People tend to view ambivalent individuals as less dominant, confident, and assertive due to the perception that they are experiencing tension and conflict. This negative perception can lead to others taking control or advantage of the ambivalent person.
Ambivalence can lead to missed opportunities and poor decisions when individuals fail to act decisively. For example, Naomi's indecision about buying a popular toy resulted in higher prices and potential unhappiness for her daughter.
Ambivalence can enhance cognitive flexibility and creativity, as it prompts individuals to consider multiple perspectives and complex solutions. It can also improve accuracy in estimates and judgments by balancing biases.
In cooperative settings, expressing ambivalence can lead to better negotiation outcomes as it encourages problem-solving and mutual understanding. In competitive settings, it can be perceived as a sign of weakness and invite aggressive behavior.
Leaders who express ambivalence in cooperative environments can foster a more democratic leadership style, encouraging team members to seek more information and ultimately improving team performance.
A paradox mindset allows individuals to tolerate the discomfort of ambivalence by adopting a both-and approach rather than an either-or perspective. This mindset can help in dealing with competing demands and deriving greater meaning from complex situations.
Cultivating ambivalence can serve as a self-protective strategy against potential failure or disappointment. By holding mixed feelings, individuals can buffer their emotions and approach situations more thoughtfully.
Emotional processing involves acknowledging and understanding one's feelings rather than suppressing them. This approach can lead to more authentic interactions and deeper connections with others, as seen in Naomi's experience with her mother.
Sometimes we feel just one single feeling with overwhelming force. We're joyously happy. We're crushingly sad. But sometimes it's more complicated than that: We feel happy *and *sad at the same time. This week, we revisit a favorite 2022 episode with psychologist Naomi Rothman), who shares her research on the mixed emotion of ambivalence. She explores how being of two minds changes the way we think, and how it changes the way others see us.
*Did you catch the first two episodes in our Emotions 2.0 series? You can find them in this podcast feed, or on our website, hiddenbrain.org). Thanks for listening! *