S3 EP2. Modesty and Purity ft. Ashley Hetherington
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Hello, everybody. Welcome to Christ with Coffee on Ice. I am your host, Allie Yost. I am so grateful that you guys are here on another Friday. Happy Friday, guys. I don't know what episode this is, to be honest, because current version, current time, Allie, we are bulk.

recording for season three. So I don't know what order we're going to be doing this in, but I know we're in season three. So happy season three, everybody. If you're physically watching, you can see that I am not alone on my couch right now. I have bestie Ashley Hetherington, who's back, everyone. She's already been on the pod, but she's back. Hi, guys. I'm so glad to be back with y'all. I just love this girl. I love you guys. Bro.

Like, I just love you guys. I feel like we're all just in the same room together. No, we don't. I'm so excited. Dude, we've had this specific topic so heavy on our heart, and it's kind of... I don't want to say scary, but it's a little bit scary for us, to be honest, because it's giving, like, no one's talking about this. And to be honest, I really feel like we've just been trying to put our feet back in the shoes of BC versions of us, like the versions of us who...

hadn't found Christ or didn't understand why modesty is important or why, you know, staying pure before marriage is important. And I wish that people spoke into me before I made all those decisions, you know? Like, I really wish that I had a big sister in Christ or somebody who could have just given me the wisdom before making all those decisions. And so both Ashley and I feel so led to talk about this topic because we wish somebody had told us sooner about these things.

And so I know this is, I speak for both of us, but it's also been so heavy on our hearts to go into this with such a heart posture of love. Like we really truly hope and we have been praying that every listener right now feels the heart of God. Like that this is truly coming from a place of so much love and protection. Like he literally just wants to protect his daughters. And so he's using us as vessels right now to just protect

Spread that wisdom, knowledge, and also, like, we're going to share some stories of things that we've done, decisions we've made, and we can confidently say that it was not good for us. It was not fruitful, you know? And so we really just pray that all hearts are softened now and that we are not coming at y'all with any judgment or... And pointing fingers. No, because we walked it and we lived it, you know? And so...

Talking about these things. And we still struggle sometimes. Yeah, because we're human. Yeah. Right? So we want y'all to know that. Like, can we just be like sisters right now? Like, it's giving big sister energy where we just really want to love and help guide our sisters in Christ and help educate y'all as to why these things are so important. They're so important. You know? Yeah.

Ash, did I miss anything with that? How do you feel? Is there anything you want to add? You opened so well. Yeah. It also doesn't have to be that serious. I feel like I'm hyping it up like it's going to be that serious. It's about to be like a literal guilt. It might get a little juicy. It might get a little juicy, honestly, because we will be sharing from our own mistakes. And we will be as real as possible. Because one thing I will say is I feel like a lot of people...

I, when I was like, you know, going through my lukewarm era, I did not hear other like

or whatever, talk about modesty. Gosh. Or talk about sex before marriage. Or talk about, like, how to go about any of that. So, because I wasn't listening... And also, the people that would talk about it, like, they saved themselves from marriage. So, I look, he was like, you don't understand. Yeah. But I think, like, our goal with this is to share from our own experience. Yes. Because we don't... I literally see, like, there's a pot that's burning. Mm-hmm.

And your hand's about to go to the pot. Your hand's about to get hurt. And my hand just got burnt. And I'm not about to have you go touch that and get burnt. Because I love you. That's love. That's love. What we're doing is we are truly trying to act out in a service of love. And the thing is, y'all don't have to receive this.

like you don't that is what god gives us where we have free will and we can make our own decisions and so if we stand here and we tell you guys from our experiences and we try to warn you about these things and we just speak from our literal experiences and you don't want to receive it everyone has that choice right but we pray you do we really pray that you do let's get into it yeah right so where the heck do we even start well i'll just like i'll just say that before i

really leaned in and found Jesus, I was dressing for the world. And I feel like the biggest lie that I was telling myself, that the world was telling me, and then I was telling myself, was, like, well, I'm not dressing for men, like, I'm dressing for myself. Like, if I want to show a bunch of skin, it's for me. Like, I want to be able to wear whatever I want. And we know the whole movement of, like, like, I'm not asking for it if I wear this, which...

Let me be so careful with this verbiage right now because I am not saying that any woman deserves to be assaulted, violated by a man based on what she's wearing. I am not saying that. But I think what I wasn't coming to acceptance with was that...

I was just going to attract the wrong men because of how much skin I was showing. That was just the truth that I was not willing to accept. And I was telling myself that I wanted to show my skin like that because I wanted to for myself. But the real root of it that I was in denial about was I...

I was loving the attention and the way that I would turn heads from men. Not just women. Like, it was like... It was actually about the men. Like, I just... I needed that validation and I needed to feel sexy. I needed to feel hot. I needed to feel desirable. And so, I was using that with my body. And I also, like, would tell myself these stupid lies too where I'd be like, well, I better flaunt it now while I'm young because these are gonna get saggy and this is gonna be that way. And it's like, it's awful. But that was literally what I was telling myself. And I was...

I was seeking so much value in my image, like in the way that I looked on the outside because I didn't feel confident on the inside. Like I walked this walk and I dressed for the world and I showed all of the skin. Like I'm allowed to say this because this is literally, like this was my story. Like this is actually the truth of what I lived out. That's why I was dressing like that.

Like I was dressing like that because I needed validation and I wasn't getting it for Jesus. I definitely wasn't getting it from my God because I didn't let him in. I wanted to live for myself. So the other, only other place I could get it was from the world and from men. But I was in denial about it. Like I legitimately was lying to myself about it. I was like, no, I just want to feel sexy for me. Or like I dress for the girls. And it's like, sister, let's be so for real right now. Like you want to feel validated because if not, like you don't feel worthy. And that's like,

really sad like that makes me sad that i felt like i needed to show off my body to feel worthy to feel accepted to feel relevant how about the fact that we just we also do it because we want to feel relevant we want to dress really cute like all the other clothes like what's trending yeah like on every website right now like every like major fashion website it's like it's like half naked right

Legit. That's what's trending. Crop jobs, all this stuff. It's like, we want to be cute. Yeah. And it's in this like innocent, like, I just want to be cute. But like underlyingly, it's like, I know for me and for you, like we've had other intentions. Yeah. That we just, we're like,

But like, no, it's there. Yeah. And it's just like the only reason I know that now is because I'm like on the other side of it. And I know what it feels like to actually feel so confident from the inside and like radiate confidence. But I literally get it from the Lord. And so I don't feel like I need to dress in a way to have people accept me.

And so when we talk about you got like, we don't want y'all to feel any sense of regret. It's like the Lord, like you're made new in the Lord and you shouldn't ever feel embarrassed for your past. But like, bro, it's like, but it's still there. And like, if I could choose, I wish that I didn't do that.

You know, I wish that I didn't show off my body like that. I wish I didn't dress like that, you know? And especially because I had like such a presence online before I found Jesus, like it was really odd there, you know? Yeah. Especially going out, going out seeing if you could literally wear whatever. And it's like culturally like normal.

I would have my going out clothes and then I'd have my normal school clothes. What would your going out clothes look like? Oh my gosh, fam. It's so funny. Allie and I, we saw this TikTok the other day. We were like, that is literally so real because basically this girl's clearing her clothes.

closet. No, that was not was me because I literally found Jesus, but I was lukewarm for so long. But the moment that I was like, I'm actually going all in. I had to go through this whole bit of my college going out stuff. And I was like, I cannot work. They were all crop tops, like really short shorts, like very short shorts.

And it was getting like, oh, I wanted to be cute. I wanted to fit in whatever. I wanted to be trendy. But in all underlyingly, I wanted attention. Yeah. And exactly what Allie said, it felt really good. And I started doing this in high school. I started doing this when I was like 16. Like as soon as I got boobs, I'm saying that word boobs. You can cut it out if you want. But as soon as I like...

started developing, I was like getting like attention and I wasn't getting attention before. And I know who I'm speaking to. I'm speaking to someone right now who you did not get attention all middle school, whatever. The moment you got into high school, you like are developing and then you use that to get attention because you didn't get attention before. And what's crazy is it works.

Is it works? The guys that didn't look at you before, they look at you now because you are wearing really tight clothes in your classes. Like, I know I'm speaking to someone right now, and it is because you are so loved by the Lord that I just need to tell you that literally, you guys, the attention that I got, yeah, I got attention. It was the wrong attention. Come on. For years, you guys, I was disrespected. Yep. Disrespected. Yeah.

And like it's quick fix. It's like, yeah, you want to get attention. Great. But you're getting wrong attention. They're literally trying to use you. Right. Facts. I don't know if any big sis is telling you this.

It's not the right attention. You deserve to be loved by a man of God who's going to commit to you. And if you're going to have sex with him, like, let's just go there. That's got to be your husband, my girl, because that's what you deserve. Like Allie and I, I'm not going to even speak for Allie. I'll let you speak for yourself out. But for me, I let myself get taken advantage of.

And like that, like in the moment of feeling loved, like feeling seen, maybe I'm out in a bar and like I look like I'm feeling seen in that moment. Right. And it feels good.

But then you wake up the next day, you feel horrible about yourself. I felt horrible. You do that enough, you're like, nah, this is not my portion. This is not God's portion for my life. And I was walking with Jesus. I had a relationship with God and I was doing this stuff. But we, as women of God, are meant to be married with a ring on it for the stuff that we're, for what we show God.

Like our bodies were meant to be seen by one man, one man like is worth that. You're worth that. But too many of us, like Ali and I were saying, it's like, man, I'd rather get a, get not a lot of attention.

Like, let's just be real. If you're going to dress more modest, you just aren't going to get as much attention. You just don't get looked at that much. Okay. Okay. I'd rather not get attention from a lot of guys for a long time, but have one guy look at me and go, that girl, she's a wife. Like, that's a wifey. Then have so much attention and so many guys flooding my DMs, but not a single one of them respect me. And not a single one of them look at me as a wifey.

Like they're looking at me as a piece of meat. And I'm speaking this because you are all, y'all know what I'm talking about. We felt it too. Like we're all in 2024. We're going to talk like this is what you want. Big sis. This is big sis. And also having sex with him is not going to make him like you anymore.

Can you say that louder? Okay. Because I've felt that so many times. I've legitimately, I've dressed that way. I've got the guy, we did the thing. And now I'm like, oh my gosh, he's going to be obsessed with me now. And then I never hear from him. Or it's honestly giving mid. It's giving where's the passion? Where's the, where's the love? Where's the pursuing? It's horrible. It's awful. Like it's so backwards. And I would think that I would think that if I gave my body to him and honestly, like we can even talk about soul ties. Like the,

The thing is, y'all, the thing is, is like, this isn't, like, before I found Jesus, I just thought that the Christians who decided to wait for marriage and decided to dress more modest and not show off their skin, it was a personal decision. Like, I was like, okay, so they just, like, decide to do that. Like, that's fine. Like, I love Jesus, too. Like, oh, I love God, too, but I just don't want to do that. It was also just, like, a lack of wisdom that it's actual protection from God. It is

actual protection from God. He does not want your soul, like a piece of you to get intertwined with a person that is not supposed to literally live life with you. And like, I don't care if you are so convinced that the man that you've been dating for three or four years, and yes, you guys have been intimate. You probably even live in a house together. Like

sister, that's great, but that's marriage, honey. That's marriage. And I can say that because I did live with a man. I dated a guy for three years. I lived with him for like a full year. I was a full on wife with no ring on my finger and he was not committed to me. He was not fully committed to me. He was off cheating on me. Like I, I was so loyal and I was being a literal wife to a man who was not my husband and

And do you want to know why I wanted that? Like, why I was living that? It's because that's what I was created for, though. But I didn't have it right. Like, I wanted to be a wife, and I wanted that, but it's just like, I just didn't, I didn't know. Like, that's what I was created for, but I was doing it all wrong. And I was letting these men in my life, like, let's also just talk about having worth, sister. Like, protect your heart, protect yourself, but also, you deserve better.

better than that like you deserve a man to actually freaking pursue you and love your heart first he looks at you and he says she is beautiful she loves the lord that woman is going to be a freaking mom and i want her to literally be the me the mother like my children's yes and it's not even just a man who says that but like he acts it out and he pursues you because it's like

The thing is, is like with these relationships that you're in, if they're not centered in Jesus and you've been dating this guy for like eight years and you're not married, but you live together and you're doing all the things. It's like when a man is like ready to pursue you, you don't have to wait eight years to like have that.

Like, it's like you're letting him have all of it without the actual... Without actually paying for it. Without paying for it. It's free, bro. You're giving him a life for free. Yeah, he ain't gonna do nothing. He doesn't have to do anything to earn it. And that makes me sad. That makes me sad. Yeah. That makes me sad for a version of myself that thought, well, maybe if I'm good and, like, maybe if I just keep doing this, he'll want to do... No, the relationship crashed and burned. We were not equally yoked. Like...

I needed to know Christ deeply, but it just, I've done it. So I can, I can speak on that because it's just like, that's just not the way that God has created us to be. I think that's super powerful. Again, this whole conversation, we want to speak from our own experience. I am so proud of you for sharing that because so many Christians are like, don't live together. Don't live together. But like, they've never done it. The fact that you've actually done it and you're able to say, don't do it. Don't do it. I will never live with a man again unless he is my actual husband. We are married.

And I'm saying that because I've been burned. I did it. I did it and it sucked. It wasn't what I wanted. And honestly, what I've wanted all along that I didn't realize I needed was I needed a Christ-centered marriage and relationship. Like everything I was yearning for, everything that I wanted when it came to loyalty, a companion, somebody to rely on, somebody who would fully pursue me, somebody who made me feel seen, somebody who appreciated me when I would cook and clean and do all these things. Like it was because I...

I wasn't going to get that outside of a Christian relationship and marriage. Like the men that I was dating did not know Jesus, but honestly, I didn't know Jesus. But isn't like, isn't that crazy how like the things that we crave, it's like we're wired to know Jesus and to be centered in him. And that even comes down to our literal freaking marriage. Like the things that you desire in a marriage, I'm sorry, you're not going to get it unless Christ is centered at both of y'all's hearts.

And having Jesus fully centered at your heart means modesty. It means waiting for marriage. It means obeying the word. And it means trusting him when he says, don't do this because it's going to hurt you. Like he says it, he says, don't do this because it's going to hurt you. It's not because he wants to be this big almighty

almighty, egotistical God that just wants to control us like puppets. It's because he loves us so much. He does not want to see his children and his daughters specifically because that's who we're talking to right now. He does not want to see his daughters go through that pain. Period.

And so if we can sit here and speak from versions of ourselves that have felt that pain to try to prevent more of God's children to feel it, God, I pray that that's what he's doing right now. What was meant for evil, he is turning for good. And we are going to be able to speak into these girls and tell them, please don't do what we did. Yeah. Because it was a mistake. Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm. What are you feeling, Ash? How do you feel? I think often we look at the dudes and we're like, well, there's just no man of God. Oh, these guys need to work on it. Okay. Such a lie. Okay, okay. My girl, I'm only saying this because I needed to hear it. It starts with us. Yep.

Oh, come on. It starts with us. Okay. We want a good man pursuing us. What are we wearing? Be a good woman. What are we texting? Are we entertaining things that we shouldn't be entertaining? Oh my gosh. It starts with us. Oh my gosh. It starts with us. Yeah. It starts with you, boo.

It's always with me. That's really convicting. That was convicting for me on my journey. Too often we blame and we don't look inward. It's like if you keep having the same guy come into your DMs, the same situation happen like I was, we have to look inward and we have to go, what is going on? What am I doing? What am I posting? What am I projecting? What insecurity in me needs to be fed by this type of man that I am just continually allowing the enemy to have a foothold in my life?

And here's the thing. It's going to take sacrifice. Guess what? If you choose to go the modest but fashionable route, let me just say there's some fashionable modest clothing. But if you choose that route, you're not going to get as much attention. You have to surrender that. You got to sacrifice that need to get validated by a man every two seconds, right? The things you're posting, you're not going to post bikini pics. Okay, man, you're not going to get all those DMs from guys. I'm sorry.

I'm sorry. We're going to have to let that go. But what you're gaining, maybe you don't get that, but maybe you're blessed with an amazing man of God who actually looks at your heart and he actually loves you for you. So it starts with us and it's like now we shift the conversation like how do we walk as women of God and attract the right man?

And what do we need to not be doing to stop attracting the wrong man? And AKA also maybe doing things with him that we shouldn't. Because I think that it is... Ash, thank you so much for bringing it there because I think it's so easy for us...

Bro, we are humbly speaking from experience. Please know this. We are humbly speaking from experience. Bro, I've been the worst thing. I have always blamed... Y'all, if you knew me, BC Alley, I was saying the most awful things about men online. I had so much resentment in my heart towards men because I had been so burned over and over again by these men and these guys that I was either dating or whatever. And it was like...

so much resentment in my heart towards men y'all and it was because I was I

I was broken. Like, I was broken. I literally was attracting the wrong men. So I'm so grateful that you brought that up because I was so full of myself. I had so much ego. I was so filled with ego being like, Ally, you're amazing. Ally, but, like, you're the best. No, but, like, you deserve an amazing. Like, screw these men. They just don't know what they have. Which, like, okay, maybe a piece of that is a little true. But honestly, sister, like, what?

We need to change what we're doing, like, inward and outwardly because the things that I was doing online would only attract men whose only true intentions would be my body. To get in your pants. To get me naked, bro. Like, that, that, that thing. That's what you were starting with. But I didn't want to see that. And I didn't want to admit that. Ah! Ah!

I didn't want to admit that. I can't right now. I'd be like, well, I can't be sexy and be treated well? No. Oh, wow. Allie, actually, no. Yeah. You can't. Because if you're dressing like that online or if you're dressing like that at these bars, like, there was one time where I had gone out to a bar and a man literally, like, groped me. Like, he literally, like, touched me as he was going by at this bar. And I was so livid. But, like, Allie, where are you right now? Where?

what kind of environment are you in right now? And also, yeah, it's the message. It's the message of what we're giving with those outfits. And it's like, you just are going to attract off

awful men when you dress that way and so it comes inward first like what am i doing to attract these kind of men what am i doing like really heart check reevaluate and what needs to be fed what insecurity needs to be fed let jesus patch that i keep letting that's like because it's also like i need to let it go i needed i had insecurity that was being fed me too and it felt good i needed validation it felt good i needed validation but it's also so temporary

Yeah. Like, you feel validated in maybe that hour or that night. And like you said, the next morning you wake up and you feel awful about yourself. Yeah, because they don't text you. They ghost you. You never hear from them again. They go and be with someone. They, like, literally go date someone. Date your friend. They go and date your freaking best friend. It's just, like, ew. It's just awful. So, honestly, y'all, we really... It's protection. It's protection. So, we hate to say it, but, like, it really does start from...

With it. From us. Exactly. And honestly, that bleeds out into every aspect of your life. You don't feel like you have great friends? Okay. We need to reevaluate. Yeah. Where are you going for those friendships? Right. Like, what? Where are you going for those? Where are you picking up these friends, bro? You know? Okay. So dressing modestly. Like, how do... Okay. Questions. So what are... How do we start? If it is about...

If we can kind of take the baton back and go, all right, what can we do to have accountability here? Right.

Then what do we do differently? Right. We can even talk about our own stories. What do we need to throw away? Yeah. What did we need to stop doing? What kind of guys do we have to stop entertaining? Yeah. Like, I think we need to get that deep about it because there are some girls who I believe right now, you are listening to this on purpose. God is like, I love you so much. I feel it. God is looking at you saying, I love you so much, my daughter. I don't want you being treated like trash anymore. Yeah. Yeah.

I have an amazing man of God for you... You're better than this. But I'm not going to put him in your life... Where you're at right now. Like... No. No. He doesn't even deserve this version of you. You gotta... Come on girl. Yeah. Get up. Know your worth. I have a great purpose. I have a great plan for you. But it's not going to happen with this... With this right now. Yeah. It's like... I had a false sense of like... Confidence and worth before. Like... This was my mentality. It was like... You're worth it sis. You got this. Like... You're the gem. You're the prize. Yeah.

But it was... Like, it was twisted, though. Yeah. Like, I still feel that way about myself now, but it's so different. It's like... No, but, like, I don't need to show off my body to feel that way. Like, all I need is Abba. Like, all I need is Jesus. And he literally makes me feel so beautiful. Like, I wear so much less makeup now. I literally dress like...

A cutie little mom. What she's wearing is giving modest cute fits. It is cute. It's free people. And I really, guys, I know free people's really expensive, but like, bro, they be slaying with the freaking... They have great long modest pieces. They do have great modest pieces that are still cute. They do. Okay, I keep taking this off track.

But, Ash, what were you saying? We were asking a question. I just think we can now talk about, like, how... How do we do it? How can we do it? Yeah, how do we do it in a way that honors God? To be honest, I feel really grateful that I am in a place now in my life where I can speak on modesty because I feel like for a really long time in the beginning of my journey, because you all know I've only been saved for a little over a year, like, probably the first, like...

six to eight months of my journey I was not dressing modest like I definitely was still posting bikini photos but I didn't know like bro I was the stop this is so cringy I would legit no it's not we have grace for her Allie stop it enemy I would post bikini pictures of me like in Hawaii and it's giving like cutie pie it's not giving like sexy like I am still in a bikini and then I would like put a bible verse in my bio

of the description, like in the caption. So there's grace, okay? There is a sanctification process and it really does come with learning, okay? I think my modesty, it wasn't like an overnight thing. So I think also giving yourself grace right now, if you've been running around telling everybody about how good Jesus is and you are a Christian and you do love him, but maybe you haven't been addressing the most modest, that's okay. We have grace for her. But I think that like the biggest thing for me is, I don't know, I was kind of, guys,

I was kind of learning what my style was anymore. Can we, like, I didn't even know how to, because, like, my style was so identified and rooted in, like, showing my skin. Yeah, that's so real. I was like, wait, what am, like, what is my bag? Then what do I wear? What's my, do I wear a garbage bag? Well, like, who am I? You know what I mean? Like, when you're, like, trying to find yourself in Jesus and he's, like,

you know, slowly revealing, like, who you are, who you've really been this whole time. I'm like, wait, but, like, what? What would Allie wear if it wasn't to, like, show off my skin? You know what I mean? And so there is a little bit of, like, a learning process with, like, finding your style while also being modest. I feel like...

for me has been, like, the lace-long sleeves under everything. Which I totally copy. That is such a core, Ally. Like, I have been obsessed with it. I'm like, if there's a vest that's, like, a little too low-cut, I'm like, oh, perfect, I put a lace top underneath. Like, it's perfect. But, yeah, I think it's, like, it's fun, though, because...

In the beginning, I really did feel like, oh, okay, so now I just have to wear, like, baggy tees all the time. Which, bro, I do thrive in a baggy tee and baggy jean moment. So does Emmy Moore. Emmy Moore? Bro, she slays the baggy, like, baggy fit. Like, baggy unisex, like, men's clothing, but it's such a vibe. She found out. What is Emmy like? Yeah. Oh, she's like...

I like that. It's like finding your personal style is everything that you just talked about. Yeah, and it's fun. But it's like a process. But it doesn't have to be like that. It doesn't have to be now, okay, great. So now I don't get to feel cute anymore. I have to wear baggy freaking clothes. I have to wear a garbage bag everywhere I go. Yeah, and I can't even show that I have boobs. Right, okay. Should I just not have boobs, I guess? No, seriously though.

There's also a lie that like you can't even show that you have a figure. And there's that other side of the spectrum. There's like two extremes here. Where's the middle ground? How can a godly woman dress? What would Proverbs 31 wear? Yeah. Like how? And I don't think that God's saying don't have boobs.

Don't have a figure. Don't have a figure. I think God made us in his image. He made women to be so beautiful. We are beautiful. We are captivating. We are not to be wearing trash bags or like super oversized stuff all the time unless you love that. Because I do be loving that. Because I love oversized. But I think it's like how do we dress? And I actually have a ticking thing that's helped me.

With this, like, I think the Lord gives you discernment. I think there are moments where I'm about to leave the house and my father, heavenly dad, is like, my girl. And you know, the viewers here, they know what I'm talking about. You know what I'm talking about. You're about to leave. You look cute. You know, like, there might be something, though, that's a feel the spirit of God saying, but girl, girl.

Girl. And you're like, oh, but I look cute, Lord. I look cute. And I've had to have moments where I'm like, God, I look really cute though. And I look good. Like I look good in this Lord. And he's like, I know you do, but it's, but no, but no. That's so true. Like, honestly, guys, that's going to take you having a relationship with the Lord, building that.

I believe if you have the Holy Spirit in you, God's going to check you. He's going to check your heart. He's going to check your spirit. That's the only reason I ever became modest. It wasn't people lecturing me. Yeah, let's talk about it. It wasn't people lecturing me. It wasn't even... I mean, maybe there were some people online being like, then they're not right. But I literally... Like, the closer I became to God, the more I heard his voice in things, which also included modesty. Yeah. He convicted of me that. He convicted me of modesty. He convicted me of my drinking and even my casual wine that I would have. Like...

Like, literally, he's taken all of it out of my life. And wait, can I ask you, what did that feel like? Because I feel like girls are like, so how do I know, like, he's convicting me? Like, how do I hear God's voice? We hear, we talk about that. But, like, how did you know? That it was Abba? That, like, Abba said, don't wear that top. Like, how do you know? It's like, I don't want to say it's a feeling of guilt.

But you do kind of feel like, oh, it's kind of like a check. It's just a check. It's just a check. He's not, like, unkind about it. Like, it's not like he's like, are you serious, Sally? You're going to wear that? Haven't I taught you better than? Like, it's not manipulative. It's not unkind. But you do kind of feel like, like, that's literally the only way I can describe it is you hear this voice in your head that's like, are you sure? And then you're like. Yes!

And then you're like, okay. It's giving dad. No, it's giving dad. It's giving, like, if you had a really healthy, let's say you have an amazing father. Some of us don't, okay? But say you have an amazing, earthly. We all have an amazing father. Heavenly. Yes. But say, I know some of us have some fractured relationships with our actual dads. But say your dad is, like, literally, like, the most incredible man of God you've ever met in your life. Say, oh, I think...

If I'm wearing something around that dad, he won't say something. He's even going to just give you a look. He won't even say anything. He'll just go, no, you know. Sometimes God don't even be saying nothing. He just goes, then you're like, okay, I'm going to change. I'm going to change.

Because he loves us. Because he loves us. He's like, I don't want you to get bad attention. And I don't want you to make your brother stumble, my girl. Yeah. You're about to be with your brother in Christ. And he's going to... You're going to make him stumble. Yeah. It's true. It's true. God isn't, like, being a meanie pants. Like, he literally just wants to protect you. It's kind. And he wants to protect the community. But I also feel him tell me, like, y'all, and this is for all of us, but I do feel...

Dad, I feel dad telling us that like we can still feel like women. Yeah. Cause he did like, so like what we were saying, like he did make us beautiful. He made us with figures and like, it's okay. Like I'm sure you can tell that I do have boobs right now. Okay. I do have boobs. I have boobs, but it's not giving here. They are.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like, you don't actually know what they look like. Yeah. They are there. All right, everyone stop. Okay? Everyone stop. Everyone stop. But no, this is good. You get it. It's a fine line. And so if you're having a hard time getting that discernment, spend more time with your dad because he'll tell you. And he will literally drop those moments and you will just get this discernment. Also, I'm going to use an example. When Ashley Jones was here, I wore one of my lace tops with overalls over it, but the

the side of it did come down a little bit where like I was wearing a tan bra and granted you could see it but I was like but it's giving skin like I was like this with it I really wasn't sure there was a little bit of a feeling that told me that I should really just put a tank top underneath it so it's not giving bra do you get what I'm saying um but I came downstairs and I asked Ashley Jones I was like I was like how do we feel about this and she was like tank top

And I was like... I knew it. But even sometimes like... If there are people in your life like... Godly... Besties... Who you know... Hear from God... And have a relationship with Him... And love God... Like I trust... My people's discernment too. So even if you need guidance from other people... Like a little extra guidance... Like...

I would do... I'd be like, Ashlyn, this... Like, be honest. Like, what does Dad say? Like, help me. You know what I mean? Yeah. I think that that's also... Like, if you're new to this, like... Well, hopefully that's what we can be here for for y'all right now, too, is just help with that guidance. But even, like, if you need to ask your other sisters in Christ, like... Mm-hmm.

They'll be honest with you. You know? They will. Like, I needed that in that moment. I was like, you're right. Yeah. You know? Like, maybe I could have gotten away with it, but it's getting bra. And, like, we don't need that to be showing. Yeah. But... And sometimes you're gonna mess up. Listen. Yeah, bro. Sometimes you will. Sometimes you're gonna miss the mark and you're gonna be in a party or you're gonna be in a... A battle. A battle. A battle.

You meet a church and you're like, I don't think I should have worn this. You know, and you're just going to be there and like, you don't condone yourself, but you learn and you go, okay, next time I'm going to layer. Next time I'm going to maybe, maybe, you know, I'm just going to toss this because this is way too tight. Yeah. Also,

You know, I think wearing form-fitting things is great. Like, form-fitting is okay. There's, like, a way to wear... I love looking at, like, Sophia Richie style right now. Like, modest, like, old, 90s vibes. I don't know. But it's giving, like... It's giving fitted, but not, like, I'm showing everything. But, like, I'm gonna wear a top that... Like, I'm gonna wear a top. I'm not gonna wear a garbage bag.

And so it's like, and I'm not showing like every nook and cranny of my body, you know, like again, you just got to have that discernment. There's a fine line. And I do believe that everyone has their personal convictions too, where if you feel like even some

tight, form-fitting stuff in tight... I just feel like it depends on where it's tight, too. You know what I mean? If it's really tight and it's accentuating parts of your body that are like, it's giving lust, just... You'll have the discernment. Like, you'll just... You'll have the discernment. As long as you're connected for it. And pray for it. If you don't right now, just ask God. Yeah, be like, God, help then. Like, I don't know. Like, what do I wear and what do I not wear? And again, like Ashley said, you're gonna still probably slip up and mess up because...

we're human but for the most part I feel like 95% of the time I feel very confident that the Lord would be like this is a good outfit yeah you know what I mean and like have fun with your style have fun layering like it actually has been so fun to learn my style and like yeah and I would also just challenge you I actually think that we all include including myself because guys I I struggle with this too especially at the gym you guys I'll just be so honest like

I work out all the time and the workout apparel is like not giving. There's actually no options hardly at all for like modest workout clothing. And honestly, actually, I'll be so for real. I don't even know if I've crossed that bridge yet. Like I feel very confident for the most part dressing modestly in like my everyday. But when it goes to the gym, I like actually don't know what to wear yet. It's hard. It's super hard.

And I think for dudes too, it's hard. Like dudes who wear no shirt and the chin, like just nobody's business. It's like, it's just hard. So maybe that's another conversation. And honestly, the Lord's teaching me that right now. But at least with like, I think that we all need to pray. This is me humbly saying this as well. I need to pray this too. Abba Father, would you give us a stronger conviction on what we can wear and what would not, what we can't wear. And what would not honor you.

Like give us a strong conviction, Holy Spirit. We're allowed to pray that. And then I truly believe the next week God's about to be committing it. Probably. That's okay. Y'all about to see us dressing so different to the gym. Right? But like actually, Alo Yoga has great options. They do. They do. Like, but not, I mean, okay, so modesty, what we attract. But what about the guys that we're letting in?

Who do we entertain? Yeah, what about, like, the guys in your DMs, the guys that they're giving you attention, but, like, you know you gotta snip? Can I be so for real? I feel like it also goes both ways.

Be real. Okay. Go there. Should I? Yeah. Bro, if you keep clicking on his Instagram and all he's posting is, like, his, like, beach moments with him and the bros. Like, they're, like, all shirtless on the beach. Like, obviously, they're going to be shirtless because they're on the beach. But, like, why? Like...

Like, it's giving that energy where he's just like, he's like flexing at the gym. Like, there's no modesty there. Do you know what I mean? Like, it's giving very like lust about me. Look at my body. Look how ripped I am. Like, I just feel like it's also really important to have the discernment on what are his priorities and

just based off of his Instagram if he's DMing you like what does his page look like is it all about him is it all about his body is it all about being buff is it all about showing off is he like out at bars like it's just like what is the lifestyle giving

Like the same way that a man, we're talking about the way that a man would be attracted to us and read us is the same way you should be reading him. So like, let's be so for real with ourselves right now and say, why am I attracted to this man? Is it only, is it giving lust? Is it giving figure? Yeah.

Does that make sense? No, absolutely. And honestly, I feel like I'm not even attracted to those guys anymore because, because the Holy Spirit has literally changed like that. Those men are only trying to do one thing. They kind of bring me, like, I kind of like get repulsed because I'm like, I would,

never date a guy like that because I know that that man does not love Jesus. Yeah. Like, I think we gotta also pray like, Lord, help me to guard my heart and to not entertain guys that are gonna feed some insecurity in me, even if it's

A quick fix or... Dude, it really comes down to discernment and humility. Yeah. Like, have the discernment, but also you have to be so humble where you allow the Lord to give you that discernment. Because if we are getting in our own way and acting egotistical and being like, oh, no, no, no, no. Like, this is fine. Or like, I know what I want. I don't know. It's just like, you have to have the humility to know that God knows more than you.

So if he's giving you the discernment about a guy that you're like really excited about, but for some reason you're getting this gut feeling from the Lord that you're not supposed to be pursuing him, please put your ego and your pride aside and know that the Lord knows more than you do. And I don't care how much you have your feelings all wrapped up with this man. I don't care how much you are like so excited about him because he's so cute. And like he got John 316 in his bio. Like please follow that gut feeling because it is called discernment from Jesus. Follow it.

He knows way more than you. Do not trust your feelings. It's giving Emmy more faith over feelings. Please have faith in that feeling that God is giving you over how freaking cute he is and how excited you are and how many fantasies you've had about you guys like walking in a park together and going to dinner and having children and getting married. Like literally rebuke all of that and trust the discernment and the feelings that God is giving you. I feel that. Because I've lived it. That was good. I would ignore God's voice because I'd be like, oh, but he's so cute, God.

Allie, that's the TikTok that we did. But he's so cute. It's like, did he love Jesus? Oh, but he's so handsome. He's really cute. Allie, he doesn't love Jesus. Yeah. Allie, he is not your husband. Because you deserve a man who loves Jesus. Like, we've all been there, my girls. Yeah. We've all been there. I've been there. I struggle with that all the time. Yeah. It's real. It's real. But we just gotta pray that we have hearts to have a heart for the men of God out there. Like,

And, like, listen, maybe it means you're single longer. Hey, we're also both actively sitting here and talking about this all while we're still single. Yeah, maybe it means you're single longer. Does that make us more qualified? Like, we're sitting here fully waiting for marriage, fully dressing modest, and we actually haven't even seen our husbands yet. But we have what? Starts with an F. The baby?

Fantas? We have fantas? We have a fanta? We have faith, sister. We do. We actually really do have faith. We really do. And again, it brings it back to like, I'd rather be... Come on. I'd rather get the attention of one man's a god out there who's gonna say, I've found...

my missing rib than hundreds of boys who are just going to use me. Yep. Because we felt that and we know what it feels like and it's awful. And also, this is getting kind of random but not really. I guess, I wish I said this earlier when we were talking about having sex before marriage.

Because I just really want to say this. Because this was... I'm just thinking of all the lies that I would tell myself. Like, you see, Allie, of, like, why it was okay. Or, like, I'm not going to listen to this because they don't understand because they didn't do that. Because it's like, no, literally, guys, we didn't. No, I'm going to tell you every single lie that I told myself that I know some of you guys are telling yourselves, too. Is, okay, so how about that stupid lie that either people would say to you or you would tell yourself that if you don't have sex with this man before marriage, like, what if you get married and then the sex is awful? Yeah.

let's talk about that okay because i would i would buy into that i'd be like well you gotta no actually i never said this this is gross but this is what people would say is they'd be like you're gonna do you test drive a car before you buy it ew i could literally vomit in my mouth that people would say that but it's giving that type of energy where it's like well how do you know that we're how do i know that we're compatible actually compatible how we know that we're sexually compatible if we're not doing it before marriage

I'm sorry. I'm going to go there right now. I hope everyone is 13 years and older because maybe this is getting a little PG-13. But the Lord created sex. He wants to bless you in your marriage. That includes the bedroom. He wants you to enjoy that. That is another intimate, beautiful part of your marriage. It's not just the emotional connection. It's not just a physical connection. He wants that to be special.

He wants that to be special. So that whole lie from the world that like, oh, well, if I don't do it before we get married, like the Lord literally knows what he's doing when he puts two people together. Okay. And when I say he knows what he's doing, it's like from every aspect of the relationship. So you don't need to be worried that you're going to marry a man who can't

Like that you guys aren't compatible in the bedroom. Like that's so silly. Like the Lord wants you to be madly in love with each other and he wants you to enjoy that together. He wants you to have children. He wants you to be like just intertwined and one. That's marriage. One body. Like he wants that. It's just a lie. It's just a lie. It's a lie to get you to do the thing. It's from the enemy.

to me bro he's like yeah but what if you get married and it's awful yeah but what if you get married and you guys just like don't mesh and you're not compatible that is so gross you've got your whole life to become compatible you've got your whole life to have sex with one person you don't think you're gonna get good at it hey

You think you're going to learn how to please one another in that way? Yeah. Like, you have your whole life. Yeah. Why do you have to practice? Like, it's just wrong. It's just wrong. And it's so backwards. It makes it, honestly, I cannot, like, we have both had sex. Yeah. Okay? So, I'm not even going to, like, I'm just going to be real. Because I'm so tired.

tired of people not being real about this. Guess what? Guess what? We have. We have. You're so funny. However, I am so excited to be able to give this gift to my husband and I am so excited that I've been celibate and I have

It's giving like more special now. Come on. It is like I can't wait till I meet my man. I can't wait till I get married because I actually have a gift to give my dude. Well, let's debunk another lie from the enemy which is like but I'm not a virgin anymore so like how could that be a gift? Like I've already given myself so I might as well just let's debunk it. Let's debunk it, Ash. What would you say to that lie? I would say you're worth it.

I would say you're born again, honey. I would say you're made new in the image of God. Like, Jesus, that's what he died for. You are made new. I'm sorry, but that version of Allie who was having premarital sex, who was dressing in mock, she is dead. She does not exist anymore. So, yeah, it is still special. It is still special because I'm literally born new again. Like, I got a second chance through Christ. Thank you, Jesus. Because it is a gift. I'm new in Christ.

And honestly, some people who aren't Christian could look at that and be like, y'all deluded. Like, I'm not saying I didn't do it, but it is still special because I'm never going to do that again and I am completely made new. Like, I am not that person at all anymore. Like, my husband gets this alley. Yeah. Not that one. I don't identify in that anymore. No, same actually. I don't. I'm not saying I'm a virgin, but I'm not her. But it's like, she literally died. This is special. That girl died. Because this is me. Yeah, that's you.

And also that's encouraging for every single girl to hear like the girl who even maybe, maybe you had sex last night. Yeah. Okay. Guess what? If you are, if you are a new, if you are made new in Christ, like you are a new creation, the old is gone. The new is here. Period. His mercies are new every single morning. You know, God literally, there was one night where like I was just done. I got treated stupidly.

So badly by this guy. I am telling you, it was like the lowest of the low. And I think some of us, we just need to get to that point for us to make this lifestyle change. But I remember like it was this one night, it's this one moment where like I got treated horribly and it was just, that was it for me. I was like, you know what? This is actually the last straw. I feel like absolute trash right now.

I'm never going back. And it was like the moment that I just confessed my sin, I repented, I turned to God. It was like slate wiped. I did not go back and do it, go back to my old lifestyle after that. Like it took many falls, many falls to get. But I don't know why, but it's like sometimes that one thing, that like one time you get mistreated, it just like sends you over the edge where you're like, I'm done. Mm-hmm.

Like I'm actually done. I'm never going back to that old lifestyle. And if that is you right now, like you get to actually move forward and never look back. You get to never text that guy again, actually block his number. You get to literally like move forward. Know your worth. Don't ever wear that, that kind of stuff again. Don't, you don't even need to go out to the bars again, looking for this. You get to literally move forward. Don't look back. Don't look back. This is your sign. Don't look back.

Wait for your man of God. He is out there. Yeah. Wait for him. Yeah. You deserve it. You deserve it. You are a, you are a dime. Yeah. You are a prized possession. You are meant to be found. You're the wife. You're the misery. Yeah.

That's so gross. We just broke some chains. Come on. In the name of Jesus right now. Like, some girl needs to hear there is no shame. Yeah. Like, you are not going to let the enemy tell you that you are just a waste. That you are a piece of trash because of what you have done. What you've done. You are not defined by your past. No. No. That's a lie. Yeah. You are made new. That person's dead. Yeah. Yeah.

I'm glad she's dead. She's literally in the grave, fam. Because I love how I feel now. Oh my gosh, can we just like brag about our God? Like how good it feels to just only be validated by him? Whoa, it's so, no please. Honestly, I would be single for the rest of my life. What, Allie? Like the fact that I could say that now, I literally am like, I mean, of course I really want to get married and I would like love children. But bro, all I need is Jesus. Yeah.

How do we get validated from just him? Like as we're waiting for that man. And honestly, just period. How do we just continually get our validation from the Lord? Because even when we get married, our husband is not going to be able to fill that void. No, no. And honestly, the reason I'm sitting here not married yet was because that was my life.

Like that legitimately was my life. Like I was idolizing my future husband. I was idolizing my marriage. I literally was like, I treated it as if it was going to be the thing that would completely complete me. And so I do think that as long as you're in that mindset, it's going to be very hard for you to have a successful or healthy marriage because you cannot put your husband in a place that only Jesus can fill. Right.

That is why the Lord has had to work on me this last year and a half or so. Like, and prep my heart because all of my life, like, since I was, like, freaking 16 or 15 years old, was I was... I always dreamed about being a wife and having a family, but my heart posture was not right. Like, my heart posture was like, this man's gonna complete me. It's giving, like, other half. You know, like, my better other half. And it's like, no, sister. You are whole through Christ. You know? And it's also like...

It's like the Lord loves marriage because like we both together glorify God so much, but it's not about like...

you two completing each other. It's about, like, it's getting team. You know what I mean? It's getting partners in Jesus. Like, it's about glorifying God. It's teamwork, you know? Like, it's like, okay team, like, love you. You're my bestie now and we're gonna pursue Jesus together and like, have a family and have lineage and yeah, and make disciples. Like, it's all for God. Yeah, but it's not like you get married and then it's like, oh, finally I have my worth. What?

What? No. No. I already got that. You should already have that in Jesus. And when we as women decide, I'm going to find my worth in Jesus, period, when that man of God comes into your life, he's going to be so relieved that you are not looking to him to fill every void in your heart.

And honestly, you're going to feel just as relieved too knowing that he's secure in Christ. Like, it's actually going to be the healthiest marriage. It's going to be so healthy. And also, I'm going to say it, he's going to be so in love with the fact that you are so in love with Jesus. Like, because of your, the way that you are so secure in Christ, he's going to be obsessed with that. Because of how, I know, I know that whoever my husband is,

Just seeing him so obsessed with Jesus is going to make me so obsessed with him. It's the love and the security that you will have in Jesus that's going to make him attracted to you. That's what it's going to be.

Like, because Jesus is going to make you... I mean, he's renewed my heart, my soul, my everything. But it's also like, I know that whoever I end up marrying is going to adore me because of my love for Jesus. It all comes down to your relationship with God. Like, it has to. Yeah. He's the one that completes you. And then that's what's going to attract all these incredible people in your life. Your husband, your future...

friendships, like your community, like all of it, like what attracts these incredible people in your life is going to be the fact that you literally just radiate Jesus and you're obsessed with him. Wow. So we start now, ladies. So just become obsessed with Jesus. We start now. And let him teach you. Let him teach you modesty. Let him teach you how to live out, you know, what is it? Celibate. Just be a virgin. Okay.

It's honestly great. Also, I love not feeling bad about myself. I love it. Also, the lies of the world telling you that you need to have sex because it's healthy for your body. You do not need sex to live. Can I say it? You don't need sex to live. You are literally fine. You will not die. You're gonna be fine. Hey, I'm chilling. I'm actually the happiest I've ever been. I'm no longer taking...

Stop, Allie. This is giving too much. I'm no... This doesn't even have to go in the episode if it doesn't have to. Pray about it. Okay, I'll pray about it. But, like, I'm not taking... I'm not taking pregnancy tests. I'm not anxious. No, that's real. I'm not stressed. I'm so glad you said that. I am no longer getting yeast infections. You're not looking to see if this guy texted you or ghosted you. Like, it's giving peace. No, I have so much peace. Like, walk with the Lord and you will be blessed forever.

like crew was saying this earlier, it's like, God doesn't set these precedents and these things in the Bible and in his word so that we just don't have fun. He actually sets it for us for our freedom. Okay.

It's for freedom. It's freedom. Like I feel free. Everything that we're speaking on is for freedom. We don't have to worry. We have no anxiety. Also, we have so much peace in our life because we don't have like men who have wrong intentions pursuing us. Like there is so much peace with following what God says, y'all. But it starts with us making the decision to put him first and to obey him. And to say, you know what?

I'm done being lukewarm. I'm done dressing for the world. Yeah, I'm done. I'm done doing what everyone else is doing because also if you're surrounded by a bunch of people who are doing these things, you are going to feel like the oddball. But I'm telling you, that ain't normal. The behavior, like that is just not normal. That's not what we were made to do. I mean, how you know if we're not made to do something is if it goes against God's word. Yeah. Yeah.

And against destruction. I think you get into enemy territory when you start disobeying God. Enemy runs. He has a field day. He says, all right, I'm going to send this person into your life. I'm going to make her feel this way about herself. Oh, I'm going to make her have this experience. Like the enemy, when you're outside of these, like the biblical prayer is got to set. When you go outside, the enemy's like field day. He's like,

Yes, now I'm going to send this person. And he's like, literally wants to devour us. Because it's all open doors that you have for him to just go nuts. So don't even go there. Like, stay the straight and narrow. Like, keep your eyes on Jesus. Wait for your man of God. Pray. Say, God, I desire to have sex one day with a great man of God. You know you can pray that. You know you can pray that. Come on, you can pray that. Bring that to the Lord. Say, God, I'm going to wait for my man of God. I'm going to choose to be celibate. I'm going to choose to believe that you have someone for me. Like, just believe that.

And it's not going to be easy, but man, it will be worth it. They will be free to go. It's going to be so worth it, y'all. And I can't wait for us to like all come back one day. All of us. Including y'all. I can't wait for all of us to come back one day and give you a life update and say, we're so happy we waited because look at how great our husbands are.

Oh, I thought we were talking about hemming. Oh, bro, even better. What? No. Wait, no, you were thinking even better. But I just mean, like, because we are speaking from a place where, like, we haven't seen the fruit yet. But aside from the peace. Oh, I can't wait. Peace is fruit. Peace is fruit. Okay, wait. Foreshadow. What if one episode, like, in the future, I don't know.

My man's is right here and her man's is right there. And we're literally doing like a quad episode. Like, I'm already seeing it. I'm seeing it. Can I just say that the peace that the Lord gives you also brings so much joy. I've never been so happy in my life. I love this life. I just love this life. You guys, I really hope that you guys...

don't feel condemned like genuinely we were like okay they want bikes no I honestly and I was coming in so serious in the beginning of this because I was scared I was I was scared too I was like so horrible I don't want anyone to take this the wrong way because I literally love you guys everybody anybody everybody I love everybody so much that I was like I really hope we're not coming off as these like women who are like stuck

dressing like that but it's like no actually stop dressing like that because you're gonna get so burned and hurt babe I'm telling you I love you I literally want to just hug you so tight right now and tell you that you need to stop dressing like this you need to stop like going out to these bars and looking this way and acting this way and like even if you're the

sweet let me just say even if you're just the sweetest little freaking gem lollipop cutie pie and you're dressing like that it doesn't matter you're still giving them a message that you are not a cutie sweetie little lollipop adorable cutie pie like

Like, it's just. Be careful what you post. You just have to be so mindful with what you're putting out there because, like, what you put out is what you attract. Like, it doesn't matter how sweet and kind and how big your heart is. Like, I think I've always had a big heart. That's low-key you. Yeah. I've always had a big heart. Yeah. But it's just like, but it didn't matter how big my heart was. Men were still going to take advantage of me because of how I was dressing and what I was displaying, you know?

find you a man who looks at your heart and you will for your heart it won't be every man it won't be every man get ready for that you're not going to get as much attention but you will get the right attention you will get the right attention from the right guy it's so good yeah because also it's like yeah I love that you keep mentioning that where it's like but be ready because sister it's about to be dry because the DM's about to be dry it's about to be dry

They might dissipate. Like, they might just... You might be like, hey, so does anyone like this? So am I invisible? No, I'm just kidding. So am I, like, not beautiful? No, no. That's the enemy. That's literally the freaking enemy. I know that our girls are laughing. Oh, okay, so I'm, like, I'm ugly. Great. No, but because you're going to be seen by, one, your Heavenly Father, and, two, you're going to have some cute fits because you're going to find your personal style. You will, baby. And, three...

You're gonna be... You're gonna... When you meet your man, you're gonna know. You're just gonna know. And also, y'all, I'll just let you know, like, I've been, like... Like, I've heard some words from some godly men, and they're like, I'm sorry, the reason I was attracted to my wife was because of the glow. It's giving radiant. It's giving Jesus. Whoa. It wasn't like, no, she dressed this way, or like... I mean, okay, I don't want to say that to... Like, please still dress modestly. I'm not saying men don't... Men notice that, but it's like they see the glow. They see your heart. They see...

They see you, babe. They see you. Your laugh. Yes. Like your eyes. Like they like, they look at you. Yeah. Not your body. Yeah. This was an assignment, bro. I love this episode. The way that I feel so anxious in the beginning. And honestly, that was just the enemy. This is amazing. Hey, I'm so proud of y'all. I like really genuinely feel it. Like I,

in the spirit I feel it right now that so many girls are like they're hype they're like all right we're doing this like we are literally changing I'm done with this garbage because why don't we just like literally wear the most slaying modest fits no like why don't we actually just shift culture right now can we actually just shift culture right now can we start dressing modestly but like bro we're cute like let's be cute it's cute we don't have to be boring we don't have to be

we don't have to be like stale I don't know we don't have to wear sweatpants everyday I'm sorry we don't let's wear cute outfits are we all in? I'm in

I love a straight, like, baggy jean. I think, hey, Ali, I'm just going to gas my girl up. Ali just started a shop my page. True. And she's linking everything. Including this dress. Did you already link it? Yeah. Okay, you guys need to follow my girl on Instagram and go to our shop my. Yeah. Okay. Ashley's got one, too, though. So, like, low-key, y'all, if you're trying to be like, what would Ashley wear? What would Ali wear? Just go to our shop mys. And then let's shift culture. Period. Period. Period.

Being Christian doesn't have to be lame. It can be cool. We are cool Christians. I'm literally, I'm honestly more cool now. I say that all the time, but I'm like, I'm literally so much cooler and I'm so much more fun now. I am. I am. Getting the presence of me now versus if you knew me before, bro, I'm way cooler now. And that's because of Yahweh.

He just makes you like cool. He just makes you radiate, bro. I just love the Lord. I love God. Okay. Anyway. Well, we love you guys. Thanks for literally listening to all of this. And we are so grateful truly for the Lord just like using us right now to be big sisters and to help speak about this because no one's talking about it.

So praise the Lord for this boldness that is only sent from Jesus. Thank you, God, for this boldness. Thank you for allowing us to just be straight vessels right now to pour into our sisters right now, God. I'm just, I'm so grateful for what was just done. Like, this is so good. Wow.

I'm so grateful. Hey, we love you guys. Thank you for tuning in. Ashley, thank you for being here and being my sidekick in this. Like, low-key, I don't think I've done this by myself. I would have been taking the heat all alone. So, I'm really grateful. Break the heat, fam. I'm not afraid.

I'm just kidding. I actually don't think we're going to get heat because I think our girls are with us. Yeah, they get it. I pray that anything that we said that was not from the Lord would just fall away. But I do pray right now in the name of Jesus that anything that was meant from the Holy Spirit for you to hear today would stick. Yeah.

And it would create life transformation and that we would all literally wear the cutest, modest fits together. Together. We love you guys. I'm excited. Hey, could we just do one more thing too? Could we do something really cool today? Tell me, Allie. Could we just show somebody why Jesus is so cool today?

Could we walk a little bit more like Jesus? Let's just show somebody how cool Jesus is today. Let's show more of his compassion. Let's show more of his love. Let's show more of his empathy. Let's smile at somebody like Jesus would. You think about Jesus and how he smiles. Close your eyes. How would he smile? Smile like that to every single person you see today. Let's show someone how cool Jesus is. That's all. That's the only homework I have for you guys. But I love y'all. I will see you next Friday. Have an incredible week. And thank you for being here.

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