Our First Dates Dos & Don’ts
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Hello guys, welcome back to another episode. I'm Taylor and I'm Sam. Do you know I always like get in my head about whether I have to say like like sometimes in my head I think I say I'm Sam. That would be really weird if you did that. But like it goes through my head every single time. I'm like, which one am I?

stop i like struggle i have like a little internal dilemma every time of like say the right name that's so funny um he's so pissed that i just locked him out yeah he's very pissed um so today we like not to like toot our own horn or like gas us up but we're kind of like blowing up on tiktok for talking about our dates i know guys if you don't follow the podcast tiktok you need to because it's so fun over there it's so fun over there at first our podcast tiktok was just like we'll post reels of the pod not i always just call them reels we'll post

clips of the podcast on tiktok but then we were like okay this tiktok account is just kind of like our joint account account like and i like it it's really fun over there it's like our little niche community of people like and it's just like so fun and like i just i love it over there and like

In the last like two days, we went up like almost 3,000 followers. Yeah. And like, so yeah, like not to toot our own horn, but like people love it over there. It's because we have been sharing every single piece of our life on the internet. It's really bad. It's a toxic trait of ours. But our work comes first and that's just how it is. But what everyone loved was our date content. Yeah.

Yeah, the date content went crazy. Yeah, so me and Sam are really just like in our dating era and are like letting boys wine and dine us and win us over. Yeah.

And we like to talk to you guys about it. Yeah, so we kind of figured like why not with today's episode, we do like our first date experiences, the do's and don'ts of first dates. I even put on the Instagram, the podcast Instagram, like a little... Not survey, like submission for your first date like stories. So at the end, if we have time, I would love to go through those and read those and just kind of like ramble. Yeah. So this is gonna be a fun, entertaining boy topic podcast. And if you're a boy...

this is your sign right now to stop listening because this is for the girlies only. Especially if you are a boy in our lives. 100%. I also want to say that this is literally a continuation of like that TikTok. Like it's like that TikTok we made. We're just trying to get to the podcast. Yeah. It's an hour long podcast. So it's going to be really fun. So I even told Sam like, you know, obviously we got to do...

Gotta do our weekly catch up. So much of mine is like date focus that I feel like I'm going to save some of mine to throw into like the meat of the episode because I don't want to repeat myself because it's very boy heavy. But I did want to talk before we go into just like weekend us being like feral rats.

Of just like our health and fitness. Yeah. Which is like, you know, important to the show. It's like 80% of the show. Yeah. Like just like, yeah, we are a fitness podcast. Um, but I just wanted to like do a little catch up. Like how I'm feeling these days. Like I am so like in my gym era and guys, what has helped is filming these mic'd up workouts because I want the content to be so good. So like I work out harder and,

Like, I don't know. Like, I feel like I have this purpose to like work out really hard. So the content to be good, like,

like the content's gonna be better if i'm like yeah i'm gonna go for something heavy like i can't half fast through a workout and film it's not gonna be good so i have to like try hard and in turn it's like really doing good it's like if you need motivation like film yourself like make tiktoks of yourself even if no one's gonna watch them like oh that's how it was when i first started my fitness journey that's literally how it was like like i literally had no other reason to film myself other than just for my own well-being because i didn't have followers on any any platform so i was just filming myself

But uh, yeah, so I feel that me when it comes to the gym today is my Marks my first day back into my regular split and i'm so excited My regular split though is a little bit tweaked because I can't do Chest so i'm going to be doing three lower body days. I know I know I know a lot of lower body days Well, guess what?

I just need to move my body. I'm going stir crazy. I'm gonna do a back day and then for my fifth day I'm just gonna do a workout class. So this is my first full week working out five days out of the week. That's so exciting and it's like you don't know what you have until you don't have it anymore and that's why like in the start of my last like um wow this week why does it feel so long? I was gonna say the other day. It was yesterday. I started my workout video with like remember like moving your body is a privilege. Like you just gotta remember like

like you don't want to work out sometimes but it's like some people physically can't no and like you are lucky that you can go move and like move your body and get a workout done and you got to remember that to make yourself go yeah it's been four weeks now of like actually having like a workout split or doing anything and honestly it's motivated me more to be like more active in the sense of like not that I like want to punish my body but I just I want to move my fucking body like I want to go on a run like I just want to

fucking run like five miles. My body can't do it, but I want to just do it. Right. Because like you realize that without moving so much, like holy shit, moving feels so good. It feels so good. So I'm going to like hopefully try to be really active this week. Like go to the park, walk my dog and like get out. Like we...

Kind of like going off of like what we did this weekend like we met a bunch of girls that are like wellnessy girls and like I want to connect with them this week and like go out with them and like maybe do yoga because they did yoga yesterday I'm like too bad. I was busy, but I would have gone. Yeah, we're definitely gonna get into that Yeah, I want to like talk about that. Yeah friend group too. But yeah, it's just fun I also want to say in terms of like fitness like i've been still going to dance class Which is like my favorite thing in the whole entire world and I get so many dms of people being like

How'd you learn how to do this? Like I want to start going so bad I'm telling you guys like adult classes like that So many people have never taken one in their life And if you see me doing it and you think it looks fun, please go like it is like the best part of my week They're so much fun. And I may like if all works out like i'm actually gonna like text girl today I might start teaching hip-hop classes here in austin um

So if I get the okay on that, I'll definitely let you guys know on the podcast. But then like if you if you've been wanting to go and you live here because I get a lot of DMs of girls that live here asking like where I take classes for sure DM me so you can come to my class because it's going to be weird. I'm not going to post like probably not always going to be posting exactly when I'm teaching because there's not a lot of people that work there. Like it's it'd probably just be me and like that's scary. Yeah.

so but dm me because then you can come to my dance class and that'd be so fun and i might go that'd be so fun if like you guys were there it's gonna be so much fun but uh yeah so like we've been don't worry like in our feral girl era but we are like we're on our shit don't worry we are on our shit but also we are not on our shit like there's certain part of our lives where we're on our shit like the health and wellness section great losing shit not so great no and

Having fun. Like we, okay. Like we're on our shit, but like, because we're having so much fun, like we're on our social life. Like our social life is on it. Like it is like the best it's ever been. No, a hundred percent.

It's really good. Like we... Okay, so let's just jump into this weekend because we had so much fun this weekend. No, we really, really did. So the whole week we're just like, when's it going to be Friday? When's it going to be Friday? When's it going to be Friday? And I'm still like that. Like even today's Tuesday and I'm like, oh my God, this Friday. Oh my God, this Friday. Friday. Like because we just have...

so much fun now that we have fucking friends like and I cannot stress the importance of having fucking friends even if they're not like your best friends like if they're just your weekend friends like you're going out friends like obviously it's important to have like your your fucking ride or die friends your best friends that you can do anything sober with but even having like just like those like adventure friends yeah it's important so Friday I'm like what the hell day was which okay Friday I had a I had a day

Which we'll get into because we're going to talk about dates. I'm not going to talk about it right now. And then Sam was out with all of our friends. And, you know, I was having a little bit of FOMO, but my date was fun, so it was fine. Because she was meeting up with all her friends and I was going to meet them.

um just when they got out to the bars easy peasy whatever yeah um i show up there and like i obviously knew you were with a lot of i don't want to skip the pregame part though can i can i jump into the real quick real quick sure so so taylor went on her date amazing awesome and then i went to a pregame with a bunch of people that like i barely knew like it was like i would say

50% are friends. So like our massive friend group showed up to like this pregame and kind of like overtook the pregame because it was just a bunch of our friends. But then there was a bunch of people that we didn't know. So then like

because of that i made friends with everyone there so then this entire group this entire pre-game group of like 25 30 people show up to the bar together yes and we show up to latchkey which is a bar on e6 and we just take up this massive section of the bar and all of us are just buying each other rounds of drinks rounds and rounds of drinks so by the time taylor gets there all of us like all 20 of us are like

like not like not like bad drunk no everyone was everyone was having a good time like i pulled up so um i also just want to make a point on what you just said we get dms a lot like how do you make friends in new city going to random people's pre-games yeah like just show up no going to random people's pre-games like truly is because they're more intimate and it's not like a bar scene and everyone eventually is going to leave so if you like really hate everyone

You could just go home. Or you could go to the bar and do your own thing. There's an end in sight. So I just think going to random people's pregames, huge for meeting new people, making new friends. Like even Taylor and I used to go to pregames just the two of us. Like it doesn't have to be a big group of you that go to a pregame. Like Taylor and I, literally when we made friends, we're showing up to pregames not knowing a single soul. We hosted pregames. Yeah, we didn't know anyone. So anyways, that's just huge for making friends is the pregame. But so I show up.

um my date comes with me like i'm like sick yeah come with me to like my friends we like scooter on over and the way i walked in and just saw first of all it looked so good in front i looked so popular every single person i've ever met in austin texas was at this fucking bar like every two seconds i was just getting like a see you i was like oh my god like hey like like i was like i i was like i know it looks like i'm like so popular there's just like every single person i've ever met in this whole city

No, because like everyone I knew was there. We were both like me, the date I was with, like, I don't know how I was kind of sober because I had quite a few drinks on our date, but they just weren't hitting me at all. Not a strong pour? I don't know if the bartender was just skimping on it, but I had like four drinks and I was...

yeah like dead sober so i don't know what was up with that but we got there and we were we were like bro like we need to get on these guys level like we are not with this right now like we are like totally and it was just so funny like seeing so many people i knew i was like and it made me so happy like i feel like it was like key moment in austin texas that like that night that like made me knew it was so happy and being like it kind of registered in my head like

Like, holy shit, I have a life here. Yeah. Like, look at all of these people I know. That's another thing, like, too. People always say, oh, are you going to leave Austin? Do you plan on moving? Do you want to try out a new city? No. I don't want to redo making friends, making memories, and, like, having to go through all of that. Like, all my memories and friends I have, like, why would I want to leave that? Yeah. And that was a key, like...

What are these like altered my brain moments that altered my brain chemistry like in Austin like showing up to latchkey and seeing all of my friends in one spot and everyone being like so happy and like yeah yeah it was started fun but so I started off the night like on a mission by the way so I show up me and hunter like.

And Haley was there too. So like the three of us were like the three musketeers all night, like hanging out. But at the very beginning of the night, I look at Hunter and I go, Hunter, we need to get really drunk. I'm on a mission tonight. I'm on a mission to find a boyfriend. So we get to the bar or whatever. And as you guys know, like Sam has her flask. We were doing the flask night on Friday night. Taylor forgot her flask. I wasn't doing flask. Yeah, no, you didn't have your flask. So then I told Hunter. I was with a boy buying me drinks. So I filled up my flask to the very top and I told Hunter that and I go, Hunter,

I got my flask. I had it full. Did you finish it? Me and Hunter did. Yeah. Yeah. So me and Hunter, we were getting shots. We were getting drinks. We were getting like diet cooks and then like filling them up. And like, it was just, it was a wild night. And before Taylor even got into the bar. Also, I want to point out that I was texting everyone I knew in my phone to come to latch key. I was texting like everyone on the roster was coming. Every single person I had on my phone. If you were a man in Sam's DMS on her hinge,

and you've communicated, you were at that bar. Like every single person, or you were at least invited. Every single person was told to come that we knew. Like if you were in Sam's phone, just know you were one of 10. Yeah. Like you were not special. So I would say, I don't even know time-wise, I don't know, but it was very far into the night and I started to realize, holy shit, there's like five guys here right now that like

I've been like having to like balance talking to because they all came for me and I was like, oh my God, like I'm running around like a crazy person. And I just had so much fun. And like, I don't think it's bad to do that. Like they didn't know that they were all like there, like because I type like, okay, they were all with their friends and I was with my friends and we was just like, I was bouncing around having a good time. And like, but I don't even think it's bad to be like, maybe it is fucked up to do that, but who cares? Yeah. Who cares? It's not hurting anyone. Okay.

It's not hurting anyone. It's good for you and that's all that matters. Yeah. Like I literally don't get like like is it probably bad to them? Yeah. I don't care. It doesn't matter. One of my guy friends so one of our guy friends and like our our group is

I look over at him like middle of the night and he's just looking at me and he like winks at me and goes, nice, Sam, like nice. And I just point at him and I go, yes, Michael, like, yes, let's go. And he's like, this is so fucked up. And I was like, yeah, I know it's fucked. But like, honestly, I had so much fun and I have no complaints over the fact that I did that. Like, I feel like

It probably won't happen again anytime soon, but it just... I wanted to be in a bar where I just knew everyone. And that's what happened. Yeah, and it worked out and it happened. So... Yeah, I mean, I had a good night. I just was, like, vibing, like, kind of sober. So I was just, like, LOLing at... Yeah, and then the next morning, Michael, our guy friend, texted in the group...

It was like 9 in the morning. He goes, can we just not forget that Sam literally had five guys rotating through cycle of like talking to her, like fighting for her attention. And I was like, oh my God, like I didn't really think in the moment that anyone noticed, but I guess like everyone did notice. Yeah, we were placing bets on who the winner of the night was going to be. The winner of the night was not anyone anyone would have expected. I did. Well, you expected, but not anyone else. Yeah.

So we had a great night and then a great morning. And I got some breakfast. And then I had to take Sam to – where did I bring your car? To get me my car. I had to get her your car, hungover, because Sam was like, I have a date. And I was like, what?

So I had to pick her ass up because I was driving around the city, you know, doing my thing early in the morning. And Sam is like hugging over his shit and made it out on a date. I know. I can't believe I made it on a date. Like the fact that I did that was actually crazy because I woke up at like 1130 and

And he was well, okay. So I saw in my phone that I had a conversation with this random person I'm like who the fuck is this? So I scroll all the way back up to the top and his name's at the top and i'm like, oh like that's who it was So I just texted him and I go. Uh, hey, sorry like

I like I don't even know what I said. I was just continuing the conversation and he was like, oh my god Like no, how are you feeling this morning? Like do you want to go get coffee? And like one thing about me is like I will do anything like you tell me like to do something like i'm probably not gonna say No, so I was like yeah full send like let's go. Let's go on a date So like an hour and a half later, I pulled my shit together. I took a shower at breakfast like Took mac and a walk and taylor brought me to my car and I went on my coffee date

Yeah, and I was shocked considering last weekend when I had a date at the same time. You can watch my vlog. Sam's like, you're going to go to that? You're so fucked. I was still drunk when I said that. Yeah, I know. And you went. And it's just like, you know, like when you want it, you want it. So you went. And then, so you went on your date, had fun. Obviously, like I said, we're going to talk about dates. So we'll get more into that. We'll go into the very nitty gritty on these. But then we had a little girls party.

night, beginning of our night, because one of my mutuals on Instagram, her name is Natasha, a while ago, she was like, I'm doing a wine tasting on February 18th. Do you want to come? Bring Sam. And we don't have girlfriends. So I was like, yeah, we need to go to this. We need to meet

girls in some aspects so yeah whatever we went and at first like it's hard to catch the vibe like girls are harder to open up like in a room full of dudes they'll be your friend in a second but girls are harder to open up and it was kind of like okay what's the vibe and then you know a few sips of wine deep it was like okay like this is fun everyone's cool it's

very just like like-minded girls hanging out um a lot of i just moved here i don't have a lot of friends type people yeah like a lot of them were i moved here a week ago i moved here two weeks ago i'm like why i've been here for two years yeah so like it very just like oh yeah like you want to be friends and like do something like yes please i literally moved here yesterday like very much that energy and then it was like should we go out and it was like y'all want to go with me and sam good luck let's go so we're like walking down the street like girl gang there's like

10 of us like walking down the street which me and Sam are never with that many girls yeah like so that was like crazy yeah let's keep in mind wine tasting for me if you're new to here I do not like wine so I'm like the only one that didn't have a little bit of a buzz like leaving this wine tasting everyone else was like a little bit feeling themselves a little bit buzz and I'm like fucking like

craving an espresso martini. So I asked all the girls at the table, I'm like, who likes espresso martinis? Who likes them? And a few of the girls raised their hand. I'm like, good, because that's where we're going. That's where we're going. I'm on a mission to go get an espresso martini. So we're walking down the street.

right down to the bar, like two to three blocks away. The night before, or no, the weekend before, I got an espresso martini at this place called Lucky Duck, and it was so good, like straight alcohol. And so I was like, we're going to go there and get an espresso martini. And it woke me up, and I was fine. Like, honestly, like I'm surprised I pulled my shit together because I thought I was going to go home at 10 p.m. Yeah, we were just like chilling with all the girls, drinking like really casually, just like sitting, chatting it up. And now...

It's so fun to be in a group of girls that are texting things like, doing yoga at the park. Anyone want to come? It's like, oh my god, what? That's so wholesome and so cute. We don't have friends that do that. Now we know a bunch of girls, which is sick. Again, just meeting new people. Then we slowly went out. The group slowly dwindled. Yeah, it started with 10 and ended with 4. Slowly dwindled down, but of course we made it back to our favorite bar. Yeah.

boys met up with us yeah it took them a while though bro like

The guy that I'm talking to, I texted him. He didn't show up until 11.45. Well, okay, to be fair, he was in line at 11. No, we pulled up to the bar, and as I'm walking in, the guy I was supposed to see is walking out, is leaving. And I was like, hey, excuse me? Pardon? What? Like, it's early. Where are you going? And he was like, no, I'm coming back. And I was like, that is such bullshit, bro. Like, no, he's not. And he did. He did come back, shockingly. But, like, what's the point of leaving? I don't know. He said he had to go to, like, a birthday party. Yeah, I will never understand that.

I don't know what he came back. Like, I would never do that. Personally, I would... If it was 11 o'clock and I had to go to a party when I was already at a bar, mm-mm, sayonara, not happening. See, but one thing about him is, like, he will be out and, like, he's, like, down. Like, his friends tell him to go somewhere and, like, he will go. Yeah. Like, it's kind of crazy. I mean, I guess if I wasn't, like, having a good time where I was, I would leave. But honestly, like... As long as he came back, I was down. And then, you know...

Had another, like, fun night. Our dates got to, like, meet each other, which is funny. Yeah, they brought it up. You gotta brought it up. You gotta brought it up with the roommate's friend. Like, you gotta make sure you're doing good with, like, the roommate and their friend. Like, that's, like, cheat code. No, literally. You gotta be, like, cool. Yeah, like, if...

The thing is, it's like, I also have to check the vibe check. Like, I'll check Taylor's guys, like, vibe check. And, like, because I'm, like, a fucking crazy person. And if you don't like being around me, that's going to be a problem. That's going to be a problem. Yeah, for sure. So, like, we were just all hanging out and...

I we didn't Friday night. We didn't go to bed until like three or four in the morning I went to bed at four in the morning so I knew I wasn't staying out super late and I kind of felt bad for the guy because like he got to the bar at 11 and I left at like one so like he got there at 11 was in line to like 11 45 got in so I really only hung out with him for like an hour and like hour and a half and I was like I'm going home like I'm so sorry but like I'm going home it hit like

I think. And I was like, I'm going home on ordering an Uber. Like, nope, not, not another late night, which I know what I am is still like a late night, but I was like, I just need to go home and go to bed. So I went home and alone prep. I'm going to prep. What's the word? Preface. Preface. I went home alone. Okay. Um, I'm playing hard to get with this guy. Yeah. That's amazing for you. I'm literally not at all, but,

I just, I, I just, I've learned my lessons a little bit with the other guy that I was talking to like two weeks ago. You've just been traumatized. Yeah. Traumatized. You've been like repeatedly fucked over. Scarred. Scarred over. So it's, it, you know, somewhat, what are you looking at on your face? Why is my toe brown? I don't know.

Yeah, like you've been repeatedly traumatized. So someone really has to like get you to not think about that trauma. No. Like I don't want to like I don't want to deal with it anymore. Fuck boys. True.

so facts um but we had a great weekend and is there anything else that we like need to talk about before we get into like no i mean other than the fact that we have been enjoying our sunday park days like woke up the next morning yes we went to the park we go to zilker park the park i've never seen so many people at the park on sundays in my entire life there is it's great like a thousand people it looks like because acl's at that park it literally looks like acl's going on like there's so many people well over a thousand people at this park and it's just

all grown like adults like us like playing games like kids it's literally a bunch of adults playing like playing fetch with their dog playing spikeball playing volleyball throwing a football like painting like it's a bunch of people just having playdates like literally park playdates and guys like if you know me I'm bad at sports I'm terrible at sports I can't play sports I learned how to play spikeball

Yeah. And I can go on Amazon and buy all these things. I can keep a game of spike ball actually going and like win a game. That is huge for me. I don't play sports and now I do. And now I love spike ball. So if you ever want to meet us in Austin, Texas, look for a spike ball court on Zilker Park on Sunday. Yeah, seriously. And if you want to, if you want the smoke, yeah.

Maybe we'll play you. Yeah. If you want to smoke. But yeah, that was kind of our like weekend. It was a lot of fun. A lot of fun. Good. I don't think we'll be doing two nights out in a very long time. Like I need to I need to jump back to the one night out because it's killing my Monday and Tuesdays are like the death of me the next day. Yeah. No, it's really. No, but it's not good.

But I'm excited to get into. Yeah. I just want to talk about boys. That's what we're going to do. I'm boy crazy right now. Me too. Not even like boy crazy. Like I'm like boy, like this boy. Okay. So we're going to get in. So I made a list of notes. Did you see the note? I sent it to you. Yeah. I haven't opened it yet. Okay. So I wrote down a lot of lists, kind of like.

In order of like how to get the date to like the end of the date slash second dates. So the first thing I said like on the how to get a date because people might be like, where are you meeting these boys? You got to be active on dating apps. A lot of people hate dating apps. If you're in a city of young adult people, you should be on them. And know which one is big for your city. Like in Austin, everyone's on Hinge. Maybe where you live, everyone's on like Bumble. Like I don't know. Like there's a vibe of like everyone here is on Hinge.

Like, this app, I feel, like, you can tell. I feel like Hinge is pretty big right now, but definitely be on the right one. And, like, another thing, too, to keep in mind is, like, you don't have to be using the app and, like, DMing the guys and, like, setting up dates on the app. Like...

A good example for me is the guy that I literally went on a date with. Yes. I met him on hinge, but a year later I saw him at a party and that was the conversation starter. It was like, Oh, like, didn't we match on hinge? So like, if you're just matching with a bunch of guys on hinge and you happen to see them out, which is a lot of the time, like on the lake, like the,

There's been so many guys that I see out which was not planned and the conversation starter is, oh, did we match on Hinge? Yeah. So it's like you don't have to be like in the DMs on Hinge like, let's go.

let's go get coffee let's go go get drinks like just use the app frequently because it helps so much yeah like i went on dates with guy with a guy from our gym because it was like oh we matched on hinge yeah and then it's like that's easy right off the bat like that's a conversation you already know they're single you already know they're somewhat into you yeah match with you on hinge boom easy peasy the dates i'm going on now where it was like a match on hinge text on hinge do you want to

Go get coffee. Yeah. Which is like honestly rare. Guys don't... Initiate it. They don't initiate shit. Like they literally won't initiate a date with you, which I don't know if they're just planning to just like see you out. But I don't know why they don't because me like I'm... If you get asked on a date, go. Like...

You really should go like and that's the thing with me I used to have it actually as one of my prompts because it was like the way to ask me out is I was like literally just ask I will literally go and then like all my matches like all the people that liked me were literally like would like me and say like.

okay so like marg's thursday at so-and-so place like they pitched like a date and like they were a lot of the likes aren't um matchable for me so i didn't really go on any of those dates but they were come it was a good part like i would literally get things like want to come here on sunday like all the time yeah my i have like a similar prompt mine's like

It's like the things I love. Like I love tacos. I love espresso martinis. I love tequila and I love going to the gym. And basically every time – I can't remember what the word at the top of the prompt is, but it's basically like initiates like where are we going to do these things. So make sure you have one prompt that kind of like initiates like the date and like the type of date you want to go on. Or at least even if it's not a type of date, like conversation. So like mine on Hinge says –

You will get along if you watch New Girl or something like that. What does it say? I'll fall for you if you watch New Girl. And then after that, I said, and if you do watch it, which character are you most like? And then that is how...

Ever since I switched it to that, I'd say like 80% of guys that like me, like me and like respond to that. Like, and that's how I feel too about guys profiles. I like something that I can respond to. Yeah. Like, cause then it makes it less awkward. It's less boring. And sometimes even if I don't find you that cute.

If, oh my God, literally my like right now is someone telling me what new girl character they're most like. Even if I don't even find you that attractive, if your prompts are so engaging, I might love your personality. I might be like, oh my God, like I want to just talk to you about this because like that's funny. Yeah. So definitely be active on dating apps and then just like classic, like go out on the weekend. You can't stay home and expect to meet guys to take you on dates.

and what we said about going to random pregames like mingle in other groups of friends like if you know like if you were actively trying to meet dudes and go on dates and you have a friend that like what happened to you last weekend want to come to this pregame with my friend yes go like if you stay at home and stay in your small circle of friends forever how the hell are you gonna meet people yeah you're literally just not

Like, I know a lot of times people are always like, oh my God, like, stop searching for your boyfriend. Stop looking for him. Like, he'll fall into your arms. Bullshit. Get out there. Be social. Yeah, and even, like...

like there's definitely like levels to that because it's like yeah you might not be on hinge looking for your boyfriend the guy you're gonna marry but you need to be actively looking for men to like fucking communicate yeah because like you never know you might not vibe with the guy but what about his friend what about his friend what about his roommate like you just never know who you're gonna meet at the end of the day you might even just make friends yeah which is a good thing in itself like you literally might even just make friends um

So then I have after that, I feel like that's like the two most basic ways to get to go on dates, at least for us. If you're wondering how we meet these guys, I want to talk about nerves. So I have on here some things. One, like look at your best. Like you need to be confident in how you look and stuff, but you can't overdo it. Yeah. And don't like another thing with that is like,

Like, looking good, feeling good. Like, you need to know what you look and feel with. Don't try out a new makeup product. Don't try out, like, a new makeup look. Like, do what you're used to. Yeah. And... But don't try too hard. Like, if you're going to get coffee, don't show up in, like, a going out top. Like...

I went to someone commented on like my thing getting ready to go get coffee. They were like, oh my God, like perfect coffee date outfit. Like I was wearing like sweats, like a jacket, like makeup hair. But like, I'm not trying to. Especially too, because if you're dressing too much for a coffee date, then when you go out together, he's going to expect you to be like,

A fucking, like, extreme above that. What's the term? It's, like, under promise over deliver. Like, you need to, like, set the bar... Set the bar low. Start low. Like, look cute, whatever. But then it's, like... Oh, my God. You couldn't even tell on the coffee date that my body's fucking banging. Like, you didn't even know. No. Speaking of that, the guy that I'm talking to...

Like we were talking and he was like I want like he was like We were basically like flirting back and forth and like how like i've been hitting legs Like that's the only thing I can hit he goes he was like to be honest He's like I haven't even like seen your ass and I was like that's because i've been wearing like big jackets like sweatpants and like Jeans and stuff. So i'm like, haha, like you still don't know what it looks like But like yeah, so you need to look good and like really get that line of like comfortable What you're comfortable in what you're confident in but you can't do too much right off the bat

And then you also have to know he's nervous too. Especially think about it. For the most part, he planned this. He picked the spot. That is so much more nerve wracking because it's like, what if he picks a spot and you hate it? What if I bring her to a coffee date? She doesn't even like coffee. Yeah. Like there's so many things that he is probably way more nervous about. So just know he's nervous too.

And then you need to just accept the nerves and try your best. Like you're going to be nervous on a first date. That doesn't mean you shouldn't go. If you don't go because you're nervous, you're never going to go on a date. Yeah. Like the nerves are more in a sense of like happy nerves, exciting nerves. Like I've never been nervous where it's like, oh my God, I don't want to go. Like I can't go. Like I'm excited to go, but I'm just like freaking out about it. Like how is it going to go? Like are we going to vibe? Are we not going to vibe? Like what is the worst? At the end of the day, what's the worst that's going to happen? And when we say that big disclaimer right here,

You should never be nervous safety-wise. Go to a public place. Don't be like, I'm so nervous to show up to this random Hinge Jates apartment for the first... Taylor. Yeah, you did do that. I did do that. But like, that's weird. Yeah, looking back on it, it's a huge red flag because this guy is toxic as fuck. But like, be in a... Like...

Be safe. Like, don't be nervous because, like, you don't know if they're going to kill you. Yeah, I don't know why I did that. Oh, I also just want to also put this out there that we're always going to be speaking in terms of he because we are girls that have only experience going on dates with men. Yeah, like, it can be a girl. You can swap this for whoever you want. That's just what we're saying because that's what we...

Whatever floats your boat. Whatever is your fancy. And then for nerves on here, I have if it's like a drink date. It's like don't do this with like a coffee date. Have a drink at home first if that's going to help. Get ready with like one glass of wine. Do not get – don't show up drunk. But like if one glass of wine is going to like help you out. Curve the nerves. One drink.

Yeah. Then do that. But don't show up drunk. That will not be good. Yeah. 100%. I totally agree on that one. I have some don'ts for girls to not do. Yeah. Don'ts for some girls. I love this. This one is like for all girls. This is huge. This is hard for me. It's so... I'm going on a date today and like I want to post about it so bad. Yeah. I know. So I might. I'm going to be like...

yeah if he goes to the bathroom maybe or something but yeah first and foremost do not take pictures of your foods or drinks for instagram like if you guys are on a date and like the food shows up like don't be pulling out your phone like put on the flash don't be like wait don't touch it yet don't touch it yeah wait hold on you take a picture like that gives like if a guy were to do that me i'd be like ew ick what are you doing okay well because that's for girls only it is for girls only um but i'm even like he already knows i do instagram so maybe like

I honestly might be able to get away with it, but I still like going out for coffee and not taking a picture of it was like, God, I feel like it was so hard. It was a new coffee shop. I felt like I was committing a crime. I was like, I need to show the girl he's in the coffee shop about literally. So just don't do that. Don't don't don't like take a selfie. No.

That's super weird. And then just being on your phone in general. Yeah. Unless the exception is if like you're going to show them something like I'm super huge. I'm such a such a like a visual person. So like the other day on my coffee date, like I just kept pulling up photos of my camera roll. Like we were talking about my brothers. So I'd pull up photos of my brothers. I would show we're talking about macro. Let's see picture macro. I'm gonna show you a picture macro. But like that's the only exception to be on your phone. Right. Don't be talking like scrolling. Yeah. Don't do it. That's just.

not good and like i'm addicted to my phone i don't do it like yeah it's really not that hard and if if you are literally dying to look at your phone the date's probably not going well because i didn't really have the desire i was at coffee for two hours yeah same i didn't scroll on my phone i mean if he went to the bathroom maybe i was like bored but like you have no like while you're talking if you're like wow i would rather be scrolling on instagram then the date is

Not going. Yeah. Another thing is put your phone on. Do not disturb. Face down. You know what? You know what? This is funny too that I noticed. So I was texting the guy that I was going on my first date with to go get coffee this weekend. And as I'm texting him, I said walking over. And then as I said walking over, you know, when you get the notification phone is on and do not disturb.

He put his phone on do not disturb as I was walking over. And I was like, this is such a green flag. Like I'm walking over there right now and he's putting his phone on do not disturb because he wants to put his phone down. He doesn't want like any distractions. Like that's a green flag. Yeah, that's actually really cute. I know. I liked it a lot. I was like, that's really cute. So I have on here next talking too much about your ex for no reason. And sometimes past dating and stuff is conversation. Yeah. Because it's relatable. Like sometimes it's funny. I mean, sometimes like if I'm ever talking about an ex,

it would never be my most recent ex i'm talking about my ex when i was 15 like i'm talking about something funny yeah because like the pitbull story is hilarious and it's a great conversation people love it yeah like the pitbull story like go like because people are like oh you're from miami like blah blah blah and half the people are oh like a big thing people say is like oh my god you're from miami like oh my god like pitbull i'm like you want to know something so funny but it's like that's my ex when i was 15 that is so irrelevant like that does not matter i would never be like do you want to hear about my ex that we broke up like

Five months ago? No. Yeah. Like, no. If the conversation, like, ends up leading... Like, if you've been talking forever and you've already talked about so many things, like...

This is something that I do. Like, I will ask about, like, their past dating history. Like, I will ask. Like, just for the gist. Like, what is your past dating history? Like, did you just get out of a relationship? Were you engaged last month? Like, were you engaged? You never know. Some people are out here being married. Have you never been in a relationship? Like, I need to know these things because it really helps me know, like, the type of guy that they are when it comes to dating. Yeah.

like if they've never been in a relationship like like that's something you got to be a little bit aware of for me personally like i think it's good when the guys like been in a relationship before because they kind of know how to treat a girl they know like what to do whatever um but like yeah the guy that i like previously talked to like he was in the same boat as me like he had been single for like four years like myself and then like was in a relationship for like three to four years so i'm like okay so like we're on the same page here yeah

um and then after that i have love bombing like keep it to yourself like don't be all like i feel like guys do this more but like i don't know i guess you girls shouldn't do it either like no with the like right away like like i really like you like i don't know keep it to yourself yeah be low-key it's fine like he doesn't need to kiss you goodbye like yeah no well i mean he can if if you really want to but like i just i'm not kissing on the first date i mean if it like

I kind of have that. We'll talk about that at the end. A coffee, a sober coffee date? No, not happening. If it's like drinks. Sober drinks, maybe. If it's drinks, like maybe. Sober coffee date, no. Like, I mean, I guess unless it was the best fucking date of your life. Yeah. But that's, I would say sober coffee date, no. He, we've gone on like a couple dates. He's never kissed me goodbye. Yeah. It's a bit much. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

And then I have green flags for him because I feel like the red flags are – we actually just did an Instagram post about some icks. Yeah. So if you want to hear those, we can even read them off maybe. Go look at the Instagram. Go look at the Instagram. I wrote green flags because, you know, we talk so much about red flags and I want to throw some positivity. Chivalry opens the car door for you. If you're walking on the sidewalk, if he stands closest to the street, like those little things, huge for me. Yeah.

This guy has like opened the car door for me like every single time and I'm like, oh my god, like wait, that's so nice. Like and like because guys don't really do that kind of stuff. No, they don't. And like little things like if we walk on a sidewalk, sometimes I will purposely try to maneuver myself to be the one closest to the street and like nothing makes me happier than a guy like switching spots with me. I love that. Is that like your little test?

Kind of. Like, I just... I just like it. Like, I like a guy treating me like a fucking princess and I literally don't care. Like, that... Like, I just like it. I think it's... I just think it's nice and I don't know about it. I think it's huge. And, like, I like to make sure to, like, let them know I notice. Like, I'll say something. Like, making a little comment. Yeah, like, I said something about him, like, opening the door for me because, like, I noticed. Yeah. Next one is...

pay like paying for the bill paying for whatever if they ask you out like I think that's huge if they're asking you out if they're the one initiating the date they should probably be the one paying now in situations like could you be like oh like I'll split it with you like whatever and like test the waters with that I think they should pay regardless but I mean I guess like to each their own but like I think I've been in dilemmas though where I've like offered to pay and like I end up paying

and it's like what the fuck see my go see what i've been doing is like we were out for drinks and like he bought a lot of our drinks so we went to the other bar it's like when we met up with you guys at that other bar like i paid for a round of drinks yeah because like he just like you know what i mean yeah like he just bought me like four rounds of drinks like okay like i'll i'll buy like the next like two like just because it's not i don't know like it's not like that anymore like i don't care i don't need you to be paying for my shit i'm all right um

But then he even made a comment about it, like, because I was like, no, I'll get it. And he was like, no, I asked you. I asked you out to drinks. I was like, OK, period. Like, fair. Very long time ago when I was talking to this guy back in my hometown, we went out to we went out to get drinks and get some cheese boards in Southie. And I just like was starting to pull out my wallet and I go, do you want me to like pay for that? Like, I don't mind paying for it.

And he literally dead ass looks at me in the eyes and goes, oh, yeah, like if you don't mind, like, yeah, sure. And like in my head, I'm like, damn, like I really wasn't expecting him to be like, yeah, like pay for it. And I didn't pay for it. It was like 100 bucks for like literally what we both got one drink and then a cheese board. That's it. Yeah. I was like, I just think like and I know it's like old school and part of me isn't old school and traditional at all. But part of me is like.

I like the like man is a provider energy. Like even though I can provide for myself, like I like you taking me out and putting in the effort to like

make me feel important yeah and teach their own with their opinions on that i guess but yeah some girls are very like i will always pay because i don't like to owe a man anything yeah which i get if you if you feel that vibe like you're not clicking but then like i said like for me it's one of those things that it's like especially if you're just like at a bar getting drinks it's really easy for you to just like take the next round like do little things like that i feel like is easy or little things like we

We were Ubering and leaving and like his Uber like wasn't working and I was like, I'll just get it. And he was like, I'll Venmo you for that. I was like, no, I'll pay for the Uber. Like, like no. Because I also don't think as a girl, like if he was like, I'll Venmo you for that. Like I think if you're the girl and you're like, oh yeah, like Venmo me for that. That's weird. Yeah. Like, no.

And then I have just like text you again within a couple hours of leaving. Oh my God. Like that is like so huge. Like I absolutely love like getting a text from the guy. It just like solidifies that they had a good time too. Yeah. Like the other day on my coffee date, he literally texted me 10 minutes after leaving saying,

And was like I had so much fun like I want to see you again soon and then he sends another text and goes you're so fine lol and I'm like Cause like you get so when you're when you went to first date with someone like you get so in your head as I'm like do they actually have fun like I vibes like did they vibe and if they text you like

like within 24 hours after I feel because like sometimes it's like night and then the morning will roll around yeah text you but like in my situation it was a coffee date so like we had a whole day ahead of us so like if they text after like that really solidifies that they were really into the date they had a good time and they want to see you again and I think that's huge for the program and I think most of time if they do want to see you again they'll say it yeah my coffee date was very like

Text me what you're doing later. Yeah. Like right off the bat. My favorite thing I've realized in a newly being a person that's like newly going on first dates. I love a hey, I had fun. But I also love I think my more is let's say there was one thing you talked about on the first date. Finding a way to like bring it up. Like let's say you were

I don't know, talking about something, trying to, like, figure something out, like, you weren't sure. Like, if an hour later he's like, oh, by the way, I just found out, like, blah, blah, blah. Like, about, like, something you were talking about. It's almost, like, continuing the conversation. And also showing, like, oh, like, he was paying attention, like, actually interested to what we were talking about. Yeah. Like, and being like, oh, by the way, like, just found out this. Or, like, maybe you were talking about how you want to, like...

Go do a certain thing and he's like, I don't know bringing up something that you talked about and like texting you about it I want to give like specific examples, but I feel like I don't want to say Oh, this is fun. Can I say another green flag? Yeah This is like huge and like I don't know if a lot of people notice that or like not a lot of people notice this or like Mention this and like huge green flags is like even red flags like this go either way is

allowing the conversation to be like 50 50 like i'm you're not that like i'm like that's one thing i noticed like if i feel like i'm only asking questions and they're not asking questions back and like i'm like i it's like an interview like i am literally asking so many questions about like that person like but if they're not doing it back to me i'm like

See. Like, what the fuck? Like, I'm asking so many questions. Like, I'm getting so involved in, like, what I want to know about you. Like, what do you want to know about me? Yeah. So I had, like, the opposite. But we were talking after and he was asking me, like, what's your biggest, like, insecurity? And, like, we were talking about not, like, more so physical but, like, a personality-wise insecurity. And I told him. I was like, mine is honestly, like, I always grew up, like, I'm not very talkative. Now I'm better with social media and stuff. But I'm naturally a shy person. I don't talk a lot. Like.

Like if i'm in a room full of people i'm not normally the loudest like I said now i'm definitely better but like I grew up like that I grew up being like the quiet one So I literally said i'm like I get so in my head leaving a date that like I try so hard not to be quiet that I feel like i'm talking too much and not like

But he was like, no, you didn't do that. And I was like, okay, well, that's how I felt in my head because I feel like I'm trying to overcompensate to make sure I'm not awkward and quiet. So I'm like trying to talk a lot and then I leave and I'm like,

Fuck bitch I think you talk too much Like I think you tried so hard not to be quiet And like you talk too much But he said I didn't do that And he's asked me out again so I think I'm good So the coffee date I went on this past weekend We were there for like three hours So we sat down for coffee for like two And then we walked around for like an hour But like one thing I noticed that made me realize That I'm like really good at this when it comes to dates Is like I literally was like asking him a question And I'm like alright so like I have a good question for you Like I literally said this like quote for quote Alright I have a good question for you like What's the favorite place you've ever traveled to?

And he like sat back and like thought about it. He was like, he was like, fuck, like I've never been like asked these types of questions on like a date before. Like, like you're really hitting me with like tough questions. And I was like, like I like to interview. You know what he asked me? What? He was like, if you could have one, like, like any type of like exotic animal as a pet, like what would it be?

Yeah. Like if it like didn't matter. And then we're just like talking about like random shit about like animals and it's like random ass crap. But like it's interesting. It's fun. Yeah. It's interesting. Like you like to know you nitpick someone's brain. It's like it's fun. And that's actually a good question for me because I actually like

love elephants and like collect elephants and it's like boom conversation started yeah so like huge red flag if he's not like asking you questions and it's like all about him all about everything that like he's done in his life like where he's from his family like if he doesn't ask you or even like in the simplest way being like what about yourself like that's what i try to do i like i have a bunch of siblings like how about yourself i try to redirect everything because like i'm oh like i mean like i just had to get in my head about talking too much so i just try to like

Yeah. Direct every question. But I have a date tonight. I'm going to be better about it tonight. That's my goal. Yeah. Even like I said, he said I didn't do that. But like, I don't know. And then like on my coffee date, like me and him were like very on the same page when it came to that. Like we were both like asking like questions back and forth.

And, like, he at one point just goes, I'm so sorry for all the questions. I go, no, like, same. Like, I'm asking you so many questions right now. But, like, that's just, like, what made the date so fun is, like, I learned so many random fun things. Yeah. It wasn't boring conversations. On my other first dates in the past, I feel like conversation, like, did flow really easily, too. I just try to be so open. I feel like I talk on dates the way I talk on this show. Like, I...

I try to be so talkative and like, I'll just talk about like anything. And I try to be, I try to be like decisive, like kind of like if like, let's say you're somewhere it's like, um, like one time after a date, we just like hung out and like, we wanted to put on TV, like at like his place. And I was just like, Oh my God, like, do you want to watch this? Like my favorite show, no season came out. Like, I don't know, just being decisive and being like, I like the show. We should watch it. Like, and not being like awkward, like don't know what to say. Like just being like,

kind of decisive and like no i'll ask this like i'll do this like i will like just straight up tell you things straight to the point and like part of that's just because i got good at doing that on a podcast but like i don't know i try not to be awkward or quiet as much as possible and talking yeah you didn't put this on here but i do want to talk about this i know we already talked about it on tiktok but how to get out of a date like it's not going well and

And like this is huge for the program. You need to have like a backup plan when it comes to a first date if it's not going well. Yeah, it could be fake. It could be real. It could be fake, real. It doesn't matter. It could be fake, but it could end up being real. Right. Like if that makes sense. So one thing that I have always done when it comes to dates is like showing up to the date saying and acting like I have a plan after the date. Yeah. So that way like –

if time is passing and you've been on this date for way too long and you want to get out of there, you're like, okay, well, I have to get to this event or I have to get to this hangout with some friends so that way he knows he can't steal you for the day. Yeah, perfect example. I'll just give a real-life example. I had drinks at like 8. Hey, by the way, just so you know, around like 10, I'm going to want to meet up. I'm going to go meet up with my friends. And then it's like, he ended up coming with, he could have not came with, he could have dipped. Like, easy way out. Even on like...

dates where there's no plans. Like I've literally been like, yeah, I think I'm doing something around like three. No, I wasn't. Yeah. Nothing to do. But like you just just put it out there. And then if it's going so well, you could be like, I'm going to cancel. Yeah. You just you just like literally make it the fuck up. But say so then you don't have to do the whole like tell your friend, call me and then like fake a phone call. No, literally right off the bat. Even when they're texting you, they're like, hey, want to get lunch at one?

Yeah, sounds good. Like, I'll just have to be out around, like, 2.30. Yeah. I've had two different scenarios. So, one, I met up with the guy from Hinge. First date, literally, like, right away, I knew we were not going to vibe because I showed up and I was taller than him. Like, he literally catfished his height on Hinge and, like...

That's like a really big thing for me. Like I will not date a guy that's shorter than me. It's just not happening. So whatever. I gave the date a chance. We were having great conversations. I was there for like two hours, but I just knew I didn't want anything after that. So before the date, I had let him know that

It was a Friday night. We were getting drinks and I had let him know that my friends were down the street at another bar getting drinks and that I was going to meet up with them after the drinks. Yeah. So we got outside and I, um,

Like hugged him and I was like it was so nice to meet you like i'm gonna head down the street And i'm gonna go get like drinks with my friends like i'll let you know what i'm doing for the rest of the night He goes, okay, like no worries like that's fine So that's how I got out of my date because if not we were getting drinks like we could have just hopped to the next bar In the next bar in the next bar and like I didn't want to do that like I wanted to leave like Yeah, was it my vibe? Yeah, because drinks are hard for an ending Because like at coffee you get one coffee. You don't you don't order like

four coffees like you get the coffee you drink it dinner you get the food the food's gone but drinks you could get like 10 drinks in a sitting if you wanted to like drinks could go on for hours so it's definitely hard to end drinks um but yeah i don't know and then i have after this talking about like are you gonna sleep with them yeah i'm supposed to like kissing them too like any are you gonna be like physical with them i went on one drink date

A couple months ago. And he kissed me when we left. And it was, like, smooth, so it's whatever. Like, if it's gonna be smooth and cool, I'll take it. Like, if it's gonna be fucking weird. I mean, it's just a kiss. It's just a kiss. Like, whatever. Especially, like, the way we were on the date. We were already getting drinks, which obviously, like, duh. And we were, like, the place was, like, kind of couchy.

So it was like comfortable like sitting with each other. We weren't like cuddling at this bar. That's not what I mean. But it was like very relaxed, very like that. So it wasn't – it was smooth with it. Like if it's smooth and it's cool, that's fine. But I don't necessarily like that because I like a little bit of buildup.

I totally forgot about that one date that I went on with our guy friend to that really fancy rooftop place. Yes, you did totally forget that. I literally... So guys, I wrote like a list of all the first dates I've been on. That's a perfect kissing example. No, this is like the worst kissing example. Like why did this happen? It shouldn't have happened. So first and foremost, New Year's Eve, I made it very clear. So this guy has been trying and like trying to finesse like...

And I was like, I'm not vibing with it. I just, I don't want it. So I had to have Taylor tell him that like, we can be like hookup buddies and that's it. We've never hooked up. But like, I just said like, tell him that. I was just like, she's not trying to like date you. I'm like not trying to have a boyfriend. Like not, well I am, but like not with him.

Didn't want to hurt his feelings. So anyway, we end up going on like a first date. And I thought we were just going to get drinks like his friends hanging out. We pull up to this place. It is like a five star. You're like missing the kissing part. What? Didn't he like kiss you when you said hello? Didn't he like kiss you hello and goodbye? No. Are you sure? I'm pretty sure you said like he kissed you hello and goodbye. No, he just opened the door for me. Oh. So, okay. Okay.

whatever it's a five-star like restaurant and i'm like i thought we were just gonna get drinks so we're we're we i'm like i already ate dinner like it's like 8 30 and we're like sitting down for like a dinner reservation i already ate dinner so we're like sitting down at this fancy ass restaurant and he looks at me he goes i'm sorry like i thought we were just i got a reservation for the bar i was like a reservation for the bar like what

So we're sitting at this restaurant. We're getting a bunch of appetizers. Like he's hungry. I'm not hungry. So I'm like, just order a bunch of appetizers. I'm not eating it though. Like, so he was buying a bunch of appetizers. Anyway, fast forward to the end of the night. We're like walking out and I wanted to go check out the, the, cause it was like overlook the city. It was like a gorgeous view. I'm like, let's go out there. We go out there and I'm looking and I'm taking photos of like the view and I turned to like go leave. And he, he just grabs me and goes, I've been wanting to do this all night. That's insane.

I didn't want to kiss me after. And I was like, exactly what he said to me. We just start locking, locking lips, locking lips. And I'm like, Oh my God, this is not really happening right now. Like the, the night already started off bad. Like I told you, I just wanted to be friends. You took me to a five-star restaurant. It's eight 30 at night. We're grabbing like dinner. Like what is going on? And he kisses me, whatever.

And then we get in the car. We're driving back. And then again, he walks me up to my front door and kisses me again at the front door. And I'm like, this is not really happening. Is it right now? Like, this is not happening.

So we kiss again. He thought he was going to be let inside. Like, he thought he was coming inside. And I go, no, no, no. Thank you so much. Like, I'll see you tomorrow. But, like, it was, like, literally the worst thing ever. Like, guys sometimes just don't understand the vibe. Yeah. Like, I thought I made it very clear. Well, now I, like, I actually want to go to that place and see what the view looks like. It's gorgeous. But, like, gosh. Like... So here's my thing with a kiss. If we end up out and about together, like, in the bars...

Guys, like I love making out with a dude in a bar. Call it gross. Call it PDA. I don't care. I'll never stop. I love making out with a dude in a bar because get this. If I'm going to like leave with you, I need to at least know if like you're a good kisser. Like what if it's super awkward? Then I'm not going. So I love making out with a dude in a bar. It's one of my favorite pastimes. It's a hobby of mine.

But I think it's just nice to see if they're a good kisser first before it goes anywhere else. Yeah. And like what their vibe is. So I will definitely make out with a dude in a bar if we've like already know each other, already gone on a date and now we're like out and about together. Because that's a really easy way if you're not sure if like a second sit down date is the vibe. Seeing each other out at a bar is so easy. And then it comes to like if you are out at a bar, I feel like that's –

I feel like sleeping with someone normally, like, is if you go out to, like, a bar. Yeah. Like, that would be... Yeah. And to me, all I wrote for this, like, if the vibe is there, don't overthink it. Like, it's not that fucking serious. If the vibe's there, 100%. If the vibe is there and you want to, there's no reason to get into your head. Like, if it's... If that's what it is, then, like, just do it. Like, you're not a slut. You're not a hoe. It's not bad. Like, I'm always... Do whatever the hell you want. And if the vibe's not there, don't do it. Like, and make sure, like...

If you don't want to do it, a huge green flag is how a guy reacts to that. And or red flag is how a guy reacts to that. That is like literally will show you right then and there if he's worth your time, depending on the reaction you get from that. But if you want to just fucking do like do whatever the fuck you want. I'm 50-50 with that. Like it's either I'm like playing so hard to get with a guy that I really like or like I'm drunk. I'm out. Like I'll go home with you. But like.

It goes either way. Like, the guy I'm talking to right now, like, I'm taking it so fucking slow. We haven't even kissed. But, like, there will be other situations with guys. Yeah, because you've only seen him twice. Yeah. No, this is two weekends in a row. That's true, but that one time wasn't, like, everyone's there, and, like, you barely talked to him. Yeah.

Talked a little bit. I just wasn't making out with somebody else. Yeah, you barely talked to him that night. I saw him for like two seconds. But yeah, so it just like really depends on the guy. Okay, but also you're taking it slow, but also it's like it's kind of on him to like make the move. You know what I mean? 100. Like you haven't kissed him yet, but like if he like wanted to, he could have kissed you. Yeah. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. Like he could have. Like 100.

It's not like you were going to be like, no. The other night, Taylor was trying so hard for him to come home with me. Listen, I'm just like a matchmaker. All right, I'm not a fucking like hoe by any means. Like my body count is literally under 25 people. Like since I've moved to Austin, like I have not hooked up with a lot of people at all. And so Friday night, I actually, you know, went home with someone, like a friend of mine, like whatever, like not like a friend, friend, like, but like someone I knew already. And then the next night we went out and this is when like, this was after like,

Like, anyways. But moral of the story is, like, I did not want to hook up with this guy because I had already hooked up with someone. Like, that's not something I really felt comfortable doing. So Taylor's over here, like...

I'm leaving. I'm ordering my Uber. Listen, I at least just wanted him to hang out with me for the night. That wasn't going to happen. Self-control, it was not going to happen. You're telling me that guy was going to come over and I was not going to... Listen, if I was having fun with a boy, there's nothing more that I want in my whole entire life than for us to both be having fun. Yeah. So...

And this guy, like, we vibe. He's cool. I told Sam, like, we're better... Like, I'm literally better friends with him than she is. Like, we're so tight. So, like, he's homie. So... Yeah. Because he's, like, from where I'm from. So, you know, like, we vibe. But, um...

Yeah. So she... I'm ordering my Uber. My head's down in my form. And I was like, follow her. She's like, follow him out. Follow her out. Follow her out. And he's like, okay, sure. Like, I'll follow her out. Yeah, great. And I'm like leaving and he like grabs my hand and like we're holding hands walking out and I'm like,

I didn't have service in the bar, so the Uber wasn't working. So when we got outside, that's when I ordered the Uber. I was like, yeah, I'm going home. I had such a late night last night, whatever. He goes, totally fair. I totally get that. I was like, I'm so... I was apologizing. Why was I apologizing? I think my goal this weekend is to sleep by myself. Great. I love that for you. My goal is to kiss this boy. Yeah.

Yeah. But overall, I just think first dates aren't as crazy. I was so nervous for them because I haven't like dated as an adult until the last like six months. And like it's fun. Like it's genuinely fun. At the end of the day, it's funny stories. Like even if it's bad, it's funny. And at the end of the day, you can laugh about it with your friends. Yeah.

Yeah, I don't even know what else to say. I feel like we covered so much. We covered so much. I feel like we should maybe read a story or two. Yeah. Do you have them on your phone? I can try to get it. Yeah, we did like a little submission thing like, tell me your first date stories because we want to know. Just so we can chit chat and have so much fun.

No, stop. Kissing is a make or break. It really is. That's why I like to make out in a bar. No, like it's a real big make or break. Like there was this one guy that I made out with and he used no...

No tongue at all. Like, it was, like, literally, like, little, like, lizard, like, oh, no, pecs. I was, like, what is going on? Like, use your tongue a little bit. One of mine in high school, I, like, this was the first time I just, like, went over to a random boy's house, like, at night. It was in high school. I've only ever done that, like, once, but whatever. I mean, being 16, being, like, a fucking skank. Anyways, like, we were making out, and, like, he couldn't get, like, we couldn't, like, match rhythm. No. Like, do you know what I'm saying? Like, the...

And normally just like you get it. Like the rhythms were not the time. It was not like just clicking or like over aggressive with the tongue. Like his tongue is like in my throat. Like no happy medium.

yeah um that's why like i said i will not go home with you unless i can't believe he was biting her okay but like i like that but only a little bit yeah but like aggressive where it was hurt and she was bruised like okay uh first date story i was 18 at the time so we're both still living at home me and this guy went on a walk through the park another park walk we went to get dinner after and he goes to pay and he's like oh shit i don't know where my wallet is so i had to pay and then he

Turns out he dropped his wallet on the trail at the park. Someone returned it to his house, so we had to go back and get it. More of the story is I met his parents after the first date. That's funny. That is funny.

How awkward. Yeah. Here's the thing too. With dating in Austin, now that my family is across the country, it's going to be so hard for my family to meet my new future boyfriend. If I brought someone to meet my family, that's huge. You're flying across the country. See, the thing is with me and my ex-boyfriend, his mom was the principal of my high school. So I actually knew her before I knew him for like three years. So that's funny.

Um, went on a first date with a guy. He got too drunk and pissed the bed the same night. Ew. No. Decided to give him a second chance the next night. He got too drunk and pissed the bed again. Wait, hold on. This seems like a reoccurring thing. Like, pissing the bed? The thing is, men really be doing that. I have two brothers. Men be peeing. No, I have two brothers. The amount of times they've, like, drunk peed, like, not in the toilet. Why do men not know how to go to the bathroom?

It's disgusting. Okay, I'm going to read. There's three more. I'm just going to quickly read them all. We'll just do them all. Let's do a bad first date story. So this one time I met up with a guy from Bumble at a cute coffee place in downtown. He told me 15 minutes in that I would not be marriage material.

He would feel ashamed bringing me home to meet his family. Keep in mind, I mentioned nothing about marriage or meeting his family since this was the first date. So it was brought up so randomly because I was wearing ripped jeans to showing too much skin, etc. I left the day early by pulling the classic. I totally forgot I have plans and ended up meeting my family at a restaurant right next door to the pot. The coffee day, you can guess no second date was planned.

as you should queen that's like some queen shit like take control take initiative don't feel like you have to be stuck there and like going through that shit fuck that yeah um i think this is the last one snuck into this guy's house at 2 a.m with his whole family home and now we've been dating for two years

queen queen get get that get that manse we didn't really get a lot of submissions because we literally i posted that an hour ago right before we started podcasting so next time we do like submissions for stuff i will make sure that i post it 24 hours in advance yeah but i feel like it's just like that was enough like a little a little four yeah um easy peasy but that's kind of like our rundown on first dates yeah um

I'm so excited to keep you guys updated on our little boy journey. Yeah, I have a date tonight. We really like these boys. I don't really text people 24-7, and this man has been texting me first all the time. So this is, now that it's the end of the podcast, if they were listening, they're definitely not listening anymore. Yeah, 100%. Sam is on the couch last night looking at her phone. I'm going to imitate on YouTube. She's like this.

I'm just like smirking at my phone. And I was like, are you texting him? And she like looks at me and just laughs. I'm like, you are literally laying there. Like, so funny. But I, yeah, I'm going on a date tonight. And you know what it is? It's really fun having someone. I've never had someone really put so much like really nice effort into like hanging out with me. So it's like weird. Yeah.

It's like, why are you being nice to me? Aren't guys supposed to be assholes? Why are you being nice? Most of the guys I've been talking to recently... I'm waiting for him to be an asshole. Yeah, most of the guys I've been talking to recently have been assholes. Like, I've had this one guy that I've gone on, like, five or six dates with. And it's always, like, shitty dates or, like, shitty times together. Like, not, like, shitty. Like, I'm having fun at the times, but it's, like, on the weekend. It's when we're drinking. It's, like, sliding through Instagram DMs. Which, I just want to give a big preface...

this man's like 30 yeah 30 so acting like this if you're like 21 and you're like i do that live it up girlfriend 30 and you're only hitting me up on instagram in the dms please and like only one you are grown you're a grown-ass but you could have a kid like you're a grown-ass man like yeah no um but yeah i'm just like waiting for him to like be an asshole because like i i'm like what the fuck yeah

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