10 Ways To Help Kids with Big Emotions Part 2 (Why Punching Pillows Doesn’t Work)
Calm Parenting Podcast
Key Insights
Why is it important to observe kids for clues about what calms them down?
Observing kids helps identify their natural coping mechanisms, allowing parents to provide activities that give them a sense of control and external order, which aids in internal order and emotional regulation.
Why might traditional calming methods like punching pillows not work for some kids?
Punching pillows may not satisfy intense emotions because it lacks the sensory pressure and physical impact needed to release frustration and shame effectively.
How can parents use movement to help kids self-regulate?
Movement can change a child's emotional state by providing a physical outlet for frustration and energy, helping them transition from a heightened emotional state to a calmer one.
Why is it important to affirm kids when they make progress in managing their emotions?
Affirming progress helps kids recognize their growth and reinforces positive behavior, encouraging them to continue improving their emotional regulation skills.
How can the phrase 'when you're ready' be used effectively with kids?
This phrase gives kids a sense of control and agency during emotional moments, reducing resistance and allowing them to choose when to engage in calming activities on their own terms.
Why is it crucial for parents to model emotional regulation for their kids?
Kids learn primarily by observing their parents. Modeling calm and controlled reactions to frustration and disappointment teaches them valuable life skills and helps build trust and a positive parent-child relationship.
Chapters
- Traditional calming methods like punching pillows and breathing exercises often don't work for kids with intense emotions.
- Parents need to observe their kids' behaviors to understand their unique calming needs.
- Kirk shares personal experiences and insights from parents who have successfully implemented these strategies.
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