77: Dumb Blonde Unrated - All Access With Savannah Dexter
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What's up you sexy motherfuckers? Welcome to another episode of Dumb Blood.

Today we got my little fucking cutie pie here and I'm so excited to have her. Savannah motherfucking Dexter. What's up, baby? How are you? I'm good, dude. You literally just flew in. Yes. Bobby, Bobby jellied you. That's what I call it. Like jelly will literally take me somewhere and expect me to be dressed and ready to go the minute we walk. He does this to me all the time.

Every music video, every photo shoot, everything. It's a dude thing, I swear. Like they don't realize like we need our time. We got to vibe out. Like you don't have to get ready and stuff for this, right? Right? Like we just, we need to vibe out. We need to shower. We need to like listen to music and just get in our own zone before we have to do something. But I'm so happy you're here. I've been wanting to get you on for a long time. And, you know, I'm a fan of the music. I think the music is amazing. I appreciate it.

Talk about all of that jazz. But I think first to loosen things up because I know not a lot of people know too much about you. They know stuff from your music, but they don't really know like you. So we're going to play a little version of Truth or Dare that I have here. I've never played this app. So here we go.

So bear with me. And if you don't want to answer the things or do the things that it says to do, you know, we can move on to the next one. I'm pretty open. So let's see. Unless it's like flash a booty hole. Well, you came to the wrong show. Listen, dumb blonde, dumb blonde just turned up and literally we are having nothing but butt holes. I saw and I'm living for it. Honestly, I'm living for it. But I would never do that to you. Bravo would kill me. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah, like what the fuck? I should have never let her go with you. You're going to turn Sav out. All right. So here we go. I had to put on my bifocals because I am blind as shit. All right. To start out, truth or dare?

I'm going to go with dare. Oh, my God. Right off the bat? All right. You do know this is dirty truth or dare. She doesn't tell me that before. She's like, I've never played this. It's just truth or dare. It's dirty. So literally, I'm just going to hit a button right here that says dare, and it's going to tell us what the dare is. So here we go. Ready? One, two, three. Switch clothing of your choice with the player across the room from you. We're not doing that. Okay.

Because that would be Def. Do you want to wear this crop top? Def's outfit definitely would not look good on Sav. I think we all want to see what Sav has on right now. So I'm going to go to the next dare. Here we go. While blindfolded, have your hand guided over the body of whoever is to your right. Chachi. Chachi. Get over there.

Alright, we can do that. We're just not going to blindfold you. Chachi, come over there. Mimi, you got to get him over there. Chachi! Somebody wants to rub all over you. Come here, babe. Come here. Oh, hi, mister. There we go. Oh, rub his body all over. Oh, look at getting the loving. That dare wasn't too bad. See, we can make dirty dares somewhat nice. Alright, so are we going to do truth or dare this time? We'll do truth. We're going to do truth. Okay.

how many times a week do you masturbate? Well,

Well, God, it really depends on the weekend when I have time. Yeah, I know. Like, it's like, I'll be sitting there, like, fully thinking about wanting to. And I'm like, but it's 630 in the morning and you were just up for like 15 hours. But that'll help you go to sleep. You're right. It'll really put you to sleep. You're right. But there's some days, there are some days that I'm so horny and like I'll masturbate two or three times a day. And then there's weeks that I'll go and I'm like, I don't care. There's days where I'm like. Flicking the beans. I'm ready.

And then some days I'm just like, do I really do that? Yeah. I would say like, you know, three would be a good roundabout. Yeah, exactly. Yeah, yeah, totally. And I think it's so funny. Like when I like I'll watch porn sometimes I don't watch it all the time, but sometimes I need a little visual stimuli. Right. And as soon as I the meme that is going around,

around that says like as soon as the porn it's like you turn it off and you're like what is wrong with me i'm a terrible person yeah exactly just fucking repeat offender always it's so bad all right truth or dare let me do truth again okay truth wasn't bad oh do you still what was the most embarrassing thing that happened to you during sex oh gosh gosh

I don't even know. I shit on somebody one time. It was an accident. Oh my gosh. It was an accident. We were having anal and little poop balls were sprinkled around. They looked like little fucking raisins. I don't even know. Honestly, something kind of like that's happened to me one time. Do you do anal? I was dating the guy. Oh, yeah. You fucking... I love you. I'm sorry. I love it. I love it.

I love you. So does Momo. I do. I don't know what it is. Oh my gosh. You guys don't kill me. No, we love it. Do you, are you kidding me? We stand an anal queen. It's like bad. I, how much I feel like it's abnormal. No. And I talked to some females and they're like, Oh my God, it hurts. I'm like, no, babe, you got to get in like this. Yes, girl. Oh my God. Just like once it's in, it's in like, I think we need a sex tips with Sam. We,

We need to fucking have a little segment that's called sex tips with Sav. Cause I think that show would go. That was probably pretty embarrassing though. I mean, it was my ex, but it, we, you should on them too. And yeah, we were right by the shower. Yeah. So I guess it was like fine, but I was like, Oh, that's never happened. So I'm like, I mean, they've got men have to expect that deaf. When you have anal, do you expect to get poop on your dick?

Okay. See what I mean? It's normal. I mean, you can't like go in. Yeah, totally. So. All right. Truth or dare? My anal queen. We'll do dare again. Ready? Here we go. Dare. Choose a girl and feel her boobs. If you're a girl, you cannot touch your own. Whose tits do you want to feel in here? There's three. Oh, definitely one for bunnies. Come on. Oh, come on. Here we go. I'm so excited. I tripped over myself. Yes.

Oh, wow. Oh, there's so many. I love that. Yes, baby. Oh, yeah. Yes. That is what I'm talking about. Dude, I could play this game all day. Seriously? This is amazing. God, we need to play this game more often. We've got to do this in Vegas.

Yeah, this is awesome. I told Sav too, one of these times when we go to Vegas, we need to take her. I think it would be awesome. We could show her around. I've never been. I want to go so bad. Dude. So let me know. You'll fucking listen. I see the sex kitten in you trying to come out and roar. Don't worry. Dude, I'm here for it. I am so ready. Vegas will fucking make you roar. I'm telling you. Let's do it. All right. Truth or dare? Truth. All right. Here we go.

Have you fantasized about someone while having sex? Yeah, I can't lie. Like you're banging somebody else and you're just like, fuck, I wish I was banging Charlie Hunnam right now. It's terrible because I feel like people are going to watch this and be like, oh, I bet it was me. But you know what? You know what? If you're feeling like that, then maybe you weren't putting it down right, buddy. I mean, I don't know. Who's your celebrity crush? Who do you fan? Who's your go-to celebrity bean flicking crush? I don't know. My first crush ever was John Travolta. Oh.

Different? Like, Grease is my favorite movie to this day. I think everybody had a crush on Danny Zuko. Yeah. So, I mean, he always, like, has my heart. I used to, like, fangirl over Jesse McCartney, but he's kind of, like, nowhere to be seen anymore. Yeah, did he even get any taller? Like, isn't he, like, he was, like, a little nugget. He's a little nugget.

Zac Efron's really hot. You like these little nuggets. Zac Efron's like 4'11", isn't he? Right? Yeah, but see, I would, it's more just like a...

The body? You look nice. Yeah, you look good. Like just sit in the corner and let me just. Yeah, I'll just stare at you. Yeah, I get it. I get it. My thing, I used to love Jason Momoa and then fucking my best friend started dating somebody who looks like Jason Momoa. So I'm like, that's ruined. That's great. I got to go back to Jax Teller now. Like I'm just like fucking where's Charlie when I need him, man? He needs to come out with another series. All right. Truth or dare? Truth. Here we go. What's your most secret turn on?

Hmm. Mine is getting like my ear lobes licked and like my neck sucked. I love that. I mean, that's a go to for me. I love I'm I like it rough. Like I'm really like one of those girls that's like we had trauma as children, obviously. Oh, yeah, we'll get there. We're gonna go back to the booty. So like, I like when like, I mean, you know,

Played with. Yes. And you like. Slip a finger. At least stimulate. Yes. It's something about it makes me like. Well, you have all those nerves in there. I mean, it's just a given. And they say that. That men have a G spot in there. So, I mean, girls probably have something in there going on in there too. I just found that out recently. Yeah, you could make a dude cum. And I was like, that's why. That's why. That's why. I like it. Okay. Okay.

This all makes sense now. No, you can literally make a guy ejaculate without even touching his penis just by touching that walnut. It's like the shape of a walnut in their butthole. It's crazy. It's called milk the prostate. Oh. Yeah. Read up on that. Watch some porn like that whenever next time you're masturbating. Watch out. Yeah, it's hot. All right. Truth or dare? Dare. All right. I hope I get my boobies filled on you.

Oh, we can't do this one. This is crazy. In front of the group, switch underwear with the first player to your left for three rounds and then switch back. I'm not wearing any. Oh, even better. But I like it. Well, shit. All right, let's go to another. Hold on one second. Pretend to have an orgasm. You have to be convincing.

be in a position or masturbating you definitely don't have to do that but you can do sleepless in Seattle have you ever seen that movie y'all are really trying to get this out of me oh I don't even know if I can do that oh my god you have the cutest voice too so I guarantee you fucking have the cutest little orgasm noises she's like I am really loud so all right we'll skip that we won't make you do it all right

All right. Hold on one second. God, another person wants you to trade their underwear. What is up with this game? Strip down to your underwear. Hold on. This is my kind of game. This is going to make you make out with somebody. Choose a partner and make your best sex noise together out loud for 30 seconds. Monica. She's like, I'm not doing it. Hold on. Choose another player from the opposite. Oh, my God. This is really good. Do you want me to truth it? I can truth it. Crazy. Okay.

Oh my god, it's gonna try to make you kiss me. Put a blindfold on and feel another player. Try to guess who it is. We don't have a blindfold, do we? I mean, if you guys have a blindfold, I'll definitely do that. Somebody take their shirt off and tie it around her face. Mo, is there a blindfold in there? Hey, there's a black sheet right there. Sheet? Just put it over our body, don't worry. Sab's like, what did I get myself into here?

And you got to guess whose body it is. All right. Here we go. So you have to blindfold and somebody has to put their body in front of her and she has to touch them and figure out who it is. We'll figure it out. Just put them just. I know. I'm like now. Like she's really narrowing it down for us. Just put it over her face. Poor baby.

So you don't mess up her makeup. There you go. Yep. Okay. Oh, I definitely can't see it, so. Okay. Ow. I'm stunned. All right, here they come. Here it comes, right in front of you. You got to guess who it is. Oh, that's Mo. You can take it off. Wait, you can go back. Yeah. Mo, you should have just gone over there naked. Yeah.

All right, truth or dare. We'll do a couple more of these and then we'll get on with the interview. Let's do truth. Okay. She's like, no more of this. I'm going to get shit over my face. Let's just stop the dares. Do you ever take nude photographs of yourself? Honestly, I haven't in such a long time. I don't know. I'm scarred from a couple things. Oh. I... What happened? Like, just...

I feel like when I'm in a relationship, that's something I do. Yeah, of course. You know, I'm like, oh, nudes every day. Yeah, of course. And just with everything I have with my ex. Once you've been together for fucking five years, then you don't. Well, yeah. What happened with the ex? With everything that happened with my ex and just being so violated, like I feel like.

I haven't gotten to that point. I take some. I mean, you see what I post on Instagram. I'm like, I'll get kind of sexy with it. I just haven't. So we can't expect an OnlyFans from Sav anytime soon? As much as I'd love to say yes. Girl, you gotta get this. I get asked that question all day long. You know what? You could even do it and fucking not be naked. I thought about it.

about it and people will still pay you I enjoy being in front of the camera I've always wanted a model I love the little outfits like you're you inspire me like you're you're everything that I would want to be hey girl I got you take you under my wing anytime sister wives let's do it but um

You know, now, God, now tonight I'm going to go take a nude. Like that's going to happen. No, you do things on your own time. And we're also going to get into that relationship so that people can understand, you know, why. And then we'll just do, we'll do one more question. Truth or dare? We'll do truth again. Okay, we'll do the truth again. Jocci. Jocci. Excuse you. If you had to choose, that is a terrible question. Let me go to the next one. Oh my God. Next one.

Do you prefer sex on – do you prefer sex with the lights on or off? It really depends what mood I'm in. Yeah. Because, like, there's sometimes where I'm like, I want to see you and, like, you know, let's get into it. Yeah. But then, like, if I'm, like – Sometimes you want the lights off. Yeah. Sometimes I'm just in the mood –

Maybe that's a little bit more romantic. Yeah. Yeah. Like dull, like dull lighting. Just let me like feel your presence and like everything as opposed to seeing. Yeah. Everything you're doing. I like that. It's kind of exciting. I can tell you're super sensual. My thing is, I fucking hate morning sex. Really? It's so, your breath smells and it's fucking so bright. I'm not awake. I can't come.

What are you doing? No, I hate morning sex. But any other time of the day after I get my juices flowing, let's come on. Let's go. Let's go. Poor death. He's sitting in here like, Jesus Christ. Is this what girls fucking really talk about? Oh, yeah. So, Sav, I want to head over to the, I like to call it my little couch where we talk about life. And I just want to get to know you a little bit. And, you know, I think a lot of people want to get to know you.

Obviously have been through some shit because if anybody listens to the lyrics of your songs, they are touched and they absolutely know that there's definitely a story there. So yeah.

Are you from Florida? Did you grow up in Florida? I am born and raised. Oh, you're a little Florida baby. I was born in South Florida. Um, I lived in Missouri for a few years of my life with my father, but I've always been in Florida other than that. Yeah. Floridian through and through, which I didn't know you don't meet too many of those. That's crazy. Cause everybody's like transplant or whatever. And people will ask me like back home and I'm like, yeah, I'm a Floridian. They're like, Oh,

oh, whoa, it's kind of a shocker. I was like, I didn't know, but yeah. That's what Jay says, how it is with people in Nashville. Like nobody's ever really from here anymore. Yeah. I think that's how it is in Vegas too. I think everybody just fucking moves to everybody else's shit. They really do. So growing up in Florida, did you, how was childhood? Was it a good childhood? Parents together or split? How was it? So my parents were young when they had me. My mom was 17. My dad was 19. They were never married. I think they tried to work it out for like the first two, three years together.

didn't go that's a hard dude 17 and 19 with a kid that's a hard oh yeah i remember being that age like thinking about having a child yeah i was like i don't know how they did it so i definitely don't blame them for not knowing how to handle it and you know juggling life and their own issues you know that they ran into along the way that's really mature of you most a lot of people hold on to resentment for their parents even though they don't really you know yeah think about

put themselves in their shoes. So, yeah. Um, but I did have my grandparents and thank God for them. They really instilled, you know, I would say like my better qualities that I have. Yeah. Um, they did their best to raise me. I don't know where I would be without them, but are they still around? Yeah.

Oh, yeah. Oh, good. They live in North Carolina, so it's kind of sad because we're separate for like the first time in my entire life. But yeah, and they're younger too because my parents were younger. That's awesome. So they're around. I'm going there for Christmas. I love them. I owe them everything. That's going to be. Yeah. I bet they're so fucking proud of you. They are. They're probably like, holy shit, we did good. Yes. They're very happy. Has music always been a thing for you? Always. Ever since you were a baby? I always tell people like...

since I could talk, I've been singing. Yeah. And they always would get me like little karaoke machines. Like those would be like my big Christmas gifts. Yeah. Um, and I always had like big mirrors in my room and I would just stand in there for hours and just sing every song I could possibly think of. So it's always been a thing. I was very suppressed as a child and like,

you know, don't speak unless you're spoken to. You're not allowed to speak about your emotions. Like shut up. Don't talk. All of that. Children should be seen, not heard. That's how I was raised. So I went directly to music. I'm like, okay, well you can't tell me not to sing. So I'd find a song that was relatable or matched what I was going through and I would sing it. And that's how I would release. So, yeah, I love that. So when you play guitar, right? When did you pick up the guitar?

I picked it up when I was like 12, 13. Okay. And I was like, hell no, this shit hurts my fingers. I'm not doing this. I didn't have like a good teacher. And then when I was married, my father-in-law had like

12 guitars and so i picked up one this was when i was like 18 and he showed me like the basic chords and i taught myself like 15 songs that night that's amazing so where bailey has been doing guitar for the past three years and we're just trying to really instill in her like dude if you can just master this instrument you can literally sit down and play whatever you want have therapy like so it's

so nice. Yeah, no, I love it. I did. I watched a couple of your videos just doing a little bit of research and I saw that and I was like, that's really cool. Uh, rewind really quick. You said that you were married. Oh yeah. Let's talk about this. So I went to a private school most of my life. Me too. That is so funny. Look at how we turned, look at how we turned out. Yeah. Like they're

Yeah. Or school ever. But I went to a private school going into high school. And I met this guy. And we kind of like dated here and there. It was never anything serious. But I always like had it in me. He reminded me of my dad. Aww. So... So did dad leave when you were younger? He didn't leave. He...

Was just absent emotionally? Not even really. Like, he tried, but then he went and immediately rushed into marrying this lady. Yeah.

And she hates me. Like she does not, she did not treat me good at all. When I lived with them, she was very, very nasty to me. That's crazy how similar our stories are. I grew up with a wicked stepmother also. I mean just, even to this day. Just miserable. She is just so miserable. And it's like, you know, I'm to the point in my life where I understand her.

You're projecting. Right. Something's wrong with you. Yeah. It's not me. Cause I've tried to make amends. Good for you. I accepted your apology. I told you I would be open in the relationship and you still continue to be how you are. So that's just the character flaw. He wanted to be there. He, he tried. And then she just drove that wedge, right? Like no conversation. Don't hold her hand. Like just weird stuff. Like,

Yeah. So you're his kid. But I, I understand. I went through the same thing. And as a stepmother, I want to say, I'm sorry because I could never imagine treating Bailey like that. And it's like, don't walk into something. If, if you know, you can't handle seeing the person you love, look,

First of all. Have a child with somebody else. Don't do it. Dude, love that child more. Right. You know, because. Especially because, you know, I had mommy issues too. Yeah. And that was the only time that she would validate anything that I said or actually have a conversation with me was when I was talking shit about my mom. And. She sounds like a great human. Oh, yeah.

But it's like, you know, if you know that I'm struggling with my mom and I don't have that figure, why would you not try to be better? Right. You know? But every day you just spent tearing me down and making me feel like literally nothing I did was right. And then I'm not even allowed to have a relationship with my father because you're jealous or what?

I don't understand. There's a special place in hell for people like that. I don't understand the thought process. So there came my daddy issues where he was there, but he wasn't there. That's what I say about both my parents. Like, you guys were there. You were present. I remember my mom dressing me up for Halloween, et cetera. But you weren't there with me. There wasn't that connection at all. And so that led into, you know, the issues with the men. I was never sat down and told...

about the world and how cruel it was I was a lover I still am I'm thinking everybody wants to be my friend I can trust everybody love everybody that's not the case yeah no it's fucking so fucked up too terrible so uh yeah I met my ex-husband in high school and you know we were kind of on and off dabbled I switched schools we didn't talk for a while and then we met up again um

Right before I turned 18. And we dated. I kind of moved right into him or in with him because I was having issues with my family. That's usually how it happens too. It's, it's called love bombing. So in the beginning of a toxic relationship, it's like you get love bond and you just literally want to just eat, sleep and breathe that human, you know? Um,

And that's what happened. And then, you know, he was a very angry person, very aggressive. He had mommy issues. So the ones with mommy issues are the meanest. They're like, yeah, I'm like, I'm sorry. I like I can't do that for you. Yeah. And that's not you should never go into a relationship expecting that your partner to fill those roles. Right. You know, it's not their job. Right. So we actually broke up.

After like six months of dating. And then I moved back in with my grandparents. I got into a terrible car accident. Oh no. Is that why you were hitting the brakes? Yeah.

I get a little bit of anxiety. We were driving over here and Sav was just hitting the brakes over there. I was like, it's okay, baby. Like, it's all good. I got this. I know I drive like a bat out of hell, but I swear it's okay. I honestly do too. Like I am the same, but I get a little bit of anxiety in the car. It's different whenever you have somebody else. Yeah. So let's hear about this car accident. What happened? It was so bad. So I was driving. I literally just had dinner with my boss and I was in the right-hand lane.

I had a green light. It was sunny outside. There was no rain on the pavement. And I went right under the traffic light. And there was a person who was going to turn right on red. And instead of going into...

I don't know what they were thinking. They had to be on their phone or something. They just weren't paying attention. Knocked me in because I was going 45, you know, imagine getting hit when you're running really fast. My car flipped over another car. Like I was like all the way in the air and it landed on the side. But by the grace of God, I only walked out with like a burn on one knee and

and a scrape on the other. I believe I have a herniated disc in my back. So that kind of sucks because I'm young, but I do yoga and my things to like, you know, you have a purpose that there was a reason why you didn't get hurt. Yeah. Yeah. And I was living for that reason. I'll tell you that. So right after that, my ex-husband, he came to my beck and call and was using that. Oh, and I'm going to be better and I love you and let's get married.

He knew that's what I wanted to hear. I was that girl that was like, I'm going to do just what Nana and Papa did. I'm going to get married at 18. I'm going to have four kids by 22. He played off of your... Yes. Yeah. So we went to the courthouse and we got married. We didn't have a wedding. My family wasn't involved. They did not like him. They did not approve of it.

And I would say it was good for the first couple months. I will say I had my toxic traits and my faults because I resented him for how he treated me before. Right. And I let it out. Right. And so it just was never really healthy. Right. You know? And then I just decided, okay, I'm not doing this anymore. Right. It sucks. Was it ever abusive? Was that the physically abusive one or that was the next one? Okay. Yeah. He raised his fist to me.

And that was like my last straw. Yeah. Because I was like, no, we're not doing that. And I knew how aggressive I see. I had seen him punch holes in walls. That's still abuse. People don't realize that. But punching holes in walls, any any sort of scare tactic like that, that's still abuse. Yeah. So but he never actually physically touched me. How long was the marriage? I mean, we were together for.

We were together for like four years. Wow. So you, I mean, you gave it your pretty good. I really tried. Like I gave him a lot of my years. So it wasn't like just a flash in the pan. You guys really tried to make this shit work no matter how toxic it was. And knowing him since I was 14, you know, it's not like, so it was very hard. Yeah. It was very, very hard. So how old were you when you got out of this relationship? 21, 21. So tell me about me. I'm sorry. 20. Tell me about 20 year old Sav.

She was a lost one. Oh, I think we were all fucking shit faced when we were 20 days in life, not even on drugs or alcohol, just shit faced in life. Um,

Speaking of that, I was never a partier. I never did hardcore drugs. I never was the one who was like, let's go out and get, you know, fucked up. I didn't want to go to the bars or the clubs. I wanted a family. That was always my goal. I wanted a family and I wanted what you didn't have as a child. Yes. You know? Right. And I wanted to be whole and just feel good. And I never got that. But, um,

I did not love myself. I had no self-confidence and it showed in all of my relationships, not just my romantic ones, my friendships, my family. I was blaming my past for how I was, you know, then and not speaking to my father, hadn't dealt with that situation, not really talking to my mom, you know, um,

I was definitely very unhealthy. Yeah. I'm trying to figure it out. You know, our parents didn't teach us coping mechanisms. And they also... I tell everybody this. We are trying to break generational curses that our parents inflicted upon us. Yes. We are that generation, though, that's going to figure it out. And we are figuring it out. 100%. You know, so this is all just, you know, part of your journey and part of your story. And it's just going to be a beautiful... And I'm thankful for it all. I think that's something that...

I wish a lot more people would realize if you go through something that's just shitty, take the good out of it. Absolutely. Because there's something... There's good in there. I swear. So you don't have to be...

what was projected onto you. Right. You don't have to carry that. Absolutely. And that's something that I learned. I didn't know it when I was 20 or 21 or 22, but I got there. Absolutely. And I really transformed as a person, you know, and now I'm able to, now I have my mom and dad calling me, asking me their advice on things and really listening to me. So it's interesting how things work out. Yeah. It's crazy. So you wrote a song about domestic violence. Which relationship was that about? Um,

This was my ex. Okay. Yeah. It was like the most recent ex. Yes. Okay. Tell us how old is Sav with this relationship? Sav was 20. I mean, we've only been broken up for like eight months. Oh, wow. So this is fresh. Like literally when I, I left him, I think I met Bobby like a month later and then my life just took off. We're going to talk about that too. Let's talk about this domestic violence really quick.

You know when you're just like... How long was the relationship? A year and a half? Mm-hmm.

A year and a half. Where'd you meet him? Work. Oh. Yeah. But you know when it's like I should have known? Right. Oh, red flags are our favorite color. You swore that there was no red flags. But then you're like, let's be honest. There was all the red flags. Yeah. They were all there. And it never should have happened. And he hated when I said that to him. I'm like, but it shouldn't have though. Right. But it did. And I learned from it. And I grew. So...

He was that guy. He's very attractive, but very insecure. Oh, yeah. I never understood that. I thought when I met him, he was very secure. Right. And he was very about me being confident and loving myself. Yeah.

A lot of love bombing. I mean, he just latched. Oh yeah. That's how it works. And I was in heaven. A lot of people mistake that for passion. And it took me a long time to, it took me getting with jelly to realize like, that's not love. That's not, it's, it's toxicity. Right. People mistake passion, toxicity for passion. Right. And every relationship that I had before Jay was exactly like that. Just fast, furious. And he, it's so funny because he literally used that word.

Oh, I just want a passion. You give me that. You have that. Oh, okay. So, I mean, the second that we started, it was every single day together, every moment. And he was cool at first, you know, everything I posted on social media and me trying to be in the limelight and chase my dreams and all these things. And he was all for it. And then I moved to

to Naples with him. Right. And it was, I mean, good Lord, it was only a few months into it. It just, I shouldn't have done it, but I didn't have a home at the time. No, I get it. My grandparents weren't there. My mom was in an unhealthy relationship. She couldn't give me a home. I didn't have friends. Like where was I supposed to go? It's not an excuse, but I put myself in that situation. But it's really not your fault though, either. It's just, you were in love and you wanted to,

you know, sometimes we get caught up in the whirlwind, you know, and it's okay. You know, you're, it's, this is life. This is part, this is just another chapter in your story. And if it hadn't happened that way, you wouldn't have wrote such a beautiful song about it, you know? So you moved, you moved to Naples with them. And then what else? Yeah. Um, I was so in love with him, bunny. I swore up and down on everything that he was the one, like saw him at the end of the aisle was never going to have to worry about finding someone else again. Um,

and it immediately started. So I worked at Blue Martini. Oh, we have one of those in Vegas. Yeah. Loved it. Super fun. Very up my alley because I get to dance and you just get to be free and you know. Oh, I wonder if it's the same chain. It is. Oh, it is? Okay, cool. I didn't know that. Yeah, I believe so because we have, yeah, it is. So, and then he started working at this bar and

I mean, he just started going in on like who you're talking to that. I mean, just on and on and on. Why are you posting that on social media? You must want attention. Please don't get me started on that. I'm like, what do you mean? Like, I love myself. I'm confident in who I am. You said you love that about me. Now you're knocking me for it. Right. And then it was just like a whirlwind.

wind of bullshit all the time. Like I'm not saying we didn't have good times but it was that narcissistic. Yeah. It's always your fault. I could never be mad at him because he would turn it around on me. Oh yeah. And then one night he came to the bar and

And I begged him to not get super drunk. Shit-faced, yeah. Because when he does, he acts a fool. Like, embarrassing. Yeah. And he did. And I don't know if, like, me talking to his friend that he brought with him bothered him or what. But we got home and he was like, fuck you, you're a bitch. Like, oh, this is the devil, 666. Like, what?

He like shoved me on the ground. That was the first time. And of course he got the excuse because he was drunk and he didn't really hit me. Right. So we just went right past that. Right. Right. I'll never do it again. Yeah. Okay. And then, um, um, and then the second time that happened, um,

And he, so he stayed in contact with his ex. They always do. They form a love triangle. Right. Because they have to always make sure somebody is there waiting for them. Right. Yes. And he would argue with me on it. Like, this isn't wrong. And I'm like, but how is it not wrong? Right. So I think he got a message from her or something and his phone was sitting on my bathroom counter. And I'm like, are you kidding me? And I had been drinking. I was outraged.

Yeah, of course. I'm like, get away from me. Like he's trying to come at me. I'm like, get away from me. And I threw my hand out and like this part of my hand hit his cheek and he got a black eye. And I'm like, I'm sorry. Like immediately I was like, I didn't mean to do that. Like it's not, I would never hit somebody or anything of the sort. But I leave. He goes to the bar to watch the game. I leave with my friend to go sing karaoke because that's what we were supposed to do. And she's like, we're not going to sit here and cry. So we go and do that. I come back.

He's not drunk at all. He's laying on the bed. And I'm like trying to get in the shower, literally butt ass naked. And he was like asking me about my night and I guess I smirked. And so he thought I was being sarcastic. He got up and he shoved me so hard. I like fell back. My head cracked the like door frame and I got a concussion. So then I wasn't able to move up in bartender at night.

blue martini lost that job oh no had to go find another job at a doctor's office and then i mean it progressively got worse we were arguing all the time about social media to the point where i deleted it i told him i wouldn't post anymore like just all this crazy he really made me think that i was doing something wrong it's called gaslighting i was telling i mean he said the words to me well what if you do all this and you don't make it

Like, what if you're doing all this for no reason? Look at me now, bitch. Right? And you're wasting all this time and nothing happens and you could have been spending time with me. Oh, God. That's so eerie because I was in a really, really before Jelly for four years. I was in a relationship and it started out like that. Just so passionate. I mean, we had the most amazing sex and it was just like, dude,

Dude, and he was like, you know, just ripped and he was attractive. He's not anymore. He was like super hot back in the day. And like he was like the alpha of alphas, you know, and he was like everybody just kind of like bowed down to him. So I was just like, this is like my ideal dude. I love street dudes. I love gangsters. That's my thing. Same. I need some hood.

Yeah, always. And fucking the minute I moved in with him, dude, it just went downhill from there. He fucking used to choke me out like a UFC fighter. He choked me. He strangled me so bad that literally it burst every blood vessel in both of my eyes. And this was just one instance. I think I saw the pictures on your story the other day. I was like, man. Yep. He beat the fuck out of me in the back of a taxi one time because he wanted to go to a strip club.

on Christmas Eve and it was our first Christmas Eve and I was like I'm not going to go to a place where you've fucked everybody like that's not where I want to go beat me the entire way home to our house this taxi driver did not even try to stop him really like beat the fuck out of me he beat me so bad I saw Jesus in the passenger seat I saw an angel in the passenger seat because literally I

I thought I was going to die. And I kept saying, help me, you know, to the person in the passenger seat and they wouldn't help me. And as weeks went on, I asked him, I was like, there was another person in the, in the taxi with us. And he was like, no, there wasn't. It was just me and the taxi driver. And it dawned on me. I was like, dude, that was a fucking angel. Yeah. And I remember he was just sitting there just looking straight ahead. He wouldn't even look back. Like, and he was like a big dude. It was crazy. But yeah, no, I literally went through four years of that kind of abuse. I'm so sorry about it.

Oh, dude. But like you say, like going through something like that, if you can take the blessing from the lesson, it's a beautiful thing. Like, I don't hate that dude. I'm not mad at that dude. That dude literally comments on me and jelly shit all the time. Like it's like,

It's so weird how they do that. I don't get it. What are you doing, bro? They swear they don't care if you leave. They swear they don't care. They'll block you first. Oh, yeah. Then they make the fake accounts. Then they'll block you. Then they'll... It's really crazy. It's really crazy. But when you take the blessing from it...

it's a beautiful thing and look what you've done dude like you so you meet bobby bobby is bravo gator for everybody who is listening and in tune with this whole yeah who's in tune with this whole situation him and jolly have been friends since they were fucking kids dude like love each other like homies so i remember hearing about you

when your song raise hell came out i didn't know you were bobby's artist okay i did not at the at first and i am all about girl power i know as bad as a motherfucker is i am always for the underdog like okay you know what she says weird shit maybe she's just going through something type of shit i always try to give everybody the benefit of the doubt so i didn't know you were bobby's artist at the time and when i heard the song i was like

what the fuck? Like who does this? Like I was so mad because the girl power in me, I'm like, wait a second, what? This isn't what we're supposed to do. And then, you know, Jay came to me. He's like, this is Bobby's artist. This is what's going on. And I was like, I did not even mean to insert my foot in my mouth when this happened, but I was literally just trying to,

stick up for the situation as two women don't tear each other down, not taking sides for anybody, you know, just like, this is like not my jam and everybody knows that that's how I, how I am. And I totally understand that. I'm honestly the same way. Yeah, I really am. What inspired the song raise hell? So, so,

Obviously, I wanted people's attention. Yeah, of course. Like, 100%. And you came out swinging, bitch. So I'm like, what can I speak on? How do I do this in a way that I can back up? Right. Right? If I hadn't been through what I've been through, I never would have done that. Right. It's something that I felt in my gut. Now, obviously, it's a diss song. I have to go for the kill. Like, I really do. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Did you guys have beef before this? Or was there any sort of like... Not really. It was really just that situation. Yeah. And me letting that breathe. Right. You know, I'm not going to attack something that's very raw. Right. Especially because of how hard that was for them in very public. Yeah. And...

The fans started talking about it first. Right. It wasn't even me. I didn't say anything online. Oh, they'll pin you guys. They'll pin people against each other. They tried to pin me and you against each other whenever you first came out. I was like, Savannah is beautiful. Yeah. Like, why would I...

Facebook post? Yeah. I'm like, really? Yeah. Why? Why? I was like, this is crazy. Why are we doing this right now? Yeah. But that's why us as, you know, the public figures, I hate using that fucking word, but sometimes we have to, as the public figures, we have to take a united stand and be like, no, we don't rock that way. And that's exactly what, I stole their thunder. I was like, this is, I was like, Savannah can come home with me anytime. Same. I'll take money all day long. I'm always in your DMs. Right? No, we talk all the time. Yeah, no, for sure. So, but,

What really got me going was when the fans started talking and I wasn't entertaining it, she was. And I was like, are we really doing this? Have you not learned? Like, you're talking all this shit. You don't know me. I know at that point I knew way more about her than she could ever find on music.

because I wasn't in the public eye yet. I considered not releasing it. I had Cinderella and Just Another Story, which you guys haven't heard yet, already recorded. Because Cinderella is also a gut puncher. Cinderella is what won me over. Cinderella is right to the gut and it's such a true story. And it's right from my heart, right? Mm-hmm.

But then she got on her high horse. Yeah. And that's, I think that's her biggest downfall. Just admit, just be like, you know what? The pride is just so bad. And sometimes, and I, and this isn't anything I wouldn't say to her if she was sitting on my couch. Sometimes silence is golden. Golden. You know, it would have got her out of the entire situation. Right. But then she decides she's going to diss me first.

then her and her management decide they're going to have these three other girls. I don't even know their names or remember them, but they're going to try to diss me or they're going to be all online talking crap about me, whatever. And so when she, the second she put her diss out, I was like, all right,

And I released mine. Of course. Okay. So she dropped hers first. Yeah. Okay. See, I didn't know that. She thought that she was being, like I said, I was going to sit on it. Right. I was like, you know, maybe. Right. Maybe not. Like I hadn't said again, I hadn't said anything online publicly. Right.

I didn't get on my story. So she popped off and you were, and you answered. Yeah. Okay. Which is respected. I will go for it. Absolutely. And then she took hers down and I'm like, okay, well it's out there now. If I say something, I'm not going to take it back. It's out there. There's no deleting it. Everybody still would have known that I did it. So it's out. Yeah. And you know, I'm like, I have my reasonings and my answers to everything I said. Um,

I was a victim of rape. Right. I don't,

I appreciate someone lying about that. I'm also someone who loves females. I'm not like a full-blown lesbian, but girls are hot. You can appreciate that. I'm the same way. I love girls. I'm not a full-blown lesbian. I've done a lot of things with females. I'm all for it. I love dick, but I will fill on some titties. 100%. Clearly, right? So I love girls, but I mean, my best friends are gay. I mean, eight, nine years, we're going strong. I have no problem with...

the LGBT community. Absolutely. Love them. But I don't like when someone isn't walking in their truth. Like if that's what you are, don't use something else to benefit you. Right. You know, and that's what she did. And when she started swinging first, I was like, okay, I'm going to say what I need to say on it. And I think if she was smart, you guys should team up. That shit would be fucking crazy. Right. Which I kind of thought that might've came about, but instead she still continues to talk shit about me. She's just still mad. I'm like,

okay. Like, I think, uh, she has a lot of growth to do too. I don't know her as a human. I'm not taking shots, not talking shit. We're just literally speaking from what we see from actions, you know? And, you know, once you've evolved from certain situations, it's easier to identify when somebody else is needing to grow, you know? So she needs to find herself. She needs to love herself. She needs, you know, some direction. Um,

I don't know that much about her, but I know enough. And I wish her the best. I don't want her to... Absolutely. I think her and her girlfriend just got engaged, too. They did. So, I mean, hopefully that'll bring her some peace. Congratulations to them. Hopefully that'll bring her some peace. I hope so. I want to talk about you and Adam Calhoun. Ooh.

This is your baby. Like I crack up every time you post something about him because I'm just like, this is fucking hilarious. And I bet the fans are just eating it up. They do. I love Adam. I know the fans love it.

Obviously, I will just say, as I haven't said it, we're not in a relationship. Oh, damn it. You know, I would love to be like... I was hoping to get some juicy tea. You know, he... We talk. He's a sweetheart. I've met Adam a few times and he's just always such a pleasant energy. He is. Very calm. Very calm. Yeah. In person, he really is. Yeah, he's just so calm. On camera, he's his camera face. That's like Upchurch. Well, Upchurch is...

is wild in person too, but it's like, you know, just on camera, they have to be like this person. He definitely is his, you know, he's got his camera personality. And then in person, he, I compliment him. He listens more than he speaks. And I always appreciate that about a person. Yeah. But, you know, we flirt and we do our things and I love him, but,

I was very set on remaining single. Yes. And just kind of, you know, feeling out. This is a lot for someone to step into. Absolutely. And I've taken on a lot. Yes. And I don't want to be unfair to someone and not give them what they deserve because I'm preoccupied with, you know, I'm staying up till 6.30 a.m. Absolutely. And fucking,

people don't realize relationship being with an artist is extremely hard yeah you've got to find somebody who is one either has their own thing going on is secure in themselves or literally just lets you have free freedom you can't be in the studio fucking arguing with somebody no at all that's gonna mess up all your mojo oh absolutely so yeah you gotta have somebody who lets you be fresh out of yeah what just happened i i

I don't agree with getting into a relationship and taking that out on the next person. Absolutely. I really needed to heal from that. No, that's such a good, such a, such a, I keep saying mature, but it really is such a mature thing because how old are you? 24. Yeah. When I was 24, I was not, I was not that mature. It took me probably until about five years ago. Getting with jelly has really made me grow up.

before I got with Jay, I had just so much trauma that I had ran from, you know, I used, I drank, I did drugs and just, you know, you live the Vegas lifestyle, but hearing you at 24 say this stuff, I think is really fucking cool, dude. Like you're very well-rounded and I, I dig that. Um, so nothing's going on with you and Adam, nothing to report about with you and Adam. What do you, can you talk about why you're out here in Nashville?

Okay. So, I mean, Bobby was like, we're going to Nashville. I'm like, I've always wanted to go to Nashville. What are we doing in Nashville? He's like, well, you can get on the podcast with Bunny. And I have wanted to do this since I've known of you guys because I love it. I think it's

an empowering and fun place to be. I just feel the energy sitting in the room. So he was like, we'll do that. They wanted to watch the game together. Yeah. That's what they're doing now. Yes. And then they're at home being old geezers watching the game. That's what rock rock stars do on their days off. Yeah. It's the football. Um, and I actually have a couple of meetings tomorrow with Bobby with some labels and distribution companies. Um, they're just, um,

Not so much taking me. It's more of a label thing. But we'll see. So they wanted to meet me and, you know, see what the plan is for 2021 and et cetera. So I'm excited. What is the plan for 2021? There's so much. Dude. Can we talk? Can we just... Yeah. Can we get a little sample? I actually have a song dropping the 23rd, I believe.

It's called Savage. December 23rd? Yeah. Yay. Okay. The video shot. Oh, that's what that, you have the outfit in that I love. Yeah. I was like, that's a bunny outfit right there. It's the best song and the best video hands down by far. And I don't normally like brag about my stuff like that. It's okay, girl. Because it's just like, oh, that's me. Numbers don't lie. And your numbers are fucking crazy, dude. Yeah. I just, I don't know. I'm so weird. Like people are like, oh, you hit. And I'm like, like, okay.

I'm thankful and grateful, but I'm just not like... Yeah. You know. But this video, I won't toot the horn. Because it is...

it is very, very, very good. Um, and I'm, I'm swinging hard. I'm proud of myself. Are you rapping, singing? Oh, you're rapping again. Okay. I love when you rap. When did you realize that you could rap? Let's talk about that. I used to play like my, my gay best friends, they would be like, Sav, like, you know, cause they, they were obsessed with the fact that I sang. They're like, just get on this beat and try to write something. And I would do it. So I kind of always like,

I could play, but I never thought that anybody else would enjoy me rapping. Like I don't, I just, with this song Savage, when I stepped in the booth, I'm finally like, okay, I found my rapping voice. Like, okay, I'm comfortable. Oh, you're going to be doing, Jay still switches his flow up and he's been doing this 15 years. So you're, it's literally every album you do. It'll change. We're going to get to see a different side of you. That's why Nicki Minaj has like Roman and all of those other voices.

that she does because literally each new album and each new song that she does, she's like, holy shit, I have a new voice. I have a new personality. So you're literally going to be doing this your whole career. Yeah, but it's really cool. It's cool to see. I'm finally comfortable in it. And then, of course, Bobby raps and so he's obsessed. He's like, oh, you're like my little...

you know, protege. Yeah. He loves it. So, um, I enjoy rapping. Yeah. I feel like it's both sides of me. Yeah. Because I do truly have like that sweet heart. You're like a gangster Taylor Swift. Kind of like, yeah, I, I, I'll come home and meet your parents, you know, and I can be polite and all those things, but also fuck you up. And I'll also give you anal. Yeah.

So I'm, you know, it's definitely both sides of me. I get to release my emotional and then my like,

Fuck you side. When is this going to drop? Is this going to drop before the 23rd or can we drop it around the 23rd? Is that possible? Yeah, we could try to make this coincide with your dropping. So that would be great. Yeah, I love that. Yeah, I'm really excited. 2021. My album was already supposed to be out. We paused for a specific reason. I don't know that I can speak on that. Yeah, but there was a big reason for it. So then I was like, OK, let's add something to it.

So I was like, can you slap him really quick? It's like a song right there. Okay. I'm sorry. Go ahead. Um, so I was like, let's add something else to it. So then we did Savage. I actually already have songs that are done or being worked on for my second album, which will be released soon.

Pretty quickly after my first one. After the first one. That's so exciting. Big things are coming. I'm excited for 2021. We're not letting up. This is like full throttle. I can't believe what you've done in just this short amount of time. I can only imagine what you're going to do in a full year. Especially because you have, what is it, Mako? Is it Mako? Mako, yeah. You have Mako behind you just pushing everything. And the team's phenomenal.

Oh no, they don't fuck around. No, I could not have handpicked a better squad. I say that about our team too, man. Like if you don't have a good team behind you, you're not going to make it. It's going to fail. It's going to fucking suck trying to do the shit on your own. And I'm telling you a good team. If you don't have a team, it's just you. You got to have a team. And it's got to be a good one. Not that fake shit. Yeah. The people you really love that you want to see every day who want to see you succeed for the right reasons. Yes. So, and we're all about like,

you know, we're all just givers. Nobody on the team is selfish and is like out for themselves. Oh yeah. That's how it is here. We all literally, yeah, I really love that. No, it's awesome. Well, Sav, I really am just so happy that I got you in here and got you to open up and to talk. And I'm sure everybody's just even more in love with you. Cause I know I am. Don't make me blush. No,

She's like, I can talk about anal, but don't tell me that I'm a sweetheart. Okay. Um, I can't wait to have you back, dude. Please come back in like the next six months and check in with me every six months and just, you know, fucking, I just want to hear all the good stuff that's going to be coming your way. Why don't you drop your socials and tell people where they can find you? So Instagram is at Savannah Dexter music. Facebook is Savannah Dexter. I have like my main page and then a fan page. YouTube is Savannah Dexter. Um,

pretty much like google me bitch yeah like it's pretty much all the same i tried to do it all the same yeah talk savannah dexter music i try to keep it all the same so yeah thank you so much babe i really appreciate you being here i appreciate you and thank you guys so much for tuning in to another episode of dumb blonde i will see you guys next week bye