The Anxious Generation
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Do you have a zinger? Is your brain too addled from being on Instagram? I like how we're going to be making jokes about that like it's not true. Oh, I guess I'm stupid now because I can only think in dumb memes. Isn't that right, Jonathan? I'm literally scrolling on TikTok right now. I'm not listening. I'm just responding to a picture of the Hawk Tua girl with the word mother.

As we speak. We did do a whole episode where you describe what you think my internet activity is. I think that's what you think I do. You just have some like burner account with the avi of some like AI generated twink and you're just like going around commenting slutty bullshit all over the place. We should have never taught you what twink means. Yeah.

What do you have? What do you have? All right. Peter. Michael. What do you know about the anxious generation? All I know is that if you're here to tell me that TikTok hasn't ruined Zoomers' brains, we're going to be in a fight.

So the full title of this book is The Anxious Generation, colon, How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness. Okay. This has been on the bestseller list for weeks. It was at one point the number one New York Times bestselling book in the country. It's extremely popular. It started a huge amount of discourse about what are the teens doing on their phones. And I think that this is a good distillation of the argument that the

Exactly. And maybe there's a particular concern when the brains are a little bit softer.

This is why I want to do like a tedious preamble to this episode, because I know this is this is one that people are clenched for. It's like, are we going to say that like all of the phones are ruining all of the teens, which seems really one dimensional? Or are we going to say like the phones are fine and there's nothing to worry about, which all

Right. No, we're going to hit the perfect balance, folks. You've never heard a take so nuanced. So I'm going to start with a series of totally contradictory statements, all of which are true. Okay. I think it is important to acknowledge that like the internet and smartphones are a transformative technology that is changing society in all kinds of like genuinely very profound ways. And it would be really fucking weird to act like that has no meaning.

Yeah.

I read a lot of really interesting literature for this episode about the moral panic about radio plays. Then, of course, we got TV. Then, of course, we got video games. And it just nonstop, whenever something new comes out, it's like, oh, what's it going to do to teens and adults lose their minds? It is also true that...

some of these technologies were bad. Yeah. No, the jukebox thing was true. I read a really interesting article about these constant tech and teens moral panics that said it's actually quite rare to sort of circle back to the previous technology and understand what effect it had. So, you know, we had this decade long panic about kids watching too much TV and TV was going to rot their brains. And then we sort of moved into like the video games are going to rot their brains. Right. But no one ever really like went back and was like, well, wait a minute. What was the effect of TV?

There's some argument that like maybe TV did have effects on childhood and adults that weren't great. Like the shift from active entertainment to passive entertainment might have actually been bad. And a lot of the stuff on TV was garbage. Yeah. Like I personally think that video games probably have had some negative effect on society. I don't think it's like ruined a generation, but like I'm concerned about how much violence and how much misogyny there is in video games. I don't think that's like a moral panic thing to talk about. Of course you don't. Yeah.

Of course we don't. Another true thing to say about this is that John Haidt is a reactionary centrist and a bad thinker. We talked about his previous book, The Coddling of the American Mind. We found that like it wasn't just that we disagree with that book, although we do. It's like the book was bad.

It had shoddy research. It had anecdotes that were wildly mischaracterized. It was based on this idea that like the left has fallen for these four ideas that everybody believes. And then like nobody actually believes them. And so I went into this book without a lot of trust. Yeah. When the whole book's about brains being bad, you want the person who's writing it to have a good brain. That should be one of the most important qualifiers. And then the last contradictory thing is that it...

It really feels true that social media is fucking up our kids' brains. However, a lot of the actual evidence for this is anecdotal. One of the articles that I read is by a researcher who's been looking into this for decades. And she said this guy came up to her after a talk and...

And was like, you know, how dare you say that the field and the evidence is nuanced on this? My daughter turned 13. I gave her a smartphone. And, you know, within a year, she had an eating disorder. She was depressed. And like, it basically ruined her life. And like, how dare you say that this isn't based on anything? Yeah, that's called being 14. This is the thing. It's like, at the same time that...

it's very plausible to me that this is ruining teens' brains. Yeah. That period of life between like 11 and 15 is a time when teens pull away from their parents. Like this happens to every single teenager and parents oftentimes want something to blame. Yeah. For this episode, I talked to six teenagers.

across a wide range of ages. And every single one of them said that like, my parents blame my phone for everything. It's like, you didn't clean your room because you're always on your phone. You didn't do your homework because you're always on your phone. And they're like, well, sometimes that's true. But sometimes I'm just a teenager who doesn't want to clean his room.

Right. People are coming to this with like either our experience, which is like, oh, my God, thank God I didn't have a phone in high school, which is absolutely what I believe. But also, I didn't have a phone in high school, so I don't really know what it would have been like to have a phone in high school. But also, if someone if an adult watched me in 1999, they would have been like, thank God I didn't have Age of Empires 2 in high school, because obviously this will ruin a human being. Exactly.

like TV or like first person shooters or like whatever the thing was when we were in high school, right? That we spent way too much time doing when we should have been outside. A lot of this conversation is playing out based on anecdotes or things like my daughter got her phone and now she's sad. Something that is like you can't really prove that's because of the phone. When you're talking about like what's happening to teenagers, the inputs are so vast and complicated that even though it feels very intuitive that like teenagers

TikTok cannot be doing any good. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

It's really hard to parse out exactly what it's doing. And so that doesn't mean phones are great for kids, but it also it doesn't mean that phones are bad for kids. I think if we're going to have a conversation about this as a society, we need to get the evidence in front of us and actually like talk to experts and talk to teens and teachers and psychologists and like really understand what we're looking at. My purpose with this was like to try to genuinely understand not just this book, but like for myself, like what do I think about the effect of the phones on the kids? Right. So that is my purpose with this episode.

Okay. And mine is to provide commentary. I'm glad that you know your role so well. And my role is to ignore you and continue speaking. So as we always do on the show, I want to start with the first few paragraphs of the book. We're going to dive in and we're going to hear John Haidt's argument about

for why the kids are in danger from their telephones. Suppose that when your first child turned 10, a visionary billionaire whom you've never met chose her to join the first permanent human settlement on Mars. Unbeknownst to you, she had signed herself up for the mission because she loves outer space and...

And besides, all of her friends have signed up. She begs you to let her go. She's going to Mars. Before saying no, you agree to learn more. You learn that the reason they're recruiting children is that they adapt better to the unusual conditions of Mars than adults, particularly the low gravity. If children go through puberty and its associated growth spurt on Mars, their bodies will be permanently tailored to it, unlike settlers who come over as adults. At least that's the theory. It's unknown whether Mars-adapted children would be able to return to Earth.

Did the planners take this into account? Did they do any research on child safety at all? As far as you can tell, no. So, would you let her go? Of course not. Couldn't agree more. Honestly.

I would not let my 10-year-old child go to Mars. And I'll say it on a podcast. This is by far like the best argument in the book. He's basically saying that like we're doing this society-wide experiment where we're just giving teenagers this like brand new technology. Right. And we're just all kind of assuming, oh, yeah, they'll probably be OK. But like there was no like FDA process to say, wait a minute, is this harmful before we give it to every single teenager in the country at an extremely vulnerable age?

time in their life the fda comparison is apt because what what social media really needs is

Is more aggressive regulation. Yes. If you just make a book called like, we should regulate social media, everyone will get mad at you. But I do feel like that's probably the conclusion that I'm going to come away from some of this shit with. Haidt then talks about like the sort of overall, he sort of lays out the history of social media a little bit. And he's kind of scoping the book. What he really wants to examine is there was a huge spike in mental disorders among teenagers between 2010 and 2015. Okay.

He says in the introduction that he's really zeroing in on this period because that's the period where you can essentially prove that social media is causing a spike in teen depression, anxiety, and suicidality. That is the argument in the book.

And so he says very clearly in this section that he's like, we're not talking about the internet in general, right? Because that was like roughly mid 2000s. We're not talking about video games. We're not talking about screen time and TV. These are all kind of totally separate concerns. We're also not talking about what you might call the contemporary era of social media then, right? Like the rise of the short video. Oh, you're veering into spoiler territory. But no, according to this section of the book, he

He's not talking about the rise of these short video platforms like TikTok. He's also not talking about the effects of the pandemic. So we're just limiting ourselves to this relatively short period of time. This is like Farmville era Facebook. Yeah, I mean, that's why he's saying we're not talking about that, right? We're not going to talk about like Friendster or MySpace or early Facebook. He's zeroing in on.

on the innovations that tech companies used in the mid-2000s to the 2010s, which essentially culminated in social media being this uniquely harmful thing for kids. So he kind of lays out this timeline. You know, we had the internet starting in the early 2000s. We started to get universal broadband.

throughout the United States in like late 2000s, we then have these like these little baby steps that all make social media much more harmful. So in 2006, Facebook introduces the news feed. In 2007, we get the introduction of the iPhone. In 2009, we get the like and retweet button.

We then pretty quickly start getting these increasingly algorithmic ways of showing you on your newsfeed. It's not just chronological anymore. That's around sort of 2008 to 2010. He also mentions endless scrolling, right? You can just kind of mindlessly scroll on these apps forever. We get push notifications.

from these apps starting in 2009. Most smartphones start to have self-facing cameras in 2010, so you can start taking selfies. We then get Instagram in 2010. In 2012, Facebook acquires Instagram. And between 2011 and 2013, Instagram goes from 10 million users to 90 million users. Okay. Where in this timeline is damn Daniel? Daniel?

I just need to situate myself relative to damn Daniel. The culmination of this trend is that kids are now spending roughly seven hours a day on various screens. A third of teens say that they use social media, quote, almost constantly. I mean...

There's various surveys of like how many kids have a smartphone. By the time they're 11, it's about 50-50. But then by the time they're 14, it's essentially every kid has one. Yeah. Of the kids that have smartphones, the vast majority also have various social media accounts. Sure. It has taken a while to sort of get here, but we really are at like almost universal penetration of smartphones for both adults and children. I'd probably use a phrase other than universal penetration, but I hear you. I know. As I said it, I was like, okay, fuck, this is Peter Bate. Yeah.

So that's like the timeline of all the tech innovations that brought us to this place. What he's most concerned about is essentially kids who hit puberty right around this like 2008 to 2012 period when the tech companies were getting more sophisticated. That's why you see rising rates of depression and anxiety among Generation Z, but you don't see them in millennials and other age groups. Yeah, that's why I'm doing great. Yeah.

All of us are happy about our phones. We have a great relationship with our phones. I'm normal. So here is where he draws the distinction between adult use of social media and teen use of social media. Social media companies are making products that are useful for adults, helping them to find information, jobs, friends, love, and sex, making shopping and political organizing more efficient and making life easier in a thousand ways.

Most of us would be happy to live in a world with no tobacco, but social media is far more valuable, helpful, and even beloved by many adults. So he does acknowledge that there are also drawbacks for adults, right? He says that everything we talk about with teenagers is also happening with adults. However, adults do derive real benefits from social media. Here is the section where he talks about the difference for kids.

The same is not true for minors. While the reward-seeking parts of the brain mature earlier, the frontal cortex, essential for self-control, delay of gratification, and resistance to temptation, is not up to full capacity until the mid-20s, and preteens are at a particularly vulnerable point

in development. As they begin puberty, they are often socially insecure, easily swayed by peer pressure, and easily lured by any activity that seems to offer social validation. We don't let preteens buy tobacco or alcohol or enter casinos. The costs of using social media, in particular, are high for adolescents compared with adults, while the benefits are minimal.

Let children grow up on Earth first before sending them to Mars. So this is the core of the argument to the book that for adults, there are some benefits of using social media. For kids, there are none. It is only a harmful influence. Yeah, it feels a little reductive, although maybe like gesturing in the correct direction. If the point...

is there are higher risks for children because of where their brains are. Sure. I think that's pretty defensible. Acting like it's nothing but upside for adults and nothing but downside for kids just seems very reductive. This is the first glimpse of like, I don't know that he's the best guide through this debate, right? Because I think...

You think of any kid who's like a member of a minority group, right? Like a teenage gay kid somewhere with like homophobic parents. Social media might be like their only lifeline. It's really easy to think that like there are some kids who derive some benefits from social media. It's just sort of weird to say, you know, to compare it to like tobacco or gambling. Some of it's just like...

Interacting with your friends. Yeah. I want to be clear. When I was 14 years old, a thing you would do is be on the phone with your middle or high school girlfriend or boyfriend or whatever and just sit there silently. Right.

Because you were both in your rooms with nothing to do. And then every five minutes, someone's parent would pick up the phone to try to use it. And we'd be like, we're on the phone. And eventually someone would yell at you. Yeah. They'd be like, I need to use the phone for a real purpose, not whatever the fuck this is.

That's what social interaction looked like. And I'm sorry if I look at Snapchat as perhaps an improvement in some ways, at least. The first chapter of the book is where he walks us through the teen mental health crisis. Okay. So we're going to watch a video clip because this chapter is mostly charts. And I don't want to sit here and describe charts to you. So...

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From the 90s through the 2000s, we're talking the millennial generation, which many of you in this room are. If you're born between 1981 and 1995, you're a millennial.

your mental health was actually fine, a little better than Gen X before you. So all the numbers are going along, they go up, down, up, you know, sort of moving along. And then all of a sudden, those numbers all start rising right around 2012, 2013. And the level of the rise, especially for boys, it's a little slower. It's not such a sharp elbow. That's a different story. But for girls, it's a very sharp elbow. And when we look at the younger teen girls, ages 10 to 14, that's where we see the hugest rises. So the

those younger girls, they didn't used to be hospitalized for self-harm. It was very, very rare. But after 2012, the numbers go way up. For the older teen girls, I think it's like 70 or 80% increase. For the younger teen girls, it's more like 150. And that's in America. In Britain...

You have data that 10 to 12 year old girls are up for a 380% increase. It's more than a more than a quadruple self-harming for self-harm. That's right. So something happened that especially well when girls got super connected and began sharing the idea of self-harming and the idea of anxiety became just much more widespread.

Not a funny or dunkable clip, but he's laying out the statistics. This is actually kind of compelling because hospitalizations for self-harm are a useful metric in the same way that murder is a useful metric for crime.

because it's always reported as opposed to something that's like self-reported and might be the result of people just having greater awareness of mental illness or anxiety or whatever. Peter, this transitions. I feel like you're doing this on purpose. This transitions extremely well into the thing that I want to say. I mean, we're not going to go through the entire chapter of his book, but I do want to complicate the picture that he's painting of youth mental health. So he points out that

rates of various markers of teen mental health are flat and then all of a sudden they explode in 2010. And this is essentially the heart of the book, that there's a strong correlation between adoption of smartphones in roughly 2010 and this huge spike in suicidality, self-harm, all of these markers also in 2010. That's the core of the book is just these like two lines going up at the same time. Right, right. But

But the adoption of smartphones was not the only thing that happened around 2010. The other big thing is the implementation of Obamacare. So the percentage of kids in America who didn't have access to health insurance had actually been steadily dropping from the 1990s. But...

Mm-hmm.

So around the same time, for both adults and kids, you start to see much more Medicaid coverage of mental health admissions to the hospital. You see more diagnosis. You see more prescriptions. The just kind of overall access to mental health care treatment really did significantly expand.

as part of the implementation of Obamacare. Another thing that happened was there was guidance from the U.S. Preventative Services Task Force that recommended screening adolescent girls for depression starting in 2011. It also made it mandatory for insurance companies to cover it. Got it. There was also guidance around the same time that

instructed doctors to add suicidal ideation as a cause of harm to medical records. I mean, this is another thing that he kind of glosses over, that the numbers were actually rising of teen mental health problems before smartphones. So he's a little bit off on the timeline.

And he's a little bit off on the age groups because 10 to 14-year-olds didn't actually have cell phones at that time. That was actually much later. So they don't actually match up perfectly. And people in the medical system were already very concerned about these steady rises in suicidality and self-harm, especially for adolescent girls. And so there's a really interesting study of medical records in New Jersey that notes that

Throughout the entire state, what looks like a huge increase in suicide attempts and hospitalizations for self-harm, there's no actual difference in the numbers. It's just they're writing down suicidal ideation as like a sub-cause of the injury. There's other things too. In 2008, there's something called the Mental Health Parity and Addiction Equality Act, which

which improves access to mental health care for teens. There's also the update of the DSM in 2013, which loosens a lot of diagnostic criteria. This was just a period totally independent of smartphones where teens were just getting more access to the health care system in general. And there was a lot more focus on getting teens the mental health

help that they needed. So I don't want to say that like this whole thing is fake. Like the fact that kids are feeling worse does appear to be real. And there's lots of statistics on this that do not depend on things like hospitalizations or, you know, diagnoses of depression. If you look at qualitative surveys of teens, they're much more likely now to say I'm depressed or I'm anxious or I don't have a lot of friends. Yeah. Although I, I, that's the stuff that I'm loving.

less persuaded by. Oh, really? Yeah, simply because self-reports might be the result of a generation that's just much more aware of depression. Yeah, yeah. When I was a teenager...

People didn't talk about being depressed so expressly. You know, people didn't talk about anxiety. The idea that like this stuff is now in the mainstream vernacular. And so you see teenagers self-diagnosing. That's sort of what seems noisier to me than something like hospitalizations, even if hospitalizations aren't a totally clean metric.

Yeah. Well, the thing is there's also surveys that don't ask teens like, are you depressed? But they'll say like, you know, how many times a week do you feel lonely? Right, right. There's one, what was it? There's one where they ask kids a bunch of questions and if you answer five out of nine of them, then they say you've experienced a major depressive episode. And it's things like how often have you lost interest and become bored with most of the things you usually enjoy? Huh.

I don't think that's the kind of thing that would necessarily depend on like the sort of expanding, you know, reducing stigma of depression, anxiety and like the discourse around it. So yeah, there are also surveys that find like how often are you anxious? Yeah. But there's also things that ask about like the component parts of depression, anxiety, which also show rising numbers.

One of the really interesting things that they mentioned numerous times in this analysis of the suicidality data from New Jersey, all of these hospital records, is they say, look, this doesn't mean that the kids aren't depressed. What it actually means is that they were underdiagnosed for things like suicidal ideation before. So what we might be looking at is teens are very depressed and we're now better at catching it. It could also reflect an increase. Another thing that he doesn't mention is that

Kids are significantly less likely to kill themselves now than they were in 1988. If you look at teen suicide rates, like every other form of like violent crime that we've talked about, you know, murders and rapes and child abuse, it's like rises steadily in the 60s and 70s, plateaus in the 80s, drops really quickly in the 90s, and then gradually starts rising again. Right. That doesn't mean that it's not smartphones.

That doesn't mean that's not the internet, right? You could say, well, when people started to get broadband internet in the 2000s, we started to have higher rates of teen suicides. Like this actually is congruent with his theory, right? And maybe something else was causing it in the 60s and 70s and cell phones are causing it now. Again, it's not really debunking his theory, but-

But it does show that there are many factors that affect teen suicide. So anyway, I'm afraid that people are going to think like, oh, like Mike thinks that teen suicides don't matter or something. Or like Mike thinks that teen mental health is like not a problem in America. That's not remotely what I'm saying.

What I'm saying is it's more tricky to measure these things than it seems. I think you've been clear and any haters are just anti-Hobbs. Thank you. That's their bias. This is the hateration and holleration that Mary J. Blige was talking about. So, OK, so that's just like a factual overview. Michael, the references you drop in any given episode are so preposterous.

It's because my brain stopped developing in like 1999. And so I just look at my phone now and I watch R.E.P. Vine videos. This is the most contemporary reference I have. It's all Harambe jokes. That's when my brain stopped. He then turns to the causes of why teens are sad. He says that a lot of the other proposed explanations for the teen mental health crisis don't really make sense. And I kind of agree.

I kind of agree with this. I feel like there's the sort of counter narrative to like the phones are making kids sad. People will often say like climate change is making kids sad or like school shootings are making kids sad. Honestly, that's always felt kind of like as one dimensional to me as the smartphones explanation. So the first thing he talks about is the financial crisis that like, well, maybe kids started getting sad in 2010 because like their dads were unemployed.

Right. Or their moms. But that doesn't really make sense timeline wise because you have this massive increase in unemployment and then it steadily goes downward. Like the country has been getting better on like economic indicators ever since. And yet teens start getting sad in 2010 and they keep getting sadder. So if this was meaningfully related to economic conditions, the teens would be doing better now than they were before.

in 2010 and they're not. There's been other economic crashes, right? In 2001, we had this huge economic crash and like we didn't see teen suicide spike. Yeah. The relationship between economic conditions and like teen mental health is just not an easy one to one thing. He also mentions climate change. This is another thing that you hear that, you know, kids are bummed out because the world is heating up around them, which it absolutely is. But

there isn't actually any evidence for this explanation. There's a lot of evidence that kids who experience hurricanes or wildfires have higher rates of PTSD and anxiety, depression, suicide. All that stuff is true. Those disasters are increasing due to climate change, but

It's kind of not enough to explain an entire generation that is showing these higher rates of depression, anxiety. It also can't explain why girls seem to be suffering so much more than boys. It can't really explain why we see these big spikes in 10 to 12-year-old kids who are just like less aware of news events in general. Right.

And it's always seemed a little one dimensional to me just because like we've had climate change as like a really major political issue for like 20 to 30 years now. And we haven't seen any spike in mental illness among teens until recently, until 2010. I wonder whether maybe not climate change specifically, but one of my sort of like general layperson guessing at what might be driving this sort of things is that like

Social media bombards you with things to be concerned about. Yeah. If you're 11 or 12, you might not process that on a analytical level very well, but you do get this like impression that things are bad. Right. Things are bad.

Things are bad. The future is bad. This is also one of the weird things is that people oftentimes bring this up as a counterpoint or like a debunking of the social media is making kids sad narrative. But then it's like, OK, well, why are 12 year olds sad about climate change? Oh, they're watching videos on TikTok about climate change all the time.

which then kind of brings you back to social media is making kids sad. I want to just throw another theory in the mix. What about the rise of the Tea Party? This is the thing you could say. You could say it's like the rise of kids watching anime or like listening to K-pop. There's a million other things that happened between 2010 and 2020. I don't know why you're just throwing those out like it's a joke. Both of those reek of mental illness to me. The other thing that is a little bit tricky for this is the international comparisons.

He said, you know, people oftentimes point to school shootings and kind of America's insane culture of guns. But you also see increases in teen mental health problems in Canada and in some countries in Europe, some not. But it's like this is relatively broadly an international phenomenon. If it was anything specific to America, you wouldn't be seeing these massive increases, especially in the English speaking world.

The fact that you see bigger increases in English speaking countries than in like parts of Western Europe where fewer people speak English is actually an argument for social media that like people in Australia are consuming a lot of American news. Right. And so maybe they are getting sad about American stuff, even though it doesn't necessarily affect them. What a shitty country we have that we're making Australians sad, you know?

But then, so after he goes over all of these things that don't explain teen mental health, right, the financial crisis, climate change, et cetera, he then basically says, well, it has to be social media because nothing else explains it. Hmm.

As like a methodology, I don't think that like you've discarded two other explanations. Therefore, your explanation is true is like a very robust way to do it. Like you could easily say like, well, it's not the financial crisis. It's not climate change. So it must be vaccines. Right. Like you have to actually offer evidence for your view. You can't just debunk other views. One of the problems that I'm starting to see with his argument is that he's sort of reliant on your view.

prior intuition that this is true when, yeah, he hasn't quite done the work. But but again, I still sort of agree because I think this makes intuitive sense. But then what's so weird about this book is, you know, the first chapter is this very detailed overview of the teen mental health crisis and a little bit about the causes, like things that don't really explain it. I was expecting then like, OK, we've established the teens are sad.

what is the evidence that the cell phones are making kids sad? Right. He doesn't really do that. He then moves on to this kind of sub argument in the book that kids are too protected in general, right? This is the thing that he mentioned, the coddling of the American mind. He's fucking sneaking in the coddling of the American mind argument. This is three chapters, but I'm going to kind of merge them. It's part two of the book is the decline of the play based childhood. God damn it. And he says we've moved from a play based childhood

to a phone-based childhood. I was just going to complain about like generalists and the dangers of stepping out of your lane as an expert. And as quickly as I was about to say it, he just sort of turns back into his lane. He's like, all right, here's this thing I already wrote a stupid book about. And large sections of this are true, right? Like it's a huge bummer that American kids don't walk and bike to school anymore. You know, people live in the suburbs where they're way too spread out. It's like,

He's kind of correct about this. But then you also start to see his weird penchant for kind of overstating harm and speaking about all of these trends in this kind of weird black and white way. So here is a little section from chapter four. Smartphones and other digital devices bring so many interesting experiences to children and adolescents that they cause a serious problem. They reduce efficiency.

interest in all non-screen based forms of experience the child will spend many hours each day sitting enthralled and motionless except for one finger while ignoring everything beyond the screen and then this is from a little bit later are screen based experiences less valuable than real life flesh and blood experiences when we're talking about children whose brains evolved to expect certain kinds of experiences at certain ages yes a resounding yes

Communicating by text supplemented by emojis is not going to develop the parts of the brain that are expecting to get tuned up during conversations supplemented by facial expressions, changing vocal tones, direct eye contact, and body language. We can't expect children and adolescents to develop

adult level real world social skills when their social interactions are largely happening in the virtual world. I don't this doesn't sound totally wrong to me. It sounds although it's sort of like this does feel a little more old man yelling at cloud than some of the prior arguments where it's like, yes, the mode of communication is changing. If you imagine that it is

replacing in full face-to-face interaction, then there are real downsides. But it's also just sort of its own thing, right? And them being good at it has benefits for them and will continue to have benefits for them in the future when, for example, they're

you know, talking to their colleagues on Slack or whatever the fuck. And also whether it's replacing in-person interactions is an empirical question. Yes. In here he says their social interactions are largely happening in the virtual world. That is straightforwardly not true. There's these time use surveys where they survey thousands of people and they're like, what did you do today? And like,

Teens 15 to 18 spend more time with their friends than any other age group. They are in school all day. Right. Kind of by definition, they're spending eight hours a day with their friends. That's in-person time. And again, when I got out of school, I would sometimes hang out with friends for a couple hours and then I was just alone in my room for the remainder of the night. That is what childhood used to be like. There's also this thing. I think people say this about kids all the time that like kids don't know how to socialize anymore.

Right. Kids are on their phones. They're not hanging out with their friends. Again, this is an empirical question. And I found various attempts to actually measure this. There's a really interesting study where they looked at like teacher assessments of kids' social skills, like how well are kids socializing over time. And they found no change. Like there just isn't evidence that like kids are worse at socializing.

making small talk, making friends. Maybe it's true, but we don't have any evidence of it. And for this, I put out a call to just like people on Blue Sky, like, hey, do you have kids between 12 and 19? Can I talk to them about their social media use? I also talked to a lot of parents. This is not, I mean, obviously it's not a remotely representative sample, but like every single teenager that I talked to for this was like, yeah, if you're with your friend and he's on his phone the whole time, it's fucking rude. And I'll be like, hey, get off your phone. Like, just like adults do. If you want to tell me that creepypasta

cruising TikTok can fuck up your ability to think critically about like politics and cruising Instagram can skew your perceptions of reality. That's very intuitive to me. But the idea that like this is messing up kids communication skills is

It looks more to me like communication is evolving. Yeah. I mean, when I was talking to my friends on AIM, sometimes my parents would be like, why aren't you talking to them in the real world? And it's like, well, this is what people do now. I don't know what to tell you. Also, if you're 14 years old, you don't have a car. You don't have any independent way to go see your friends. Again, you are stuck in the fucking house. Yeah. Like...

I honestly, I have an intuition that some of this stuff is an improvement, right? Because you get to socialize a little bit more than you were previously able to. He also in the section talks about how the risk has been taken out of real life play and all of the risk has been moved online. So we're going to watch a clip from one of my favorite podcasts. Here's this. This is from Maintenance Phase, I swear to God.

So tell me, what was your policy with your kids, with all three, on when you let them out, like they could go out the door, get on a bicycle, walk seven blocks to a friend's house without any adult with them? Do you remember what age or grade? No, I don't. I mean, it's fine if you live in a good neighborhood. But the problem is if you're, you know...

Childhood predators are real. Not really. Not anymore. What I mean is, well, when you and I were growing up, there were childhood predators out there in the physical world approaching children. And I think you said there, you told a story about one who approached you when you were doing magic tricks. So there were child predators out there. That's true.

They're all on Instagram now. Instagram, and especially Instagram, makes it super easy for them to get in touch with children. So this is my point. I can summarize the whole book with a single sentence.

We have overprotected our kids in the real world and underprotected them online. I would agree to that. So, you know, yes, child predators are terrible, but guess what? We actually locked up most of them. You know, when you and I were growing up, they weren't all locked up. They were just eccentrics who were exposing themselves. Remember flashing flashers? What? You know, that doesn't happen anymore. Because if you do that now, you're going to jail for a long, long time. What's going on here? So we actually locked up most of the predators, and they know, don't approach kids on a playground, don't.

Approach them on social media. I don't know if we are doing that. Okay. I'm sorry. Just hearing two morons who are like wrong about these things, but in opposite directions is insane to listen to. He has a whole chapter about this. He basically says like, yeah, we made this mistake in the 80s and 90s by saying they were child predators and kids were going to get kidnapped. And like that resulted in all this like extra safetyism around kids. But now...

the strangers are online and the danger is real. Yeah. It's like, wait, so you're debunking the stranger danger panic and then just repeating the stranger danger panic, but saying it's on the internet. Joe, you're invested in the wrong moral panic. I know. That's what it is. I was like pulling my fucking hair out this entire chapter. Also, minor point, but we're,

flashers viewed as just like eccentrics? I don't know what the fuck he's talking about with flashers. I mean, this is clearly somebody who has not thought about the basic data behind a core argument of his book. It's not that we used to have a bunch of predators prowling the streets and now we don't have them anymore because we locked them all up. It's that there were never predators roaming the streets in the first place. But also the idea that we locked up all the predators

conflicts with his other thesis that they all went online. I just don't get what he's saying. And also anyone, this was where, I mean, I really was doing my best with this book, but this was where I lost any confidence. Like a person who talks about the threats of,

two children as like strangers that they do not know rather than their parents, their soccer coach, their fucking priest. Anyone who speaks like this is just not a serious person. The minute you look at actual data on child online exploitation, it is all

almost exclusively someone they fucking know. It is like your boyfriend posting revenge porn. It is your fucking soccer coach DMing you. There's a really interesting survey of 2,500 law enforcement agencies. So they get all of the records of all of the child exploitation cases. And in only 8.5% of cases was the perpetrator someone they met online. The patterns of online exploitation are

match, mirror perfectly the patterns of offline exploitation. Yeah. This thing of like people meeting kids online and like, you know, kidnapping them or whatever. This is a thing that happens just like, you know, kids do get kidnapped by strangers and murdered. It's extremely rare. Right. And,

In the actual literature, there's a lot of really heartbreaking stuff in the literature that this whole kind of thing of predators will like, you know, pretend to be a 15-year-old boy and then like trick you into getting nudes, whatever. This generally doesn't happen. Most of the kids who actually do get victimized by these kind of online predators in the rare cases where it does happen, it's mostly kids in like foster care.

or kids in traumatized situations, kids who've experienced abuse, whose parents are around. It's basically kids who get no positive attention at all. And all of a sudden there's somebody online who's like, wow, you look really pretty. Right. Someone who's like notably and uniquely vulnerable to that sort of situation. Exactly. It's the same vulnerabilities that we see in offline exploitation. Right. And it's kids who oftentimes they

Right.

God, I, sorry, my brain got very scrambled by listening to those two. I know, I know. I don't think I've ever like sat down and listened to or watched a full episode of Joe Reagan, but I've seen clips or whatever. And the idea that like young people are listening to shit like this being like, this is intellectual. I know, I know.

That's my moral panic. The other reason I wanted to watch this is because listening to John Haidt, it does just sound like a guy who's like saying stuff. This book is not remotely rigorous. It's actually really shocking to me that it's had such an impact. I think mostly because it's telling people something that they want to believe. Yeah, and already believe. I interviewed more teenagers for this. I interviewed more experts for this. And I interviewed more teachers and researchers for this episode than he interviewed for his book. Oh.

As far as I can tell, in the text of the book, he interviewed one actual teenager about what they do on their phone. He does not appear to have engaged with any researchers other than the one that he's already collaborated with. He hasn't spoken to any teachers about what it's like in their classrooms. He didn't speak to any psychologists. It's so annoying that I'm doing an approximately as rigorous episode about Eric Adams. Every evening I have...

Two drinks. And then I watch Eric Adams clips and start outlining a Books Could Kill bonus episode. Again, I do think that there needs to be a societal conversation about this, but I do not think this is the person to be leading this conversation. This is the kind of thing where I feel like the book got popular because it's just giving intellectual heft or the appearance of intellectual heft to this intuition that we all have. Yeah. So that you can say...

Hey, phones are fucking our kids up. And then everyone's like, yeah, definitely. And you get to be like, there's a book about it. And that's how I know this is real and serious. Yeah, I agree that the decline of outdoor play is bad.

It's just that he's super reductive about what exactly is good and what exactly is bad and what we should be doing, right? It's just lazy, honestly. It's just like, I don't mean to be fucking snooty, but it's just someone who's not intellectually curious. It's someone who's just like pushing a really simple narrative and isn't that interested in identifying a supporting set of evidence. But do you want to get snooty and talk about the evidence? Yeah. And snoot it up. Yeah. So as I said earlier,

Haidt doesn't really have a dedicated chapter or anything of just the evidence on how kids are harmed by the smartphones. He sort of just takes it for granted in the book that this is obvious and this is happening. So the book is more about like how smartphones harm kids and why smartphones harm kids. He's much clearer on his sub stack. He has an entire sub stack and a Google doc of all.

all existing literature on this subject. And he's very straightforward about the fact that he believes smartphones are the cause of the mental health crisis among teenagers. He's not like, there's an association that we should look into. He has a blog post called, Social Media is a Major Cause of the Mental Illness Epidemic in Teen Girls. Here's the Evidence. So when I went into this episode...

I thought it was just going to be really obvious that like if you look at the data, kids who use smartphones more are more depressed and kids who use smartphones less are less depressed. And it would be really clear. And then me and you would have this this like detailed conversation of like correlation versus causation. And like, yeah, what does this mean? Right. Like that's what I was expecting to get into in this episode. Yeah.

But it turns out that's not even true. So this is from a 2020 summary of like, what have we learned about teens and internet, social media, everything in the last 10 years? And I think it's a good summary. It's in kind of academic ease. So I had to condense it a little bit, but this is a good overview. Small associations still exist as adolescents who report more depressive symptoms also tend to report spending more time online.

Essentially, the research is all over the place at just the most basic level.

Are kids who are on their phones less happy than kids who are not on their phones? We can't even really say anything definitive. And to the extent that we do find associations, they're extremely small. And another thing that you find in the literature is this turns out to be like remarkably difficult to study. So the first problem is how much are kids on their phones?

The vast majority of the data on this is from these huge surveys that they give to like tens of thousands of kids every year. Do you remember these? You'd like go to homeroom and then you'd have a questionnaire with like 300 questions on it. And it would be like, how much do you do drugs? How much do you drink? How much money do your parents earn? It would just ask you like a million things. I have absolutely no recollection of this. Do you not? I used to lie on them because I thought it was funny. I would just fill out like, yes, coke. Yes, I impregnated somebody last week. Now I'm upset. Do I?

have I completely lost it? Like,

a memory of something that happened to me many times or did they just not they didn't even bother with my school the way this works is you give these surveys to tens of thousands of kids a year and then you make the data available and people can comb through it for all kinds of stuff right there it's hundreds of questions many of them and so you can correlate like kids with divorced parents are more likely to be left-handed or like whatever the fuck right that's why they get divorced yeah and so in these data dumps they they ask kids about their social media usage and they have all kinds of questions about their mental health and

But the problem is that people of all ages are terrible at estimating how much time they spend online. Uh-huh. Yeah. So like if I asked you yesterday, how many hours did you spend using like looking at a screen not related to work? 24. That's probably true. It might actually be easier with you because you're always online. Every week I get that screen time notification because I forget to shut it off. And every week I'm like, ah, oh my God.

That's why I don't have mine on because I genuinely don't want to know. You know, I don't either, but I immediately forget about it as soon as it goes away because of the brain poisoning that the screen does. So there are studies where they like put things on people's phones and then, you know, later on they ask them, how often are you on your phone? And then they compare like actual data versus what people say. And they're off by like 30, 40, 50 percent. We just don't really know how much kids are on their phones and like

what they're doing. There's also one of the other problems is they now, because these studies are updated every year with like new, you know, they weren't asking kids about smartphones in like 2002, obviously, because they didn't exist yet. So they're always updating these things with new technology. Starting in 2013, they did start asking kids like, how often are you on social media, right? This is like the rise of Facebook and Instagram is like a big deal in teenagers' lives.

But the frequency responses, so kids were asked, how often are you on social media? The choices were a few times a year, once or twice a month, at least once a week, or almost every day. So no data, no data is being collected. Yeah, so basically every kid put almost every day because the kids were already by that point on social media all the time. Dude, what 80-year-old was like, how many times a year are you online? Yeah.

My boomer parents were like checking their email once a day in 2013 for sure. There's also like the earliest studies on this. So we start getting these like kids are on their phones and they're sadder studies in 2018. Yeah.

And a lot of them are using data from this time where they weren't even asking kids about social media use. They weren't differentiating between different types of like internet devices. So they would just ask, how many hours a day are you on a screen? And then it would say like, this includes Xbox and Facebook and email. Right. One of the main things that I learned from talking to researchers over the last month is that this whole concept of screen time is just such fucking garbage. Right.

Screen time includes like reading, you know, going down a Wikipedia rabbit hole. And it also includes like watching pornography. Like it just is not useful to talk about screen time as being harmful. But most of the data that we have about kids is just how much are you on your screens? I guess Wikipedia versus porn is the strongest dichotomy you can make. But like, but if you're trying to figure out what's rotting the kids brains, you would need to separate out every app, every different use of every different app, et cetera. It becomes...

There's just so much going on. There are so many different variables that to call it screen time is just sort of clearly not great. There's also something very funny. I felt really old when I was speaking to the teens for this, that all of them said that messages, like the text message app that we use, is like what they use to communicate with old people. And actual kids always communicate on Snapchat or Instagram through DMs. Whatever. Get a job. Get a job, kids. Yeah.

But this is the thing. So even if you're measuring how many hours a day are you on Instagram, a lot of that's just like texting with their friends. That's not actually, you know, looking at images of, for example, like women that are potentially going to give you an eating disorder. Like the kinds of things that we associate with social media harm, even if you're measuring how much time they're on Instagram, that doesn't necessarily account for that. Right. So.

So that's kind of the first problem with these big quantitative data dump studies. The second problem is something that I've become so fucking radicalized on. It's very easy to design these studies to get the result that you want. You can pick different statistical controls. I saw so many fucking weird statistical controls in these things.

You can determine like what you're measuring. So one thing is a lot of studies use these broad umbrella terms of like well-being. How much does being on your phone affect your well-being? And they'll pick sort of 10 or 15 questions from these big data sets and they'll say like, oh, this is well-being or sometimes they call it like life satisfaction. But it's like totally arbitrary what you put in those things.

And with the kinds of statistical software that people use now, it's really easy to be like, okay, if I control for income, what does it say about cell phones? Oh, it says cell phones are fine. What if I control for income and education? Oh, it says cell phones are bad. Okay, I'll control for those two things. And all of these statistical decisions kind of look defensible in a vacuum, but they're

But when people publish papers on this, they don't publish, okay, here's all of the other models that we ran. Here's all of the other statistical techniques that we used. For all we know, they're trying a thousand things and they're picking the one that gives the result that they want. So big picture, the data sucks.

And when you look at what we do have, there's no clear answer. There's no clear answer. And even like I think this whole like exercise of combing through fucking data sets and looking for associations is such bullshit. The one that John Haidt really like stakes his reputation on, he works with this researcher named Gene Twenge, who I reached out to, tried to have a phone call with.

She didn't want to do that, but we did email back and forth about some methodology stuff. John Hyde is working with her, and they get into this big fight with these other two researchers named Amy Orbin and Andrew Schabilsky, both of whom I also interviewed. And they have this big, long kind of methodology, years-long methodology fight about how to measure these things. And it sort of culminates...

In Orban and Chbilsky running this like huge meta-analysis where they basically ran a bunch of different scenarios. Like if you control for this, if you didn't control for this, they run something like 3 million different permutations. And they find that in essentially all of them except for a few, you don't find an association between social media and depressive symptoms. This is sort of like how Paul Atreides' son finds the golden patch. Yeah.

I mean, basically, you're like, I was going to say Dr. Strange, who does like 16 million scenarios and only two of them have us beating Thanos. It's basically they're like in a tiny minority of scenarios, like statistical analyses, do you find any association? And when you do find an association, it's a really small effect. They said it's roughly the same as the effect of kids who eat potatoes.

like, low depressive symptoms and kids who are on their smartphones. You have to control for Britishness as well there. So there's this one study that sort of aims to, like, end the debate. They're like, look, we barely find association. When we do, it's so underpowered that it's, like, on par with eating potatoes, which is basically meaningless. And then John Haidt and Gene Twenge then published this paper. They're like, no, we reran it with different controls. And we actually found a much larger effect in this study.

What they seem to think is the sort of culminating work on this. Like, okay, we finally ended the debate. They have this table with all of these different effects. And it's like, how much do various things affect teen depression, right? And they have social media is like way higher. It's like a 0.2 correlation, which in any other...

Yeah. Study is like considered very weak. What if you combine that with the effect of eating potatoes? Then where are we? This is the thing. So they're trying to be transparent about like how big the effect of social media is. But even in this like allegedly argument ending study, the effect of social media is still smaller than kids who eat breakfast every day.

OK, and when you sort of circle back to the statistics that Haidt was referencing in terms of like hospitalizations for self-harm, right, that's where like in the UK he was talking about a 400 percent increase nearly. Yeah, I guess the point being, if that fact.

directly from social media use, then surely you can produce more than the tiniest sliver of a percentage change here. Yes, exactly. And something that is not on par with something like eating breakfast, where we know that that's reflecting other things, right? It's probably people whose parents tend to be at home and have time. Yeah, a little more family stability, et cetera. Yeah, it's like it's a reflection of other things. And then if we're then putting it on par with like kids who eat breakfast, it also compares it to kids who eat fruit. It's like

barely more important than kids who eat fruit every day. It's like, okay, well, if those, we can all acknowledge that like eating breakfast, that's not what's causing the depression, right? It's obviously a cluster of other things. Well, then maybe social media is a cluster of other things too. I'm just like, I'm so sick of these studies where they're just like, oh, we found this correlation between this thing and that thing. I just don't think that you actually understand complex social phenomena this way, like through these averages. So I really was planning on going much deeper into the quantitative debate and like the methodology fight.

But in the end, you realize that the debate is between the academic consensus, which is that there's essentially no connection at all. And on the other side, John Haidt and Gene Twenge, who say that there's an extremely small effect, which does not prove cause and is highly contingent on like a very specific set of parameters. Yeah. So.

So there really isn't that much of a debate. Like there's not that much to go into. Everybody agrees that we're not really looking at something strong and obvious here. Right. There's also like if the argument is that social media causes kids to feel depressed, we should be able to capture that in other ways. Yeah. So one of the things people start doing in the 2010s is they start doing longitudinal studies, which is like you track the same people over time.

Right. If cell phones are causing kids to be depressed, then we would find like kids who get cell phones at age 11 are going to be depressed earlier than kids who get cell phones at 13. And these don't really find anything. Most of the longitudinal studies don't actually find like kids are fine and then they start using their phones and then they're depressed. The majority of them actually find the opposite effect that if you follow kids who are depressed, you

You find them over time using smartphones more. That doesn't mean that it's like irrelevant, right? I mean, if smartphones are something that makes depressed kids more depressed, that's something that like we need to take seriously. Like that's not a null result, right? But we don't see this kind of tobacco metaphor of like, I was fine and then I got a phone and now I'm sad. Right. That's not really something that shows up in the longitudinal data. We also have diary data.

data where people write down like every day, how is your mood? And then oftentimes they'll either have like a tracker on their phone for like how much are they using social media? Or they'll also write down like how much was I on social media today? And you don't find associations between on days when I was on social media, I was more depressed. In the book, John Haidt kind of attests

attempts to show that social media is causing mental health. So one of the studies that he mentions numerous times is an experiment at the University of Pennsylvania where they got 143 undergraduates. And for half of them, they told them to only check Facebook, Snapchat, and Instagram 10 minutes a day. They limited them to very little social media use. And after a month, they

The undergraduates were happier. They were less depressed and less lonely. Okay. And so he's like, all right, if you stop using social media, you're happier. Yeah. I mean, this is obviously like a very small study and, you know, undergraduates are not a remotely represented sample. But the much bigger problem is that 80% of the participants in the study dropped out before a month. Right.

And the researchers say like, yeah, we probably shouldn't have given them extra credit at the beginning of the study. We probably should have waited. Incredible. Until the end of the study. Incredible. These are the people who believe that they know what's best for children. And also I think people who dropped out of the study, like people who can't hack it are probably the people who are like less happy. Right.

Like the only people who are going to stick with it are like, yeah, this is working really well to not be on social media. So I'm going to stay with this study. So it's like, well, yeah, for some people, they're going to be happier. But if 80% of people drop out, you're basically removing all of the people for whom this did nothing. Yeah. Another argument that he makes is that it's not that it's making individuals sad directly, but it's destroyed the social environment.

So a school where like everybody has a smartphone is an environment where it's harder to make friends, it's easier to be lonely, etc. I actually find this relatively interesting as a hypothesis. However, there's also no real evidence for it either. Right. But this is one of the theories that he gives for causality. And this is one of the studies that he uses as evidence for this. Right.

So let me send you this. There is one small but important class of experiments that does measure group level effects by asking, how does a whole community change when social media suddenly becomes much more available in that community? For example, one study took advantage of the fact that Facebook was originally offered only to students at a small number of colleges. As the company expanded to new colleges, did mental health change in the following year or two at those institutions compared with colleges where students did not yet have access to Facebook?

Yes, it got worse with bigger effects on women. The authors found that the rollout of Facebook at a college increased symptoms of poor mental health, especially depression, and led to increased utilization of mental health care services. So this is like a natural experiment. Remember how Facebook rolled out to different colleges? I do remember, and...

I was going to say, I was in college when this shit was happening. So like I have a vague recollection of the Facebook rollout. Are you sad? Is that why you're sad? I do feel like it made me sad. I don't know because I like...

it's hard to explain how minor of a cultural phenomenon it was at the time. Like it was popular, you know, but it wasn't something that was like a big part of anyone's life. So this is another study that is like a little bit implausible. It basically shows that as Facebook rolled out to different colleges, those colleges experienced almost a one standard deviation increase in

mental health problems. So a huge effect. They say it's 22 percent as serious, like as big of a deal as losing your job, just getting Facebook at your college. When Facebook rolled out, it was literally just like you have a profile and people can look at it. Yes. Thank you. So there's a very good critique of this study written by an economist named David Stein, who's like, this does not hold up for like two fucking seconds. So remember at

At the beginning of the book, Haidt says, we're talking about Instagram. We're talking about like social media, you know, likes, retweets, doom scrolling, algorithmic feeds. Facebook rolled out to colleges in 2004. It was still called the Facebook at the time. There was no news feed. There were no smartphones. And when you got it, it was like it wasn't even the second most popular social media. This was the time of Friendster and MySpace. If this structure is so harmful to mental health,

that you experience almost a one standard deviation increase in mental health problems at all these campuses. Why didn't Friendster and MySpace have any effect? Doesn't this fuck with his timeline of like this all really got kicked off in 2010? This is another thing that he does throughout the book where he does this very kind of responsible sounding scoping exercise in the introduction. He's like, we're not talking about things before 2010 or the internet. We're not talking about porn. We're not talking about video games. But then throughout the book,

He cites studies that were done way before 2010. He talks about video games. He talks about pornography. He talks about broadband internet. He has an entire chapter about boys, even though the mental health effects on boys are much more modest. And his own correlations don't show any link between social media and mental health for boys. He has a whole section where he talks about the pandemic. Are we going to talk about the boys thing? Because it is

It's wild to think that we're looking at like massive, devastating impacts on young girls and boys are just like scrolling Snapchat, like just doing great. Yeah, he doesn't – I mean he does have a chapter about girls and he has a chapter about boys. And he attempts to sort of explain why it's so bad for girls. I mean one of the arguments that he uses is like they're more prone to predators than

which we already established isn't true. He also says that a big part of it is cyberbullying for girls, which the minute you dig into the literature is also... It's not as much of an urban legend as the sexual predator stuff, but it is much more overblown than it really is among kids. So bullying has been going down both online and offline. Bullying has been going down steadily for the last 20 years. And so if...

Yeah.

And she said like, yeah, when you talk to teenagers about their mental health, they don't cite cyberbullying all that much. It does come up for some kids. But in general, it's a lot more kind of social anxiety of like specific things driven by the Internet. So one thing she mentioned was that like, you know, maybe you go on Venmo and you see that like one friend Venmo'd another friend for like movie tickets. And you're like, wait, are they seeing a movie without me? Yeah.

Right. Or you'll go on Instagram and you'll see photos of a party that you weren't invited to. Yeah, yeah. Or somebody uploads a photo of you but they don't tag you. Right. Or like the kids that I talk to mention this too, that sometimes somebody will upload like a really bad photo of you. And you're sort of like, did they do that on purpose? Like to make fun of me or to make me look bad? Or is it just, you know, they don't think I look bad in the photo or it's kind of an honest mistake. And then it's like, oh, well...

should I write them and say something? But then that kind of starts all this drama or like, should I just ignore it? Like, do I like it? Do I not like it? She said one of the things that really has changed qualitatively in the experience of teenagers is, you know, people are so concerned when you're that age of like, where do I fit in the social hierarchy? And now there's just so much more information. Who else is hanging out? What are the parties that I wasn't invited to? Like when I was in high school, there were thousands.

Yeah, exactly.

Exactly. And it's like the forms of social exclusion that people can use, whether it's deliberate or not, whether it's bullying or not. People, you know, you can just watch people do things and have fun without you. And I do actually think that it's like worth reckoning with as an as an actual change. And again, I continue to be intuitively in agreement with the with the idea that all of this social media use matters.

It just has to have some negative impact on children. Like there's just no way it doesn't. It's too much of a sort of sea change in how we engage with the world to not have a big impact on mental health in at least different areas, right? And to me, that resonates as like a very simple, realistic way that it would impact the average person where like,

I think everyone has had some experience where like you're a teenager and you find out your friends hung out without you. Yeah. And you're trying to figure out, was it intentional? Was it not? Do they just not care? Are they are they like very actively excluding me? And yeah, if they were just like posting pictures of it, maybe that intensifies those feelings. And I got to say, like this issue really opened up for me. And I feel like I came to a more productive way to think about it after I started reading the qualitative studies.

So Emily Weinstein has a really fascinating article where she just interviewed 30 kids who tried to kill themselves. These were kids who attempted suicide and survived. She speaks to them after this and talks about their relationship with social media.

So here is an excerpt from that study. She calls this kid P24 in the study, but we're going to call him Scott. This is a 15-year-old boy. Scott explained that there are challenges associated with social media, but, quote, there are still so many pros. Among key benefits for him, social media is an important source of connection and self-expression. He also values opportunities to digitally seek, receive, and offer social supports.

Scott appreciates that he can reach others fast when struggles arise. Being able to talk to multiple people means he can hear different perspectives and get better insight. Scott also values using social media to share his artwork, connect with other artists, and get feedback and inspiration.

Yet he describes downsides, too. Quote, you can get ignored or you get less feedback than you hoped. It makes me insecure, unquote. This feeling of insecurity intersects with metrics related stress, for example, not getting enough likes on his posts and unmet friendship expectations when his friends are unresponsive or fail to offer the support he hoped for.

Self-expression can be helpful to, quote, clear my mind and reset my thoughts, unquote, but can cause problems because, quote, I get angry. I say words that I don't really mean. And so is social media good for kids? Yes. Is social media bad for kids? Yes. Yeah. That's the sort of intuition I have. It just can't be untrue that there are downsides. It can't be untrue that there are upsides.

The question, like the fundamental question is, can we suss these out? Yes. And is there anything to be done? Yes. And that's a much more complicated question than like our phones destroying the children. Yeah. I just think that like our phones good or our phones bad is just an insipid way to look at this.

The kind of conclusion that I came to from reading like studies of various methodologies is just like there are some kids for whom being on their phone is deadly fucking poison. It's so bad. Yeah. Right. There are also some kids that it's good for that really benefit from the fact that they can like keep in touch with old friends. I talked to one girl who just moved and her new school is like on Zoom or it's like only one day in class. And social media is the only way that she keeps in touch with her old friends like three states away. Yeah.

And that's like a really important lifeline for her. I once had a best friend who moved 20 minutes away and we just straight up never talked again. Exactly. Like there's it. It just kind of depends on the kids. And it's interesting when there are some surveys of kids where kids actually say this. So in the infamous, like leaked internal Facebook polls where they talk to their users about like how much is Facebook and Instagram harming you? About 20 percent of kids said, I feel worse when I use Instagram.

And that appears to be the high watermark. I mean, some kids feel worse when they use Instagram. So they just don't use Instagram. And it doesn't really have like a, you know, a systematic effect on their mental health. Some kids do. Some kids can't stop themselves. There's also a Pew poll where they ask kids how, you know, how has social media affected your mental health? About 9% of kids say that it's been really bad for their mental health. And about 40% of kids say that it's been good for their mental health. And 40% say that it hasn't really had any effect at all.

And I think that's like a way to look at it, that there's some percentage of kids for whom this is really bad and they probably shouldn't be on their phones or they should have them limited or something. But we don't know how big of a percentage that is. It's hard to identify those kids in advance. And another thing that Emily Weinstein told me, which I think is really important, is that the harm of social media is very different for different kids.

So she said for some kids, it's just like it keeps them up late. Yeah. It doesn't really matter what they're looking at, but it's like the adrenaline of social media just keeps them up and they don't get sleep. Kids, I'm right there with you. Yeah. This is why I love Blue Sky because at midnight, there just aren't any more posts. But then for other kids, the thing that is harming them is going to be like radicalizing content. For other kids, it's just going to be kind of like transphobic.

Trance-like scrolling on TikTok, just kind of mindlessly scrolling, compulsive use right there with their friends, but they can't stop themselves from reaching from their phones. For other kids, it's going to be eating disorders. Again, our phone's bad or our phone's good. It's just not a useful way to think about this. Yeah. I mean, you see some outputs of like what must be social media, sort of social contagion or whatever the fuck they want to call it, where it's like women in their 20s

are getting Botox at crazy rates, right? And you're like, this feels like the output of Instagram. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That as a quote unquote harm can be sort of isolated, right? And separated out from like

Like this other person is getting radicalized by right wing YouTube and this other person is being kept up. Right. Like these are all very separate problems. Problems. Yes. Yeah. But, you know, are they a single problem? I think the answer to that is no. It's so much easier to talk about this and think about this with older technologies. So in his chapter about boys.

Haidt has a whole section on video games. And he's like, you know, I was originally going to say that video games are just bad for boys. But when you look at the literature, it turns out for some people it actually improves their hand-eye coordination. For some it's like a social lifeline. Dudes rock, baby. It's true. If you think about it, most people play video games and it just doesn't have that much of a role in their life. For some people, video games can be a real like social thing or they get into e-sports or whatever. Like it can be really wholesome. And for some kids it's really fucking bad for them.

He says around 7% of kids who play video games have like a really toxic relationship with them and they get addicted and it's compulsive and they do it too much. And it's sort of like, well, yeah, that's probably the same with TV, right? If you look at previous technologies, you know, the automobile has also had great benefits for human society and huge drawbacks. And those just all kind of exist at the same time.

And it's like only with social media that people want this like really one dimensional explanation. Right. And it just hasn't really been true with any previous technological advance. So he looks at video games and basically gives them the nuanced treatment that he should be giving social media, which is what his whole fucking books about. It's also very funny. He has like a little debunker where he's like, well, what

about the benefits of social media? And then he's like, well, a lot of that's based on self-reported data and a lot of the definitions aren't actually clear with what they're saying and a lot of it's correlational and it's like, John. Right. That's the problem with all of the data and research. All the fucking data for the benefits and the drawbacks. It's all like, it's just really hard to say anything definitively.

I'm probably speaking a little too broadly here, but it almost makes no sense that all of the benefits have data problems and none of the stuff about drawbacks has data problems. Those two things can't quite sit side by side. So I do think this book is maybe a kind of airport book that we haven't really talked about before, where it's a book that is diagnosing a

Yeah.

is the solutions. He's very clear about the fact that these will have large and major and rapid effects. So he says, if most of the parents and schools in a community were to enact all four of these recommendations, I believe they would see substantial improvements in adolescent mental health within two years. So these are big effective changes. They are one, no smartphones before high school.

Two, no social media before 16. Okay. Three, phone-free schools. Four, far more unsupervised play and childhood independence. I have to say there's nothing too outlandish in there within the context of this book. All four of these honestly sound fine to me. Yeah. It's interesting that in a book,

that is kind of written by this reactionary centrist guy, he comes to, I think, pretty justified conclusions. Yeah. But then one of the weird paradoxes of this book, in the same way that we started out by saying all of these kind of fundamentally contradictory statements...

All of these solutions, I think, are basically fine. Although I would quibble with things like no smartphones before high school, no social media before 16. I think parents are in a better position to... Yeah, that's a little aggressive. You know, your kid might be in a position where it's appropriate for them earlier. But kind of like he sort of admits this. He's like, yeah, whatever. Like also parents can be flexible. It's not that big of a deal. But even though I agree roughly with all four of these recommendations, this is by far the worst section of the book. And so...

Once we get into the solutions section, this is the final third of the book, he separates the solutions into what companies can do, what governments can do, what schools can do, and what parents can do. So we're going to start with what governments and tech companies can do to solve this problem. His core recommendation is to raise the age of internet adulthood to 16.

He points out that, you know, we now have this thing of like, you must be 13 to use Instagram or whatever. But like, you literally just tick a box. You're like, yes, I'm 13. Or if it's a porn site or whatever, you tick the I'm 18 box. But there's no actual verification.

So he says that we should basically bump this up to 16. He says that's not necessarily for like using the internet. Like it's fine for kids to be on the internet. Like they're whatever, using Wikipedia to write essays for school. That's all fine. But as far as setting up social media accounts, we should raise the age from 13 to 16.

This basically would involve some way of verifying kids' ages. Yeah. If you raise it to 16, there's just going to be a box that says, are you 16? And you tick the box. What if when you create an Instagram account, you get a message from someone asking you for a pic and then you send the pic and they judge whether or not you look like you're

Right. Right.

One option is using a network of people to vouch for each other. So some sort of like peer to peer thing like, yes, this person is over 13. He says issuing a blockchain token to anyone who is verified once by a reliable method. Yeah. I don't know what that means. I stopped reading it. Blockchain. No, no, no, no. Let's let's drill down on that.

What if at birth you are assigned a Bitcoin? Another option is using biometrics to establish identity. Yeah. No, this is great. We got blockchain, biometrics. Biometrics. I like how immediately his solutions are drastically more dangerous than the existing problem. He says he also has this kind of like weird cockamamie thing. He says...

Clear, a company known for rapid identity verification in airports, is now used as a quick way for its clients who previously verified their age to prove that they are old enough to buy alcohol at stadium events. That's what you want. Let's make Clear the most powerful entity on Earth. I know.

So essentially, like whether or not you think that this thing of raising the Internet age to 16 is a good idea or not, it feels like almost like a moot point to me just because the way of doing it would be more problematic than the system we have now. Yeah. Or at least like introduce new variables that no one really understands or knows how to control. He kind of admits this. He just says there's not at present any perfect way of implementing a universal age

Right. He also... The only other kind of, like, specific thing that he mentions is...

There's various legal efforts to do something along these lines. The closest thing we have in America is this thing called the Kids Online Safety Act, or COSA. I think one of the real problems with this book is because

He's a reactionary centrist and like a both sides guy. He can't look at a law like this and notice that it's just a very obvious Republican moral panic law. Right. I was going to say, isn't COSA is the law that is like.

Okay. I'm trying to – well, all right. Yeah, I'm not going to remember accurately what it's about. I just remember that there's like huge civil libertarian objections and concerns from the LGBTQ community. This is the actual text of the law. I've condensed this down from the legalese, but this is roughly the core of the law. It says –

Mm-hmm. This is one of the clearest examples of moral panic legislation I've ever seen. It's basically saying it's illegal for tech companies to harm teenagers, but...

that's so broad that it can be interpreted in almost any way and it leaves the sole authority for determining that up to state attorneys general. And so if an attorney general just says, oh yeah, it harms kids to come across things that like, oh, you might be transgender. Well, that's harming kids. That's causing them to be depressed. They could then strip that from the internet and like essentially censor or ban it very easily. And

The co-sponsor of COSA, Marsha Blackburn, has said the purpose of this law is to protect minor children from the transgender in our culture. The transgender in our culture? Yes, the transgender. Her name is Rebecca. There's one lurking. There's...

You see them in the distance like a fire golem in Elden Ring. When you have a law this broad, when we don't have a clear definition of really what the problem is, and we have no evidence on this at all, you're essentially just handing a huge amount of power over to whoever defines the term harm. This is a major...

with many sort of vague bullshit laws that shouldn't be passed. But like the essence of this law is like, what if we made it illegal to hurt people? This is, I think, the output of...

Yeah. But also it's just fundamentally stupid. You don't need to like contextualize it that much to realize it. OK, so then so that was what governments and tech companies can do. Pass the dumbest law in the world. Have we thought about this? Yeah.

So the next section is what schools can do. Hell yeah. So I'm going to send you his little vignette where he starts to say why schools should ban cell phones. Mountain Middle School in Durango, Colorado, went phone free back in 2012 at the start of the mental health crisis.

The county around the school had among the highest teen suicide rates in Colorado when Shane Voss took over as head of school. Students were suffering from rampant cyberbullying, sleep deprivation, and constant social comparison. Voss implemented a cell phone ban. For the entire school day, phones had to stay in backpacks, not in pockets or hands. There were clear policies and real consequences if phones were found out of the backpack during school hours.

The effects were transformative. Students no longer sat silently next to each other, scrolling while waiting for homeroom or class to start. They talked to each other or the teacher. Voss says that when he walks into a school without a phone ban, quote, it's kind of like the zombie apocalypse. And you have all these kids in the hallways not talking to each other. It's just a very different vibe. It's like we used to have phones and everyone was silent and sad. And now you have you hear laughter in the hallways.

He says this. He's like, wow, they're hearing like the peeling of children's laughter because there's no phones. I mean, you laugh when you're looking at social media, too. You laugh because you see a great joke cyberbullying one of your classmates. Yeah.

Well, I look, I I don't know. I don't know where exactly we're going, but I'm I I think that sounds like a good policy to me. And I'm I'm ready to believe that it works, at least in some regards, that it makes the school environment better. So this is the thing is I actually like the idea of banning smartphones in schools. I think I've mentioned before that one of my best friends in Seattle is a public high school teacher and.

Phones are the fucking bane of his existence. You know, it's like whenever you're doing like a little lecture thing and then you're like, okay, we're going to break up into groups. Every kid pulls their phone out and then you got to be like, okay, put your phones away. Do this. Yeah. One thing that John Haidt actually mentions in the book that I think is relatively insightful is that the

there's also this huge problem of fucking notifications that you're sitting there with your phone in your pocket and it buzzes and you're like, okay, was that like, is that my mom saying, Hey, you need to get home right now. Or is that just like a breaking news alert? It's the worst sub stack that you subscribe to just publish a new post. I think that's like a real thing of like fracturing kids attention and having, you know, I like, I'm like that. This is why I put my phone on do not disturb most of the time is because if I feel it buzz in my pocket, there's like a little,

Yeah, yeah.

And most of the problem is actually with enforcement. So most of the kids I talked to already went to schools where they banned phones. And they said that like at the beginning of the school year, it's like, we're banning phones, no phones out. And they're really strict about it. But then over time, people kind of drift.

And then, you know, you have your phone out for a second. You're like, oh, I'm just using the calculator. And they're like, OK, OK, OK. And then before you know it, after like a month, kids are basically on their phones most of the time. Right. And one thing my friend, the public high school teacher, says is that like it's really unfair to kind of leave this enforcement up to the teachers. I just thought of a solution. You know how phones have airplane mode. What if there was a school mode?

And there's an app where the teacher controls it. And school mode only allows 911 and a calculator and maybe like text from one number. You get to get text from your mom or something. I was going to say EMP. Blast it. And just like shut down all the phones. I would like to do that in movie theaters too while we're at it. There's many places I would like all of the phones to die. Actually cut my idea from the podcast. I'm going to call Google and I'm going to become so fucking rich.

School mode. This is why I think it's a much better idea for schools to have these much more comprehensive policies where like you just put your phone in like a weird little locker at the beginning of the day. Yeah. And you get it back at the end of the day. Yeah. This is what my friend wants in his school. Him and the other teachers have been pushing for this all year. It's mostly parental resistance, actually, because they're like, I might need to

contact my kid. That's interesting. And I think that it's framed often as a problem with children, but like parents who aren't used to having any separation from their children. No, exactly. All of a sudden, with the advent of smartphones, you don't really ever need to not be in contact with your kid. Yeah. And so some school being like,

There's now going to be an eight hour block where you're not every single day. Probably feels pretty overwhelming to a lot of parents. I do support this policy. However, this thing of like everyone was a zombie and now there's laughter in the hallways thing. It's just not true because we've had these phone bans in place for so long. There's tons of studies on the effects of.

phone bans in schools. So there's a really interesting natural experiment in Spain where two regions of Spain passed laws saying all schools have to ban smartphones. And so you can compare them to the other regions of Spain. And they saw a 15% reduction in bullying and a pretty modest but

noticeable increase in test scores. There's one in Denmark that shows that kids did more physical activity at recess because they took away their phones during recess. There's one in Norway that was reported as saying students had better mental health after a bunch of schools banned smartphones. But

If you read the actual study, the schools didn't ban smartphones. They just made kids turn their phones on silent. And it's a little implausible that they would have such a large effect. And the study hasn't been in a peer-reviewed journal. So in general, studies seem to find extremely modest effects. And most of those effects are measured by teacher perceptions. I do favor these bans. I mean, partly because, like, I think if teachers perceive things,

kids to be doing better, that's like worth noting. Like that's not, that's not nothing. Yeah. But height starts that anecdote by saying, you know, Ooh, before they banned phones, the school had a problem with bullying and sleep deprivation and social comparison. And now they don't have those problems anymore. And like smartphone bands just aren't going to affect that kind of stuff. Kids can still bully each other after school. Yeah. Kids can still overuse smartphones.

their phones. Haidt is quite explicitly proposing this as a silver bullet, and it just isn't one. Not without school mode, and for only $500,000 a year, you too can subscribe. You did read the four-hour work week. You're already on the phone to India hiring people to do this for you. I want that New York Times magazine piece about me where...

With the moody picture of me sitting in a chair like the man who changed school. So that is his, I think, good suggestion for improving schools for the mental health of teens. Here is his slightly less convincing suggestion.

He says that schools should become more playful. And here is his little vignette that he opens this with. One constant of these airport books is that whenever someone uses a cutesy little new term, you know they're about to say something very stupid, but you don't know exactly what it's going to be.

All right. Kevin Steinhardt, a fourth grade teacher at the Central Academy of the Arts, an elementary school in rural South Carolina, realized he was having the same conversation over and over with teachers and parents. Students were struggling and many seemed to have little resilience, perseverance or ability to work with others. The adults were all talking about the students fragility, but none had any idea what to do about it. Kevin was stumped, too, until he attended a conference at the nearby Clemson University on the benefits of something pretty basic free play.

With his school's blessing, Kevin started to incorporate more free play into students' lives by making three changes. One, longer recess with little adult intervention. Longer recess. Two, opening the school playground for half an hour before school starts to give students time to play before class. Early playgrounds. Three, offering a play club.

Anywhere from one to five days a week, school stays open for mixed-age free play. From 2.30 to 4.30 p.m., instead of going home, children spend time together playing. It's a no-phone zone. The kids are given nearly complete autonomy. Like a lifeguard, adults intervene only in the case of an emergency. Autonomous kids. In the very first semester, he made these changes. Kevin started noticing a shift in his students. Quote, "...our students are happier, kinder, have fewer behavior problems,"

Thank you.

Okay. So all three of these three solutions are just recess. Yes. More recess. One is longer recess. Two is recess before school. And three is a recess after school. Yes. And also height mentions kind of briefly in the next couple paragraphs of this play club thing of like kids can play after school.

he's describing this huge turnaround, right? Like the kids are happier and everybody's making more friends. This play club after school thing was only one day a week. So he's essentially saying that like longer recess and early playground being open and one day the playground is open late just completely transformed the school. Maybe my experience is not representative, but...

When I was a youth, there was recess before school. Like you arrived and you were dumped off onto the playground unless it was like raining or something. As we see so much in this book, it's like he doesn't really do any of the empirical work to be like, are kids not using the playgrounds? Right. Or like, how are you stopping them from using phones in the recess? So he then...

This is going to sound like I'm like cherry picking, but he spends so much time in this book talking about playgrounds. Okay. He has this whole thing of like we've de-risked

the American childhood and like kids should be falling off of the playground structures and like skinning their elbows and like that's that's part of Childhood is like learning how to deal with stuff and like we're not doing that anymore And so he goes on and on and on about just like played like they have better playgrounds in Europe and they have a junkyard Playgrounds where you can like play around on tires and ropes and stuff should be every playground should have rusty metal spikes. I

He has a thing. There's like I guess there's like nature playgrounds with like bales of hay and kids can work together to like flip the bales of hay. That's just something that broke schools say. They're like, yeah, this is a nature playground. So another one of his major things with having playful schools is to do something called no rules recess.

So here is his description of this. I need to get my brain straight for No Rules Recess because it sounds like it's going to be fun as hell. Consider the No Rules Recess at Swanson Primary School in New Zealand. Before No Rules Recess, students had been forbidden to climb trees, ride bikes, or do anything with any risk.

Freedom group.

The Freedom Group. The Freedom Group. Swanson was in the Freedom Group and Principal Bruce McLaughlin decided to go all the way. He scrapped all rules and let kids make their own. No rules. Recess. Fucking pay-per-view challenge recess. ECW. ECW.

The result? More chaos, more activity, more pushing and shoving on the playground, and also more happiness and more physical safety. More safety. Rates of injury, vandalism, and bullying all declined. Boom. What? Boom. I'm telling you this. You tell nine-year-old me no rules...

Rates of injury around me are not declining. Kids are getting fucked up. The thing is, it's easy to sort of not notice this because he's talking about this as like part of a study. But like this is essentially just an anecdote for one principle. There's only one of these schools went to no rules recess. And if you read the actual study, it appears that schools that tried this like freer kind of play at recess didn't.

had no more physical activity among the kids and had slightly more bullying. And it even says in the study, it says, overall, schools liked the intervention and reported many benefits, including increased physical activity. However...

these beliefs did not translate into significant differences in objectively measured physical activity, either as counts per minute or as minutes of moderate to vigorous physical activity. All of that extra physical activity was the first two minutes after you said the words no rules to the children. Yeah.

Just immediately started punching each other. And you're like, oh, the cardio. They just get amped. They start charging around, punching each other. And then they tuck themselves out. And also keep in mind, this is not a mental health intervention. This is an intervention aimed at increasing physical activity among kids. And I personally think that like increasing physical activity among kids is like a very worthwhile goal. Like that's awesome.

Yeah, it's not one to one mental health. Right. Yeah. It's like maybe that will have some improvement. But it's like we're already two degrees of separation away from the alleged outcome that we want. And also there's been a ton of these like playground equipment studies projects over the years because they're really fucking easy and people like it because you don't actually have to address the real challenges of the kid. You're like, oh, let's spend one hundred thousand dollars on improved playing equipment.

And like they almost never work. There's a analysis in the UK that said that, you know, the average kid in the UK gets 78 minutes like throughout the course of the day and after school and everything of recess. Improving playground equipment results in three extra minutes of activity during those 78 minutes. It's like we just don't see effects. You need a control group with no rules social media use.

We've removed the porn blocker on the Wi-Fi network. Have at it. How are those kids doing? This actually kind of goes into our like one book theory because what it's essentially proposing here, as we saw in Fucking Nudge, as we've seen over and over again, is that this

among like centrist American elites to have these technical fixes without having to address any of the underlying drivers of the problem and without having to spend any real money. One thing these folks love is the implication that like the people in charge of stuff are bullies.

big dumb assholes. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. There are simple, easy interventions that like, you know, these know-it-all libs are blocking for one reason or another. But if we just implemented them, society would be so much better. So the final

set of solutions that he gives us is like what parents can do what can parents do and i kind of get this before but large sections of the book are dedicated to his idea that we're in the midst of kind of like a spiritual crisis we've created lives that don't have meaningful activities in them spiritual like things that really feed our soul um this is sort of a

of the like final chapter of an airport book where they've like gone off the rails and the scope of their project has become too big. Yeah. And so the final chapter is like

The massive metaphysical crisis facing America today. The solution, recess before schools. Okay, so here is his, one of his descriptions of the spiritual crisis that we're in. Durkheim showed that nearly all societies have created rituals and communal practices for pulling people up temporarily into the realm of the sacred, where the self recedes and the, Jesus Christ, what is happening?

You don't read Durkheim? Oh, God. Durkheim wanted better playgrounds. Where the self recedes and collective interests predominate. Think of Christians singing hymns together every Sunday in church. Think of Muslims circling the Kaaba in Mecca. Think of civil rights marchers singing as they walked.

Durkheim called this state of energized communion collective effervescence. But what happens when social life becomes virtual and everyone interacts through screens? Everything collapses into an undifferentiated blur. There is no consensual space, at least not any kind that feels real to human minds that evolved to navigate the three dimensions of planet Earth.

Okay.

In short, there is no consensual structuring of time, space, or objects around which people can use their ancient programming for sacredness to create religious or quasi-religious communities. Consensual sacredness. Everything is available to every individual all the time with little or no effort. There is no Sabbath and there are no holy days. No holy days. Everything is profane. Okay.

What the fuck is that? Watch your profanity. Living in a world of structureless anime makes adolescents more vulnerable to online recruitment into radical political movements that offer moral clarity and a moral community, thereby pulling them further away from their in-person communities. There's no effervescence. The problem with the kids, they're not effervescent. This is a message to all potential airport book authors.

You don't have to talk like this. You don't. This isn't something you need to do. We're putting this on the loudspeaker at Davos, Peter. The problem, lack of collective effervescence. The solution, 30 minute recess before schools. Also, I can think of a lot of experiences online that I felt were

examples of a collective effervescence. Like, I don't think he was around when we bullied Iggy Azalea off of Tumblr. When Trump got COVID. Yeah, dude. That night on Twitter. That was some of the most intense collective effervescence I've ever felt in my fucking life. Chapel Roan. That's collective effervescence, right? Whatever's happening there. The thing is, I also really want to point out that he is fucking wrong about this. Right. So first of all, I don't know what the fuck he means with like, there's no time difference.

or sacredness on the internet. That's just not true. Secondly, this is the only place in the entire book that he talks about radicalization, maybe because he knew he was going to go on fucking Joe Rogan and talk about it. This is clearly not an issue that he takes seriously at all. And third, yet another reason why he is the worst possible pundit to be leading this conversation is that he is a libertarian and he doesn't want any content specific moderation by social media companies.

So if you look at the actual literature on radicalization, there are specific beliefs that predict radicalization. And a lot of them are things like in-group dominance, like thinking that you're part of a group that is superior to other groups, believing that you are experiencing relative deprivation, right? That like,

Black people are getting all the jobs, but like you can't even be a white person in America anymore. Negative attitudes toward the government and the political system, like they're all out to get you, conspiratorial beliefs. But these are things that he cannot address because they require acknowledging that right-wing radicalization is a much bigger problem in America than left-wing radicalization. But he has dedicated his entire career to pointing out left-wing radicalization. All he can do is make this incoherent argument that,

the virtual world is this desiccated black and white version of social interaction that is also so good that it's tempting kids out of their real life relationships. What we need is more religious fervor.

is never an argument that's going to like really sit well with me. But he seems to think that online interactions are qualitatively worse than in-person interactions. Right. And every interaction that's online is bad. And every interaction that's in person is good. And like I read a couple articles about the panic over TV. Right. Kids are on their screens too much in the 1980s. And it was the same thing. It was like everything on TV is bad and everything that's not on TV is good.

And it's like, well, you can read radicalization literature and you can watch a fucking David Attenborough documentary on TV. It's really silly to say that the medium is more important than the content. I like the idea of trying to get more spirituality and more like, you know, less self-centeredness and more reflection in our lives. I think that's really great. But it's not the case that that isn't available online. And it's not the case that like this sense of the lack of collective effervescence is what's causing this.

political radicalization. Whenever conservatives, like moderate conservatives, point to the decline in church attendance as like a sort of sign of the downfall of these in-person communities, it's

The question that pops up to me is like, why are the communities where church attendance is very common and popular some of our most politically radicalized? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm just not entirely seeing it. And it feels like a lazy analysis that's only looking at half of the issue. Is solution for this, like, you know, what parents can do to foster this kind of collective effervescence among their children is a much greater focus on in-person activities and

His first recommendation is just like more kids doing sports, which honestly seems great to me. I have no problem with that. But he says, research consistently shows that teens who play team sports are happier than those who don't. Humans are embodied. A phone-based life is not. Screens lead us to forget that our physical bodies matter. If you think that intramural sports would help, then just say that. Don't talk to me about collective effervescence and then be like...

And the solution, more soccer. And then if you go to the footnote, he acknowledges the fact that just because kids who play sports are happier does not mean the sports are causing them to be happier. It could be that happier kids play sports. Yeah. Like he does this a lot where he just says that like you should get your kids to play sports because like sports will make them happy. And then you go to the footnote and he's like, oh, it might just be they play sports because they're already happy. And you're like, sorry, that's not like a footnote.

Right. That's the thing you got to figure out, Jonathan. He spends the rest of this section talking about how kids need to spend more time in nature. And he has this whole thing about awe.

Kids need to be awestruck more. And when you're struck by this sense of awe, like I'm small in the world and you're looking at like majestic mountains and a sunset that it grounds you in the physical self. And he recommends his students at NYU to go on awe walks in New York City. What is an awe walk? It sounds like a rare bird.

You all know what an aww walk is. Everyone knows what a fucking aww walk is. Wait a minute, wait a minute, wait a minute. I have the text of the book in front of me. Hang on. Trying to learn what an aww walk is. Thank God I have my phone right next to me. He's talking about this guy that he listened to. He says, after hearing Docker in a podcast conversation describe the aww walks he took while grieving his brother's death from cancer, I decided to add a session on aww and

beauty to the undergraduate flourishing class that I teach at New York University. Folks, no. When your professor starts talking about, he's like, we're now entering the beauty portion. Get up and leave. I told my students to listen to the podcast and then take a walk slowly anywhere outside during which they must not take out their phones.

The written reflections they turned in for that week's homework were among the most beautiful I've seen in my 30 years as a professor. Some students, you'll love this, Peter. Some students simply walked slowly through the streets of Greenwich Village around NYU, noticing for the first time the architectural flourishes on the 19th century buildings that they had passed many times. But the most powerful reports came from those who walked through parks. One student, Yi Mei, began her AWW walk in Washington Square Park, which is the green heart of the NYU campus.

It was a perfect April day when the cherry trees were in full bloom. What the fuck? These kids have never walked in Washington Square Park. If you go to NYU and you're like, I just walked through Washington Square Park for the first time, I don't know what to tell you. You need to reevaluate the way that you exist. This is wild.

I wasn't planning on going into this as much. No, no, no, no, no. Here's why I can't go to Washington Square Park just to give you an impression, just to give you an understanding, because there are so many fucking NYU students there.

What if they're ruining the awe of everybody else by being there? My first Washington Square Park experience was my first trip to New York. I was like 13 and my mom bought us tickets to rent and I hated it. So I left at halftime and went to Washington Square Park and bought weed. What the fuck is... But I was in awe being stoned walking around New York City. Do you go on awe walks in Astoria, Queens? Is that part of your day? No, I don't go on awe walks. I live a normal life where I just live...

At my desk and in my phone and then I watch TV at night until I get a headache and I go to sleep. That's what...

that's what life is about you gotta grab it by the horns the thing is i like this is one of those things you can't really like disagree with because like should people be more awestruck yeah i mean great fine but like people react with awe to different things i am making fun of this idea but you should obviously go on walks yeah i think what i'm really reacting to is when professors try to do holistic life shit yeah yeah and it's like

Why don't you teach me what you're an expert at instead of telling me to go on a fucking walk? You're not my therapist. You were my professor. I also did a decent amount of reading on this because I think that the flip side of a moral panic is a moral bandwagon when all of the elites in a society decide that a specific thing is good. And I think that...

Very similar to remember in the 90s, it was like play your kid Mozart and their IQ will go up and they'll like be able to speak French or whatever. And everyone just kind of decided that classical music was like intellectually nourishing. This is what they envisioned a smart person doing. It's just like listening to Mozart while doing math or whatever. There's this entire field now called nature based interventions where it's like people will go on nature walks. There's a whole subfield of like forest bathing.

interventions. I came across something called therapeutic gardening. There's surfing therapy. It's this whole idea that like just being outside is intrinsically good for you. Yeah. All of the data on it is just fucking garbage. It's just like people went on a 15 minute nature walk and then we asked them afterwards, like, are you less depressed? And they said, yes. I'll bet. It's like, yeah, people like taking breaks. Yeah. We have a fucking...

forest bathing studies that I've read was like a day long forest bathing intervention. It was like a hot spring thing somewhere in Japan. And it's like people felt better after a day, essentially at a spa. Like you're basically taking a day away for free and like just hanging out in nature. And then researchers ask you, like, how do you feel? And you're like, yeah, I'm pretty relaxed. Right. It's like, yeah, people like days off. Yeah. Might have gotten the same effect from people playing video games all day. There's a lot of selection bias in a lot of these studies where it's like,

Wow. People who go on walks say that they like them. It's like, really? People who enjoy going on walks are going on walks? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Wow. What an insight. You know, you need to flesh it out a little bit. I want to talk a little bit about what I think is one of the harms of the book. I don't want to go overboard because we've read way more harmful books than this, but

I think when we find like, you know, bad parenting and harmful parenting, it's often along the lines of like, you must do this specific thing, right? You must become a doctor. You must do ballet, right? You have this very specific thing in mind. And Haidt is basically doing this with like nature. He has this idea that like being outside is intrinsically good for you and being on your phone is intrinsically bad for you.

This just doesn't show up in the literature at all. There's tons of studies on extracurricular activities. And I read this really interesting, almost like philosophical meta-analysis of this that, you know, you constantly see these econometric studies that are like, you know, kids who played baseball were 6% less likely to be depressed than kids who didn't play baseball or whatever. And what that actually means in practice is that kids who play baseball, some of them are more depressed.

some of them nothing, and some of them are less depressed. And so you're talking about like a normal distribution, like a bell curve. And that bell curve kind of moves back and forth depending on the activity. But for any activity, some kids are going to like be more depressed after they do it. And some kids are going to be less depressed after they do it. It's not

really about the specific activity. It's whether or not the kids like the activity and they get an in-group identity from that activity. And so some kids really love nature. And I think every kid should be given the option of going out in nature. I think it's a great idea for parents to like introduce their kids. Like maybe you really like hiking and camping. Let's try that out, right? But some kids don't like fucking nature. And that's fine. And the most harmful thing that you can do to a kid is, you know, you go on a camping trip and your kid's like, oh, this isn't really my thing. And you're like, no, we're going to go next weekend. You're going to do something outside because it's

good. Yeah. Yeah. And that's awful. Like what is so important for kids is finding groups that give them meaning. And that's going to be different for every fucking kid. It took me so long to realize that I just hate running because so many people told me, if you just get out there after that first couple of miles, you're going to feel incredible and you're going to want to do it for the rest of your life. I tried to make myself a runner for so long before I

one day I, it just sort of hit me when I heard someone talking about this that I was like, I fucking hate that. In this study, they do talk about how the specific activity matters way less than they say, like the micro level components of the participation or whatever, which is basically academic ease for like, what's the specific of the situation, right? So as far as outdoor stuff goes, I was in a boy scout troop, which was like one of the worst things that ever happened to me. Like,

Our Boy Scout leader was like an alcoholic who like used to show up drunk and like give us beer at like 16. And then the two Scout leader dudes were like psychopaths that like would make kids eat out of the dumpster as like an initiation thing. What are you talking about? Seriously. And like even at like age nine, I was like, I don't think initiation is like a part of being in Boy Scouts. I think this is bad. Right.

And like, that was my experience of the outdoors. That's what Teddy Roosevelt would have wanted. The main thing I took from the study was that the intrinsic structural components of any extracurricular activity are not going to be so powerful that they overwhelm the specific dynamics that you're thrown into. So like at your school, maybe the soccer coach...

is like a complete fucking asshole and the head of the chess club is like a really good dude who creates a really wholesome, supportive environment for kids. The fact that soccer is outdoors

And chess is indoors. It's just not that important ultimately. Or maybe you just don't like chess. But there is something out there that will become a positive outlet for you. I don't want to make it sound like I'm making fun of the concept of like therapeutic gardening or like surfing therapy. If you like surfing, it's going to be therapeutic. If you like gardening, it's going to be therapeutic. And like I spoke to kids for this who got a huge amount of meaning and community from their activities online. Right.

And it would be really weird to, like, force those kids, like, out into the wilderness in the same way that it would be really weird to take a kid who, like, really loves hiking and camping and, like, force them to go inside and write fan fiction. Now, those kids need to be writing Twilight porn. Yeah.

All right. So before we get into my sort of wrap up thoughts on the book and the main bigger reason I think this solution section is bad, I just I have a little section of my notes called like, what is this guy's fucking deal? And I just want to watch a clip because I it brought me to a sort of grand unifying theory of Jonathan Haidt. OK.

What most alarmed me when I heard the Tristan Harris podcast was the ease of influencing American kids to be pro this or pro that on any political issue. Right. You're seeing that with Palestine and Gaza. Yeah, I think so. Well, it's very obvious with many things with TikTok. Yeah.

trans stuff and there's a lot of different things that they're encouraging and you know people that are opposed to that are being banned which is also very odd and specifically like female athletes we had Riley Gaines who was the female athlete that competed against Leah Thomas and

She has said that male, biologically male athletes should not be able to compete with biologically female athletes because they have a significant advantage. And she was banned from TikTok just for saying that. Yeah, that's right. So this relates to the larger issue that we talked about last time and that I hope we'll continue to talk about today, which is that we've

Social media has brought us into an environment in which anyone has the ability to really harm anyone else. There's an extraordinary amount of intimidation available via social media. And so this has led the leaders of all kinds of organizations to run scared. Greg Lukianoff and I saw this in universities. Why don't the university presidents stand up to the protesters who are shouting down visiting speakers? And then we saw it in journalism, newspapers and editors who wouldn't stand up for journalistic principles.

And so I think what has happened here is that social media allows whoever is angriest and can mobilize the most force to threaten, to harass, to surround, to mob anyone. And when people are afraid to say something...

That's when you get the crazy distortions that we saw on campus or that Riley Gaines was seeing, too, just that people are afraid to speak up. And in a democracy, in a large, secular, diverse democracy, we have to be able to talk about things. It's like you can't even say certain things anymore without everyone getting mad at you online.

Riley Gaines is still on TikTok, by the way. Yeah, of course. I don't know what the fuck he's talking about. Whatever. When you listen to his interviews and when you really go through the book, you don't get the sense of somebody who truly cares about teen mental health. You get the sense of somebody who hates social media. Yeah. The experience of social media that he's describing here, where like everybody's walking on eggshells and you can get yelled at at any time and it's bringing out the worst in people.

That is not the experience of like a 13-year-old girl on Instagram. That is the experience of a middle-aged, center-right political pundit on like Twitter and Substack. Throughout this book, he shows no interest in what kids are actually doing on their phones. Like you learn nothing about teenage social media use from reading this book. Like I think there's something more complicated to this than just a straightforward moral panic. But he speaks about social media online.

the way that previous moral panickers talked about TV and video games. God damn it. He says in this like awestruck section of the book, he says, social media is a fountain of bedevilments. It trains people to think in ways that are exactly contrary to the world's wisdom traditions. Here we go. Think about yourself first. Be materialistic, judgmental, boastful, and petty. Seek glory as quantified by likes and followers. Yeah. Here's this dumb conservative bullshit. One thing that

is sort of easy to forget about all of his solutions is that none of them are about teen mental health. All of his solutions are about getting kids off their phones. You see it with the way they were talking about Gaza. They just believe that there is no way

that young people could organically be left of center. Totally. That young people are just sort of looking at the course of events in Palestine and siding with Palestinians. There's surely something off here. It's perhaps the Chinese trying to meddle or something similar. I also am

like fairly uncomfortable with like, you know, this guy's kind of out in front leading this societal conversation about this issue. And like the way that he speaks about actual teenagers is really stigmatizing. And this analysis of just like they lack resiliency. They're too fragile. They've been coddled their whole lives is a terrible starting point.

for a useful conversation about how to help treat mental illness among teenagers. Yeah. And one thing that I found when I spoke to Amy Orban and Andrew Schabilsky for this is that both of them said that like a much more productive way to think about this is not like social media is harming teens. A

better way is there's a teen access to treatment crisis in America. Teens have some of the highest rates of mental health problems and some of the lowest rates of access to care. And when I talked to Emily Weinstein, this researcher who's interviewed hundreds of kids, she said like the most important thing that sticks out to her is that like kids want recognition. Kids want to feel real. They want to feel like adults. They want to feel like they're being listened to.

And there's nothing in John Haidt's book, like for all of his advice to parents, right? It's all about like controlling the way that they use the internet. There's nothing about just like, make sure your kids know that you love and support them no matter what, right? That's a way bigger predictor of teen mental health problems than what they're doing on their phones. Well, it doesn't feel like that's Haidt's like fundamental concern, right? It feels like when you listen to the

Rogan clip, it feels like what he's talking about is like, are you sort of losing control of your child's life in ways that are hard to pinpoint? Like your child's politics are drifting and they're becoming sexually active, for example. And you, the parent, are confused because not only are these normal things happening, but they're happening within the confines of

Right. Right.

There's actually a lot that we can be doing. There's a lot of stuff with like screening and intervention. You know, we know a lot of the precursors of like very severe suicidal episodes. And a lot of it is like experiencing bullying. Oftentimes kids who bully other kids are at very high risk of suicide. I read a really interesting article about like the role of school nurses in just like identifying like, oh, this kid might actually be struggling or there might be some things at home.

There's also some like logistical things that he doesn't seem all that interested in. There's actually some evidence that states that pass anti-bullying laws basically requiring schools to have anti-bullying plans and policies in place have lower rates of suicide. There's also things like restrictions on firearms.

Like boys are four times more likely to kill themselves than girls and they tend to use firearms. Right, right. You know, the greatest predictor of killing yourself is having a previous suicide attempt. So those kids really need to be watched and understood. Kids that have other mental health conditions that they're struggling with. It's like there's logistical obvious things.

that we need to do to address the teen mental health crisis, but those require resources, right? I mean, it's something that he sort of mentions offhand in the book, but doesn't really dig into is like, poor kids are more likely to kill themselves than rich kids. And they're also more likely to use their phones than rich kids. And whether or not you think that's causal, like,

That's where the resources need to go. There are things that are directed at the people who are at the highest risk of mental health problems that he just is not interested in at all. And this is sort of another manifestation of his general lack of interest in

in the nuance here. I think you can probably ascertain that social media has negative effects on certain kids in certain situations in certain regards. And you can either drill down on that or you can be like, well, then we got to get rid of phones. What about the odd walks? Are the kids walking in Washington Square Park? Are they looking at trees? Let those kids loose in Washington Square Park.

I think like a busing plan, a nationwide busing plan, sending them to Washington Square Park. If you think kids are helped by walking freely around New York City, I want you to go speak to one young adult who grew up in New York City and tell me that that kid's okay. Ha ha ha! Ha ha ha!