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"F*** You, Mom!" Scripts to Handle Disrespect

2024/9/4
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Kirk Martin
专注于家庭教育和儿童行为管理的专家，提供实用的策略和脚本来改变家庭和学校中的行为。
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Kirk Martin: 本期节目讨论了孩子对父母说“F you, mom”的情况，分析了导致这种情况的多种原因，包括孩子的焦虑、测试边界以及父母与孩子之间关系的破裂。他建议父母在处理此类事件时，应保持冷静，避免冲动反应，给孩子一些空间，稍后再进行沟通。沟通时，父母应该明确告诉孩子这种行为是不合适的，并设定相应的后果，让孩子为自己的行为负责。同时，父母也需要反思自身的行为，是否过于焦虑或控制欲过强，从而导致孩子的不满。 Kirk Martin还分享了一个案例，一位母亲的女儿对她说了“F you, mom”，这位母亲最初想发火，但最终控制住了情绪，并向女儿道歉，之后与女儿进行了一次深度的沟通，了解了女儿长期以来积压的情绪和不满。通过这次沟通，母女关系得到了改善。 Mom: 我女儿对我说“F you, mom”，我当时很生气，想发火，但后来我控制住了情绪。我意识到自己之前的行为可能给女儿带来了压力，我向她道歉，并和她一起散步，倾听她的心声。通过沟通，我了解到她长期以来感到不被理解和接纳，并为此感到愤怒。 Daughter: 我对妈妈说“F you, mom”，是因为我长期以来感到不被理解和接纳，我感到疲惫，并对父母的离婚感到愤怒。我一直生活在姐姐的阴影下，觉得自己不够好。我说“F you, mom”是想引起妈妈的注意，让她能够真正听到我的声音。

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This chapter discusses how to respond when a child uses disrespectful language like "F*** you" to a parent. It emphasizes the importance of staying calm, avoiding immediate reactions, and addressing the issue later with clarity and decisiveness. It also highlights the difference between defiance stemming from testing boundaries and defiance rooted in deeper emotional issues.
  • Children's disrespectful language can stem from boundary-testing or deeper emotional issues.
  • Parents should avoid reacting immediately and address the issue calmly later.
  • Clarity and decisiveness are crucial when addressing disrespectful language.
  • Taking time to process the situation allows for a more thoughtful response.

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"F* You, Mom!" Scripts to Handle Disrespect**

A Mom simply asks if her daughter's homework is done. Her daughter responds with this shocking disrespect. How can you use this situation to teach, prevent this from happening again, and build a closer relationship? Kirk gives you options and scripts to use.

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