8 Ways to Build Confidence & Stop Misbehavior (Sibling Fights, Lying, & More) Part 1
Calm Parenting Podcast
Key Insights
Why do children often exhibit behaviors like picking on siblings, lying, and making excuses?
These behaviors often stem from a lack of confidence and a need to protect their fragile ego or sense of self.
How can parents help children who struggle with confidence issues?
Parents can help by accepting their children as they are, telling them the truth about what's important, affirming their specific strengths, and using their particular gifts to help them.
Why is it important for parents to accept their children as they are?
Acceptance helps children feel understood and valued for who they are, rather than feeling pressured to fit into societal or parental expectations.
What are some examples of arbitrary school requirements that may not be necessary for success in life?
Examples include sitting still for long periods, listening to uninteresting topics, reading books for essays, memorizing information for tests, and being grouped only with peers of the same age.
How can parents affirm their children's strengths effectively?
Parents should affirm specific behaviors and qualities their children exhibit, focusing on positive recognition without adding negative qualifiers.
How can parents use their children's interests to build confidence?
Parents can observe and identify strengths within their children's interests, then use these strengths to involve their children in problem-solving and decision-making at home.
Chapters
- Common misbehaviors include picking on siblings, lying, making excuses, and cheating.
- The root cause of these behaviors is a lack of confidence.
- Kirk introduces four strategies to address these issues in children.
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