Start Strong: Do This Every Morning to Get Out of Bed, Beat Anxiety, and Feel Incredible All Day
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Eight each friend male and welcome to the male robbin's podcast. You are these morning, we just don't want to give up me too. And in fact, for most of my life, every morning when I woke up, I just felt this huge sense of thread.

I mean, I know why I was so hard to get out of bed, so I talked my therapist about IT and he gave me this life changing technique. And it's unbelievable how IT works, especially in those mornings where you just don't feel like getting out of bed. It's called split ing. And today i'm A A teacher to you.

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Hage your friend male, and welcome to the male Robin's forecasts. I am so thrilled that you tuned in today because we are doing something super cool and extra special. Never done this before.

I am laying in my bed right now. I and my I am as gone. I've got my retainer and you might be that kind of hear a little bit of observation because of the retainer.

My cat, mr. Noodle, is lying with me. And today I am teaching you a technique that changed my entire life. If you have ever struggled with getting out of bed, if you wake up and you immediately feel read, or you feel like some of things wrong or your thoughts or are just overwhelming you, what i'm going to teach you today and share with you will change your life immediately.

And what are we going to talk about? We're going to talk about this technique that my therapist, the extraordinary and davin, taught me during a period where I was going through a really, really hard time. And in fact, things were so difficult that I was having trouble getting out of bed. And that may surprise you if you're new listener, by the way, if you're new listener, welcome to the mall rob's podcast family.

I think it's super cool that you're choosing to listen to something that can help you change your life and learning how to get out a bit on those days where life feels hard or you're overwhelmed or like me, you have this pounding sense of dread in your body kind of waste you down like a gravity blanket and you just want to stay a bit. It's kind of interesting, isn't IT how hard I can be to get out of bed some mornings. I've certainly done there.

And what I didn't know is that all of that dread that I was feeling every morning, all of the overwhelm IT, actually traced all the way back to an experience that I had had in childhood and going to talk about that in a minute. But I going to share some with you. I ve never been the kind of person likes to get out of bed. I mean, let's just be on with each other.

For anybody that can spring out of bed when the alarm rings your ero for the rest of us, Normal people who actually wake up and we're sort of like, uh, can I just lay here? Why so hard to get out of bed? How I hitting that snooze button again and drifting back to sleep in my cozy sheet like that's the kind of person that i've always went.

And so if that you if it's somebody that you love, what you're going to learn today is going to blow your mind. You're not only going to learn this technique called slithering. You're going to hear IT explained by my therapist and devin SHE is also going to walk you through why this works as what's called a sym atic practice.

She's going to teach you about the deep origins of the stored tension in your body and why you continue to wake up in the morning and feel this sense of dread, or like some of things wrong, or your thoughts are spinning. This isn't based on just what's happening your life right now. This is likely something that you've experience for a long time in your life.

And here's the good news. Using this technique, you can move IT out your body. And yeah, you may have a lot going on, but you can learn how to wake up and not feel that sense of dread.

You can learn how to change its you wake up in the morning, no matter what's going on, you actually wake up and you feel freedom in your body. IT is the coolest thing in the world. I'm going to teach you to you today.

I'm so excited that you're here. In fact, i'm going to sit up, get the pillow in place, think nodes, get the I mask of and settle in. Oh, and you know what I don't have is I don't my glasses OK. So I don't know about you and mornings, but IT has always been the hardest thing in the world for me to start my day. And i'm onna describe what IT feels like for me and just any given day.

But as i'm describing what IT feels like for me from the moment that I wake up, I want you to think about, what does that feel like for you most mornings when you open your eyes, I want you to think about the sensation in your body. And I got pull some cat here and on my mouth first because I was pending my cat. Okay, whenever I would wake up, no matter where I was, the first thing I felt was a sensation of heaviness.

It's almost like there's always been something standing on my chest. And IT goes from that sensation of heaviness like the bet is a giant magnet. And i'm just a little paper clip that's now stuck to IT the amount of effort that IT takes for me to push through that heaviness in my body in that sense of dread.

IT is like hercules. Forget about doing resistance training like this, is this is pushing through something at a whole different level. And once I feel that sensation of dread, you know, of course, what happens is that being IT trigger my mind to start spinning. And I started to ahead. And, you know, even though i'm a very positive person, one of the things that i've been learning about life is that our brains tend to default on the negative.

So what is that that I immediately start thinking about, oh, the thing I did wrong yesterday, the things I have to do today, that i'm not going get to her, that i'm nervous about the meeting at work, that i'm not prepared for, the fact that the kids have all this stuff going on, the fact that I have exercised in four days and now i'm kind of beat myself upper, that maybe I stayed up a little bit too late, watched yet one more episode of that series. Instead, I go into bed. And so the very first thing I feel is happiness.

The very first thoughts aren't like how lets get out of bed. I'm so grateful I have another day. It's more like, uh, just like a that's what i'm working with.

And IT doesn't matter if i'm on vacation. IT doesn't matter if i'm in my house, IT doesn't matter if i'm traveling for work, IT doesn't matter where I am. That is what I feel. And what i've come to learn is that why most of us feel that there's something about going from a state of peace and rest to waking up and having to face the day.

And if you're somebody who doesn't sleep well at night, holy smokes, let's just add on top that kind of disappointment that yet again, you didn't get another good nights, leeds, you're not waking up rested. You are waking up feeling behind. And so that's the background here. And if you're sorry, just brings out of bed like, god bless sia, but the rest of us can hate you right now because that's not the Normal feeling for a lot of us.

But I am here to tell you, by the time you're done listening, you are going to not only understand why you feel that read and why your thoughts can be really negative and why I can be hard to push yourself out of bed and start today even Better than understanding IT. You're gna know exactly what to do on those mornings when you feel IT. And I will tell you, based on personal experience, using this technique called silvering has changed my flip in life because IT is changed what my body feels first thing in the morning, and IT is given me the simple, seemingly ridiculous thing to do to help me on those mornings where IT truly is hard to get out of bed.

So I want to go back in time, like three, four years, and explain what was happening when I was talking to mythic aps, the extraordinary and devin about all of the chAllenges I was facing. And i'm not gonna abb IT because then it's going to get too damn depressing. But we were in middle of massive life change like so many of you.

Our family had moved, and we move from boston, where we had lived for twenty six years up to this tiny little town in southern mont. And at the time, we were living with my mother in law. And I love my mother in law, but you know, when you are sleeping at your mother in law house, you're not in your own bed, you are in somebody else's house.

And I was sleeping in the bunk room of my mother in love house in seven from. And when the middle big move, I have no friends. I have lost my dream job, which at the time was being a daytime talk show host, and I just didn't know what I was going to do with my life.

I felt like I had made a huge mistake by moving to this tiny town and Operating our whole life. And on top of all of that, i'm waking up in the middle of the desolate winter months in a bunk room in my mother in love house. And let me tell you, I would wake up every morning.

And IT wasn't just the elephant on my test. IT was like, I don't even want to face the nightmare my life has become. I don't want to get out of bed.

If I just roll over the area at the morning, we feel like, okay. If I just hit the snooze button and then I drift back to sleep, maybe I will wake up in a totally different life. Maybe this is like just some sort of figment of my imagination, this life of mine.

This is to have me in cw all the time. I would have this fantasy that as I would drift back to sleep, I would wake up, and suddenly I wouldn't be in los l. anymore.

I'd beat ten years ahead. I would be happy. I would have known what I was doing with my life.

I D haven't figured out. And then of course, i'd drove back to sleep. The alarm red ring, I wake back up, I think, oh my god, this again. And now i'm late for class like I just, anyway, I could talk for hours about how harden has been for me to get out of bed and how awful IT is to wake up.

And the first thought that you have is that you've done something wrong or that someone's matter you or that the day is just so overwhelming you don't know how you're going na get through IT. That's not that empower ing that doesn't feel good. And so you know i'm going through this was really chAllenging period room, everything i'm going to make IT, and i'm staring to an on the phone and i'm talking about how I just am having such a hard time getting out of bed and an says meal.

I want you to try something called slithering. So and I spend one of our sessions talking all about the sensation, and that's why I asked you to think about, what do you feel in your body? First thing in the morning is IT heaviness, is IT dread, is IT excitement, is IT like an on edged feeling because you don't quite know what you're gona wake up to.

And so as we started to unpack this sensation and the experience of waking up, he started ask me these questions, when do you remember this first starting? And I like, I have no idea. She's like, what about when you in moscow is there? And like most, dean s go, what about college? Yeah, absolutely.

What about high school? Yeah, yeah. As a matter of fact, I had really hard time getting out of bed high school. I always felt this sensation like something was wrong. And we went all the way back in our conversation to this moment that I remembered where i'm going to a not go deep into the story because I don't want things to get too heavy and it's sorry, heavy to get out of band.

But we went all the way back to this experience that I had where I was in fourth grade, and my family was away at the skip trip with a bunch of other families, and all the kids were sleeping in this big bunk room. And I remember waking up in the middle of the night. Here I am, a fourth greater, and there is an older kid on top of me and they're doing something to me.

And IT was really, I don't know what the right word is, weird and upsetting and confusing situation because it's like, on one hand, I was really scared because I was pitch dark and I didn't know what was happening. But on the other hand, and this may sound a little weird, like IT felt like, okay, like kind of good. I was so confused, I was not as a fourth greater able to process what was going on, like my first ever sexual experience in that setting, being woken up.

And I remember just rolling over on my side, back into this ball shape. And this older kid, you climbed down on that, and I looked over. And in the bottom bunk next to me was my little brother.

And I remember thinking, I need to keep really quiet so that this person doesn't do that to him, that I knew something was wrong. But as I reflect back on IT, it's not that the first experience was terror or fear. IT was more confusion and this deep sense that this was really bad.

But again, like my fourth grade little brain, I didn't know like what was have I could didn't know how to process this in a healthy way. And so that next morning when I woke up, what do you think I felt? My body heaviness read.

I felt like I had done something wrong, and I laid in that bed and pulled the covers over me and just hit there until all the kids had left, because I just sense that I had done something wrong. And one of the things that i've learned talking to the extraordinary experts that we've had on this podcast that you and I are together learning from is that when you're really little, there's this flaw i'm going to call the flaw. There's a flaw in human design called attribution.

I learned this from the amazing psychiatry at stanford, doctor pauci, that when you're little and bad things happen, or the adults around you are super mad or frustrated, or they're not around at all, a little kid does not have the ability to attribute other people's bad behavior to other people. There is a flaw, the human design, that makes little kids attribute other people's bad behavior to a flow on you. And so I actually thought this was my fault.

I thought something was wrong. And I thought, if I tell anybody, I am going to get in a lot of trouble. Even though I didn't do anything, I was clearly a victim.

And i'll just a state for the record also my personal opinion about that other kid, as if that other kid is doing something like that to a kid, then clearly somebody who's doing that to him. And so. I know that now, but in that moment in my body, my body absorb that experience.

And i'm going to tell you some what i've learned over and over from all these experts that you and I talked to on this podcast and for my own deep experience and therapy and all kinds of different modalities and diving deep into trauma that there are things that happened to you when you were little or in your lifetime. And what I am learning over and over is that it's actually starred as a sensation in your body. And if IT is your default to wake up and have negative thoughts, or is your default to wake up and feel that heaviness, the way that I do IT might not be something as, like, scary, is what happened to me.

But I could just be that you had a parent or a career that you never knew which version of them you are going to get in the morning. Like mom, they are going to be in a good mood. They're going to be in a bad mood. We can have food today.

Are we not going have food today? Am I gonna have a good day at school? Or i'm going to get bullied like I Normally do and I going to be able to do what I need to do in this classroom? Or am I going to sit there because I have a learning disability that nobodies figure? And so I feel like the dummy in the classroom and am constantly in trouble.

And all of these experiences creates sensations in your body where you're bracing or you are freezing or your in fight or flight. And so I didn't know any of this. I just felt like there was thought wrong with me because I couldn't get out of bed in the morning.

Why is IT if I have an OK life? I'm not happy when I get out of bed. I understand court is all drops, all other stuff.

Why is that have to feel so heavy? And so i'm having this conversation with my amazing therapia crime like crazy. We traced IT all the way back.

And now IT makes perfect sense, of course, if I have that kind of experience, that the act of waking up gets married with the experience, and that sensation got stuck in my body, that's all that was happening. And that's why i'm so excited free to learn about this. Because using this technique, I have been able to really move this heaviness out of my body.

I ve been able to get the elephant off my chest, and I have also been able to nurture and support myself in those mornings where the thoughts starts spinning and its super negative. And I guarantee you, if you try this, this will help you and it's going to help people that you love. And so I really want you to share this with everybody that you care about because you have no idea how somebody else feels when they wake up.

I'm sure there are lots of people that are coming to mind that, you know would benefit from hearing this. So let's take a quick pause. I've got so much more to share with you, to teach you, for you to learn.

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Welcome back, if your friend melt robbins, today you and I are talking about this life changing so matic technique that my therapy and davin taught me to help me get out of bed on those mornings where the dread or the overwhelm or just the was just too much. So i'm talking in and he says, melt, we establish that this is something that's a pattern. It's a stores in station from trauma that is in my body, that this is superNormal.

It's super common and there is something you can do. And so he asked me, just like I asked you, to think about where in my body is this thing stored, and what does that feel like? And as i've described to you, IT always is this sensation in my chest.

And this is heaviness that sort of like dark cloud thing, like tar that is like right in there, stuck in my chest. And I want you to think about whether that your body might be in your ankles, might be on your back IT, might be up in your head, and could could be anywhere in your body that you feel this sensation. And then answer the way I am going to teach, you know, how to move this thing out your body. And SHE said, I don't want you to push yourself out about that.

What I was trying to do is trying to force myself through the having. ss. SHE said, where do the opposite? We're going to move with the heaviness? My, what do you mean? I just gonna like melt into the bed because that's what IT feels like consisted of just like to celebrating into the sheet is so heavy.

Like, no, no, you are going to see the out of bed. You're gonna move with the having a smell and you are going to slide and slide one foot out of that bed and then you're a slider and slide the other foot and then you're gona off the bed and then i'm like, what what i'm going to you're all you're going be on the ground. You're to move around with this heaviness. And like that sounds odd and and has this amazing way of being so compelling that I tried IT and i'm going to walk through IT is unbelievable how this thing works.

So what I wanted to do to make sure that you really understood this is I I reached out to an and I said he and um would you be willing to to send me a voice memo to really help me explain this technique and how you came up with this and why this works? And so i'm ababde lutely honoured to be able to introduce you to mythic ist and evan and to have you get to experience her wisdom as SHE is going to explain to you exactly what slithering is and is extraordinary. SHE has been a uh psychologist for over thirty years.

He has a PHD in depth psychology, a masters in clinical psychology. All of her work focuses on the unconscious mind and how IT impacts the human experience. And I have had the honor of working with and for over four years now, and she's changed me from the inside out.

And I also just want to take a moment and thank you. And because what you're gona share today is truly going to help people's lives. I just know that. So thank you. And so here's a clip that SHE recorded for you to explain what slithering is.

Silvering isn't a formal technique that is taught. He won't find IT in someone's lecture, of course book. It's an example of symmetry inquiry.

The beauty of systematic inquiry is that bypasses trying to make sense of what we are feeling. Rather, we let the body tickets minds through a movement. Sometimes it's Better to feel our way through rather than try to figure our way out.

I want to make sure you heard that last line, that answer, that sometimes IT is Better for you to feel your way through a sensation rather than trying to figure your way out of IT. And let me tell you some, I ve spent my entire lifetime trying to figure out how to deal with the heaviness and the negativity and and the overwhelming that I feel when I wake up talking about IT hasn't worked.

Pushing through IT has gotten me out of bed, five, four, three, two, one. But IT doesn't remove that feeling every morning. So I would wake up with that feeling five, four, three, two, one, and pushed my way out of IT. But the next morning it's thread an what an was teaching me and what she's offering in this type of, as he called IT.

So matic inquiry is a big word, but we're going on we're going to unpack that for you, is that when these sensations and experiences are stored in your body, no amount of talking is going to get them out of your body. You need to use the magic and the intelligence of your body to move IT out of your body. So IT doesn't live there anymore. And so let's continue learning from and as he explains why this technique works and why we were using this right now.

our work at the time was focused on healing and early childhood trauma associated with waking up in the morning. As that victimized child, you had to wake up and get out of dead and confront reality of what I just happened to you the night before, without the inner or out of resources to do so. The thread that you felt upon waking has an adult was a thematic residue of this unresolved trauma.

Is SHE not brilliant. And I want to be sure that you're tracking, because IT took me a little while to truly get this. That is important to talk about your feelings. It's important to talk about what happened. But there's a deeper way to heal the experiences in your life that got stored in your body, whether its experiences of racism or bias or it's trauma or it's just chaos in your family or uncertainty.

Uh, ironically for me, another experience that we ended up linking to this one is that there was a friend of mine that was killed in a drunk driving accident when I was in high school and I was sound asleep when the accident happened, and my mom came into the bedroom and I woke up in her arms to her crying. And SHE was explaining that this family friend, that the son had died. And that was another experience of being asleep and then waking up to really scary news.

And so these experiences, you don't just shrugging off, they stay with you. And the opportunity here in learning how to move the sensation out of your body is a way that you can heal this. And IT goes way beyond just waking up and feeling Better and waking up and not .

having the dread. My impulse to suggest this to you now to sliver came from the dynamic interplay of my intuitive witness. If you're unconscious, as IT expressed itself in the feeling of dread each morning when you woke up, the dread for you caused you to freeze, to be immobilized, unable to move into your day with a sense of safety and well being.

IT took me a while to truly grasp what an was teaching me. And so I want to try to simplify this. And bottom line IT for you. You have all of these experiences that have happened in your life that are now stored in your subconscious mind and in the sensations in your body.

You don't ever really get rid of IT until you truly processed and and was linking up that all of these experiences were just locked in my body with nowhere to go. And so the thread that I was feeling, the overwhelm, the negative thoughts, the sense that something was wrong. These are things that we're happening on the surface that told an that there was something much deeper going on.

There is a stucky, sation or experience that needed to be moved out of my body and her strategy was instead of trying to push through IT and soldier forward and just keep moving on, well, it's time to move court IT to join with IT and to truly push IT out your body and that's exactly what you're gone to learn how to do today. And so I want to to explain in detail the process of slithering right now. And i'm going to break the whole thing down and then we're going to bring and back and an is going to explain why this works.

And then a little later, she's also going to walk you through and exercise with a couple of questions so you can start to try out this process yourself. Now, giant declared. I'm not a therapy.

I am just a person that has had a lot of spread of things happen and i'm doing in my best to heal them and i'm sharing what worked for me and and is not your therapy. This is a resource and a suggestion that is there for you to try. And for me, this was life changing.

And i'm pretty sure if you lean in to what she's saying and offering to you, it'll be pretty life changing for you and the people that you love to. All right. So we're ready to slither.

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Age rod mill Robins, I am so thrilled that you are here with me today. I'm introducing you to this life changing so matic technique that my amazing therapist and David taught me. And now it's time for you to step by step sliter out of bed with me.

You're really good so much. So i'm going to walk you through silvering. And as you're listening to this, you're going to hear all kinds of sounds.

And the most important thing for you to remember is instead of pushing through this sensation and whatever IT is for you, whether there is on edge or heavy or dread or overwhelm, you're just going to join with IT, move with IT. So for me, this sensation is dread. So it's a heaviness and that's why it's hard to launch myself out of bed some mornings.

There are used to beat um and so i'm starting laying down and I kid you not, the first step for me is you're gna think about just letting the weight of your emotion so for me, dread is really heavy and so imagine like you've just got like weights on you and so I I would literally just drop out a bit like I am imagine i've now got one foot on the floor. Now i've got another foot a that is coming out of the bed. My body is still on the bed, but now I am dripping down the side of the bed.

No joke. Oh my god, i'm getting on the floor. And now my full body is on the floor. When I first started doing this, I would literally land. By the time I slivered and slack out of bed, I would just lay on my stomach on the floor and took ends words to heart, and instead of, like, truly fighting the heaviness, embrace IT, let the heaviness just consume you and allow IT to have you roll out of bed.

And then I would just kind of start to move and riding around, and not just literally like bending my knees and kind of almost like if you're in an exercise class and they're asking you to just kind of move your body and whatever way and all you're doing is your kind of breaking up the heaviness, like when you're laying in bed. What I know just but when you start to move around and and then I would just like roll around IT and said to mate, melt, just lay on the floor and kind of twist and turn and move your body and whatever shape you want until you start to feel that heaviness break part. And so i'm literally laying on the floor right now and i'm twisting.

And because so much your body first comes to as a sensation you feel on IT or you feel heavy or you feel like summer up, that sensation is what we're moving through. And for the first couple of warnings, I would literally lay here on the floor as pathetic as that sounds for like a minute or two. And then at some point, what an was saying is that you'll start to feel the heaviness break apart.

And the slow movement is what starts to break apart the sensation that had been pinning you in bed. And as you move your body and you probably hear me on floor, strange things start to happen. Like your mind now is like, what are you doing you? I'm no longer thinking about the day because i'm thinking about how i'm like on this floor.

I want the feeling to get out of my body. And slowly what starts to happen is that frozen kind read starts to break up part based on your own movement. And in the beginning, I would be on the floor in doing this ridiculous, like snakes later for a couple minutes, and then all of a sudden you feel for read from IT.

You're not done yet. You're not done yet. What you're gonna feel is this ability to actually either set up or roll over, and you're not gonna stand up yet.

That's not a loud yet because the point is to move through this and and told me to get on all force and crawl across the floor to the bathroom. I'll tell you what I thought when he explained this to me. Are you kidding me? It's really got ten that bad that I am going to crawl across the floor.

But wholly, cow does IT do wonders. And so i'm gonna walk you through why this works. You're gonna roll and slither out of bed like a snake. You're gona hit the floor and get your whole body on the floor.

Then you're going to move your body around in whatever motion you want in a slow way, and you'll start to notice the feeling and sensation breaking apart and when you feel ready, which for me in the beginning was like couple minutes of land on the floor, slither around, shake this feeling up, then you're gona roll under all forres and you're onna, crawl toward the bathroom so and said, you know, you stand on the ground for as long as IT takes to start to feel like it's breaking up. And then eventually you're going rule off the ground and onto all force, which feels ridiculous soonest. Ly, like, I remember when I was warning this technique, and I got up that first murder on my alford, and i'm thinking, and I really going to call to the bathroom.

Now keep in mind, at this point, i'm sleeping in a bunker room and the bathroom is down the hall. So you get on all forms, and the point is you're gna slowly start to, and you're gone to hear that rug, literally like a dog or a cat, you just going to crown toward the bathroom, which for me is not only hard on the news, but that means i'm risking being seen by my children, or even worse, my mother in law. Just crawl of the bathroom.

And i'll tell you what though, from the very first time I tried this, by the time I got to the bathroom, all that happiness was gone, and something magical replaced IT this. So freedom, by the time I got to the bathroom that I wanted to stand up, I wanted to face the day I have moved with through the heaviness that IT was no longer in me. And I felt something else, which was empowerment.

And IT seems ridiculous, that crawling across the floor, or slithering out of the bed and onto the floor like a snake and moving through IT would have this impacts. But I did this every single morning for six weeks, and I kid you not slithering, not only got me out of bed on those warnings IT did something way more maculate. See what an was teaching me.

And what you're not learning about is something called a semantic technique. Thematic is a fancy word that means of the body. There are experiences that you have in life that you remembered ing your subconscious mind. But it's also remembered in the body.

And are not earlier how we were talking about, the fact that I could talk all I wanted about the things that had happened to me and how I feel, but I wasn't getting rid of the feeling in the body in order to move trauma through your body, or to get rid of these negative and heavy sensations. You've got a drop from the neck down and processes in the body. And that's exactly what an was guided me in doing when he taught me how to sliter. I wanted you to have the benefit of hearing and explain exactly why SHE taught me this technique and how IT was working to break apart all the frozen and stuck experiences in my body and set me free. Let's take a listen.

The best way to work with a symptom, a thematic symptom like this, is to join with IT, turn towards IT, amplified IT. When you did so, the residue shifted from frozen to sign to your nervous system, shifted from a state of distress to neutral and then to calm. I prompted you to join with a feeling of dread.

And imagine if I could ve, how would I move? litter? Let your boys slither out of that onto the floor.

Move slowly. Notice how the dread wants to move. Let the dread lead the movement. Slithering is the tool you've used to transform the trauma residue.

Your body now is more likely to associate sense of well being in safety awakened to a new day. And when IT doesn't, you know how to shift that feeling. So I know you're going to .

a lot of questions, so let me just cover some of the ones I get all the time. You're probably thinking, when do I use this? Well, I use this technique anytime.

There's a morning where I just wake up and I just feels like too much to bear. Pull out the slater and you're going to feel Better. And by the way, you can also use this on the couch. So if you're sitting on the couch and you feel that having this hit and you can't seem to get yourself off the couch, just slide right off leather on the floor, crawl to the doorway of that room, and trust me, you will break apart that feeling. It's pretty unreal how this works.

Another question that you may have is related to what if you have a really hard time actually feeling what you're feeling and dropping in to your body? I can relate to this, especially since I ve spent decades running away from this heaviness and this sensation, and so IT can be really scary. But here's what I have found.

The second that you literally just starts, not just slide your leg down and out underneath the sheet and gravity kinds takes over. And what you'll find if you're willing to just try this, is that you do have more power than you think. The reason why these sensations are so scary is because you don't know what to do with them. And we've been been there a long time.

And so part of my fear was, is this really what my life is? Is this what every morning going to be? Because this is what it's always felt like.

And you'll quickly realize as you're rising around on the ground and rolling around and then you roll up to your hands in your knees, wow, the ceiling is shifting. It's weird, but is shifting. And the more that you do this, the more comfortable you're onna become.

And look, I was really scared at this time life. I didn't want to feel this way. I didn't want to wake up on edge and so anxious. And the thing that shocked me is simply trying. This made me feel so empowered IT made me feel like these sensations were no longer gonna roll my life, and they don't.

Another thing that comes up a lot, what if you're in a bed the truly higher or you don't want to risk falling out of the bed because the tie on the florida problem, just get the leg out first and just kind of inch so that you're sort of laying there in the legs straight and then you get the other leg out and you can go from a half, sit to a lying down to using your ARM. It's okay. There's no right way to do this.

Just get yourself eventually on the floor so that you're lying down on the floor. That's the important part. And then the feeling your whole body on the floor and starting to move and roll around that starts to shake up this heaviness. It's super cool.

What if you have a dog? I mean, mr. Noodle is still sitting here on the bed sleeping next to me. He does not care if i'm slithering or crawling because he had a late night out hunting chip monks, okay, so he's just sleeping a dog, fantastic.

Because what happens is as you're on the floor, if your dog comes over and starts to look at you and then they follow you and you're crown down the Flora, what do you do IT. What do you do if you don't feel so alone? IT actually kind of make you laugh a little.

And the laughter and the added kind of fun of an animal being there shakes up all the sensation even faster. At least that's what I found when my dogs home in yellow would come and craw along with me to the bathroom. You may be wondering, is this something you can teach your kids? absolutely.

It's a fantastic technique to teach to a child who has anxiety, who has trouble getting out of bed, who may have a lot going on that they're nervous about and they wake up and don't wanna get out of bed because it's something that you can do. You can accomplish this even on the mornings when things just feel really hard. And the best part about this is you're not correcting your kid.

You're not pushing them. You are helping them move with the feeling. And you can do IT with them. You can clim B2Bed and me lik e, let's slip out of bed today.

Let's take that heavy ess that you feel, which validates IT, by the way, and let's use our bodies to move through IT and shake IT up. And we're onna crawl together. And when you feel ready, and this is the most important part that amazing to me, when you feel ready, you can go from crawling to standing up.

And, you know, I said that I use this for six week straight, and I just broke apart everything that was in my body, but IT only took me about a week or or two to get to the point where I could crawl, three or four crawl steps. I don't even know what the technical word is for when you're on your hands and needs. And I was ready, I was ready to stand up and walk down the halls of the bathroom.

And honestly, that was a huge Victory. The fact that I was ready, eight calls before I had been the week before, was evidence that this was working. And I was slowly but surely chipping away at this tar sensation and this heaviness that had held me hostage for so long and IT kept progressing like this, that eventually all I needed to do was rolled on the floor, and then I was standing up.

And eventually all I needed to do was put a leg out. And did I need decide down? Not really. As I was fighting like, oh, I I feel free. I can do IT.

And so you'll see that this works in magical ways, because your body is designed to do this for you. And one more thing, don't get back in bed, no matter what. Don't get back in bed.

In fact, one of my habits is, as soon as I get out of the bed, as long as i'm not slithering and crawling, I make the bed right away. And that's an important thing because once you get up and you get going and you move through this, you can keep going and it's going to help you move forward in your life. And if you are disabled in anyway and physically, this is an impossibility.

I'd highly recommend that you take this information to your physical therapy, or to a nurse or doctor or somebody that is supporting you, and ask them how you can use a small matic technique, which is simply joining in with the heavy feeling instead of avoiding IT and moving with IT. And I am certain that there are ways that this technique can be adapted, no matter what you're facing or what limitations your disability may create and terms of the physical nature of sliding out of a bed, I really wanted to leave you empowered. And so I asked, and for guidance, on how you can best set yourself up to get the best benefit from this song matic technique. And this is what, and had to say.

how can someone who isn't in therapy was a council who is trained and symmetric and quite benefit from this approach? To hear, you can incorporate them into yourself care routine. Ask yourself, where are my feeling fiction right now in my life? Is this a real craning feeling? Turn tours the feeling by closing your eyes and notice what IT feels like and where you feel that in your body.

Then ask yourself if the feeling could move. How would IT move to the next few minutes? Allow the feeling to move you.

You can do this in a quiet space. Or turn on music that will inspire your movement. When you're complete, check back in with your body and notice what has shifted the benefits of the movement. Practice help us to free the body from stress that often we don't realize we are Carrying the stress leads to grater physical vitality and wellness. And we could certainly all use more of that.

And you know what else we could use more of? And devon, and I love you. Thank you again for helping me share this life changing sarmah technique. And to you, I want to be sure to tell you, in case no one else does, I love you, and I believe in you, and I believe in your ability to create a Better life.

And sometimes that means you and I need to try some weird stuff, like slithering out of the bed and crawling down the floor, so that we can get our power back. You deserve that. And I cannot wait to hear what you experience when you try this.

I can't wait to see your social media posts about this. And, you know, IT also can't wait for, I cannot wait to be together with you again in the very next episode. I'll see you soon.

No, my go is so areas that what you want to them, yes, okay, you want to keep talking. Now, I do see my stomachs grumbling. wow.

And IT won't stop your stomachs from grumbling, but it's gonna help you get out of bed on those mornings where you just don't feel like you can. Okay, great. I got IT got OK ready.

Like he needs like, yeah like a not if we have insurance for this. I've never opened the show with my retainer. This is like one of those A S M R things that people listen to aside what I intended to do.

But we're going to just kind of keep on roll in here. Okay, ready? So i'm going to awake from flight or fright. That is right. Thing isn't IT.

Oh, and one more thing I know, this is not a bleepers. This is the legal language. You know what the lawyers, right? And what I need to read you.

This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. I'm just your friend. I am not a license therapies, and this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapy or other qualified professional.

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