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Broadway girl slash single mom extraordinaire slash TikTok sensation. I wouldn't say sensation. In the house. No, baby, you are a sensation because everybody... If you want to call it

I don't know. Everybody wants to know what Demps is up to. I know it, right? They are just all intrigued in my fucking life. One of the most requested guests ever. Besides Trashly. You and Trashly were the two most requested. Shut the front door. I did not know that. Dude, above Mama Tott, above everybody. Well, instead of making up those lies, I guess let's make the record straight here, huh?

I'm not, dude, I am so down to set the record straight with you. Me too. I love it. Well, let's, let's dive in. Let's start from the very beginning. I want to just get to know Dimps from the ground up. So where were you born? Where were you raised? How the hell did I get here? Here we go. The Joker. So obviously I'm not born and raised here in Tennessee as much as I wish I was, but I

I do come from a little small town in Florida. People wouldn't think Florida is country, but wait until you get to those outskirts. No, it is. It's fucking buck wild out there. My girl Savannah Dexter is from Florida and she's country as shit. Yeah, it's a whole other breed like out there. I grew up in Plant City on a strawberry field in Orange Groves. Barefoot, baby.

That sounds so pretty. The whole way barefoot. That's why I would never wear shoes. That's why I took off my shoes right now. Yeah. I'm not supposed to wear shoes. I love that. It's like me. I usually take off my shirt though. And I think, you know, obviously as time went on, you know, back in 2008, the world went to, or the country went to shit. And then that's when my mom was like, pack of shit. We're going to Nashville. And me at 15 years old, I was like, what the hell is in Tennessee? And I moved there here and,

I was like you gotta be fucking kidding me but honestly Tennessee's my home and I don't think I would ever probably leave maybe I don't know I don't know I've been seeing some TikToks I know in Florida I've been fighting with myself recently it's like a battle I understand every time we go to Florida because we'll go there for like girl vacations and shit I never want to

come in. I didn't want to start looking at like condos to rent on the beach out there and shit. Same, same, not me. Look, scrolling through a rent.com to look at new houses. I'm like, Lily, pack your shit. We're leaving. But then I, you know, I have to come back home because I have animals, my fur babies and coleslaw. I'm a coleslaw fan. I almost brought them.

Chachi might have had a heart attack, but it would have been great. You should have. I almost brought that little asshole, to be honest. I love him. I love it. I have the same type of relationship with Nashville. I'm from Vegas. I grew up in Vegas. I'm a West Coast girl, and I moved here about seven years ago. And when I first moved here, it was culture shock. It was a culture shock. I was like, what?

what the fuck am I doing here? Like, holy shit. And then now it's like my safe place. It's like, I go, I come back here and I'm like, okay, it's so fucking peaceful. You know, it was like mid sophomore year. I moved here in the dress code. I was like, you gotta be shitting me. I can't wear holes in my pants.

you gotta be fucking kidding me i was at the schools out here the schools out here did you go to out here i went to blackman out in murphy's bro okay and you know of course you get this tan i wasn't blonde at the time i had dark hair believe it or not my natural hair color is black girl the drinks do not match the carpet we don't have any we don't have any carpet oh really well i don't i'm trying to grow mine out i need to get a bikini wax is that what's in

I don't know what's in all I know is I'm going to the keys in a couple weeks oh yeah you gotta make sure like I need to wax that but anyway when I moved here it was such a culture shock I was like you can't wear tank tops you can't wear short shorts and no holes in your jeans that's crazy because my daughter goes to fucking well I'm not gonna say where she goes but her school these fucking kids run around looking like little hoochie mamas well maybe they switched it up all I know is what I went to out

there. That was some bullshit. When I was growing up, it was the same shit. And my kid now, I'm like, what happened to the fucking... They gave up. The fingertip rule and stuff like that. Remember that? You know what I'm talking about?

Yeah. Like these girls have their ass cheeks are hanging out. And I'm like, bro, you're 14. Stop. It's different times. We're living in different times. We're raising little hoe babies. But between then, you know, I'm growing up between living in Florida and then moving here. I was a bad fucking kid, believe it or not. You have brothers. You have a twin. I have a twin brother. That's so crazy. I'm prettier. Yeah. Yeah. So you have an older brother.

She said, I'm prettier. You have an older brother and then you have the twin. So who's older between you and the twin? He's five minutes older. So I'm the baby out of four. And my big brother came to see my life here in Nashville not too long ago. Some bitch grew like 50,000 followers overnight. That's crazy. Like I created him a TikTok, did one TikTok with him. He got like, I was like, do you know how long it took me to get to 50,000 fucking followers? Like you're welcome. Yeah. Yeah.

But I am the baby out of four. I think that's why my brothers and my family is just protected by me, honestly. So when you say you're a bad kid, what do you mean by that? Oh, girl, where do I begin? And we laugh about it now, me and my family. You know, just not giving two shits about high school or school in general, throwing house parties. Oh, yeah. I love a good house party. My family always talk about this. This one time my parents went out of town.

They went to Disney or some shit. I can't remember. I said I was, oh, well, I'm going to go spend the night. My friends snuck back in to the house. I had three different high schools at my house that night. So Dempsey knows how to throw a rager. I do. Not shocking. Sometimes people will reach out to me on IG. Hey, do you remember that rager you threw back in 2009? I'm like, yeah, it still fucking haunts me. I'm still grounded. Yeah. Xbox got stolen. TVs got stolen.

smoke detectors out like cats went running out in the yard my drunk ass passed out in the yard my grandmother just looking at me i wake up and there's cops oh girl it was bad that sounds like a fucking fun time i steal in my parents car that's how you're supposed to that's how i did all this shit girl i literally stole my parents extra spare key and they had no fucking idea yeah

And I would just like they would go to work and I'm like, OK, bye. I'm hopping on the bus and just take a brand new Honda Pilot down on like, you know, the down to St. Pete or Clearwater. You're a better fucking 15. You're a better car thief than I because when I stole my mom's car, it fucking rained and we got mud tracked all on the inside and then it ran out of gas.

shut the i always got caught every time i tried to do some i was always in trouble i got caught one time one time and i remember pulling up and i was just started like doing that ugly cry like

You know, you don't know what to do. But my parents tried grounding me. Hell, I remember when they had the security code to the house, lock me in. So if anytime I opened up the door or something, you know, the alarms would go off. And back then I started smoking cigarettes and like, fuck this. I'm gonna go outside and smoke a cigarette on the patio, you know.

But yeah, I was a bad kid. Bad fucking kid. I can relate. I was always in trouble too. I feel like free spirits like us always grow up to fucking do something with our lives though. It's like we figure it out. Yeah, but I haven't honestly when I turned 18, I was like, okay, this is like where shit can get real. So I'm going to turn it down. I literally had all the experience I needed to in my teens. So I've never been arrested, never went to jail, believe it or not. I know, right? No, it's not.

That's awesome. Try pulling that up on Reddit. I can't say the same. What'd you say? Demps does not have a criminal record. Try pulling that up on Reddit. There you go. It's from Demps' mouth, ladies and gentlemen. Start digging, Reddit motherfuckers. Yeah, start digging. So are you close with your parents still? What's the relationship with you guys? Me and my mother, like I said, I was a troubled teen. Me and her actually didn't really get close until I got pregnant with my daughter, Lily Lynn. Aw.

As you know, I was a bad kid. I was not going to pass high school staying here in Tennessee. So my mama shipped me off to Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania to finish out high school. It's so dreary out there. Oh, God. Remember we were out there on tour? It was so dreary. I mean, there's a lot of history. I love Pittsburgh because of the history. But then I looked in the mirror. I was like, all right, get your shit together. You know what I mean? I went to cosmetology school. So up there.

or you can go to high school and go to trade school half the day, which I thought was ballin'. You know what I mean? So after I graduated, I was already a licensed hairdresser working in one of the biggest salons downtown Pittsburgh. Yay. And then... You do strike me as a hairdresser. I can see Demps being a hairdresser. I have a little salon in my house, believe it or not. I love that. The full-on chairs.

and everything do I enjoy doing hair no yeah I pay to go get that shit done I went to beauty school too I think every woman yeah in our yeah it was like the easiest thing to do but um my relationship with my mother didn't really um like get full into effect until I had my daughter now with my father it really didn't bond until after he divorced his um wife and

the third one oh dad's been he sounds like my dad my dad's been married seven times shout out bill my mama always said third luck is her charm so and I love my stepdad now that I have I've known him since I was like 12 we have a good relationship but um I hope my dad can find love one day was um his uh was his your stepmom you

you know what's crazy is that abusive or just she didn't want you guys to have a relationship my first step mom was a little toxic growing up i um granted i have good memories of my childhood growing up on that strawberry field you know a tree house and all that but i grew up around a lot of yelling a lot of fucking yelling you know when you go to your mom's house for a week or whatever it's

la la la la and then you go to your dad's and you're exposed to all of this um I it just it's crazy to think you know the jealousy of an older woman if that person has a daughter because I always experienced um the stepmoms being jealous of me because of me and my dad's relationship and it just like got in the way of our relationship you know what I mean absolutely

So I can honestly say I never really gotten along with any of my stepmothers and it sucks. I just, I tried. Lord knows I tried. It's not your job as a child to get along, to try to get along and initiate a relationship with a grown woman. It baffles me that I could never gotten along with any of my stepmothers, but that's my own dad's.

He's got a real picker on him. Yeah. I'm going to let him figure that out. But as far as that, as far as I know, I'm the closest to my dad of each three kids because my older brother is my half brother, believe it or not. Right. So I have a great relationship with my parents now. Right.

I think every kid goes through that where it's like when we're younger, we think our parents are like just fucking can't stand them. Like they don't know what they're talking about. And then as you start having like life experience, you look back and you're like, OK, you're an ignorant teen. You don't know anything. You think you know everything. I remember fist fighting my fucking mama out in the front yard and like every Mother's Day card is a sorry card.

for all the shit that I put her through. I'm like, I love you so fucking much. Like I talk to my mama every day. Good. Every day. I have said me and my mom, she helped me raise my daughter and I'm very blessed to have her. I love that. Let's talk about that. So how old were you when you got pregnant with Lily? Bless it. I just turned 21. I remember because I got Nicki Minaj concert tickets and I was so pumped.

And I was a hairdresser at the time and I did not feel okay. I was like, fuck it, I'm gonna go get, I'm gonna go down to the John Eagle. If you guys know what that is up north. I went out and walked my ass to a John Eagle, got a pregnancy test, one of those clear blue ones. Sure as shit, no, I had a client processing. I was like, I'm gonna be right back. And I went to the bathroom. This is real life. I was like, I'm gonna be right back as she's processing. Pee on a stick and sure as shit, no, it said five to six weeks pregnant. Mm.

And let alone, I met this man as I'm just finished up beauty school. Let's talk about it. Can we talk about Lily's dad? Let's talk about it. I was a waitress at Buffalo Wild Wings, wrapping up my days in beauty school. And here comes this man. He walks in. And if I close my eyes, I can remember the table he's sitting at and everything and the friends that he's with.

And here I am, you know, he looks at me like a Southern belle, blonde hair. I just became blonde by then. Yeah. Okay. I'm a new blonde. Blondes have all the fun. Yeah. I just became blonde by the time. And he puts on this little act. Of course, I'm flirting back too and everything. And I will never forget this. He laid down his business card and he goes, call me. I was like, okay. Business card. What did he do? He owned a detail shop. Okay. Detail. So he's good with his hands. Yeah.

Probably why it took me a long time to leave that ass. Probably a long time to leave him. What was your guys's relationship dynamic? How long were you guys together? Girl, at first it was just like lust, you know, that you just turn. I wasn't even I wasn't even 21 yet. It was that lust. Like, who is this? I never want to leave you. You know, I was still living with my dad.

I was like, I'm gonna stay with you every night, blah, blah. And granted, he showed me things that I never thought I would ever like dive into know about. I was oblivious. But yeah, he older than you. He was a little older than me. Not by far. Yeah, maybe like two years. Okay, that's Yeah, like, maybe two years.

forgive me if I'm having to sit here and think because it's it's been a while and bless it I've buried those memories fucking deep I buried those memories deep at first it was lust the sex was great oh my god and I think that's what got me I was so attracted I feel like yeah I feel like the most toxic relationships have the best sex I was like I've never experienced this like I got goosebumps I was like I've never experienced this I'm never going to fucking

back home like fuck that you know what I mean dick whipped yeah I was making my own money um I was a hustler believe it or not any buck I could make I would go fucking make it I can see that in you oh my god yeah I can totally see that in you and then um it was like three months in you started seeing the um

That's always when it happens. Three months, like the mask starts fucking sliding off. I don't want to get too much into this, but my dad actually kicked me out. Remember when I told you about stepmoms like hating me for some reason, whatever? I came home from Buffalo Wild Wings one night and found all my shit on the curb in trash bags. I had nowhere to go. So I was dating this guy, Lily's father at the time. He took me in. Granted, we haven't been dating but what, maybe two months? Not even that.

um so there's that so I moved in with him and like I said three mark I was like something's got to give you know I mean very angry toxic yelling drinking partying that's when I started doing things um you know diving into a new error like I never thought I would do I learned about like what cocaine was and

All of this, before I even had Lily, you know, I started experiencing with all this shit, this new lifestyle, this adrenaline rush. Well, it's easier to pull somebody down than it is to pull somebody up. So if you're in a relationship. Girl, I was sucked in. I was sucked the fuck in. I got goosebumps. Like, no.

I was here. You have this like innocent fucking girl. I mean, granted, I knew what weed was. All right. My big brother taught me how to roll my first blunt. They each have 15. All right. I mean, I knew what fucking weed was like. But when it came to that other stuff, girl, just cocaine or was it other things? It got a little from on. We'll get there. But yeah.

I started doing, you know, all that stuff with him and partying, like just a different fucking lifestyle. And then, you know, the toxic and just, it was bad. It was very bad. And I'm trying to remember. Was it abusive? It was very abusive. And I would. Verbally and physically? Mentally and fucking physically. I've never experienced any of that. But when, but you think you're so in love. Mm-hmm.

You think you just want somebody to love you so bad. I was in a severely toxic relationship for about three or four years. Abusive. I mean, like I'm talking like cracked my larynx fucking strangled me so bad. Every blood vessel in my eyes popped. My nose has a crack right here. Like there's just so much, but

I loved that dude. We had the most amazing sex and it was like, he's going to get better. You almost feel like you can fix them or like you can't fix them. Exactly. Or you feel like you're deserving of it because of the childhood trauma that you grew up with, you know? So it's like, do I deserve this? Am I just being a bitch? Am I wrong for thinking he's wrong for putting his hands on me? Like people don't understand the dynamic of an abusive relationship unless they're at war with yourself. Absolutely. You are at fucking war with yourself. Yes, ma'am.

So here it is. I make do. I'm still working my ass off, working multiple waitressing jobs,

because I had to support myself, you know, living with this man. I mean, he's not giving me any fucking money. That's for sure. Was he bringing in any money or did he stop working? He was, he was, I want to say at the time he was a successful business owner in Pittsburgh because he was a detailer. He owned his own business. And then there was a time where I helped him with the business, you know, doing the filing and helping him, you know, with,

whatever expenses he fucking needed or hell even going down to the shop and getting my fucking hands dirty because he needed, he was behind on shit. You know what I mean? Oh, it's almost like we had our good days and bad days. We, I felt like a team, um,

But there were times the abuse was so bad. But even before I had Lily Lynn, I was like, I can't fucking do this anymore. And I would up and leave. I would pack my shit in 30 minutes and be on the road back home to Tennessee. And I would stay here for maybe three or four days. And I'd be like, I miss him. I love him so much. I'm going back. I'm going back. You get addicted to the pain. Yeah. And here I am back. Get a new job. Make fucking money. Back into the same fucking cycle. Yelling, screaming, crying.

And then, you know, you think you're doing so good and then it all hits you like this is my fucking life now, I guess. And then you get fucking pregnant. And I remember going home after I was a hairdresser still. And I remember crying in the fucking shower and him coming home. He looked at me. He goes, it's going to be OK. And I just see in his eyes. I'm like, I don't know if I want this.

I already know what it was like living with you. Granted, this is almost like two years in dating his ass. Right. And within that two years, I've already done did move back to Pittsburgh to Tennessee at least three or four fucking times. Just the thought of raising a child and the instability. Right. But, you know, that is the father child. What are you going to do? All right, let's fucking do it. Was he excited? He was. He was excited. But granted, there were times where,

We'd get into arguments and he would tell me, that's not the fucking father of my kid, blah, blah, blah, blah. And like make me feel like a piece of fucking shit. Because right now I'm in fucking survival mode. All right. I got a baby in me. I need to fucking make some money. What the hell are we going to do? We need a better house because right now we're living in a shithole in Pittsburgh. Right. You know what I mean? Like when I'm talking shithole, I'm talking about like,

Like you can't even walk to the quick Mart to go get a pack of cigarettes, you know, at 10 o'clock at night without getting, trying to get mugged. You know what I mean? Um, so right now I was in just fucking survival mode. Make sure this baby comes out healthy and all of that. That's so good that you have that mama bear instinct in you. Cause some, I knew I wanted to keep the baby and just do what I needed to do. So, uh,

As time went on, I went into medical assisting. I have a certification in medical assisting. And I was going to school full-time when I was pregnant and waitressing at nighttime. So I did that up until I was nine months fucking pregnant.

Nine months fucking pregnant, I did that. And my life has been so back and forth. And before that, I remember packing up my shit and coming back to Tennessee because the abuse was so bad. Was he physically abusing you while you were pregnant? Yeah, I remember being in the hospital a couple of times.

And he would, you know what the funny fact is? He put you in the hospital? Like there were nights where we got physical and he would shove me in a porcelain tub like and everything. I would be like, you know, bleeding like or spotting and I would be so fucking nervous. Like I gotta go to the emergency room just to be, make sure I'm okay. Okay.

And you know what the funny fucking part is? I remember laying in that hospital with all these shit on me and him. Where the fuck are you? You're not at the hospital, blah, blah, blah.

And those nurses looking at me like, we can't let you leave. And I'm like, you gotta let me go. You have to let me fucking go. So, you know, before I gave birth, there was times where I can't tell you. And even my friends in Pittsburgh, they would always say Dems would pack up her car like she's just moving down the street.

You know what I mean? Now, I totally know what you're talking about because I did the same thing in my abusive relationship or I would kick him out because it was always my places. So I would pack his shit and kick him out at least like once a week. Like, girl, if there was a sport of packing your shit up, I would fucking win the Olympics. OK, facts. I would literally win the Olympics. That's so your your body is in constant fight and flight.

And I didn't realize that until after I got out of the domestic violence relationship. It took literally me being with Jay for the past six years to learn that that's not how you're supposed to be loved. And to regulate my nervous system from that relationship, it's finally just getting worse.

somewhat regulated. Like you don't realize the trauma because there's a book called The Body Keeps Score. I don't know if you're into reading or anything like that. Baby, I can't read her spell hardly. So I'm going to go and put that out there. The Florida school systems failed my ass. Okay, well they have audio books too.

I love a good audio book because I can't fucking sit there and concentrate. But it's called The Body Keeps Score. And if you ever have time, listen to it. And I promise you anything that you're holding on from that, you'll start having like light bulbs go off. Right. And you're going to be like, holy shit, like I do this, you know. I don't think I had light bulbs go off until right before.

as I was about to give birth. Here I am, nine months pregnant. I just went to school all day, waitressing at the Spaghetti Warehouse in Pittsburgh. They shut down, but I absolutely love that place. And I would always come home and find him passed out on the fucking couch. Was he still using drugs? Well, that's when I started to learn about other shit, like pills and all this hardcore fucking shit that I had no idea. And I think it dawned on me

Right as I was giving birth, it was not a pleasant experience. And I think that's why I never want another kid. You got my mama. My mama flew up from Tennessee to come be with me for a few weeks. I remember we having to get a hotel because baby daddy didn't want my mama at our house. And here I am in full blown labor. They sent me home. We're in a hotel. I didn't give birth until the next day. You got my mama and his mama fighting in the waiting room.

Why was she fighting about that? His his family, I wanted to say loved and hate me at the exact same time. Me and his mom got into fights. I remember because it's always it's always the narcissistic moms who protect the narcissistic. So there was one time this fucker hid my car, put a refrigerator in front of the door, couldn't let me in. I'm about eight months pregnant.

And his mom comes over, just starts yelling at me, accusing me of pushing her on the acting. Like she's on the phone with cops, like bat shit, fucking crazy. And then that's just when I realized it's just never going to fucking work. So move forward to me giving birth this day. That's supposed to be the most magical day of my fucking life. You know, bringing this beautiful daughter into the world and you got these people fighting, um,

I'm rushed into emergency C-section because Lily's heart rate dropped. I mean, I'm fucking all doped up on all kinds of fucking drugs. I don't know what's going on. And then I had the option of baby daddy or my mother. And as much as I wanted my mama next to me, I knew if I didn't have him next to me, it was going to be a big thing. Um,

I think I really found out he was using drugs when I was laying in bed, still coming down off of all the shit they were giving me, holding my daughter. And he looked up on my chart and he saw what they were giving me, like oxycodone, every whatever. Because, hello, I just had my fucking insides ripped out. He was like, you should really sneak me a fucking oxycodone.

And I will never fucking forget that. I will never forget that. And believe it or not, I never had the moment to bond with Lily Lynn after I gave birth. His family barged in and pucked

around my newborn baby that I just popped out like a damn hot potato and I just remember I'm just shaking coming down off all this fucking shit they gave me nobody's even asking you how you're doing no not one fucking person oh my god just cameras all in her foot in her face I never really sorry if I get cry but I never experienced like a whole

holding her and you just got this fucking family that's just so toxic and what was i gonna do you know what the fuck was i gonna do i remember speak up then you get slapped down they gave me the option they were like so you can go home this day or you can stay an extra day i looked at my mama i was like i don't want to go home i'm gonna stay here in the hospital for another day

And granted, she had to get back to Tennessee. And I looked at her. I was like, I don't know what I'm going to do because, believe it or not, he forgot me at the hospital. Even though my mama was with me, he was supposed to pick –

lily and i up it was supposed to you know this you see it like a lifetime movie oh picking your baby up going home blah blah you paint this picture in your head yeah fucker forgot to pick us up well okay when you say forgot was he just too but didn't answer the phone calls i don't even know what he was doing that day for he didn't didn't answer the phone calls or anything but i remember the day i got home he came to the house and he was just on this like

adrenaline rush you know what i mean and i just looked at my mom and i was like it's okay i knew he was using so as time went on my mom went home i suck it up the abuse still got worse and worse i like i said i'm in survival mode i'm doing what i need to do to finish my medical assisting school because i was i was still pregnant while going there so i need to finish school

And granted, some of his family was supportive and helped me watch Lily while I went to school and all that. Did he ever help watch Lily? Honestly, I want to say there was only a couple of times. I don't even think he ever gave her a bath. Wow. So in the midst, it took a long about maybe until Lily was 16 months old.

I remember my mom calling me and she goes, I'm afraid to pick up the phone because it's just you're not going to be here anymore. My whole family went through it with me. No, that's what happens. My whole fucking family went through it with me. It's so good that they had your back, though, and like were at least some sort of peace and such the chaos. I remember like sleeping with like knives under my bed, sneaking off to, you know, domestic violence.

violence like therapy on Thursdays and I would tell him oh I'm gonna just go hang out with some of my friends blah blah you know lying when I'm actually getting like help and support and all that and I did everything I did everything to take care of that girl you know I got on the state assistance you know WIC to you know provide formula to get clothes I fucking did everything he was just honestly I look back and I'm like I don't even think I ever knew that guy

So after hearing this story, I can completely understand why you, you know, don't want him to be a part. I don't know if it's, do you not want him to be a part of the baby? I tried. Oh, you did. Believe it or not. Lily was too. He came and stayed at my house here in Tennessee.

I, Lord knows I fucking tried even my family. Well, let's rewind real quick then. So when was your breaking point? When were you finally like, you know what? I'm leaving. I'm taking the baby. I got to go. When Lily was about 15 months old, she can't even walk. And I remember him hugging her and he was like, he literally just said goodbye and let me leave. I had all my shit packed. He literally let me walk out that door.

Was he still using at the time too? Baby, you're not in the right state of mind when you're on those type of drugs. Yeah, absolutely. And granted, I'm not innocent. He introduced me to things that I've tried. I'm hella not innocent. Right. But I never got hooked because I knew I was better than that shit. Right. I had a fucking daughter. Like I said, I'm in fucking survival mode to make a life for myself. Yeah. So...

Mm hmm. So you packed up the car and where did you go? You can actually my twin brother drove up and drove my car, my piece of shit, Hyundai Sonata back to Tennessee. My twin brother drove up and he drove my piece of shit down and my mama put Lily and I it was Mother's Day of twenty fifth, twenty sixteen, twenty sixteen Mother's Day.

And I slept on my mama's couch and my mom and I looked at each other. I was like, I'm not going back. I promise you. I'm not going to go back. It's almost like, you know, when you're done, like no matter how many times you've gone back, there's always that one time that you're just finally like, you know what? Fuck this. I'm not going back. All the fucking abuse, black eyes, busted lips, fucking contusions. Like his family didn't give two shits. They didn't give two shits. I think the only person that gave a shit was his grandmother who,

about two years ago. But, and his other grandmother were the only people that absolutely, like, believed me what was actually going on by, like, behind closed doors.

but yep Lily was a baby I here I am sunshine and rainbows I'm starting a new life for myself baby I'm back here in Tennessee living on my mama's couch I got my a job at the goat making fucking bank yay what's the goat oh you never been to the

the go they have one here in the gulch if you guys don't know please go check out their food I absolutely love it oh my god hot chicken dip uh anyway I got the taste of um hustling pretty much like just working my fucking ass off and I think this is where me and my mama actually bonded because she helped me raise my daughter every weekend my mom would watch Lily Lynn while I would go waitress until three o'clock in the morning bartending

Mm hmm. Go, mama, go. Go, mama, go. Shout out, Tammy. Anyway, I finally had money rolling in. I got my first fucking apartment on my own. But, you know, obviously I still struggled because as a waitress, you never know how much money you're going to make or bring in. And then, yeah, just fucking about to a year and a half of fucking just hustling, cleaning houses, scrubbing toilets, cleaning

Dealing whatever I could just to make the fucking rent. Whatever I fucking could to make that damn rent. I did it, baby. Do trust. I would go shovel cow shit if I needed to. I hear you. I'm the same way. Any way I got to do to get that money. Mm-hmm. So...

You're doing great. You're doing, you know, you're working your ass off. You're hustling. You've got your baby, your mom and you are doing great. I'm starting to find myself again. Right. I'm finding out. I look in the mirror. That's always when they come back. No. And yeah. And I'm looking in the mirror. I'm about 24, 25.

I'm about to be 29. So I'm like 23, 24. I'm looking in the mirror. I'm like, all right, this is who the fuck I am. I got this. I'm looking at Lily Lynn. I was like, I got this baby. It's just you and I baby girl. It's you and I. And so, um,

You know, I get better as time moves forward. I find a better house, you know, bigger house, backyard and all this more room. Believe it or not, I actually got I was done with waitressing because I got fired. They got sick of my shit calling out all the time.

but Lily Link kept getting sick. They were done with my ass calling out all the time. Single mom shit. Um, I became a bail bondsman. Yay. Awesome. Bail bondsman started making even more money. Uh, that didn't work out. You know how the owners just fall in love with you and get jealous. So that was some shit. Did you work for a bail bondsman out here? Who was it? Oh my God. Can we say that? We can bleep it. We'll bleep it. Yeah. Bail bonds. Okay. I, I had a problem with

Bells, Bell Bonds. I don't know if you know who she is. So that's Davidson. So I worked with Wilson, Williamson County and Rutherford. Okay, gotcha. We didn't touch Davidson. Right. Okay, gotcha. But man, what a drone rush that shit was. Yeah. Huh? I felt like a badass with like a little badge on. Hell, I'll tell you what, a pretty woman will get you every time. But I knew that job wasn't for me because I felt bad. Mm-hmm.

putting people back in i was like you know what there's my luck watch a fucker recognize me at walmart or something yeah and then you bitch like you put me back in you set me up yeah you always have to watch your back in that industry i dabbled in it too i had a thing called west coast fugitives on um on the west coast with my ex my now ex he was a bail a bondsman he could pass his test i couldn't pass my fucking test but i still went on the ride well the test is easy they practically

Not the one in Vegas. Here in Tennessee. Not in Vegas. Anybody because he can become a bail bondsman here in Tennessee. Shit. Vegas was hard, man. Really? What the fuck, dude? Yeah. But he passed his and we did the thing too. It's an adrenaline rush. Just like you. It's an adrenaline rush. But at the same time, I was like, I'm no better than these people. Yeah. Like, what the fuck am I doing? I'm putting you back.

that fucking shit hole like I don't you know what I can't do this plus the owner fell in love with me he got jealous because this was the time that I tried to let my baby daddy come back into my life to make it work with my two-year-old daughter at the time okay fast forward here we are two years old all right fucking he was still not better blah blah I remember him laying on the Lily Lynn's bunk beds he said he was fucking sick but I know what dope sick is I'm not fucking stupid and

I mean, I have friends that were addicts and who overcame their addiction. So how long did the reunited last for? Like, how long was he out here for trying to work things out? A girl is like Christmas. And then you fast for no for her birthday. I let him come down. And then Christmas, it was no better each fucking time. I fucking tried. Yeah. And then, you know, Lily Lynn just turned maybe three. No, no.

No, she just turned two and he came to Christmas when she was two. And then honestly, the last time I fucking checked, he got married, had another fucking kid and he's been doing his fucking thing. And then now he's crying on the internet. Yeah.

I see his ass on the internet. I said, I know you lying. Where the fuck have you been? Don't you love when you get a little bit of notoriety or a little bit of attention? But why now? Why now? But why? Because I have a fucking number in front of my name and I just blew up. Like, where the fuck have you been? Because people are giving, because he's a narcissist. And one, they want to be seen. They want to be heard. Well, baby, he couldn't take the heat. He made a, after two days, he made a statement, him and his wife,

Oh, we can't take this. The internet, blah, blah. We're going away. Oh, what's wrong? You can't take the fucking heat? Yeah. Like, oh, yeah. So, I mean, I'm so sick of the internet portraying me like, oh, she's a bad mother. No, you think I wanted to fucking struggle as a single mother? You think I wanted to do the things I had to do to fucking survive? Yeah. Like, you got me fucked up. You got me messed up. Well, there's always two sides. There's always...

three sides. There's your story, his story and the truth, you know, and you're not saying anything that I'm sure that he would say here and fucking lie, but I'm sure he would cooperate the same thing, you know, like he might be cleaned up now, but back then, baby, I don't know who that man is. Yeah. If he came in this room and sat down, I,

I, it's like getting to know a whole new person. Maybe he is clean. Maybe he's a great, does he call? Does he talk like anything? No, never tries to reach out. Just literally went straight to the Instagram instead of trying to reach out to you. Pretty much. Cause I did see the posts that he posted. Like I miss my daughter. Daddy's coming for you. I love you. But those were pictures that I took and he just reposted them.

Like what? I have friends of mine, like my best friend, I'll say her name, Abby Fickley, who I went to high school with and like my ride or die. She goes, dude, do you know he posted this? I'm like, what the fuck? It's not like you don't even know who your daughter is and you want to say daddy's coming. Where the fuck have you been? Right. And the only reason why

why, you know, the whole child support thing, the only reason why I get $25 a week or something, it's like restitution from the state. Oh, $25 a week. Oh, girl. You can definitely raise a child with that. Because I needed help with daycare. Here I am working a nine to five in the medical field. But you don't need to make an excuse as to why you need child support from the man who created

a child with you. I didn't never ask for child support or anything. It was the state coming after his ass. You guys are better baby mamas than I because literally if I had a child with somebody, we are splitting everything down the middle or we're doing child support. After all the abuse and shit I went through, you just want to fucking just block out everything and just move on with your life. I understand that, but just to hear you have to justify why you're even getting $25. People on the internet are fucking nosy. It's just crazy.

Since we're talking about some rumors, let's rewind back to the situation that happened with your mom, too. Can we talk about that? Yeah, let's go. She'll tell you. I feel like, you know, I hate even bringing them up, but Reddit, man, they are just always creating drama for no fucking reason. They are obsessed.

I'm telling you, like, I'm gonna have to give them PTO. Like, do you guys like not fucking sleep? Like, I'm gonna have to like give y'all paid time off or something. Can you imagine being that invested in somebody's life that you literally just every day have to like every waking moment post about what they're doing? I kind of.

it flattering like knowing that like I wake up and I post something and somebody's like you know looking at their like you just you just your your light irritates their demons pretty much I kind of find it flattering so cheers mama I know who you are yeah so what happened with the mama situation that they were trying to drag your mom for her mugshot her mugshot her pretty little mugshot is all over the internet and I love it

You know, I was born cross-eyed. I'm going to do it right here in the camera. Every baby picture of my ass, I look like, here's my cute little twin brother. Nothing wrong with him. And here's my ass just sitting there like, ha-chee. So, of course, I don't know the full terminology of what it was called that I had. Right.

It's a fucking big word that I probably can't even pronounce. Yeah, anything having to do with the eyes is always so fucking long and weird. Optic, I don't know. Anyway, my mom, I needed surgery. And hell, my mom said she wasn't working, but she was working until she found, you know, I'm going to say it, her sugar daddy at the time, which I love. We stan a mama with sugar daddies. I love mommas.

my first stepdad. Charlie, shout out to you. Charlie, you are the real MVP. We, me and my first stepdad, we still have a good relationship. I absolutely love him. So here you are. You have a young mother who had four kids and needs to get, you know, her youngest baby's ass fixed. She committed Medicaid fraud, food stamp fraud. Mm-hmm.

She ain't ashamed of it. Yeah. She owns it. She goes, I don't give a shit. I needed to do what you needed to do. And she paid her dues. Yeah, she paid her restitution and everything. Exactly. Like...

We all fucking make mistakes, you know? But the fact that people went digging and brought that shit up, I was about my mom. And you know what's crazy? They pulled up somebody else's fucking criminal record linked with her name. And it's like crack cocaine drug dealing. I was like, mom, you done cocaine with me? I was like, what the fuck? And she goes, no, bitch, I've never done any of that. They pulled up a wrong criminal record. Hmm.

linked to her name. So she was laughing at the fact about that. But yeah,

She did what she needed to do to help me. Mama bear protecting her cub and doing what she had to do so that you had a better life. Yeah. Well, so I'm not cross-eyed 24 days a week. That's what I mean. So you're not bullied and like, you know, harassed because children are fucking mean, man. Children are fucking mean, but I embrace that shit now. When I get drunk a little bit or like, you know, talking, my eye will like drift off and you just kind of pop.

pop it back in place. Shit, I just pop it back in place. When I get drunk, I look cross-eyed too and I don't even have a reason. Sometimes in my TikToks, if I'm talking to the camera, you slowly see it like go and I'm like, oh shit, my bad. Hey, we got a floater here. We got a floater. Some special wear glasses 24-7, but I don't. Oh God, I fucking know, bifocals. There comes a time in your life where you just have to give in and finally fucking wear them. Like I was blind for so long and then finally I was just like, you know what? This is it. I'm going to wear glasses. Okay.

But I own that shit now. I think dimps with glasses on would be hot. Honestly, I'm gonna lie. I mean, you gotta pay for that shit though. I think it would be hot. Yeah, when's the dimps OF coming out? Oh my God. You know how many times people have asked me if I had an OnlyFans? Dude, OnlyFans made me a millionaire. Honestly, I'm telling you right now, before I even thought about making a TikTok or anything, I had a conversation with one of my dearest friends and she knows who she is.

she was, I remember her calling me. She goes, I don't give a fuck when anybody says about me, I'm sick and tired. I'm not having money. I was like, yeah, I'm with you. Cause right then I just, the pandemic was just starting. And I was like, well, fuck I'm broke as a fucking joke. I got maybe 50 bucks in my bank account. I got rent groceries. Like, you know, not a car payment because Dempst drives pieces of shit. I don't like car payments. I mean,

Probably why my car is in the shop right now Probably fucking smart though No not really But anyway Nevertheless

I made an OnlyFans, but I never posted anything. Oh, you, everybody is going to go looking for your OnlyFans. Go put the subscription up because motherfuckers are going to subscribe. I want to say the username is like Demps, Demps93. I don't fucking know. It was like two years ago. I made an OnlyFans. I was like, yeah. Listen, Reddit will find it. I'm a post an ass pic. Reddit will find it.

I'm going to leave it up to you. Get on your job, haters. Get on your job. I'm going to leave it up to you. You guys go find that shit. Let me know what her username is. But I never, I never fucking made one. I just, it's not that I like never wanted to. I just like, it's just. You just haven't felt the need. I just haven't felt the need. Like, I feel like being naked and intimate with somebody, that's, that's a connection. That's an energy level. That's, you know. Not me. I will spread my love. I will.

I'm like an old hippie. I will just sprinkle love everywhere. But that doesn't mean like if I'm on summer vacay and mommy finds like a little summer fling, I'll spread it wide open, baby. I think that's why I'm going to the Keys in two weeks. I couldn't. I'm like, you know. Bust it open, Dempiana. Okay.

And that's why I was like, you know what? I'm going to see you again. Let me go ahead and book that flight in Airbnb to the Keys. Yeah, we're going to get to this love affair that you are leaking on the internet. But let's rewind back a little bit. And, okay, you tried to work it out with baby daddy. That didn't work out. What does Dempsey do now? Honestly, I got into my first relationship after baby daddy. Is this the one that you caught cheating? No.

Yeah. I do do my research. Reddit says I do my research on my guests before they come on. I was not on the Internet. Demps was like Demps was still Demps. Right. All right. But I was come from. Is that your last name? Real quick. Dempsey is my last name. But in high school living in Pittsburgh, I were meeting I was at a house party and this guy named Ian. Shout out, Ian. He looked at me. He goes, Demps.

And I looked at him and I've been called Dempsey my whole life with softball and sports and stuff. And it just fucking stuck. I love it. That's how Benny was with me, too. It just like I got goosebumps. It just literally just fucking stuck. And I've been built a brand off of it. Pretty much like I'm in the middle of trademarking it. Like I just literally just who I am. Yeah.

So after, what was your question? Sorry, we kind of bounce around. After you and baby daddy tried to work it out, it didn't work out. He went back to fucking Pittsburgh or wherever, Pennsylvania. Yeah, Pennsylvania, doing his thing, living his life. And here I am, like I said, excuse me, I'm in survival mode. All right, I'm still trying to make this fucking money. I got rent. I got daycare to afford. I got fucking clothes. Like,

whatever the hell my daughter needs to give her a good life i'm in fucking flight i'm working multiple jobs whatever the fuck i can do to make 20 bucks all right i meet this guy i was at a halloween party i was dressed up like ariana grande i'm gonna have to fucking show you that photo because it's actually it's like that tiktok sound it is so bad i will give you it is you need to make that a tiktok

It's so bad the way I try dressing up like Ariana Grande. Anyway, I meet this guy. He's Russian. And I think I connected with him is because my dad has a thing with Russian women. I tell him to stop searching on fucking line for Russian women. I can't even take it. And anyway, I

So I'm like, oh, yeah, my dad loves Russian. Like, you know, he'll talk to me in Russian. So we grew a bond right then and there. Next thing you know, we go on dates.

I honestly fell in love with this guy. And when I mean big Russian, I mean he's fucking. Oh, no. They build them good. Dosvidanya. You know what I mean? Like fucking full on, whatever. I couldn't see Demps hanging off of a Russian's arm. No. When we get off here, I'll show you. Yeah, I would love to. And he's still my fucking DMs. He's still in love with me. You know you are. He wouldn't be DMing you if he wasn't. Uh-huh. Snapchat. He's still obsessed.

Obsessed with me. Anyway, not obsessed, but in love. Anyway, I fell in love. I'm still working at the hospital, nine to five, blah, blah. But that was more mental abuse. It was almost like he was embarrassed by me. Because here I am. I left my baby daddy. I had a few years to find out who the fuck I am. I'm loud, I'm noxious, I'm outgoing. And I own that shit. And he also had his insecurities. Put them out on me. I did everything for him, like...

whatever I could do to make him feel loved and like one time one morning he went out the night before I had a gut feeling like a knots in my fucking stomach and I was like Lily Lynn let's go she wanted her Barbies from his house and I had a key to his fucking house wouldn't you know I show up at his fucking apartment I see you guys are still together we're still together baby

his pretty pink phone on the floor walking in his bedroom. Like I said, I had a key to his house. Lily Lynn wanted her Barbies. Granted, she's like three, three and a half. All right. And I pick up the phone, lift back the covers. I see this girl.

I'm not even fucking kidding you. Butt ass fucking naked like this. Eyes like fucking deer in headlights. Why cover the hootenanny now? I will never fucking forget this. I'm looking at her fucking like she's full on fucking like lips out everything. Wow. And granted he's fully fucking clothed. So none of this makes fucking sense. Right. What the fuck happened? You know what I mean? I got my fucking who here. Yeah. Like exactly. Like what the fuck?

So I have my daughter who's in the fucking doorway. You know what I mean? I just instantly fucking lost it. I'm like, what the fuck?

start being and I'll never forget this my daughter was like here mommy here's your shoe I was like you know what I can't do this I have my daughter with me I grabbed her Barbies got in the car and fucking went out to Dixon Tennessee to go hang out with my brother on the boat that day crying my fucking eyes out what did the girl say did she say anything oh girl I still see her nowadays oh really she's a manager at one of the local restaurants in my town oh no I want

Honestly, I'll drink my martini in front of her. I'm like, girl, bye. I don't even give two blind shits, honestly. So right after I broke up with him, TikTok quarantine just happened. Like TikTok was just like a thing. I got on it. And if people have time and scroll back far enough, my TikToks are fucking cringy.

I mean, I think everybody's starting out. The lighting is shit. The sounds are shit. Like it's just bad. I did not want to get on TikTok. She made me get on fucking TikTok. I was like, I'm not fucking doing dances. I'm not fucking. I'm not doing it. I don't do dances.

I can't. I grew up in here. I'm like, wait, five, six, seven, eight. My kid like tries to show me how to do these dances. And I'm like, bro, I'm not wired. I can twerk and I can be, I'll give you a lap dance. Nobody's seen dance twerk, but dance can shake that.

I want to see Dems twerk. Maybe off camera. You got to pay for that. You got to pay for that. Well, they do have to pay for it because it is on Patreon. No, but you know, here I am. And I was like, all right, I'm going to start TikTok. Here I am making comical videos about, because we just bought a boat together, like a 30 foot boat that we were fixing up and all this shit. And like,

I started making comical videos like, you know, about to go bust out my boyfriend's boat, get it out of my driveway, blah, blah, blah. Yeah. And then I just started posting about my fucking life, being a single mama, catching the damn fucking school bus. Yeah. Which that is some real life fucking shit. Those are hilarious.

by the way. Baby, that's some real life fucking shit. Yeah. I hope you know that. No, I know. That's not a 14 year old. That's not skidded out or anything. That is some me bitching to the camera. You got to be fucking kidding me. Like you have to be fucking kidding me. I love how you present yourself online because it's, it's really, you have, it's you, but you know, it's this, I don't want to say character because it is you, but it's like, that's what people are in love with is that you are just like,

You just put everything out there. Literally. And like nothing is off, off,

you know, grounds like you literally just fuck this, fuck that. I'm being a mama. I got fucking hermit crabs. I got hermit crabs. No, but I love that because that's relatable. What moms don't cuss? The ones that don't cuss are weird. I don't, I think it's weird. If you don't cuss, something's wrong with you. Something is wrong. Yeah. Like seriously. I met somebody, they were like, wow, you're actually who you are on camera. I'm like, well, who else would the fuck I be? Yeah. Like, you know, like, I don't,

No, but you would be surprised. I have had a few people come to the podcast and you see them on camera and they're here and you're like, who is the person online? You know, because that's not who's here. So it does happen a lot. What you see on camera is what you fucking get. Same. I'm the same exact way too. You get the full enchilada. Yeah. I love it. I love the enchilada. I don't fucking hide shit. I don't hide shit. So TikTok starts taking off for you. When did you kind of realize that, hey, this is...

really going to be a thing. You want me to be honest? Yeah. I'm just looking at my notes here so don't mind me. November. I was working from home. I got a new job at Dell Technologies. Dell.

Yay. I'm sorry if I didn't make it last. Is that the computer? The computer? Mm-hmm. Dell Technologies. I was working at home selling servers to like big corporations and the fuck I look like selling a server. I don't even know what's in a fucking server, okay? Like, give me a fucking number. How many do you need?

Like whatever. What's the credit card? Yeah. Like give me a number. What's your credit card detail? Like, so I literally, um, by then I was hustling. Like I was working nine to five. When I got a 10 minute break, I would go make a Tik TOK, go put on a cute ass outfit, go shotgun a beer, uh, you know, just to show off this outfit. Not because I wanted a shotgun and beer. And if you watch my shotgun and beer videos, then we've got the full fucking beer in my mouth. All right. Like it was just like everywhere. All right.

So anytime I got a break or something to make a TikTok to a cool new sound, because I don't do dances, I would just strut down my little driveway. Yeah. You know, in a cute outfit. And it just literally fucking just blew up for me. Yeah, I think the first time I saw you, you were doing one of your little Dempsey kicks and your dances, a Dempsey dance in front of your house. And I was like, she's so cute. Yeah, but that honestly...

Moving forward, if I ever do move or I'm not doing dance dances in front of my house. Don't do that. You can't. There's a lot of fucking creeps in the world. Oh my God. Yeah. No, I mean, you have people that are, I don't even think obsessed is a word. I think it's like...

enamored like I think they're in love with you and they want to like be close to you and the only way they can be close to you is to hate on you to get your attention you know what I'm saying honestly it baffles me because some of the shit that they make up I'm just like what can we talk about one of the uncomfortable things that's kind of hitting the internet right now yeah go for it it's about dad is that okay

Oh, yeah. So you apparently have a stepsister that is coming out and making really crazy allegations. Yeah, that was that stepmother, my first stepmother when I grew up in a trailer in a strawberry field. Like I said, I had good memories about my childhood and I had good memories with my stepsister, Andrea.

um me and her is it really her that's saying these things honestly it's the internet and who fucking knows right i want to say me and her had a falling out um and granted i i don't know if it is her or not um but as a mother to a daughter um

I think it's weird that now they're coming out and saying these allegations. Right. I don't know if it's because, what, because I have one point close to four million followers and I'm known in Nashville. Like, what kind of...

what attention are you wanting? You know what I mean? Why not discuss this privately in a private matter? Right. Why tell hundreds of people who can't help you when you could call one person? Right. I help you. I think, um, it's bullshit. It's honestly bullshit because if it,

was if she did feel this type of way, I hope she would reach out to the right people and to do it in a private matter, not go on the fucking internet for millions of people. What are you trying to do? Make me look bad. What the hell did I do? Right. Well, because you guys had a falling out. So maybe she, and we're not victim blaming if there is,

if no most definitely not I think is why didn't she go to the police exactly you know like go to the police fill out a police report call you you know like I think she was trying to say that you you knew about it or something like that I could be wrong I don't I didn't dive down the hold that deep but um you know like there's steps to this that you could do instead of going to a fucking reddit page or just the internet in general right it's almost like uh with

there are people's traumas and I have fucking trauma, but I'm not going to go and like put it on other people, handle it in a private matter. But mine and her falling out is a lot different than, uh, it'll probably be a while before I even discuss any of that. Right. While we fell out. But, um, there's a reason why I don't really talk to that family anymore. Um,

I think the last time I talked to them was, I think at Lily Lynn's like baby shower. Right. When they came, drove down and came and saw me. But I mean, I have memories with them. They were my stepsisters growing up. I mean, I mean, they're family to me, but we just haven't talked to them in fucking years. Have you talked to your dad since this has came out? I haven't really fully talked to him. My life has been so crazy busy. I just know that he said, you know,

there's rumors going around. I'm going to have to get off social media. Your dad will have to get off social media. He deleted his TikTok and all of that. Personally, I have a great relationship with my father. I couldn't perceive, I couldn't even fucking imagine. Yeah. You know what I mean? I mean, that's heavy. It's a heavy allegation to fucking make. Yeah. You know what I mean? And like, why now? And for you to have to even sit here and address that, I think instead of being in a private space

Matter. Yeah. I mean, it's like you have all... And I...

you know people come at me sometimes when I reply to things and they're like you don't have to explain yourself and it's like sometimes yeah you do sometimes you do because that's a heavy fucking allegation heavy allegation but it's also our responsibility as creators to tell our truths so that people can understand well baby I don't know what the truth is right no that's what I think I have the heart to sit here and ask my father face to face absolutely not I'm just saying sitting on the couch and just even dealing with this is you telling your truth and like that was like back

Like, in the 90s, like, I couldn't even pick up the phone right now and call my father and get the words out of my fucking mouth. Yeah. You know what I mean? No, that's how I couldn't imagine. So, I think... I think it's huge of you to even address it right now. I think once that time comes, I think it's going to be handled in a very fucking private matter. Yeah, absolutely. And I just...

my sister is needing, seeking help. I hope she gets help. Yeah. But I, it blows my mind. Why the fuck now? It baffles me how many people have came out in my past family that, that just,

I've never said I grew up in a rundown trailer. I grew up in a fucking trailer. The first trailer was rundown. We love trailer. I'm trailer trash, baby. I fucking love, I've embraced growing up in a trailer, but I remember getting a message from that side of the family calling me a TikTok slut and all of that. It's just, if that doesn't show you how toxic

that side is. I just ignored it. My whole family from Indiana tried to come for me whenever I got custody of my mom is what I call it. And I was just like, who the fuck are you guys? Like, where are you coming from? I haven't talked to you guys since fucking, I don't know how long. And you guys are just now coming after me. Like, what the fuck is happening? It's crazy. But to go back to my father, I think, um, I love my dad. Yeah. I absolutely love him. He, me and him have a great bond together. Um,

And I hope he finds the love of his life. I mean, he's finding himself in all this. But for me to actually get the words out of my mouth, to look him in the face and ask him to decide. I honestly, I don't know. I couldn't tell you. I get it. Let's move on to something lighter because you addressed what everybody wanted to know. Since you've been on TikTok, you have...

Developed a relationship with perfectly Kelsey. Yeah, that's my girl. Yeah. I would never see you... She seems like... I love her. She's hilarious. But she seems so square compared to like how you are. No, she's actually like no fucks given. Yeah. No fucks given. I'm gonna do what the fuck I want. Screw you. Screw you. And screw you. Like I...

I remember I went on a Miami trip and I was meeting all the girls. I was so fucking nervous. You know what I mean? Here I am. I'm a fucking nobody, you know? And then I felt so honored because they invited me to the Miami trip. I have never felt more welcomed in a girl's trip. Aw, that means a lot. I got goosebumps. Like, they were just so fucking welcoming. Good times. And wouldn't you know, when I'm having a bad day, I'm like,

out of the group of the girls like Kelsey V or Bonnie like I will pick up the phone to call them and be like I don't know what the fuck to do especially Brittany Jade me and Brittany Jade really bonded when she stayed at my house a couple weeks ago I love that girl but the internet portrays them to be such fucking bitches like stuck up blah blah blah but those are the most I don't ever get that vibe from them I just get her I just got mean girls as kind of like straight laced you know like yeah

she's buck wild yeah and i'm gonna put this on camera i taught kelsey how to throw up with two fingers down her throat and she got drunk on broadway i was like listen this is what you do oh yeah um i dragged her ass in the bathroom i was like shove those two fingers down your throat eat something really quick and you'll be back in the game baby you'll be good you'll be good next you know we're taking shots of lemon drops i was like all right told you

I love that. And I love that you have that group of girls because I'm huge into like women empowerment. You guys have that love for each other. I just want everybody to succeed in this world. And I always said this, I, um, that's why I help a lot of boutiques. You know, I will go out of my way. Um, when a boutique sends me stuff, I will spend two hours of my time, um, posting about them, tagging them just because I always said, what's the point of having a large platform if I can't help anybody else? Absolutely. And I think that's like,

I stand by those fucking words. Like, what is the point of having a fucking platform if you can't help any other people? That's what I try to do with this podcast, you know? Like, we're given this for a reason, so it's like, why not utilize it as much as you can? And then you get fucking people who take advantage of your ass. Yeah. Do you have a manager? I don't have

manager i've been doing this shit on my own i love that yeah and then you know if you want to get further trust people it's you really can't but if you want to talk about like how's tiktok been since i quit my nine to five job at dell yeah i was like listen this could go two ways i could be applying for food stamps next week again or we're just gonna fucking rock and roll it yeah and the next thing you know i'm hanging out with priscilla block going out to vegas which is

Huh? She's coming on the podcast. Priscilla? I want to come. Okay. I want to be that hot girl, Priscilla. I love that girl so much. Yeah, I love what she stands for. She, oh my God. I can't even get into Priscilla right now. That is my girl right there. Anyway, that's when I went to Vegas the first time. What if you want to talk about a culture shop? Oh, yeah. See, to me, it's normal. I'm like, that's normal life to me. And then coming here, it was like,

I couldn't I didn't sleep for like fucking two days and I wasn't even doing anything I just wired it was just fucking wired yeah and then I that's when Dempster got to pack socks and I wore socks for three days and then they were selling for 10 grand on eBay that's hilarious what fucking sicko call me find the Dempster OnlyFans page call me

But then eBay took them down and was like, I can't sell used products. Well, hell, I put Gently Used on the fucking description. I'll have to show you a picture of what they look like. That is so funny. I still have them. So you wore the socks like barefoot? Yeah. Oh, you're brave. Listen, one thing, it's one thing on Broadway. Broadway is kind of crazy, but Vegas...

Girl. Five dips is ass running up and down the strip. You are lucky you did not get a syringe in your foot. Like that's crazy. Oh my God. What a culture shock that Vegas was. Isn't it amazing? We'll have to go out there. I'll have to take you out there on my, my way. So I can show you Vegas. I don't know if I can. That's not the strip though.

Okay. I want to do Old Vegas. Yeah, we could do Old Vegas. I didn't get a chance to do Old Vegas. We're actually buying a house out there and we're going to be Airbnb-ing it. So we'll be able to go out there anytime. I'll come out with you, buddy. I'm a good time. I don't know if you've heard. Baby girl, I can tell. I don't drink, but I might drink with you. I might just look at Mimi's face. I might...

We might have to film some content because I've been sober since 2017. Don't you put that on me. Don't you put that on me on the fucking internet. Dan's got me to

Me to fucking do That's the last shit I fucking need Hold on no I'm sober by choice Not because I had to be I just needed to get My shit together I had severe anxiety Depression Stuff like that Was popping pills But you're good I was living the biggest lifestyle But you're good But I decided I wanted to be on a spiritual journey And get sober I didn't get sober Because I had to I love that So if I do choose To drink with Demps I think it would be Fucking hilarious It would be a good time I think it would be fun Oh my god The whole internet Thinks I'm a fucking alcoholic Yeah let's address that

I can't even. Dems, how does it feel to be a functioning alcoholic? Oh, no, I'm getting my shit done. Right? Right? I have a full-fledged, like, bills are paid. I was, like, taking care of a kid. I must be one hell of a functioning alcoholic to have it all, you know, get it done. I mean, it's quite... My husband...

literally sings about being an alcoholic musicians sing about being an alcoholic all the time. But yet when you see, not saying you're an alcoholic, but I'm just saying like people accuse people of that. Like it's something bad. Like you're not handling your business to me. An alcoholic is somebody who's desolate in the streets and can't wake up without fucking,

I think it's because when I make videos, I always have like a prop in my hand. And that's what it is. It's a fucking prop. Right. You know, or just to make the video, you know, vivid, you know, shotgunning a beer makes it more interesting. You know what I mean? Look, she doesn't get it all in her mouth, you know, gets in the comment, like get the whole beer. That's alcohol abuse, blah, blah, blah. Right. Or I think it's just because of my fucking personality. Right. Yeah. Yeah.

I'm just a fucking ditz outgoing person. Yeah. Like I'm completely sober. You're actually sitting here talking with you. You're not ditzy. You're very fucking smart and you're very into it. Honestly, I'm street smart. I'm not book smart. I'll give it to myself.

If I lost everything... I'd rather be street smart over book smart any day. And that's what I teach my daughter. Yeah. I could lose everything tomorrow, but I would have a fucking house, a place to live the next day. Amen, sister. Don't fuck with me. Amen. I just got goosebumps. Amen. Don't fuck with me. But...

So where do you see Demps in the next year? What is this? Fucking 2022. What does 2022 hold for Demps? What do you want to accomplish this year? Honestly, so many blessings have happened in my life. I just filmed my first CMT music video with Nate Smith. So I'm super pumped.

I'm definitely not going back to a nine to five. She's like, fuck that. Fuck that. I really just want to help out with country music, promoting country music. Do you sing yourself?

I can sing. I got a studio in my house, baby. Don't make me if I can have everybody's been waiting on that Dempst track. My husband will sit down with you and write a song. I've never I've thought I've like imagined writing a song and I've talked to my best friend LJ about this. I'm like, how do you let the words flow out? Like what?

when I hear a song, I can vision the storyline behind it, but to get the words out, I'm not, I'm not a literacy person. You know what I mean? I can't get the words out.

A lot of people in country music have writers, ghostwriters and stuff like that. I didn't know that until being working in the music business. I'm like, well, damn. Yeah. Okay. And all you got to do is just sing it. Pretty much. I've grown to love the music business so much and helping inspiring artists get their music going and everything or being in music videos. Yeah.

I just want to keep pursuing that and hope I can stay in this field. I'm definitely not going back to wiping asses. That's for fucking sure. That would be my, that would be an amazing job. Wiping asses? Get to see buttholes every day.

Unless they get a boner with you. It's like, oh, Johnny, keep it down. Oh, no. We're not doing that today, Johnny. Put it back. Put it back in. But ever since TikTok has taken off for me, some days I wake up and I'm like, well, what the fuck is my life? I'm out with my daughter at a Mexican restaurant. You got people asking to take pictures. And my daughter's finally fully understanding. Oh, mommy's known. Mommy knows.

People know mommy. Does it feel good for your daughter to be able to see that you got out of something that she saw you go through? Honestly, she doesn't know, baby. Really? She just looks at me. She goes, I don't have a dad, but that's okay. I have you. And I look at her. I'm like, mommy's not going anywhere. But I always tell her it's just been me and her, literally me and her for the past couple of years. When I tell you that little girl's my world...

All this could go away tomorrow, TikTok and all the, like, fame and all that. I would fucking go work at McDonald's just to keep the roof over my head. Not that there's anything working at McDonald's. That was my first job. Fatburger was my own shout out. I love that. But I would have to go do what I needed to do to make ends meet to provide for my little girl. Absolutely.

I think she's starting to realize that mommy's something here in Nashville because every time we go out, she's like, oh, mommy, taking more pictures. I'm like, smile for the camera, baby. Cha-ching. No, I'm just kidding. So let's talk about Dempsey's love life. Oh, hell. So who is this Florida boy? We don't have to have names, but can we talk about it? All right. I'm going to put this in perspective. Okay.

I was talking to a guy and I think I broke his heart. He made wallets and I really liked him, believe it or not. But it got hard for him to see things on the Internet when people make videos about, oh, I'm obsessed with Dems, especially if a man's making the video. Right. And still, that's just like views like. I mean, that's why they're doing it. Hello. It's not. And see.

he should be happy that other people love you and see what he loves in you. Yeah. But like to justify it the whole time, like, listen, blah, blah. So me and him had a conversation like, Hey, this is, this is just not going to work. And I wish all but nothing happiness and love for you. And I know, I know I broke his heart, but it takes, it's going to take a strong fucking man to understand me because I'm such a

It's not that like I have a wallet, but I'm a fucking independent woman. I don't need no goddamn man. I get it, baby. I got fucking a good old pink eight inch, nine inch. Battery operated boyfriend, baby. In the drawer, baby. Okay. I know how to please myself. All right. It's one thing. And they don't talk back. No. I'm married and sometimes I would rather play with myself. Oh my God. It's one thing if you get in bed, you're like to the left, to the right. Come on now. Find it. Anyway. So I was,

When I was on Florida vacation, have you ever seen that movie, Fool's Gold? Yes. Baby, when I tell you I was living that movie...

And I was running barefoot in a bikini for three fucking days straight. And my kid was taken care of. Like I had family there. My mom looked at me. She goes, go enjoy yourself. And I was like, you ain't got to tell me fucking twice. So of course I made my daughter was taken care of. I love her, whatever. But I went and like just had fun. You know what I mean? You deserve to have fun. I met this guy and he next thing you know, I'm on the back of a jet ski driving out to a little Island and I'm

I was like, what the fuck is happening? Oh, that's so romantic. And I don't think it's going to last. I really don't think it's going to last because school's about to start up. I have a life here in Nashville. He has a life there in Florida. But like, I honestly will never forget the summer of 2022. What's that song? It was a summer of love.

You know, that's all. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You know what I'm talking about? And I told him that. I was like, listen, if I never see you again after this upcoming trip we have together, I got us a Polaroid camera just for myself. Like, I'll never forget you. And if I ever come back, which I do go back. St. Pete's my area. Yeah. I'm going to hit that ass up. Are you guys going on a trip together? In the Keys. Yay. You know, we got like a little Airbnb yacht. Oh.

we're going lobster diving i love that as much as i don't want to be negative on the subject but i really think it's not gonna last like just live in the moment listen i'm living in when i met jay i just wanted to fuck like literally i wanted and i tried and he made me make a five-year plan and like when you go in with no intentions of just hitting it and quitting it it somehow fucking works out honestly that's where i'm at yeah it's that that's

That's exactly where I'm at. I'm not looking for anything because you have to understand...

I have a daughter. Yeah. I'm not expecting for a man to come in and be a father figure to my daughter. That's a fucking big fucking commitment. Mom is allowed to have fun though. Yeah. You know? And I'm a, I'm a, I'm a fucking, trust me. I'm a, I'm gonna have a fun because believe it or not, I'm a good tongue. Yeah. Well, I'm looking, I am looking forward to this trip. I can't wait. And I can't wait to hear the details about it afterwards. I don't know if I want to post anything while I'm down there. Yeah.

I don't know how to post anything. I don't know. I get there. I'm like, fuck it. I'm making a TikTok. Yeah. You could always make him just turn around and never show his face. I do. Fuck with the internet. Oh, I don't think, honestly, I don't think I'll ever show his face. Yeah. Me and him already discussed it. You don't want to name the puppy because once you do, it just wildfire happens. He didn't know who I was until his friends, like I posted that one TikTok of him running out to his truck. Yeah.

And his friends were messaging him and were like, no fucking way. You're talking to Demps? I'm like, dude, how the fuck is, how big is my following? What?

And me, I told him, I was like, I think I'm just going to keep this private. I don't think I'm going to show your face. Even if people feel like they figured it out, whatever. Let them think what they want. But I'm not going to fully post. Yeah. You know, well, you deserve some sort of privacy. Like we share so much of our lives that people think that they know everything when really they only know what we want them to see. And I told him, I was like, trust me, you don't want that kind of attention. Like,

Yeah, no, you don't want this. You don't want this, boy. As much as you feel like you want the attention, it's a whole fucking ballgame. Well, I'm excited to hear about the trip on or off camera. You know I'm going to be hitting you up like, hey, girl. Yeah.

know i'll give you the whole detail how is that fucking florida dong baby honestly i'm probably not gonna leave you i'm fucking in there tonight well i'm really excited to see what everything holds for you i think that you are just a sweet spirit and i think that you deserve everything good that's happening in your life thanks i can't wait to see it flourish you're a beautiful soul too has anybody told you you're beautiful today i love uh

No, but you did. You're a gorgeous mom. I love you. You're gorgeous. But thank you for coming on the podcast and trust me with your story. Why don't you shout out where everybody can find you? Like your socials.

You can find me on TikTok, D underscore Damps93. Instagram, The Official Damps. All those damn spam accounts. Snapchat, that's a hit or miss, baby. Some months I'm on there, some months I'm not, honestly. But TikTok, D underscore Damps93. Yay.

Thank you so much for coming. Thank you for having me, mama. Dude, and you got to come back. I want you to start coming back every year and just check it in. You want to know about that Florida dong. I do. I want Florida dong details. He knows I might be like, he asked me for my ring size. Oh, already? Yes, girl. Dimms has that powerful pussy. You know what? I think she's hiding it.

I think you drive these motherfuckers crazy. And then you're just like, you know what? The wallet guy asked me about my ring size. This guy's asking me about my ring size. And I didn't even meet the wallet guy. All right. What is your ring size? Let's put it out there for everybody. It's a size six. Yeah, baby. Size six. But she likes big rings.

I do. Four carat princess cut. She knows exactly. A woman who knows what she likes. I love that. Well, thank you for having me, mama. Dude, I really appreciate it. And thank you guys for tuning in to another episode of Dumb Blonde. I will see you guys next week. Bye. Bye.