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I love to shop online. Love it, love it, love it. But what I've been doing lately is I've been buying stuff and thinking, okay, if I don't like it, I'll return it. I feel like they're making returns harder. Like they just don't give you the return label in your bag. You have to go through your email. You have to go get a box. You have to take it and get it returned. So what I find myself doing is collecting a lot of shit that I'm never going to wear that I don't want and
Because it's like the return process is so hard. What's so hard about it? I just, I feel like there's so many steps to return nowadays. You have to go find the email to print the return label. Then you have to go back into the email and find why you're returning it. Then you have to go get the box. Then you have to take it up to the return. It's just hard to be pumped. It's just...
I hate returns anyway. It's gotten to the point where I don't even want to buy something because I don't want to return it. I'll tell you what. I take pride in returns. You do? I do. I used to not like them very much. But then I found this pack and ship place right by my house. They have UPS, FedEx, United States Postal Service, blah, blah, blah.
So if I buy something online, which I do often, try it on and I don't like it. I look through the box that was sent in or the bag that it was sent in. If I don't see a return label, I enthusiastically sit down at my computer, print that label and run it up to the pack and ship, which they enthusiastically tape up for me. We just send it right back. And then oftentimes within like two hours, you get an email. We're tracking your return. Like it's sent a notification to the people. See, here's my problem.
This particular dress that I bought, I have an account from like 100 years ago, like literally 15 years ago. An email account? An email account. Okay. Like I've had the account with the store forever. Gotcha. Okay. And so the email account that I had, I no longer have. So I bought this dress. It's delivered to me.
I need to go in my return. I need to go find the email for the return, but I can't get into the email anymore because I don't have the email. So now I'm sitting on this dress that I hate. Yeah. And I don't know what to do about it. And I guess the next step would be calling. Customer service. Customer service. And I mean, it just, that just, that whole process seems overwhelming to me. Like, I'll just take the hickey.
on the dress and just keep a dress I hate. No, you're stuck in a very precarious situation. It's bad. There's no question about it. And then I thought about doing the chat with the person on the internet, but isn't that a computer? Like when you're on the app and it says, do you want to chat or ask about sizes? It's not a real person, right? It's AI, which brings me to my grievance and what I've had it with today.
is AI. Really? I've had it. I'll be on Instagram and I'll see this like beautiful beach club. I'm like, oh, that's cool. I wonder where that is. Well, it's fake. It's AI. And then I'm scrolling and I see this adorable, fluffy French bulldog. I've gotten caught on that one.
It's fake. It's a fake dog. And so I don't even know what's real or fake anymore. And furthermore, don't make these really cute, perfect, photogenic Frenchies that we can't have because they're not real. Don't do this to us. And then apparently, I don't know if you know this, there are like AI people that have millions of Instagram accounts and they're not even a real person. What? Yeah.
So how do they post? Like the computer posts or somebody running the AI? I don't know. But there are fake people that have fake computer generated outfits, face, everything. And it's a complete fake account and people follow it and they get millions of followers, hundreds of thousands of likes, tons of comments.
None of it's real. Do people think it's real? I have no idea. See, that's what I worry about is people thinking it's real. I mean, you could turn that into a catfishing scam easily. Yeah. This AI person could do that with a million other people and say they're like this gorgeous, hot guy. Really, they're just a computer program. Right.
See, just a lot of fuckery. I have had the French bulldog one. When I was looking for Ollie, I was like, oh my gosh, that's the cutest little fluffy Frenchie I've ever seen. And it was AI. It's really disappointing. No, it's devastating. And imagine how, you know, like some lonely old guy or gal that lives, you know...
in rural America meets some AI person, gets completely catfished, which I think happens all the time. Right. Regardless of AI or not AI. You can just pull a Google stock image or whatever. But I've just had it with this artificial intelligence because it's like,
why don't we just post real stuff? Like, and maybe there can be an app, an Instagram for AI, but I don't want the AI stuff to get mixed in with the real stuff. I don't like the real stuff contaminated with the AI. I want,
one platform to just be pure. These are real photographs. These are real places. These are real dogs. These are real people. This is a real whatever the thing is. I don't want the fake shit mixed in with the real shit. No, I think that's a great point. Just have an AI Instagram.
You could do all your AI stuff on there. And it just goes back to there's just no oversight with any of this stuff. No, there's no oversight. And I feel like it's going to get worse as AI gets better. It's just going to get more and more prevalent where you don't know which is which. Yeah. Well, it's like with, you know, that chat. What's it called? Kylie chat. GTP, whatever. You know, like you can ask it any sort of question.
And it can basically write an essay for you. What? Yeah. Like for a college student or high school student? Yeah. You just say what the paper is supposed to be about? And it's not plagiarized so it can go through all those plagiarized programs? Yeah. See, I just feel like that's going to make humans dumber. Yeah. Think about how much dumber we're already getting. You and I were talking about this the other day.
There used to be an art to navigation. It was an art form, listener. Like if I was going to tell Pumps to meet me somewhere, to a place where she had never been before, I would give her directions because we didn't have navigation on our phones. And I would say, okay, you're going to head down Pennsylvania. You're going to turn right on this street. Then you're going to see this weird looking tree. You're going to turn left right after the tree, blah, blah, blah.
And if I gave good direction, she would say, oh, my God, you gave excellent directions. I didn't get lost one time. But then there were the people that were the bad direction givers. Yeah. And you'd kind of get gossiped about. Well, that pumps. She gives terrible directions. Terrible directions. But the situation is you had to troubleshoot. Right.
You had to, in real time, troubleshoot and problem solve how to get to your destination. Well, that's been completely removed. And I have to admit, I like the navigation. When I'm going somewhere, it guides you right to it. It will reroute you around, you know, wrecks and what have you. But I do think that the phones, smart phones, are creating dumb people. My kids can't go anywhere.
Even if they've been a thousand times without their maps because they're just not paying attention. They're so dependent. And I'm like, what's going to happen if your phone dies at some point? You have no idea where you are. They just don't care. They just assume they'll never be without their phone. And maybe they're right. Maybe they'll never be without their phone. But I just, I do think it's a problem when you don't know your surroundings at all and you're completely dependent on the maps. Yes.
Well, I think we're already seeing the problems with phones. When you look at the statistics of...
anxiety, depression, self-harm, all of these things with the generation that was raised with cell phones in their hands. The statistics are in and it's not good. Like there is a definite emotional toll and psychological toll that it has taken on people to not, even as something as simple as figuring out how to get to from A to B by yourself and
made you feel, oh, I did that. Right. Made you feel somewhat accomplished. When everything's done and figured out for you, then you don't have those little attagirl moments with yourself where you've been able to troubleshoot, solved a problem. Maybe you got lost, but then you were able to unravel out of it and actually find your destination. Those simple things, those simple ways that you can make yourself feel good about yourself are
are eliminated. A lot of those are eliminated by phones. Right. And I think a lot of things on the internet make people feel bad about themselves, especially teens. I think I read an article, and you'll probably know, but for every one picture somebody posts of themselves, it took like 100 shots to get the picture, plus they edit it. And so they're just completely unrealistic. And everybody on social media acts like, oh my God, we're having the best time ever. Right.
And really they're not. So other people feel bad about themselves. Well, they're not having fun because I've seen these people. I've been to lunches on vacation where I know that these people sitting next to me didn't enjoy their lunch because they were engaged in a psychotic way.
photo shoot. They didn't enjoy anything about it. Every bite was staged. The sucking up the pasta through the lips, 95 different photographs for that. It's fascinating to watch, but I know for sure that the Instagram feed that these people put out, because rest assured I found it, and what their lunch looked like were two completely different realities. These people weren't enjoying lunch.
They were creating content, which is work. It was a working lunch for them and an annoying lunch for everybody else in the restaurant because we had to watch these morons shooting their content instead of putting their phones down and enjoying lunch. I've had it. Had it. Welcome to I've Had It. I'm Jennifer. I'm Angie. She's the star of the show, America's greatest legal mind, and a scholar in...
A lot of thanks, especially clapping. I'm really good at that. She is Kylie. Hi. Hi. I've got some reviews for you today. I've got a five star from C sorrow titled hashtag team Jennifer. And they write these insufferable hags are to die for. Never before have I felt so seen as a 23 year old gay man. Although now I understand why the Trump supporters blindly follow their leader and
Every time Jennifer opens her Botox lips and says her opinion, I immediately agree. Hashtag team Jennifer. No hate to me, Ma, but Jennifer is just relatable like that.
That's nice. I never get the relatable ones. You are always get the more relatable. You're the leader. I appreciate. I appreciate that. Thank you, Kylie. You're welcome. Yeah. All right. Five stars titled Up to My Eyeballs. I started listening to your podcast about a month ago and I've just come to the conclusion you guys are definitely the worst influence ever. I found myself ironically and unironically using the word patriot more in the last week than I ever have in my life. Jen,
Jen and Pumps have nothing better to do than sit around and complain. And I've got nothing better to do than sit around and listen. Be proud. Be gay. Be I hipster. I love that. That's a patriot right there if I've ever heard one. You know what I love? What warms my heart more than anything on the planet is we're taking the word patriot back. I've had such a problem with all the MAGA people saying, oh, we're patriots.
You tried to overthrow the government, hang the vice president. Like, you're not fucking patriots. You are not patriots. They support a man who...
who wants an authoritarian form of government. Right. That is not, you can say that you're political, but you cannot say that you are pro-America. No. That just cannot exist. So I just, I love that we're taking Patriot back for people that believe in democracy. I'm here for it. I'm excited about it. It revs me up. All right, Pumps. Well, today we have a guest that is a sensation with the millennials. Yep.
And her social media name and nickname and kind of brand name is Tinks. She's a digital creator and advice expert, host of the It's Me Tinks podcast and New York Times bestselling author of The Shift. We're so cool. We have these cool millennial guests on. I must be younger than I actually look. We're cool. We're cool. Because we attract cool guests. We attract cool millennials. That's right. Yeah. Because we're young at heart. That's right.
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All right, let's welcome the digital creator, advice expert, host of It's Me, Tinks. Tinks, how are you today? I'm good. I'm so excited to be here. Thank you for having me. How did you come up with the name Tinks? Is that a nickname? Because I call her Pumps, which is like a great nickname, and I've called her that for like 20 years, but Tinks is also a great nickname. Yes, it was a nickname from when I was honestly super young, like 12, it just kind of stuck
It was my alter ego at first because I wasn't that confident. So I came back from summer vacation one year and said, oh, you guys, like this is my alter ego when I'm her, I'm really confident. And slowly but surely I just sort of became Tinks and the nickname stuck.
Sasha Fierce kind of thing. Yeah, exactly. Yes. Yeah. I love that. Here's the deal. We need to get petty tanks. Okay. We need to get as petty as all get out. So we want to ask you what you've had it with. The Cybertrucks had enough of those. They take up two parking spaces in LA where I live. I think they're ugly. I think they scream midlife crisis. And I think they're the physical embodiment of Elon Musk. So just about enough of those. Yeah.
Do you see these a lot in LA? I've never seen one. I saw one. You've never seen them? Oh, I haven't made it to Oklahoma yet. But well, there's a lot in LA. There's actually two on my street, if you can believe it or not. So those are pretty, yeah, those are pretty rough.
A Cybertruck. You've seen them. They look kind of like a, like a Mars, like a machine that would be on Mars. I mean, they're, it's, it's a next level, like little dick energy thing, in my opinion. Yeah. I'm the queen. I mean, I, I'm the queen of like spotting little dick energy because it's like the bigger your car, the bigger your tires are.
The bigger your track, almost always it's because you're overcompensating. So this Cybertruck thing, I cannot wait to see it in the flesh. Okay. Here's something you messaged us about, which I think is hilarious. You wrote, people posting, quote, we did a thing on engagement posts. Yeah.
Yes. That's such a millennial core. It's very choogy. I don't think it's creative. I think that it's embarrassing and people need to find a more creative way to announce their wedding engagement, having a baby, whatever it is. I think we, you know, it's even better to just be as simple and say, you know, best day of my life or such a happy day, something like that. I think we did a thing is just completely run its course and we need to fully stop saying it. And I'm
My fellow millennials. Okay. So I need a definition. My daughter said choogy over the weekend and I was too embarrassed to tell her I didn't know what that means. And then you use it. What does that mean? I tried to roll with like I knew what it was, but what does that mean?
Chugi is embarrassing in a specifically millennial way. So wearing, you know, kind of like a live, laugh, love sign or wearing like a long oversized scarf or I don't know, loving fall or something like that. Loving fall. Okay. Let me ask you this. Do you think...
In the same vein of like engagement photos, baby photos, wedding photos, do you think in general we're sharing too much or do you like all of that sharing?
I think it's a personal level of comfortability that everybody has to find. I mean, I like seeing my friends post on social that was the original intent. I think it's just gotten so far from the original intention. And it used to be a really great way to catch up with people, but the
issue is now most people are like most people who aren't influencers or don't have a platform are posting less and less. They're just not encouraged to, because it feels like, you know, Instagram is more a place for entertainment now. So I, I like when people post, I, I,
Totally different conversation with kids. You know, there's definitely some weird stuff that happens on TikTok with the family bloggers. They do share a lot and it, you know, it, whether that's good or not is not for me to say I'm not a parent, but, you know, I've seen a lot of think pieces about the, you know, digital footprint of these kids who don't have a choice, whether they're online or not. And that's, you know, definitely something to consider. Yeah.
Yeah, definitely. I don't know. I think that maybe I, it's subjective. If I like the person, then I like seeing their stuff. But you know, sometimes you have these forced follows. You have these people in your life you're forced to follow. Your acquaintances, you see them frequently. You don't really like them one way or another. The next thing you know, you're following them on Instagram. And then you're a hostage to all this oversharing. And
And then I get, I can get so irritated. Like I fucking hate this person. Right. But I don't want to go through the whole, she unfollowed. Is she mad at me? It's like, there's a whole extra layer of,
friendship management and acquaintance management that you have to do now that we didn't have to do when we were your age that you have to do not only in real life, but then also like you have to manage the social media relationships, which is an extra component of hurt feelings, rejection. She didn't like my pose. She didn't share my post. She untagged herself. It seems like, I don't know. I don't know how I feel about all of it, but some of it seems unhealthy to me.
Yeah, it's definitely another layer of management of friendship. And I know what you mean. There's some people that you just have to follow. I mean, that's what the mute button is for so you don't have to see their stuff if they're annoying you. But I definitely have a couple of people where I follow them and then immediately just regret it. And people, you know, it's...
It's annoying. So I'm sure people want to unfollow me too, or feel like they're beholden to me, but it's definitely a strange extension of our physical friendships. Okay. Let me ask you this. Is it choogy? Now I'm trying, now I'm obsessed with that word. So like, are these pictures of people with their coffee foam in shapes and stuff? Is that choogy or is that too old to be choogy?
No, that's cheeky. That's a good example with the caption, like, but first coffee, but first coffee. I haven't seen that. I have too. It's bad. You know, it sounds like something, somebody who had the original, but first coffee nailed it. I mean, they crushed it. Absolutely crushed it. I'm sure people loved it. Um,
But now ever since then, it's just so overdone and we don't need any more pictures of coffee, sadly. No. Yeah. All right. Here's one I think is great. Getting asked if you want to turn your story into a reel. Yeah. So every time I add a story on Instagram to a highlight and I post a lot of stories, that's how my community likes it. I post a lot and I add it to my story. I will say, do you want to turn your story into a reel? And it's like Instagram.
I don't want to turn it into a reel. And it's every single time. And I post a lot of reels and it's the most annoying. It triggers this question. And I don't know why at Meta, they haven't figured it out. Nobody wants to turn their story into a reel. Like absolutely nobody was like, oh yeah, actually I do want to turn this two second story into a
60 second video. Like why hadn't I thought of that before? I don't need them to help me with the inspiration. I really don't at all. I just need them to make a better app. Like I just need that from them. It's, I don't know why it annoys me so much, but it's just because they ask me every single time and I've had enough.
Yeah, I get something every time I open my Instagram, I get a deal from them. I don't even know what it says because I just immediately exit out. But maybe that's what it's telling me that I need to make a reel. But it's always asking me if I want to, maybe it's something to do with boost. Is that a thing?
Do you want to boost this? Oh, yeah. It's like, do you want to – you can boost your content. And it's like that's – no, we don't want to pay to – no. Yeah. I'm like, no. I don't want to do anything that you asked me to do. I just ask you immediately. Exactly. No, that's –
But the first time that happened to me, because I'm not super techie, like I don't really know how to make a reel, how like Kylie, our producer or Seth, they can make these really cool TikTok reels or Instagram reels. I don't know how to do it. I've tried. I fail. I'm not very techie. So the first time it kind of like made one for me, I didn't post it, but I was like, oh, this is really cool that it made this. And I felt this peer pressure there.
from the Instagram robot that I needed to be doing more. And then I'm like, what the fuck are you doing? You're in your late forties. Why do you give a shit? Why are you posting this? But have you found like, you know, you have your, you, your tinks and you have your life that you live with your friends and the people that know you. And then you have your tinks extension on Instagram. And this is the way I describe it to people that ask about Pumpsimeter. Like, are you guys wound up all the time? Are you mad all the time?
I'm like, no, I mean, look, we're cynical and we've had it with a bunch of shit, but we take, that's like 10% of our life. And on our podcast, it becomes a hundred percent of our life. Right. But the majority of, you know, our life, we're not sit, we're not sitting around just matter and hell at stuff. Totally. So how much of your identity of tinks, the social media sensation, and then
you living your life with your friends, I would say ours is what, 10 to 15%?
Yeah, maybe 20 sometimes. 20, which we're really fired up. Right. What about you, Tinks? As in how much of my life do I put online? I mean, I sadly put most of my life online. That's, you know, I have a very close relationship with my community, which I really like. It definitely has its pitfalls, but I think, I don't know, that's just how I started and that's how I carried on. I share so much of myself and I think it's important to show up
as who you are. And sometimes I'm a ball of sunshine and sometimes I'm also really pissed off at things. And I think it's important that we show...
women that like you can be many things because usually with women in the public eye, they like to put women in boxes like, oh, she's the mean one. She's the sexy one. She's this, she's that. And I think it's important to show that we contain multitudes and sometimes I'm a raging bitch and sometimes I'm super nice and sometimes I'm funny and sometimes I'm sarcastic. And so I really do try to be as honest as possible with my community because I think that authenticity is so important when it comes to community building. Yeah.
And I think it's just more relatable. I mean, I think the Instagram posts or feeds where it's just cupcakes and rainbows all the time, they really kind of piss me off because I know how unrealistic it is that every day is a 10. So I think it's good to show people online the...
human experience and the human experience is sometimes you're happy, sometimes you're sad, sometimes you're jealous, sometimes you're mad, you know, all of, all of the stuff, all of the stuff wrapped up into one. But I will tell you that like, I think your followers dig the shit out of you. Madison that works for me. I mean, she just rocks.
worships you. And I think it's that authenticity that you have. Thank you. Yeah. I mean, like you said, life is not, I mean, life is a box of chocolates. Like some, some days, some days are bad. And, and I think that there's the, the downside of social media is that it feels like there's pressure to have, like you said, a 10 out of 10 day every single day, but that's just not real life for anybody. And, and, and so I think that,
finding the joy, finding the little joys, even if it's like a two out of 10 day, I always tell my, the people who follow me, like,
try to seek joy, not happiness. I think trying to be happy all the time is such a tall order. And I read this article on goop many years ago that really changed my life. And it was about how you should seek joy, not happiness. Happiness is like measure of contentment over time. Joy is more achievable and attainable. So you can think like, okay, I'm having a really shitty day, but I know that this specific like special coffee really sparks joy for me.
I'm going to drive 10 minutes out of my way to go get this special coffee for me because like, I need a little joy spark right now or going to get your nails done or whatever are the things that really just are little bright spots of joy in your day. That's what we should focus on because this pressure, like be happy, be happy. That's like, that's a way bigger thing that you have to work on over time. And I think just by focusing on the little joys, you can really take the pressure off.
You know what was a game changer for me in my life, and it probably happened in my early 40s, but was being able to find joy in total boredom. That was a total, like I broke a barrier there. I didn't have that itch that I needed to be doing something, I need to be talking to a friend, that I need to be texting somebody, that I didn't need to be doing puzzles with my kids. But
When I had nothing to do and that when you're in your 20s and early 30s, that itch comes up that you have to have something to do. Being able to just go, I have nothing to do and I'm going to find joy in just being. And that was a real like eye opener for me. And now I love that.
to be bored. And I have found embracing boredom completely has changed my life. Like, I love to be bored and be with myself and not feel like I have to get on my phone, not feel like I have to watch something, but I can just sit and be. And it took me, I mean, I was probably 42, 43 when I figured that out a long time. I think one thing for me that I find like,
I like to be alone. I'm not lonely being alone. And I think it takes a while to be alone where you're not lonely and figure out. I mean, that was really something I learned during my marriage. I was married to someone, but I was lonely. Yeah. I'm a lot less lonely now when I'm single. I'll tell you what's lonelier than being in a relationship or an uncomfortable relationship is, and I hope that you have some young mom listeners because...
Nobody really talks about this that much, but early motherhood is,
is devastatingly lonely. No, I hear that from my community. And I really, really think that like, it's insane how for all of history, women haven't felt empowered to speak on that. And this is the first, you know, this is another good thing about social media. Obviously, I'm not a mom, but a lot of young moms write to me, or not even young moms, just first time moms write to me. And they're like, I'm so lonely. I miss my friends. I can't leave the house.
my partner's being weird. And it's just like, women have not been allowed to speak about that for all of history. Now, all of a sudden everyone's coming out of their, you know, little house and being like, wait, this is really, really difficult and nobody's helping me. And I'm super isolated and I miss my wife and I need some help. And I think
It's amazing. And I think, you know, I think a lot of women feel guilty for saying that because they've wanted, maybe they wanted a baby for a really long time or this is, you know, they've just been a dream of theirs. And then it's like, they're super lonely. And I think it's important that we talk about it so that they realize how normal it is. You know, sometimes pumps, you can just take a risk and scroll on Instagram. It's something is suggested for you to buy. You buy it, you get it in. Sometimes it's good. Sometimes it's bad.
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Okay, I have to ask you one question. So we've talked about a lot at our age.
It was, you have to get married. You have to have kids. Like that's, yeah, I go to college. You can have a career, but your primary career is get married, have kids. It never occurred to me that wasn't what I was going to do. So I see your generation, you know, you're in your early thirties, you're not married. I feel like you're so much more empowered now.
than we were because you have the choice. You don't have to get married. You don't have to have kids. There's not that pressure. So my question is, how much of that pressure still exists?
I think it definitely still exists. I mean, I have a lot of the questions that I receive are about, you know, I feel behind, I feel left out. But at the same time, I think that my generation specifically right now, we're kind of in this paradigm shift. We're like living through it where we are starting to figure out, okay, what's,
we don't necessarily need to do that to be happy, but we also still feel the pressure from the older generations and things that have come before us. So we're kind of in betwixt in between a little bit.
I think the pressure still exists, but I also think the competing force is that women don't want to settle. For the first time, they're like, I would rather be alone than to saddle myself with a man who's just going to become another child for me. And that's what happens to so, so many women is that they feel this pressure. They're like, okay, whatever. This guy's fine. They have kids. They give up so much of their own life and then they're
this marriage dream, this kid's dream, it's just not what people told them. More single women own homes in the US than single men. Women are excelling in every single vertical. I was listening to Scott Galloway a while ago and he said that
if admissions were gender blind in universities, they predict that 75% of university admittance would be female. Every women are excelling and outperforming men in every area. So it's just, I think we're in this adjustment period where we're kind of, again, feeling empowered. We are not succumbing to pressure and we want, you know, and, and I say all that, but then I also want to say that like,
That doesn't mean that single women don't want to find love. Like, I think that's like this. There's obviously a negative dialogue being pushed like, oh, well, they're just like these ball busters. They don't need anything. They don't want anything. They're very anti-men. That's not true. Right. We want, of course, we're excited to find someone, but I'm just, I'm not going to settle for some random dude just because I want to have an Instagram wedding. Right. Right.
That's the smartest thing I've ever heard. And I'm so grateful that you said that because I see so many girls that grab the guy at the right time to have the Instagram wedding.
Three or four years later, it's divorce city. Yeah. You know, and the parents spent well into six figures for the Instagram wedding. And I just, when I see women like you and other women of your generation that are just embracing being single, embracing having careers, embracing like messaging positive things for women, it brings me so much joy because we fell into the whole trap. And I'm telling you, our marriages were horrible.
Disasters. Difficult, painful. And not that that can't, I mean, of course that happens to everybody, but I really, I really love the trend that women are embracing that you do not have to do that. You do not have to fall for that. Okay. Tinks, I want to play a game with you called Had It or Hit It. Okay. Oh my God. Welcome to Had It or Hit It. I would hit it. Had it.
I hit it every day, sometimes twice a day. Okay. Had it or hit it bras? Had it. I never wore a bra. I'm so jealous. I'm very pro nipple. I think, you know, growing up, I was very self-conscious about having small boobs, but it's like, you know, you have a choice. You can make whatever you're self-conscious about your greatest choice.
asset. And for me now I wear all these little sheer tops and just show my nipples. And I think it's very sexy and cute. And I think rock what you've got and just, you know, show it off, you know, unless some women have to wear bras, obviously I get that. But for me, I've had it.
Yeah, I'm so jealous. I have these huge sagging dragon boobs and I'm always so jealous of the person with the little bitty insect bite boobs. And I'm just like, they don't have a bra. I wish I were them. I guess you always want what you don't have. Exactly. Okay. Hat it or hit it. Cats. Oh my God. I'm cat lady for life. I love cats.
I am. I'm all the stereotypes of a crazy cat lady. I love my F2 cats and I love them so much. And I think they're very, they're very misunderstood. I try to do as much cat PR as possible and use my platform to change the terrible misconceptions about cats, but it's a slow road, you know?
I'm part of the problem. I'm not a big cat person. I know, but I truly think that anybody who is not a cat person just hasn't been around a good cat. That's probably true because I've only been around her cat and she has an awful cat. She wants to kill my cat. She wants me to euthanize my cat. It's a 16-year-old cat. It doesn't pee in the litter box. I'm just like, get with the vet.
It's a quality versus quantity thing for me. I get that. I get that. I would want you to put me down if I'm peeing in the bathroom, not on the toilet. She still purrs. I put the puppy pad, a puppy pad down. She pees on the pad. It's not like she's rogue peeing throughout the house pumps. No, I know, but I'm just saying. You're just an evil person when it comes to this cat. You want me to kill the cat. She encourages me constantly to call the vet to kill the cat. I just said it. No, I know. Non-cat people are so horrible. They're awful.
Cats are so misunderstood, but I'm a cat lady forever. I love that. Tinks, had it or hid it, Diet Coke. I drink four Diet Cokes a day. I love it. I'm obsessed with Diet Coke.
It's not bad for you, in my opinion. I'm not a doctor, but I know for a fact that it's not bad for you because it makes me feel so good. It settles my panic. It puts me in a good mood. I'm going to rip one right after this, actually. I absolutely love it forever. I would never give it up. Okay. Tinks, I'm going to say something. I have a really controversial take. I
I fucking had it with Diet Cokes. See, I like Diet Coke. I like Diet Dr. Pepper. It just because I feel like the Diet Coke people are kind of culty about the Diet Coke. For sure we are. And I think that they're over hydrators. Let me ask you this. Are you a Stanley Cup carrier?
No, I actually have my own line of reusable water bottles. So I carried those instead. They're way better than Stanley. The Stanley is too big. It's like all these accessories and it's like, it weighs a million pounds. And when you put it in the car holder, it flips over. It's too big. Like, and it's unsightly. Okay. Mine are so cute. Mine are called ESWBs, emotional support water bottles. And they're
The cutest patterns, the perfect size. It's not too much. Like you don't need to be carrying around like a small, like a swimming pool with you. I agree. Let me ask you this. Are you dehydrated all the time? No. You feel hydrated? I'm very hydrated. Yeah. You don't feel thirsty all the time? No. But I mean, the water quality in America is so bad that that's why Americans are always drinking like
so many, so much water and you never feel hydrated. It's because there's no minerals in our water. So when you go to Europe and you drink like, like that's why everyone in Europe is always like, why are these Americans always carrying like 50 water bottles with them? It's because our water doesn't hydrate us.
This is good to know because I've really noticed this epidemic of the dehydration in America. Yeah, she's all over it. And it's just, it's something that really bugs the shit out of me. It drives me crazy, especially where we live, this hydration theater with the cups and it's like this fetish thing.
with the Stanley Cup. And then people know how much I hate them. So they send me these Instagram reels where these cups have like full-blown wardrobes and bags and purses and skirts and trays. And I mean, I have...
Had it. I feel like it's the end of civilization that this is what we're valuing. We're making videos about it. Your cup has a purse. It's just more than I can take. It just has brought me to my knees on this thing. I'm just begging people to drink less water, basically. So I don't have to look at these cups. Agree. Agree. Okay. Had it or hit it. Do not disturb. Had it. It's like, what are you, unless you're performing well,
Heart surgery. Like, why do you not have it? It's like so annoying. People are so self-important with their like silence notifications. I'm like, I, I don't want to, I want to reach you. I want to talk to you right now. Pick up my phone. I'll tell you how I'm such a nut about my sleep and like my wind down time. I have my phone set to go on. Do not disturb like bedtime at like 8. P.M.
And then it stays to like because I go to bed really early and wake up early and I wake up and I have like 20 texts from all of these people that are living this life in the hours that I'm completely unfamiliar with. And a lot of them are like, do not disturb. What are you so fucking important, Jennifer? And I mean, I deserve to call out. I mean, I deserve it.
Yeah, mine goes on early too. Mine goes on high. That's good to do the wind down time. And then it's extra fun if you have like, oh, you're like, oh, I have so many texts in the morning. That's kind of fun. But then here's the problem. I'm so popular. If I get up at five and-
It's such a dick over move for me to text them back at that time. So I think. And you're like, yeah, you're saying you're literally a better person. Exactly. I'm saving the day while your ass is in bed. So I pause on, I'm like, okay, I'll return these texts when I get into the office around eight or nine. And then I totally forget. And then I'm just participating in a full blown ghost after the do not disturb. And I'm just a total asshole. Yeah. Yeah.
All right. Tinks, is there anything else hard hitting that you've had it with that you need to share with our listeners or anything you're promoting or anything you'd like to stomp out in society? What would I like to stomp out? What is this banana barricade? What does that mean? Oh, the banana brigade is just a name for a group of people that I online where I use the word banana brigade because one time I put up like
Oh, I love bananas. And someone wrote to me and was like, Tinks, with your platform, you really should be so careful about, you know, encouraging people to eat bananas because if they ate eight in one day, they could die. And it's like that type of person, which there is plenty on the internet. I mean, you know what I want to stomp out? I want us to stop allowing the fringe-
0.3% of the internet be the loudest on the internet. Like everybody that I meet and I talk to in real life on the internet is such a normal person and everybody has had it with the psycho extremists online, but they are the loudest people and we allow them to control the internet. So what I've had it with is that, and I think that we need to have a return to decency being sensible, um,
being kind, and just sort of good values. I really think that most people really want that. And we need to all kind of help usher in this new era. I think we're all desperate for that, honestly. I agree. Tinks, I see what all the hype is about. I see why everybody is obsessed with you. You're
Fabulous. Your messaging is great. You're very relatable, very realistic. This is the kind of influencer I'm down with right here. A hundred percent. Thank you guys so much for having me on. This was so much fun. You're both so wonderful. Great. Easy to talk to. And here's hoping that no more Cybertrucks gets sold. No shit. No drama. Totally. Okay. Bye, Tinks. Thank you. I absolutely love Tinks. I love Tinks.
I love that the banana, the eight bananas a day. What the fuck is that? I love that I got a definition for chooky because I just, I really wanted to be cool and I just knew I wasn't. It's a millennial, a cheesy millennial thing. Yeah. That's kind of what I got. I got cheesy out of it, but I just wasn't sure. So I like that. I got it. I'm going to show you these Cybertrucks.
Anything Elon Musk does, I just have had it with. Yeah. He just grosses me out to the core of my being. Yeah. And it's probably only because of Twitter. Like I'm
Like, we've gotten in Ubers that are Teslas, and they're fine. I mean, I don't think they're, like, setting the world on fire, but they're fine. Yeah. But I just can't stand him. He's gross. And I don't get, like, the whole, like, he has all these kids. He just had another one. I read it last night. He has all these kids, and he makes cars that are good for the environment, but he votes, and he's a deadbeat father, Elon Musk, and then he votes for all these people who are like, we need to bring back family values and global...
Warming is a hoax. He's a real weirdo. But I think he takes a lot of hallucinogenic drugs, I've read. So that would distort one's reality quite a bit. Yeah, I did read that. If you're tripping on shit all the time. Right. All right. Well, all right. I think that's all we've got for today. That's it. We will see you next Tuesday or Thursday or both. I'll tell you what I've had it with. Pumps, doing the podcast, our other jobs, being mothers, maintaining friendships.
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