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I Picture My Husband With Other Women

2024/11/4
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Dawn: 我是一位新基督教徒，我被丈夫与其他女性发生性关系的想法所吸引。虽然我知道这是错误的，但我仍然想探索这种想法。我不希望自己参与其中，也不想让其他男性参与到我和丈夫的关系中。我与丈夫谈论过开放式婚姻的可能性，但我的想法主要是基于对丈夫的吸引力以及其他女性对他的渴望，这让我感到一种权力感和被肯定的感觉。自从有了孩子后，我的身体发生了变化，健康问题和疼痛让我无法享受性生活，这让我感到无力和沮丧。我担心无法满足丈夫的性需求，所以我也考虑过将性关系外包给其他人。 John: Dawn 对丈夫与其他女性发生性关系的想法的迷恋，可能源于嫉妒、权力感和对自身性能力缺乏自信。她的幻想反映了她对自身价值和性吸引力的担忧，以及对婚姻现状的不满。性幻想很重要，但应在伴侣之间公开讨论，并保持好奇和玩乐的心态，而不是带有评判或罪恶感。Dawn 应该与丈夫坦诚沟通，探索新的亲密关系方式，并寻求专业的帮助来解决身体和情感上的问题。不要冲动行事，而是与丈夫一起面对问题，重新建立婚姻关系。

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Why is Dawn struggling with fantasies about her husband being with other women?

Dawn's fantasies stem from feeling powerless in her own sexuality due to physical changes post-pregnancy and health issues, leading to a desire for control and a sense of aliveness.

How does John suggest Dawn and her husband address these fantasies?

John advises discussing fantasies openly with curiosity and playfulness, focusing on the underlying feelings of powerlessness and identity loss rather than acting on the fantasies, which could harm their relationship.

What advice does John give Lynn about setting boundaries with her parents living on their property?

John recommends giving her parents a clear timeline and expectation to move off the property, treating them with dignity and respect, and being prepared for potential emotional reactions.

Why does Jose feel uncertain about how to support his wife who is a full-time nurse and mother?

Jose feels uncertain because his wife is overwhelmed with long work hours and raising two young children, and he struggles to find the right way to offer help without overstepping or misunderstanding her needs.

How does John suggest Jose and his wife navigate their new family dynamics?

John advises them to acknowledge and grieve the loss of their previous relationship dynamics, plan intentional time together, and openly discuss how to support each other in their new roles as parents and full-time workers.

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A wife struggles with inappropriate fantasies about her husband and considers an open marriage. The discussion explores the complexities of fantasies, their impact on relationships, and the importance of open communication.
  • Fantasies can be powerful but require careful discussion.
  • Reality can differ significantly from fantasies, potentially causing harm.
  • Open communication and understanding are crucial in maintaining a healthy relationship.

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On today’s episode, we hear about:

·     A wife struggling with inappropriate fantasies and thoughts

·     A daughter seeking the best way to have a hard conversation with her parents

·     A husband looking for advice on how to support his overwhelmed wife

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