#1 Neurosurgeon: How to Manifest Anything You Want & Unlock the Unlimited Power of Your Mind
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IT is a conversation that has fundamentally changed to I view the world and how I view is possible is about manifestation, neuroscience, magic and how you can unlock the power of your brain, your heart and your deepest purpose in life. You're about to meet doctor jim dota. He just walked out of our boston studios.

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He's the world for now. Neuroscience entice a pioneering stanford neurosurgeon. He is also the founder and director of the stanford center for compassion and all tourism research and education. He was the former chairman of the dolly lama foundation. I kid you not, what you're about to experience will change the way you think about your life, about what's possible.

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Thank you for choosing to listen to this podcast and for hitting play on this particular episode because IT tells me that you're the type of person that sees bigger possibilities for yourself, and you're interested learning how you can use neuroscience and the science of manifestation to help you achieve that. I love that. I wanted know all about that too, which is why I am beyond thrilled to introduce you to someone who is truly extraordinary.

Doctor jim doty is here from california. He's in our boston studios. He is a stanford neurosurgeon.

He's a world turn out neuroscientist in the new york best selling author, a philanthropist. He is the founder director of the stanford center for compassion alterius m. Research and education.

He has done so much more than just that. But today with you, he's a military veteran. He is founded massive medical device companies.

He's one of the world's leading experts in minimal ally invasive final surgery, and he was the former chairman of the dolly lama foundation. And he is here to teach you the science of manifesting and visualization why IT works and how to do IT properly. According to the science, u and I are gone to leave this conversation knowing exactly how to leverage dr. Dot is extraordinary research and wisdom. So please help me welcome doctor jim doty to the male Robin's forecast.

IT is a pleasure and joy .

to be with you. I am so thrilled that you are here and I cannot wait for this conversation. And so everyone to start is, can you speak directly to the person that's listening to us and tell them how their life might be different if they takes a hurt? Absolutely everything that you are about to teach and share with us today.

of course. And I think the chAllenge for so many of us is that we believe the negative self talk we have, and as a result, we create limited beliefs that then limit our possibilities. And we believe this ongoing narrative and the reality is we have more power within ourselves.

And it's understanding that you control this because there is nothing out there. And I don't mean this in a negative way, but I mean, you can't wait for somebody to magically take care of everything. The reality is you have the power within yourself to change your circumstance and it's just believing in and listen, I will tell you, as you know, I grew up in a chAllenge in background.

My father was alcoholic. My mother had had a stroke when I was a child, is partially paralyzed, chronically depressed, attempted suicide. We were infected.

We were on public assistance. And in those situations, you know you think there's no hope. But as I found and h for my first book into the magic shop, I walked into a magic shop and matter woman who.

Looked me as a human being. And what I mean by that is so many people make judgments about people. And they don't recognize the past, are that the problems are the universities they face, and everybody deserves to me list.

So this woman in this magic shop, SHE, was a radiant being. SHE had a smile, a presence that made you feel safe. And this is a key psychological safety to dow, regulate your stress response.

And SHE made me feel OK. SHE didn't look down to me, and I was twelve as a twelve year old. SHE looked at me as an equal I to eye. And that interaction would change the trajectory of my life, because IT changed how I saw the world.

You've written about your past. You've written about this interaction with this woman in the magic shop. And still IT brings so much emotion open you. How come.

One, i'm appreciative. Two, I mean, having somebody take the time to look at you, see you, uh, appreciate what you are and are taking that interest. It's very meaningful.

And I try never to take that for granted. And even and I hope every interaction, you understand that A A lot of people are suffering, they're Carrying baggage from their past and that baggage is limiting them. And often times just listening to somebody can profoundly change their lives because that's what people want to be heard.

And sometimes it's just hello, sometimes it's just a hug. So I was tell people never forget your own ability to change someone's life and also to recognize that often times how somebody is interacting with you has nothing to do with what's going on. IT has to do with the baggage they're caring.

And so give people a benefit of the doubt. And so if you grow in a background like mine, typically they're two past. One is the path you become an alcohol lic drug abuse or have mental health issues.

The other issue over itself, right over achieve. Then the path of the over chief by vocative there's a one group who say nobody helped me. I did this on myself um i'm not gonna anybody else then you have the other group which I probably typified maybe excessively um where.

I understand the pain people go through and very deep ly. so. I'm very good .

um that first I cry all .

the .

time for the same reason and I don't think i've ever heard anybody explain um. Why I feel so driven to do what I do. So thank you for that. That was a real gift to me to hear somebody explain why tears come up all the time and why I end this podcast every single time by telling the person who's listening that I love them. Because I know for most people, they actually don't hear IT said by anybody else.

no. And which is very sad statement, because then we can talk about this. But so many people live in a fear mode all the time. And of course, IT has all sorts of bilateral effects, and being in a love mode or a heartsome tel mode is very difficult, especially if you have all sorts of chAllenges that distract you from who you really are. And I think the gift you get people and hopefully try to get people, is a sense of hope and possibilities.

I want to go back to the moment in the magic shop that truly shaped you forever and change the trajectory of your life. And so the person whose listening can really perhaps see themselves or someone they love in the story. Could you explain, as a twelve year old, you're walking into this magic shop first, just kind of how you felt emotionally at that point in your life, going through all of the hard ache and the hardship that you did that so many people do, and how this interaction with an adult woman who you would never met who just interact with you, how that actually changed well um what .

would happen in my situation at home was whenever there was fighting or uh uh a chAllenging advance, I would get on my bike and ride as far and as fast way as I could. And I wrote a great distance far from my house and ended up at a trip mouth. And i'd had an interest in magic for a while. I just have A A plastic thun that I would do tricks with.

My son has one. Yes.

yes. And I lost IT, and I was looking for a plastic them. But anyway, I saw the magic shop and I went in. And what was interesting was this woman was there and who was another mid fifties probably. And I I still remember her vividly because he was wearing a blue and White mum. Remember these outfits because he was a larger lady, and SHE had this flowing gray hair, and SHE had these glasses that were at the tip of her nose, and he had a chain up up. And she's reading .

this paper back. But you sound like you're describing the post's professional .

and SHE make a bin, actually. But he looked up from her classes and I started crying her about magic and he said, i'm just here, baby, sitting the shop because this my store and he's doing an iron, but this LED to her and I have in a conversation. Then, after about twenty minutes, he said, me said, I really like you.

SHE said, I think I can help you. I'm here for another six weeks. If you show up every day, I think you could learn a lot.

And I had no clue what SHE met. And this was before mindfulness or, uh, neurotic plasticity, were in the sort of common lexicon. And I did shop every day.

Now I have tell you was because I had, in any insight or self awareness, I was a poor twelve year old and despair with feeling of hopelessness. But I did show up. And the reason I shows up was, one, I had absolutely nothing else to do to a to SHE was giving me chocolate chip cookies.

So those were the two drivers of my interaction with her. But sort of understand what happened is he apparently had some exposure to eastern uh, meditation practices, and he taught me, if you will, what is now call a mindfulness practice. And what I never realized was that as a child, I was in a warzone all the time, a constant trauma, because you never know what's going to happen.

It's chaos. There's always unexpected things. You can't rely on anyone or any person.

And as sault, your muscles are always tight. You are always looking around. You can't focus. And of course, to learn, you have to be able to attend if you can't be present, it's not possible to learn.

So SHE recognized this since SHE initially taught me I um relaxation technique and then he taught me the ability to focus or tend and then print. The most critical thing was he taught me that the negative dialogue that was going on in my head was not truth. And often times when we sell ourselves were not good enough.

We're not worthy. We don't deserve love. We think there's some truth in that yeah.

But we have as humans and negativity bias where negative statements have a tendency to stick with us. And this leads often times to rumination. And once you tell yourself, IT is not possible, I cannot.

That becomes truth. yeah. And so we create our own, a limited belief system. And so he taught me a technique to respond with positive self affirmation, but also to not respond to those negative feelings and just let them drift by, but also to constantly encourage positivity within yourself. And this LED me to look at the world in a different way.

In the reason I say that is, if you're hypercritical with yourself, you're hypercritical, and you're the lens to which you see the world, and you're very judge mental. And what I tell people is, once I understood what was going on in my own head, IT made me look at the world through a different lens. One of kindness, compassion and IT also dissipated the anger that I had towards .

my parents.

Because what happens is, of course, they are supposed to be the caregivers, but if they don't have the tools, take care, their own pain, they can help you. So that realization was very important as the realization that people Carry baggage and their reactions, often time, have nothing to do with you. And so having a much more thought ful, gentle, kinder, a way to interact with people, I think that is extraordinary, powerful.

You went on to become a neurosurgeon. How and when did you start manifesting? And can you talk about the kind of overlap and connection between being a neuroses surgeon and the interest in the functioning and wiring of the mind itself?

Well, the other thing, uh, I didn't mention was that at the end of this, if you will mind for this time practice, we had a discussion. And the discuss was about how to manifest or visualization.

So SHE taught you how to manifest and visualize at the age twelve. wow. So he asked me to .

make a list of ten things that I want IT. Now I have to tell you, this is to the length of a twelve year old whose poor, so in typical fashion, I said I wanted a to be a millionaire. Ir, which in thousand nine hundred and sixty eight was a lot of money.

IT seemed like A, I wanted to have a mansion, I wanted to be a doctor and IT wasn't so much less, and I was always kind and thoughtful, but I want to be a doctor. So people looked at me and said, you're okay. Uh, I wanted a poor ship.

I wanted at a rolex watch. And all of these external um material sings that so many people in our society think they need. They think somehow if you get this stuff that's gonna avoid, all of us have and of course IT doesn't. And um but society is or in IT unfortunately toward d seeking external affirmation with a belief that if you fulfill the societal narrative of success, which is money, power, position, that will then translate into happiness. And of course this is a story that's been told over and over and over again and IT does not and i'm sure you know many, many extraordinary ily quote code successful people who are actually miserable.

But you know one thing I want to highly as you're listening to doctor duty and I just and so blown away by um your gift of explaining things and how connected you are to why this is important to you. And it's important, I think, everybody, to understand what you're trying to teach us is that I think a lot of us know that chasing the external stuff is what society has been prioritizing. But you're going a layer deeper, which is it's not just about the belief that you think those things will make you happy, is that your lived experience when you feel invisible is that people that have those things are seen and that is an explanation that cuts at a way deeper psychological driver than happiness and that experience of feeling like you don't matter, your not seeing you, uh, are not treated with a level of dignity and care that every human being deserves. I haven't heard anybody truly connect the dots between the obsession with chasing status and surface level items, and actually not happiness, but the fundamental to need that we human beings have for connection and the sense that somebody actually cares about you and you think that that's going to happen because of the shiny stuff that you acquire and you're here to say that actually IT doesn't IT doesn't .

uh at all. And I think that's a chAllenge for so many people because, uh, they've been sold this narrative and it's narrow of unhappiness and it's a narrative of fear. And I was saying earlier, when you chase links like that's because of your own insecurity and as result, that activates your sympathetic nervous system, which of courses the flight fight or freeze response and when that happens, actually that has a very negative effect on how your brain functions but also you prefer of physiology and can lead to a lot of very significant uh, diseases and uh decoration life of expectancy versus if you shift that narrative, if you will, to the love mode.

And what I mean by that is all of us have the ability to actually shift from engagement of our sympathetic nervous system, which is part of our autonomic nervous system, which have rises in the brain stem and is distributed throughout all the organs in your body, but especially your hard to the pair sympathetic nervous system, which is really how we evolve to live as a species. Uh, it's not that we were stressed every second. We were stressed periodical.

And that stressed most was meant to activate of in the face of threat and respond. And either you survived or did not survive, but then you immediately went back to engagement of your part, sympathetic, nervous system. If you survive, that is the system we were designed to live in.

That is the system in which you care, which you're rewarded for caring, where you have the release of oxide toast and these other narrow transmitters that activate your pleasure and reward centers when you care for another, especially your offspring, but also IT within, uh, the context of our common humanity. And that is the mode you want to be and especially if you want to manifest, because that is when your cogito brain networks, your proof of physiology work at their best. And that is prompt the love mode.

if you will. I want to see if I can translate back. As there were a lot of big words, I realized that you are a neurosurgeon and you teach these concepts all over the world.

But I want you and I to put our arms around the person that's listening, and I want to see if I can't short hand all the science. So you keep using the word fear mode and hearts mode, which I love. You also just beautifully explained, if i'm hearing you correctly, that there are two mode store, nervous system, paris, sympathetic, sympathetic, rest, calm and love, fighter fight.

And that, as we listen, is that okay? If every time you say fear mode, we just go OK talking about the sympathetic fighter flight nervous system that a lot of us live in, that shots you off to possibility connection potential in love versus the heart mode, which is your parasympathetic nervous system. And IT is where the connection and manifestation and fulfillment and the potential of your life exists. Is that a way to think about?

No, no, that's the perfect way to think about IT. And when you're in that mode, everything changes for the positive and the heart mode, yes. And the possibilities of having your intention manifest our greatest. When you were in that mode.

OK got IT. So I want to be in hearts mode. How did this amazing woman in the magic shop teach you to manifest when you retrieve?

Well, I have to tell you, and I don't want to miss lee people. I thought I was a lot of bullshit. Ah and the reason is is because of course, I had never been exposed to anything like that.

I mean being able to sit and and relaxing muscles with intention, being able to break the certain way to calm your nervous system down or completely new to me ah so IT took a little while for me to understand that. But once I didn't understand that, I realized how powerful IT was because I didn't constantly have this negative self talk going on in this fear constantly. And so uh as you know, uh these types of mindfulness practice, which are very commonly discussed today and have changed millions of lives, are rally available to everyone.

And fundamentally, what he taught me was this type of a technique, a relaxation technique, a focus technique and dealing with the negative self talk, looking at the world through a length of compassion. And we talked about visualization for you to maximum visualize. That means you have to be relaxed, you have to have calm, you have to not look at what I want.

And this is the difference for a lot of people, because they have a vision of what they want, but not what they need. And that's an example, talking about possessions. I want a poor show.

I want a roll like, so, which was what I did. And they think that if I just get that, i'll be OK. And the problem is that IT won't make you OK.

And when you're sitting there, self focus on if I just have that, I need this versus, as an example, saying I want to be a doctor. Now it's not I want to be a doctor. sorry.

Body looks at me as how great I am, which is what I did. It's, I want to be a doctor because I want to help people. Those are completely two different narratives. One is, I want to be of service. That is how we were designed as human beings, not I want for me.

And when you change how you look at the world, when you change what you want, you realize won a lot of what you think you want is worthless versus what is powerful. What gives a person a purpose and meaning? M, which, of course, activates every aspect of your physiology about brain and prefer physiology to work at their best, is being a service, being connected, caring for others. And we know, through the work of robber waller and the eighty five year old harvard study, when you care for others, when you look through that lens, everything in your life improves. And that is the place we also have the ability to maximize the possibilities for your intention to manifest.

You said that human beings are wired for service as a neurosurgeon, as a person that you know you you're here in boston to go teach about compassion.

You are the chairman, the dala foundation, yes.

So how are we wired for service as human beings?

Well, if you look at our evolution as a species, unlike other species, one we have a small litter size.

That's a very political way. I think if I were your wife, my wife has a and .

um our offspring do not run off into the jungle or the forest. They have to be cared for for well over a decade. And why would you expand the time, the resources, the energy to care for your offspring unless you were rewarded the way you're rewarded when you care for your offspring is the release of different neurotransmitter ors, such as oxy toor the love.

And when those are released, your pleasure and reward centers are activated. Your physical ology works at its best. And you look at the world through the lens of love and caring because you want your ostrog's to survive as we evolve as species.

And you're probably aware that there's something kind of dum bars number, uh, so up to one hundred and fifty people, which was typically the size of a tribe, then IT was important because you were in a hostile environment that you cared for the other or the group would not survive. So these are very deep stated genetic imperatives ah that are with us that allow our species to survive. We are not meant to live chronically in the sympathetic nervous system.

We are meant as a species to live in our paris synthetic nervous system where we have openness, generosity, caring, love. The problem is the nature of how capital society has been develop, uh, actually, for many, many people, activates the sympathetic nervous system chronically, and they get distracted from their purpose. Our purpose is to love what .

anything I love that. And I love that you've simplified IT to your either in fear mode and hearts mode, and that you are hardwired for hard mode. Your purpose is to love yourself, to love other people, to be in that mode.

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Looking back at your friend melt robbins, and today, u and I are spending time together with doctor jim doty from stanford, and we're digin into the science of manifestation. So doctor dote, can you explain what manifesting is? How do you think about IT or describe and teach you to people around the world?

So as you know, with benefits tion of that terminology, there's a lot of blue and photo science, and a lot of people take an advantage of that. And IT turns, unfortunately, into a money making opportunity for some people. The reality is, though, that actually the ability to manifest is fundamental based in neuroscience, there is no wu, there is no magic, there is no law attraction.

Based on the history of the back in the first and second century, the hermetics came up with this idea, and it's been approved gated through different prosperity, gospel and all sorts of other things as if if you have positive energy and you put that energy on the world, you will be able to manifest the portion, the ferri dimension and uh but if that doesn't happen, if you're fault because you're going to care enough if you didn't do at the right way or just buy another book and i'll tell you the real way to do, uh but fundamentally, is based on neuroscience. And what I mean by that is the way in which you manifest and our defined manifestation is the ability to take an intention and embedded into your subconscious in a manner such that IT has the greatest likelihood to occur or to manifest. And what I mean by that is what people don't appreciate is every second we have about six to ten million bits of information coming to us from our sensory organs.

That's what makes us who we are. That creates our reality. But on a conscious level, we can only deal with fifty to one hundred, because ninety nine point nine percent go to maintain our bodily function. That's fifty to one hundred, though you have control .

over fifty, one hundred bits of information formation.

How do you deal with that? Well, you take the tools. And what I mean by that is the tools to embed something into yourself, conscious OK. The best way to do that. And i'm true you ve heard the term what fires together.

wires together. But can you explain that for the person?

So if you create habits, this results in the creation of neural pathways. And if the mere repetition of those habits actually lays down the circuitry, that then gets embedded and then actually makes things happen. And i'll explain that as follows. When you were able to use all of your sense, organs or abilities to embed that intention and do IT repeatedly, that is, when you're create in this general pathways. As an example, if you have an intention, you take a pencil, you write that down, you're actually doing something physical tackle, then you read IT silently, then you read IT aloud, then you visualize that, and you do that over and over over can. What that will do is then embedded into self conscious, and then these different cocky of brain networks get activated.

Now, can we unpack that just a minute here? Because everyone that listens to this loves to make sure that they just got the instructions from you. Doctor duty, because I like hanging on every word.

And so there were a couple steps to that because you had the physical pencil, you had the act of writing. You had this moment where if you're watching on youtube, thought, but if you're listening when they describe, but he SAT back in his chair, he put his hands kind of imperato chess close desires. And he started talking about repeating the thought, is that the chain of events, and that you do to encoded in your mind? Yes, absolutely. so. So what is we walk us through at one more time?

yes. So again, what you want to do is to use all of your sensory organs as much as possible to embed that intention. So by riding IT down, by reading and allowed, by visualizing IT, that create the process where this gets embedded and into subconscious. And what happens is, once you get this embedded, IT activates different parts of your brain. And without getting too technical, one is something called the default .

mode network. So the default .

mode network, yes, so this is what happens when your mind wonders or your daydreaming and itself referential because it's internally focus, but it's where you create the narrative of who you are or what you want.

So if you have negative self talk, if you ruminate, if you are like never good enough, nothing works out for me. Things like that don't happen to a person like me. I can never get IT right?

That is in the default mode and and it's really activated and results in rumination for some people.

Can I change another question? Because one of the things that you said at the very, very beginning is you painted this gorgeous picture of the ability to leverage the remarkable power of your brain to help you get what you truly desire in life, to help you live in hearts mode. And you said it's just about believing IT. And part of the reason why we have trouble believing IT is because of the defauts mode network. And all of these stories you've repeated over and over and over again is that is fair to say .

exactly correct. And can we can read .

program or we can lay down a new track? Oh, absolutely.

And it's available twenty four, seven and IT doesn't matter what's happened to before, you know, so many people get fix sated. Why don't deserve this? Because of we all deserve IT. So once this kids embedded and you create the narrative of who you want to be or how you see yourself, what you're doing is you're creating silence. okay?

What that what means?

That means making IT important. okay? Once something is important, this activates what we call our task positive network. And the task positive network has three parts, IT has the silence network, IT has the attention network, and then IT has the executive control network. And once something is silly, ant, what you're basically saying is this deserves my attention. 嗯。 And by doing IT in a very specific way, then that becomes important to you, that gets embedded and to your subconscious has something to pay attention to once that is defined as something important to than that activators attention network, so that then you coctivor focus your attention on whatever that intention is.

Kay, once those are activated and uh I use the analogy in the book, it's as if you've have a file cabinet and you put this file into the file cabinet that says important stuff and once that is there, then the attention network is activate or which is as an example of blood hound, that is says, okay, now there's something there. I need to track this down and figure out what's going on here. Then you activate the blood house and then that gets released.

And then once that attention is focus, then IT starts looking around through all the possibilities in your environment. And as soon in identified one, then your executive control network is activated, which in some ways is the thing that chases down what is in yourself conscious. And, uh, uh, this is how IT works.

There is no magic care. This is fundamentally basic neuroscience and is something that we all have the ability to master by just doing these techniques whereby you were able to embedding intention, you do IT over and over, and it's not as if one and done. And what I mean by that, some people wake up, and this is like a new year's resolution.

I'm going to do this january first. And then january first comes and you already fail the first tag. You have to not have excessive expectations at first.

What I mean by that is these are based on habit. What happens with habit? You start small, you don't sit there and say i'm going to lose one hundred pounds on the next month.

You say i'm going to try to modify my diet where i'm not drinking sodas. That's the first little one. And each of these little words strengthen you to actually then do the big thing ultimately. So you don't start by running a marathon on day one. You're start by getting up about a bed and walking around the block.

I really appreciate you, especially as a neuroscientist, walking us through all those four parts of the brain and validating that based on the science. This is the mechanism through which you can activate the ability to reprogram me your mind. When we talk about forming new habits through repetition, I think most of us understand that if you want to, let's just take the example of stop drinking soda.

There is a specific physical action that I have to do every day, whether I like IT or not, and the consistency of not drinking soda or, probably Better yet, just focusing on drinking water or a non soda beverage. That repetition I get. I know what I need to do.

Where I see people trip up is that when IT comes to negative self talk, IT is so embedded in the subconscious. You've think in this way for so long. And because it's there in the back of your mind, unlike learning to drink more water or learning to go for a walk every day, it's not a physical thing that you kind of see outside yourself.

This is actually programing deep within. And so could you help me in the person listening, understand, let's say, that you have for your entire life had this narrative in your mind. Really, i'm not good enough.

How do I use these four parts of the brain and the technique you just describe stepped by step to program a completely different way of talking to myself in my default mode network and pick whatever, because you are the expert teaching people around the world this technique. So pick whatever you believe is the most common, default negative self talker belief. And then if you could walk a step by step, what am I doing? Doctor dog every day? Well, I think .

the first thing people to recognize is the burden we Carry as a human being is negative self talk. IT is not going to go a one hundred percent away. That's just the way that is.

In fact, I was a, you know, I speak about these things and I have, I say of people, how many of you have negative self talk? And usually ninety percent of people throw her head. I say, the other ten percent are line.

And and I don't care in theory. I mean, obviously you have exam in these areas. I have exam these areas. I still have negative self talk.

The key is, though, in the face of the negative self talk, you're okay and understand what IT is and not let IT overpower you where you to think, oh god, i'm horrible me and you just dominate over this, recognize for what IT is and let IT sit there. You don't have to do anything with IT. And this is the fundamental practice of mindfulness meditation.

But the aspect which I think is different, and actually what we teach at stanford is to have compassion for self. And this is when you give yourself these positive affirmations and you say you're worth, you're good enough, you deserve. And a lot of the negative self talk comes from where IT comes from the baggage that we Carry from our childhoods.

And this is what a lot of people don't appreciate. You're manifested all the time. What people don't realize though, is that many of the decisions they make in their lives, the relationships, the jobs they have, the decisions they make, are actually based on the baggage that they Carry, and that is the narrative of their story.

And so one of the first things I think you have to do is to sit back and whether it's with a therapist or just self reflection where you're writing things down and trying to understand how you become you, to have some awareness of what created this um and once you have that insight, then that allows you to not be as affected or to believe IT but understand that it's the nature of how humans are wired and it's okay. That's not gona change. And in some ways it's like also accepting your shadow self, right?

All of us have a part of us that we are shamed of. We're embarrassed about. We've done actions that are horrible sometimes, and you can't push your shadow away.

You have to accept IT and and integrate IT into who you are. And the same is true of this. So once you're able to do that, that lessons the power of that inner critic.

So let me see if I can just again, translate this, because you've got a really big brain. You Operate on brains, and you are friends with the biggest spiritual leaders of our time. And you teach compassion, manifestation, visualization, all of this. And I just wants to make sure that I do my job and that, as you're listening, that you truly are able to take all of this extraordinary wisdom and the gift of doctor duty and apply IT.

And so I heard you say that if you were to take out a piece of paper and you were to just start journey around, what did my childhood make me believe about myself that that first step of seeing that in writing helps you separate from IT and see IT for what IT is? Which is IT is a story, just like a story in a book that is something you've been telling yourself over and over. And just separating yourself from IT is the first step.

The thing i'm curious about, though, is how I start to learn a new story. Because, for example, if we if we were to bring in a flute, right? And and and would you be able to play a flute if I handed IT to? Of course not yeah me either.

But if I practiced IT for a year, I could probably learn IT. And so i'm assuming that there is a technique even once I separate and go, oh, my child d hood taught me to think x about myself. What is the technique for how you use the science of manifestation and visualization to start to write a new story about yourself?

No, I think that's next like question. And in fact, the first step is understanding what you've already been manifesting.

which is the negative. yes. And you've been manifesting IT because you've repeated IT in your subconscious and you've interacted with those thoughts all day long sensor childhood, and that is a form of manifestation. IT proves that IT works because you just repeated IT over and over.

Sure, you had people go. I'm going to my third divorce and it's like I made the same time and .

every time and you like, yes, you did because you manifested IT because you think the same way over and over and over again.

So we do have the power to change that now and then the next thing is, which we discuss a little bit, is understanding the difference between what you want or think you want after. I don't want to .

think about what I need. I want to think about what I I mean, but I want that thing, but I want this, but I want that, but I want the other thing.

Well, it's say that because, G, M, no, you you sort of lab this idea about materialism. Listen, I don't at all. I like material.

thanks. I drive a porsha. I live in a very nice house.

See you manifest all of this.

That is true. But the difference though is one they're wonderful to have. They're not necessary.

What I mean by that is if all of these things were taken away from me, IT has no impact on who I see myself. I am not using them for external validation. I'm using them because I enjoy them. And those are different things.

People who chase after stuff, the I part who need external affirmation, that is their identity, and that causes suffering because they never get what they want versus if you d look through the lover, the heart mode, and you're focused on an image of you helping other people, you get all of these other things. They're available to you if you want them. But the weight, the greatest way to manifest is to have yourself center, to be in a calm mode, to look through the cent lens of how can I be helpful and then that gives you all the other stuff, if you so desire.

Focusing solely on that doesn't get that you're not living a life of purpose and meaning. You're chasing pleasure and avoiding pain. And well, that can sort of cause some people say i'm happy if you actually look at the most of these people may be happy on one level, but that happiness is transitory and shallow versus if you chase purpose and meaning that is deep and long lasting.

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If you get a post purchase survey, say about cloth from the malay's broadcast. Walke back is your friend mell Robins. And today you and I are learning all about the science of manifestation from stanford neurosurgeon doctor James doty. Um you just said something that I want to make sure I take out my magic highlighter and I call attention to that if you would remove all of the material stuff. Do you actually still feel good about who you are?

absolutely.

And having those things to enjoy them as one thing, but needing those things to define your worth is a completely separate issue that based on research you are saying leads to unhappiness. And since we're talking about material items though, can you explain how the science of visualization, or man, or visualization of manifestation the same thing? yes. okay. So how does science of manifestation help you achieve goals or help you get material things, if that's something that you would like to have in your life?

Well, let me give you an example. I mean, when I was twelve, I add a list of all material things, and I got every one of them.

What was on lest .

I become a neuro surge and a professor stanford, uh, I have all this material success. I A successful entrepreneur. I have millions and millions of dollars.

I, uh, I have a uh uh a home overlooking the bay and new or beach. I A villa and forrest. I .

yes.

I was single at the time and I was dating all these attractive women, and all my friends had caught. Your life is so great, man, look at you yet. I was never more miserable in my entire life because I kept expect to climb this mountain.

And then I want to feel good about myself. Then I want to climb the next one. I want to feel good about myself.

And I never feel feel good about myself. None of that stuff made me feel good about myself. And in fact, I don't know. I lost eighty million dollars during the dot com crash and as a result, uh, of course, that get attention because I was three million dollars and dad and I had of fifty million dollars alone.

And as a result, I had, I went to, appeared of steep self reflection because I I wanted to understand what mistake could I made in this process, because I done everything I thought, and IT was because I was focused on look at me. I did this make me feel good about myself, and that's what I was chasing. And IT didn't help me.

And so here I am, having to deal with this massive loss. I'm telling all of this, know, I had a far pora a range over bmw, Mercedes, uh, I had a several million dollar house ever look in the bay. I had to sell all of this stuff.

And IT was interesting during that situation. I had to deal with my banker, of course you wanted this money, and I had to deal with my lawyers because I had set up a variety of different trust. But I had set up a charitable trust, and he puts stock into IT, honestly, was probably attacks avoidance, saying IT wasn't because jim daughter was super nice, right?

Uh, so I was dealing with my laun, he said, looked, and I have some good news for you. We actually never complete the paperwork for that trust. So you don't have to give any of that stock away. You can just keep IT. And I went through this period of deep reflection about this, and at the end of the day, I told him to go ahead and gain the .

stuck quit google.

But that was thirty million dollars ah. But what that thirty million dollars did was IT changed everything I said of health clinics around the world. I set of programs for adolescence for affected by aid.

H. I. V. I set programs for the disabled. I found a research. I set up and down chairs.

And in some ways, though, IT was an interesting trajectory, because I went truly from rags to richer, literally to rags again in terms of the spiritual. Okay, what I was doing was not soothe my soul. And so when I gave everything away, been in the face of three million dollars in the whole.

That is when everything changed. This is where I started the center at stanford, that study's compassion. I met his holiness the I developed these relationships with all of these spiritum religious leaders, which has been incredibly, incredibly impacted in my life. And so it's a different rags to races.

There are so many aspects that story want to impact, because I have been in i've been in many moments of my life where I had nothing and 我。 On the verge of losing everything that I cared about. But if I had heard somebody talking about portions and this and that the other thing, and then you lose at all and then you have a spiritu waking, I would still, as i'm listening go, that's nice for you, but I am having trouble putting groceries on the table. And I still would love a porch.

And I know, because I know some of your background, how important is for you to awake in something inside of people about the deeper meaning of life and the way to use manifestation and visualization and the science of all this in a way to truly unlock your potential? And how would you have somebody who's listening, who is really struggling and never has achieved that moment of riches, that is, surface level, truly grasp the power of what is available to them, to use these tools of separating from your past story and identifying what you want to believe about yourself, and then writing IT and believing IT and repeating IT and trying to open up your heart and live in this heart mode. What is available to you if we lean in and trust you even .

when you're really .

struggling and IT seems like money is the solution.

No, no, you're actually right. And I don't want to give anybody the impression that looked my worst day. I was a neurosurgeon making a more than ninety nine point nine percent of people so even though um I lost all this money in was in the hall, I certainly had the ability a to recover and most people don't have that.

So I certainly want to acknowledge that and i'm not saying that my story is everyone story. Listen, I started from very, very humble beginnings. But the fundament aspect of the story is IT doesn't matter where you're at, it's matters what you believe.

And when you have this negative self talk and you create these limited belief systems, that is the prison you're creating for yourself. And the first step though is to understand that yes, circumstances can be very horrible. Yes, circumstances can uh, result in you not even being able to see your family. And I truly acknowledged that because I know what it's like to be hungry.

but. Regardless, you have possibilities when you're able to interrupt that negative belief system, when you're able to look to the lens of possibilities. Because when you are negative, when you say it's not possible, the world is against me.

Everybody hates me. 哼， fundamentally, you're change in your physiology. And as you probably know, uh, we have isolation or vibrations that come from our bodies. And one of the greatest ones is from your heart.

If you have this negative self talk, if you create this negativity that goes out the bio electrical energy that comes from your heart extends three to five a feet outside your body. And i'm sure you've experiences, you would mention something early. Uh, when you walked in, you've made me feel good.

That is a gift all of us have to give people. And i'm sure you met people who has finished a meeting. Go, I do not like that person. All of us have the ability to become the former. Not the latter is how you look at the world.

And when you change how you look at the world from that one of negativity, because, you know, your situation is difficult to look at, there are amazing possibilities here. Because when I tell people, when I changed how I looked at the world, the world changed how I looked at me, because people reached out to me because I was open to IT. I was appreciative.

I was thankful I didn't say there and say the world hates me. Nobody y's gonna do anything. That energy changes when you change how you look at the world. And the energy you're .

talking about is the ability to move yourself from a fear mode, ability to a hard mode. And there's also a lot of research and science that you write about and how being in that heartbeat, where you're coming from a place of service, where you are actively manifesting and visualizing positive belief about yourself, I am good, I am worthy, I am loved. What are the things that you say that help you drop in the heart mode?

This may sound's strange, but fundamentally, the world we create is one we create. IT is a delusion that we have created for ourselves. And that delusion can either be one of the world hates me.

Everybody hates me, the world is against me versus say, wow, look at the sunshine I am here. Look at all these amazing people around me. Look at the possibilities.

And i'm not saying this out of some, uh, trobe, that is not true. IT is true when you change how you look at yourself. Now if you want to manius their several techniques and can .

you walk us through a couple?

sure. One of the first things you have to do though is find a place, a come place, where you can shift from being in the fear mode to the hearts mode, where you're not distracted, where it's not noisy. We are not taking caffeinated beverages or using mind haltered substances where you can simply be present.

And then you can begin a breathing exercise, the very nature of that breathing exercise. And this is a mindfulness practice, get you and to the heart mode, and then you start seeing the world to a different lens, and then you start asking examples, talking about, what have I already manifested? And you sit there with that, and you love yourself in the sensor, saying, yes, that happened.

But number one, and this is often times the case with children, they look at, say, it's my fault, is not your fault, you're OK and you're also okay, no matter what's happened in the past, you know, all of us deserve a second chance and sometimes a third chance there. Most people a are loving, kind people inside, and they have been battered by the forces, often times that make them think that's not the case, that they don't deserve love. Everybody deserve love.

Everybody deserve stagnation. And so when you consider that quiet space and reflect on this and then think about what IT is you truly want, what would make you happy most people, if they actually sit there and do IT, they realized the false narrative of getting the porch or the ferri. If they sit there and think about IT, what do they really want? They want security for their family, they want food on the table, they want shelter.

And if you look through that length, that is, what am I doing to be of service, to help my family and my environment, which will ultimately help me. And so going through those exercises, understanding the power that you have and also um there's another aspect which is related to attachment, one of the biggest things that causes suffering as attachment and craving. And it's wonderful to have goals.

It's wonderful to utilize these techniques to manifest. But they're certain caveat to that. One is sometimes things don't manifest and a sound nearly because you did anything wrong, or the gods are looking down at you badly.

Sometimes your subconscious may even know that it's not good for you and IT doesn't allow that to happen. The other is that, uh, things don't happen always exactly as we've visualized. They may approximate IT, but often times they are not exactly.

And I have things i've been trying to manage first for ten or fifteen years and I firmly believe they will manifest. But you have to be patient, you have to do the work, you have to do the exercises. And, uh, uh, all of that is okay because i'm not attached to the outcome.

And that is a critical thing. Yes, I wanted to happen. absolutely.

Should that happen? Absolutely will IT happen. Maybe, maybe not.

And it's more likely that he will. Yes, because you are training your mind using these techniques and putting yourself in a heart mode to make that happen. You you wrote in your book, your brain can't tell the difference between what is real and vividly imagined. By focusing on the feeling of success, you train your brain to expected absolutely.

And when you activate your subconscious, i'm sure you probably experience this. If you're at a party and it's very noisy, somebody says you are named, you immediately turn. Even in the end of all this noise, you are attuned to name because it's deeply embedded in you.

The same is true, and this is the nature of synchronicities and coincidences, because your subconscious is always searching for what is silent, but IT shows you that you're constantly listening for the possibilities. And this happens to me over and over again where I will have something. And you know, there's this attitude of dispositional optimism, and this is, I think, really critical a regardless of everything, I always remit optimistic of possibilities.

And you know, there was a study done and prisoners in vietnam, persons of war, and there's a particular case for individual, I mean, he was in prison for like seventy years. He said, what kept me alive was I didn't put a time frame on me getting out. I just had this deep feeling that I would get out, and I was thankful for that.

You see, so no matter how this all the circumstance, they still believe in the possibility. And I think that's critically important in this idea of dispositional optimism has been study. And again, it's like being in heart mode. Your physiology works at its best when you are focused on others, when you're trying to be of service, when you have this constant feeling of the amazing possibilities that exists, IT stops you or limit you from going down the spiral into your default mode, ruminating about what can be versus looking at the world to the lens of what could be.

I want to expand on the power of learning how to be in the hearts mode and what you just brought to the table, this dispositional optimism and the belief that things can get Better, the hope and the optimism that things will turn out and feeling grateful for that. Because when you're in the heart mode, you've talked a lot about how we are naturally wired to be in that mode, come connected, open to service, open hearted. Can you explain how positive emotions, the emotions that you feel when you're in the heart mode, like gratitude, compassion, love, how do those emotions communicate to your brain and accelerate or make IT stronger that what you're thinking about when you're in heart mode actually wires in a very strong way based on the emotions of heart mode.

You just .

said that, oh I did. How to positive emotions like gratitude and compassion and love um create the ability to manifest or like wire your mind.

As we said or discussed earlier, these types of positive belief systems make your physiology work. It's best both your brain and your preferable physiology. When all you're cogged, the brain networks function at the their best that is the greatest likelihood for you to manifest, uh, your intention. There is a lot of work this has been done and graduate to showing that simply sitting down and writing, three thanks, great foot, for changes everything IT changes how you view the world, how you look, not from the lens of what I don't have but how grateful you are. As an example um half of the world's population lives on less than two dollars and fifty cents a day. I am extraordinary blessed and so I no matter how bad IT is and um again and i'm not saying that i'm horribly suffering but that being said, I still have ups and downs and have had situations which are incredibly demoralizing but at the end of the day I sit back and I have gratitude even in the face of these a horrible things that were not as I planned or or wanted happen and you just have to understand that regardless of all of them, you're very fortunate .

as a renowned neuroscientist and neurosurgeon, what does your daily manifestation routine look like? Can you walk us through .

IT short? Now you have to understand, i've been meditating for well over fifty years, so in some ways that becomes the habit, right? IT is your mindset.

IT is how you look at the world. IT is how you walk in the world. And hopefully it's through the love mode, although not a ice. And I will assure you, my wife will get mad at me and you'll say they call you mr. Compassion, but you're an ask for.

What's going on? Your human?

Yes, I am very human. So let me start with the morning first. Every morning I wake up and I said at the side of the bed, and I do breathing exercise. And the very nature of that, bringing exercise shift space into the paris, sympathetic.

nervous. And what is the breathing exercise?

It's just slowly breathing, enter the nose, holding IT for four seconds, slowly letting IT out. And I do this for a monitor to, you can sit, you can lay down. Uh, there's nothing that is prescriptive.

And this is where people get lost about mind for this practices. They somehow think you have to sit like a bua and do this, and they get all anxious about IT. There's no reason to be anxious at all is justified.

And a place where you feel comfortable. And then I go through this breathing exercise of slowly breathing, and for four to six seconds, holding for four to six years, slowly, that IT letting IT out to the mouth. And then that shifts me into the paris sympathetic nervous system, or strengthened where I am already had.

And then I think of the joy and are of being in this world. And I just sit with that for a mediator too. And then literally I just go through that alphabet and that centers me, uh, for the day.

And if i'm centered, looking through that lens, then that actually creates the environment for me to manifest. Because I am in the right mindset, i'm calm, i'm thoughts, i'm thinking about others, i'm not self focus and the very nature that allows me to manifest. Now I was going to mention in the evening, all of us have goals. All of us have intentions, and you can prioritize them from ones that are Molly important, moderate important, incredibly important and in the time frames, and then you focus on them. And what I will do is I will, again, write them down, whatever the top three are. And then I go to the exact same exercise I mentioned, which is to write them down, to repeat IT silently, to repeat up, to see that happening, and, uh and over and over and over again, all of those things strengthened the power and put you in the right mindset to have the greatest likelihood of your manifesting air intention.

Thank you for describing that. How does the a habit that you just said activate your brains ability to help you act on those goals?

Well, I think you used to keep term which is authentic. What makes somebody authentic when they let their mask down, when they will, to show their own emotions and how they feel about things.

And the very nature that puts you in the right mental state, where you don't feel you have to hide yourself, where you don't feel that you have to put on a show for everybody about how successful you are and where you're just feeling comfortable with who you are and accept yourself. And the hardest st hardest part for so many people is accepting themselves as they are not be lost in how they want to be or lost in what could have been. And this is also a thing that distract you from the energy you have to change things.

Because if you spend eighty percent in real time on the past and a future that has been happened lamenting, then you can never be present to actually make things happen. And this is the key. You have to be present.

You have to be authentic. You have to understand your past. And you have to understand that when you want something to manius, yes, there is a future intention, but it's not something to get lost, and it's something simply to sit with instead of the pathologically focused on.

As an example, i'm sure you've seen people who have sacrificed everything to get to the top of the mountain. Well, they've sacrificed everything to get to the top of amount to stand there by themselves. What was the purpose of that? Our purpose in life is connection, is not to so be focused that you don't have any connections and you're walking alone, is to connect with people. I mean, many, many of the aspects of what we're talking about are the journey with others, not necessarily standing by yourself.

You ve given me a huge pivi, because i've always thought about the science of manifesting as something that is tied to what's gonna happen. And in listening to you, I had this huge pithy where I thought a way, a minute. It's all about this daily practice of sitting in the present and dropping into the heart mode.

And the starting line is acceptance of self, compassion and gratitude and love tory's self, and getting yourself at this almost like daily recent, present moment. And from there I can decide what I want to believe. I can decide when I line with the wiring of my body and my soul. I can decide what I want to believe, I can decide what's important to me, and practicing these tools, both of dropping in the hearts mode, of being present with self, of tapping into the wiring for service and compassion and love. When you start there, and now you're repeating the things that you want and why you want these things from your heart, anything is possible.

Well, and basically you've just unlocked the key to the prison that most people have created for themselves.

What do you mean that? Well.

what you just said fundamentally addresses the issue of how people create a prison for themselves by this negative self talk. Every time they make a negative statement, as if they're line down a brick to build a prison and the walls get higher and IT gets darker, yet all of us have the key in our pocket, which you just describe, to let yourself out of the prison that you created.

And I think this recognition is what's really, really critically important. And that's not what it's not looking to the universe to save you. It's understanding your own self agency and not believe in that there's something out there now that being sad and as you know, I the first sense of the books is the universe doesn't a fuck about you but the end of the book, my statement as you are the universe. And that is your gift.

What are your parting words? Doctor duty?

Well, often times as we ve talked about, um you know people look through the lens of negativity and the reality is in you discuss IT also everyone wants to be seen, everyone wants to be loved and what I would say to everyone listening is regardless of your circumstance, regardless of your situation, each of us has the ability to improve the life of at least one person every day and whether it's a hug, whether it's saying hello, whether it's sharing a meal, whatever IT is, when you can actually look through the world through that lens, how can I help at least one person every day? That is a habit that put you in the mindset to not only be of service and to help others, but IT also helps you.

And IT helps you, because IT then gives you the power, actually, to see the world through the different lens and then be able to manifest whatever your intention is. And that is the power of our humanity. And IT all relates fundamental to connecting with another with an open heart.

Well, doctor duty um thank you. I I don't even know what to say. I just feel kind of blown right open by the experience of getting to be together with you.

That's kind of you. Thank you. I appreciate IT.

Well, I appreciate everything that shared and all the worth that you're doing. And thank you for being here. Thank you. And I wanna thank you for being here with me and doctor duty and listening all the way to the end.

I am sure that your heart is wide open, and I wanted be certain that I told you in case nobody else does that, I love you. I believe in you. I believe in your ability to create about life, and I am so excited about everything that you just learned. And I cannot wait to hear how you put this to use in your own life. Alright, i'll see in the next steps of.

Okay, we're hold on a second. Here we go. Hold on a second. Let's save this right.

Let's get the pool. And my headless, because you remind you, is to knock IT lost in your head. So here's the back here.

And what looks great, i'll have fabulous. And then that we're i'm going to .

stay when my husband come to fantastic.

So mr, I don't really know what i'm doing.

Well, having complete lack of knowledge is actually A A benefit, often times, because you're not restrained by other .

people's opinions. No, i'm gna actually use that vote. You're pretty cool. I think we must be friends.

I think we are.

You are. Oh, my god.

Oh, and one more thing I know, this is not a blue per. This is the legal language. You know what the lawyers and what I need to read to you.

This podcast is presented solely for educational and entertainment purposes. I'm just your friend. I am not a license therapies, and this podcast is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist or other qualified professional. Got IT good. I'll see in the .

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