He Wants More Sex Than Me [VIDEO]
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What is up daddy game? IT is your founding father, alex Cooper, with call her. What's up that ging? Welcome back to a super soccer sexy, scandalous sauce I sausage summer mother fucking episode called her daddy.

Before we get into this episode, I need to do A P sa. Because recently I found myself doing exactly what I always tell you guys not to do. I'm a little buckin hibernate.

okay? I was comparing my life to influencers on social media. I the past I was like, two weeks have just been like how all these buckin bitches moving to the hamp tons for the summer.

Like what is happening to like packing my bags, like after the hamptons and i'm like I fucking wish, like I started to feel like as i'm sitting at my desk, like, well, like I just was killing like shit. I was like, oh my god, like I don't have that many fun summer plans and everything i'm basically doing for summer is for work. And like, here's the thing, i'm gna let you in on a little secret coming from someone who has gone on trips to the hamptons into italy.

IT is so beautiful and this is amazing. Okay, but right now, i'm going to focus on the fuck and negatives because that's what we need to make ourselves feel Better as we are and lessen scratching at our desks this summer. Daddy gang.

The next time you open tiktok as you're slaving away, you're ninety five. I hope this commentary makes you laugh instead of crying over us being jealous of these mother fucking influencers. Okay, here we go.

This is at least my rational of i'm getting through IT. You guys can get through IT however you want, but this is what I will say. The beaches in italy are literally made up of fucking rocks.

Kay, how about that? You want that soft White sand between your toes this summer. You're not getting in in fucking in italy, okay? You're Better off laying in the grass in your backyard or at a local park. Honestly, a wood slab on your balcony will be more comfortable than lang on the rocks in the concrete they go beaches initiates.

Okay, so if you're single, these bitches gallivant around copy or copy or however the fuck you say, IT, don't be jealous, don't worry. Okay, now maybe you're feeling adventurous and you're like, you know what, alex, I am okay. I want to lay on the rocks.

That sounds comfortable. That sounds relaxing to me. I wanna be there.

Okay, that's totally find good luck finding a spot to fuck and lay down on the rocks cardin's daddy ing. Sr, mother fucker deans, people are sweating. They're fighting. They're shopping for space in italy to even get a spot on the rocks.

And I would like to point out, while you're lying on side rock, something that would probably sound nice, right, your leg on the rocks kind of jabbing in your back, fuck to make IT, i'll feel Better. You probably would love a little nice ice water, right? Maybe little lemon and ice water.

Maybe you want an ice coffee so you can go shake your payments OK anything iced honestly, at that point when it's scorching hot? Joke is on you, bitch. They don't have ice in italy OK.

They do have ice in italy, but they don't believe in serving IT. They don't, they do not believe in serving ice in fucking anything. Okay, do you guys see what i'm fucking going with this? Welcome back to another episode.

Car di, i'm just happy I wasn't invited to go to europe this summer. okay? Thank god we are not going to europe this summer.

And gallivant around daddy, I going the ohio grass, the arezzo a polls, the context I charm that is where it's at the summer. People, we did not want to go to europe anyways. Guys, i'm obviously obviously like fucking i'm half kidding and i'm half not i'm not a fucking in edia.

Obviously italy would be amazing to go there all summer. The hamp tins would be amazing to go there all summer. But I just feel like we see IT so much on social media that everyone is getting to go to these amazing places and IT just makes us feel fucking shit.

You do not need to go to all these places that you see people online posting from to have a fun filled summer body gang. And I don't I don't want to see people complaining being like IT. But alex, like I don't have any time, like I don't have anything cool to do this.

You do have something fun to do. Okay, Margaret, the minute work is done, let me pitch you a little something because I did this the other night and I was gazed up about IT. Okay, you're going to go home from work. You're going to make yourself a fun Margareta or a little sex on the beach or a cosme or whatever whatever the fuck kind of cocktail you want OK.

You are going to invite a friend dowa or you're going to do IT with your partner or if you don't have any friends, at least that live in that city, schedule a face time date with someone, one of your friends, a family member to have a little cocktail hour with a little face time catches up and if no one is available for happy hour or you really don't have any friends, happy hour with yourself. Okay, I want you dad again. The summer we are going to order those little, you know, there's little like the little like cocktail things that are like a little umbrella that you can put in your drink that makes you feel like if you close your eyes and you when you're like I am in hawaii, am literally in you're in apartment, you're going to order these little things on amazon.

Maybe hang up some string lights in your apartment or on your deck if you have a deck, like make yourself a gorgeous cheeseboard with some of your favorite stacks and turn on your comfort show light a candle or go have a fucking pick at the park. Go read a book by yourself like, I guess the point is, like you really can create the vibe wherever you are. Daddy game, that is the point.

And I honestly, if you live in the suburbs, fucked in the hell. WIP out the god dim slip in slides. K, back in pa, we used to rip on those tarps. We, honest, didn't even have a slip inside.

You just do a bunch of tarp, you put out a hose, you pour some rose, even if it's a two buck chuck, force your friends to come outside and come over and make the most of summer. okay? This season does not have to be expensive.

You can have so much fun right where you are. I love you guys. I just kind of wanted to like say that because social media I like, I don't need to say to get like social media fake abb lot like sure.

But let's stop focusing on what all these influencers are doing. Let's stop focusing on on what all these people are doing. Focus on yourself.

You can have so much fun after your ninety five. Crack open that fact in corona. Take some tid pics slain the dms with little nip and have yourself some great sex.

Speaking of sex, oh, what transition? I love what a transition just comes naturally. Let's talk about summer time sex because I don't know if anyone else feels this way or can relate, but I feel like I have Better sex in the summer.

Why is that? I don't know. Um I think it's probably because during the summer, everyone is just naturally less stressed.

We are outside more or interacting with people more. I feel like everyone has more energy. The endorphins are up. Usually work is a little less hectic. Maybe if you're a lucky person, you get those summer fridays where you get to leave work girly and really kick start that weekend. But for me personally, my sex life is heavily dependent on my stress level.

And I was recently having a conversation with a friend about my honeymoon, and I was telling her that because I was able to be so checked out with work while I was on my honeymoon, IT really allowed matti to feel so connected. And our sex life was thriving, which don't get me wrong. I think that's what most people would expect.

Do you don't except me to come like the honeymoon was dry as fuck like? No, obviously we had great sex on our honeymoon, but I was being really honest with my friend and I was like, don't get IT twisted. I'm not always having honeymoon level sex with math.

And for me, I really need to be emotionally connected and not stressed in order to be having consistent good sex like I can have good sex, but like IT takes me kind of a good amount of relaxation to actually have an orgasm when i'm having sex with my partner like math and I we've definitely have our dry spells where we can go a week or two weeks even we've gone at times without having sex because we just get so caught up in the business ness of life and work. And I think it's important to say that because obviously, i'm aware and know the origin of this show was very sex heavy, which i'm so happy about. But I do think the reality is like when you are an adult, IT is nearly impossible to have a perfect sex life.

And I am the first to hate on this show well, because I am the host and there's no sitting next to me to say that I don't have a perfect sex life, especially as a woman. So much goes into our ability to orgasm, right? And that is something that that I actually talked about.

So once we got back from our honeymoon and we ve got back to lay, we were in the hot tub like a week after our moon, and we were just like reminiscing on our honeymoon and matter. I kind of just started talking about like our sex life. And I know talking about your sex life is quite awkward with your partner.

Like I get that even you can be he's my husband now, but it's still like, ooh, like is that like let's let's address the elephant in the room. Like how's our sex life doing? And that's my first bit of advice to anyone in the dating game.

If you are in a relationship like you, you should consistently be having checkers, just like about your sex life. I just feel like sometimes they can get away from you, and you can feel like the more IT builds up, then the more awkward ard is to have the conversation. And I my first bit of a vices like you can make IT fun IT doesn't have to be this like serious conversation to check in with your partner.

But for me, matter. I just started talking about because we were having this great sex, and I brought IT up in the hot tub. I was like, I wanna admit, like, I know i'm kind of the one that holds like the keys to our sex life in the relationship. Like math on paper, you could say, has like a higher sex drive than me.

And then therefore, as we all know, dad ganging like the person with like the higher sex drive is like the one that basically just staring at you in the person that doesn't have the higher sex drive is kind of the one that like dictators when you're having sex with your partner, right? And I just was like, listen, I want to be honest, like, I want to have more of that, like honeymoon, more consistent, like amazing sex. How can we make that happen? And I want to share some things that I realized, ed, about myself on our honeymoon I need from you.

And so I don't know if anyone can relate to this, but like for me like, okay, this is actually a funny story I was thinking about. And I shared with mat when we got back from our honeymoon, there was one night where there was a drama and our family going on and matter. I late in bed and I shoot you, not for two hours.

This man indulged me and talked all the drama with me. And we were going through and going through. And we're just lying in the dark talking. And I note this sounds really strange, but I literally started to get turned on because because that's like this is all IT takes me just talking to you for an extended moto time and like yes, like.

He was being so and like that is very emotionally intelligent, which is one of the things I love the most about him because, like, a lot of them in the past would be talking to a wall. And I never mind. I go call my friend about this, but that engages me and like is down to have these conversations.

And so we're talking, we're talking and he's like giving me his like analysis on this one family member and I like, oh my god, you're so right and like i'm learning things him and I feel like sometimes I would say like I would be like emotionally leading the charge in our in my romantic relationships. But that meets me to to to but we don't get to do this often. And so I start to get turned on as he's speaking of said family member and not thinking about the family member you guys are doing about that, okay? And I start to get aroused.

What a concept. And i'm like, oh my god, i'm now literally honey because my partner, i've been emotionally connecting. He's listen to me. He's hearing me. I'm hearing him we're laughing or having a good time and then we proceed.

Did you have incredible sex? The nights that is easier for that to have sex and it's difficult for me to have sex is when I come home from work at seven o'clock or both still kind of on calls, we're like chasing each other with a little whisky, but we're both on the phone, like talking to people for work and then we're going upstairs and it's like, are we just going are we just going to have sex right now? We've barely looked at each other all day.

We've barely spoke in all day. Like it's tough for me to like, switch off from work mode to sex mode because I need to fucking relax and when my assemble is clenched, thinking about how I haven't edited this episode yet like I can't think about an orgasm because ladies, you actually need to physically be relaxed to have an orgasm. Men can easily fuck in jerky and get the job done.

That it's not a simple for us. So I just wanted to share that with you guys because I don't know. I feel like in the past, maybe a lot of like the reti c on the show was just like if you're not having good sex, like dump him like okay, well maybe, but not in this case.

I think a lot of IT has to do with like having a chicken with yourself of how are you approaching your sex life and are you even giving yourself a chance to have great sex because, for example, like he always make sure that i'm coming first and i've got a very particular about we're like there is this one position. I always have an orgasm without a doubt. And now every time that, like, let's put you in that position, get your vibrator, let's go and IT always gets me off like, I like, let fuckyou go.

And math now is like, I love that. But how does he know that? Because I told him, because I was like, babe, when we do that one position, I come every single time.

He's like, amazing. So I feel like, yes, I can be anxious duced to start a conversation with your partner about sex. And again, i've had people on the show before and i've set IT before. I don't have the conversation in the bedroom. Maybe daddy gay.

I think this summer is a really great time to lean in and carve out more moments like this, like maybe your office does summer fridays, right? So you and your partner can make, I don't know, make a plan to go meet for a happy hour after work and like feel fun and fury going on a date together. That something that i've said to math is like naturally, when we eat at home, some nights were both like not feeling like we're completely on a date.

We're like checking our phone. We're doing these things. We're busy, right? And we're not focus on each other when we're on a date night, it's like phones down, looking at each other, having wine and floating and talking and connecting before we go back to the bedroom.

So I think sometimes we may like, get down on ourselves. Maybe ladies are like, fuck like, my sex drive hasn't benbow trust me, I would say. Like, six months ago, I was really struggling with my sex drive.

Like, my hormones were off. My birth control was changing. There was so much going on, and I was like, what is wrong with me? And then I was like, what if I just tell that what I want? Because I think a lot of us can agree, like once you get to a good place in your personal mastery time with yourself, like i've had times in the past, one like odd, rather just like quickly master, because I know i'm going to get myself off.

Why though I know I can now get myself off every time I i've sex with that, that should be your goal to summer ladies is like, infuse what gets you off into sex and stop being scared to bring that into the bedroom. They're gna want you to get off. Be selfish.

They're about to get off to make sure you get off this summer. I want ever to just be intentional because if you feel like you're connecting and being intimate outside of the bedroom, here's a little secret. And I know that sounds so fucking obvious studdy game, but if you are more connected outside of the bedroom, if you feel emotionally connected, I specifically as women, it'll be so much easier to bring that energy into the bedroom.

And to all of my single daddy game, you are not forgotten. I see you. You also deserve a thriving sex life.

Okay, so my PSA to you, summer time filings, summer time situation ships, in my personal opinion, are in, I feel like this summer when you're on the apps, I just feel like you don't need to be looking for marriage material. IT can be fun. IT can be casual.

You just need to find someone that you enjoy hanging out with. He doesn't have to check every single box that's on your tube husband list. Okay, a summer fling is someone to go drink with, hit the beach with, bring around to parties with you or ideally they're bringing you to their parties with their friends like essentially look at IT like he's just broaden your social calendar.

I have a leave condone the summertime situation ship, because I had a very, very, very successful one back in the day. I don't know if you guys remember this, but I remember this. I was like, years and years ago, back when I lived in new york city.

I remember I met this guy that was friends with a friend, and, you know, I wouldn't say I was like, dam, he's a ten and like, damn, I wanted jump his bones and fucking but I would say when he invited my friends and I over and I recognized that his apartment had a rooftop and that rooftop had a pool, I was more inclined to give this man a chance, you know, had he may be not how to roof top pool, maybe I wouldn't have gone on another date with him. But because this was a fun situation ship, I was like, you know what? This is fun for summer.

Fuck the guy with the poor okay, I said IT is IT surface level absolutely is IT social climbing? No, it's just um it's just materialistic climbing. And when you live in new york city and you are fucking dry lizards walking around the fucking block, desperate for a fucking aquafina or a god, fuji, fuji weight, regardless your, you want water, a nice pool sounds so refreshing.

And so I did the one thing that I could to help, not only myself, I also think situations ships is important to look at IT. It's not just for you, it's for your friends, right? My friends would be like, are you going to see him tonight? Let hit the pool.

And like, I don't want to have sexy this, may I know, but for the pool, i'll fuck for the pool. And there was with my four buck, and girls in our flip flops are little bikey being like, hi, we're here for axy z in the dormant with let us up and we would go to the pool. And what got even Better is, by the time that I got that connection really strong, ong, he sometimes would have to go on work trips, but he would let me use his pool without him and don't get IT twisted.

Those are my favorite times. When I didn't have to see his face, I was just using his amenities. okay. So rooftop pool boy, that was a perfect example.

Another perfect example of the situation ship that actually had so much more for me was, I remember I met this guy on rya, and I was in the middle of summer. I was bored out of my mind. I'm like painting my nails ten different colors.

I like picking my hair out, like thinking of doing my hair pink. I'm like, what can I do? Like feel something, you know.

And I finally see this guy on rya who am like, I just don't know if he's got IT, but at least he's not a DJ in australia. Like this is guy that lives in new york. I can easily get out of here if he doesn't work out today.

And so I go and I meet him for drinks and we met at this like little random pub, and we're sitting outside and he's q then all of a sudden this is what really got me. He told me he had to leave after one drink. And I was like, what? And he was like, i'm so sorry.

Like, it's my friend's birthday party at this bar. Later I have to go pick up like a couple bottles, whatever, and bring that. I was like, you have a party that your friend is throwing at his bar in west village um hi, my name is alex fucked me sideways.

Let's go to the party and I remember I was like, no way. I was little giving this man nothing. No wonder he was like leaving after wondering.

Then all of a sudden he was like, do you want to to come later? Like, you can come me up with us and I was like, oh, like, let me check my schedule. Yes, and he brought me to this bar later that night, and I met all of his friends who were so fucking hot.

And if you guys remember my episode from the other week, I had a hockey players back then, where my type, I walk in and there's three N H L. Players that he's friends with. And i'm like, you are my favorite fucking situation ship that I have ever come in contact with.

Fucking poor boy. I now have athletes in my presence and he wasn't pushing the sex, but he was like, maybe a book rubber to that night I was like, this is incredible. And so what I started to do in that situation, ship was really turn me into a friendship.

And quickly I was showing that. Now i'm padding him on the back and trying to shift into his friend group. And you know what I successful did that I immediately became friends with all of the women in the front group.

So the next time that we all hung out, they invited me. He also invited me, but they invited me. And so i'm texting them.

I got in the friend group. I eventually lovely. We ended up actually being friend.

He was a really nice person, and then I fuck his friends. And I was little amazing. Like, I was the summer of a lifetime.

I was bop around, I was home, me hopping, and I was owning IT out. Like, wow, wow, wow. IT was the time also were, I was just in a weird place.

And so I just every night would show up and be like, who do I want? That is what I want for. You guys started again.

I want you guys to find the situation ship. They are obsessed that gives you great orgasm. And if he doesn't bop to the friends, bop to the home is bob, who knows?

Maybe you'll fuck and hook up with a one of his girlfriends like the girls were beautiful. That friend group, like, I had the most fun of my life. Okay, this friend group, there was so much to be done, and I did IT all.

And so while you're sitting in your apartment right now, you're blowing your nose, you have a cold, you're feeling bad for yourself. You're drinking in your tea. You're calling your mom five times a day.

Stop at stop IT right now this summer. IT is the summer for a fun situation. Ship a fun flaying a fun little thing.

So daddy, I gave, this is your sign. Get on the mother fucker the apps. Find a mother fucker that even looks half decent and go infiltration.

So something I want to talk about today is a topic that has been on my mind. So my friend was talking about something that was upsetting her and SHE kept apologizing, like i'm saying like, oh god, I am sorry. Like, I feel like i'm gossipping and I kept having to remind her and like you are not gossip, you're just ending and that's fine which then got me thinking, what is the difference between gossiping and venting? In my opinion, venting is when you are talking about yourself and gossip is when you're talking about someone else.

But I will say, as I ve grown up and i've started to really reflect on how I connect with my friends and what i'm using my time in my energy for, I have noticed, surprisingly, that i've feel like go subsection ons don't really hit the same as they use to. I know this is shocking OK. I just think we as women can and should do Better when IT comes to how we talk about each other.

I feel like that obvious, right? Because the sad reality is, you and I hate ever giving men, I hate ever giving men a fucking pat on the back, but you rarely hear man gossiping. To the extent that women do, that is a fact.

And as women, we have to acknowledge where the leaders of gossiping, right? Like when you see someone shit talking a woman online, it's usually another woman. Like it's rare that a man's in the comment section being like what's going on with like your face or like what did you do to your body or like what it's always a woman going after a woman, right?

So I want to break IT down today even more, talking about the difference of gossiping, verse, venting. Let's start with venting, which, in my opinion, on its phone is not toxic. I actually looked IT up.

yeah. We do research on color dating OK. Venting lowers blood pressure, boosts the immune system and improves sleep and lessons.

depression. I mean, what is not to love about that? right? Let me say that again. Boosts, boosts the immune system, improves sleep and lessons, depression, baby, mental day.

Okay, that makes me think honestly, venting almost makes me think about therapy, which is basically an our long vent session. It's a way to feel heard and to feel understood when something has happened to you. And yes, while you are probably speaking about someone else to your therapies, while you're venting, you're maybe talking about a friend or a family member.

Venting is ultimately, in my opinion, IT like revolves around you speaking about your own experiences and emotions. IT is not ranting about how shady someone is, but I can be talking about how shit someone made you feel. Does that make sense? Let me give you an example.

If I got confusing. okay. So the other weekend, I was supposed to go out to dinner with one of my best friends I hadn't seen in a while. We've both been super busy with work.

Our schedules just have not matched up, but we finally got something on the calendar, and I texted her that morning just to make sure he was, like, still available, and he said yes. And then I texted her in the afternoon to see what outfit by we were going for. Guys, he doesn't stop in college.

okay? I want to make sure recordation our our vibes. Are we going tides? Are we going a card again? You know, there's a big difference there.

okay. And he told me what he had in mind. We were going to be loved IT.

Okay, so I was literally in the car driving to dinner. Here was done. Makeup was on.

I'm blasting tortured poets department. okay? I am singing windows.

I'm wearing my whole last outfit. And he called me ten minutes before our reservation. I'm stuck in traffic on laurel canyon to cancel.

And I was understandably so annoyed. I came home and I was venting to mah. I told him, like, I thought IT was shitty.

And just like and consider IT, that he waited until the last second cancel, especially when I had kindled in her like two chances earlier, that data cancellable like checking in and then like checking our vibe and like checking our outfits. Like, I was frustrated that I wasted my time getting ready and driving into the city to a restaurant. And I was sad that I didn't get to see her.

That's really what I was like aside from being annoyed. Like I was disappointed because I just hadn't felt super connected to her lately, and I was really looking forward to seeing her. All of those feelings were valid and focused on my experience.

I didn't say anything nasty about her because the mode of eventing isn't to hurt the other people. IT is just to make yourself feel Better. And so when my friend called me the next day, I was able to tell her how upset I was with her, like without bringing all the emotions from yesterday into IT.

And I think IT was actually a way more productive conversation now in hindsight, because I had already talked through everything with someone neutral like I had already dumped on mapping. Like i'm so fucking pairs. Like uh like i'm sad.

Like SHE didn't. Like give me a heads up. Like I would have like gone on a date night with you like we haven't had a minute together all week. Like I vented enough. So when I spoke to my friend, I was like, pretty common level headed about IT. Of course, I was like, so little sad, but I do feel like there are times, which is actually some of the worst moments, is when when you accidently vent to the wrong person, you can end up feeling way fucking worse because you went to a friend who turned your venting session into a gos session.

Okay, example, let's just say when I was upset about my friend last minute cancelling on me that instead of me talking to matt, I called up one of our mutual friends and let's say that mutual friend then went back to the other girl and basically twisted my words, which i'm not saying IT is kind of therefore ault. But I also just think everything is lost in translation of like maybe SHE says in the girl that I was so pissed that SHE cancelled, I never wanted to make plans with her again. I think he was so inconsiderate and so selfish.

How would you feel if our next plans I just cancelled on her last minute to truly show how I felt like that has happened to me? I'm sure been a lot of till, but because of the way IT was delivered in that moment, probably to my friend, the friend is totally going to think that I was gossiping about her and not just venting and being like upset of how would affected me. Which daddy gang is why I do think it's so important to be cautious who you went to because while you may have all the best intentions in the world, some people are always looking to turn things into drama because like I said earlier, and I know it's fucking annoying and being a woman myself, I have done IT, but it's like we are too addicted to drama, especially when it's not our own.

I feel like women like we just kind of get off on IT and it's like this rush and IT gets really complicated because you can really, really affect relationships, especially I think once you out of college, once you want to high school and you're in your twenty years, your thirties or forties and on also, let me be so clear. Venting is not something that you should need to happen every single day, right? Like if you're someone who needs to vent to your friends or your family about all the small little shady things that happened to every single day. Hear me very clear, di gang.

It's probably not venting anymore like you might just be unloading on people and that is where you probably start to lose friends like honestly like IT can get to a point probably where you're being like selfish and honestly toxic for your friends that have to keep dealing with like IT vergers on you almost taking advantage of your friends desire to be there for you when you're going through something difficult and like again, I want to pause on that because I know i'm not saying, listen, being a friend and a good friend is recognizing that most, most of the time in life, you will never be on the same page of your friend. When you're single, they're in a relationship. When you're in a relationship, they're single.

When you're kind of having the best success with work, they're probably down in the dumps like that's just the way the world works. I feel like whenever i'm up, my friends are down in vice vera. And so I feel like you should be able to vent a lot to your friends when you're going through things.

But there is a self awareness you need to have when the venting is becoming intolerable for the other person where it's like, call your therapist provided in your fuck in journal, call your mom, call your dad, call fucking anyone that talked to a squirl outside. At this point, you need to knock at the fuck off because your friends also have lives. And now the venting is becoming, consider IT.

So I don't want people to write and to be like sometimes you have to like you can just then and be done no, no, no, I get IT. But if it's every fucking day and you're just a negative fuck and Nancy, yeah you're going to slowly be also to probably the person demand be being like why do all my keep abandoned me check your total box like how much are you not shutting the fuck up about yourself? Once last time you asked your friend if they were okay, you know so overall, I am an advocate for venting.

But gossip, okay, gossip. I feel like that's not as black and White in my opinion. Who lets talk about gossip, okay? Because there are different levels to that shit.

And not all gossip is necessarily bad. I know that sounds little leo. Alex, I don't. If I believe you, let me share a little personal anecdote. Okay, that makes me think of holidays with my family growing up.

Okay, my aunts and my mom and the cool of older like a girl, cousins and my sister would grab their wine and go into the kitchen and just catch up and gossip with each other. And I remember when I was little, wanting so fucking badly to be a part of that kitchen circle and to be old enough to hear the juicy stories. And then finally, when I grew up, I got my wine, and I got in there.

And the first story I remember hearing was just about how my cousins coworker was loving with her high school eggs. Boyfriend in vagus. Like, great fucking material.

I like, oh my god, dad. Porus another buckin bottle. Keep IT fuck in common.

Oh, what happened next? Oh, what the town is talking about, like the kitchen gossip, turned out to just be like, funny, interesting stories. And this is the most important part about people we can gently know.

Doing slightly crazy things, like these gossip stories were so harmless, and they brought the women in my family closer together. Because we were laughing, we were crying. We would spend hours talking and laughing and bonding over wild stories we had heard.

That type of gossip, in my opinion, is very different from what we typically think of when we hear the word gossip. I think a lot of us picture middle school or mean girls or spreading rumors about someone else. And in my opinion, that is the type of gossip I would say falls more into the talking shit behind people's back category.

It's honestly, when you know you know in your heart what you're saying is mean and we have all fucking ben there when you say to your friend we've all been there, i'm calling myself out too like can I be mean for a second or like we are not to be rude but oh, then you proceed to be fucking rude in a big fucking cn. Yes, that is the shit talking that we have all done and we're all guilty of IT. And I am honestly not here to judge anyone.

I want to be so clear. I have definitely done my fair share of shit talking in my life. Okay, because here's the thing. Now that I feel like i'm just like having more experiences, I realizing, like, I just think of the word now in hindsight.

And when I think of myself, when I used to do IT insecure, like if someone said, did you hear Jenny up? Like, filler? Like SHE looks so fucking crazy like, oh my god.

Like, look at her boat talks like, I guarantee someone who is confident in their own appearance would never say that about Jenny. Like, why are even noticing what jen's doing? And also, why do you care what enny is doing? Just be glad you don't have that. Or or do you want IT? You know what I mean, like or you could be like Jessica's boyfriend was all over me at the party like he's so obsessed with me, I just feel so fucking bad for her.

Chances are that Carol's boyfriend just said, either hide you and you're like calling in on for the male validation or he was hitting on and instead of shit talking, have empathy where you're like down that fucking sucks like should I tell this girl or like, or just walk away? Know what I mean. Like the point is that I like a lot of the times when we are talking shit, daddy ganging IT comes from a place of our own insecurity.

And I don't mean you're insecure because you want the box lip filler. I'm saying you're insecure because something about this is either in your life is happening that actually nothing to do with Jenny and her lip fila IT actually has to do with you've been feeling so shit that week from something in your life that talking shit on this girl and her appearance. And what he looks like is making you feel bigger and Better and is making you feel less small and whatever the fuck is going on on your shit.

So you could be completely removed from this lip filter. You may have the most abodeely slips going. You may have slit, okay? IT doesn't matter.

It's not about the mother brother lips IT is about the fact that your boyfriend called you xyz, commented on your body that week, your mom wasn't giving you attention. You got fired from your job that we look whatever the fuck IT was in. Of a sudden, this target in front of you is this easy target.

And you just fucking go for IT and you go below the belt because IT makes you feel a little bit fucking Better about yourself. And that is so bucking, relatable. I just want to say that I have done IT when i'm feeling insecure and I say something and I catch myself, and why did I just say that?

Like what the fuck and in the moment, yeah, gossip can make you feel like you're also bonding with someone like you can make you feel like you're in on the joke or like your superior to the person that you're talking about. So when you're feeling insecure or lonely or seeking connection, you end up gossiping more like I can so fucking acknowledge. I definitely use to use gossip as a way to get closer to people IT gives you something to talk about and fill all those kind of like awkward silences when you're just getting to know someone I know.

I actually reminds me, I remember I moved to ally and I didn't have many people I knew and lay. I just had lunch when he used to lip here, and I was trying to branch out. And a lot of the women that I was meeting in my industry were like a little bit older than me and like really knew the ropes.

And I was just like the Youngest in this group, and kind of like was very intimidated by these women. And I found myself at these dinners. If they were shit talking ever, I would join in because I was like, oh, this is gonna get me like in with them.

And this is going to make me be able to like chin and since their shit talking, they're gona like that i'm on their side of the street talking so they're gna like me more when they're should talking this random person that I don't even know and I like we should did what omy god that's so print like why did you ensure that all the I left that dinner thinking, oh my god, were so much closer and the fuck that part is like then the next time I did see that person, they would keep shit talking and then I would keep you talking with them. And IT almost was like how our relationship started. And now i'm not really like close with those people anymore because I recognized like the only thing we had that we bonded over was like we were gossiping like what?

And now I just think if you only want to talk about other people when you're trying to make new friends, daddy ging, it's because you don't have anything interesting to say about yourself or what's going on in your own life or you are so insecure around that new friend group. You need to get more confident in yourself. IT is okay to be quiet at a dinner when you have nothing to add, don't word vomit and just feel like you need to speak negatively in order to join in.

And i'm little talking about myself like this absolutely happened to me and that was just like sad when I look back on, oh my god, that was such a weird dynamic that I kind of got roped into. Trust me, those friendships will eventually come to by you in the ass. Because most of the time, if a friend of yours is constantly telling you the best tea and the juiciest stories and the most intimate details of friend shared with her, and she's regurgitate to you, chances are she's telling other people about your tea and your juicy stories and your trauma that you can fight in her with.

okay. And I think IT just goes without saying, like tearing someone else down does not lift you up in the moment. It's temporary. And then you actually just go back to feeling like, fuck, shit.

So now you've just been a piece of shit to someone else, and you also will feel like that because whatever you're fucking job or your boyfriend at, or whatever the fuck happened again, margret, what was her name? Jenny, Jenny's lips are gonna be Jenny's lips forever. And you shooting on them isn't going to make you fucking feel Better about yourself.

It's gonna a quick, it's gonna be like a little hit of harrowin home. My god. No, what? No, no, no, no, no, no.

It's going like drugs to say drugs. It's going to be drugs. It's going to be, oh, it's going to be of rush and then to come down.

And how are you going to get back up there, do and again, and to do IT again and do again and do again. So daddy game, being able to vent gossip, share, open up and connect with other people is important. It's needed.

It's honestly necessary in some cases. But I think the key is recognizing the difference in these conversation styles and understanding why you're talking about something the way you are. Are you venting because you had a tough day and you need to not feel alone in IT?

That is totally okay. That is great. That's amazing. Standing healthy, we d love in gorgeous queensland. Are you having a bad day every day and dumping IT onto your friends?

That maybe a sign you need to do a little deeper work and maybe, you know, talk to your therapies about those problems and listen, we all love to spill the tea we love. Give me the tea. What's going on? Dona, give me that tea. There's nothing Better than a big fucking in party. okay.

But is IT because it's fun and light harder? Or is IT because IT makes you feel Better to hear something about someone that is bad and that is negatively affecting their life? And trust me, I know it's hard when you're going through a time of deep insecurity or if you're really fucking jealous about someone or just not feel feel good about yourself.

I get IT, but I think recognizing that is the first step because we have all been there and letting yourself be OK with how you feel is important. We all get jellous. Sometimes it's Normal to feel that way, but it's how you react to that feeling that makes a fucking huge difference.

I do actually want to make one exception. This is where I get petty. I am like, we are health and wellness.

We are loving. Don't gossip only if it's fun, gossip or about someone that you don't even know. Um here's the thing.

We all have those people that we will just never like and they are our enemies of some sort. Okay, I have some enemies. You know, IT could be an x boyfriend.

IT could be an x friend. IT could be a family member, someone who just absolutely screwed you over. So fucking bad was a piece of sheet to, was rude, light on your name made you feel like a fucking and peace of shit, whatever.

These are the types of people I think IT is okay to talk about on. Okay, I am on that. Dave porter, noy wave.

Okay, I agree with dave on this one fucking thing. IT is OK to absolutely hate your enemies. I remember if you guys don't know, i'm talking about dave porter. Noy legit has a bottle of champagne that he has the names engraved, okay, of each of his enemies. And he sets them aside for each of his said enemies.

And when they fail, and when they publicly fuck up, get fuck over, get cancelled, whatever happened, karma, as we d like to say, karma hits them in the mother bucking ties. Dave pops that fucked in bottle of shammers and drinks the whole goddam thing and celebrate when his enemy falls. So i'm like I got ta start getting my shammers okay, as long as it's not consuming you.

That is the one fucking thing. I fucking condone those good a little fucking vindicating shit talking sessions when you see your fucking enemy. Doing something like feeling, yep, absolutely happily.

Because you know what, you fucked me so fucking bad. I will always sit and relish in your fucking down. Follow a little piece of shit. So to all of my enemies, i'm so fucking happy that you are my enemy because IT fuels me. IT makes me Better.

Who I was at a dinner was on the other night, and he was like, god, like, my wife just keeps trying to tell me, like you need to stop with like this aggression, like you can't talk about your enemies this way and he was like, sweet, it's what gets me up in the mother fuck morning, literally having hate in my soul and this evil fucking hate for these little fucking cuts in these pieces. Shit mother fuckers who tried to ruin me, who tried to bring me down. I love you, I see you, i'm Better than you and I can't wait for you to fucking self destruct, you little buckin loser.

And I was like, oh my god, honestly was like kite of inspiring. I was like, yes, yeah. Like, I don't need pood es to get my fucking and endorphins going.

I need to see my fucking public enemies, fucking rock god. And so I can fine, I little just cancel out everything I said. I'm like gossip till the end.

Fuck and boring him down out. No, do not do that. Only if they fucked and ruin your life in some capacity. So overall, let's just have a great fucking summer dad again OK hagg did you guys ever do that? IT was genuinely so so a crowing also when you waited all year for your crush to sign your fucking in your book and basically write a love letter to you.

And then all you got you open IT you'd in the car with your mom like, what is next side? What the next hags just hagg. That's all they wrote.

Have a good summer. Fuck my life. Fuck my shit. Thank you so much. No, I actually remember in a year book, I don't know what this was.

I think I was in my eight grade year book with all of my friends. And I were like, oh my god, going to different high schools is so depressing. We cut out locks of our hair.

No, you guys, this is why i'm saying middle school alex was on a different tilt. I would cut out a lock of my hair, get pieces of tape and tape IT into my bucking friends ear books and be like hags, a piece of me forever with you. And I also, we ended up doing IT to our guy friends. And let me just be clear, Lorry coop er go down to the fucking basement and find IT because I shit, you know chron, corti, Christine Kelly, jackie, all of their fucking hair is somewhere in my year book what is actually look like now shout out hag's mother fuckers, I love you.