Naseem Rochette on How Paying It Forward Changes Lives EP 509
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Coming up next on Passion Struck. I'd seen myself in the mirror and I knew I was unrecognizable. I couldn't walk. I couldn't see. My eye had been cut open. Pay it forward. I could barely open my eyes. I couldn't hold a coffee cup. Like, how could I pay it forward? And it really added a lot of micro recovery, but also at the same time, hearing that it was a miracle, it did two things. One, it added the stress of, well, I miraculously survived. I don't deserve help.

I don't deserve to be off from work and all of the kindness that people wanted to impart on me, all of that kindness was like a debt in my ledger. But at the same time, that little idea that I had to pay it forward just seeped into my brain. And every day I thought, oh, I pay it forward. What do I do? What does that mean? What does that look like? Welcome to Passion Struck.

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and unexpected turn when she was run over three times by a car while crossing a quiet tree-lined street. As her husband's anguished cries filled the air, onlookers feared they were witnessing the end of a life. But in a miraculous twist, Nassim survived.

though the journey ahead would be one of unimaginable physical and mental challenges. What follows is not just a story of survival, it's a story of rebirth. In her memoir, The Unexpected Benefits of Being Run Over, Nassim shares how this traumatic event became a catalyst for profound transformation. She faced her struggles head-on and discovered a resilience within herself she didn't know existed. Her story is a powerful reminder that breaking doesn't mean you're broken, and our deepest cracks can lead to the most extraordinary breakthroughs.

this episode Nassim offers an inspiring perspective on trauma healing and transformation she teaches us how to turn life's most unspeakable challenges into opportunities to rebuild and find meaning you'll hear how she found strength and community embraced her vulnerability and now encourages others to celebrate the small victories in life fair warning this episode may evoke strong emotions for some listeners so please proceed with care and before we dive in i just wanted to say thank you

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Imagine what's possible when learning doesn't get in the way of life. At Capella University, our FlexPath learning format lets you learn on your own schedule. A different future is closer than you think with Capella University. Learn more at capella.edu. I am so honored today to have Nassim Rochette on PassionStruck. Welcome, Nassim. Hi, John. Thank you for having me. I'm so honored. And first, congratulations. I know you recently hit 500 episodes. Bravo.

Thank you so much. I can't believe it happened already. I remember when I started, I was researching other podcasts, one being the School of Greatness with Lewis Howes, and I listened to him celebrate a thousand episodes. And I just sat there thinking, how could I possibly ever even get to a couple hundred, much less a thousand? So it really is incredible that we've hit 500 episodes in under four years.

Bravo. It's like kids. You raise them and all of a sudden they're adults. Absolutely the case. Nassim, I'm going to start out right from a pinnacle moment in your life. And I think we all have moments that define us. And this one definitely did. Can you take us back to May 21st, 2018, when your life changed in an instant?

Absolutely. May 21st, 2018 was what I now call Unbreakable Day. It is, as you noted, it was a life-changing day for me.

So it was a day that actually started out as a fabulous day where I woke up feeling great, power outfit, had a big meeting. I was feeling happy. Life was good. It was actually like I woke up feeling like this was going to be the best day. And at four o'clock in the afternoon, it was turning out to be one of the best days. And then as you noted, something happened. I was...

It was such a good day. I was goofing off, got out of work a little bit early, went to meet my husband and kids. We were going to have dinner. And so I took an early train home from New York that day to my town in New Jersey.

I was walking to meet my husband and it was such a nice day, John, that I actually said to him, I was like, don't pick me up at the station. I want to walk a little. And for, you can't see me, but I'm short. So I am often wearing really big heels. And it was a day I was wearing really big, like five inch heels. And I told my husband, he knows I don't want to walk up the hills of where we live. So he was meeting me at the bottom of one of the hills and I saw him and

And I was crossing the street to him. But interestingly, he was just across the street and I could have just run across the street to him. But we were by a school and there were crosswalks and I like to be respectful and be a good example. And so I said, hold on, I'm going to use the crosswalks. So I crossed the first crosswalk. I was crossing in the second crosswalk and a car turned and started coming towards me.

Now, I was in the crosswalk. I was wearing my five-inch heels. I saw the car. There was enough room. I thought I would stop. And the car didn't stop. It hit me. But then the car did stop. And I was standing there and I was like, oh my gosh, I just got hit by a car. It's fine. I'm going to be black and blue. I was annoyed. I'm going to be late for dinner. But I was fine. And then that's when things took a turn. Then the car accelerated.

And the car drove over me and the car reversed and drove over me a second time. And then the car went forward and drove over me a third time. And then I was pinned underneath the car. So that's the quick story. I just can't even imagine. I love to ride bicycles and I either do spin classes, spin in my house or whatever.

Right now, since the weather is good, I like to ride outdoors when I can. And this morning, I had to go through, I think it was 12 crosswalks as I was riding down what's called the Pinellas Trail here in the Tampa Bay area. And as I was coming through the last of them, there was traffic coming the other way that stopped. But the last car that stopped was this big cargo van. And so I am so glad that I waited just...

to see so I could peek on the other side because a car completely blew right through it. And if I would have kept riding, I would have been nailed. Well, as we're sharing crossing the street, I will say to you and to everyone listening, I now, when I cross the street after that experience, I make eye contact and put my hand up because I feel like I need to be an active participant in controlling the situation a little bit, which is hard to do, but it does help.

So here you are, you're underneath this car. And I had an incident a number of years ago where an intruder came into my house. I, unfortunately, it turns out that they were canvassing me and I was typically at the gym at this point of time in the morning, but the gym had some type of electrical fire. So I came home unexpectedly early and I walked in on this person and

who had obtained my gun and actually pointed it at me as I was coming up the stairs to figure out what was going on upstairs. And I remember even though it was just a brief instant, it felt like time stood still. Did you experience the same thing when you were underneath that car? Oh, my God, you were spot on. It probably lasted a minute. But for me, it was about 20 minutes of conversation I had with myself.

In fact, when it started out, I mentioned to you I was having a great day. It started out very, I was hit by the car and thinking to myself, this stinks, but I'm fine. I'm going to be black and blue. And even that conversation lasted a couple of minutes where I was telling myself, in my mind anyway, where I was telling myself, this is annoying, but it's a great cocktail party story.

And then when she ran over me and I was underneath the car, that's when time was really slow because, John, I was pretty sure I was going to die. I don't even say 99%. I was 100% sure I was going to die. I could hear in the screams of my husband who was watching me.

through the other witnesses that were watching, they were watching me die. In fact, the first time she ran me over, I thought I was trying to weave. I thought I could get out of it. The second time I actually said to myself, something's wrong. This isn't right. And I started reflecting back on my life. I have three kids. At the time they were nine, 11 and 13. I thought, I don't want to leave my kids. I don't want to die. I'm not ready. But, and it was,

even crazier at the moment. I told you I was really happy that day. For me to be happy, John, was like the first hard fought battle of my life. I was this really awkward, insecure kid. You know, I call myself a misfit. I still call myself a misfit.

And for the first 25 years of my life, I probably didn't even, I didn't like who I was. I wasn't comfortable with myself and my skin. And then it took probably another 20 years and lots of self-help books and lots of, lots of introspection.

to really, and just life and maturity, but to become somebody that I was proud of. And at that moment, I was proud of the life that I had built. I had a happy family, a good job, was well-educated. Like I lived, I lived in the moment so often and enjoyed life. And I really worked hard to be somebody that was enjoying life and happy. And I didn't want to let that go.

But at the same time, as I started reflecting and thinking, I don't want to leave my kids. And why didn't I ever write them letters? And do they know how I feel? I thought, you know what? We have been living. I have been present with them. And yes, they know what I think. They know who I am. And I don't want to leave them. But I actually thought, it's been a good life. I've lived with spontaneity and joy and love.

But then I also thought my kids knew how much I loved them and how I felt about them, but not everybody in my life did. And that was actually the one regret that I had is that all of the other people that I encountered, sometimes acquaintances, sometimes friends, they didn't know how much I appreciated them. They didn't know the impact they had in my life.

And that's something that I've actually tried very hard to change. But in those moments under the chorus, that was actually my big regret. And you and I have talked about this before, but one of the things we discussed was as you were sitting there waiting for either death or for rescue, one of the things that went through your mind was a shift of perspective on control versus surrender. Can you explain what was happening?

I love how you put that, the shift of control. That morning, that person that was happy was a control freak. And I really wanted, I worked hard to orchestrate all the things in my life, whether it was with my kids or my job or those moments under the car. Even my response while I was laying, waiting for the car to be lifted off of me.

And as I was actually, funny enough, as I was waiting there, it took about 12, 14 minutes for them to airbag, put airbags under the tires and lift the car off of me. I started thinking to myself, wait a minute, now that I know I'm alive and I'm sorry, I'm jumping into it. There's so much to unpack when I thought I was dead. But as I was there and I thought, oh my gosh, I have survived.

I've just gone from, okay, ready to die to no, not dying. Honey, my husband was watching. I was like, do you have my purse? And then I'm thinking, oh my gosh, my favorite shoes. Did I lose a shoe? And was my skirt hiked up? And

All of those things that you never imagined you're going to think of while your brain is bleeding, you can't move your body, you're in searing pain, but that control freak showed up again. And sometimes I'm relieved by that because I knew there was a willingness to live in that moment. That surrender turned out to be a theme and a change throughout my journey.

not just having to grapple with it in those moments.

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Well, thank you for sharing that. And I have to imagine when Wes had to break the news to your children, it must have been incredibly difficult, not only for him, but for all of you. How did your family cope in those initial hours after the accident? And what role did your family play in your early recovery? Well, candidly, John, that was probably the impact on my family.

was one of the hardest and most heartbreaking aspects of the whole situation. So I get even a little choked up. Not so when, from those early moments, when my husband had to call my daughter, she was 13. I know we have daughters of similar age. And we called her, she was 13 and she was the oldest. So she's always been very mature and

And had to say, mom's been in an accident. And when it first happened, he didn't know. He just watched me die. All I knew was that I could wiggle my fingers. We had assumed the worst in my injuries. And she said, is it bad? And he said, yeah, but I don't know. And so my poor daughter had this weight of that where there's no fight or flight option, just this weight of this news that our whole life was about to change.

But as this very mature 13 year old, she held on to that and took charge when she had two younger brothers who were nine and 11 and became the parent to them in those early weeks. And even when those first moments had to tell them the news that I was in an accident, had to navigate an au pair whose first day was to a hospital to find me. It was our new babysitter.

And she actually has PTSD as well from what she had to see in those first days. Like she can't, she's poor girl had to wash the blood out of my hair. And now if she sees me with messy hair, it's a trigger for her. Little things that I would never have imagined when I was going through it. And so it was a really hard time for them because they had lost the mom that was so in control, that did manage everything.

But at the same time, as I talk about the impact on the kids, one thing that I learned really early on that is one of the most impactful lessons for me was

was recognizing that the accident didn't just happen to me. It happened to everyone that loved me. And that was not only my kids, certainly the most impact to them and to Wes Scott, my husband, but to also my close friends, my community, everybody that felt like they had depended on me or it could have been them, all who wanted to

then be a part of, understand my journey, understand what I was going through and be a part of my healing. When you asked about that kind of that control, that was where I had the toughest time in learning that I couldn't, not first of all, not only could I not be in control because my mind didn't work and my body didn't work and I was broken into a lot of pieces. I couldn't be in control because I

I needed to surrender and let people help and learn that my letting them help was actually an act of strength, which is something I had never thought about before. I never, I was the one that helped. I was the one in control, realizing that people needed to be part of my journey and

and then I needed to let them was one of the most rewarding, insightful, yet difficult learnings of this crazy experience. Nassim, I want to explore that in more detail in a couple minutes, but I want to ask you a couple more things about the accident itself. You write that

When you first looked in the mirror, you didn't recognize yourself. How did that experience of physical transformation affect your self-perception? Well, when I first, when I was in the hospital, so let me share that miraculously, even though I was run over three times, the tires went over me five times, I actually did not break a single bone. So after an hour and a half of tests and my family in the waiting room thinking the worst, I

We got the news that I had not broken a single bone. There was no skull fracture. Obviously, I have a traumatic brain injury, but there was no skull fracture. There was no internal bleeding. And they were actually, they never even admitted me into the hospital. So when I got this news, there were two things I did. I said first to my husband, bring the kids in. I want to see them because I felt like they had kept me going.

The second thing I said was call my boss, tell him I'm going to be back to work on Thursday. This was all a Monday. I thought, well, nothing's broken. Two days at home and I'll be back to work. But what I didn't realize, and I'm just going to touch on my kids again for a second, is what I looked like. Because when I thought nothing's broken and I was like, send the kids in.

I didn't know how unrecognizable I was. My poor children, another trauma for them was they had to see a mom that was, had a face that was completely ripped up. There were many scars and I was swollen. I was unrecognizable. The tires had actually driven over my head and neck. So my whole right side of my face and my ear were ripped up.

But I didn't know that. And then I finally saw myself in the mirror when I went to the bathroom. And oh my God, John, to see yourself...

and have no idea who the person is that's staring back at you. That was just, I don't even know the right words. It was horrifying. It was absolutely terrifying, not only because I didn't recognize myself, my iPhone didn't even recognize me, my kids didn't recognize me. So not only physically was I no longer the person that I had woken up that I was earlier that day,

emotionally, mentally, that was the first glimpse into realizing that I was that happy, strong, in control person that woke up that Monday morning was nowhere to be found. And one of the things that ended up happening is you describe your injuries and it's just miraculous that

I mean that you're still here talking to me. In fact, the nurses who were treating you told you that it was a complete miracle. And one of them happened to mention to you that you now need to pay this forward. And so that started a series of events, including writing the book that we're discussing, The Unexpected Benefits of Being Run Over. But how did you rationalize those words, you need to pay it forward when you first heard them?

That seemed an insurmountable goal. I was, in fact, it added, it was so stressful when they said it. And a few of the nurses and doctors, it was miraculous that I survived. And I do feel lucky every day that I survived.

But when they said that, and I'd seen myself in the mirror, and I knew I was unrecognizable. And again, I couldn't walk. I couldn't see. My eye had been cut open. And I didn't pay it forward. I could barely open my eyes. I couldn't hold a coffee cup. How could I pay it forward? And it really added a lot of micro recovery. But also, at the same time, hearing that it was a miracle added this...

It did two things. One, it added the stress of, well, I miraculously survived. I don't deserve help. I don't deserve to be off from work. And all of the kindness that people wanted to impart on me, as I mentioned, as the control freak, all of that kindness was like a debt in my ledger. But at the same time, that little idea that I had to pay it forward just seeped into my brain. And every day I thought, oh, I paid forward. What do I do? What does that mean? What does that look like?

because I didn't want to change my life. I just, to me, this idea of paying it forward meant some monumental shift in the way I approached the world. And I was going to go do something big and grand. And I just wanted to be me again. I wanted to be the mom, the working mom with the three kids enjoying life. I didn't want some great big transformation in who I was and how I approached things. I started thinking about and

Look, I say I started thinking about it. It was pressure for me for probably the first several months. But as I started to navigate the idea that this accident was not going to be this defining crisis and end to my happy life, as I decided that I was going to find a happy story, I started to document or notice the things that

I was learning both about from those moments under the car, like thinking, you know, how important it is and how glad I was that I lived with my children with presence, but that I needed to appreciate the other people as well. I started writing those lessons and then I started writing the lessons that I learned in those first six months, even now ongoing journey of recovery.

Like I realized, John, I had lived in the same town for many years, met people that I had known on the sidelines at school pickups and soccer games that I'd seen day in and day out for years. Many of the people who wanted to help me, but I

I had never actually really known those people. I would say hello to them, but I was never sharing deep, dark secrets about myself. And I noticed that with the accident, as I started sharing the things that were going on with me through the accident, through the struggles, I was opening the door for them to share back.

And that was like one of the lessons that I learned is, and I started to document as we're vulnerable, we give license to other people and permission that they can share because we're all going through things. All of us are going through things. And so I started to document those lessons and that was the beginning of my paying it forward. And then on the anniversary of the accident, I,

We decided to, I would send out an email with some of the things that I learned really just to my, to the, my friends circle to the people that were part of my life and showing up for me. And we decided to coin the day of the accident unbreakable day.

and recognize two things. One, that day was, it could have been the day I died. I could have looked at that day as a horrible day, but we decided to reframe it as the day I survived, the day I almost became a superhero, or maybe I became a superhero because I survived. And also to think about and thank

All of the people that helped me get through that moment. Because one of the things that I learned is that I couldn't have gotten through it without it. I wouldn't have a happy story if I didn't let all those people in. And as I realized we all go through something, we wanted to coin it in such a way that we can all embrace it. We're all, we all break.

But if we look at those breaks as part of our journey, then we get to all be unbreakable too. And most of us don't give ourselves credit for what we've gone through. I know you've gone through stuff. I know probably just about everyone listening has gone through something, but how often do we say, you know what?

yeah, that was really hard, but I'm stronger because I survived it. And I've learned this and I've learned that. And because of this relationship is better. And you know what? So often those hard moments, we look at as dark times that we just put in the closet, but we can shed a little light on that. And we can say, thank the people that helped us survive, that helped us thrive. And I think we need to do that more often because

Because it is those tough moments give us strength. And there are hard things that we go through that will always be hard. We're not going to reframe that that was a happy event. Like look, being run over by a car three times, it's not a happy event. But what's come out of it, what I've learned, I've chosen to find the value in it. And I think we can all find value in those tough moments.

So that's how I started paying it forward. And then a very long story, a very long answer to your question. And then when COVID happened, I felt like we were all living in an unbreakable day, really complex moment for all of us. And I realized that many of the lessons and things that I had learned

from the accident and that I was sharing with my small community of people were probably lessons and insights that a wider swath of the world could value or learn from. And truthfully, if I could have just said, here are my 10 lessons, what I call the sermon section of my book, I probably would have just published that. But I realized that those lessons aren't meaningful unless you have the full context of

of the journey, the experience and my life. What started out as a book of lessons then turned into a memoir, which has turned into, I'm proud and honored and surprised to say, has become a self-help book for many people. And so that's how I'm paying it forward. And I realized that paying it forward doesn't have to be this great big life change.

It's in little simple actions. It's like saying sorry when someone hurts you or smiling at a person or sharing a lesson or kindness or just it's just connecting with the world with a little bit more positivity.

Well, thank you for sharing all that. And for those who are listening, the way that the book is written, it has multiple parts. The first part that you go into is the impact. The second part you go into is what you title before, before the accident actually happened. And that's something I wanted to spend just a little bit of time on just to give the audience some context to who you are. So you have a really interesting background.

You and I have a lot in common. We have daughters who are not only the same age, the same grade, but they're going to the same college. And you and I ended up graduating the same year from college from two universities about a half an hour away from each other. So you got an undergraduate, as I understand it, in English literature. You then went and got an MBA, and then you got a master's

at Columbia in journalism. Those three things though typically put together are not what you see someone possess typically in the tech world. How did you find your way into a career in technology? Well, first I'll say those degrees, I was actually naturally a math-wiz kid. My natural inclinations when I was young were always math and science.

But as I mentioned, I always felt like this little insecure misfit. I never felt comfortable. And so I became an English lit major to try and understand the world a little bit better. And then I became a business major. And actually, after English lit, I moved to London, worked at a discotheque and realized that business.

is how the world works. Everything is business, whether you're marketing at a discotheque or something more traditional. And then I happened to live in San Francisco during the dot-com boom and started in the dot-coms.

which made me realize technology was, for me, this beautiful bridge between understanding how the world works and maybe some of my initial inclinations toward math and science.

But with technology, you get to solve problems and you get to change lives. What have we lived through over the last 20 years? Right now, you and I are on a web call from home doing this. That didn't exist a long time ago. So that's how I got into technology because of how it could change lives. And then I actually ended up going back to school for a master's in journalism because

Right around September 11, because I grew up, my maiden name was Hussein. And I wanted to strengthen my voice as somebody that could speak confidently, maybe go into the media and show a different side of what Indian Muslim women look like and what a Muslim voice can be.

However, I also realized that I love tech. And so I ended up not making the change to journalism, but using that skill at Microsoft, at Google, Microsoft, I ran my own live stream show and just found that ability to ask questions, whether you're in technology or something else is so important.

instrumental in not only solving problems, but connecting with people. And tech has been, I fell into it, but I love it. And now with Gen AI and all of these new capabilities,

There's so much to figure out. I feel like this, we can be artists just trying to solve problems with technology. So fell into it and still here. It must be such an interesting time to be at Microsoft with Copilot and what the company's trying to do with that and everything else. They're just, things are changing so quickly. It's hard to even keep up with everything that's going on.

It's truly fantastic. I can start my day and say, and ask a question to my virtual assistants of what email should I read or what should I do? Or honestly, I don't think I do more than five things a day now that don't involve AI. I'm drinking the Kool-Aid. So let's go back to the book. And before we go into your sermons,

You ended up entering this contest called the Best Indie Book Award. And to be honest, that's how I discovered you because I was looking at book contests to enter my own book in. And not only did you enter this contest, but you won Book of the Year. Can you talk about that realization? And you must have just fallen out of your chair. Oh, my gosh, John. So I had entered a couple of book contests. And look, I'm an indie publisher.

And there are not a lot of really great contests for independent books. That was one of the best. And when I entered, I didn't have, candidly, I didn't have expectation that really anybody was going to read my book. I thought I was writing it for my family and friends and putting good out in the world. The success of the book has been a wonderful surprise for

But when I got the email, when the book, I actually, so I read it. And when I figured, I was like, okay, maybe I'll win for a category would be amazing. And it said book of the year. And I was like,

I called my husband. I was like, read this email. This isn't making sense to me. What are they trying to say? He's like, thank you. One book of the year. I'm like, I didn't win book of the year. I'm like, maybe every book is like a book of the year of some sort. So I actually emailed them back and asked them what they meant by that statement. Cause I just didn't believe it. There's a really big honor and I couldn't be, I'm just so humbled and thrilled that people, um,

I've responded to the book that, as I mentioned, I thought it was a kind of a initially a memoir, but it's been getting a lot of praise and appeal as a self-help book. And hearing the stories, and actually I'm going to encourage anybody, what I've realized now as a writer, putting it all out there.

is how important it is to hear from people when something resonates. I was never one to write reviews and to reach out, but now I'll send notes and just say, Hey, you know what? I listened to your podcast or I watched your show or I read your book and it brought me value. It felt good. I appreciate it. Thank you for, thank you for the effort because being an open book is you've written a book. It,

I'm getting more used to being vulnerable, but putting it all out there, the world knowing so much more about me than I know about most people, it's a little scary. And so the feedback and the accolades have, you know, I don't even know the right words. It's just been, I should ask my co-pilot. I should ask Jenny. I had to come up, let me come up with some words, but it's been such an honor. And it's allowed me to meet you, which is amazing.

Well, when you and I talked about accidents that we've both been in, I told you about something that I've never talked about on the podcast before. And that is when I was in high school, I didn't have a car to drive. My parents at the time had their own cars, but I didn't have one in high school. And so I was dating a girl at the time. And the only way I could go see her was to ride my bike. And so one day I'm on the bike going to see her and I'm going through this intersection where I have a clear

green and a car comes smashing through the red light and hits me. And I remember flipping in the air. I was in toe clips, panicking, trying to get out of them. I slam into their windshield. And where I grew up in York, Pennsylvania, there were some pretty big gang areas. And this happened to be one of those areas you really didn't want to get stuck in. And so here I am, my bike is just

destroyed. I'm a bloody mess. I can see blood all over my hands. It was on my face and other things. No one came to my aid. In fact, other people were shouting, you better not call the cops because we saw what happened. This was your fault. So here I am limping away from this and just feeling like a victim and just powerless.

And you faced a similar situation in the fact that the person who hit you really never showed any remorse for it, which to me is just so disturbing. Can you just share a little bit about that? Because I think it's an unfortunate thing that happened to both of us.

That lack of remorse is just adding salt to a wound. And it was, it's been hard for me to navigate. So the driver, look, we know she showed bad judgment running over me three times. But then when the car stopped, she actually got out of the car and did not even look to see if I was okay. She just started having, it was almost like a tantrum, like a child's.

And just someone had to move her over to the side because she was screaming so loud. People couldn't even talk to me and see if I was okay. So that happened. Look, those kinds of moments, we don't know how we're going to respond. And I held no ill will to her. She didn't mean to run me over three times. And in those first few weeks of my recovery, I really thought, okay, this woman made a mistake, pretty big one, but she didn't mean to run over me.

When I went to the courthouse about four or five weeks later, I saw her. When I was, I had a cane, I was bandaged, I was cut up all over. It was still, you know, very early. I was still a mess. And I was with my husband and my daughter and she had seen my husband and I saw her not five feet away from me. And John, she didn't even acknowledge me. She didn't look at me. She didn't

say anything. She just did not acknowledge me. Up until that moment, I didn't look, I don't want to say I hold ill will now, but things happen. Things happen to all of us. I don't want to throw stones. Sometimes who knows what mistake I will make one day and not handle well. But when she didn't show me any kindness, when she didn't reach her hand out or even give me a look that showed that human connection, that remorse, that something that

It actually sent me into a spiral. It's like just as bad as the accident was, I fell off yet another cliff. I became completely irrational. It's actually when I started meds, antidepressants, anti-anxiety, because I could no longer control my emotions. That actually flipped the switch that took me down 10 levels on towards just anxiety.

absolute lack of control. And just, I was shattered when that happened. I was, and I'm embarrassed to say, we talked about my kids earlier. I went home from the courthouse that day and I was yelling at my kids. I think my youngest asked me to go to the pool and I was screaming at him. I was yelling at our babysitter. I'm not a, I'm not someone that yells. We're usually a pretty happy household.

I could not control my emotions. And when my kids think of that day, they actually still cry because they saw not only was they saw, they did not recognize who they saw. We talked about my face being unrecognizable. Well, my whole person was unrecognizable. That's how impactful lack of remorse can be lack of human connection and empathy. And unfortunately,

That continued when I saw her a couple of years later. She didn't have proper car insurance. So my car insurance was deposing her. And still no remorse. Not even she was trying to say that I wasn't even in the crosswalk when there were multiple witnesses. Just the lack of acceptance and respect was devastating. And I'm sorry you had to go through that as well. Because you feel like, you know what, you do the right things and you

You just expect the golden rule. We've talked so many times on this podcast about how much kindness positively impacts us. But when you see the reverse happen, I can understand why it had such a big negative impact on you and why it would have been so much harder for you to process these things.

Well, Nassim, in the time we have left, part four of your book, you call my sermon and you referenced this earlier. And I wanted to go through just a couple of these 10 parts of what you call the sermon. So I'm going to randomly pick a couple of these for you to talk about. So why don't I go to number three, let people help. Ah, yes, that's a big one.

I talked about earlier how the letting people in was a big deal. Let me give you the audience some context on how I learned that lesson. So right after the accident, my brother, who was living across the country at the time, flew out to see me, take care of me. Of course, I sent him home because I thought I'm fine. I was thinking I was going back to work. I wasn't in the hospital. I didn't deserve help. Go home.

He went home and unfortunately his dog, his dog Lucy, that he really loved, that was like his sunshine, died shortly after that. And I thought to myself, oh my gosh, my poor brother, my brother needs my help. And of course he's saying, sister, you just got run over by a car three times. Don't worry about me. But I kept thinking he needs my help and I need to help him.

Now, the light bulbs didn't go off immediately for me, but that was the start of me recognizing just like I needed to help him, people needed to help me because the accident didn't just happen to me. It happened to everyone that loved me.

And by letting them bring me a dinner or drive my kids to school or bring me a coffee or help me walk upstairs, actually even like zipper my coat, all things that normally I would be so embarrassed. I'm an adult, you don't need to help me do that. But they felt so good when they could help me. They felt they wanted to show me kindness. And as I said before, look, it is an act of generosity.

It is actually a dimension of strength to learn how to let people help you. And the first time I had to let people help was hard. It was something I was learning. And still, I'm not going to say it's always easy. Sometimes you still want to be the one that does it all and controls it all.

But a few years after the accident, I lost both of my parents, my dad, and then three weeks later, my mom. And once again, I saw this pouring of love, people bringing me flowers and dinners and things. And John, I could just accept it. It wasn't a debt in my ledger. I could just accept the kindness and appreciate it. And you know what? It felt so good. It helped so much that

And it helped me and it helped the people that wanted to show compassion, wanted to be connected to their community. So let people help. It's a simple thing. And sometimes might even be just someone that opens the door for you. We're all like, oh, no, I got it. But you know what? Let them hold the door for you and say thank you.

Thank you for sharing that. I'm so sorry to hear about your parents, especially to lose two of them three weeks apart. Sometimes we can't just think our way out of it. And you're right that the revelation that post-traumatic stress disorder is not just mental, that it's physical too, was such a gift to my recovery. In my mind, I had been weak for not having gotten over the accident. I knew I had physical issues.

I accepted that I still needed medications to regulate my anxiety, but I also couldn't accept that. I so badly wanted my mental strength to fix my mental issues. I wanted to be simply strong enough, self-sufficient enough to handle it all. With that as a backdrop, can you discuss why this is such an important point to you?

We talked a little bit about my background. Look, I worked really hard to be, to focus on self-growth and mental strength. I have two master's degrees. I've had great jobs. I've always thought I am a problem solver. I can do this. I have a positive attitude. I have a strong mind. I can think my way through navigating tough moments.

And I would hear that I have PTSD and that I have traumatic brain injury. And I knew those things, but it didn't sway my opinion of I can think my way out of anything. About 10 months after the accident, I was on vacation with my kids.

And I mentioned, I like to raise my hands when a driver's coming and have that good communication. Okay, you're going to stop and then I'm going to cross. Well, I was, I was in Europe in a country where the driver expects you to start crossing and then they will stop. And so I was not crossing and my family would be on the other side of the street waiting for me. And I was having panic attacks and I knew that I should be able to go on.

but I couldn't cross. And I came home. We talked about like the people that you don't know around you. Well, I came home. I was on a sideline of a soccer game telling another mom. By now, everybody like loved the story. It's like,

exciting story being run over and asked how I was. And I said, oh, well, we just went to Europe and I was having this trouble crossing the street and my PTSD and blah, blah, blah. And she said, I have PTSD and I'm really working on my body because of the autonomic response and stuff that I'd heard before, but I had never actually internalized it until this moment. And then I started, I started realizing that,

yeah, you know what? There's this physical reaction that's happening and I need to give myself some grace. It's a physical thing because this friend on the sideline at the soccer game, she was fabulous and strong and successful. And it was her telling me,

And showing me that it is not so simple, that finally the light bulb went off, what there's something more to just than just my mind. And once I realized that it was a physical reaction as well, I was able to slow down and breathe through it and give myself some grace and

And it was this weight lifted off of me because I wasn't, I was feeling like a failure. It had been a year. Yes, we had reframed it to be Unbreakable Day. We were like looking at a positive story, but I still felt like a failure that I hadn't been able to just think my way out of these panic attacks.

And I appreciate you being vulnerable and sharing that. Nassim, such a wonderful book, so many lessons. So glad we could get through a few of them and tease the audience to buy the book. Speaking of that, where's the best place for someone to go if they want to know more about you, the keynote speaking that you're doing now, the workshops and everything else?

So you can find me at nasimroshett.com. I tried to make it easy. Thank you, John. Thank you for finding me. I'm so excited we met. I am too. Thank you so much for being on the show.

Thanks everyone. Ciao. Wow. What an incredible conversation that was with Nassim Rochette. I hope you're leaving this episode as inspired as I am. Nassim's story truly represents the power of resilience and how we can all find strength even in the most unexpected and difficult of situations. Her journey reminds us that breaking doesn't mean broken and that the most challenging situations

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