council not opinion
  • Stick to your non-negotiables

54:28 Why do motorcyclists take so much risk?

  • There’s nothing like a feeling of freedom while riding
  • You are fully in the present
  • Amberly’s husband stopped

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