Do I Focus on Him or My Career? [VIDEO]
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Really good, right? Daddy gang, welcome back to another episode of call her daddie. IT is officially the most important day of the year.

No, IT is not my birthday. IT is not the day that I came out of lorries. Vagina IT is the day for the fathers, all of the fathers around the world. I would just like to say, from one bother to another, happy mother, fuck and father's day. okay.

The thing is, when I think about father's day, and obviously being a father to millions around the world, such an incredible gift that was bestow upon me from you guys annointed me as your father. And the thing is, is like, how many mother I can dead beat? Dads are out there, you know, and I take with great pride that I feel like I have really taken on this incredible journey to be a father to not one, to not many, but to billions.

I love, imagine of colorado, billions followers, no millions of people. And I feel like when I reflect back on how I became this resilient, supportive, incredible father that I am to all of you today, I really do have to give credit to the og. And the og would be my own father, mr.

Brian Cooper. Dad, if you were watching this, i'm assuming you are watching this in the living room, relaxing, maybe having your cup of coffee, watching this smiling proudly, honestly, enjoying the fuck out of retirement. God bless you. I love you. And I just wanted to say, thank you.

Thank you so much for never giving up on me, because in my demand, years of being just an absolute raging psycho, specifically from freshman ear to senior year of high school, I would say I really got bad. That's off more year when I met that one boy, I understand I put you guys through hell, but I just want you to know, thank you, because you have taught me what that means to be a good dad and to be a good father. And the dad gang thinks you okay from the daddy gang and me to you. Happy father's day, dad, I love you.

It's funny because growing up, my mom was always the one kind of just like handling the boy problems. And when I was dating a boy, my dad would be like, you go, like, you go deal with that and my mom would like, I could hear them talking outside of my door. Like, you go deal with her.

No, you go talk her. okay? I'll talk her. Okay, okay, okay. And then like, just both of you come in. And my mom would always be the one that was dealing with me as I was sneaking out and ruining everyone's lives and what I will says I will never forget.

I started dating the bad boy in um at the public school when I was going to this private school and my parents really thought like, of course, if we like her up enough at a private school, she's gonna have to like hopefully find a guy that like hazard trust fun, drives a porch and like comes from a good family and like, no no, I am going to eat the bad boy that does drugs and like really can just like ruin my life. classic. And so I remember my mom had basically given up SHE was like, I don't know much how much more I can do for her, brian, like, I have really put everything I know into this child.

And SHE still is buying latters off of ebay to climb out her window and to go see this fucking boy, it's going to roll in her life. And I will never forget i'm sitting at my desk, in my room on, like my dell desk. K top computer i'm playing.

I'm on. What the fuck was that thing called back in the day? Oh my god, IT was a lime wire. And like illegally downtown, like the new hana montana song, and also listening to m and m and like original with my tits out, not actually, which is like raging and like being email. And my dad knocks on my door and he comes in and he sits down on my bed and he's like, hey, alex, I I just wanted to talk to you.

And now IT was just like awkward in general, having those type of conversation with my father because my mother and I were having them all the time when my mom would be driving me to socket practice, would be like talking to me and, you know, pouring all the good juices and lecturing and to me. And just like, please do this to this, to this. My father and I, like never really had that relationship.

He always left to my mom. So the fact that my dad was coming in, like sitting down, and I will never forget dad shout out, was one of the most awwad moments in my brain. You probably don't remember IT.

I literally hear my dad say so um um you know I am I I know that you want aim um a boyfriend and I like dad, like my ears are burning at this point. I'm like, no dad, stop. I'm like a software in high school this point and he's like, no, no.

Are you going to have the sex talk with to me like what that is? No, oh my god. No, no, no. I'm not having the sex talk with you. I just wanted to say, you know, I know you want a boyfriend and I know you really like this boy, but your mother and I and he goes on this diatribe of like, basically, why not to date this kid and it's good for me as I think about like one day becoming a parent and it's like, how do we know how to parent?

Well, because as much as my parents tried so fucking hard to make me not see this boy, IT honestly only made me want to see him more like IT just was like, you're dangling this mother I can Carry in front of my face and you're saying, donee doni so i'm going to fuck can eat IT and so my poor parents, my dad just SAT there and I I of course know that like, Lorry was like listening in on the door as my dad was like, we just want you to be safe and like, we just feel like maybe he's not the fit and like, you know, with soccer and like you're trying to get a scholarship and like, you can't get in trouble like the other kids, like everyone, I don't know you guys have this. But like I felt every fucking friend of mine, every single person in high school was getting under rage um ticket and you've technically like got arrested and then you've get an under age ticket. And my parents were like you cannot have that because I now looking back, they told me that goes on your record like does a fucking under age drinking thing on your record.

Obviously, if you have like A D Y, I am assuming, but like an underlining ticket to that, or religious, trying to scare me, dad, you know what? Not happy fathers day to you. You were lying.

But I honestly, I do really like, I did really respect them because they were genuinely just trying to be like, alex, don't fuck up your life for a boy and naturally, when someone says that to you, you're like, I will never fuck up my life for a boy and then naturally, I was started to fuck up my life for a boy. But he was worth that. He was loving my life.

No, he wasn't. I feel like IT at the time, so showed out to brian because I just remember that like you trying to have that like awful, awful, awful boyfriend conversation with me. And IT was one of, in my brain, the most awkward, awkward award conversation so that I ve ever had with you my entire life.

And think, god, that dates back so fucking long. Okay, big bra, I love you. And you are, you are the best dba in the world, and I really appreciate you sticking through this cold ddi era with me.

I know when the chauhan started, you were not able to listen to the episodes. You kind of got the Cliff notes for a mom. Understandably, you didn't need to listen to the clock like nine thousand episode.

What I do know is now you tune into my episodes every week, and I love your support and I love you. So father's day, dad OK. So let's talk about whales is going on.

Oh my god. We I completely forgot to acknowledge I have officially deeming this room, the new sunday sessions room. If you guys are not watching this, I am in what kind of looks like Green, moody vibe library.

And the thing is, is I haven't read one of these books behind me, but it's motivation, you know, it's motivation to get that vocabulary, but needs to be and really hit a new stage of intelligence. So god bless. I used to record my sunday sessions in this room, in my house.

That was like, I don't know, I was make shift. And I was like, why am I recording here? And I was just like I wanted to record here.

So i'm very excited. I thought like this was like a new era for sunday sessions. It's giving like father is fathering and it's this is kind of a grandfather vibes.

You know, when you look at me with all these books around me, it's giving wisdom, it's giving maturity, it's giving dark academia. It's giving it's a little not giving our darky academia, but just giving, you know, when I felt like more at home here. So i'm happy that we're all feeling cozy today.

Today, let me actually see if I have any other life updates aside from, oh, you guys okay. So my best friend jackie is getting married soon and it's fun because I don't know you guys have those group chat with your friends that like are very consistent. And we all live kinds in different places, but we have this one group chat, it's me, Christian lawn and jackie in the group chat. So all of us have been getting ready for her wedding. And IT has been so fun because we're on the group chat trying to figure out like what dresses are we're going to wear and I will say I am so happy like I loved my wedding, but it's so fun to be on the other end of IT now where jackie Christian alarm, we're all texting in our group chat like, what are you guys winning wearing?

And they were sending pictures about like what they were going to wear to my wedding and now that i'm no longer the bride, i'm really enjoying like, jacky, I love you, but I am enjoying not having all the pressure and like that oh my god, like i'm not gonna i'm not it's not going to be my event and so i'm excited to just like supportive friend and be there for my best friend and be there with my friends and just like have fun in party um and so I have a lot coming up. I would say this summer, I don't know when this is coming out, but I am going to nine tucket this summer, which i'm really excited about that. I went to nine ticket for the first time last summer, and I remember we were trying to decide like what do we want to do for our summer vacation? Because basically, like I everyone at our company, as i'm sure a lot of companies obviously do, like we get off for fourth of july and we're like, okay, what did we want to do? And so last year, we decided that we were going to go to and ticket.

And I remember so vividly how we decided on this was growing up on the east coast. I just feel like such cozy vibes with like an east coast summer. But I think spending a relaxing time in, like the hamptons, for example, the hamptons is like, so fucking bug.

I in terms of like I feel like everyone what kind of just like wants to be seen there and like everyone like is you're like putting on your best outfit and you're like trying to like it's just like very siny and i'm not sitting on the hamp tins like I think the hamp tins are super fun for parting specifically, in my opinion. Like if you want a party, I would maybe go to the hamp tons, but if you want to actually have a relaxing time, I wanted to try out and ticket or Martha's ventured last summer. And so I was like, mad, I love you.

We don't need to go to malabo. Let's not go to stand a barber. Like, let's try in east coast summer and mad grew up with his family going to this like camp in mae, and he had great experiences there. So I was like, okay, let's do in this consumere.

Until last year, when we went to and ticket, I will say IT was one of the most relaxing, incredible vacations I ever had because I was like, we just SAT and did nothing other than eat, love, sir, roles and just relaxed. And IT was fabulous. So we're gona do now tucket again this summer.

And i'm going to the olympics. You guys, and what's so crazy to think about what the olympics is like? Obviously, I grew up watching the olympics and.

I was an athlete, so I would like watch with my whole family, like just so excited to see the standout stars of that, like everyone with the olympics. It's like you start to kind of just like recognize like who are like the best of the best. And and it's so fun to watch these people like then become celebrities and everyone in the world knows them.

And so I just remember IT was so fun growing up watching the olympics and to be able to go to the olympics now and to be participating with nbc like it's a really it's a really like surreal feeling and I feel so grateful for this opportunity like nbc universal and ee basically are teaming up and i'm going to be doing my own like watch party basically um on p cock. If you guys didn't know this here, go so the olympics, i'm going to be going to paris. I have my own show and i'm going to basically just watch the sports kind of like red zone.

You guys know red zone when you're like watching football, and it's all like the highlight. I'm going to basically be doing that for all the sports and i'm just so excited like paris in the summer and it's gonna be just such an incredible experience. And I actually just was recently interviewing these two incredible, incredible beach valley ball players.

Shout out Sarah and Kelly. Um I think that interview will come out soon on nbc. U but I am meeting these athletes and there's such incredible people and i'm just so excited to watch the U S. Hopefully dominate.

And yes, so i'm getting ready for all of what summer has to offer me you guys, okay, daddy gay, so I figured for father's day, there's absolutely no other gift that I can give you that would be Better then a goold fashion wiz Jones of the mother fuck in week. I just feel like I know that you guys are going through IT, as am I, in different ways in my life. And we're all going through IT.

We're all trying to survive. So what can I do? I can answer some of your questions and we can just kind of talk about what the fuck is going on.

Okay, switching careers for a man, a daddy ging member road in and said, I just graduated from college and am currently deciding what I want to do for my career. I always thought I would go into medicine, but ever since I met my boyfriend, I realized that I might want a career that would give me more worklife baLance. My boyfriend and I have went together for a little over a year, and I have never believed in a relationship more than this one.

But I can't help but feel like I am giving up a globose career to follow a guy. How should I approach this decision? Okay, here's the .

thing. I everyone .

is different and I think that was really important as we get older is like I will admit, like I see so much understandably conversation around women and careers now. And IT is such a fucking and privilege that we actually able to work like. It's so refreshing that now we are starting to be taken a little bit more seriously.

Obviously, we still have like pay apps and all the things. But like we have made progress. Ladies, we can vote, although we just basically lost autonomy of our um that a whole other conversation um but like we've made progress. And so I think understandably like women are excited and we want to be able to do whatever the fuck we want if we want to work, if we don't want to work, like we just want to have the option. And that was not something that people that came before us as women like had the privilege of.

And so I think that there, though, unfortunately, is and i've seen IT online, like there's just a lot of pressure I feel like for some women who are like I can't want to be like a state home mom, like there is not only as they're nothing wrong with wanting to be a state home mom that is a fucking full type job in itself. And I feel like women feel. I think some women won feel anxious that they may be judged if they don't do maybe what some other friends are doing, like, who am not girl bosting hard enough, baby, if you don't want a girl boss and also, if I can hate the IT, i'm sorry, i'm sorry, I hate the word girl boss, but like, if you don't want to have a really like intense career, that is like takes a lot of your time, that's okay.

My only advice when IT comes to this though, is I want you to always make a decision based off of if you lost this person tomorrow, whether they goes to you disappeared or you literally just like lost them. I'm not saying like died. Oh god, I mean, you could pretend he died tomorrow. Like how would you feel? Well, not only how would you feel like how would you go about IT like would you be upset that you didn't follow medicine as what i'm trying to say is I hope he's alive and I hope he's vine.

I want you to just make sure that you're not enjoying the just like immediacy of falling in love and you're not just like leaning too hard into, oh my god, just really enjoying the perks of being a girlfriend and like loving living with someone and living this life that is amazing but then all of a student when that dies down, will you start to be like, HMM, I wish I did maybe follow my career or you actually just saying, like you are recognizing that the medical field is just too much for you and IT just doesn't really fit the lives that you want. Like, I guess I would just say, and I don't know this is realistic because you're not married and you don't have children yet, I would just encourage you to really try to make the decision in a way that, that has no impact from this partner that you're currently dating. You've only been dating a year.

A year is a long time. I don't want you to regret anything. And so maybe you do try to just pursue something in the medical feel that you had wanted to do.

You can always stop. Or if you're like having like anxiety around this career, then maybe IT really does have nothing to do with the guy and merely IT maybe IT. Is that like this is not something that you're interested in? I think I my advice just you need to deferential. Is this because you're in love and you're enjoying this lifestyle with someone which again, there's nothing wrong with that, but I wouldn't want you to give up on a career because of this like temporary, really exciting time. The first year of dating is so fun.

Like, are you kidding me? I remember when I met that and there were times where I was like, oh my god, he was going here for a movie and I was like, fuck like, I have to stay home and I have to do this interview and like, of course, I fucking love my job. But when you're like being swept off your feet and you're like having that first year romance honeymoon stage, are you kidding me?

I would fucking love to like not be doing my job and like fucking mail IT in and just like fucked and mary rich OK you like, why did IT like I think there's you just have to know within yourself if you are passionate about this or was IT a decision going into the medical field that you thought you had a passion and you're recognizing a kind of actually gives you anxiety. But I do just think it's a larger conversation for a women of like we need to stop comparing ourselves. Like I personally find a lot of my fulfilment and I feel like my purpose in life, a lot of IT is my job.

Like I don't look at this sometimes like a job and I feel fortunate that this is my life of like, I really love what I do and I recognize like that's not everyone I remember. I was with my friends recently and I one of my friends was talking about how like SHE works to live, not lives to work. And I was like, all my god, like, I like live to work.

Like, I love working. I don't even see my job as work. I feel so fortunate.

And we were all having a conversation about how, like, IT is so incredible with four girls. And two of us were like, we love our job. And IT like, gives us such purpose and is part of our identity.

And then the other two women were like, oh my god, I don't like hate my job, but I so don't like if I could stop working tomorrow and like, just be given a checked, like, live a stay at home mom life or just like even live like and at homelife and now have to work. I would immediately not work. And I think that's so okay.

Both dynamics are still working fine. Like amazing if you're so passionate about your job and if you're not passionate about IT, that's also okay. I think recognizing which you relate more two can help you kind of make this decision.

Are you giving up a career that you actually love and you have wanted your whole life, but it's kind of hindering your ability to spend time with this new boyfriend. I would say pursue your career. I would say you've always loved this.

You've wanted to go for IT, go for IT. And if he's the right guy, he'll always be there. And you guys can figure out time for date, night night, and you can figure out times that work that you guys can spend time together. Matt, I both work so many hours and we carve out time all the time so that it's like us time. So I would just say think about IT and maybe don't completely just go cold turkey and like give IT up like maybe you should pursue IT for the next year just to make sure that you're not giving up on something that do you .

really enjoy that really fulfills you.

Okay, here we go. Next question, my boyfriend and I decided to get married, and we are very excited about IT. We've been together for nine years and feel ready to take this next step.

We immediately told their families and everyone seemed happy for us, but the next day my boyfriend told me that he received three calls from his mom and sister asking him if he was sure I don't know how to take this there, his family, so I definitely do not want drama, but IT made me feel bad. They're being very supportive and even helping with planning. But in the back of my mind, I can't stop wondering if they don't like me.

Should I address this or let this go? okay. My first note b is like nine, thirteen years.

You've been together for nine years and you're curious if they like you, are not i'm a go ahead and say revisit the last nine years context clues did they treat you like a little piece of shit? Or were they given you that good love? Or are they given you that like good family treatment? Because what I will say is i'm assuming you know from those nine years your relationship and where you stand with these people.

And if you don't, I would say that's probably a problem, which means not close with them. And then I would say, aren't you close with them totally? Find if its proximity, maybe you don't live near them, but that sounds like you guys do live near them. So I would say, listen, I don't know the context, but I will say this if you have had a wonderful nine years with this man and you've found this out from your partner. I have two notes, which i'm curious about actually, as i'm thinking about this number one, I think that it's OK for parents to ask .

and family members to ask if .

you're sure when you're making a really big life decision, obviously, you know like getting married is a very serious thing. And I think understandably, families are going to be extremely just like protective of their family member and wanting to check in. Like are you sure because listen, i'm not judging, but i'm based on the facts that you dated for nine years.

You've been together for almost a decade. Some people would be like, why did you take you guys so long to get engaged? And so again, I know not in the conversation of your relationship, but my worry, as i'm thinking this through, is, has he throughout those nine years not proposed?

Because there have been things in the relationship that he has expressed to his family, he is hesitant about and he's hesitant to start a future with you and get married because of these things. And are they reaching out to him basically saying like are you sure because they're basically checking in dusty? Like have these things gotten resolved?

Because I don't think after nine years, if he has been literally the happiest person in the buckin world, this mother fucker is a joly Green. Jumping b gene gene b gene jee bean gene is jumping for july. Maybe his name is jee.

You and gene are getting married. Picture this and every mother fucking in thanksgiving and Christmas and the easter and holiday and honored a and whether the fuck religion you are, maybe you're fucking in boot s pitch. Okay, whatever you're dangle in weth and dancing with, maybe he has been a happy his mother fucker alive.

Okay, nine years of bliss hi. And maybe that I would say if his parents are asking if he's sure that doesn't make sense, that doesn't back and make sense. Nine year.

You know there's something missing here. Why have you guys weighted nine years to get married? Have you guys had a conversation? I don't know. And again, i'm not being judged.

I actually like, oh, nine years together it's a pretty fucked and long time like have you guys talked about having a family together? Has he bitched to about you to his family? Something is missing here. Something is missing.

And then my only other inclination about this, that is a little, is, why did he tell you if this mother fucker intends to marry you? Why did he tell you, oh, he's just like jumping his fucking and trauma. Are you being my parents at this to me and then he leaves you with, like, no conclusion.

I think you need to have a conversation about IT because no matter what this is going to be waging on you and this is one of the bigger decisions of your life, you're about to legally bind yourself with his mother, faker. And who knows, maybe gene has been talk a little fucked and dirty, dirty about you for the past five years. And then finally, god forbid, he like, is like, oh, I guess i'll just fucked in MIT in like, I haven't found anyone oh my god, i'm sorry.

Like, I I don't want to make you spiral, but I don't know daddy going like, right in like my worry for you is just like after nine years for his parents to be like, are you sure and his mother and his sister and everyone calling, what are we missing? I would really be like, finally, mother fucker, that's really finally, let's get the show on the road like, I would be more on that and rather than, like, are you sure oh, do we need another decade if you can figure that out but i'm really is because that just sucks. This is supposed to be like an incredible time and happy time in your life.

And I can imagine seeing them helping, trying to plan like the wedding and stuff. You're like a bitch, huge his fuck and talk shit on me like go fuck yourself and now I don't want you to come buck and drugs in with me you fuck in yeah OK sister no was giving. Um okay, next question.

This is about different preferences on how often to hang out with your boyfriend. Okay, how do I tell my boyfriend I want to spend more time together for contacts? I felt like my x boyfriends lowest priority, and I would only see him once a week.

So when I started seeing my current boyfriend, I made what I was looking for very clear. I don't need to see him everyday, but I want to hang out at least three to four times a week. At first things were going great, but now we're definitely seeing each other White less.

I don't want to be clingy, but how do I ask to spend more time together? Oh, that's fucking tough because I guess I would need a little bit more context of like how old are you? Are you in college?

Are you in high school? Are you out of college? Because here's the thing I feel like in college, I saw this person all the time, like any of the guys that I dated in college, like literally what else are you're doing?

I'm like leaving the dining hall where you at, leaving english where you at, go to the party where you at, want to come over like every in between fucking practice and everything you're like where are you and so although of course, we would have nights where like maybe he would go to like dinner with his family if they were in town. Like you're never not going to a party without your boyfriend unless there like fucking sick. So like college breeds kind of this like code dependency.

We're like it's weird almost if you don't do everything together because what the fuck else are you doing in college? You're like master rating, going to class and having drama a to deal with. I would say if you're out of college, though, I understand this because I have actually had this conversation recently with one of my friends who is starting to date this new person, and they kind of like recently made a official.

And so now I like you, like you guys, like U. S. Hanging out on a monday night, and we were just kind of talking about, like what is the right amount and I feel like you have to just have an honest conversation.

I think three to four times could be great for you. I think every day could be great for you if that's what you want. Or I personally think once a week is literally like, absolutely not acceptable.

I would be like, what are you doing every single night? And the thing for me and everyone is different, but one of the things for me that I would really love about a partner is like, I think there is like multiple different aspects of being in a relationship when IT comes out to hanging out. So I need my like movie nights ordering food, some wine, movie nights chilling, relaxing and like just like spending quality time together.

That's like one aspect of a relationship for me. I think the other aspect of the relationship is like going out and being social together. So going out to dinners with our friends, going on double day, going to a dinner party, going to work events like math.

And I I would say every week matt and I are going to and I know i'm married, but i'm actually talking about what matt I were dating, matt I would go to at least like I would say one dinner a week with friends um one dinner a week that was work even though I tried to blow mad off every fifteen time, he asked me to go to work of them like, my god so peared like I feel like, oh, I feel like a little sniffs coming on and then there's family. And family is like, once you are dating someone, i'm assuming you know his mom, you know his dad and so like family dinners like matt and I, I would say almost every other sunday are going to his grandmothers or his mom's house. And we have family dinners like this sunday.

As you're watching this, I will be at maths brother's house. There are throwing father's day and so we're all going to be there and we're like having a big dinner and that's what comes with being in a relationship. So I would say to you, you could have a conversation with him because as i'm saying that i'm like, how does someone only hang out once a week if you're dating?

That literally means that you're like barely like integrated in each other's lives because what is he doing every single night? Is he hanging out with his friends without you? I think when you start dating and you're getting more into adult relationships like you need to hang out with his friends, it's weird if he's always having boy's eyes.

I understand in college that is like a whole fuck and thing I like. We're going out with the boys still then I mean, yeah is the is the one girl is knowing that i'm going out with him and all the boys like let them have a fucking and boys those are probably the people that are like getting a little too anxious like he's gna cheat at boys night. Let him have his boy size but if this boy science are every fucking week, you're never invited.

Bid, like during the pandemic map would always play in this poker league and. He would either go to a friend's house or he would host IT. And I was like, he would always like, do you want to come hang out and like math? What kind of crazy bitch when I look like? No, I don't want to be the only fucking person with vagina sitting.

They're watching you guys fucking jacket each other off and like, fight about fucking poker. I don't care about that. I'm going to use this time to catch up on Grace atomy. But I did like that. He invited me. I login life like like, I like that you I like that you know that you appreciate me enough and you trust enough that like, I can come hang with all your friends and you won't like embarrassed me.

But no, I would rather fucking go hang out with my girlfriends or girl fucking lay on my couch or face time, one of my long distance friends for five hours while you're fucking losing all your money um so for you my biggest concern is how are you not hanging out more often and for sure I understand there are some people that like they don't have workshy. Okay, fuck workshy. What about social shit? Like I think I I would say to you start to carve out in your brain what you would ideally like.

You said that you and your boyfriend hung out like three to four times in the beginning, and you were so happy about IT. My only concern is I feel like this sounds like more like a situation ship. If i'm being honest, I feel situation ships.

You almost like the sex is so good in the beginning and you're like kind of like it's fun. You're hooking up and then I concern to win off. That's natural. You don't know each other anything to have your boyfriend like slowly start to weaned off more. I'm worried for you this kind of means like this could be more like the end of the relationship five, rather than like you need to have a conversation. So before you have the conversation, I think my first problem for you would be, why are you guys not hanging out more? And I get IT if, let's say, he just got a new job and he is so, so, so busy and IT is like, babe, I am in my grind right now like I am literally working such insane hours and when I get home, I literally just wanna lay in my bed and just like dota fucking sleep and like i'm so exhausted i'll see you on the weekend.

I can kind of understand that like a little bit, but I still would say like I kind of like OK then like let me just come over and like let's let together and like not to be a dick like OK so do not want to get like fucked at this like that could be nice like after a long day of work like i'm down like, come over as your girlfriend and like, get mine and you get yours and then don't talk and go to the king bed like, I don't know. Like I know there were nights where I was so fucking busy and I was doing two podcast at one point was kind of weird during the pandemic. I would record sometimes two podcast in a day, which is just like not good for the mental health.

You're like, how much more can I fuck say he will started like kate yourself because they're like, shut the fuck up. I'm talking too much and that would be like, let me just come over this is when we didn't live together and he would like, let me just come over and I like that like i'm going to be a really bad version of myself and he was like, let me guess, you want to get in bad eats nacks and watch your shows and I was like, yes and he was like, perfect. I will come over and let's just lay together and i'll watch your shows with you.

And I was like, oh, god. And what naturally happens though, is he'll come over and he'll bring me extra food and we would lay, we would have sex, and then slowly I would get so relax that then I would like, how was your day? And even those like our to thirty minutes alone together before we would go to bed IT was we were connecting and we were spending quality time together. And that's important in a relationship because guess what, when you get fucking married and you have kids and all those things like your alone time, just do indices.

And so right now, being in the best stage, being in the dating phase, like which this is supposed to be, when you're just like up each other's mother fucking and asks, obviously, like I always say, independence and having a long time with your friends and having a long time is important, but I worry for you, like why is IT windings? You know, like why are you not hanging out more? Why did you go down to less than three times a week? Like i'm assuming what two and one so i'm sorry you're feeling this way that released sucks that your not feeling like he's privatizing you, but I don't think he will know that unless you say that.

So I think it's you sitting him down and you expressing, hey, I love you I think I don't know, maybe don't love him. I'm assuming you love him if you are boyfriend and I think you can just say, hey and obviously caused this to like your dynamic. But you can say, hey, I love you so much.

And I was reflecting back on the beginning days of our relationship because if i'm honest, like I kind of miss you and it's weird to say I miss you because you're my boyfriend. Like why am I missing you? And I realized, like we haven't been hanging out as much as recently. And I wanted to just check in with you of like how you feel about that because I think I mean, you could go two ways. You could just go right ahead and say that you're not happy, that you're not hanging out as much.

But I think you saying you miss him is like a sweet loving way instead of being like why don't we hang out as much and I think once you approach IT like I miss you and then asked him how he feels about IT, you're kind of onna probably get your answer from whatever he says imagine if his responses literally like, yeah i've just been like super busy and like honest i'm not going to lie like I don't have as much time anymore but blood by literally by and I think that's when you can be honesty like I have to be honest. We do I don't know if that's going to work for me in a relationship like I look at a relationship and I want to have connection and I want to each other's primary partner and I want to be together and I want to have fun and I want to have nights together. I want to have nights socially and like right now, it's like i'm barely seeing you.

So I do think, god forbid that happens. Your it's kind of on you to decide if that's that I have a relationship that you want. I personally would not be able to handle that, but I also know people do long distance but again, what's crazy here is like I bet people would write in long distance and say they talk more than potentially talk your boyfriend who lives like down the block for you and that makes me sad for you um and if he says, listen like i'm not going to lie i've noticed IT too and i'm really just been so busy and i've been stressed and like i'm so sorry and i'm so sorry even feeling this way.

I think that's great and sometimes people just need to retaliate ate. I think sometimes we can over think things and life is fucking stressful and like it's so exhAusting having a job, having friends, having family, having a relationship. Like how do we juggle all of IT? I don't know, but i'm sorry, that really sucks. And I don't know if like once I get a boyfriend, i'm just like weird for not hanging out at least every other night. Why does he not want to hang out with you more than once a week, you know?

My boyfriend's best friend is getting married on my birthday next year. My boyfriend is the best man, so obviously we would never miss the wedding. We did tell them that my birthday though, so they are aware, which is why the fact that they planned their bridal party, we can retreat on my birthday this year is so annoying.

I take birthdays very seriously and already had plans for me and my boyfriend. Should I cave and just celebrate without my boyfriend this year so he can go to this event, or should I say something and ask him to skip IT and spend time with me instead? Okay, I am the wrong person to ask this because i'm sorry um I don't give a fuck about my birthday.

Obviously i'm really happy i'm alive, but I really don't give a shit about my birthday, which I don't know that we're being a leo, that I don't care about my birthday, but I really don't give a fuck. And so i'm not gonna lie. You may not like my answer, but this is my honest answer.

You should get your fuck and ask to your boyfriends, best friends, bridal shower and the next weekend and celebrate your birthday like, I think what you're forgetting is your one person and I understand you are birth to that weekend and god bless and am so happy you're also alive with me here on this planet earth. Okay, but sweet heart, this is a brito party, which means there are people coming from out of sea, there are planners, there are cares, there are multiple, multiple, multiple, multiple people, and things that these people are having to plan and order for IT to be this weekend. And because IT is a year out from their wedding, maybe this is like sentimental to them and they wanted to do IT exactly a year out.

I don't know, but when IT comes to weddings, like I love you to death, I don't know you, but I love you to death, but i'm going to be real. I'm you saying it's so annoyed they scheduled on my birthday weekend. I don't think they're planning anything around your birthday because as adults, who the fuck plans anything around other people's birthdays? Like oh like i'm I don't want to like go on this trip because it's your birthday.

It's it's that like, oh, my god, my I am pretty sure he was someone's birthday at my wedding and like, they didn't bring that up and i'm sure they celebrate. Like, I really worry for you. I worry for you that this could come off like and sensitive and braddy.

This is the thing I will say, okay, ready for this. You, I hope you live a very long life. I hope you live until a hundred years old. Every single year of your life, you get to celebrate your birthday. How amazing is that for someone who loves their birthdays, you get to celebrate every year.

You got to make IT your birthday, mother fuck month every year if you love your birthday, so much of assuming you to do a birthday month, right? So what I would say is every year you get to celebrate, these people are getting married once. Hopefully, who knows? They make the worse, but they're getting married currently once in their life.

And so to think with love that for two years on your exact birthday, you may need to suck IT up and support your boyfriends, best friend and their life and celebrating their life together, i'm a go ahead and say, suck at the fuck up, okay? And that maybe controversial to all my birthday. People out there I can't relate, so I don't know you don't need to take my advice, but I would say this is being a little dramatic.

You can easily, easily with you and your boyfriend the night before, or the night after, or the weekend before, or the weekend after. You can celebrate your birthday, put your fuck and boyfriend in birthday. Jail in my brain.

This is what jail would look like. And every single weekend before that bridal party, make him celebrate your fucking in birthday. Honest, if I ever dated something to that, to me, not only what I break up with them, I would block them, and I would fucking literally, should all them for the rest of eternity in my brain.

That's just me um yeah I don't think that you can make this about you. Unfortunately, all jokes aside, I really feel like you have so many births that you can celebrate. This is unfortunate. I understand you and I hear you that you take your birthday really seriously, but I think we've got to move on from this.

And my only other question is maybe just maybe um you should look in word of why this is so upsetting to you because maybe you are just one of those people that really gets fuck about the birthday so much and it's just that. Or maybe like do you feel like your boyfriend not giving you as much attention recently? So like you're using your birthday as an opportunity to connect with them and make like get attention?

I don't know that could literally not be the case. You literally just may love fucking and birthdays. You are literally the mother fucked in birthday queen bitch, you are the birthday girl.

Help about this. Would this make a Better obviously a fan of, you know, the show. Obviously you're a support of the show.

Love you. Love IT here. Happy birthday to you. I would check back in to your name. I feel like you like a, you like a. Let's call you Margarett.

Happy birthday to you. Happy birthday to you. Happy birthday. Happy birthday. Happy birthday.

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is not fair. S so with time for you to put on your bigger pain. fuck.

I ve got to love you. I'm sorry if I was just a count, but like, I fucking hate birthdays. I think there's so big and stupid.

We were born once. We only to celebrate every fucking in era and happy to be alive. Let's keep IT fuck in moving but mad, if you don't give me a mother fucking birthday gift, I will literally kill you anyways.

Yeah, birthday gives her great. But like you know, not everyone needs to fuck and give a fuck about your birthday, Margaret. okay. And how about that? You just got a happy birthday.

Sing along from alex Cooper on call her daddy, clip this and fucked and show IT to the bridal party and be like, guys, it's my birthday. Can we all sing along to alex this year? Make IT about you.

Just kidding. If you, if I can did that, I would literally, like, break up with you if I was boyfriend. Honestly, love you.

Love you to move the fuck on, dad. Ging, that is IT for this week's episode. Here's the thing. Father is back.

Ah, i'm just so fucking happy I have this new room IT makes me feel so cozy to be in here. I feel like I like, I don't know. I feel like it's so different than the call her art studios, which I think is fun and exciting.

Obviously, the city studios are pink and fun and this is very like, oh, let's get home. Let's talk about the real shit. Let's talk about buckin bitches that love their birthdays and let's just, just buck and really tell the tea of the tea daddy gang.

I would just like to say thank you so much for always supporting the show. Being a father means more to me. And honestly, this is my first father's day as a married man, which is very exciting. And i'm quite excited. I feel like my dick in ancient i'm feeling fucking good to shit that father's day, father's day feel pretty fucking in good this year so I love you all to all of my daddy out there around the world um god bless you anyways um goodbye. Shout out to you Margaret. Shout to everyone else that route in this week, I have so many more questions that I could have answered, but I just feel like i'm not gonna lie IT is for the day, so I think I should go treat myself to a little mother. I can cocktail and go have some good sex because everyone should have some good tax and father's day, daddy again, you know, the mother fucker drills, I will see fuckers this wednesday, byebye.