Deep Dive
Why is Zach struggling to move past his wife's affair?
Zach is haunted by unresolved questions and secrets, particularly about what was on his wife's phone during the affair. He feels there's more to the story that hasn't been revealed, which is causing lingering doubts and trust issues.
What steps has Zach taken to rebuild trust with his wife?
Zach and his wife have been working on rebuilding their relationship, including having open conversations and making efforts to improve their communication and connection. However, Zach feels that some crucial questions were left unanswered, particularly about the extent of the affair.
How did Zach find out about his wife's affair?
Zach discovered the affair when he checked his wife's smartwatch and saw a message from her coworker saying 'good night, baby, I love you.' He confronted her the next day.
What advice does John give Zach to deal with his lingering doubts?
John advises Zach to have an open conversation with his wife about the unresolved questions and to commit to not meditating on negative thoughts. He suggests replacing those thoughts with positive memories and focusing on rebuilding trust through daily actions.
Why is Jake struggling with his girlfriend's past sexual assault?
Jake is struggling because he feels powerless and angry about the assault, and he has resentment towards her friends for not protecting her. He also feels guilty for not being there to prevent it.
How did Jake's girlfriend reveal her past trauma to him?
Jake's girlfriend revealed her past trauma during a monthly check-in conversation where they discuss their feelings and needs.
What does John suggest Jake do to support his girlfriend?
John advises Jake to reaffirm his commitment to her by holding her hands and telling her that he is rooted with her and will support her through her healing process. He also suggests Jake see a counselor to deal with his own anger and powerlessness.
Why is Jane feeling overwhelmed in her marriage?
Jane is feeling overwhelmed because her husband is dealing with severe anxiety and digestive health issues, which have left him malnourished and underweight. She is struggling to balance her role as a caregiver with her need for peace and connection in her marriage.
What childhood experiences are influencing Jane's current behavior?
Jane's childhood was marked by her father's PTSD and cancer, which forced her into a caregiver role at a young age. This experience has made her feel responsible for solving problems and has conditioned her to expect chaos, making peace feel stressful.
What advice does John give Jane to help her husband with his health issues?
John advises Jane to create a peaceful environment in their home, focusing on skin-on-skin contact and daily check-ins about how to show love. He also suggests she set boundaries and seek professional counseling to deal with her own anxiety and trauma.
- The husband discovered his wife's affair in January.
- He has been trying to rebuild trust but still experiences intrusive thoughts.
- Dr. Delony advises him to confront his wife about the remaining unanswered questions and commit to healing together.
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