GIRL TALK PART 2 | Cheating Friends, Lack of Sex Drive, How To Be More Confident
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Hello guys, welcome back to another episode. I'm Taylor and I'm Sam and we are so excited to have you along for our part two of girl talk Yes, girl talk just like I was just so well like who doesn't love girl talk It's truly one of my favorite things to do and we had so many submissions that we didn't want to stop at one So we're doing a little part two today for you all the good stuff, you know, we love to overshare on the internet So if you ask us something

You're going to get a for real answer. It's not going to be a half-assed answer. It's not going to be a fake answer. If you're going to ask your real friends and sometimes they're like, I don't really know if I want to give you the honest truth because you're my friend. Don't worry. We're here. We're your friends, but we're going to give the honest truth. Yeah, because one, if you want advice, your life doesn't affect me at all, so I might as well just tell you the truth about what I think you should do. It doesn't better me at all to lie to you. And then...

it's kind of like we're so open to share whatever we want because it's like we're just in a room alone so it feels like i can just tell secrets like i'm talking just to you secrets but realistically it's for all of you yeah but i'm just in a room here with you in our home i know it's comfortable i can just comfortable want

but before we do that we need to catch up baby we do need to catch up last week was so just off for me i was so tired and i don't even know what phase of my cycle i'm in if that's happening because i'm tracking it but what i'm using to track takes a while to adjust to you um it obviously won't know exactly off the bat and i'm

I don't know. I like don't know what phase of my cycle I'm in. I think it's like your luteal phase is what I'm in right now. And that's when you're all tired and stuff, which would make sense, which would be right on track for that.

And then I had a weird sore throat at the end of the week too. So I don't know how I didn't get more sick. I don't know. Maybe I just like took the right things. My sore throat was so bad on Friday. I was truly prepared to be on my deathbed all weekend. And luckily it went away by...

The disgrace of the universe. So happy it went away. But so I was so tired. And then I thought, OK, it's just because I'm getting sick. But then I didn't get sick. So I don't know. My body was just like feeling like all I wanted to do was sleep last week. And it didn't help that it was raining. Yeah. I don't know if I mentioned this last week to you guys, but like my period was late, which we recorded about seven days ago. And my period was late.

about eight and a half nine days late because it was like at the end of the day so I like had been like just super emotional and like just like groungy like like I don't want to do anything like that has been my mood all week and I was freaking out because I took like six pregnancy tests because I'm like fuck like

Nine days late? That's a long-ass time because last month was the first time of this entire time that I've been off birth control since what was last June. So we're going to be coming up on a year soon. No, it was... Or July. August. Oh, okay. August. So this is my... Last month was my first...

period and I got it like when I was supposed to. So I was like, word sick, like, like, I'm going to be getting my period now like regularly. No, I was nine days late. And it hit me like a fucking wall. And I'm still dealing with it. Like I'm day three on my period. And I took I think like four or five pregnancy tests. And you obviously know like any girl that like as a late period or like as experienced with like pregnancy tests, like

It just causes you to be more stressed than you already are. Yeah. So like, which doesn't help the scenario. Like when you have a late period, like you're supposed to be not stressed because the more stressed you are, the more backed up it's going to get. Literally. So I'm like freaking out, whatever. But then I get it. And I was like that day when I got my period, I was just in my feels so down bad that

But then I got it, and I was like, okay, like, now it makes sense why you were so down bad in your feels. But, yeah, this whole week, I've been relying on, like, two cups of coffee a day. And, like, I'm not, like, typically, like... Like, I'll have on some days, like, two cups of coffee. But, like, I'm doing it more because, like, it tastes good. But, like, this past week, I've been doing it because, like, you need it. I'm...

So tired. Yeah, I feel like I can feel the phases of my cycle more. Obviously, I'm trying to use the app I'm using to confirm it for me, but I think I know I was getting cramps when I was ovulating. I right now feel so lethargic. I feel like I can tell, like I can feel everything. And not gonna lie, I fucking hate it. Like there's... Oh, I hate it too. There's something...

About the ease of, wow, I went my whole life. Not worrying. I didn't feel... I had some PMS. We'll get through it, though. We'll get through it. But feeling the direct...

Oh, I feel like shit. Oh, I'm on my period. Like, cause right before my period is when I feel the worst. And then on my period, I'm still kind of like, eh, but once it's like toward the end of my period, I feel fine. So like end of my period, then the next few days I feel great. I work like crazy. I'm up early. Like I'm my best self. And then I'm ovulating and I'm

I'm like still alright but I have cramps and then boom I'm about to feel like shit. Yeah. And it's like there's nothing I can do to stop it. I feel like we'll get through it. It's just like the whole kind of getting used to it and obviously regulating the hormones like it's fucking it's so damn bad. It's so bad. And you know what's really weird is like so obviously your girl got her boobs done three months ago and like I haven't really had like the whole like tender boobs symptom of periods yet. Yeah.

And, like, now, like, I am, and I'm, like... It's such a weird feeling, because I'm, like, wait, am I, like... Like, are my boobs, like...

I don't know. When I got my boobs done, I lost kind of feeling in my nipples a little bit for a little while. And then now, around this time of my cycle, my boobs are so tender that it kind of feels like the same thing. And I'm like, wait, what's going on here? It's such a weird feeling. Yeah, I don't really get that symptom. I don't know if it's just also a mix of the nerves that were cut through when I had surgery and then my hormones bounced back.

balancing. I don't know. It's weird, but that's a big symptom of mine now and my cramps. I just wish to feel normal. And I wonder though, since it's hard for us to tell because we don't really know what normal is for us because we just know birth control versus not birth control.

Is this how just women feel? Like you just go through the phases and they all suck all the time? Or is it sucking more than normal right now? I don't know. I don't know. Because last month I was fine. I'm just a hormonal wench. For real. Like, I'm so unwell. Yeah. I'm so unwell. I'm just...

I need to like pair this up with the weekend though because like the reason I was so down bad and so emotional on Monday and Tuesday had a big role of like what happened for the weekend.

So like, do you want to get into the weekend real quick? Yeah, we can talk about the weekend because I feel like I didn't do anything during the week other than lay around and be a fucking slob. And rot. No, literally. I didn't go to the gym for four days in a row. Yeah, so I didn't really. I haven't been to the gym. That's my week this week is not really the gym. I'm just being a piece of fucking shit. Shit.

What did we do on Friday? But today I curled my hair and put makeup on and we're back. Okay. Well, Friday. No, we did a cookout on Thursday. Oh my God. We did a cookout on Thursday with our friends and it was so much fun. It was so much fun. First of all, the food was...

12 out of 10. I'm going to try to make it tonight. Seth's an amazing cook. I'm going to try to make it tonight. Like, when Seth finds, like, a girlfriend, he's going to treat her right. If you live in Austin, Texas, and you want a man that's, like, really going to treat you right, hit us up. We have, um...

guy friends we have some i'm not gonna say the other ones like i'm not gonna say they'd all treat you right they'd be fun to maybe go out with but i'm not gonna give any promises on their boyfriend abilities but i think that's what you're right yeah 110 he's such a dad yeah like we were all like kind of just like fucking around listening to music and like

just doing things like playing in the backyard with mac and stuff and he's just over there like cutting up every vegetable like slapping on the stuff on the grill i've never seen a man cut a bell pepper so good yeah or a person for that matter it was giving food network i was like okay period like knife skills like they're perfectly even i was like oh my god like that's hot he has what is it called the

Blackstone? Yeah, Blackstone Grill. Yeah, it's an off-brand Blackstone. Yeah, off-brand because you know... Because you know, we're on a budget. Yeah, we're on a budget. Early 20s, come on, man. So he has one of those and he was cooking up the fajitas for us. The boys got the beef fajitas. We had the shrimp fajitas. And they were bomb. We went to Trader Joe's and got all the groceries and then everyone else came over. And this was the first time in like...

Like, honestly, first time ever that Sneaky Link had been, like, in a environment with me sober. So, like, I have to give him an applaud on that one.

Because he's warming up to me. So that was exciting. Yay. The bar is in hell. Yeah, I know. The bar is fucking in hell. Let's just... I want to make one thing clear. He had a girlfriend like a few months ago. So like I understand if he's like emotionally unavailable right now. Like I get it. But like I'm still having fucking fun, okay? Anyways, so...

We ended up playing photo roulette, which was really fun. So fun. What a fun thing to fucking do. But it inspired me to delete a lot of photos off my phone. I went into playing that photo roulette game with 8,000 photos, and now my phone has, I think, 4,000 photos. See, I have 11,000, which I used to have almost 20. Yeah, you had 20 when I met you. I was like, what the fuck? So now I have 11. We're doing great.

Also, I just want to point out if I'm talking at a weird speed or like taking long pauses, I'm trying to say like less.

So if the cadence of my speech is weird and I'm taking pauses, that's why. It's because I'm trying to be mindful for you guys. Just putting that out there. But I had so many pictures and I got to 11,000 by deleting them on planes. That's what I do on the plane. Yeah. I will leave every single plane ride I go on with

at least 3,000 less pictures than when I started. Yeah. So Photo Roulette is a game where everyone sings up their phones to the same game. Everyone gets their own phone. And we were air-playing it on the TV. So what happens is someone's in charge of the game and you get to pick how many photos are going to get displayed. So we were doing rounds of 100. And every person has to approve...

Like, well, not approve because we weren't allowing approvals. We were like, fuck it. Like, everyone just press yes. I was approving mine because some of mine were too boring. Yeah, I was doing the same. That's why I deleted so many photos. It was almost...

So normally you wouldn't approve pictures because they're too out there. Yeah. I was doing the opposite. Yeah, me too. I was thinking, okay, these are all Instagram selfies. I want something. Yeah. Something juicy. Give me something good. That's why I had to prove it. Yeah. Because I would literally get one round and think,

This is my Instagram feed. Yeah. Next. Yeah. Like, you've all seen this before. Yeah. So, what happens is a photo will anonymously go onto the screen and you'll get everyone's name under the photo and you have to guess as quick as possible whose photo it is. And there's, like... I don't know what the point system is and how, like, it works, but basically... Getting it right and how fast. Yeah. So...

At the end of the game, there's a winner, which we didn't really care for the winner part. We were just playing for the photo part. Only if you won, then it was... Yeah, then... I won! You're like, yeah, fuck yeah, I won. So that was really fun. We did that for a while. And then we are obviously a big friend group that's super into hockey. So we watched the Dallas Stars after that. And we're just kind of chilling. Taylor, you ended up leaving. I left. Yeah, I had...

I was having a slumber party. Yeah. So I stayed kind of a while. I stayed until like 1030. And me and Secret Link were like sitting together on the couch. And like when the next day, a few of our friends like made a comment like you guys were like really touchy on the couch. I was like, don't say anything. Like, don't talk about it. Because even Taylor even said that one time you were like, it's weird seeing you like cuddle with someone.

Yeah, it's very weird because Sam's not a very emotional person. I'm not. Like, outwardly, Sam isn't the type. Like, no. Yeah, and I'm like a hopeless romantic lover girl. I'm just like that when I'm, especially in a relationship, like, I'll just sit there and like, oh my God. Like, I'm just a little simp lover girl. And even with, like, family...

Not so much with friends, I guess. I guess it depends on the friend. But you're just not very outwardly emotional. So the thought of Sam at like the altar of her wedding crying, saying vows, I can't get that through my head.

I'm like, I shot it. I do. And like one time when Sneaky Link was over and you were cuddling on the couch for real, for real. Yeah, that was for real, for real. I was in shock. I was like, who is this girl? What's going on? I don't like this. It's making me uncomfortable. I don't like this.

This is weird. So it's just I'm so interested to see if you had a boyfriend boyfriend the way things would. I know. I'm also curious too. I don't even know how the hell I would act. We were talking about this too when we were going to get coffee the next morning. We went to Dutch Bros and I was like,

I literally don't know how I would respond to having a boyfriend with the emotional, touchy-feely part. I don't know. The touchy-feely part isn't even it for me. It's more so you seriously being like, I love you. Yeah. Seriously. Dead ass seriously. It's because I don't take many things very serious. Yeah. I'm always just trying to be the clown, funny person, and it's just...

Being serious. Like, someone will have to, like, bring that side in. I know. Someone will bring that side out, I hope. But, yeah. So then Friday, we...

I decided we were going to do like casual drinks at the bars on the earlier side, which I'm going to tell you right now, it didn't for me did not end up staying casual. I told myself I go, I'm going to go home by nine because I want to go out on Saturday. I'm going I'm going home and at nine. I'm not making my way to latchkey. It never is casual drinks. And the second I got there, I said, what are the bets we're placing on?

The fact that you guys are going next door. Yeah, you literally said that at the first drink. Yeah. I mean, you're next. If we were somewhere else and we were far away and... That was because Dane said, oh, I'm going out. And I'm like, fuck. Like, if all you are going to go... Like, there's specific people in our friend group that I'm like, if you're going out, like, I'm also going out because... You have to go. Yeah, because we have such a fun time together. So I'm like, fuck. Yeah. So he was like, we're going out. But then...

Two drinks in. So one of my friends, we do this thing when we're out with our friends where it makes life so much easier at the bar is like, I'll buy rounds, then you'll buy the round. So like one of our friends bought the first round. So I was like, okay, I'll go get the next round. And so when I went up to the bar to get the next round, he charged me like one drink for two. So it was $8 for two margaritas.

And I was like, fuck. I was like, this is bad. Like, I'm in for a good night. I mean, $8 for one margarita is cheap.

I know. Yeah. I charged him. I gave him like a big tip to like, give him like a $5 tip. I was like, and every single time I went up. So I kept going up cause I was like, I'm gonna test the waters again with this one. I'm going to see if he does it again. Maybe he just made a mistake. Yeah. Maybe he just fucked it up. Clicked the wrong button. Nope. Did it again. And again, and again, he did it like, I think five to six times. And it came to the point where I was just going up to the bar with the boys cards and I didn't even want to drink. And I was like,

Like, one of my friends was like, oh, like, go up and get me, like, drinks. I'm like, okay, sure. Like, give me your card. How did he not notice that? I don't know. I didn't go up that many times. Like, five or six, max. Like, while we were there. And we were there for a while. We stayed until, like, nine. Yeah. And we got there, what, like, six? Yeah. Yeah, six. So...

I just knew. I was like, you know what? We're here having a good-ass time. Like, I'm loving this. And the great thing about Lucky Duck is that... Also, if you want the visual aspect, go watch my vlog on TikTok that I made. I did a Friday night in my life. So check that out. But we're all sitting on the picnic tables and people come and go, which I absolutely love about that. Like...

like we'll sit down five of us and then like more people will just start to show up like we had friends that were from golf a friend that came from dinner um two girls that are talking to two of our guy friends that showed up so there was just like a bunch of people at that point and then we ended up walking over to latchkey all of us i wasn't there for this yeah taylor left at this point which do you want to everyone where you went yeah i'll just like pop it and say where i was so you can like finish your yeah your night because mine was like

early i wasn't drinking this weekend because i had that horrendous sore throat and i and it was driving on friday too so obviously that makes it both i wasn't drinking i could have not driven if i wanted to drink but i was sick and the last thing i wanted to do was get sicker so no alcohol for me but i was meeting my boyfriend's fucking parents crazy

Insanity, which I wish I could have had like a drink, but it was fine because it was chill. Like it wasn't a big deal at all because I got there and his friends were there too. It wasn't just us four. He was there with his group of friends and them and his friend's mom was also there. So it was just a chill environment and

They were just grabbing beers, hanging out, and then we left. And then it was just us four. But at that point, I'd been there for a while and it was really chill. I was probably not being the most amazing outgoing person because my throat was on fire and I was so tired and I was scraping every last ounce of my energy to be there. I felt like shit. But I was like, you can do it. You'll be fine. But I was just thinking...

If they think I have like a bitch face or just look upset or something, they probably do because I was so down bad. But it was fine. But I left the group for, you know, I was like, I'll miss casual drinks.

I missed the night out, but it's good that I had somewhere to be because I felt like shit and wouldn't have been probably staying anyways. To be fair, you didn't... I mean, you missed a really... Like, the night was really fun leading up to... But it was chaotic and dramatic. It was fucking chaotic, guys. And I didn't have the energy for that. Yeah, no. So we get to Latchkey around nine-ish and...

They the line starts at last year like 9 30. So we always make sure that we're there before that So when we get there, there's like no one there. So me and my friends are dancing The floor is open. There's no one there. We claim the picnic tables and then next thing I know There's like this little not little like yeah, I guess kind of like incident that happens and it causes a lot of drama in our friend group and it's like

Everything's going spiral crazy, crazy, crazy. And it's like still kind of empty in there. We're all just like kind of like hammered dealing with this incident that just happened. And I'm like, you know what? Fuck it. Like I'm done with this. I'm going to go get a drink. So me and Haley go get a drink. And then we come back. And then everyone's kind of chilling because the problem of the whole situation left the bars. Thank goodness. So we go over to the picnic tables. And then I invited these guys to the bars.

And I met them like the week before So I invited them there And they had seen the whole like incident go down And I'm like I'm sorry guys Like come up to the picnic table So I'm just like dancing all night with them on the picnic table Like with Haley There was this guy that had a mutual friend of us His name was Noah Noah if you if somebody ever come by this Like you were the best time ever You were so much fun And we were all just having a great ass time But then around 10 30

I was like, you know what? I need to leave. And I had messaged my sneaky link around 9.30 when that incident happened, being like, can you come pick me up? Like, get me out of here. Like, I need to go home. Mom, pick me up. I'm scared. I know. Like, come on, please. So I...

I'm waiting on him to come pick me up. The reason he didn't come pick me up right away is because he was actually moving that night, which was annoying. So he was renting a U-Haul and all this stupid shit. And I was like, whatever, I'll stay out. I don't care that much. So I'm staying out, hanging. And then me and a bunch of our friends decide it's time to go. Because not only the incident that happened, but one of our friends was watching the radar. And it was going to start downpouring in like 30 to 45 minutes. Yes.

So everyone's like, all right, we got to get out of here. So I'm like, all right, let's get out of here. And all my friends were Ubering. And I was like, wait, guys, like you have to wait for me. Like he's almost here. He's picking me up soon. So like we're sitting on the side of the road for like 30 minutes, like waiting for him to come. He's like, I'm on my way. Which he was on his way. Just like.

I don't know why he was driving so slow. So, or maybe I was just like drunk and thought it was taking over. It probably was. But then he picks me up and he was dead sober. What a King. And I kind of fucked with him for a second. And I was like, I was like, Oh yeah, you can just bring me to like, bring me home. Like, I don't need to, I don't need to come over. Like, I just, I just need a ride. He was like, are you sure? Like, I will like, if you want me to. And I'm like,

I'm like, yeah, like bring me home. Like, I don't want to stay over like trying to like fuck with him. And he was like, okay. I was like, no, no, no, I'm kidding. I'm kidding. So then I slept over his place, his new, his new home, which had like no furniture in it. Didn't even have cups of water. So when my like hungover ass woke up the next morning, like clenching for water, there was no cups. It was horrible. I,

I would have stayed over knowing you were staying over because I mean I just don't like sleeping here by myself. I didn't think I was gonna to be honest. But I didn't have makeup remover and my boyfriend hates me so he doesn't buy makeup wipes to keep in his bathroom. Yeah which he should. I know he was like tell me what to get. I'm like no. Okay then that's why. That's your fault. I was like no I'll get it. I'll bring my own stuff but

Come on. But yeah, he was like, just stay here. And I'm like, I don't have makeup remover and I'm not sleeping here. Yeah. That's literally the number one. If I had makeup remover, because I just didn't want, it was so late and it was going to rain. And I was like, to be honest, it would have been, probably would have made way more sense. But yeah.

I came back and I was like oh my god I'm literally leaving I'm like oh Sam isn't home I was like oh I hope I don't get murdered in my sleep sleeping here by myself yeah I honestly assumed you were sleeping in his house so that's why I didn't even like tell you what I was doing just check and like one thing and what I always do I never really have my phone on me like when I'm like having a sleepover with him like it's always like somewhere around like I wake up and it's like in the kitchen or it's like on the couch like it's it's never near me

And I just remember like looking at my phone at like 1230 and I'm like, fuck, like I should probably message her. And the next thing I know, like I think I passed out. I was confused because he moved. So I didn't recognize where your phone was. Yeah, I know. That's another funny thing about it. Where is this location? And then I put it together that he moved. So I figured it had to be his house. Yeah. And we woke up probably around like nine and we were like hanging out, just laying in bed for like a while. But I'm like,

I love the fact that he picked me up. It's over. It's a nice thing to do. It is a nice thing to do. What a king. What a king. But we didn't really do much the rest of the weekend. I was... I was personally kind of hungover just because when I don't sleep in my own bed, like...

Even if I drink the same amount of alcohol and I laid in my bed and I landed in somebody else's bed and it's the same amount of alcohol, no matter what, I'm more hungover because I laid in somebody else's bed. It's hard. That's why I need my whole routine at my boyfriend's apartment because I'll feel good if I can do my entire skincare, brush my teeth, wash my hair. And I told myself too I was going to come home.

Yeah but sometimes Coming home is just Not feasible when it's that late You just like can't do it I know I used to do it In that moment Yeah but like when it's A person you like To be around You don't want to The moment leaving Is not it I know It's just so much better And he always drives me Home in the morning Well I mean as you should But like

Like, it's just like, I know I'm going to get a ride. Like, why Uber? Like, right now when I know, like, I'm going to get a ride in the morning. Yeah. Sleeping over is for sure the move. Leaving is tough. And you'll get to bed earlier if you sleep there. Yeah. You know? Mm-hmm. But, yeah, I debated at the esthetician buying everything of my skincare routine.

That's the second round of it. I mean, it's worth it. If they sold travel size of everything, I would get that. You can't find it on their website? They don't sell it. Damn. I know. Like, she told me that, right? She said, you're going to need to get travel size bottles to put stuff in because they don't make it travel size. I was like, what the fuck is that? I mean, it's worth it because think about it. If you run out, yeah. Like, you can always just like... I might. It's not that expensive. But yeah, Saturday did a whole lot of nothing. I just wanted that.

My social battery. Like, I appreciate weekends more when I take a weekend off. It just feels good. Yeah, we went to a really good lunch place. We did 12 out of 10. I did some TikTok searching. I don't know how I've never heard of this. Me neither. But I did some searching on TikTok for a good salad place because we were like, how about a yummy salad? We haven't gone to lunch in a little bit, have ourselves a day, gotten food. Let's go get food.

So I was looking up on TikTok, best healthy restaurants, Austin, best salads, Austin. And when I looked up best salads, I saw a million of this place called Vinaigrette. And oh my God, it was so good. It was the cutest little place. It was empty. So we sat right away. Food came quick. You don't need a reservation.

It was a Saturday in the middle of the day and we were walked right into a table, got food immediately. Waitress, so nice. What a kind lady. It was just all these salads and they have some sandwiches and some sides, but like the menus, like all salads. So good. Like the quality was insane. So good. Perfect amount of dressing on the salad. We got tuna steak and I have not like...

Like, sometimes I'm iffy about tuna steak here in Austin, Texas. But that was phenomenal. It was real freaking good. And I got a lemon ginger drink thingy. So good. It was expensive for salad. I always justify it. It was $40 a person and we got drinks. So you can, like, pretend the drink's, like, $10. Which is... That's pricey for lunch. That's a pricey salad for lunch. But we're not including tip and tax. So, like...

I'm just justifying it. It's still a pricey lunch, but when you... Because Sweet Cream sometimes comes up to like 20 bucks. If you want something... Which is a pricey salad. I know. It's definitely pricey, but so good. Tasted so fresh and delicious. I feel like every single time I go, I'll literally get a different one. It was amazing. So cute in there.

Treat yourself. Go to Vinaigrette. It was bomb. Yeah. And then we stayed in that night, which was well worth it. I think I was in bed by like 8. So good. So good. So good.

Sunday was like, okay. We didn't really like... Like we went to the bars to watch the basketball game at like 3.30, which there's like a whole situation that happened. I'm like, I don't even know if I feel like getting into it. You talked about it on TikTok. I know, I talked about it on TikTok. Like basically, these guys invited me to the bars and...

to watch the game. It was their idea, like whatever. And they showed up an hour and a half late. So luckily our other friends were literally across the street at another bar. So we went to hang out with them, but we, we were sober. Well, I mean, sober Queens to the point I had one drink with a jello shot. So yeah, I was a sober queen.

People get fucking pissed that we drink so much. Oh, my God. Yeah, I didn't drink Sunday either. And I normally only get Diet Cokes, but I switched it up and ordered a Shirley Temple. And it was the most delicious thing I've ever had. Yeah. So I'm going to switch it up when I go out. Yeah. It was so good. I love Shirley Temples. Have you ever done a Dirty Shirley? No. No? I've never ordered one. Or what's the other one called? When it's a Diet Coke with...

um grenadine no but i want that what the fuck is that called my brother gets it all the time you can probably google it yeah that sounds good though that sounds like my my vibe back in the day when i was like literally so scared of like soda and i thought it was like horrible for you and me and my brothers would go to the restaurants and get soda

They would get that. The Shirley Temple was just phenomenal. Yeah. I got one espresso martini. It was ass. It was like not worth it at all. I was so pissed. I was like, I can only trust Lucky Duck's espresso martinis. That parlor one was disgusting. Disgusting. This show is sponsored by BetterHelp.

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So relationships, situations, boys, sex, birth control. We got one about ingrown hairs, which I thought was fun. I can't wait. All right. First one is about boys. Okay. So I've been in a relationship for over a year and absolutely love my boyfriend. Our sex life used to be great, but then I def lost some interest after being in a really abusive work environment. As in, I had different rooms to break down in my office bad.

Do you get that? Like she was having mental breakdowns at work. Oh, okay. I've left that environment and was hoping that less stress and being less sad would help, but it hasn't. I know it's not him. It's definitely me. I just don't feel sexy anymore, so I just love to hear your tips on how to feel sexy in bed. First, huge part of this, have you talked about it with your boyfriend? Yeah. Because that's step one. Yeah, I feel like being like...

Transparent with him will definitely help the situation because one, you do also want to think about it from his perspective of like, oh my God, like, is it me? Like, am I like the reason she's not enjoying it anymore? Like, and if you're more open to,

about why you're stressed that will help you not be as stressed yeah and especially you saying that you don't feel sexy he can't read your mind and if it was good before he might think you're still good yeah but voicing that to him if you haven't so that way he knows more to compliment you and like say things yeah if you like it'll help a lot and then also you

It's also probably a mix of the fact that you said you've been dating for a year and I feel like once a year comes, that's when you kind of hit like boring mark. Not boring mark, but not as like... The honeymoon's over. It's been a year. Like now you're comfortable and something in this relationship that I'm trying to do a little bit more, which... Because I feel like every relationship is just like a learning experience. So I'm trying to think like I feel like from every relationship, you should take something of like how to make it better. Yeah.

I want to keep that like the same way when you like go on a first date, you like...

like do all the things like you shave you moisturize you have a glass of wine while you're getting ready when you're like going on a first date like when you have like a fun date with your boyfriend not saying like have a glass of wine when you're just gonna like hang out but if you have like a date planned where you're gonna go to dinner like have a glass of wine when you get ready like the same way you get ready for a first date like do that because it's still fun and it's still exciting and it's still like

It should still be like a cute fun thing. Like, oh, I'm getting ready for a date. Yeah. Not just like, oh, it's just your boyfriend. Like keeping it like that. Like, oh, you think you're going to like have sex at night? Like shave, exfoliate, like put on something cute. Like don't just like...

Be like, oh, I can sit here in, like, my basic, like, whatever because it's your boyfriend. Yeah, you can and you're comfortable together. But you can try, like, just put in the effort to, like, feel pretty. I love that. That was great advice. Thanks. You're welcome. Like, make dinner and, like, drink wine. Like, make it, like, be fun. Yeah, I agree. And, like, also, too, like, obviously the whole, like, sex thing is a very big part of a relationship. But...

You don't need to put all the pressure towards that. Like, maybe, like, work on other things in the relationship. Like, clearly, like, communication is a lack. And just, like, other little things to see if maybe that can help, you know, the sex. And, like, phases are, like, okay. Like, you're in a phase where, like, you're stressed with your job. Like, not everything can be perfect all the time. So, I wish. Yeah. Like, it's okay. Don't, like, break up with your boyfriend because you're stressed with work, you know? Yeah.

Feel it out. Give it a second. This one is completely the opposite direction of what we're talking about, but this is about food. And I really want to talk about this real quick because it's something that a lot of newbies don't realize. But where to start with eating healthier? I hold weight in my stomach and I know it's coming from food choices. Now...

I hate, like, the term of, like, it's coming from food choices because one thing that I really stand by is, like, food, there's no good or bad food. It's more of just, like, obviously, like, the quality, yes, is a big thing, but it's more about, like, at the end of the day, the macros, the calories of the food that you're having. It's lifestyle. It's your lifestyle. Like, if you want to have that day, like, a chocolate chip cookie at the end of the night before you go to bed...

And if you did that, I don't want you to look back on and be like, that's why I'm holding weight in my stomach. Is that chocolate chip cookie? Because it's not like you can still every single day for the rest of your life. Have a chocolate chip cookie before you go to bed. Right. Like I have ice cream before I go to bed every night. Not Halo Top. Not I have like Ben and Jerry's ice cream before I go to bed.

six out of seven days of the week every single day but i think for some people that genuinely are like i get that i'll get i have balance i'll get that but i simply eat quote unquote like not good every day like i wake up and get fast food breakfast and then i eat like a frozen pizza and then i get mcdonald's like that type of person that's like i simply don't know how to eat help me

The most basic thing ever is literally grocery shop by like food group and by macro. So get carbs, vegetables, protein, healthy fat, and then make every single meal have a carb, a vegetable, a protein, and some healthy fats throughout the day. Thinking of all your meals like that makes it so easy. Like...

a carb and a protein and a vegetable for every meal with the sauce on it is the easiest way to make food at home. Yeah. It's so fucking easy to make food at home like that. And I think another thing too is breakfast. Like starting off your day on like a really good note with a good, like healthy breakfast and finding something you genuinely really like because I've had the same breakfast for years now and it keeps me full, keeps me satisfied. Yeah.

It's a lot of protein. And I feel like that just like always starts off your day on like a good note. And especially if you keep it consistent, that will help you throughout like the rest of your journey with your quote for quote diet is healthy.

That will keep you on track if you at least have like one meal a day that's consistent. Because if you're constantly changing up every single meal every single day, like that's not realistic and it's not going to keep you on track. It's going to make things so much easier. So for breakfast, like you could do like protein oats. Taylor loves doing eggs and toast. I literally do eggs in a bagel or eggs in sourdough bread. You can do like a yogurt parfait.

Literally the... Protein pancakes. Yeah, protein pancakes. Like, the options are endless, but find something that you really, really, really like and try to stick to it for breakfast because that's already setting yourself up for success for the rest of the day. Yeah, and when you go on Pinterest or something and look up healthy meal inspo or...

Vegan dinner or like anything like that. It's all so complicated. I used to look up like plant-based dinner inspo and it's like this casserole and this, that, and the other. And that's so complicated. I'm not making that. So what I was saying before about like carb, protein, vegetable, you can turn that into so many different meals. Let's say for one instance, you do...

Chicken, rice, and then a bag of frozen peas and carrots.

You mix that all together with some soy sauce. Boom. Now it's like fried rice, like Asian stir fry. Instead of your carb being rice, you make your carb pasta and you have it with broccoli and like red sauce. Okay. Now it's Italian food. Like so, and it's just carb, protein, vegetable. And it's so easy to make meals like that. And you literally just switch up the sauce and the way you combine it all. And you can make the options are endless. Another option, like,

You can make it in a way. So it's like a burrito bowl and it's still just carb, vegetable, protein. Yeah. And season your shit. And it's so easy. Please season your shit. Like I can't stand like bodybuilder type people like that post their meal on spot and it's like dry as fuck chicken and like unseasoned vegetables. Like don't be scared of seasonings. Like I used to be terrified of seasonings because like sodium and shit. But like.

I didn't salt my food. Yeah, like season up that shit. Like it will taste amazing. Yeah, salt. Like it's so good. Like I feel like it gets such a bad rep to be like meal prep, like chicken broccoli. That's disordered. But like, no, sometimes it's just easy. And like healthy can be easy and it could be simple. And it doesn't have to be complicated. You don't have to make some Pinterest worthy recipe to make healthy food. It just has to be balanced. All right.

No one got time for that. Next up, boys. How to break up and get over a three-year relationship. Currently living with my boyfriend of three years with a dog and a cat. Basically, I know I deserve better and want the romance book type of love, princess treatment,

twin flame type of love but right now i'm not getting that time of day like i used to long story short i know i'm going to break up with him but it doesn't make it easy this is my first real relationship and first real breakup i obviously still love him and we've been through so much together but i don't know where to start any tips would be helpful

It's never going to be easy. It's going to get harder the longer you do it, the longer you wait. So you're going to continue to just build up guilt. You got to do it. You got to do it like ASAP. I've never lived with someone and had pets with them. So I'm so sorry. It's going to hurt. Like one of our friends is going through that right now.

Our girlfriend that we were just with on Thursday. Oh. At least she's going through that right now. Yeah. And one thing that she's been doing is just, like, getting herself out of the house, whether it's, like, going on walks. Because, like, they work together and they live together. So, like, their combo is, like, I'm just going to talk in reference of them because I obviously don't know you and I don't know pure details about your situation. But...

Like, one thing that's been helping her is she is getting out of the house, like, a lot, hanging out with different people, more people, and just being really social to kind of keep her mind off of things. Because it can be hard, like, after work going home and just, like, having to, like, deal with that. So, like, if you need to get out of the house and be out of the house,

that may help. But in terms of the actual breakup itself, you just got to bite the bullet and do it. It's not going to be easy. It's going to suck. And I feel you on the three years you have a lot of love for that person, you've been through a lot with that person. And I think being through a lot with someone makes you feel like you need to stay in and it's bad if you leave because you've been through so much for them. They've been there for you through a lot. You have a lot of history and it feels...

hard to leave that but it's really okay something can be meaningful and important and a great like chapter in your life but you don't have to stay in it like I feel like that's where I was I was like but we've been through so much and um the person has been there for you so much and like you have that amount of love for them and that's not a bad thing um

To just be like that was what I needed in that moment. And it was a good run. And I'm glad I had them when we did. But it's not working right now. And you can just like appreciate the past for what it is.

But you need to break up with them and just kind of rip the bandaid off and do it. And then my biggest, biggest, biggest thing after you break up, do not talk. I went absolutely zero contact for six months. Now we lived in different states, so that's really easy because there wasn't even a chance of seeing the person. But we did not say a single word to each other for six months, which was truly the way to do it. And people always ask like, how? It's so hard.

Just don't. You have control over your body. You have control over who you call on the phone. Just don't. Don't do it. When you do break up, though, living together is going to be hard. But like I said, just get yourself out of the house. Stay busy. Yeah.

I don't know, like, what your situation is maybe with family. Like, if you need to, like, go live with your family for a month or something while your lease is still up. Because, like, financially, that can be hard. Like, you can't just get up and leave your lease. Like, that's not easy. But if your lease is up in, like, a month or two, I don't know if this is toxic. I would stick it out. If it's, like, a month. I mean, you could definitely have the conversation and there's, like...

I feel like you should have the conversation because why wait and like, why continue to wait a month or two? Well, yeah, cause you're gonna have to resign. You're going to have paperwork brought up and it's like, you're not going to resign the lease. Um,

Yeah, people do it. You're not the only person in history to go through this. It happens. Yeah. I'm all team for like at this age, if you are even debating a breakup, go for the breakup because at this age, we all learn and grow and change so much as people like you're going to outgrow a lot of your relationships because you're not the same person you were when you started dating them. Right. It's just that's not.

realistic like if I started dating someone at 18 and then I'm 21 22 like I'm not the same person I'm not even the same person I was last year I look back on memories when like that pop up I don't sit there go through the memories like when I click on like my snapchat memories from uh when it pops up like three four years ago today whatever some things will have like past relationships in them and I'm like I don't even fucking know who that girl is in that video that feels like a lifetime ago

So it's just weird. I'm like, okay, yeah, that was only two years ago, but who the fuck is that girl? I don't even, like, relate to that person at all. So, yeah, by the time you won't even... You'll get over it. I sound so, like, anti-relationships, but it's, like, true. It's not anti-relationship. It's just, like, you need to get... I don't know. Like, when Taylor was going through her breakup, I was like, I know it's gonna happen. Like, I'm just gonna sit here and not talk, but I know, like, it's gonna eventually happen. It's...

I think it's, for me, it was a lot of coming to terms with the fact that

Because, like, you wrote in there, like, you have a lot of love for them and you've been through a lot. That's fine. And you don't need to turn that love into hate or fuck these memories. Like, think about it. That's fine. Like, that's good. You had this person. Oh, yeah. That was good to you for however long. You had this experience. You got to, like, go through that phase of your life. It's fine. You're not the first person in history to go through it. You'll be fine. It's like your parents, like...

If you have, like, parents that are married, they probably broke up with a million people they thought that they were going to be with and weren't. And, like, they're fine. Like, you're not the first person to go through this. Friendships. I went on an overnight double...

This one's fucked up, by the way. I already read this one, Taylor. Fucked up. Friendships. I went on an overnight double date with my best friend, and my best friend cheated on her boyfriend and made out with my date while I was sleeping. We slept at his house, and they made out on his couch that day before...

are real date activities. She didn't really apologize and thought it was funny. I haven't talked to her since, but I'm supposed to go on an eight-day trip with my friends and she'll be there. Do you think I should just not go? Yeah. What the fuck? That's not a friend. Ditch that...

entire situation a double date she has a boyfriend she cheated on her boyfriend ditch that entire situation if anything reach out to her i hopefully now ex-boyfriend yeah uh you can probably team up team up team up i'm assuming they broke up you're now single because your date

fucked you over so fuck that guy fuck her team up with the the boyfriend that's so fucked like that's that's what i would do that's like me like bringing a date us going on a double date and then me like making out with jonah that's oh fuck it's name drop name drop name drop i don't

I don't want to say don't. I'm so, I don't care. Unless this is a prank the whole time. Yeah. That's not his name. I'm pranking you. No. That's literally crazy. My literal only advice, I don't really know if this is toxic, but it seems like the right thing to do to me is team up with the boyfriend. You guys can team up.

team up 1000 that's what i would do yeah that's so fucked up don't sorry don't go on the trip like i'm not gonna give you some like sweet like little like advice type thing like nah fuck that no don't go on the trip and team up with the ex don't go on the trip i don't care if you already like paid for uh whatever whatever you would be miserable i would loss i would if you lost 200 bucks you didn't go on the day trip sayonara you're not getting it back

Don't go. Never talk to her again. That would just cause so much drama. It's an eight-day trip. So that would cause so much drama. I literally don't even care if it's all not refundable. You don't go. Or you go and you use that time as... Or if it's not too late...

Spill the fucking tea and none of them will want her to go and then she gets kicked off the trip. No, but your date can't go either. So you can maybe go on the eight day trip with your new man. No, it's a girl trip. I think. Oh, it's a girl trip. Yeah. It's not a couple's trip.

She just said me and my friends have an eight-day trip. Okay. If it's just like all the girls, yeah, get her off the trip. Okay. I misunderstood. I thought you were supposed to be going on another couple's adventure. Yeah. Okay. If it's all girls' trip, get her ass off the trip. She gets no trip. Or if she comes, just no one talk to her. Because if it's all your friends and you like your friends, just tell everyone. Make sure everyone knows. Put this on blast. Okay.

Make sure everyone knows. Yeah. That's so fucked up. But yeah, okay then. If it's your friend trip, you can go. Just make sure everyone knows that she is hated and make her life hell and get with her boyfriend. Ex-boyfriend.

Guys, some of you girls, I bet you some of you girls listening to this right now are like, I'm that girl. Like, I've done that before. Like, some girls are so fucked up. They are fucked up. Like, who the fuck does that? Yeah. Oh my God. Anyways, next one, getting over situationships. Literally, when I tell you this man is so repulsive, he picks his nose and eats it. He did it during sex too. What? Kisses with his eyes open? Ew. Ew.

Does one position in bed and is addicted to drugs. Why do you guys have sex with these people? He's a complete asshole. Yet my dumb ass keeps romanticizing him, hoping he'll change. Advice, I'm going to stop being a delulu and get the fuck out of this. Why do you guys have sex with these people? First of all, you literally are doing it to yourself right now. Like, you can just tell yourself that he's fucking gross and you're not going to romanticize him.

like you just wrote a whole paragraph about how he's the worst person you've ever met so just every time you romanticize him think about the fact that he picks his nose while he's having sex with you that's crazy that's out of that's out of control kisses with his eyes i think the eyes open is worse i think no the kissing with the eyes open is fuck if i ever was kissing someone with my eyes closed and i looked and opened my eyes and he's just staring into my face that's crazy that's

Literally insane. That's like... But why do you guys have sex with these people? The one position in bed, like, that repulsed me from a man so fast. Yeah, like, what position did you... Well, I'm just curious. Like, what are they doing? Are you just doing doggy the whole time? Sorry. Sorry. Like, I mean, I was hooking up with a man that didn't even...

It was like having sex with like a 16-year-old when you lose your virginity. There's not even like foreplay. It just sounds like this man is just... I don't even know the word for it, but like... Yeah, he's repulsive, but it just sounds like he just doesn't have any idea what's going on in his brain. Like he has a pea brain. If I'm being honest. It sounds like...

He doesn't have sisters. Oh, 100%. And it sounds like he is not looking for a girlfriend. And it sounds like his body count is probably 700. Oh, my God. Not even. He does one sex position. What did we discuss? Yeah, that's so facts.

Okay, guys, we did discuss this, that guys that have really high body counts... Suck in bed. Suck in bed. Because the girls don't come back. Yeah, the girls don't come back. So his body count is probably 700 because you can't get a girl to come back, so you fuck a new girl every single weekend. Yeah, and every girl runs away screaming like, oh my god, that was the worst thing ever. But anyways, no, on a serious note, it's a situation ship, so like...

I don't know if you have like true feelings there for him or like you literally wrote a paragraph saying that he saw like I can understand like the delunate delunas of like a situation where it's like, oh my God, he loves me like that like that sense, but it doesn't even sound like that's your delulu like your delulu just sounds like

I'm going to make this man fall in love with me. That type of vibe. You're delusional that you think he's a cool person. He's probably a nice guy, but he's not boyfriend. Yeah. He just sounds gross. Yeah, and if you listen to this podcast and you keep up with us and you feel like you're our vibe, you're clearly a great, awesome girl. Yeah, and you deserve so much better. Yeah. Yeah.

So I would say my advice is hop on Hinge, hop on a dating app or two, go on some dates, get attention elsewhere, and that's how you're going to get over it. 100%. And have good sex. Good sex will get you over that in a heartbeat. Also, when it comes to getting over any guy, whether it's a situationship, boyfriend, anything...

Getting attention from somebody else is going to help you so much. And I hate when girls are like, oh my God, like the rebounds. Like don't go for the rebounds. Like don't do a rebound. Like work on yourself. No. Like get attention elsewhere. It doesn't need to turn into anything. But as long as you get attention elsewhere, like that's going to help you so much get over a situation. Because if you don't like him, you like the attention. Yeah, exactly. You like the...

eyes open kissing yeah you just like the attention and you like when he's really focused on you when he's kissing you you like his eyes open staring at you yeah sorry we're not making fun of you i swear we're just making fun of this stupid ass boy yeah you like the attention you don't like him yeah fuck that anyways um friendships

Hey, guys, my lifelong best friend basically dropped off the face of the earth when she started dating her boyfriend. I would ask her to hang out, but she would say she didn't want to go to the bars, and then she would just stay there with him. Then I'm asking to do anything else, like grabbing a coffee, and she would not want to plan anything just to be with him six out of the seven days a week. We went from hanging out at least once a week to not seeing her in over a month. I finally confronted her about it, and she told me she was...

I think you're valid. This is exactly what happened to me, like...

year like years ago when i went from high school i had a best friend that we went to the same high school and then went to the same college together like that's how close we were and she started dating this one guy i also had a boyfriend too but we broke i broke up with my boyfriend so i was i had more free time but we hung out all the time and i could not stand her boyfriend and i

let's just say our friendship had a major falling out because she put all of her effort into him. I just needed a friend to be there for me one throughout my breakup and two, just to like hang with and see all the time. It's like, you're going to put so much effort into like,

Begging for a friendship. That's not a friendship. Especially what makes me wonder about these relationships. Because sometimes I get the people who don't necessarily go out anymore. Because they have a boyfriend. Like go to bars. But when you get to the point where you're just trying to just go shopping. Get your nails done. Or coffee. She literally has to go get coffee. Hang out at their house. Do normal friend things. Where my question comes in is.

is what a shitty partner you have to be to be okay with the fact that your girlfriend doesn't see her friends. If I was like... We were literally talking about this the other day. I know. But we have one friend in our group that disappeared. But I can't imagine going to my boyfriend and being like, Sam says I don't hang out with her anymore, but I told her my priority is you. I feel like they should be like, why would you say that? You know what I mean? What a shitty boyfriend...

To be instigating that on and being like, yeah, that's correct. That's just so weird. And like, how are you guys not going insane with your boyfriend only all the time? Because when I had a... I used to like only really talk and hang out with my boyfriend, not because of anything. I just didn't have friends. I didn't have friends before I lived here. So I kind of talked to no one else. I didn't have friends. Oh, my God.

I wish I had friends. I just didn't have friends. But if I did, that's all. How are you guys having friends and then just dropping off the face of the earth? My thing is relationships like that where you spend every single waking second together is like that relationship is going to like burn out really quickly because you have you're spending so much time with that person that it's like it's going to.

It's codependent. The span of that relationship is going to be so much shorter because you're spending every waking second with them. And if you break up, you're going to be unable to function. But to the girl that asked, you're doing the right thing. You can't force someone to be in your life. You're not in the wrong if you don't want that friendship anymore. There's not much you can do if you already talked to her about it. And she genuinely just told you that he's her main priority. Then...

I don't know. She sounds like insane though too because even if he is her main priority, if this is like, hey, my relationship's taking priority right now. Okay, there's seven days in a week. Priority could still be hanging out with him four days a week. Yeah. And you can hang out with him seven days a week. But what about in the morning one of the days? In the night one of the days? You know what I mean? You can be obsessed with your boyfriend all you want and hang out with him all the time. There's so many hours in a day. One thing I will never sacrifice for a relationship is...

Like my friends. No. Anyone I date is going to be added on to my life, not taking away things from my life. So just know that that friendship was never meant to be. And...

That just comes with growing up. Yeah, so I know it already happened like a month ago, like you said, like it happened a month ago. You just still wanted our advice, but like you're doing the right thing. Like you don't have to be begging on your knees for a friendship. You can find so many more friendships. If they break up, she's going to come like crawling back. Yeah. Which don't let that happen.

Alright, this one's great. I generally don't enjoy having sex unless a guy uses a vibrator on me. How am I supposed to initiate this without making it awkward? Do you guys ever just use sex toys with your man, a sneaky link? I need tips on how to make it not weird to bust out the sex toys. Thanks in advance. Girl, for the first time, just do it drunk. Like, if you're a little bit tipsy, like, you have a little bit of, like, liquor confidence, just, like, pull it out. I don't think guys really care about that stuff. I think they think it's hot. I've never done it. I've only done it, like, a few times, but...

Like, I've never had a guy being like, what the fuck? Like, they love it. A guy will never say what the fuck to you wanting to do anything related to sex with them. There is nothing you could do related to sex that a guy would be like, yo, weirdo. I know. It's not gonna happen. And, like, you can, like, ease into it, too. Like, start off with, like, maybe, like, introducing, like, lube into sex. Like, other little things. Like, the smaller vibrators that, like, you can, like, put on your finger. Like, the smaller ones. You're like, I don't know what you're into. But, like, just ease yourself into those situations. You don't have to, like...

feel scared to i mean you can jump into it but i'm just saying like you can ease yourself into it something new in my life now because before i was only really with someone that i like grew up with so there wasn't much like conversation needed because we were like experiencing everything together yeah but now being more um grown up and in like a new relationship it's like

If you're not talking about things, like, you should be talking about things. Like, having conversations like, do you like that? I like this. Like, did you like that? Did you not like that? Like, it's... You should be talking about that. It's, like, very important. And if it's awkward to talk about, it shouldn't be awkward to talk about. Like, if you're grown adults and, like...

have like if you if it's not awkward to literally have sex with them it shouldn't be awkward to have a conversation with them like you should just be able to talk about it and it won't be that weird it's not gonna be weird i promise you it's not that weird so in your head on that one because and you're not like um if you think because i feel like the first part of the question was more so like is it a problem that like you only like it's not gonna be like good without it

That's like really common. Yeah, that's a very normal thing. That's a very normal thing. So you're not like crazy. Yeah, like most like we did an episode with like a sex therapist like months back and she even said in the episode like like it was like a high ass percentage number. I can't remember the number off the top of my head, but she was like most of those girls like are not going to like quote unquote like finish or like

experience but the guy's experiencing without like some type of toy involved or like a vibrator or something so don't don't yeah it's not weird um they probably won't think it's weird um yeah i just haven't because i haven't like i just don't really feel like like it's not like important to me but if it was important to me you just talk about it yeah

These things fun. All right. Next one is about shaving. So someone mentioned it wasn't really a question, but she was just like ingrown hairs down there. Like, what do I do? And the next one was, Sam, I think I remember you saying that you have been getting laser hair removal. I'm just wondering how the hell you go through those appointments because of my second treatment. I looked like I was getting an exorcism. I was I was on the bed in so much pain. Ibuprofen before the appointment. Take a shower.

shot in the parking lot please help okay so this can go for like either waxing or laser like they're both painful but over the course of the appointments they're gonna be not as bad like your tolerance will build up like for the pain i thought every laser appointment was worse no like they build up like the laser but i don't like like i'm used to it like i am expecting what the pain is going to be like the first time i went i was like what the fuck like

What is this supposed to be? Like, I don't know what it's supposed to be. But yeah, I don't take ibuprofen anymore. And my pain tolerance is really good. Like, I don't really feel a lot of pain. But it is so worth it. I'm telling you right now, the ingrown hairs. Like, I never really got ingrown hairs until when I was doing waxing. Waxing gave me really bad ingrown hairs. Waxing gave me ingrown hairs when I stopped and would start shaving. Yeah. Yeah.

So waxing for me was the only time I really experienced ingrown hairs. And then like a little while ago, I got ingrown hair like on my vagina and I thought it was a fucking like like herpes or something. And so that's when I got tested. But I've never really like had bad issues with ingrown hairs. But I do think laser is worth it. I have an appointment today and I realized it's like not growing back.

That's crazy. I know. I have just been shaving because I just like don't. It's just like not on a priority for me to like pay and like go to appointments to go get it done. It's just like I just don't really care to right now. Exfoliating, shaving cream, a good razor and then body oil like after will like help too. But also like it just fucking happens. And when you see people that it looks like a baby's butt down there, it's either laser or

I like waxing if you're going to, you have to continue to get it though. Like often it's not like a solution. You're going to have to continue doing it, but I never minded it. I didn't think it hurt. But as far as shaving, people do get ingrown hairs and bumps. It's not like fucking perfect, but also like everyone's skin is different, but a really good razor and like changing the head of it often exfoliate shaving cream. Yeah.

Yeah, I know it's actually pretty common, girls that, like, don't exfoliate and, like, keep themselves clean down there just because, like, they don't think they really need to. Like...

like exploiting is going to make the biggest difference yeah and i love a little oil i like i had it was like a facial oil but i didn't use it on my face because i'm like on a strict skincare routine but it was like soothing facial oil so i just used it um after i shaved and oh my god it was so nice it like calmed it all down and it was really nice um next one i really like this one self-love

First of all, both of you are my Alex Earl. I am always on top of your posts and stories. First of all, I love that. I think it's so funny that, like,

You're my Alex Earl is like a just a phrase. Yeah, I know. It's funny. My question is, how in the world do I become as confident as both of you guys? I'm in awe on Taylor's confidence in the way she carries herself and in on how Sam is always 100% herself with her personality. I have a similar personality to Sam and I often allow myself to shrink because I feel like it's too much.

How did you get over that or do you ever feel like you're way too much? I love you both so much. I'm going to be so real. I became a confident person from going through the worst fucking things in my life, which is like a sucky answer because I'm not going to be like, just find a way to go through something fucking awful and then you'll come out confident as ever. But that's like genuinely truly what it was. Like only so many times can like

It was like other external people making me feel like shit. So I just got to the point where I was like, these people can't make me feel like shit. Like I can't let other people make me feel like shit all the time. So that's literally what did it for me. And being in front of the camera. Everyone likes to make TikTok and stuff like and obviously like now we do it for work. But before I didn't. And like.

making tiktoks was just fun yeah and it made me more confident to just like be okay with filming myself social media made me more confident but it truly was being in such horrible places and having so many people make me feel like shit about self about myself that i physically had no other choice but to like do it myself yeah

And mine in terms of like personality is like I've definitely dealt with that expression of being around new people that I don't want to like annoy them. So I get a little bit self-conscious. But I think the thing is, is like I just I always like love making people happy and laughing. And I just love like always having a good time with people. And if I can give that to people like that's one thing that I love being able to do. And.

A compliment that I received, like, a few weeks ago that honestly kind of changed, like, my perspective on, like, me as a person because I'm so out there is one of my friends literally looked at me and goes, every friend group needs a Sam Taylor. And, like, that, like, hit me, like, so hard because I was like, fuck, like, why are you always getting in your head so hardcore about, like, being so loud and annoying? Like, because I also sometimes, like, look at Taylor and I'm like, Taylor, like, just

If I'm outgoing, when we were on the party bus one day, I was just like, tell me right now if I need to shut the fuck up or if I need to sit down and tame myself for a minute. But no one's ever done that to me. No one's ever been like, Sam, stop. Shut up. They enjoy it. So just be you and the people that want to be around you will be around you. They're not going to stick around. And who cares? You don't want those people in your life anyway if you can't be yourself. Yeah. I don't know. There's no reason to be yourself.

to like not be yourself and i'm still working on like the confidence thing i'm a very shy person i'm never the most like outgoing person in a room like ever i'm never like the person with the most friends but even like little things um like being confident in your style or confident enough to take pictures in the gym that kind of stuff is just ripping off the band-aid for example

When I was going on a date with my now boyfriend, we were going to a baseball game, and I wanted to wear...

cowgirl boots but it's kind of a lot sometimes it's a it's just an outfit that you're not used to like not even i'm used to it but i'm like oh with the guy like is they gonna think are they gonna think that's weird if i like wear cowgirl boots i could just go the safe option wear some air forces and like no never keep it safe but then i realized it was like it was a conscious decision and these are moments where you have to make decisions

like do the work it was me being like if i was going with sam to this baseball game what would i wear this i would wear cowgirl boots and a bodysuit and shorts and i could wear a t-shirt and air forces and like be quote-unquote like normal but it's like i'd wear boots and shorts and a bodysuit that's what i would wear and i don't care if it's too much like i need to just wear it because that's what i would wear and if i'm going on a date with this guy who's gonna date me for me that is what i'm going to wear yeah

So just like little things like that of not like toning yourself down of doing what you like want to do. Yeah, I'm here for that. I agree. Next one is about food. Getting comfortable going out to restaurants while tracking macros and how to not care if you have one or two special meals for events or like at restaurants.

You just gotta not care, Ms. Carter. I know. Like, I remember being in that headspace of like, oh my god, like, I go out to a restaurant, like, how to get the healthiest option that fit my macros that day. And it's like, no. I'm telling you right now, one meal, no matter if you don't track it and you make it at home, you have like a frozen meal in the fridge, or if you go to a restaurant or anything, one or two that week, like, I promise you is not going to fuck you up whatsoever with your progress in the gym or anything. Taylor and I, we...

are like a walking example of that. Like we used to track, track, track, track, track. Yeah. We were seeing great results, great process progress, but now we don't track, we don't do anything. We, you know, maybe once or twice a week we go out on weekends. Our eating schedule is never the same. Like from like Monday to Friday, it's like pretty much the same just because we're working from home. But then like on the weekends, like it's a little bit different. Maybe I'm eating dinner at like 8 PM or I'm eating dinner on the earlier side. So that way I'm like making sure I'm getting food in, but like,

You just need to know that it's not going to affect you. I literally on Monday went to a baseball game, had like three drinks. My dinner was half a big pretzel and popcorn. And the next day I PR'd my pull-ups. Yeah. So like it's not a big deal. The only thing that's going to mess you up is worrying about every single time you go to a restaurant. Stressing about every single time you eat at a restaurant will do so much damage to your body.

exponentially times more than eating the food. Yeah, like we've said this before on the podcast, like there will be fitness content creators that don't eat out and are super strict on their diet. And then when they eat out, they'll be like POV, like you just went to dinner and it's like their pants are unbuckled and they're super bloated. And it's like they're super bloated like that because they are so stressed and putting so much pressure on themselves that

That when they eat out, they just load up like a balloon because their body's not used to it. So getting yourself used to it, getting yourself more comfortable eating out at restaurants is a more realistic lifestyle to be living than checking your macros Monday to Sunday and not eating out. I feel like because people say...

to get healthy, to stop eating out. Which, yes, stop eating out all the time. Don't Uber Eats every meal for your health and for your wallet. Don't eat out. That's fucking expensive. People that eat out all the time, I'm like, how the fuck do you do that? But yes, all the time don't. But because I think that's said so much, people just demonize restaurants. They think restaurants are like,

the worst place on earth it's just a restaurant it's fine like restaurants get this crazy reputation of being just this like place you have to like tackle going to and like have a good like strategy in place to go to a restaurant it's just a restaurant guys yeah like it's okay

And, like, another thing, too, is, like, the control aspect of it. Like, I feel like... That's what it is. That's what it is. Everyone, like, not everyone, but, like, for the most part, people just feel like they have to be completely in control of the food that they are consuming. And when you put too much control in it, you're obviously going to be constantly thinking about food. And that's when you could even, like, splurge or, like...

does not end up having a great relationship with food. So once you kind of get rid of the whole thinking about food 24-7, that's when you develop a better relationship with going out to restaurants, doing anything free will, like going like Taylor went to a baseball game and wasn't really concerned about what she was going to be eating. The only thing I was concerned about was making sure that I ate something. I forget where I went the other day, but I was like,

Where the fuck was it? Oh, we went to like a bar for first Thursdays at like, I don't know. What time did we get there? But I was like, oh, like, oh, maybe I should eat dinner before. Like I was like thinking about, I'm like, oh, maybe I should eat dinner before. Like, but I wasn't hungry. So I was like, you know what? I'll just eat dinner way later. Like I can eat dinner at 8 p.m. I'm just like, I don't need to be like, no one makes the rules on when you need to be eating. Like as long as you are eating, it's chill vibes. Eat when you're hungry. Yeah.

If you have an event or whatever, like maybe bring a snack if you need it or just eat at the event like this. It's not that big of a deal. I promise you. Food is so it's it's controlling. It's so crazy that food is such a like intense. It is, though, like everyone experiences. Everyone goes through it. Yeah. Which is so sad because it's just it's just food. I know. Like you literally need food to live. And it's such a touchy subject to speak about. It's nuts. I know. I know.

Been there, though, so I totally understand why anyone that's dealing with that is like...

going through and it's like it's so silly though because it's like you just like kind of wake up one day and you're like oh you're kind of like out of that like mindset like obviously we kind of like ease ourself into it because we were like we were tracking macros we bulked cut and then we intuitive ate and like now months later i'm like oh my god this is the best relationship i've ever had with food in my entire life but it's like you need to kind of experience it all in order to like develop a good relationship with food so

That's it from me. That was our last one. Yeah, we talked for a while. I do. Speaking of ingrown hair slash laser hair removal, I have an appointment in the next 30 minutes. I need to go to HEB because I'm cooking dinner tonight. Oh, yeah, you are. I'm going to make shrimp tacos. Yeah, I can't wait to watch.

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