Demps: Breakups Suck
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Is this thing on? What's up, you sexy motherfuckers? Today, you know my girl's going through a breakup, so of course, who am I going to bring on the podcast to spill all the tea? But my girl, Demps, baby. What's up, babes? What is happening? Man, as I was walking in here, I was like, why does it seem like every fucking time I'm on this couch...

or anything. I got like, I'm just going through something, dude. Going through some sort of breakup. Last time you were here, it was you and Cat Daddy were going through it. And then I think you guys kind of like, didn't you guys reunite a little bit after the podcast? Yeah, after the podcast, we kind of like, we were mutuals, but then we weren't mutuals. I mean, there was like a whole thing to where his friends try to jump me at a fucking bar. That was all over the fucking internet. Demp gets kicked out of a bar.

and all of that. But yeah, I think I left him blocked after that. Yeah. So you guys aren't cool. Nobody from that side is cool. You guys are just not cool. I haven't talked to him. I hope all is well, though. Yeah. Hope he's taking care of that kitten I bought him. Now that you're going through another breakup, do you think that you would rekindle anything with Cat Daddy? No. No. And you know, it's funny because in some of the comments...

People, my followers were like, we need cat daddy. And he commented, he was like, I've been summoned. I was like, Oh, hell no. He's like, you know who he is? You know what he is? You know, those guys that go and clean up roadkill on the road.

It's like, it's like he knows that you're vulnerable right now. So he's like, hello. I'm just like, hell no. And I'm so happy I've have him blocked because, you know, uh, the past two weeks I've been in a very vulnerable state and I can honestly say, I mean, I've never seen myself like this. I mean, I had to check myself, girl. I looked at myself in the mirror. I was like, you need to get your fucking shit together. Um, so I knew I was in a vulnerable, vulnerable place. I probably would have felt for his shit. Oh,

And we would have been just like recycled, girl. Do not fucking do it, Dems. We would have just like been back here in like three more weeks talking about this. No. What about the shit with... We'll block her name out, but are you cool with... No, you guys are just... No, but it's so crazy because after all that happened, you know, Todd was there and all his friends were there and...

After all that, the dust settled. I mean, you guys saw somebody vandalized my home, right? Yeah. They wrote clout chaser on the back of my home. Yeah, we're going to talk about all that because now you can actually talk about it, right? Yeah, now I can talk about it. Okay, perfect. Yeah. Yeah. Because I know before when you had come on the podcast, we were tiptoeing around it because you had a court case going on. Mm-hmm. And I won. Yeah, baby. That's fucking nuts. Because light always wins over darkness, man. Oh, my God. God, bummer.

Bunny, it's been a minute since I've done like, I mean, obviously I text you and everything, but to like really get it out. Yeah. Yeah. So after the whole, my home getting vandalized and all of that, I just took a step back and I didn't reach out to anybody, but it's so funny because I saw some of them singing my songs and I ignored it. I thought they were like kind of being petty about it, but they were like, no, this is actually a great song, bitch on wine and all of that.

that. I was like, y'all are just see, I'm a good fucking Tom and a good person. If you guys weren't such fucking dicks to me. Okay. Well, I also think that I don't want to use the word jealousy, but sometimes when there's men involved too, it just makes a whole fucking, you know, one of them had the audacity to show up to one of my husband's shows. I was actually quite, remember I texted, I was like, you want me to kick her out? Cause I will. And you're so sweet. You were like, no. And I was like, all right, she lives to see another day. I was like,

But you know who you are. Showing up at my husband's fucking concert was very ballsy of you, especially knowing that I ride for Demps all day long. My girl. But other than like that whole thing, I just it was like New Year's of last year. I literally started to just kind of heal a little bit. Yeah. But then for some reason.

Some fucking reason. I run into somebody who's friends with my ex and I, mind you, I have him blocked, but I started Snapchatting him. Which ex is this?

Most current one. Okay. I don't want to like give him so much clout or whatever. Let's change his name. What are we going to call him? Let's call him Bill. Bill. Dated Bill. All right. Not Bill. Okay. Let's think of something else. Yeah. We don't want to call him because my dad's name is Bill. Let's call him Ron. Ron. I love it. Fucking Ron. So was this Ron we're talking about? Yeah. So right after cat daddy and all that New Year's is around. And I was like, man, I don't.

I just need to keep doing me and just keep pushing forward because you know, Todd, I mean that fucker, like, yeah, he broke my heart, but screw him. Did he really break your heart? No, he actually did. I'm like, come on. I know you way better than that. Long story short. Um, obviously I love attention. Yeah. I mean, I'm a Leo. You're a Leo. Yeah. You know, we're going to do your birth chart today. Cause I need to figure out what the fuck's wrong with you. No, I know.

We're getting to the bottom of it today, everybody. I need to figure out what the fuck is going on with Dempsey inside her fucking body and mind and heart. And then we're going to figure out who will be a soulmate for you once I get all your deets. So we'll figure it out. Good. Maybe I can get some fucking answers and some sleep tonight, girl. We're manifesting. So long story short, Bill, Ron. Ron. Ron.

ron and i rekindled things and it was very simple in the beginning it was just like so you started snapchatting him okay and like what made you even want to reopen that door because if i can remember correctly and this is why i never came around because i didn't like the dude is didn't he do some fuck boy shit the first time around what did he do and you know it's crazy i always kept my mouth shut i never aired my laundry i'd let you talk your shit on

I let you just take in all the energy that you want to and then I'm just going to go over here and do my thing. I'm not one to, even with Todd, I was like, fuck you, dude. Yeah. Yeah, so he was just in a fuckboy stage and I

I'm the type of person I think that somebody is going to change. You know what I mean? Or that you can change them. Or I can change them. I said this recently. I was like, I don't know what it is when I date these men that they just need love so bad. And I have so much love to give because I'm a mom myself.

And I want to be loved. You know what I mean? But why is it every time I date someone, I'm the masculine one in the relationship? Because you're in your masculine energy, baby. And your masculine energy attracts feminine men. And until you change that, you're going to keep attracting feminine men.

But, Bunny, it's literally a reoccurrence. And I had a wake-up call. I literally, when I was two weeks ago, I was like, bitch, you need to pull yourself fucking together. I was like, what is it that...

I'm attracting these men because I know what I want and I know what my daughter deserves and I know what I deserve. And it's, it's a shame because you know, if anything, I know I'm being played as a victim and I know he's saying some things that like, Oh, Dempst just loves to be a victim. If I'm a victim of anything, it's for me to just over communicating because I set this guy down in my kitchen and,

Well, let's circle back to when you guys first broke up. Why did you guys first break up? Who's a fuckboy? Well, let's be honest. What did he do? Don't let the stress of the holiday season show up on your skin. Keep your complexion hydrated and ready for every holiday gathering with Oak Essentials. Founded in 2021 by tastemaker Jenny Kane, Oak Essentials brings a simple yet luxurious approach to self-care with a lineup of top quality, clean skincare and body care essentials.

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I remember being at a show with him. Mind you, I went and got a babysitter, got all dolled up. This is the first time you guys broke up? First time. Okay. It takes a lot for me to... Dem, silence your damn phone. I'm trying, but thanks.

It takes a lot for me to go out of my way and go on a date with a guy. Okay. Let me just start there. Okay. I'm finding the babysitter. It's my time, my energy to go out with you. I remember going out with this guy that night. He didn't acknowledge me once and talk to a girl the whole time that I was out with him.

And I was like, you know what? I don't fucking need this. I need it. I'm just going to go the fuck home. And I remember him calling me at 3 a.m. or 2 a.m. or something like that. And I remember being so excited. Oh, my God, he called me. What does he want? Like he wants to talk to me. Oh, he's missing me. No, girl, he there was somebody that wanted to talk to me that he was with because he was dating Demps or whatever.

So he let you go home? So that right there didn't show you that he was in it for clout? No, girl. How did that? I would have been like click and never answered the fucking phone for that man ever again, girl. I am so gullible.

Like, I'll just believe. Like, if you say I'm beautiful and all this, I'm going to fucking believe you. I'm going to fall at my knees. But that is a major ick. The man let you leave. You went home because you felt like you were being ignored. And then he calls you and is like, hey, can you talk to this person? Because I'm telling them that I'm dating you, but I'm not treating you like I'm dating you. That's like a fucking ew. So I blocked him for two years. And then I unblocked him.

After the whole Todd thing. Because you were in a vulnerable state. But can I be honest with you, Bunny? Yeah. I think the reason why I was so upset with myself is because I never gave grace after the Todd, how he treated me.

in this yeah with him ron so i was just so mad at myself all this anger and i'm like i'm a fucking great person ron when you say i thought you how can you silence this shit ron i crack up when i hear that so i'm a great fucking person so it's just like why the fuck

Does this keep fucking happening to me? Yeah. I don't get it. Seriously. Do you see the, between the lawns? Can you tell me? Dems, you have something that is some sort of trauma in you that needs to be addressed before you can even get into the type of relationship that you yearn for. Yes. Your heart and your mind want a certain type of relationship, but because there's something that happened maybe in your childhood or in a, in a relationship that you,

Triggered some sort of trauma in you. You're going to keep seeking out that same trauma.

type of man until you can figure out what's going on inside of you you know yeah that's what I tried to tell you last time I just it was a shame that things ended the way it did and um I'm not gonna back I'm not gonna sit here on your podcast and bash someone because so let's get into your guys's relationship you guys research you guys will circle back around you guys start dating again how does that even happen you start snapchatting and then you guys just see each other and you're like we decided we want to be together because didn't

he start dating somebody too that like worked at a bar the first time too yeah i remember girl yeah she was on and she was on my talk you don't forget nothing no no because i don't i don't forget people who are rude to my friends yeah you know like that like people can be rude to me all day but if you're fucking rude to my friends i'm i'm gonna remember that yeah i just immediately saw and i think that girl has me blocked and it's like bitch i don't even know you like remember

I think I went to go like lurk one day and fuck it. I was like, how am I blocked? I didn't even know who you were until today. Yeah. I, there was a time, well, they were running with all that crew with my ex. Which I don't care, bitches block me please. Cause the only thing you're going to see is success and thriving over here. So I think after we started hanging out the second time around, um,

And he started coming over again. Mind you, I was paying for babysitters to go out on dates with him. Mind you, you know, taking time away from my daughter because I wanted to spend time with him. You know what I mean?

And I we just grew to like each other's company, if I might say. And we grew like fond of each other. And I remember like, wow, I think he really changed. And I really love this man. I mean, and then slowly after like five months of us dating, I finally brought him around Lily. And that was like it made my heart so full to see Lily, because mind you,

This is the first guy Lily's ever seen me affectionate with. She didn't see you affectionate with Todd, though? No. Oh, okay. Mm-mm.

No. So, you know, I mean, laying on the couch, you know, kissing and loving on. So Lily sees that and she knows like, oh, mommy loves this person. Yeah. And everything. So it was just a special moment for me to share that with my daughter and everything. And I was like, wow. Did Lily like him? Yeah. Lily did like him. And it was really sad to her to like tell me, you know,

you know, mommy, I'm really gonna miss him. You know, he was fun and everything. But one day I think it's for the better, the things that worked out because I opened up my eyes. Like I don't need someone like that in my life because of my needs.

If I'm being too much because I'm over communicating with you because, hey, I need this. I need to be told that I'm this because the way I perceive love is I'm words of affirmation. I need to be told I'm doing a good job. I need to be told that, you know, hey, you look beautiful today. You know what I mean? And that comes with past trauma, with domestic violence. I mean, getting called a cunt and a bitch, whatever.

Every day for almost fucking four years, you know, with my Lily's father. So and I expressed this to him and I think it just became too much. So you guys work. You guys got back together for how long? Sorry. Hold on real quick. Someone's opening the garage. Hold on. Sorry, Dems. Now you're on.

I'm not going to get emotional on this. I'm not trying to give him anything. It's okay if you do get emotional, though. You're going through a fucking breakup. You're human. But he's on fucking TikTok saying Dempsey likes to play the victim. Like, you motherfucking narcissist. How dare you sit there two weeks ago and tell me you love me back home in Indiana for you to leave me on read for days and you break up with me over text? That's really fucked up.

It is. Bunny, when I say I... It was bad, bitch. It was really bad. I was over at Priscilla's house. I had no makeup on. She called me. She was like, just come over for coffee. And I remember just in Priscilla's kitchen, I was like, I don't know what's wrong with me. This one fucking hurt. And I know... Fuck Todd. I wasn't even upset with Todd. But this...

I felt pain like leaving Lily's father and it fucking fucked with my head. I think it's because you really genuinely loved him though, Dempsey.

I think, and it's okay to love people and it's okay to be sad about it. You don't have to be hard just because of what he's saying on the internet right now, or he's trying to gaslight you, you know, and we know how guys are. There's, and there's always three sides to every story. There's your side, his side, and the truth, you know, but the truth is you're hurt right now and that's okay. That doesn't give him more power because you're showing emotion. It's you're fucking human, dude. Yeah. You know, and breaking up with anybody fucking sucks. Yeah.

And I think that you deserved more than a text message. Yeah, for real, girl. Because my daughter was involved and we were together for a year. And there was...

It would have been different if it was just like a month fling, like the first time we dated, you know, like, okay, bye, you know, okay, have a great life. But there was so much connection, you know, a little girl was involved. And I remember before all this,

sitting in my kitchen expressing to him, crying to him, like, I don't, this is what I need and I don't know what's going on with you. And he told me that, you know, he has issues himself, that he misses his parents and he, and all that. I think he just has some trauma, um,

That he has never dealt with. And I don't think he's ever had a woman love him other than his mother. I mean, I'm grateful that I got to show him how a woman should love a man because he got to experience that. But I don't think...

Maybe it was just too much in my life is was just too much because it is a lot my life is a lot I mean hello. I just started releasing music and everything so yeah We're gonna talk about that you guys had gotten back together you had introduced him to Lily How long did this stint together last about five months six months? What do you mean like how you guys got back together a second time about a year? Okay, okay, gotcha and so

And he didn't meet Lily until almost about four to five months into the relationship. So mind you, I was going out of my way to pay for babysitters to make that time for him. Right. You know what I mean? So when do you guys start having problems? Can I be honest with you? Mm-hmm. Blond-sided. Oh, so this was just completely out of the blue. Out of the blue. Okay. Because I told him that I feel like...

Every time I was kid free, it always felt like something was about and my time was never appreciated when I was kid free. Right. Mind you, as a single mom, we go to the lengths to be kid free as moms here. So just like you, when you dated Jelly and all that, like you were fully committed to Jelly when he had Bailey and all that. Right. Yeah, absolutely. You were there. Yeah.

So I feel like, and you valued your time with Jelly when you guys didn't have a kid and everything, right? So all I wanted to feel like was I was appreciated when I didn't have that, a kid with me. I just wanted to feel alone with him to bond with him even more. Right. He just could care less.

He would rather go home and be alone. So you expressed to him like, because I'm just trying to figure out where the text came from. Like you expressed to him like, hey, I need you to pay more attention to me. This is how I'm feeling. And you only did that one time or multiple times? Multiple times. Okay. It was multiple times that I expressed my feelings to him. But it was almost like. Was it because there was no change though?

There was no change. So the first couple. It was like a broken record. Okay. And I said this to him. I was like, I feel exhausted and I feel like a broken record trying to communicate with you on what I need for this to work because I want it to work. I love you and my daughter loves you. So, and here we are. The first text happened and then we decided. What did he say in the text message?

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Cause I would, I mean, we're so we're grown. I couldn't imagine if my husband texts me and said, Hey, we're going to get a divorce. I'd be like, right. Hello. First of all, no, we're not. And secondly, what the fuck is going on? You don't text somebody that, you know, I think breaking up over text is a real pussy move. Coward shit. Yeah. That's like, yeah. That's like, I can't face my fucking fears or responsibilities.

Especially because you guys are a year in, you know, like that's exactly. So you have to understand the manic state that I was in. I hope you don't think really that I would do something like this on purpose. That's pretty low. God bless it. The fucking paragraphs. Is he one of those paragraph text texters? I can't do it. I have to leave voice messages. I can't read the phone and call me. Yeah, pretty much.

If I had it all together, this wouldn't have happened. I wouldn't just do this to you. I wouldn't just do this to you guys for no reason. And there was no way I would have been able to say this in person because you would have been hysterical the whole time and I wouldn't be able to compose myself doing that to you. So say what you want about not saying things in person, but easy said than done.

So he would, my life is just pretty much just, it's too much. It's too much for me communicating my feelings and my expectations because I told him, I was like, you know, you're the first like father figure my daughter has. And that it's a lot to me. Yeah. And I think versus him telling, sitting me down like a grown adult for dating for a year, um,

He'd rather just send that. Well, men run from any sort of emotional confrontation also. And I'm not giving him an out. It's not cool what he did at all. I'm just saying most men just don't know how to face shit head on. That's just how they are. And then you have his mother. And I think I saw the silver lining is that

his mother, it's one thing for your mom to like go in your comments and like back you up on some things, but for your mom to be in your comments, making false allegations saying I was physically abusive and all of this and mentally abusive. Well, here's the problem. You don't know what he's telling her. Exactly. That's what my friends say. And you just said it. And he went on and made a public statement like Dems never did this. She has a huge heart. Well,

Thank you. Why the hell would you even let your mother do that? Yeah. Say those things about me. Well, nothing screams I'm trying to get clout off of a breakup by making fucking multiple videos about it. I don't even follow the dude. Did you see? And they've popped up in my FYP. The most hilarious one was about his hairline, though. I was like, tell me.

That you got your feelings hurt without telling me. I was like, holy... He is so upset about that hairline. And his hairline's not... Ron, your hairline's not bad, dude. It's a little weird, but it's not bad. Yeah, it's very... It's very crisp. Yeah, it's very crisp. But I mean, hey, at least he's got a hairline. Some of these dudes out here fucking look like they got the donut starting, you know? As I'm just growing and evolving and getting prettier, his hairline is just receiving. So...

But yeah, I just, nothing screams. I'm trying to milk this breakup for views and which it'll by next week, people will be moved on to something else. And yeah,

I think this is your time to just be alone and fucking kind of figure some shit out. I think you want to have a little family so badly that you're willing to overlook like the red flags that are literally there when you first meet these guys. And it's like, you got to stop doing that. And not awful. No, it's not awful. You're it's you're human. It's toxic. Tell me why you unblocked him to begin with. Were you seeking? Here's the thing. He was never blocked on Snapchat.

And I remember with, you know, back with my first of all, he has Snapchat. Yeah. Don't fucking date any more dudes that have Snapchat. I only have Snapchat because I get paid like a motherfucker on there and I'm barely your ways. Yeah. But other than that, fucking any man grown man that has Snapchat has no fucking business even being in a relationship. Moral of the story of this whole breakup and it obviously a public breakup. I don't wish this upon fucking anybody. This shit is

just awful. Everybody has to put their fucking two cents in. Um, at the end of the day, I am a regular fucking person in this shit hurts. The only differences is that I choose to put myself out there on the internet and show people, millions of people, my love life with my daughter as a single mom. Um, at the end of the day, um,

I was fucking heartbroken and I deserved a lot more than what I got for me and my daughter. Now you need to remember that. Okay. The next time the next fuck boy tries to reenter or be summoned, remember that statement right there that you deserve a lot more and you need to tell yourself that because I think the problem is, is you just,

There's something in you that is broken and you find men that trigger your own childhood trauma. So it's like you find dudes who are broken also and you guys both trigger each other's childhood trauma. That's what Jay and I did. And I'm not saying that it can't work because look at Jay and I, we're almost a decade in and we've somehow managed to make it work. He's still a dick and pisses me off half the time, but I love that man. You know what I'm saying? And it can work, but you guys have to both be...

be willing to fucking stick it out. You know, like you can't break up over every little thing and you can't walk and people aren't going to be perfect either. Dems. And I get that. And I was willing to work it out. Yeah. But then again, I'm not the one to beg for a man's love or attention. If you want to go, go.

Go. Yeah, I'm not going to. I've already said what I needed to see say to you. You've seen me in my most vulnerable state crying to you in my house, like expressing this to your face. You know, we're not doing the long paragraphs like I'm I'm physically in front of you showing you what I need, telling you what I need.

to make this work. So if you want to not take that and you don't want to fight or work this out, good riddance. Well, if he has that close attachment to his mom too, that might be hindering him being able to have a relationship with another woman. You know, when they don't cut that umbilical cord, I'll have to tell you something. I do. Are they really close? Yeah.

i am so happy that things ended up the way they did she sounds like she would be a momster in law yeah for real but i am so blessed that he ended things the way he did because i saw the bigger picture outside because let's be honest here bony i would have never broken up with him yeah i would have fought

And here we are back in the same toxic cycle, you know, that I put myself through. I have nobody else to blame but myself. I put myself through this, the heartbreak and all that.

For like, who knows, maybe seventh time of trying to work things out. So at the end of the day, there was love there. I did love him. Did I deserve better? Abso-fucking-lutely. Did my daughter? Abso-fucking-lutely. But I never want to see that girl ever again, how that man made me feel. It was bad. Yeah. It was very bad. Your little heart was hurt. But you know what?

This is your time to shine, baby. 2025. It's a new year. That's fucking right. You're going into 2025. You've got your music that you've been dropping, which, by the way, is not bad. It's not bad. It's not bad at all. I was the first time I heard her music.

She said that about me, so you know that's good. No, no, no. You don't suck. I said all things. No, like when I first heard it, I was like, I was really impressed and I was so proud of you. Was that bitch online? Because I sent it to Mimi and Haley first. I was like, you want to hear something with a little emoji? Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Yeah, no, it's so good. And I'm so proud of you for doing it because you have promoted everybody else's music for years and it's time that you invest in yourself. Yeah, I'm excited about this new chapter. And I think with all this heartbreak that I've been going through and life experiences, I've been working with other writers and everything and just channel in like putting it through music because music is such a big part of me, like promoting it wise and all that. And I was like, well, instead of

fucking going online and making like a fucking fuck you video let's make a fuck you song about it you know yeah or even a heartbreak song heartbreak songs are always needed I love a heartbreak song you know how many motherfuckers we need a we need a song that we can sit in our car and cry to you know you just

stay tuned girl. You just stay fucking tuned. But no, I'm excited. I'm just, you've dropped what? Like three songs now? Yeah. Four. What are the names of them? So people, if you were a country girl, bitch on one is my favorite. I made, um, the DJ earlier at brunch. Play that for me. Yeah. I was like, play my song. Um, who's who has to be my absolutely favorite. I actually liked that one. That one's really cute. Yeah. Who's who? Um,

and then rough cut diamond, which rough cut diamond is speaking a lot to me right now because these flaws are making me flawless. I'm a rough cut diamond. Yeah. I wasn't mine for you. And it's a shame because I'm a bad-ass fucking person. Yeah. And you're just working on yourself, baby, and you're getting better. Who's writing these songs? Are you writing? Oh my God. I've had,

like the pleasure pleasure for who's who Kelsey Ballerini absolutely wrote that and she commented on one of my videos saying I always fucking love this song and she said it was like meant for me and I was like really because when I sing it I feel like it was meant for me so it's just been

like amazing artists like Hardy, Maren Morris, Kelsey Ballerini. But I'm taking a dive into writing my own music. Good. We just wrapped my Christmas song. We did an original Christmas song. Oh yeah, girl. Oh God, it's so good. I got to write with Jesse Joe Dillon and

and Alicia Vanderheim who are all Kelsey Ballerini's writers and Nicolette I do not know Nicolette's fucking last name but her name's Pillbox Patty you guys go listen to her music she's fucking amazing but we literally started the song with just a harmony that

that Nicolette came up with. And then Alicia put the guitars and the beat to it. So it's like wild. It's, it's crazy to watch a song come to life like that. I love it. And I think beautiful process. And I think it's just like a new passion of mine. Like when I stepped into that booth, I,

And to record my first song, I was like, oh my God, no wonder I have friends who do this for a living. This is so much fucking fun. What got you to that point though? Like, I know you always like sang on lives and things like that, but like, how did you get to the point of the booth? So what I, obviously I was a music promoter and I'm still a music promoter. Um, somebody reached out to me and they were like, Demps, we have these songs and we want you to sing them. We're like Jimmy, uh, Robbins.

who's an amazing writer like number one hits and he had these songs that he co-wrote with Kelsey, Mara Morris, Hardy and all that and they thought it would just be fun to do a project just like a simple project I didn't think it was going to do anything or anything and here I am getting booked shows y'all buy tickets for my show November 15th oh we'll be home

We could probably go to it. Oh, girl, you got to dress incognito and come out there. Put on a wig. Oh, shit. Just bring me on stage. I'll show my titties. I'll only do that for you. Oh, my God. Stop. We'll talk after this. Oh, my God. My little heart. Yeah. It will come. I mean, I don't see why not. Are we filming with CBS that day? 15th and 16th? Or is it 17th and 18th? 15th is your hair. 15th is my hair. Okay. We'll figure it out. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay.

Yeah. I'll have my people call your people. Okay. Good, good, good. No, no, no. Where's it at? Cahoots in Lebanon. Okay, okay. Yeah, girl. We're fucking just... I'm super excited. I'll bring security. So that's how it all came about. And then I can honestly say the first time hearing myself come out the speakers and seeing my daughter's eyes light up...

I was just like, yeah, girl, you can do anything you set your mind to. Yeah. Who cares what anybody else says or all these back noises? If you want to do something, go do it. Absolutely. But I will say my first show that I did, Bunny, I want to tell you,

I didn't think you could throw up from nerves, girl. I was in the bathroom. I went through the fuck up. But when I got on that stage, it felt like I was just doing it for years. So I'm enjoying life right now. And I think I'm going to take, you know, what you said and just enjoy myself. Life's putting out music. Dude, life's so good right now. Yeah, date music. Yeah, date music.

But you already have a family. You have you and Lily. And if you just pour your love into both of you and stop looking, I promise you that love is going to fall out of the sky. My three cats and my dog. Literally. Yeah, Coleslaw. Fucking what's the other one's name? We have Coleslaw, Sauerkraut, and Z's. I don't know.

if I've ever even seen Zeus, but yeah. He's an old man. He isn't lying to me. Gotcha, gotcha. I feel like Coleslaw's like the star of the show. He is. He's your Chachi. He really is. One of these days, I'm going to bring him over here. Oh, God. I don't know how Chachi will act towards a cat.

We're going to see how he's going to act with a possum tomorrow. He doesn't even like his cousin, so I don't know about a cat. Only one way to find out here. But like all that love and that pizzazz for life that you have, just harness that for all of 2025 and literally pour into you. Whether that's going and fucking getting a little bit of therapy or going and fucking, you know, feeding the homeless or going and just doing something that is like chicken soup for your soul, writing music, writing a heartbreak song, whatever.

doing a fucking rap song, whatever you want to fucking do, put all that energy into you because these men, man, they ain't shit. Girl, I learned a big lesson with this one. Yeah. Oh my goodness. I would have gave that man like the moon. Yeah. And all I wanted was to start this new journey and share it with someone, but I was like, well, I'm already sharing it with someone, my daughter. Yeah.

Yeah. Who watches me. Absolutely. You know? So why am I trying so hard for something when it's already there with my daughter? And you can give the man the moon and he's still going to want the stars. You know what I'm talking about? Maybe. Ooh.

That's right, baby. That's right. Remember that. Ladies, write that down. That was good. Ladies, I'm a Van Wilder of fucking quotes over here, okay? I'm fucking Oscar Wilde. But no, it's for real. And until that real love comes along for you, baby, just focus on yourself. I think 2025, people are going to see a different... I mean, we've seen Dempsey be the funny comedian, go through...

Fuck with the internet, with my love life. That's like my favorite thing to do. I will admit it's my favorite thing. That is my favorite thing to watch. One thing you know how to do is play your crowd and they go into a fucking frenzy anytime you date somebody. I know, but I think I'm so thankful I'm married. Like I just, there's no way I could deal with all the shit you have to deal with. Dating in this day and age sucks.

Oh, yeah. I see what Haley has to go through. Me and Mimi don't even date. Listen, I'm trying to force her to, you know, but it's rough. It's rough out there. We need a dating show for Dempsey and Haley. Oh, my God. That would be great. I'll do it. Let's do it. We can make one. We could do it. We could make anything come to life. Oh, my God. Get the buzzers. Ha ha ha.

Not yet. That would be fucking awesome. Yeah, let's throw it around. How much are you packing down there? Yeah, they all have to wear banana hammocks. And if they get measured with a ruler, if they're not a certain size, they're off the show.

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Very happy in a relationship. Is he downstairs? Wait, is Larios hanging? I never knew that. Yeah. Larios has a date. I said this to you. I don't remember. You don't remember that thing you made him try on?

Oh God. The banana. I don't look at Larios like that though. So I just, I could never even pay attention to his wiener. Oh, is he downstairs? He's, he's in Hawaii with his girlfriend right now, but he is here. He's back on, but he's back on. Sorry, girlfriend. Sorry. Sorry. But he's back on tour with us. Oh, well, good to know ladies. Chef Larios is packing a fucking big one. Yeah. If he wasn't with his girlfriend right now, I would call him. I'd be like, dude, Dempster said you got a big one live on air. He,

He's in. He gets so shy. He does. He does get so red. He's a sweetheart. But I'm excited for 2025 with just people get to see, just like really focus on myself. Yeah. You know, where obviously I'll still fuck with the internet. And I'm super excited to tell people about my dating life. I'm not going to go on a date with my Uber driver. I will never do that again. Did you go on a date with your Uber driver? Yeah. Again?

He took me to Thai on our first date and it was just... Wait, hold on. He was weird. Wait a second. Rewind. Take me on this journey of going on a date... It was right after Thai.

Why did I see? I miss everything. What happened? My Uber driver. Did you, did you talk about this online? No. Okay. Okay. My Uber driver takes me home. And then it was like one of those. Huh? Was he hot at nighttime? I was leaving a concert. Oh, you were lit baby. Yeah. Okay. You had beer goggles on.

Anyway, he did like lost item so he can contact me and get my phone number and all that. So long story short, we started texting. Was he young? He was like 24. Okay. Yeah, he was a baby. But I think what stirred me the wrong way is as I go on a date with him, he kept asking questions about my daughter and seeing like, well, will I ever meet her? And I'm just like, the fuck? I was like, eek, eek.

And I couldn't get out of that Thai restaurant so fucking fast. Oh, that's weird. She pulled back. I got to go to the bathroom. Yeah. Yeah. I pulled a Pauly Shore, like pretty much just like, we got to go. Oh my God. Oh my God. Thai food upset my stomach. That's a little strange. Grown men should not be asking about a woman's child. No, it fucking freaked me the fuck out. But I'm excited for 2025. Listen, if you set me up with a dating game show,

I'm on it. Should we do a dating game show for Dems? I'll do it. I'll do a season of it and see how it goes. I think it would be fucking hilarious.

Yeah. Who's going to pick these people? Mimi. Mimi's going to be laying in bed at night looking at portfolios. Surveys and resumes. I would love to do it. I think it would be fucking awesome, dude. They'll have to give blood samples and testosterone counts. Oh, God. Are you circumcised? Just put dimps in a house with like fucking 12 dudes. Maybe.

Remember when we went to Vegas for your wedding? She goes, I cannot wait to see Demps in full action with all them.

Yeah. No, you know how Dems is. She's got raging hormones, dude. Put her in a room with a bunch of dudes and she's going to find one. Hello. So moving on from that, let's talk about this court case that you won because you've never really gotten to talk. I didn't know we were talking about this. Yeah. I know you've never really gotten to talk about it publicly. And I really think that it's something that people need to talk about because, you know, there's a website that I...

absolutely despise. And I've seen, and the reason I despise this website is one, you have to be a certain type of person who sits on here all day and just talks shit about people. But two, I have seen it tear people's lives apart. And like what you had to go through, you're not the only one. There's a lot of content creators who did not put their

And these people literally become obsessed in the sickest way and like start doing the weirdest shit, like what they did to you, vandalizing your house, fucking calling CPS, calling your daughter's schools. I'm an active poster, right? So I would post that I'm at this restaurant, you know, having a dinner or a meal with my daughter. They would know where I'm posting from. Call that restaurant.

And say, oh, you have a drunk woman there, blah, blah. Like literally it was full on fucking harassment. And I didn't really, I slowly started talking about it. But it was like a lifetime movie that I lived where a person can see somebody on the internet and get so fatuated with someone and want their life and become obsessed.

And mind you, I don't know this person at all. People don't realize that there's a thin line between love and hate and to hate somebody as much as you say you hate them. You have to have some sort of love for them also and some sort of obsession. And that's where it gets scary.

So, yeah, I had to finally I found out my stalker's identity. And mind you, I this is after years of years for somebody calling your landlord. I mean, like, let's go down the list of what happened. Yeah. So CPS at my house, DHS at my daughter's school, calling my daughter's school, calling my daughter's dance place where she went to dance. Yeah.

Calling my landlord. So I had my landlord sneaking in my house while I wasn't there because, you know, these people were calling them saying, oh, Dempsey has drugs in there. She has these animals, blah, blah, just making up any false allegations they can. Right. So literally fucking with my real life and let alone reaching out to my, I think the most fucked up thing that I cannot get my head wrapped around is that this person who I've never met before,

Became friends with my baby daddy's wife. Best friends. Best fucking friends. Mind you, I've never met her and I haven't seen my baby daddy in years. Hate brings people together. So the fact that I felt like I just had like these group, she got close to me. Mind you, my stalker, she knew how to get close to me and my God, she did by reaching out to him and becoming friends with all of them. The stuff that...

that I've seen the text messages of how they were going to ruin my life and put me in jail for whatever reason. What the fuck am I doing that I need to go to jail? You know, it was sick in the head and I had to deal with that all on my own. I mean, I remember texting you like, bitch, I'm going fucking through it. But finally I found out her identity and I took her to court. You know how exhausting it is to look in front of a judge to explain to them, Hey,

I'm a social media content creator. You know, this is what's happening. I don't know this woman and this is what she's doing to me. They look at you like you're a joke. Like, well, this is social media. You know what I mean? Like how, you know, they could say whatever you want. Freedom of speech, first amendment. You know how exhausting it was to look at this judge? Like you don't understand this person is,

I don't know her and it's full on fucking harassment that I had to endure for almost fucking three years. And I never let it show that it got to me on the internet, whatever. But my fucking God, I hope she found fucking Jesus.

So how did you sway the judge? How did you sway the judge in your favor? Because you ended up winning the court case. I did. I had to show proof and catch her in all her lies. Screenshots. Bunny, we're talking a binder this fucking big of just everything.

of what this woman did to me and my daughter. It was so disturbing, and I hope one day, maybe it will turn into like a Netflix series or a Lifetime movie, because in this reality, we live in such a digital world that there's no new laws placed for this type of shit, and some things need to be...

happening and if I can be an advocate advocate for this then so be it. Me too. I will totally be an advocate for internet bullies. I have zero tolerance for it. You're literally lying on people's lives and making shit up just the grossest lies that you could even imagine and then it's like the game of telephone.

So it's like you tell one person and I mean, there's so many, there's so many lies that go around about Jay and I on that website that Jay and I bring a underage drunk underaged girls home. We've never done that in our entire lives. Never once have we fucking done that, but go to on that website and they will, you'll, you'll literally have,

fucking 50 people who say that every time. And it's like, it's not true. And you guys, it's just disgusting. And what you went through is not okay. What a lot of these social media content creators have had to go to go through is not okay. And just because we are open with our lives on the internet does not give you the freedom to try to destroy what we've built with lies. Mm hmm.

Now, if we're out doing things fucking crazy and we're really fucking, you know, doing weird shit. OK, cool. Yeah. Call us out and, you know, we'll own it and we'll change our behavior. But that's not the case with these people. You know, it's like you guys are you're just living your life. They just wanted to paint me like I'm a fucking just horrible mother. They tried so hard to get my daughter taken away from me.

No, it was sad. And I was like, fuck you. I don't know you. I'll be damned if you take my... Get away from me. I fought so hard for the little life that I have because I have a little life. I'm not this big person. I'm just like over here just doing my thing, sharing my life on the internet. Yeah. So I'll be damned if I have a stranger who fucking doesn't like what I do take it away from me just because she thinks...

She's jealous of me. Well, I'm glad more people are starting to fight back. Meg Thee Stallion just filed a lawsuit against a YouTuber who was coming up with fake shit. Cardi B filed a lawsuit against a YouTuber who fucking defamed her and she won. So it's like people are starting to fight back. And I think that the rules definitely need to change. And I too will be an advocate right along with you and whatever I can do to help and use my voice and my platform. That's funny.

Yeah, but I would love to make... I've always wanted to make a documentary about everything. I found a little bit more peace. It's been like since last March. And I've had like...

Good sleep at night. Not worrying about like, oh my God, is somebody going to show up at my fucking house? Because in my old house, girl, the stuff that I saw on court, there was somebody watching me. Photos of me getting in and out of my car. And I told my mom one day, I was like, I feel like somebody is watching me all the way out at my old house. That's so gross. Oh, girl.

It was the girl just sitting there watching you? I guess. But there was photos of just me living my life, like paparazzi photos. I didn't know these people are taking photos of me. That's so invasive. How did they get these photos? Well, my lawyer did. Got them. And I asked him, I was like, what the fuck are those? And he was like, don't worry about them. I was like, the fuck are you?

I'm worrying about. Obviously, I'm in a new house and all that now. Did you ever find out who fucking spray painted Clout Chaser on the outside of your house? I don't know, but it's a little ironic that all that happened at the bar and I go on vacation to Florida and then I come home with Clout Chaser on my windows. Yeah. And nobody's going to admit it. I never got the full evidence. I have a great idea of who it is, but...

I hope your house is camera'd up now. Our houses are camera'd up. Oh, I got fucking cameras. Yeah. And it's so funny because the one time the camera was, I didn't put it on the back of my house and I just left the fucking one time. Well, somebody looked for that. They looked to see if there was a camera and probably went in the space that there wasn't a camera on.

Yeah, people are fucking weird, man. I'm just glad you're over that and got through that. And you're just, you know, besides these men, everything else in your life is really good, Demps. You got a good life. And I just, I know I'm a great person. And I know one day that somebody is going to be able to see it. Well, let's find out who that person is. I'm going to do your birth chart really quick. All right, Demps, I need to know...

I'm so excited for this birth chart. You have no idea. First off, I have not complimented you on your hair. I can love it. Way better than the green, huh? No, I love the green. I don't know. I felt like I thought I loved the green until I saw the orange. And then I was like, I like the orange way better. But maybe you can pull it all off. You're sweet. I love it.

Sweet girl. Man, I was at mother. Have you ever been to Mother's Ruin in Germantown? No. I don't go to Nashville, Dems. Yeah. I don't go to Nashville. We don't go to Nashville unless we have to. Ever. All right. I need the, what's your birth date? What's your birthplace? Hopefully after this podcast, I don't want anything to do with that man ever again. Good. And I'm just going to. He's been blocked this time. And his mom blocked. Oh, I was in the comments reading.

what a fucking psycho bitch yeah that's weird like when you're old she's in love with her son and i don't mean like a love for her son it's her screensaver yeah well yeah it's it's like your kid no i feel like it's one of those like um mommy dearest type weird all right i got demps's birth chart pulled up here i'm so fucking nervous don't be nervous

All right, so your sun is a Leo. Your moon is a Libra. Your Mercury is a Leo. Your Venus is a Cancer. Mars is a Libra. So you have a Libra stellium. This is crazy. One, two, three. Yeah, you have a Libra stellium. Aw.

No wonder you're a little just lover. Libras really like balance. It's so crazy because Libras usually really like balance, but they're the most unbalanced people of the Zodiac until you heal and learn how to channel that. But anyways, your Venus is a cancer. So you're just like, let's let's get in here.

And I'll be able to put it into words for you. This, uh, your Venus is how you love people and like the love that you receive. So you're probably going to want like a Taurus. You would probably want like a Taurus Venus, which Leo and Taurus cancer and Taurus, you would like any earth sign or any other water science. So Scorpio, um, cancer Pisces Venus would be amazing for you. Dimps is looking at me all crazy. My ex was a Pisces. Yeah. How was the love?

Passionate? Yeah. I was like, choke me. Yeah. Choke me, spank me, pull my hair. Yeah. Hold on. I'm getting to the Venus. There's so much I got to send you this. Okay. So your Venus represents an interest in emotions and values exchange and sharing with others. Venus and cancer, love for Venus and cancer is best when it's committed and rather predictable. These people are sensitive in love,

even if their sun sign is more playful and outgoing signs like Gemini or Leo.

You may even say their egos are a little underdeveloped when it comes to love, but they have a lot to give in return, namely security, comfort, and care. Venus and Cancer people show their love by caring for you. They pay more attention to your feelings than your words and observe you rather carefully. They want a safe, solid relationship. They can be a little moody in love, and some go as far as giving silent treatments and engaging in pouting routines to get attention from their mate,

Demps do that? Never. Never. I couldn't see that happening. They are turned off by anything too impersonal and too much rationalizing leaves them cold. They are not afraid of emotional confrontations.

These lovers are always worried they'll be left high and dry. If you've hurt them, they'll have a hard time forgetting. Every so often they'll retreat into themselves, not unlike a crab, and it can be difficult to pull them out. This is why when they are using their extraordinary nursing abilities on themselves instead of you and you simply don't want that. So and there's so much more that we could go into. Yeah, Venus is in your house.

Yeah, there's just so much here. But that makes complete sense of why you are such a lover. Well, you're very sensitive. I am sensitive, and I think that was the problem. Leo is a big, boisterous personality, and that's why your sun sign, the way you present to the world, you're very outgoing. You're very loud. You're very damp. That's how you are. I'm here. But.

But when it comes to love, you want a soft love. You want like somebody to just kind of coddle you all the time and just tell you that they love you. You want to be babied. Yeah. But why is it I'm always the masculine one in fucking relationships, even when it comes to like being sexual. I'm like, you do this, do that. This is how you do this. This is how you use this. Like.

Because you're in your masculine energy and you haven't learned how to be in your feminine energy. Once you learn how to switch that, you will attract men who will start doting on you and waiting on you. You can't... So the hardest thing for me to have ever learned was to switch into my feminine energy because I'm the same way that you are. I'm very masculine energy.

But when it comes to my husband, I am so soft and so loving and so like, okay, daddy, whatever you want, you know? And I mean, don't get me wrong. If he does something fucking crazy, I'll be like, what is wrong with you? Like, let's reel it back in. But I've learned to let him lead because that's how it's supposed to be. And I know we're in an era where it's like, we're independent women. We're baddies. Yeah, we can do that. But at home, I'm like,

I truly feel like a woman should be submissive as long as her man is doing the things that make her feel safe and want to be submissive. I get a lot of slack for that, but I truly feel like if you can learn how to be submissive to a man and let him learn how to lead, which you can't, you're not going to know that in the first few months. Mm.

But you'll be able to tell if a man is going to be a man or if he's going to be fucking a titty baby sucking on his mommy's tit still. Also, it doesn't have to be submissive. It can just be bringing your walls down. Yeah. I mean, it could just be you being raw and vulnerable instead of always being masculine. Mimi, I tried doing that with this past one. No, I think she is raw and vulnerable. I do think that. But he's not a man, baby. Yeah, I know. And that's what you got to understand. And that's not...

me talking shit about him because I've never met the dude but from what I hear from your side of things it sounds to me like he's still very attached to his mom and he's not ready to be a man I know you know and I think um it hurts and it's still it's gonna hurt for a while but I'm excited for this new chapter in my life releasing some music and just just putting my love back into you

Yeah. And who knows? Write us a fucking heartbreak anthem, bitch. I'm ready. I'm going to get a number one out of this. Okay. Cry my eyes out for two weeks. Well, I know how to write songs now, so maybe we can all sit down and write a heartbreak song together. Bunny X. I would love to do it. I would fucking love to do that. Now I'm excited for the dating in the future. Let's do a gay dating game. And then I'm just excited to just get,

kick ass and just keep doing what I'm doing. Let's do it. Just long, just fucking live, laugh, love with Lily. That's all you can do. That's all I can do. Yeah. And that's dude, you don't have any man fucking stressing you out and shit like good. It's always when you stop looking that the one shows up. Yes. I swear to God. I have ones if I don't want anybody to show up. Good. Well then don't, don't let, if you take a year off. All right. How about this? I challenge you. Okay. 2025.

No fucking relationship. Just focus on you. Get some dick, do whatever you gotta do. Don't get attached. But you know, fucking don't jump into a relationship. Like be in a relationship with yourself. Fall in love with yourself.

And there's one thing I know how to do is be in a relationship with myself. There you go. Oh, there's no complaints there. I think it's just you just wanted to share your life with someone. Yeah. And I mean, you've got enough time for that, dude. You're not on it. Your biological clock is not taking your good right now. Yeah. I don't want any more kids. There you go. So if I can take your time. Oh, I love you, buddy. I love you, too. And thank you for coming by. Of course.

Why don't you shout out your socials where everybody can find you if they don't already follow you? Yeah, so you can just Google. Don't read the bad shit. But...

No, just go ahead and check me out on Spotify, all streaming platforms. Just type in Demps. D-E-M-P-S. Yeah, D-E-M-P-S, Demps. I'm just pretty much everywhere. Just don't read the bad shit, okay? Do it one time for me. Get you some. Get you some. Thank you guys for tuning in to another episode of Dumb Blonde. I will see you guys next week. Bye.

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