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How Do I Learn to Love Myself, Really?

2022/11/28
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一位专注于领导力和个人成长的著名_motivational speaker_和播客主持人。
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Mel Robbins:学习接纳和爱自己,无论年龄大小,都不算太早或太晚。善待自己是改善日常生活质量最重要的行为改变。善待自己、接纳和爱自己是人们最少练习的一种习惯。大多数人都难以接纳、喜欢和爱自己。在生活中,人们常常因为在意别人的看法而忽略了自己的感受,而更关注自己的感受能改变一切。与爱自己的人相处,能帮助人们不再关注别人的看法。 Oakley:11到13岁开始变得非常在意自己的外貌,13岁时开始不喜欢自己的外貌,特别是体重问题。他因为穿紧身牛仔裤而被嘲笑,这让他非常自卑。他认为别人不喜欢他的外表,导致他开始否定自己。在八年级,他对自己的评价是70%不喜欢,30%喜欢。2020年的封锁期间,他因为不用面对其他人而感到快乐,并开始不再在意自己的外貌。他意识到自己只需要取悦自己,不需要取悦所有人。他意识到自己并没有什么问题,这让他开始喜欢自己。喜欢自己并不取决于达到某个目标,而是取决于你是否选择喜欢现在的自己。 Mel Robbins: 学习接纳、善待和爱自己是需要每天练习的习惯。每天早上照镜子并给自己击个掌,可以帮助你学习爱自己。互相赞美可以帮助人们感觉更好。赞美一个人的性格比赞美他们的外表更重要。 Oakley: 他喜欢自己的头发、笑容和朋友间的相处方式。他为自己努力学习和对朋友的友善而感到自豪。赞美一个人的性格会让他们感觉更好。

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Mel introduces the topic of self-love and shares a personal conversation with her son, Oakley, about his struggles with self-hatred and his journey to self-acceptance.

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Whatever you're doing right now, stop and make time for this conversation.

 

Every single day, I get questions from listeners about self-love, self-hatred, and what it actually means to like yourself.

 

I understand why it’s confusing. 

 

The topic of self-love is so broad, and there is very little actionable advice on how exactly you learn to like yourself, especially if you’ve spent your whole life being hard on yourself.

 

So don’t worry, I’ve decided to attack this topic of self-love in a completely unique, surprising, and tactical manner. This is also one of the most personal episodes I’ve released because I’m inviting you to join a conversation I’m having with our 17-year-old son, Oakley.

 

This is not a “podcast interview.” This is an intimate conversation between a mother and a son about the most important topic you could discuss: self-love. 

 

When Oakley was in middle school, he hated himself, and as his mom, it was awful to see him so lonely and sad. In today’s conversation, he shares things with me about this time in his life that I never knew.

 

And more importantly, we unpack the moment he had an epiphany that changed everything.

 

You will absolutely relate to everything he shares and his reflections about it.

 

I’m so proud to share this conversation with you. You will be blown away because you’ll not only feel like you’re part of our family, but we’re also welcoming you into our hearts.

 

You will laugh out loud, even though your heart might break a little. And by the end of it, you’ll have not only wisdom, but also a couple of simple tools to help you learn how to like yourself a little more.

 

This conversation is a must-listen for EVERYONE in your life. And especially for young adults because when they hear these insights from someone their age, it’s way more compelling than getting advice from an adult.

 

I do want to be up front about one thing: Oakley is 17 and like most 17-year-olds, whether they do it in front of you or not, he has a case of the F’s, meaning he drops the F-word a fair number of times, and I made a decision to record it as is and allow him to speak freely.

 

And, I just can’t emphasize enough how much insight this is going to give you into your own relationship with yourself.

 

I hope you will make the time to spend a half hour with the two of us, because I know you will leave feeling seen, understood, and liking yourself a little better.

 

I cannot wait to hear what you learn.

 

Xo Mel 

 

For complete show notes, go to melrobbins.com)