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How To Be Alone

2024/7/22
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Shankar Vedantam: 本期节目探讨了现代人过度追求成就和享乐,忽略内在生活,以及独处对身心健康的影响。节目中采访了心理学家Netta Weinstein,她分享了关于独处和孤独的研究成果,并探讨了如何更好地与自己相处。 Netta Weinstein:新冠疫情期间的隔离研究结果出乎意料,并未导致人们心理健康问题的大幅恶化。这说明我们对独处的负面看法可能过于偏颇。独处和孤独是不同的概念,孤独是一种负面情绪,而独处是一种状态,本身并不具有负面含义。老年人和青少年在独处时感到更平静和不孤独,而中年人则最难以应对独处。独处可以让人更好地了解自己,提升自我认知,促进创造力。积极的独处体验类似于积极的人际关系,需要我们以同样的关爱和理解对待自己。消极的独处体验往往与消极的思维模式有关,例如反复思考、后悔和自责。我们可以通过觉察并以积极的态度对待自己的情绪来改善独处体验。提前规划独处时间,并营造舒适的环境,能提升独处体验。在自然环境中独处能带来身心愉悦,并促进专注力。追求独处不等于排斥社交,需要有效沟通以避免误解。父母应支持孩子对独处的需求,而不是认为这是一种异常。 Netta Weinstein: 我的研究表明,人们对独处的负面预期会影响他们的独处体验。消除对独处的负面偏见,学会以积极的态度看待独处,并通过‘独处设计’来提升独处质量至关重要。独处并非与世隔绝,而是与自己建立更深层次的联系,从而提升自我认知和幸福感。在独处中,我们可以更好地了解自己的需求、愿望和价值观,从而在生活中做出更明智的选择。独处也并非只适合内向的人,外向的人同样可以从中受益。独处可以帮助我们减压、提升创造力,并促进身心健康。重要的是,我们要学会区分孤独和独处,孤独是一种负面情绪,而独处是一种状态,我们可以通过练习,将独处变成一种积极的体验。

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The episode introduces the concept of solitude and its potential benefits, challenging the notion that constant engagement and spending lead to a fulfilling life. It questions the societal pressure to always be busy and explores the science of what we lose when we prioritize external pursuits over introspection.
  • The world often pressures us to prioritize external pursuits over introspection.
  • Solitude is often viewed negatively, but it can have positive effects on our well-being.
  • The episode explores the science of solitude and its potential benefits.

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We're always told to reach for that next ring, work that third job, go to that boisterous party after a long day at work. You only live once ... right? But psychologist Netta Weinstein) says that when we constantly engage in achievement and distraction, we lose something essential about ourselves. This week, she makes a case for solitude, and examines what happens when we seek a quieter, more reflective interior life.

If you like today's episode, check out our two-part series on mindfulness:

Seeking Serenity: Part 1)

Seeking Serenity: Part 2)