Rejection is Protection! How to Change Your Relationship With Rejection to Change Your Entire Life!
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Do you fear rejection or failure? If so, today's episode is for you. And when it comes to facing countless rejections, I'm your girl. Hi, I'm Jamie Kern-Lima, and in today's episode of The Jamie Kern-Lima Show, we are tackling any fear that you might have of being rejected or failing or someone not including you or seeing your value.

See, what I know to be true is that self-doubt and fear of rejection or failure kills more dreams than almost anything else. And what I know because I have lived it is that when you change your relationship with rejection, you change your entire life.

So today, I am so excited to share with you some stories, some tools, some tactical takeaways that you can apply to your life right now, today, to overcome your fear of rejection or failure.

Are you ready to become unstoppable? The good news is you already are. And this show is about unlearning the lies that you're not and igniting those truths that wake up worthiness and help your self-belief soar. So get cozy and lean in because I just feel in my heart that these words might be exactly for you today.

I am so excited about this topic today because it is life-changing in so many ways. So let me just start by asking you this question right off the top. What would you do differently in your life right now if you had no fear of rejection or failure?

Think about it for a minute. Maybe it's in your personal life or in making friends as an adult. Maybe it's in your career or maybe it's in like a passion or a calling you feel that you've been sort of hesitating or holding back on. What would you do differently right now in your life if you had no fear of rejection or failure?

I truly believe the fear of ejection and failure and self-doubt, it kills more dreams than almost anything else. It keeps us stuck, keeps us not going for things. And I am gonna share a couple tools and lessons and tips

just that have been life-changing for me as it pertains to changing my relationship with rejection. So when you think about it in your life right now, I truly believe this. When you change your relationship with rejection, you change your entire life.

So I'm going to talk about a four-part framework. You can do it right now while we are just here together talking, you and me. You can start applying this to your life right now. And I can tell you, for me, it's helped me become so much more fearless of, you know, if I do get rejected or I fail or I fall flat on my face or someone else doesn't see my value. And here's why this is so important. It's like right now, I believe the most powerful,

prevalent form of cancel culture is the one no one's talking about. It's us canceling ourselves before we even try. It's us canceling ourselves before we even try. And we do that so often because we have a deep-seated fear of rejection,

of failure, of all the things that we assign pain to, and we want to avoid them at all costs. So here's the thing. We're going to dive into this four-part framework, and I just want you to even see if you can apply it to a few areas of your life right now while it's just you and me together on this journey holding hands. I have been rejected and failed over and over and over and over and over again, and

And then again, literally so many times more than I can count. And I actually think, you know, as adults, when we put ourselves out there, we do things or we go for it or we, you know, trust our gut and make a move. Like it's just inevitable that different forms of rejection or setbacks or what can feel like failure impact us every single day.

Every single day. And so I think when we learn to change our relationship with it, that's why it can truly change every single area of our lives. And here's the thing. So big, big, big picture, right? Every single thing in life is simply the meaning we attach to it.

The same thing can happen to 10 different people and they all experience it very differently. They all attach a different meaning to it, right? Like for example, my husband can give me an apple and I could be like, wow, he thought of me. He's like the sweetest ever. He knows I'm hungry. That would be the meaning I'm assigning to it. Or I could get the apple and I could be like, he literally forgot every single chore the last seven days. Now he's trying to make up for it by bringing me an apple.

Or he'd give me the apple and I could be like, wait, he knows I want that sundae, the ice cream sundae. Does he think I need to be on a diet? Or he could bring me the, I could go on and on and on, right? The point is that same thing happened in all those circumstances. I got an apple, but I can attach so many different meanings to it.

And that meaning we decide to give something becomes our reality. It becomes what we focus on. It becomes what we think about. It becomes what we experience. Well, the same thing goes for when a setback happens in your life or someone hurts your feelings or you try something and it doesn't work or it doesn't go your way or you have a rejection or a failure. All of it, every rejection, every failure that's going to happen now in the future and even the ones in the past,

All they are is the meaning you assign to them. That's it. Okay? So...

Here's how we're going to kick this off. I want to ask you a question. You got to be super honest. We're going to dive into this four-part framework called the four R's. I go really deep into how to do this in my book, Worthy. But I want to take you through a really fun version, just you and me together today, okay? The four R's, because you can apply this to your life right now. So question right off the top. I want you to be really honest with yourself, really honest, and don't even think about it, okay? Don't think too hard. But I want you to be really honest with yourself.

But I want you to imagine yourself getting rejected or failing at something. What's the first thought you have? Don't think about it. Just like, what's the first thought you have when you imagine yourself getting rejected or failing? For me, most of my life, the very first thought I had is, yep, there's proof you're not enough. Yep, you're not enough, right? The person doesn't want to bring my product into their store. The first thought is, yep, not enough.

The person didn't invite me to their party, right? Whatever it might be, my first thought was always, yep, proof I'm not enough. But I want you to be really honest with yourself. Really imagine yourself in a scenario where you get rejected or you fail. What's that very first thought that goes through your mind? Now, when I've asked groups of people this before, I'll impersonate.

Oh my goodness. Like some of the first thoughts that people share so vulnerably are things like, yep, I shouldn't have even tried. I'm stupid. I'm a loser. Who was I to even go for it? Who do I think I am? I'm not qualified. I'm not enough. I don't have what it takes. On and on and on and on, right? So I just want you to take note for a second of that first thought you had when I asked you that. The first thing you think when you get rejected or fail

Okay, because here's the deal. That first thing you just thought, that is your current definition of rejection or failure.

That thought is your current definition of rejection or failure. That is currently the meaning you're assigning to rejection or failure in your life when they happen. A lot of times we don't even know we're doing this. It could be just like a deep-carved neural pathway from the past, and we've just thought that every time it happens. But that first thought you have—this is so important, okay? For you, if that first thought you had is something that's negative—like for me, most of my life is, yep, I'm not enough. Well, that's a negative, right? Yeah.

If that first thought you had that you think about when you get rejected or fail is something negative,

Here's the deal. As human beings, we're wired to avoid pain at all costs. It's why we know going to the gym can bring us all these great benefits, but we don't want the pain of getting on the treadmill. It's why for a lot of people, they know, oh, if I quit smoking, I'll get healthier, but they don't want the pain of the withdrawal. We will prioritize avoiding pain just instinctually and

even though something can be more pleasurable. So we'll avoid pain at all costs. And why I'm bringing this up is because if that first thought you had about when you get rejected or fail at something is something negative or painful, well, here's what's going to happen. You're not going to go for things. You're going to stay stuck. You're going to talk yourself out of going for it because you're going to want to avoid the pain of rejection or failure.

So we just did this first R in the four R's, which is to reveal your current definition of rejection or failure. And I just want you to make a note of it, okay? Your current definition of rejection or failure. Now, here's what's been life-changing for me. Because we sort of started out with this idea that everything's just the meaning we attach to it, right?

When I started realizing that my current definition of rejection or failure, every time it happened was like, yep, there's proof I'm not enough, right? Well, that makes me tempted to not go for things. I don't ever want to feel that way. But what I've learned is when you actually redefine, that's a second R is redefine, when you redefine the meaning or the definition you give to rejection or failure to one that's actually empowering you,

Now, it has to be true. It has to be a new definition. You believe and know in your soul that's true. It can't just be something that sounds positive. You have to believe it's true. But when you redefine rejection or failure with new definitions, right, that you truly believe that are empowering, that are inspiring—

Well, then it's not painful anymore. Then you actually eliminate the fear of doing things that might bring rejection or might bring failure because it's not painful anymore. So I know that's going to seem far-fetched, but just trust me on this. I'm going to give you a couple examples, okay? So I remember one day after, oh my gosh, years, first of all, years and years and hundreds and hundreds of rejections building a cosmetics for my living room. There was one day in particular I got an ultra painful rejection.

And it was about to be another night where I was like crying myself to sleep under my covers. And I remember I just started Googling every person I admired, people that have helped heal humanity, people that have, you know, are incredible thought leaders, people that have done incredible things in business. I started Googling them, reading their stories. And what I realized is every single one of them has gone through tons of rejections and failures, tons, countless failures.

They're just the brave ones willing to keep going anyways. And that day in my journal, I wrote, rejection does not mean I am not enough. Rejection and failure, it's a victory. It's a victory because it means I'm one of the brave ones willing to keep going anyway.

I'm not going to live my life sitting on the sidelines, watching everyone else go for it, staying stuck. Like this rejection, this failure, yeah, it's not what I want, but oh my gosh, it's a victory. It's a reminder I'm one of the brave ones willing to keep going for it. And here's the thing, you guys, I believe that to be true in my soul. If I see you get rejected or fail at something,

I will literally think like, oh my gosh, that's amazing. You're one of the brave ones willing to go for it. And I believe that's true. I believe that in my soul. So what I started doing was every time I'd have another setback, another failure, another rejection, another no. For a lot of us, these happen every day, right? We don't get invited to the party. The person doesn't invite us to coffee. The person doesn't see our value. Whatever it is, we get these every day.

And so literally every time from that moment forward, I'd have another rejection. My default would be like really quickly to think like, oh, yep, there's proof I'm not enough. But I would intercept that thought and I go immediately to like, oh, no, no, no, this is a victory. Like I'm one of the brave ones willing to go for it. And I kept doing that over and over and over until it became second nature. And then I started building a toolbox of new definitions, right?

for rejection or failure when they happen in my life that I believe to be true, that I believe to be true. So another one is rejection's God's protection or rejection's the universe's protection. Whatever speaks more true for you

Like, I believe that to my core. Like, I believe that is true, right? I believe that is true. Rejection's redirection, which is another great one. Rejection means I'm putting in the reps. I'm one step closer to that. Yes. And so...

What I want to encourage you to do, right? We already came up with your current definition of rejection. Well, now I want you to think of some new definitions of rejection that are true for you, that you believe in your soul are true.

So you can take some of the ones I just shared. That rejection means it's a victory. I'm one of the brave ones willing to keep going for it. Or rejection is God's protection. Or rejection is one step closer to that yes. Whatever it is for you, start building a toolbox of new definitions. And then one step at a time, every time another step.

rejection happens or failure or someone hurts your feelings or doesn't see your value, you're going to go to that old thought, whatever that was for you. For me, it was like, yep, I'm not enough. But then you intercept it and you replace it. You redefine it. You redecide. You take your power back and you decide the meaning you attach to that rejection or failure when it happens. And you can pull from one of these in this toolkit, right? So

I remember, you know, so really quick recap. The first R is to reveal, and we just did that, your current definition of rejection. The second R out of the four R's is to redefine it. That's what we're doing right now. We're coming up with these new definitions that you have to believe to be true in your soul. This isn't just like, oh, let's think positive. This is like, you believe these to your core. I remember some of you might, you might know this story. I

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And now more of this conversation together. You might know this story, but when I was building It Cosmetics, I got so many rejections. And one in particular that was super, super painful was a few years into the brand and a big potential investor, super well-known, had got a hold of our product and was like so excited about it. And we started taking meetings and I was like, oh my gosh, if they invest...

A, we're not going to go bankrupt, and B, maybe they can use their power, their leverage to get us into all these retail stores that keep telling me no. So I was so excited. I thought, like, is this going to be our saving grace? And we did meeting after meeting after meeting, and I was just praying and hoping that they would invest.

Like literally like telling God what I wanted, like not asking for, you know, divine orchestration, but actually like telling him, please answer this prayer. Thank you. And we did meeting after meeting. And I remember my husband and I flew up for the final meeting and this head guy was there, his entire team. We presented the whole product pipeline and I just thought this thing was going to happen. The deal would go through.

The very end of the meeting, this head guy who was about three feet from me at the time and his whole team was behind him. They're amazing. But he says to me, it's a no. We're going to pass on investing in IT Cosmetics. And when I asked him why, he got really, really quiet and he says, do you want me to be really honest with you? And I was like, yes, please.

And he says, I just don't think women will buy makeup from someone who looks like you with your body and your weight. And I remember in that moment, like actually never feeling anger toward him. I felt initially like a lifetime of self-doubt and body doubt, like fled my body all at once. So it almost felt like I was staring my own fear straight in the eye. But when he said those words, I'll never forget this. I got this feeling in my gut so strong that said, he's wrong.

He's wrong. I got this knowing, right? And so this dude was giving me a no, but God was giving me a knowing. And listen, I left that meeting. I went in my car and cried.

I didn't hear from him again for another six years. But in that six-year window, this is one of the points of why I'm sharing this. In that six-year window before I heard from him again, there were so many times where those words, like I heard them again, right? How many times have you had somebody say something that hurt your feelings or you had a rejection or a setback and like it replays? Every time I'd hear his words, I'd imagine myself turning down the volume.

right, on that self-doubt that was coming up, turning up the volume on that feeling I had in my gut, that knowing that said he was wrong. And then here's what I would do. In that moment, I was tempted, of course, to hear those words and think, oh, yeah, he's right. I'm not enough. I'm never going to make it. He didn't even think I was worth investing in. And he's really, really smart. And he's like a really big deal. And maybe we don't have a shot. And maybe he was right. It's like, uh-uh, uh-uh.

I'm going to turn down the vault. That is not the definition I want to assign to that rejection. That is not the meaning I'm going to give to that incident.

And I would intercept those thoughts and replace it, replace it with one of my new definitions I believe to be true, right? So I would catch myself a million times in that six-year window, catch myself, replace it with rejection is God's protection. I don't know why God blocked my value from him. And I don't know why he said no. And I don't know why it didn't work out. But I'm going to have faith. I'm going to trust rejection is God's protection. I'm going to trust it.

and I'm going to go with it, right? And six years later, when I did hear from him, it was when L'Oreal bought our company for a whole lot of money, and he would have made a whole lot of money. But here's the beautiful part is L'Oreal

When I was hoping he would invest so badly, I was super desperate, y'all. Nobody was wanting to bring us in their stores or anything. So I didn't even know how I was just not going to go bankrupt at the time. So I probably would have given him the majority of the company for almost no money. But because he did not believe in me, when we finally sold the business, I was still the largest shareholder.

It's like rejection is God's protection, right? Or how many times we're dating somebody and we know we're not supposed to be in that relationship. Our friends and family see it. People are telling it to us. Our intuition knows it. Our intuition knows it, right? And then all of a sudden that person just like breaks our heart and we're devastated, right?

And we still try to keep it going. We wish it worked out. We still feel in love. But now, fast forward a bunch of years, and we're like, thank God it did not work out. Like, thank God

thank God that person broke my heart. Because if they didn't, who knows how my life would have turned out, right? We can start looking back at different things and be like, OK, rejection is the universe's protection. Rejection is God's protection. We know these definitions are true. And then that's how we continue to apply them, that deep belief and that deep truth every time they happen. And why this is a big deal is because the more definitions I started applying to things that were actually empowering me

What happened is I started fearing rejection less. Literally, I started becoming fearless when it comes to rejection or failure. And I think about the hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of rejections I had to endure to actually build a cosmetics into over 1,000 employees and into the company that it's become.

But had I actually assigned a lot of pain to every rejection, I would have stopped and given up at like 20 rejections or 50 no's or 100 no's. But I actually learned to assign the meaning I wanted to them that was empowering. And that helped me become virtually fearless when it comes to rejection or failure. So

I want to encourage you to redefine rejection and failure in your life and really take some time. You can pause this episode or, you know, if you're out working out, walking, cleaning, whatever you're doing right now, you could do this another time as well.

You can come back and revisit this episode, but really take some time and really write out some new definitions. Or you can take some of the ones I've already shared right now and just make the decision that you're going to redefine rejection or failure every time it happens. Now, the third R is the most powerful. This is the most powerful. This is the most life-changing.

This is the one that I hear from so many people about that has literally changed their life. The third R is called revisit. Revisit. All right, here's what this means in your life. So many of us, whether we are aware of it or not, have had past rejections, past failures happen in our lives, sometimes in our childhood, sometimes from our caregivers, and

Sometimes, you know, from different moments in our life, from the person that just like crushed our heart, the job we wanted so bad and we applied and applied and applied and they didn't see our value. No matter what we did, we didn't get it, right? The time we sent our book manuscript out and 25 publishers said no.

Right? Like on and on. The person who you're like, okay, I'm an adult. I'm going to make friends as an adult. And no matter what you do, that person just doesn't seem to like you or invite you to the things. No matter how hard you try to be her friend, it's not working. Or your in-law that you've now spent 10 years trying to get to love you and they do not.

Like, I can go on and on and on. But so many of us with past rejections or failures, when they happen in the moment for a lot of times, they shake our confidence. But here's the thing, you guys, that this is really, really big. When we have a past rejection or failure, again, it could come from as far back as childhood. When we let it take root at an identity level, right? And what I mean by that is instead of thinking, oh, I was rejected, I failed, we actually start to think, I'm a reject. Right?

I am a failure. That's when it takes root in an identity level. That's when it impacts our self-worth, okay? And a lot of times we're carrying this around and we don't realize we can revisit, the third R is revisit, a past rejection or failure and then go through steps one and two. Reveal what's the current definition we're giving to that past rejection or failure. What's the current meaning we're assigning to that?

And then redefine it. Step two, second R, so that it no longer takes root in your life and in your self-worth. This is a really, really, really, really powerful tool because it can help set you free. It can help your self-worth soar. Two quick examples of this so that you can start applying this to your life right now. I was adopted.

And when I was growing up, I actually didn't know I was adopted growing up until I was in my late 20s. But when I was growing up, my parents who adopted me, they worked so much, seven days a week, like so many hours. And I always kind of felt abandoned. I always felt abandoned and alone, right? And always like work was always top priority.

And I grew up with this narrative that, to myself, I didn't tell anyone else this, but deep inside, I felt like I was abandoned. And how that came out in my life was like, oh my gosh, I would date people that were not good for me? Uh-uh.

And they would do stuff where I'm like, I know his phone did not break and he did not disappear for three days because his phone broke. Like, you know, but I would like stay in relationships that weren't good because I didn't want to abandon the person. Right. Then then I found out I'm adopted in my late 20s. And just kind of this narrative where I told myself, like, I'm abandoned or or or.

you know, not the top priority or unwanted or those narratives. I always kind of felt that deep down inside. Never shared it with anyone. Just always felt that. Then all of a sudden, I'm growing this incredible business. We have a thousand employees. And you want to know how it came out in my life? I would not fire people soon enough. Like, and I'm talking about when they really, like beyond a shadow of a doubt, merited it.

That was one of my biggest weaknesses as a boss is I would not fire people soon enough because I didn't want to abandon them. I kept wanting to try again, like pour into them and like, yep, biggest weakness. And when we have these old wounds we're hanging on to, these definitions we're applying to things, like it can change every part of our life. So I actually did this process.

And I went back and I realized that my experience being adopted and my experience growing up with my parents working a lot, the meaning I was giving to that was I was abandoned. But I decided like, well, that's pretty disempowering of a meaning I'm choosing to give to that. And I decided to take my power back, and you can too, to anything that's gone on in your life. And I decided to redefine this in my life, right? So I decided, oh, wait a minute.

And my birth mom who decided to bring me into the world, she did not have to do that. She didn't abandon me. She chose me. She chose me. God chose me to come into life. Like my parents who adopted me, yeah, they had to work really, really, really, really hard when I was growing up, but they chose to raise me.

I wasn't, I am not abandoned. I am chosen. I am chosen. And I believe that to be true. And it has helped me heal in so many areas. It helped me, you know, now I'm getting so good at like friendships and, you know, relationships where I can see, oh, this is not good for me. Uh,

You know, I'm going to love that person from a new healthy boundary and a big old distance. And it's not my job to rescue them. And I don't need that in my life, right? So it's really helped me take my power back. So when we talk, you know, in this episode about making these changes, they really can impact a lot of areas of your life.

My favorite way that I want to make sure I share with you today, because this is something that might be profound in your life right now. It is for me. I use this tool every single day, just about. But one of my favorite ways to revisit life

past rejections or failures, or even ones that happen day to day. We all have stuff where someone doesn't see our value or somebody, you know, didn't do the thing or we, you know, put our idea out there and they passed on it and said, no, thank you. Or we asked our boss for their promotion or we applied for this job and didn't get it or whatever it might be, right? You name it.

I literally, when this happens in my life, one of my favorite go-to ways to redefine this, whether it's a past rejection or failure I'm revisiting or something happening in real time, when it happens, instead of me thinking, yep, there's proof I'm not enough or any of the other things, I will literally make the decision to believe. I will imagine my creator saying to me, oh,

You weren't rejected. I hid your value from them because they're not assigned to your destiny.

And I will believe it. I will believe that, right? So when the girlfriend doesn't invite me to the party, but everyone else got invited and my feelings are hurt, I'm like, I don't know why she doesn't like me. I don't know why we're not bonding. I won't do that because that'll send me to that place of, oh, I'm not enough and all the things. Instead, I'll be like, all right, well, I really wanted to get invited, but you know what? I'm going to trust God's blocking my value from her because for some reason, she's not assigned to my destiny, right?

Or I'm going to trust that I sent my resume out to this place over and over and over and over and sent a follow-up email and then sent a Starbucks gift card and the person still didn't give me the job or even an interview. I am going to trust that my creator is blocking my value from that person because that job is not a sign of my destiny. And I'm going to trust that my creator is blocking my value from that person because

I go revisit past things, right? The dude that broke your heart, that's like still the love. You're like, oh, it should have been. It should have been. As Matthew Hussey says so beautifully, if it should have been, it would have been. That's the first thing. But the second thing is I will go back to those and be like, yep.

I can so clearly see now God blocked my value from that person. I wanted to work out so bad, but thank God it did not, right? That person was not assigned to my destiny. So the third R of revisiting

It's so powerful because it helps us transform the meaning we're attaching to things that maybe even they're rejections or failures that we let take root at an identity level. And it's so powerful to be able to do this because it sets us free, right? It sets us free. And that is the fourth R is revel, revel in the fact that you are no longer fearing, right?

rejection, or failure in your life. Because it's totally possible. You know, in my journey, like there's still things I'm working on every single day, still things that I have challenges in my life, things that I am a hot mess over. But what I will say is fear of rejection or failure is

is not one of them. Like I am virtually fearless of rejection or failure now because I believe these meanings I'm assigning to them, these new definitions to be true. I believe them in my, in my core, in my soul. I believe them to be true. And so it's helped me take my power back. And, um, I just, uh, I'm so excited and honored and grateful that you are here with me on the Jamie Kern Lima show, because this is like what this is all about. It's you, it's me, it's us

sparking these revelations in our own self-worth journey in our life.

If these four R's added value to you today, I created a free overcoming rejection framework that you can download at jamiecarlima.com slash resources. And I also go much deeper into how to change your relationship with rejection and failure to transform your life in my new book, Worthy. It's available everywhere books are sold, including Audible, where I read it myself.

I am fired up from today's episode on rejection because it is such a huge thing that when you can change the meaning you attach to it in your life, it can truly change everything. And if you loved today's episode too, my only ask is that you please click on the follow button or the subscribe button for this show on your app.

and then share it. Share this episode with everyone you believe in. Share it with another person in your life who could benefit from it. Post it and share it with others in your online community who just might need the words and tools and lessons in this episode today. You never know whose life you're meant to change today by sharing this episode.

And thank you so much for joining me today. And before you go, I wanted to share with you some words that couldn't be more true. You right now, exactly as you are, are enough and fully worthy.

You're worthy of your greatest hopes, your wildest dreams, and all the unconditional love in the world. And it is an honor to welcome you to each and every episode of The Jamie Kern Lima Show. Here, I hope you'll come as you are, heal where you need, blossom what you choose, journey toward your calling, and stay as long as you like, because you belong here.

You are worthy. You are loved. You are love. And I love you. And I cannot wait to join you on the next episode of the Jamie Kern Lima Show. Do you struggle with negative self-talk? Living with a constant mental narrative that you're not good enough is exhausting. I know because I spent most of my life in that habit.

The words you say to yourself about yourself are so powerful. And when you learn to take control over your self-talk, it's life-changing. And I wanted to give you a free resource that I created for you if this is something that could benefit your life. It's called Five Ways to Overcome Negative Self-Talk and Build Self-Love.

And it's a free how-to guide to overcome that negative self-talk to build confidence and develop unshakable self-love so that you can dream big and keep going in the pursuit of your goals. Don't let self-sabotaging thoughts hinder your progress any longer. It's time to rewrite the script of your life when filled with self-love, resilience, and unwavering belief.

If you're ready to take charge of your narrative, build unwavering confidence, and empower yourself to persevere on the path to your dreams, you can grab your free guide to stop overthinking and learn to trust yourself at jamiekernlima.com slash resources, or click the link in the show notes below. Who you spend time around is so important as energy is contagious, and so is self-belief.

And I'd love to hang out with you even more, especially if you could use an extra dose of inspiration, which is exactly why I've created my free weekly newsletter that's also a love letter to you delivered straight to your inbox from me.

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If you're tired of hearing the bad news every single day and need some inspiration, some tips, tools, joy, and love hitting your inbox, I'm your girl. Subscribe at jamiekernlima.com or in the link in the show notes. I am so excited for this book. You know why? Because it's going to save so many people.

It's going to save you. Worthy, your new beautiful book, Worthy. Get this book. This book? I'm telling you. It's a book that can change anybody's life who picks it up. Anybody who's ever felt that they were not good enough, didn't measure up, something's missing in your life. I have to tell you. It's powerful. It's happening. It's happening.

It's worth it. Imagine what would you do if you fully believed in you? I went from struggling waitress facing nonstop rejection to founder of IT Cosmetics, a billion dollar company, by learning how to overcome self-doubt and believe I'm worthy of my hopes and dreams.

and I'm sharing how you can too in my new book, "Worthy: How to Believe You Are Enough and Transform Your Life." If you're ready to truly trust yourself and break through that barrier of self-doubt and know that where you come from or even where you are right now doesn't determine where you're going, then Worthy is for you. It's time to go from doubting you're enough to knowing you're enough.

It's time to step into all of who you are and into the person you were born to be. And it's time to believe that you are worthy of it. Because in life, we don't become what we want. We become what we believe we're worthy of.

Join the Worthy movement today by grabbing your copy of Worthy anywhere books are sold and head to worthybook.com now for free gifts, including my five-part course on becoming unstoppable and my 95-page Worthy Workbook Action Plan that teaches you how to implement the tools from the book into your real life right now. Worthy is groundbreaking. Yo, Worthy, you are worthy.

This book is going to change lives. This book literally will teach you how to actually feel worthy so that you can have the strength, you can have the confidence. The lessons in this book and the strategies will change your life. You will never be the same again after you read this book. Jamie's Bookworthy is a must-read. It is going to inspire you, empower you, give you the hope that you need and the kick in the rear end that you deserve.

deserve. Jamie's Book Worthy is incredible. The gifts are going away, but they're all free right now on worthybook.com. It's such an honor to share this podcast together with you. And please note, I'm not a licensed therapist and this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional.

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