Put Yourself out There! | How To Make Friends in a New City!
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Hello guys, welcome back to another episode. I'm Taylor. And I'm Sam. Just making sure that we're recording because I was like, wait, did I press record? Today is going to be a good episode because we're talking about how to make friends. Yeah. As two girls that didn't have friends. Yeah, like it may look like we got a lot of friends, but let me tell you right now, it took some time and patience to find a good group of friends. Yeah. And we want to spill the tea on how we can basically like tell our stories and how we became friends with all our friends while also telling you

The key points of how to make friends. Right. Okay, well, now that both the animals are in here. Infiltrated by the animals. Yeah. But, yeah, no, this is going to be a good episode. It's honestly the basics. Like, you've probably heard this a million times of, like, people saying to do these things. And we mean it. And it's for real. So, before we do that, if you're new here, by the way, hi. Hi.

We're going to do a weekly catch up because that's what we do before every actual episode topic. The girlies love it. It's like a FaceTime call. So let's get into the weekend. Yes. Well, I just want to check with the week. Yeah, the week too. Week's important. Yeah, the week is very important. The week is when we grind our little booties off. I've been having such good weeks these days. Very like...

Oh, I really think this is my second. Yeah, don't do that beverage. Very productive mornings. I've been doing a cold shower every morning like a psychopath, but it makes me feel like so healthy. Like I just feel like all the healthy people do that. So I should do it. And I've been doing that every morning and I have my little Amazon alarm clock works amazing. I've also been making my bed every morning, which is like if you're a pod listener, like kind of OG, like

You know I didn't used to do that. Now I make my bed every morning and I've just been like living that up. I also yesterday cooked salmon for the first time. Yeah, that's actually crazy. I've never like cooked salmon.

a raw animal and it was literally freaking me out. Yeah. And I told her, I was like, now we have to do tuna, seared tuna. Oh, I love it. And lobster rolls. Oh my God. If we could find like a good lobster, I would love to do lobster rolls. Yeah. I mean, I'll try anything. Yes. It's just fun. Like when you change things up like that, I love to cook. So like changing things up and like doing fun meals, like it's exciting to me. Yeah. It's like fish definitely isn't like my favorite food. Yeah. Like I'm like eating it for like, I know it's like

healthy and like high protein and like... Well, if you don't like it, then... It's not that I don't like it. It's just not my like... Preferred? Favorite. Yeah. But I would rather like...

A bag of like. Gardein chicken tenders. Is better to me. Than the fish. But like. That's crap. Well. Obviously. Exactly. And it's like. I don't. But like. Some people like. Like. Eating like. Salmon's like. Oh my god. So good. My favorite food. Yeah. Not me. No. I mean. Yeah. It's like. Good enough. That I'll eat it. It's also. I fucking hate. Like I. Like I like eating chicken. But I don't really. Like. I don't know. Yeah.

Yeah, like it's fine. It's just like not my preferred thing that I want to eat. It's just not good. Like not the best. It's also just because it gives me the egg. Like I'm like, okay, this tastes fine, but then it like freaks me out. Because you're like thinking about it too much. Yeah, it like gives me the heebie-jeebies and I don't like it. But it was a good week of just kind of like getting my shit done, good workouts. Like I just feel very like healthy and like

happy and productive yeah i feel the same like this past week the weather has been spot on ever since i came back from tampa and i've been getting outside so much and like i just feel so good when i'm outside so i've decided with macro because i've been having issues with him going potty outside like we'll go up and podcast like if i was up here podcasting middle of the day

And I went back downstairs. There would probably be like poop on the ground because he's like fucking the worst. But and also when I say this and I complain about it, like I'm actively trying to fix it. So please don't come into my comments or like into my DMs like telling me what to do. Like I literally hate that more than anything. I understand you guys are coming from a good place trying to help me. But like I got it under control. But I've been going on walks with him.

Like three or four times a day like long ones and they're working like he goes potty every single time we're outside It just sucks because we don't have like a yard so I can't just like go outside and like sit with him like outside like

He gets so fucking distracted in that little like courtyard thing. So I'm like, I have to go on a walk with him in order for him to go to the bathroom. So I've been going on a morning walk in the morning, then after the gym and then one after dinner at night. And it's working. He hasn't pooped and sat in a very long time. Yeah, nice. I haven't been going outside that much. I go outside in the morning. It just makes me feel good too. It definitely does. In the morning, like I don't know what it is, but it like wakes me up.

So much. I know what it is. What is it? It's literally like, it's good for your circadian rhythm, like your internal clock, like sunshine in your eyes right in the morning. Yeah, it feels pretty great. Is like the best thing that you can do. I should add that to my morning routine. I used to- Your morning routine is like, God. Well, no, because I used to read on my balcony. Oh, my God.

oh you meant go just going outside i thought you meant like going on a mile walk too i'm like damn bro literally add like stand on my balcony for like two minutes to get like sunlight sunlight in your eyes is like the most like one of the best things you can do in the morning yeah no i like it i used to read outside um and then it was cold and then like there was like mosquitoes and i was like i'm not trying to get bit by mosquitoes yeah just to read my book but

Yeah, like I would just read on my balcony instead. I'm not going to like go for a walk because I don't want to do that much cardio either. And another thing that I've been doing that I've been feeling so like wellness-y girl and so healthy is eating so many greens. I am like overloading on the greens during the week. Like Monday to Friday because I just know like girl balance. Like Friday, Saturday, Sunday, like it's probably going to be like a microwaved meal or like a frozen meal or I'm eating out. Like I try my best on the weekends, but most of the time my groceries are gone anyway. Yeah.

but during the week like i am having like salads and i'm putting like fucking zucchini in my oats like i'm sneaking greens in every single corner of like every meal it just makes me feel so good yeah i'm on your wave of like finishing a thing of micro greens oh yeah a week just to get that in and i think i think there's no benefit it just feels fucking awesome like i put greens in my smoothie yeah just like it's good to feel to feel healthy and i think it's important you noted that it's

On the weekends, if you see us eating, like, one either less, like, if our meals look shitty. It's because we, like, need to go grocery shopping. Yeah. Like, I feel like it's, like, oh, my God. Like, you were drinking, so you had that, like, tiny, like, Trader Joe's meal. Like, I just don't have groceries, ma'am. Yeah. I go to the grocery store on either Sunday or Monday. Like, I don't have, like, a personal shopper. I just...

You know, we get down to the... And we go to Trader Joe's too. Trader Joe's is so... And it's so far. Like...

I will go to Trader Joe's middle of the week if I happen to be downtown. But if not, like I'm waiting until next Sunday or Monday when I go to the grocery store. So it's like if my meals look skimpy and bad, it's like I just don't have groceries. Yeah. Like if I loaded my lunch up with veggies the whole week, it's like I'm out of that. Yeah. Or they went bad. Like I don't have it anymore. Yeah. We do a good job though with our groceries. Like literally eating them all by Friday, Saturday. Fridge clear. What else do I do during the week that I feel like I was going to say that I was like, we went to the, um,

We went to the bars on Friday and didn't drink. That was so fun. On Thursday. Yeah, Thursday is what I meant. Yeah, that was fun. I was also going to say that every day I've been getting ready. Yeah, feels so great doing that. Because people always say like picture like the best version of yourself and what they would do and then live like them. And I've always heard that. I listen to so many podcasts that say it. But now I'm like doing it.

which is a different step. And I'm like getting ready every day and putting on makeup every single day. Even if I'll literally like stay in pajamas, but even if I have makeup on, cause then if I make a tick tock, I'm like, Oh, I look decent in it. Yeah. And another thing that I switched to, but I switched just like a few months ago was like my skincare routine. Like I used to do that like after the gym morning. Yeah. It's the first thing I do when I wake up now, I splash my face with cold ass fucking water when I first get up.

and i do my whole skincare routine and i also brush my teeth and all that before i do anything like i do my skincare too and it it it feels so much better doing that at that time rather than like i can't believe we used to do it after the gym well because i don't want to like take it all off but then i asked like my esthetician and it's like if i do it right when i wake up by the time i go to the gym it's been like two and a half hours yeah it's like sunk into your skin like i wouldn't put all my skincare on and then immediately walk out the door because then you're like

Like what is the point so they kind of come off and then I come back and then I don't want to like put my skincare on again So I just take micellar water and clean. That's how I clean my face after the gym And speaking of skincare. Oh my god. My skin is doing so much better like Working with nest stations like the best thing I've ever done Truly for reals for reals like it's so much better right now And then i'm gonna get another facial and then i'm gonna like purge from it or whatever Yeah, one thing we stand by with 2023 is like investing into your like

yourself like physically and we've been doing a lot of health and like like hygiene yeah but like but like it is though health and your hygiene because like we did both did smile direct like um i obviously got my but that's a little bit different yeah we've gone to the dentist got our teeth cleaned like do we doing it all like i have a i have a gynecologist appointment on friday

It's also just scary doctor's appointments because it's really true. Like, what if something's wrong? Wait, can I actually share that story now?

yeah i mean that is your business i think it's so funny looking back on it it is funny but yeah that's your business to share yeah it is my business to share but it's honestly like this type of stuff should be talked about more often because it should i was embarrassed you didn't even tell me i know i know and i was embarrassed but like it's just funny because like like why the fuck should i be embarrassed and why should i not talk about it because like there's other people like it's so common you know and then by talking about it

It helps other people be safer. Yes, exactly. Rather than feeling like you can't tell people. Yeah. Say it so it makes sense what I'm saying. So basically, guys, I thought I had, like, something going down in my, like, vagina area. I had, like, this little ass blister and it was right when we got back from Cabo. So, like, I'm freaking out. And I'm like...

and i keep in mind i haven't really like slept with anyone i've slept since literally like january 1st only three people so i'm like there's no fucking way like i have like herpes or something like there's no fucking way we're in a foreign country yeah that we were in a foreign country what if you got like some type of like infection yeah like an infection like i don't

fucking know so i'm freaking out but i'm not telling taylor about this because yeah i did not hear a word about this let's just say okay this happened like on a monday and by tuesday it didn't go away and i was at the lab getting tested so like it was a quick turnaround time and by like wednesday like the little like bump on my vagina was gone but it's just like in i was so in my head because i was freaking the fuck out i'm like i've never had like such like a

Like it hurt down there. Like it hurt so bad. And I was like, I've never felt like this before. Like I need to go get tested. I dropped over $200 on every single possible test you could possibly get through like my blood work and urine. Where'd you go? Um, it was, yeah, it was like right next to it. It's like a, it's like part of it here in Austin. Like that we pass on seventh. No, it's, it's on campus. It's on campus.

So I went there and I got tested and I did it all. I did the blood, the urine, and then within 12 hours, 24 hours, I got the results back. Everything was negative. But the stress I went through for 48 hours of thinking I had an STD or something or an infection. Because I thought to myself, okay, I was just in Kabul. What if the water or the toilets or something I sat on was gross and I got infected? Or...

The most previous person I hooked up with passed something on to me. I was freaking out. And so, yeah, that happened. But I just wanted to share that story because I kind of laugh at it now because I'm like... Yeah, well, it was crazy. You're so silly. She tells me. She's like, I went to go get tested. I'm like, when? Because I like...

like i know everywhere she goes i'm like what do you mean you went to go get tested when the fuck and she's like when i went to target or like whatever no i went to get my nails done you went to get your nails done like yeah and i was like what the hell because i was like i don't know why i was so embarrassed because like what if i okay but like i shouldn't have to feel embarrassed about it like but that's the thing was something it really shouldn't be embarrassing because you're not embarrassed to be like oh someone gave me the flu yeah that's not embarrassing i know you were with someone and they made you sick and it's like

everyone's having sex. It's really not. Because it's not your dirty person. No. I feel like it shouldn't be that embarrassing. It's like, what, one in five people? Yeah. Or like even more than that? I don't know. I feel like it shouldn't be that embarrassing. No. Because then it would be less embarrassing. It's literally like anyone else. Like if you had like strep throat, you'd be like, hey, like I can't kiss you. Like I have strep. Yeah. Like and that's not, you wouldn't be like, oh, ew. And that's why like I just, ever since that, even though I've never really like slept around, like I'm just like,

I'm happy that like I have my sneaky link and he's the only one I'm like hooking up with because like the fear and the stress of that type of stuff is just like it ain't it. I've never really been scared of getting STDs, which is like I never was too until I had that bump on me. I was like, yeah, so go get tested. Yeah, go go get tested guy. Well, I mean don't like out of fear like no like out of like just go to the doctor. Yeah, because it's scary though. I'm like, oh my god, like what if I go to my like

This is my first time getting a pap smear because I missed the one I was supposed to get when I turned 21 because I had COVID when I was supposed to go to my appointment. Yada, yada, yada. So this is my first one. And it's like, what if there's something wrong? Yeah, I mean... Like, there could be, like... Yeah, I mean... Which is scary. There's not. No. But, like...

That's why I don't like going to the doctor. I know. I have to go home in June and book that. Guys, unfortunately, my healthcare insurance is not covered in Texas, which I think is the rudest thing ever. So every time I need to do any of that type of stuff, I have to go back to Boston. For real. And you know how much money we just both

paid in taxes i know and i have to pay to go to the doctor yeah because like i booked my gyno appointment and they were like oh it's gonna be three it was 250 dollars just for the checkup not even including like if i needed to get like lab testing or any of that stuff like i could have been walking out of there spending 600 bucks yeah the fuck

Literally. So I'm just going to go home and do it. Yeah, so Dr. Era. Yeah, Dr. Era Slay. Slay. I mean, this is like... I'm going to do... I guess it'll be every year. But I'll try to stick with it. I'm just not a doctor girl. But then anyways, after, you know, our productive, amazing, most want to see people on the planet...

week we had a real fun weekend yeah but thursday was like so fun and i need to talk about thursday because i'm sad you left me but you left me but guys we are the fucking queens of going to bars and not drinking like i know it sounds like we drink a lot but we don't we really don't and we go to a bar once a week and don't drink

And it's so much fun. Like our friends are so much fun, professional fun havers, if you will. And I stayed up my social battery. That's the thing with drinking is like your social battery is so much bigger and longer. I was happy to leave my, I was, you left at like nine. I stayed until like nine. It was a little after. Yeah. I stayed until like 10 30, but like I was dancing, having a good time talking it up with everyone. And I'm like,

But then 10.30 came around and everyone around me was hammered. And I was like, okay, I'm not. Y'all are bumping into me. Y'all are spilling drinks. I'm fucking leaving. And so that's the perks of being sober is I can leave whenever I want because I drove my car. Yeah, which is I'm trying to be better about less FOMO. And it's like I had like plans, but even if I didn't like, okay, like by 9.30, like I was bored and like ready to leave and like social battery like done. And it's like...

I need to, like, lean in to not being like, oh, FOMO, like, oh, I have to stay. Like, even if I didn't, like, you know what I mean? Like, okay, like, social battery on zero, like... I mean, if your social battery's on zero, yes, leave, but if it's not, then just say, you know? Right, but that's what I'm saying. Like, instead of being like, oh, FOMO, like, I need to say, like, okay, if I, like, don't, like... Yeah. If my battery's on zero and, like, I'd literally rather go home, like, I'm just gonna go home. I see you. I'll see y'all tomorrow. Like... Yeah, literally, I'll see you tomorrow. See y'all tomorrow. Like, it's totally...

totally fine but like get over like a FOMO but it was fun like it's fun to just be out which is going to tie into the episode because I want to touch on that like saying yes to social things like even if you don't want to drink like and being comfortable around people that are drinking because like that is what people do socially whether you like like it or not so that was fun to go to that watch the music and then Friday rolled around we had the most productive Friday of our entire lives

Yeah. We went to the liquor store. We went to HomeGoods. Got some candles. Got some pet toys from Mac. Went to Ulta. Went to Ulta. Cleaned the house. We've decided... Dang. Friday's deep clean. Friday is deep clean day because there's no better feeling than waking up hungover on the weekend and your entire house is spotless. And what if your sneaky link comes over? And sneaky link come over. Then they come over and your house is so clean. Exactly. So we did that before we went out and then...

We have like a new group of girls. Well, not like new group of girls. We've always been like friendly with them. But now like I can definitely say like they're my good close girlfriends because we've hung out with them so much this past week. But we invited them on our friend's boat for Saturday. But we were like, oh my God, like you guys need to meet them before we go out. So or before we go on the boat. So on Friday, we invited all our girlfriends to Latchkey.

And before that, we obviously went to Lucky Duck. But you guys know the vibes. We went to Lucky Duck. We went to Latchkey. It was a good ass time. It never fails to disappoint. Never fails. And I did a really good job at leaving early. But you know why I had to leave early?

Yeah.

next thing i know literally pop off king next thing i know he's literally kicked out of the fucking bar when we got kicked out of the bar he got kicked out of the fucking bar so then two minutes later because i'm like where the fuck did he go i just hear like i just hear people talking and muffling like oh my god he just got kicked out of the bar like that's so bad and then i was like what and then two seconds later he's calling one of our guy friends

And the guy friend looks at me and goes, yo, Sam, he's outside. Like, go meet him outside. And I'm like, yeah, he wants me out there. Like, I'll go out there. So I run outside the bar and he's just standing there all pissy. Like, I got kicked out. I'm like, that sucks. Like, kind of my fault, but I don't care. Yeah, the weekend prior, like...

me and my sneaking link also got kicked out for being drunk really yeah the guy was like well i don't know like really what happened i think he like thought he was gonna throw up and was like you gotta go oh my god oh my god but like we needed to leave anyways like see queens of getting kicked out yeah so i got literally like kicked out at i think i'm looking at my phone like to get like photo at literally 11.

Yeah, that's so early. I didn't even know where you went. I had quite an eventful Friday and a very big crazy thing in my relationship. My boyfriend's sister was here and I met her. Yeah. Milestones. Yeah. And like that was that was fine. Like I was like so nervous. I don't know why. It was fine.

It was all good. I looked so cute. Yeah. It was a good time. And then I hate sleepovers, but obviously we Ubered back to my Sneaky Links place on Friday. And I was like, I'm sorry. I looked at him. I go, I'm not sleeping here. Like, I need to, like, do my skincare routine and, like, take all my makeup off. And you're telling me I have to be back here at this exact apartment by, like, 12 the next day. I was like, I need to go home. So I Ubered home at, like,

What, like midnight? It was like one in the morning when you got home. Really? You got home at like one. Because I walk back into the house and Taylor's like in the kitchen. I'm like, Taylor.

Yeah, because I'm laying in bed, like, ready to pass out, kind of. And I get a text, like, on my way home, make sure the door's open. This whole time, I thought she was in her room. I literally thought you guys came back to our house and were in your room. That's just what I thought. Like, I just thought you were in your room. So, like, on my way home, like, you're like, the door better be unlocked. I'm like, okay. Okay, bitch. Like, boss me around. And then I was like, the door's not locked because I thought I locked the door for the night and you were in your room. I didn't even think to, like, check your location. I just assumed you were home. And then I was like, ugh.

So to get up and walk all the way down and unlock the door for you. And then you're like eaten.

uh oh bro i was so fucking hungry yeah you made spring rolls and you were chowing down yeah i hate your spring rolls yeah bitch and then i thought they were my spring rolls and i was so excited i was like oh my god my spring rolls telling you stuff about my life and my feelings and how i'm a simp and you're like yelling at me she's such a simp guys it's so funny and i told so um no what did you say you're really you what did you say you said to him

What? You told me you said something to him. I told you that I said something to him? Yeah. What? You were like, Taylor, I told him I really like him. That's not what I did. Yeah, you did. That's what you said to me. Is that all you remember me telling you? What else did you say? Refresh my brain. I'm not saying it on the podcast. I told him though because he's like, no, fuck, you gotta re-remind me. Give me a hint.

What did you say? Like, kind of like that, but, like, more than that. I didn't tell... Well, I'll tell you. I'll tell you. I'll tell you, because I've actually been keeping this from you when I need to tell you. Oh, God. But anyways, I am, like, a big simp. Like, I'm literally, like, obsessed. I know, and I got so... I remember getting so mad at you. I'm like, Taylor, it's too soon.

You were literally like so mad at me. But anyways, I'm like literally like head over heels for this man and he knows it too. I'm like, I'm such a simp for you. And I literally snapped out of him a picture of me holding the microphone about a simp for you for an hour on the podcast. Oh my God. And he's going to listen to this. He listened to the last...

Oh, God. I feel like the worst. I have no fucking filter. I'm not cutting those out. Okay, fine. They're too quick. I'm leaving them. I have no filter. Just get better at it. But he listened to the last one. I'm like, do you hear me like simp for you on the podcast? Like, it was so embarrassing. Like, I'm literally like, oh, my God. Yay. And then I was like, don't listen so you don't hear me simp for you on this one. And he's like, you act like you don't do it to my face. And I was like, I do. I'm literally like, I'm obsessed with you. Oh, my God. Taylor, stop. Why? Such a simp. I am. Yeah.

It's okay. I end up simping on Saturday too. I'm literally a simp and it's like... It makes me happy. Yeah. Do you think I like it? Don't stop. Do you, girl? And I'm like, no, I will like... Yeah, no, I won't.

I won't stop. Can't stop. Won't stop. But... And then Saturday... We woke up fucking early on Saturday. I was ready to rally, though. Like, I was hungover, but I was, like, so excited. The fact that we were getting on a boat at, like... Well, the pregame was at 12 and the boat was until 3. But I was ready to go. Like, apartment was clean. Threw on my clothes. We walked to Starbucks. We went on, like, a two-mile walk.

First boat day of the year, baby. Yeah, we came back, made some lunch, hopped in the car, and went to that pregame. And also, I got to keep in mind, you guys know I'm obsessed with ducks. If you have me on Snapchat, you know I bought this eight-inch rubber ducky, calling him Peter. Man's like, he's the shit, okay? Peter's the shit. He is a cool duck. Yeah, cool duck. So we brought Peter to the pregame, and we had ourselves a whole ass day. It was so fun.

Like, it was just such a good time. Like, being on a boat, like, the energy is always 12 out of 10 on a boat. No one's upset on a boat. First of all, we get to the boat and the boat's pink. All the cushions are pink. The slides are pink. So I was like, is this the best day of my life? We walked up to the marina and there was one pink boat in the front. And I was like, I wish we, I literally out loud was like, I wish we had a pink boat. And then I see them on the boat. I was like, oh.

I was like, best day ever. I was already excited for the boat with the two slides and you're telling me the slides are pink? Nothing in this world is better than a pink boat. I don't know why, but when we bought our alcohol, I thought my box of cut waters was like a six pack.

And then when I opened my thing of cut waters and realized it was a 12 pack, I knew I was in for a very long day. Yeah, I was like sober on the boat. I was drinking, but so slowly and not anything too high alcoholic volume that I was sober the whole time. Realistically, I shouldn't have even drank because I didn't even like feel anything off of it. And I was like drink sipping on warm seltzer for give me for what reason? And like, oh my God, did you have a sake mom?

I had a sip. Oh, it was so gross. The very first sip of alcohol I had was a sake bomb. Yeah, no. To start my day. No, that's gross. That's disgusting. And they had like whiskey. Like who goes on a boat and brings sake and whiskey? And fireball. Fireball in a fucking shaker cup. Ew. Yeah.

gross. Like, how old are we? I know. Literally, it was so gross. It's giving like you went to a party and took whatever you could from like your parents like liquor cabinet and you ended up with like a random bottle of whiskey and like some something you poured into a bottle. Yeah. So gross. Why didn't you just buy like tequila? Like, what the fuck? Yeah. So

i was like sober but like the energy was so good the fetty there was like the best vibes ever i was so annoying i kept i felt so bad for everyone yeah i'm like the fetty was the best time ever on the way there for you i was on the way there like because everyone was kind of already drunk like you were already feeling it like everyone was loose and like me and live and um palmer in the front seat were like not on that level like we're and we were just like

Oh, boy. We were just watching everyone and we're like, oh, God. Like, what a time. And you kept being like, I'm sorry. I'm so annoying. No, I literally apologized to everyone all day because I just knew, like, a lot of the people that we were with, like...

It was mostly the girls. I was like, they've never seen me like this. Like, oh, they're going to think our friends are crazy, too. Yeah. But I was just like, oh, fuck. Like, no, I'm actually annoying myself. And like, you weren't annoying. And the funny thing is, too, best compliment I've ever received on that Fetty. When I looked at one of our guy friends, Dayton, I go, Dayton, like, I'm so sorry. Like, if you guys think I'm annoying, like, tell me to shut up right now. And he goes, he goes, no, no, no. I love it. Like, every friend group needs a Sam Taylor in their life. And my heart.

melted. I was like, no fucking way. That's the best compliment ever. I was like, I love that. I hope I bring smiles to everyone's faces and not irritating the fuck out of them. Yeah. That's actually really nice. I feel like the only person when you're like, I'm being annoying, I'm not being annoying. I just live with you. Yeah. One thing that our friend group is really good at is compliments. We were saying that at the pregame. Our friend group is

full of compliments. Like, even if it's small comments like, oh, I like your shoes. Oh, I like your t-shirt. Oh, I like this. Like, everyone is just, like, passing compliments from one to the next. Like, and that's why I love our friends so much because, like, it's always positive vibes. Everyone's always uplifting people. And, like, more people just need more of that. Like, I've never been a part of a friend group that has such positive vibes.

all the time it's like i feel they it makes me feel like they feel like lucky to be my friend yeah like really appreciate being my friend yeah and like and like want you there and the the boys were even saying they're like boys need more compliments like boys are so like not soft nowadays where like a boy won't compliment another boy and i'm like that breaks my heart like i love when i see you guys complimenting each other and i like complimenting like

Oh, my God. Like, I like being, like... Oh, my God, your outfit. Or, like, when... But to Dani, you were like, Dani, like, the shoulders are looking big today. Like, have you been working out? Yeah, like... And, like, Dayton was... I was like, I can tell you hit shoulders before you came here. Like, sick. Yeah. Like, this nice outfit. I was like, your outfit drips. Yeah. And, like, Michael one time, I was like, you look jacked, bro. Yeah. Just, like, you know, like... Feel yourself. Yeah. Feel yourself. You deserve some compliments. Yeah, you look good. Like, nice shirt. I like it. I love it. I love compliments. And I just...

Because I feel like I will also equally though be like, what the fuck shirt are you wearing? Yeah, no, easily. 100%. A little bit of both. Yeah, like we fuck with you in the sense of like we're going to make fun of you, but also I'll throw you a compliment. Yeah, like if you show up with an ugly hat, I'll be like, what the fuck is on your head? Yeah. Wait, speaking of hats, Taylor had the worst hat on.

Taylor's just sitting there on the couch and I'm like I look at her I'm like I have boob sweat I'm sweating and she goes you should see my hair right now and I'm like I was committed to the straw hat that flew off on the way back on the pontoon you lost it we were driving back I did not know that and I took my hand off for one second and it went and it flew away so the hat is on the bottom of Lake Travis but I know rest in peace I'll have to order a new I need to get some hats

but anyways i was committed to the straw hat and i was walking rocking at the pregame and it started getting progressively sweatier on the top of my head under the hat and then i couldn't take it off because it was so sweaty and gross i was like well the hat must stay for the until i jump in the lake water the hat can't come off i don't even go in the water yeah you missed out it was so fun and it looked cold it wasn't it really wasn't yeah the boys were coming back shivering and i was scared because they were so cold and then i went in the water i'm like it's

literally fine. They're just dramatic. I lift up the top of the hat. Oh my god. Like the hair that is underneath was... I filmed it. We can put it on like the podcast Instagram story. It's so funny. The hair underneath was so horrid. But then I like...

Because it was, like, flat against my forehead. But then I, like, zhuzhed it around with my fingers and took it off on the bus and it was fine. And I, like, you know, let it air out under there. But it was so bad. Like, if you put a hat on and it's hot out, you're committing to the hat. Yeah, you have to. The hat's a commitment. The hat has to stay on. Yeah. I didn't even... I was going to wear a hat, but I was like, you know what? Like...

I want to wear my, which I did end up wearing my hair down that night. I was like, I need to like try to keep my hair down as long as possible. And like the boat, we went from the pregame and being sweaty as balls to getting on like the boat. It wasn't hot. It was like chilly because of the wind and like we were going fast on the boat. But even when the boat was parked, it wasn't even hot. Yeah. So that was fine. And by the way, guys, our boat that we were on was like a double-decker pontoon boat. So the first floor was like all seats. But then on the second floor, it was like this little like patio, like couch thing with like

slides. So like we were just like I was kind of hanging on our boat for like most of the time but we tied up with other boats and then we would hop around but I didn't really hop around that much. We were on the next boat quite a bit. Yeah. Oh my god guys the boat next to us as we're pulling into like the little cove so it's called Devil's Cove and it's called Devil's Cove now I know for a reason because everyone gets fucking plastered over there.

And so we're pulling up and there's this boat behind us kind of like pulling in at the same time as us. And it's a bunch of guys. And like our boats already a bunch of guys. But on either side of us is a bunch of guys. And I was like, oh, I know our guy friends are pissed. Yeah, they're pissed. And like I even was kind of pissed because I'm like, I like like that in the sense. But like, honestly, like.

Like, not really when I already have, like, a guy that I want to, like, show my, like, full attention to today. Like, if I was on, like, a boat of all girls, then I'd be hyped. But, like, I'm already, like, with a bunch of guys, so I don't need two sausage pests, like, pulling up with us. Yeah, no, I didn't really give a shit. To me, like, it was more so, though. Like, I know a group of guys is probably going to, like, give me things to laugh at. Yeah. So one of the guys, his name ends up being Chad, by the way.

He's on the other boat and he's, their boat's like 15 feet away from us. He gives us like the creepiest little like butterfly wave. Like when you, like when you like twinkle your fingers and he's like smirking and I'm like all the girls, we all saw it happen. We're like, eh,

like gross then they tie up with us and I go over to him I go what's your name and he goes Chad I'm like oh my god this is gonna be the best time like a basketball jersey backwards hat Ray Bams like he looked like the biggest frat bro and I came over he's like I'm Chad I'm like of course your name is Chad yeah I go were you the president or your frat I was like he was like really offended yeah I was like really making fun of him but I'm like you look like Chad and like his friends were like laughing because we were all like

you look exactly like chad yeah they were here from for like a bachelor party or whatever and i just had so much fun like making fun of him like about his name for like the whole entire time i was like haha chad really enjoy but like bullying no but like he was like loving it like so much he kept just being like oh fuck off like y'all what the fuck i mean yeah because like you tied up next to the boat when the girls on the boat came over and talked to you yeah duh like that's all you wanted to

so exactly he immediately hopped on our boat like the second we like tied up he came right over yeah and everyone there was just like really enjoying it like people were taking shots out of Sam's tits oh my god I had a 65 year old man boob luge off of me yeah and it's like they were like can we take shots like down here as his butt and I was like no but I know who would let you take it out of their boobs give me one sec and

And then I got on Sam and you're like, oh yeah, I'm like, see, I told you. I told you. I know, girl. Yeah. And I knew my sneaky link was like watching that all happen. I let like three men in a row like boob luge off me. So I was like, all right, Taylor, like, let's go do let's go do my sneaky link now. So I'm running over to my sneaky link and I'm like, OK, boob luge time. And I sat on him and I let him boob luge off me. But then after that, someone got the idea of like, let's do body shots.

And that... Yeah, and so then all of a sudden now I'm doing like the opposite. Like he was drinking off me and now I'm drinking off him. Someone poured a fireball shot on his tummy and I'm just licking up the... Tummy? I'm just thinking of his hairy tummy. Yeah, he's got a hairy butt. He sounds like a sexy man. No, like deadass. Like I was...

happy trail happy trail i got a happy trail i was flossing my teeth i was flossing my teeth in that happy from the body shot there's like hair stuck to your mouth i'm just stuck to his belly button yeah your earrings like caught in there i'm like wait hold on one second i'm drowning in the liquor and the fucking happy trail yeah oh god i hope they don't listen to this

Anyways, at that point, I'm, like, so drunk, and I look over, and then... Okay, I had been giving my, like, alcohol to some of the boys...

But then I looked over and they were like, get me another cup of water. I'm like, oh my God, I have one left. I was like, this is fucking crazy. They were small. Yeah. Well, they were small, but there was 12 of them. But that's what, yeah. But I'm saying like they were, and they're 12%. Yeah. 12% and small. Tiny little cans. And I was like, oh boy. I was like, I was like, I need to drink some water. We were like just vibing on the boat. Yeah. Like having a grand old time. So many pics. So many vids. So many pictures. I'm so proud of us for that. Yeah.

So many pics, so many vids. And then we had to rally. Yeah, we got back. And I literally got back by, like, 8 or 9 and got ready within, like, 30 minutes and Ubered over to, like, one of our girlfriends' house. Yeah, so we split up because I had plans with my boyfriend and his sister to, like, hang out with them. And I skipped on the night out. And, like, I literally had set, like...

I like literally fell in love. I was like, this is the best. Like we went to Whitehorse, which is if you're in Austin and you want to do something fun and like wear like boots and like do something cute, go there. It's literally if you've ever been to Disney World and been to the Country Bear Jamboree where it's like the country music and the bears sing, it's giving that like it's it's giving the same energy as that except it's real bands like playing country music. And it's literally everyone's like

To step in and dancing. Oh my god, it's so fun If there was a video I bet we looked so bad at it But we felt like we were doing a good job Like if it was on video, we probably looked like awful literally the next day. I was like, oh god I wish there was a video He was like I I don't we probably don't look as good as we like thought we did in our heads and I was like You're so right. We probably don't look good at all because some people were

fucking good at it like they knew what the fuck they were doing and i was like i want to get like them i was like we need to practice and we need to get it together because i want to be like them these people are so good like they really knew what they were doing but it was so fun yeah and then i went to i didn't even know where i was going for like the longest time i guess they were organizing it in the fetty like they bought like concert tickets and everything yes you were like

get me one and we're like we got like everyone was like on board with like how are we gonna make sure you get there and get out like everyone like you a ticket was bought like everything was on you were just like get me one like where we're going we're like don't worry about it i'm like everyone knows where you're supposed to be i know where you're supposed to be like yeah you will go to the right place so we went to like what is it called this band this band that plays this isn't gonna be copyrighted right

No. This song, Fuck Your Sunshine. We literally listened to this like a million times that day. Such a good song. But this DJ was playing here in Austin. So we went to their concert. It was like 20 bucks. But... I don't know this song. Fuck Your Sunshine? I don't know why I won't play the lyrics. Did you learn this on Saturday? Did you learn this on Saturday? Fuck Your Sunshine.

But yeah, no, that song is so good. I've been listening to it every day. And we went to that and as we're there, our other friends like Hunter and all them pulled up too. And I was like, no way, like didn't think you guys were coming. And then another guy that like I have like previously like

tried to pursue he was there and he started buying me drinks and then i was like oh my god my sneaky links here and like i just feel bad like i don't know what what it is like if i give another man attention i like feel so bad for my sneaky link and i know i shouldn't right because like he'd give a girl attention exactly like i know he'd probably do the same thing but i'm like oh my god like so then immediately after he bought me a drink like that other guy i went over to my sneaky link and i was like oh do you want to go get a drink at

gonna drink at the bar like I'll buy you a drink I'm the worst with that so whatever then we were dancing to them left around like one ish and I slept over his house yeah we both looked like such trash the next morning yeah can't even put it into words like I picked her up from I left my boyfriend's house looking like

awful like we both slept on the couch like it i was i was truly unwell i was not okay and then um i was like oh do you want me to pick you up right now like i'll be passing like that direction i'll pick you up and we both looked so fucking unwell it was really bad yeah i wasn't even like super hungover i was just like hair makeup contacts were still in and he was like

He was like, oh, why don't you take out your contacts? I'm like, bro, like if I took these out right now, I would not be able to see. Yeah. Like ugly outfit hair. Like my hair when I wake up and I had like some hairspray in it or something is like literally a rat's nest. So bad. I'm wearing like a random football shirt and I put my jean shorts back on. So I had to wear boots and I was wearing like sweatshorts. I'm like, I'm not going to wear sweatshorts and boots. I have this T-shirt on and then my literal cowgirl boots and my jean shorts. It was so gross. Yeah.

But then we got our life together. Yeah. Got our life together and we've had an amazing week. Amazing. Yeah. And like I need, you know what I was just thinking about? I was like, I had like a quick conversation with my sneaky link about like,

Because I asked him because I was like, I need to get the tea out of him of if he likes me or not. So I asked him really quickly because I was so nervous. You did? Yeah. I thought I told you this. I don't think so. I was like, do you like me? I was like, because I like you. I think I'm starting to like you. And he was like, yeah, I like you. But we're not going to talk about that. Because he's such a...

Emotionless like he he calls himself a dog. He's like I'm a dog dogs Don't dogs don't got emotion dog. Don't do that dog do it, but like I'm just like oh fuck I really like you so I was like I asked him I was like I was like so I'm like do you really like me cuz I really like you it was like he's like yeah Yes

and he was like yeah but then i got too nervous to keep the conversation going so i immediately switched the conversation i can't really do that either i mean i kind of did that too which i'll tell you about uh when we finish yeah because like the thing is is like i kept asking all of his friends like on saturday on the boat i was like i was like what is thinking fuck you already said like you are literally awful and you've said it like no uh i can't you need to bleep that out okay

I'm the worst. You suck. Like, I really need to stop doing that. I'm not exposing myself. Anyways. But yeah. And I figured, like, I just want to take things really slow. Like, what is the point in, like, me trying to, like, break my own heart? Yeah. Exactly. Like... Your heart would probably break regardless. Oh, 120 million percent. Do you want it to break now or do you want it to break in, like, three weeks? Yeah. Yeah, like...

Yeah. You can just like... It's just what time do you want it to... Yeah. Unless it doesn't. Maybe it won't. Who knows? We'll have to see. I'm like... I was literally just like having this conversation like last night of how like I'm just like so scared that like...

it's like damn like I put myself in another position that I could be like heartbroken again one day and I'd be so sad yeah and that's like the price you pay when you like someone yeah it's crazy because you guys are in the honeymoon phase right now and it's like give it like three or four months and BAM something bad could happen not to scare you but it's true I know and then I would like literally die yeah too late for that

Let's get into it before I cry. Yeah, we don't need to do that. We don't need to cry. And also, we don't need to expose ourselves. Because I think my sneaky link would be listening to this shit. I almost pulled a you and said a name. But my boyfriend's like, if you're going to talk about me, can you talk about me in the first 10 minutes so I can just listen to it and then hear it right away? Exactly. That's what we did. 50 minutes into the show. No, I'm pretending. You can tell him we did that. Yeah.

What he doesn't know is we put all the tea at the end for the real people that listen. We do the tea in the last like 10 minutes. Yeah. Anyways, let's should we get into the episode? Yeah. I mean, we've only been talking for 45 fucking minutes. I'm sorry. I just have so much fun talking about my life and sharing it with everyone over sharing. I mean, I love long podcasts like I'd never when I like a podcast. I don't want it to end. Yeah. And we only do one upload a week like plan Bria listen to theirs. They do two a week.

And I'm like, oh my God, I wish I could do more. But like, it's like, I know that feeling of being the host and like being asked to do more. And I'm like, I can't do it. Especially talking on a podcast because eventually the content, what the fuck are you going to say? Yeah. So. Yeah. Yeah. Unless you were, unless you're a podcast that recaps things. No, they don't. They literally just ramble. I know, but like more than two a week is like, what the fuck? Yeah. Or if it's your full-time job. Mm-hmm.

If this podcast was our main source of income, I would upload every day. Just kidding. That's such a lie. Yeah. Three times a week. Twice a week. Twice a week. I think we could do... If it was like our fucking thing, like in our main source of income, I would do it twice. Yeah. Yeah.

Anyways, let's talk about how to make friends. So that way you can talk about your weekends and your weekends sound just like ours and you have so many friends to go on pink boats with. Exactly. To go on pink boats with and... Just rage. Yeah, rage. So we kind of just like are going to ramble. This is not in any specific order. We're down a lot of bullet points. But first and foremost, like getting out there like...

through the internet is like huge for the program when you first move somewhere so you got like the facebook groups bumble bff um you know just like following people that you've like seen maybe once or twice on instagram yeah that's like how taylor and i became friends like just following people going into facebook groups like i know austin has like hot girl walk facebook groups or like

literally jenna palik's like event yeah like event so many things facebook groups you just like add yourself to them or like even roommate facebook groups like anything add yourself to those even if you're not going to be like talking in them like just put yourself in there because you never know where it can bring you especially with every single one of these situations um yeah but it's like we literally met on the internet and it's like if you have another girl

kind of where you live or like wherever especially it's like I know everyone has little like fitness pages. Yeah. You do like follow someone make a friend. That's also exactly how we became friends. Following your local gyms Instagram like most gyms repost other people's posts. So if you're following your gyms Instagram you'll see like maybe another girl like get reposted on their Instagram. You're like oh shit like she goes here like she looks like a lot of fun looks like she looks like someone I get to want to get to know. And then

going into this entire episode when we say things one of the biggest things to take away is never say no like to anything and never be flaky on plants because i think that's the biggest thing when it comes to like really starting a friendship with someone if you ever are like going back and forth with hangouts like if there's constant bailing or flakiness like

I'm going to... For me at least, I'm going to give up on trying to make plans with you if you're going to be flaky and bailing on me all the time. If we're trying to get those initial plans. So be on...

That person's ass about like all right, let's do this coffee and like hot girl walk At 9 a.m. On friday like be there like i'll have that plan ready to go like i'll see you there and like Things like that when you're first initially meeting someone makes like a big difference on like Oh, like do they really want to be my friend or like they're really genuinely making the effort to like hang out with me yeah, and like um

When you're not saying no to things, like if you get invited somewhere, like when you're out, a lot of people I feel like throw things around like, oh, we're going out tomorrow. You should come. And like, you don't really like follow up. Yeah. But like follow up. Yeah.

Just be there. Go. Like, if they, like, invited you, like, because, like, they probably already invited people. Like, they forgot. Like, you're not, like, realistically, like, you're not on their main priority to be there. Like, they're friends. I mean, they're doing the whole thing. But if they mentioned it to you, like, even in passing, because, like, you see someone during the day, like, maybe you know someone at your gym and they're like, oh, we're going out. Are you going out this weekend? Like, you should come with me. And, like, they're maybe not going to hit you up again, but they told you at the gym. Like, ask them about it.

Yeah. Like our like main reason for being friends with all of our friends, like Connor Hunter and all of them and Haley is because we were at the pool one day and one of them came over to us and was like, Hey, we're having a pregame later. And this entire month, Taylor and I weren't drinking. We were doing like a, almost like basically a sober month.

like that month and we're like like I don't really want to like fuck that like but then we both look at each other and like we're like what the fuck like what else are we gonna do why the fuck shouldn't we so we're like and we didn't even drink at that pregame yeah like she didn't even drink I ended up drinking but like we didn't even like want to go out after we're like okay like we can at least go to the pregame so like if you're not gonna go out

And someone invites you to a pregame, at least go to the pregame. Especially even if you don't drink. Yeah. It's a pregame. Yeah. People hanging out, listening to music, maybe playing some games, like...

Or sitting on the couch, sitting at the kitchen counter. Like, go to the pre-games. Pre-games, if you don't know anyone, like, if you don't have fun, guess what? When they're going to the bars, you can go home. You can go home. But just say yes to everything. Say yes to, like, even our other group of friends, like, invited us on that boat and we didn't know anyone that was going on the boat. And that's, like, how we really got, like,

closer with them was after going on that boat. Yeah. And it's like we could have easily been like oh we don't want to go we don't really know anyone. Yeah. Just go go go on the boat and boats could be scary because you're like

Trapped on it. But like it's going to be fine. Like if you don't everyone is everyone is there to have a good time. They're inviting you on the boat because they want to talk to you. They want to hang out. It's going to be fun. You can't really have how bad of a time could you have like doing an outdoor like fun activity. You really can't. So take go. Yeah. Going on that boat was a great decision and we could have easily been like no we don't know that we're going to pass. And another thing that I started to do during the time when I moved here was like being more open minded to different types of people.

because i was like back home in college or back in my hometown like i hang out with like specific people like if that makes sense like it's just kind of like you're used to always being around the same type of like the hockey bros and like the like the girls that are into like working out like whereas like when we first moved here like the girls that we hung out with like weren't into the gym the guys that we were hanging out with like were into like

Fucking like Star War. Like different types of things, different types of people. Like just be open-minded to everyone. Yeah, be open-minded. Being open-minded to everyone is huge, especially after coming out of like the clickiness of like college and like...

All of that just nonsense of the top tier sororities. I feel like everyone kind of lives in that clicky mindset of friends. And it's like that all goes away when you're in the real world. The real world. You just got to be open to...

being friends with everyone and friendly with everyone yeah and other things you can consider doing too like not outside of like the internet is like going to like workout classes or going to your gym like at specific hours during the day like and like keeping those specific hours during the day when you're seeing like familiar faces like constantly and then like once you start to like

see these people like every day like you're like oh damn like they have the same like schedules me like what if i like complimented her shoes one day and then from there like the next time like maybe you were like hey like we're always going to the same workout class would you want to like grab a coffee beforehand like literally say like if you're just like constantly getting yourself out there and like doing specific things it's gonna help you so much just be familiar with certain faces where it gives you the opportunity to like not be so afraid to go up to them like if you go to barry's like

every Monday at 8 a.m. And the same girl is in your everyday Monday 8 a.m. Barry's class. Three classes in. So easy. Like you start with a hey because like you see her all the time and it's literally so easy as like oh I'm going here like do you want to come? Yeah. And it's not weird like and I'm like I used to be such a shy person and um

If you're in college, I'm like, this is very outside of college because like I said, college is very clicky and people are judgy and young and I get it. Because in college, I was like, no, I think people are judging me and I went to a clicky, annoying school. But where people are adult people, especially in a city like this where so many people just moved here, no one will think it's weird that...

You are talking to them and inviting them somewhere. That is not a thing at all. No one's going to be like, why is this girl like asking me if I want to get a coffee?

It's just not going to happen. It's literally not going to happen. They're going to be like very... That's a sweet thing to do. It's just not weird at all. It'd be weirder to be in the same workout class with someone every single day for months and never speak to them. Yeah. That's weirder. I agree. And then going off that, being open-minded into trying new things. So if you're not going to workout classes, start going to workout classes. If you're not going on like...

hot girl walks start going on hot girl walks like at the park like bring your dog to the park like get yourself out there be open to new things especially doing things like by yourself like going alone to things like i went to dance class and people like will swipe up like i'm trying to get my friends to come with me to like start going to dance i'm like you don't have to wait for your friends to go with you i don't have friends coming with me to this no one i know here would come with me to this or knows how to dance and it's like

I just had to go. And it's like some things, if you're just very lonely, some things aren't going to make you the best of friends. I haven't made good friends in my dance studio, but it's social interaction. And it's people that when I go to a dance class, it's the same people more or less. And it's like,

I know their face. I know their names. Yeah, it's kind of like the same as having like classmate friends. Like when you were in like high school, like I would get so excited to go to like math class because I had like all my class friends. But I would never actually hang out with them outside of school. Yeah, we don't like hang out. I mean, I probably could. I bet if I asked one of them to like go to lunch, they'd probably come. But like we chit chat. It's social interaction because like if you're just very lonely where you are going somewhere and just like speaking to people and like knowing people.

is like healthy yeah you're like soul so just like being somewhere where everyone can talk and you can meet people is very important and you gotta be like you gotta be really okay with going alone because i know a lot of people the thought of being like wait i'm gonna book a workout class or book a dance class or start a join a sports league like alone like that's crazy it's not yeah it's not um and then also

Another thing to keep in mind is if you're in an apartment complex, that is like the most advantage you could have. Huge. Apartment complex. Like for Taylor and I, we live in a townhome in a neighborhood full of children and like moms and dads. We don't have that luxury of being able to walk down the hall or going to our pool and meeting people. So-

If you have an apartment complex, go to the pool. Go to the apartment gym. Hang around your apartment complex and you will make friends. Our friends' apartment complex, everyone's friends with everyone. Yeah. Everyone's friends with everyone. Be friendly if you see someone moving in. Yeah. Throw a hello. Just be fucking nice to people. Invite people that you see.

To your pregames. To hang out. And especially the basic things that everyone does. Like when The Bachelor's on and there's a girl moving in. Hey, me and my friends watch The Bachelor every Monday. You should come. Shit like that. That's like everyone does that and thinks it's a normal thing. Invite someone. It's so easy. So easy to do

Random stuff like that. Because they already live in your building. Yeah. So it's like, oh my God, come over and watch The Bachelor. Okay. They're down the hall. Yeah, exactly. And that's also just like making conversation when you see someone. Like if they have a dog, talk to them. Ask them if they just moved in. Just be like... Yeah, that's kind of going off of this bullet point of like...

like smart small talk simple conversations can go such a long way like if you like no matter where you are like you could be at the gym you could be like oh i really like your sneakers and then like engaging in that conversation like you never know where like the little small talk that you have will take you yeah one of our old friends that like we're not really friends with anymore but the reason we started talking to her because she was wearing a uf hat literally on the lake and i was just like

oh my god you went to uf so did i or like or maybe i didn't know she went there so i just pointed out i was like oh did you go to uf like i went there and then it was just like oh my god yeah i did and like so did he and it's like oh my god cool and then within five minutes we exchanged contacts like oh we're going out tonight are you going out tonight and boom yeah easy like shit like that really really goes a long way other other good examples it's like friend like it's like riz but like friend friend riz yeah it's like if there's someone at the gym

That you saw out. And then it's like... Oh, my God. Did I see... Were you at this place the other night? And then they might be like, oh, yeah. Do you know so-and-so? And then it's like, oh, my God. You were just out. And you saw them out. And you go to the gym. Yeah. Boom. And then...

I also put because I think this is really important to also remember because Taylor and I have been living in Austin for two years. Well, next month for me will be two years, which is crazy. But there's going to be so much trial and error with friendships. Don't expect the first group of friends you make when you move to a new city to be your friends forever. Right?

You're going to have like surface level friends until you really start to find like those friends that are going to be your deep level rooted friends. And that's like something that we had to experience in order to find our friends now that we are like,

like they're like my fucking siblings i feel like we're like all so close like yeah it's gonna happen you're gonna have trial and error you're gonna have people that are gonna be like close with you for maybe like two to three weeks but then like it falls out and you maybe move on to like the same type of situation where it's again a new level of service level people but then you maybe develop like a deeper friendship with those people yeah um it's also like just understand it's like not that

I feel like making friends isn't as serious of a thing as people make it. I see a lot of TikToks where people are shitting on making friends videos.

At bars. Which I'm not saying it's the only way to make friends. You can do so many other things. This is just something I see online a lot. I'm tired of these meaningless relationships. Or like these. Just saying if you meet someone out partying. They're not your real friends. And I think people stress about that way too much. They just want girls to do like.

you know, the stuff we do together with, which you can find. But there's nothing wrong with meeting people out. Just because you met someone out doesn't mean it's like a surface level nothing relationship. And like you can do other things with them. Yeah. Meeting people out. Same way people are like, you won't find your husband at a bar. Like why? Like this. You mean I won't find someone where every single person my age comes to socialize?

I probably will. Yeah. Like it's literally quite literally a room full of people trying to socialize with each other. Yeah. And like another thing to keep in mind too is like at our age, people are so busy. Like most people have like a lot of our friends have like overnight shifts and then other friends have like the nine to five. So it's like all of our schedules don't align. One of our friends works Saturday, Sunday. Yeah. So it's like if you're only going to see those friends on the weekends when you're drinking, you're not going to see them.

Like, that's totally okay. Like, people are busy. Maybe that's the only time you can see them. They can't happen to go get coffee with you. They can't happen to go get dinner with you during the week. And if they're only going to be able to see you when you guys are going out, like, it's not necessarily surface level. Because I wouldn't say our friendship with Haley is surface level. No. But it's like... But we only ever now see her. We can't... She can't come over and, like, go on walks with us midday. She's busy. Yeah. So it's like...

It's just not going to work like that. And I think people just put so much pressure on like, those are sort of like the meaningless relationships are not all meaningless relationships. And you do not need to drink alcohol to make friends. But I would argue that going out into those social scenes is beneficial for making friends. Like,

even if you don't drink, I do think it's beneficial for making friends. I agree. Because then so-and-so's friends show up and you meet all of them. It is literally just a bunch of people. It's like networking. Literally. And you literally don't have to drink to do it. You don't have to stay late to do it. But like it's being around people, trying to hang out and have fun is quite a way to make friends. Yeah.

And I kind of want to finish off because this is pretty much like everything. I just want to finish off like examples of things that like cities have to offer that you can do in order to like socialize, make friends. And these are all from our experience and like ways that we've met people. And from these things, make group chats. If you're only talking in those group chats once a month,

Twice a month. Whatever. Like. As long as you have those group chats. Like. It's good to have. Because you can text them. Like. Hey. Like.

I'm hosting this this weekend. Like, if any of you want to come through, like, come through. Also, with making friends through, like, specific things like this, our friendships were very natural, but it's good to just know people because it's such good conversation of, like, oh, you know so-and-so? Like, I know her from this thing. Even if she's not, like, your greatest friend, like, that's a commonality. Yeah. You have a mutual friend. Easy conversation. So it's just, like, good to know people. Same thing with, like, Hinge. Like, oh, my God, I know him. We matched on Hinge. Like, just having, like...

mutual connections with people. Yeah. Even if the people you meet at these things aren't your best friends. Yeah. So, starting off, I am wine tasting. This is, like, one of the first things that we did with, like, a big-ass group of girls. Like, a girl that...

knew of us from social media, invited us to a wine tasting, and there was, like, 15 girls there. And we were just all hanging out for, like, two to three hours. We all ended up vibing and then went out after. And now we have a group chat with all those girls. So, like, if there's ever something that they're doing, whether it's a birthday party or a dinner reservation, like, they text in it. And, like, if we're around, like, we can go. Yeah, they came to our pool party. Yeah, they came to our pool party. Like...

yes those are surface level friends but it's like it's still good to see like to know people you know but um and then like boats boats are huge here in austin we got two different lakes we got lake austin lake travis you can go on party barge boats you can go on wake surfing boats you can go on pontoon boats and like getting invited on boats or even you renting a boat and then you inviting a bunch of random people if you don't know really the people that are coming on the boat

that's how you make friends believe it or not your friends to bring people yeah and co-workers friends of friends like bring people like who cares um birthday parties are obviously huge too there is a birthday party every fucking weekend that i hear of of like oh i'm going to so-and-so's birthday party oh so-and-so has a pregame for their birthday like

If you are invited just because you don't know them, it doesn't matter. Go to the birthday party pregame party thing. Like, I don't think the person's going to care that you're there. All of the stories always go to the pregame. Yeah. Yeah. And then the next is, like, Lady Bird slash, like, Zilker Park. There's always things going on at the park outside or, like, on the water. Like...

lady bird paddleboarding taylor and i literally used to go out there by ourselves and just start talking to strangers not anymore because serial killers yeah but we literally used to don't get serial killed but that's how we started to become friends with our guy friends that we were hanging out with this past weekend from lady bird paddleboarding being where it's kind of like being where everyone is where does everyone go when it's hot out on the lake

Like the weather's nice. Everyone's fucking outside. Go outside. Yeah. Or you and your house. Be out in the park. There's so many different ways that you can maybe make a friend. Like everyone's walking their dogs in the park. Like there's dogs around. There's people around. Like, oh my God, there's just so much going on. We go to the park and play spike ball with our friends. And it's like the way, like if you barely know someone, like you can like literally probably like ask them to fucking play with them. Yeah. Become their friend. Like if someone's playing a volleyball game, you can be like, oh, can I join in? Like everyone is there to just like

Have a good time. No one's out in those scenarios because they don't want to socialize. Yeah, because they don't want to socialize or talk to people. They're out there because they want to talk and everyone goes on the lake. Go on the lake.

and chit chat it up with random people. It's fun. Don't chit chat it up with a serial killer like anyone else. Yeah. Next is going to be your local bars for sport games. This is an easy one to do if you don't want to drink. You can still go to your local bar and watch games. Taylor and I go to the bars to watch sports and never drink at them. Never. Sports is huge. We get Diet Cokes. We sit around with our friends. We interact with people like...

seeing familiar faces, whatever small talk, like it's just good to be out and about and like watching sports at bars and like,

Also, like not necessarily finding girlfriends, but like there's how boys at the sport bar events. And it's like, that's another example of like knowing like, okay, there's a football game on on Sunday. Where will everyone be watching it? Yeah. Where everyone is going to be watching sports. And then it's like, you like the same team as someone else. Oh my God. You're you like that? Like, where are you from? Oh my God. Shit. You're literally from the same city. Like, yeah. Easy. Boom. Like quick. Yeah.

It happens so fast. Yeah. With literally just being like, oh my God, holy shit. Like a Dolphins jersey. Are you from Miami? Sick me too. Boom. Easy. Done. And then it's like, again, is that person your best friend right then and there? No. Now, if you see them again, will you say hello because you had a conversation about being from Miami? Yeah. Yeah.

And then now that's just someone, you know. Yeah. And then the last one is the same thing going off sports is joining sports leagues. Yeah. We don't really do this, but I don't play sports. All of my boyfriend's friends, not all of them. So many of them like he plays kickball. So does my old roommate from college. She plays on a kickball team, too. I guess kickballs really like big here. But anyways, like so many of his friends are from his kickball team.

And they're really cool people. And they all play kickball together. Or going to watch like sport games. Like we would go to our guy friends football flag football games. It's like the other girlfriends are there. Yeah. Not that we're their girlfriends, but that's who was there. Like the girlfriends of the people. So it's just important to get yourself out there. If you can't tell. You can't be living in a fucking under a rock and complaining that you don't have friends because you're putting yourself in that position. Yeah. And once you know one person, like if you're out,

all alone it's hard but like all we had is each other and that's all you need you make you have one person to latch on to and you're good you're ready to go yeah that's all you need is one one extra person and one thing i will say right now the best compliment that taylor and i always get is

We're always down. Always. Like, any of our friends will always look at us and be like, I love it. You two are always down. Always. We're always fucking down for a good time, whether it's... Unless it's, like, past 9 p.m. Yeah. But, like, we're always there. Like, we're not flaky on plans whatsoever. And we just like to have a good time. So...

we want you guys to have a good time too yeah and there's so many things especially if you live in like a new city like this like a bumping young city there is so much shit to do and so many people that are so easy to make friends with like literally we were out and hunter made friends with the people in line for the bathroom yeah and hung out with them like the whole night i thought it was like his long-term friend yeah i thought it was his co-workers lying in the bathroom and i'm like oh what

Like, I thought you knew this guy, like, for real. But, okay. You just met him in, like, the bathroom. Pop off. Pop off. Like, okay. And that's the amazing thing about cities like this. I know. Post-grad people. Because it's truly, like...

Even people like us, we might seem like, oh, they already have friends. We're always ready down to make friends. We're always trying to meet people and make friends. People are always being added to our circle. And it's like trying to have friends everywhere too. Even if there's friends, love the people that work at Lyft. We don't hang out with them outside of the gym. But being friendly and talkative with people

people everywhere and not just being like mute. Exactly. Because there's probably people in the gym that like the workers there probably don't even like know their name. And it's like, how? You're there every single day. You're there every single day for like two hours a day. Always. And you don't know anyone here. You don't know anyone in your name. You don't talk to them. Just like little things, which I didn't used to do. Like I'm

I'm not the greatest. Even though, guys, crazy news. I made a TikTok about this. I used to be one shy ass bitch, okay? Everyone would like this if they meet me. Oh my God, she's nice, but she's so quiet. She's nice, but she doesn't talk. I asked my boyfriend, I'm like, so what'd your sister say about me? She said, she really liked you. She said you were really outgoing and like confident. Bitch, the fuck? I was like, she said I was outgoing. No way. I've never been called that in my life. I can't even put it into words. I'm like, no way. That's the, like,

I've literally never been told that in my life. Because I literally used to be like, oh my God, she's so quiet. Why doesn't she talk? Craziness. Taylor's changed a lot in the last few months. I'm really proud of you for that. Thanks. It's crazy. Growing up, you met me when I was like...

a little youngin yeah but it's like the day i met you it was like hard to get conversations out of you on the beach like you met me and okay well the day i met you i literally had a full-blown meltdown and panic attack because i was like i literally can't make friends and like she's literally gonna hate me and like i'm so quiet and like i literally did the opposite you never left my side i was like i haven't made a friend in like two years and like this is gonna go horribly i literally had a meltdown i literally had a meltdown um

But yeah, you met me before I could even legally drink. I was a youngin'. Oh, baby. That's what's crazy. I was all little and shit.

But yeah, hopefully you guys can take our advice and run with it. No, honestly, I just hope this gives you motivation to be more active because I'm sure all of you have like great, amazing personalities and can like make friends easily. But it's just more the nature of like getting out there and doing it. Because I bet you a lot of you are complaining that you don't have friends. But then what are you doing? Like, what are you doing during the week? No offense. I mean, that was me in college. No, yeah. Like...

Come on. Get out there. That was me in college. I know it's really, really, really hard because I've been there and like I get it. I truly do. So I feel for you. But your time will come. Yeah. If you're like me, like old me, like I couldn't do it before.

And like I couldn't do it and I was so miserable. But my time came. And look at that. You're like you're not going to be friendless forever unless you're like super weird. But I doubt you are. If you listen to us like you have to be. You're cool. You have to be a little bit cool. You fuck with us. You fuck with us. You have to be at least a little bit cool because then that means you have a good sense of humor and you have good interest. So you're you got to be slightly cool. A hundred percent. A hundred percent. We don't have like weirdos. Yeah. No. I mean we do. Yeah. Well I'm fucking weird as fuck. Yeah. Yeah.

I love being weird. So goofy. Yep. Girls like us. Girls like us. That's one thing. That's a saying. Professional fun havers. Professional fun havers and our guys will always look at us and be like...

Like, they'll do something stupid and they'll be like, guys like us. I'm like, oh my God, you're getting a sunburn? Guys like us. Guys like us don't get a sunburn. Yeah. Everything like... I'm like, you're really going to drink that? Guys like us? Yeah, like guys like us? Of course I am. Yeah. I'm like, oh, it's like a Monday night. They're going to the bars to all drink. I'm like, you guys are really going to the bars? They're like, come on, guys like us? Yeah.

Yeah, so then I'm always like, girls like me? Yeah. Well, like, we're making, like, our dirty matchas before the podcast. We're like, oh, girls like us. Girls like us. We gonna have a drink. Yeah, we love our drinks. All right. My drink's gone. I'm going to a comedy show tonight, and I'm so excited. But, like, I'm excited. They're not gonna be funnier than us. Oh, my God, I'm picking up my shroomy shroomies today. I'm so excited. I bet, like, I bet I'm gonna be fun. Like, give me the mic. I'm gonna be like, get me on the mic. Yeah, you should. I hope they attack you. Me too. I hope they rip you apart. Me too. Me too.

That's like what makes it so fun. Like rip me apart. Yeah. Fuck yeah. If they do let me know what they say. They would rip me apart if they saw my... Bro if they saw your toes like I think that they would literally like... Guys so I got a gel manicure kit from a brand Big Slay and I like

my white polish was all fucked up but i didn't want to go to the salon so i was like oh my god i'll just do my own gel pedicure because i have all the stuff they only set pink blue and green nail polish um i picked pink i should have picked blue but i picked pink they're all dark colors so i really had no way around it so i have this like dark hot pink on my toes which is just like it's so ugly like it's like it blends in with your skin a little bit it looks like you have no toenails

I did such a good job painting them too, but the color is horrid. And then she looks at me and she goes, Sam, do you like my gel polish? I go, teal or not, not white. Like,

I didn't get half white. I didn't get set white. I got set pink. Not all the insecure girls listening to this right now, like looking down at them with their hot pink toes. Well, this is too dark. If it was like... Hot girls wear white polish on their toes. And then get this. My boyfriend's leaving our house. He goes, this is like as he's leaving, he goes, I've never seen your toenails not white. And I was like, no. Did you lose?

Like, I'm like, but he didn't even mean, like, oh, they're ugly. Like, he was just like, oh, like, they're pink. Yeah. And I'm like, listen, I didn't have, they didn't send me white. So I'm going to order, I guess, gel white nail polish. Please do. Yeah, like, it's like jump scare. It is such a jump scare. I can't do it. I, like, can't wear sandals.

Like you better wear socks this weekend. I wish I could like post a picture. No, no, no free toes. That's what I'm saying. But it's like, I wish I could just show the girls. Yeah. Oh, not the pink toes. Oh my bad. I guess we'll see you in the next one. Yeah. We'll see you guys in the next one. I got to go. I'm like, if you're trying to make friends, don't have pink toes. Yeah. Don't do that either. Bye guys. Bye.

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