395. Life Update: Avoiding Burnout, Having High Standards + “Balancing” It All
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Welcome back to the Boss Babe Podcast. Alright, today I just want to drop in for a little mini, a little catch up. I'm sitting, have a raw milk cappuccino, I've got a little smoothie and I just wanted to kind of turn on the microphone and just have a little life update, see where everyone is at.

I, oh my God. So I got the flu, which turned into full on bronchitis and I was sick for a good two weeks. I fully lost my voice. I had to cancel a bunch of podcasts, put up some repurposed episodes instead, which thank goodness I have. It was rough. It was intense. We've moved through that now. So that feels really good.

and we are prepping for a full summer of travel, going to a house in the UK for just over a month, and then we're spending some time in California. And I'm just really excited to change up the energy and change things up a little bit. I feel like this year, I have gotten sick so much more than I've ever gotten sick before. Like when I was pregnant and breastfeeding, which in total was three years, I didn't get sick once, literally nothing. I felt like I was completely untouchable.

And then I stopped breastfeeding and it feels like I got hit with every single flu. So I'm telling myself I'm going through a cellular upgrade right now because my immune system is normally rock solid. So that's what I'm telling myself. That's the story that I'm sticking with. But it has really, really forced me to slow down even more this year, which actually has been such a blessing because I feel like the more that I slow down,

The happier I am, the more perspective that I have on everything, business, life, all of it. It just feels so much better. So that's the season that I'm in. I am really just honoring my body and I'm listening to the fact that I keep getting sick and assuming that it's my body trying to tell me something and just writing it. So I've been...

doing a lot of reading. I've been spending a lot of time on my PEMF mat, which by the way, I think gives me the best sleep ever. Like I'm really seeing a difference with it. I've started working with a health coach again.

I'm working with my life coach. I'm doing some online certifications and deepening my knowledge of the nervous system. I'm like just going all in on myself right now. And that feels so good because when I bought my co-founder out of Boss Babe, I had to go really hard in the business. Like I wanted to completely change up the way things had been. And

and the way I wanted to run things. And it worked. The revenue has never been better. The profit is actually mind-blowing. That's 6x profit. The team has never felt like it's in a better place. All of the things feel great, but it was also a lot of work. That didn't just happen overnight. That wasn't like I clicked my fingers and it happened. So I feel like now I'm in a season of me being

And, you know, we've been thinking about baby number two and when we want to start trying again. And I'm sure that's going to be in the near future. But I want to just do all the things to really dial in my health and dial in me and my happiness and my well-being, my mental health, all the things. And I feel like that's very, very challenging when you're also in a season of going really hard with work. And one thing that I wanted to mention, too, is like I do feel like as entrepreneurs, we have push and pull seasons.

where, I don't know about you, but there's some seasons where I am so lit up. I am so energized. I have like, I just want to go all out. I have massive goals. I'm super ambitious and just really, really motivated. And there's other seasons where I don't feel like that at all. I want to cocoon. I want to hibernate. I want to pull back.

And what I have really learned in my career is honoring those seasons is incredibly important. When you're in a push season, going all out, not holding back and just letting yourself pour your ideas, your creativity, your energy into your projects and really going all out.

But when you're in a pull season, allowing yourself to pull back, not expecting yourself to continue running at the same energy you were when you're in a push season, really honoring where you are at. I think we have to do that as entrepreneurs, especially, you know, those of us that have been in entrepreneurship or been in our careers for quite a long time. If you are constantly pushing and you're not honoring those seasons, it's just,

such a recipe for burnout and when burnout really hits you are so forced to slow down you do not have the option to push forward you have to slow down so I am honoring that for myself especially in this season but it is one lesson that just continues to come to me over and over and over again so that feels really good just to hear my body and listen to my body and take the time to tune in and and just yeah understand where I'm at one thing I've also been doing in this season

is every morning uh brianna weist i think that's how you pronounce that name she just released a new book called the pivot year i love all of her books she's amazing and this is basically um a passage that you read every single day for a year and it's a year of pivoting and stepping into what's next for you and i feel like every year for me is a pivot year because every year i'm changing every year we're going through so much we're evolving so every year is a pivot somehow and

And so I'm loving doing this every single morning. It's the first thing I do when I open my eyes. Stephen normally goes and gets Noemi. And while he's making her a bottle and things like that, I open this book and I read the passage. And then once it's very short and I put it down, I think about it. So versus like hopping into my phone or hopping into distraction, I read something and I sit with it. Noemi comes in, I give her a bottle, snuggle her and I'm still thinking about that passage.

one of them that I read I posted on my Instagram, but I wanted to read it out because Just so much of this Resonated with me and I feel like I feel like I know you guys I feel like it's going to resonate with you, too Let me read it to you One day you will realize that happiness is not what your house looks like but how you love the people within its walls and

Happiness is not finding success by a certain time, but finding something you love so much, time itself seems to disappear. Happiness is not thinking you have earned the world's approval, but waking up each day and feeling so at peace within your own skin, quietly anticipating the day ahead, unconcerned with how you are perceived. Happiness is not having the best of everything, but the ability to make the best of anything. Happiness is knowing you are doing what you can with what you are given,

happiness is not something that comes to you when every problem is solved and all things are perfectly in place but in the shining silver linings that remind us the light of day is always there if you slow down enough to notice and there was a couple of things in this that really really stood out to me one of them was being unconcerned with how you are perceived so one thing i've been talking to my therapist about is

I feel like I get a lot of inbound. Do you want to do a launch? Do you want to hang out? Do you want to come on my podcast? Like a lot of great inbound, but I'm in a season of pull, pulling back and not wanting to

do all the things right and I was talking to her like how do you turn down those things and she was reminding me she was like Natalie no is a full sentence and the only reason you don't use it as such is because you are very concerned with how you're perceived so if you are unwilling to say no and you feel like you've got to have this elaborate excuse or you've got to go ahead with it just because you want to be liked or whatever it's because you're thinking about how you want to be perceived and

And that really, really landed with me because I do feel like I am a recovering people pleaser. And my work right now is being able to use Noah as a full sentence and trusting that, you know, someone is going to be doing their own work to understand it's not about them. It's just Noah's a no. I was listening to an episode, um,

of a new podcast by Andrew Wilkinson called Never Enough. And Sam Parr was on that and he was talking about how his default is always no. Do you want to hang out? No. Do you want to do this thing? No. His default is no. And that really serves him because he can really prioritize his priorities and his inner circle and his family values.

And, you know, it doesn't mean that he's never making new friends, but it's not a season of new friends. And I love that episode and the way that he was talking about it really resonated with me because I just feel like we're in a society where we, there's constant contact, right? It's like the DMs and the texts and the calls and there's just so much going on all the time. There's constant contact. And I don't feel like biologically this works for any of us. Like it's so jarring on the nervous systems

to be in constant contact with so many people all day every day and I don't like it I'm sure most people don't like it like yes it's great to be able to check in on family and friends that you don't live close to and it's great to be able to have a community that you lean on and all the things and there's part of me that just daydreams about having a new phone when no one has my number and that's the phone that I mainly use and I just check in on my like normal phone once a week

But it sometimes feels like there's so much constant contact that that is like a pipe dream. So that was a big thing is like, okay, I'm going to start just saying no and working with that part of me that wants to be liked and is concerned about how I'm perceived and like being okay, maybe not being liked or being okay with like someone might not like your no and that's okay. And then another part of this that really stood out is, um,

happiness is not something that comes to you when every problem is solved and all things are perfectly in place but in the shining silver linings that remind us the light of day is always there if you slow down enough to notice

So I've kind of talked on this podcast about our childcare this year. It's been quite sporadic. Our nanny left as she is ready to start her own family, which is beautiful. And we've been interviewing and just haven't found the right fit. And I was chatting to Lindsay. I was like, why am I just not saying yes to someone that doesn't feel like 100% a yes? Like, why?

kind of like why do I feel like I need excellence in this role why can I not just like say yes to child care like make my husband really happy and like even if it's not perfect child care it's child care and she said to me she was like well you do have a standard of excellence in your life which I do like I hold people to really high standards and it's kind of like like if you're on my team that either works for you or it doesn't but there's no compromises there and I do feel the same way and she was like you know you have the kind of schedule where you can spend most of your time with Noemi

And yes, there's certain work calls where you might need to put the screen on for her to be distracted while you take a work call or whatever. But that's a high standard of care. And you don't then want to outsource childcare to someone who's going to do a worse standard of care than you. And that resonated. I was like, yeah, I don't. So I haven't had childcare for months now. Like every now and then I'll get some, but it is very, very rare that I have childcare. And so it's made me

One, work a lot less and work a lot smarter. But secondly, while it feels like that could be a situation for chaos, I've actually let it be a situation of pure joy. Like how incredible that I get to be with my daughter full time and how incredible that I have the choice because so many people don't. And then all of the other things, like I don't think parenthood and motherhood is stressful. I think the stress is all the other shit that you're expected to do alongside it.

I have just let my expectations drop on everything else like if all I did in the day is play with Noemi that was a successful day because that was my priority for the day and I might be behind on some stuff at work I might be behind on the laundry whatever it is I might be behind on

But actually just letting myself be behind and not having all the expectations to do all the things and be everything to everyone has been really freeing. So I've been really enjoying this season. And just what's in my head is like, you know, I don't have that long with her being at home. You know, at some point she's going to go to like a little preschool or a nursery and I won't have her at home. And to have that time with her now, I'm really...

I'm in a place of really soaking it up and enjoying it but I do realize the times like when say my nanny would call in sick and I have this crazy work schedule and I'm trying to do child care I would get so stressed out and feel so chaotic like I just don't do well and stressful like I just do well in calm environments and I'm just not letting myself be in that place so

that would that those words really resonate with me that whole passage was like yes yes yes that's exactly where I'm at right now and it feels so good and so just wanted to share that because maybe you're in a season where things aren't perfect right now maybe there are things you would change but it's like can you be in the season like be so fully present in the season that it feels good

That's where I'm at right now. And it's so freeing to just be so present with where you're at. Like be where your feet are and be so present, be so all in. And then also working on the people pleasing and like how you're perceived. And like, I think about like, what would I do differently if I was so not concerned with how I was perceived? What would I say no to? What would I say yes to? Like, how would my life be different if I felt that way?

And it's something that I try to journal on. And whenever I do, there's always some things that come up that I'm like, oh, I didn't realize that was there. But if it's coming up, it's obviously something that needs addressed. So just wanted to share that. That's just kind of where we're at right now. Just a little mini life update. But right now, I feel really excited about the podcast. I feel excited about our newsletter, our membership. And beyond that, I just feel like

I don't want to do anything else work related. Like I'm not in a space of like trying to grow like crazy. I'm not trying to start new projects. I'm just trying to really be present with what I have got and go all in there and do my best work while also just prioritizing the rest and the pull season that I'm in. So like having that awareness of am I in a push season or am I in a pull season and going with that has been amazing. So hopefully this sparked a few questions

thoughts or journal prompts for you and maybe ways in which you might do things differently um i would love to hear your feedback i love when you guys leave reviews it means the world and it also really supports the podcast so maybe leave me a little review on the show and tell me if this resonated because i like these little minis where i can kind of just hop in have a coffee with you guys update you on things and then dip out so yeah let me know what you think and um if you didn't catch the announcement i also just co-founded a new company called glossy

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