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What is up guys? Welcome back to another episode. I'm Taylor. And I'm Sam. Okay, we just refilmed that intro because it wasn't recording. And I almost did the same thing again. I almost said I'm Sam. I literally almost did it again and we just talked about it. Yeah, no, don't do that. It's because every time, which I even said this before, I like, I don't know how it started.

I think it's because other people like on the internet when like they would talk about us would say Sam and Taylor. So that's why I'm so used to saying like with anything, whether it's an email to someone or like a text message to someone and like I'm referring to both of us. I go Sam and Taylor. Right. And now when I say Taylor and Sam out loud, it doesn't make sense. Yeah. I feel like that's like, like there's always when there's two people, there's like a, I think it's just cause it's my last name too.

Because I'm just so used to seeing Sam Taylor. But now I have to say Sam and Taylor. I don't know. Anyway, I was about to ask him too. I was like, how are you guys? How are you guys? Let us know. Yeah. Ready? How are you guys? And just say it. Let it out. Yeah. But I hope you guys have been enjoying the last two episodes because both of them were like really like...

I enjoyed that. Hit home. Like mental health one and then talking about... What was the other one? Couldn't tell you. No, we... No, I do know what we were talking about. Okay, well, I remember liking them both. I just have been like really loving podcasting lately. Yeah, it's fun. I do miss... I miss the two a week in the sense that I feel like it's been forever. I know. Since we've talked that I almost don't even remember what we said last time. Yeah. I feel like I need to take notes. I know. On what happened this week. Yeah. Okay, well, this week...

We've both been going with our little cut, our little cut today. Today I was feeling myself. I was like, I feel good. I would definitely say this is the week where I'm really starting to see change. Yeah. I've been cutting for over a month now, but in terms of cardio, I've been doing it for almost a month. And I can definitely say, wow, I see differences. I see definition. And I'm excited to see...

Obviously more definition coming. Yeah, and I really enjoy the discipline of cutting. Just like the, okay, I need to go get more steps. Like I need to push through this 20 minutes of cardio. Because there's something in a different way of lifting. Like lifting, yeah, it feels good when you push yourself to do an extra rep. But that's kind of like if your muscles give out, they give out. But cardio is like all mental. So like when you're on the stairs or if you're incline walking and you have like three minutes left. And you're kind of like, oh, like I could just...

I could just stop that like mental push of like not finish the three minutes. Or at the end of the day too. Like yesterday we went to, we didn't go to the gym yesterday, which was a Tuesday and something popped up early in the morning and it had to take my priority. So we just didn't go to the gym. And later that day we were like, fuck, it was supposed to be a cardio day. So we just both went down to our apartment, like gym and knocked out our cardio. Whereas like,

One, of course, it's good to have like the accountability buddy. I was just about to say, but because you were like, maybe I'll do it. I was like, I'm going to do it today. Yeah. I was like, I want to get it done. But I guess if you're going to do it, I'm going to do it. But like also in the sense of like when I was saying I'm not going to do it, like it took kind of a lot out of me to like convince myself to do it. So yeah, that was nice. But it's always worth it. Like after you do it, you feel so good. Whether it's like mental clarity, like that's kind of in a sense because I had such a bad day that I was like, oh,

and you i just i just feel proud of myself like i feel proud of myself like when i say i'm gonna do 20 minutes and i even keep going for like 21 yeah like i give it and i'm like wow like most times i'm like i see that 20 20 minute thing i'm like done cancel out but like just getting it done makes you feel good and getting a nice sweat like it feels so good yeah it's it's so rewarding so the discipline of cutting i like way better i have to say i like it better than bulking

I know, I think I've mentioned on here that I was like really hungry. That definitely subsided. I think maybe the initial amount of activity might've just been a little shocking. I don't know what it was, but that hunger that I think I talked about on here,

I'm all good. Like I'm all good. I wake up a little hungry, but I kind of always wake up hungry. So I don't really think that that's anything. Um, I'm, I'm totally good. Also, we've really kind of changed our routine too. Cause at the beginning it was like, we were literally going to the gym right away. And then like for the rest of the day, like hungry, hungry, hungry. But we've been going to the gym with two, like a meal and a snack. Yeah. Meal and a snack in us.

And then coming back and eating right away. So I feel like that schedule that we've made is really good. So I've been feeling good with that. I don't think I'm going to drop my food again. But I do want to give a shout out and plug to both of our YouTubes because we've been doing full days of eating on there. So if you need the visual reference for...

The cut deets then go to our YouTube channels. I literally have done a full day of eating every Friday. So you guys can constantly see new recipes and, you know, what I've been eating. I don't think my food in terms of like macros and calories are probably going to change. I think I dropped them this week one last time and I think I'm just going to stay at this and never change it. Maybe just add cardio if needed. Yeah, I did drop it.

from what it was just because that hunger did pass and I was like, okay, I could drop it like a little bit, nothing crazy. So we'll see if it keeps going. My food is still very high. Um, it's, it's still like a pretty, pretty high number, but, um, I think I'll add cardio before I take away food. Yeah. Um,

seeing how my weight goes because I need to weigh myself I keep forgetting but I need to weigh myself and see where I'm at but I I've been liking our new schedule too because I feel like it's already like four right now like rather than being back by like 10 30 11 yeah and then like

kind of sitting around the entire day. It's like... Like, we work from home, so, like, the kitchen's right there, and I'm just like, I could make another snack. I could make another meal. You know what I mean? Like, we wake up, we eat while we work, go to the gym, and then it's already, like, 2, 3 p.m. Yeah. And I feel like we had a whole day, so I've been really liking it. Yeah, no, I definitely like it. It's just when summer comes around, and, you know, it gets really nice out, and we want to be outside, we're going to have to go back to the original routine where it's like, okay, gym, early morning. But it doesn't get dark until 7.30. True. True. So...

Even if you get out there like 2.33, you still have like a pretty long time to sunshine. Yeah, that's a good point. But yeah, we've been loving our coffees too. Oh, our coffees. Yeah. We haven't been doing any energy drinks, which is like very unlike us. We are big coffee and tanning girls. All we do is drink coffee and lay outside. Yeah. That's all we do. No, seriously. But other than that, that's kind of been it. I mean...

There's nothing really else to catch up on. Our week has been boring. We went out, of course, on Saturday. But as we mentioned that two episodes ago, talking about like the food thoughts and like tracking of food, like definitely listen to that if you haven't already. It kind of approaches how we go on weekends and stuff. So yeah, I've logged that too. Yeah. Check that out.

Oh, I finished a book. Guys, I read the book. I read the book that I got for Christmas. I finished it and I read it and it was super good. So that's that. I did finish the book. I did read it. Read it while doing cardio, while getting my steps. Easiest hour of my life. I literally read for an hour and it's so good. But so I'm waiting for my book to come in the mail. It actually might get dropped off today.

which is pretty nice i hope it does and i'm just this is so random but i feel like i just need to update you guys on everything super into survivor right now um if you guys need to show rec so into survivor i've been watching it since i was a kid and i've been really into it if you watch it you can like let me know your thoughts and like my dms and stuff i'll talk with you about it but if you need to show rec highly recommend i'm very very involved i asked for show recs on my snapchat a few days ago

It was the day when I was hungover. Sunday. I was so hungover. I was like, I'm not leaving my bed. I was in bed by like 5 p.m. And I asked for show recs. And I'm like, I don't think people understand the type of shows I like to watch. People were recommending Yellowstone and just all things I'm not into. Guys, show recs, if you want to give them to me, reality TV or like...

Yeah, that's about it. Real TV. Watch Survivor, bro. Survivor's so good. I used to love Survivor, but I just think like... Survivor's so good. I am so into it. Okay, maybe you'll start watching again, but right now I'm watching Temptation Island and... We're watching X on the Beach. What? I said we're watching X on the Beach. Yes, X on the Beach and Siesta Key.

That's what I'm watching. So those are good. But they only come out once a week. So it's like I have to kind of wait until like the week comes around. I was watching the newest season of Survivor because it just started. And you're watching other ones? I watched the one from before because I can't wait every Wednesday. Yeah. I flew through this season in like three. Honestly though, I don't watch TV that much. I watch it at night. I watch it every night. The week comes by, like especially like let's say last week. Last week we were social, social, out every night, going to the park, like whatever. So I didn't really want to watch TV. And then like by the time the week came around, I have three.

I have three shows I can watch right now. And I like sat down and watched all three shows in one night. I watch TV every night. Like I watch TV. Mac. Mac just like threw up. He just coughed. Of course, he's eating the plant again. Hold on. But yeah, I watch TV every night. I realized, um, I know like, I like realistically I should probably read before bed and like whatever, but I realized I don't need to read before bed because before bed I kind of just want to watch TV and I'd rather read like on the treadmill or something. So I watch TV like every single day to fall asleep.

So I watch like an episode or two of Survivor every single night. So I'm flying through it. You know what I just realized? We're going to be... So next week, guys, I'm going to Florida with my family. And I feel like before the next episode comes out,

I'm going to be... No, we have one more to record before I leave. Yeah. But yeah, I'm going to Florida next week with my family. I'm going to Florida as well. I asked people to guess on my recent post of me and the baby. I was like, where am I going next week? No one got it. I'm going to Florida to visit my boyfriend for his 21st birthday. So big Florida girls. I know. Big Florida girls. I'm excited to see a beach. Beach. Yeah. Me and my fam.

I'm going to visit my grandmother. Bring macro with me. I'm going to the horse country. That's where I'm going. Fun. Sounds fun. Anyway. I'm having fun in my old college. I'm excited for this episode. But yeah, so today we asked you guys for things you need advice on, right? You know, we wanted to just do a little like connection with you guys. Things you want to know, you want to hear, you guys need help with.

I feel like it's nice to do like some of these sometimes just so you guys know that you're like included in this podcast and heard and we want to help you in here. Well, you have to go through. So remember to follow the podcast Instagram. That is where we do all of these Q and A's and whatnot. Always on the podcast Instagram. That's where we go live. That's where we, I don't know, anything and everything podcast all over there. It's a good, it's a good place to be. And you can join the Facebook group there as well with the link in the bio. Yeah, of course. That's a fun place to be as well.

Okay, well I also, Taylor, what Taylor did is she went through all of them and she screenshot them and sent them to me. So I don't know if like the way you sent them to me are in the same order. Right now, that's the first one. Okay, perfect. So the photos are in the same order. Yeah. So should we just jump right into it? Yeah. I'm excited because this one's a good one and I have a lot of things I could say. So first one, also next time we should ask for approval to like shout you guys out because I don't know if you guys want that. But anyway, how to deal with fear of failure. Let me just tell you right now.

Growth does not come from sitting in your comfort zone. You need to fail in order to become, one, aware if you're capable of it. Two, if you're going to... I guess basically that. If you are capable of it. This could go from in the gym with a weight that you grab, PR, but this also can go for life. And one example that just popped up into my mind was the fear of rejection from a boy. Right. And so here's a prime example of...

Fear of failure and rejection of a boy. This past weekend, my little gym crush that I saw at the lake, whatever. It wasn't necessarily rejection, but it didn't go as planned. But I saw him.

Stop Taylor. So I saw him at the lake and I was like, oh my goodness, guys, you guys are thinking of a psycho, but like we literally paddled over to him. Like me and Taylor on one paddle board, one paddle board with one paddle. She needed to say hello. I just needed to say hi. I was like, you know what? I may never see this man again. So we're paddling over.

And it took like 20 minutes for me to build up the gut to say something. And I finally said something because he was following us on his paddleboard. At this point, he had been following us. Even though we just said we were following him. Yeah, even though we were following him. But it turned out he was honestly following us. So I go, you're following us, aren't you? And he was like, no. He was like, no, not at all. And then we were in conversation for a little bit. And then he was like,

Okay, I'm gonna go now. And it was just like the most like he didn't not interested conversation ever. He didn't look in Sam's direction one time. Like the conversation he was looking the other way the entire time. We were like, what? And I was like, wait, what'd you say? Can't hear you. But to make it even better. Sorry, David, if you're listening to this. He DMs Taylor.

here's the thing i'm like damn it you weren't even into me i did i wasn't the one speaking taylor did not talk once to this man i did not talk sam was talking but guess what man didn't look and here's the thing he followed us on instagram and followed our friends on instagram so he knew who we were that's why he knew my instagram he didn't even look i didn't even talk how crazy is that yeah

But that's rejection right there. You know what? I went up to, or I paddled up to him. I followed him on my paddleboard thinking something positive out of it. Like, oh my God, like I never talked to boys. Like I never go up to boys first. And that one time I did. He DMs Taylor on Instagram. Fuck me. I didn't say anything. Fuck me. So yeah, you're never going to know. Do you want to live in the unknown of like failure? Yeah.

or like rejection or like either one like you need to just go for it do it yeah also it sounds so cheesy but like when you hear stories of people that have like can you get that toy for mac it's driving me insane of people that have like multi-million dollar companies like listen to stories from like ceos and all those types of people a lot of them are on these podcasts any

Any big company you may like, if you listen to a CEO's story, the founder's story, you will hear them say that they may be

failed for years that they were on the verge of bankruptcy for literally a year they had to sell their car to get by whatever like they literally it's not even fear of failure at that point like they did like they hit rock bottom and now they're like where they're supposed to be and they're on a lot of podcasts like i know i listen to the skinny confidential a lot they have a lot of people on and almost every single episode if you listen is

is someone who has like really accomplished really great things and has like a backstory so even though like if you might think that stuff's like kind of cheesy or whatever it's nice to hear yeah it's nice for like real people's like real life um examples especially because like i said some of it's like actually like serious like obviously there's like like funny little stuff and then they're like you can literally hear people being so successful after like hitting the absolute rock bottom of their life

So I think you just have to know like also like literally nothing good. Exactly. So like nothing good comes from being comfortable. Like and there's fear of failure. Like you also can't think like, oh my God, what if I fail? You have to also be like, what if the failure also helps you grow a lot? Because you learn from it. So like say you have like something that you're like looking for in the near future and

I don't know what it is, but like something, like if you're, if you fail once you learn from that mistake and you figure out how to like not, maybe not feel the next time or the next time after that, like you keep building up like the understanding of like what needs to be done. And like, obviously this can go for so many different experiences, so many different like obstacles, but like,

Failure is like one of the biggest things when it comes to like growing as an individual. And it's better, like I said, to know what's going to happen, the outcome, rather than not knowing like the unknown. I hate that feeling, the unknown. Like that's why I even said like with like that boy, I was like, I'm going to be pissed later tonight if I don't go up to him or paddle up to him. And like, I'd never know like what his name is or if I never see him again. I'm going to be pissed. So it's like, this could be for anything. Right. So, yeah.

so yeah this next one's kind of i mean not like okay i don't want to say this is like funny but just like the the topic is like oh yeah so someone said they want to date casually but i'm inexperienced sexually and always feel embarrassed girl we all start somewhere and you have to believe you're like hot yeah because if you don't believe you're hot

then you're not going to like, of course, because obviously if it's your boyfriend, I'd be like, he'd love you anyway, blah, blah, blah. But you don't want like a boyfriend. Like you want to be like hot girl summer. Exactly. You have to like believe you're hot. Yeah. No, a hundred percent. Nothing's sexier than the confidence. You have to believe you're hot. Yeah. All you have to do is believe you're hot. Yeah. And the guys aren't judging you.

Exactly. No guy cares. And honestly too, even if it was a boyfriend, like, I don't know what it is, but like if it's a boyfriend, even communication, big thing like that, you just be like, Hey, like, I don't know. Like I, I'm a little uncomfortable, whatever it is. Even if they're not your boyfriend, you can also talk to people like, especially, I don't know how old you are, but if you're like, I assume the way you worded this, like you're probably, um, maybe in like your twenties or something. Um,

people should be mature enough to like have conversations and you if you're not like in high school so i would definitely just like speak up if you have to but also just believe you're hot like guys are not thinking that much into it as you are like i think girls are even way more intimidating than guys like so i would just believe you're hot and own it and know that like they're not judging you but you also don't have to force yourself to like do like yeah no you don't have to force yourself because like if you feel like you need to like

to fit in to do these types of things, then no, don't do it. But if you genuinely want to experience those types of things, then go for it. But if you're saying like, but I feel embarrassed and you feel like awkward about it and you don't want to do it, then like, you don't have to do it. No, of course. Yeah. No, not. And especially like everyone, like, like it always depends too on like the way you grow up and stuff. And like the people you surround yourself with, like everyone grows at their own rate. Who cares? Like what age you are, like, or anything like that.

You're honestly in your own head. No one's really making fun of you for something like that. I think it's also, especially with girls, it's a lose-lose. You're either inexperienced or it's embarrassing or you're a slut. Guys are the same way. You know what I'm saying? It's not just because you're a girl. There are guys out there that probably feel the exact same way. Do you get what I'm saying? Either you're going to be inexperienced and you're going to feel embarrassed or you're going to be a slut. It's like a lose-lose. Yeah.

But just know you're hot. Literally believe you're hot. Talk to guys like they need to be dating you. Literally. Oh, God. And next one, guys. Switching gears. Yes, switching gears. We wanted these to just random. Go, go, go. Let's just switch gears. Like, I want all the different advice. I know. I know.

Next one is drained of working out and eating healthy. We've been through that. We have. And guess what? I think your lifestyle is probably too strict then. Yes. I think you're way too strict on yourself. Yeah. Because like since we've been having so much fun on like Saturdays, like we've said it like it gives me the motivation to be like... On your game. To be like on it. And it doesn't drain me because I have that...

have that balance so you're probably like in terms of the eating healthy aspect too is like are you actually enjoying your food or are you eating chicken and rice every day yeah because I actually had I re-shared someone's story the other day um she kind of like vented on her story it was like she just took a picture of her tv watching me on youtube and it was like this whole like little description box thing and she was like you know what I gotta cut myself some slack like

Not every single day of the week am I going to be eating chicken and rice, the plain old meal plan to be hitting my goals. That's unrealistic. And yeah, it is unrealistic. Honestly, the only types of people that should be eating like that are going to be the ones that are on prep. They have something that they're really, really training for where it's a marathon of freaking triathlon. I don't know. But if you're just a lifestyle person like us, there's no reason to be super strict on your eating. Because let's say chicken and rice. If you think chicken and rice is like...

Amazing. The epitome of health. What's the difference between having chicken and rice or making your chicken rice mimic your favorite like Chipotle bowl? Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Like still chicken rice. You're just like adding veggies, adding sauce, adding spices. Like you can make so many different meals. Like say I made breakfast tacos today that look like super good, like low calorie, high volume. You can make so many things. Like there's no reason that it can't be

like tasting good. Like there's no reason not to be plain. Yeah. And you should just like, also what's your definition of healthy? Like you need to define what healthy is and then make sure the food tastes good. Yeah. And then you shouldn't really get sick of it

It should be fun to you. Like, I love going into the kitchen and, like, cooking, like, a new fun recipe. Whereas, like, back in the day when I was, like... Which I'm not saying in any way, like, what she... Like, she is saying about her advice is, like, disordered in any way. But me, personally, when I was disordered eating...

I thought like the most simple things with like minimal dressings, minimum seasonings and all that was like healthiest and what would help me see my goals. But then when I made that switch and started to realize that like I could legit eat whatever I wanted and make it fun and like enjoy being in the kitchen, that's when I realized like I love the way I eat, the way I like nourish my body. So it's just like it's kind of figuring out what works for you in terms of food and if you actually enjoy it. If you don't enjoy being in the kitchen –

I don't know. I mean, obviously, Taylor, you don't really like to cook that much, but, like... Yeah, I mean, I do like... Like, I just, with my time in the day, like, I'd rather not, like, make a, like, mess in the kitchen of all these things. Like, I'd rather get it done in, like, two seconds. Like, because I like convenience. But, like, I still like what I eat. Mm-hmm. Like...

I make like that bowl of pasta every night and I enjoy it with that pesto. Like I genuinely enjoy it or like the breakfast I make, the snacks I make, I enjoyed. If I didn't enjoy it, I wouldn't eat it. Yeah. No, neither would I. The amount of times where I actually have done this, I haven't done it in a while though, is like I will make like a plate of food

And if I take one bite of it and it's like not something I'm like really craving or wanting, I will literally just like toss it and make something new. Cause like that's bulk life. Bulking. Yeah. No, like seriously though, like I can't remember the last time I've done that, but like, honestly, like if you're going to like take one bite and you're like, like,

like i don't really want this right now don't force yourself to eat it guys my protein oatmeal was it's gonna make you hate your food i would gag i would sit there and literally gag because i was eating protein oatmeal and i had to be like i can't do this anymore i can't do it but yeah and if you're um the working out part because i know we talked a lot about the food drained of working out

take a day off. Yeah. Like, I think that's a super easy one. Take a day off. Yeah. Like there's nothing wrong with that. Like if you're training six days right now, train five. Train five. Yeah. Or take the whole week off and then realize that next Monday you're going to be like, hell yeah. Yeah. Like I want to do it. Or like try something new. Like, I don't know. Yeah. Do something different. Like if you've been following the same program from like

For months and months and months. Do something new. Find like an Instagram girl and do a workout. Do something different. Mm-hmm. Agree. Go to a new gym. That's fun. Yeah. Gym vibes are very important. Gym vibes are so good. Going to a new gym. Like we went to a new gym a few days ago. It's called Factory ATX. We went to two gyms last week. We did. Factory Gym ATX though. Really cool if you guys visit. Definitely check it out.

so many cool machines and it's like when you're really like it's like a playground yeah so that's really fun but there's nothing wrong with taking a break and also i think for the eating healthy that sounds like you need to redefine redefine what healthy is to you and like redefine your lifestyle because it should just make you feel good and you should like what you're eating yeah of course i agree because it's like i don't feel drained of being vegan or like yeah it's just how i eat so if like you should be eating what you

like and feel good with. Exactly. Preach. Okay. Next up. Again, switching gears. How to make closer friends in college without partying slash the bar. I feel like I only have party friends. Okay. This one's kind of hard for me because I didn't, I didn't really make friends in college. Okay. But I think you can find at parties people that

like i wouldn't say parties are the first place to look but it's definitely impossible to find friends in parties that aren't drinking i think you need to be okay i'm like let me get my thoughts together okay guys so my brain just went in so many different spots this is how i like to live my life i'm okay with having like literally one to three people that are like my friends my like do random things with run errands with hang out on random days with

I'm okay with having one to three of like those. And then, yeah, go out, meet a lot of people, meet party friends, meet those like acquaintances that you just go out and do fun group activities with. Like, I don't think you need so many like tight, like friends that are so invested in your life. Like there's nothing wrong with having a lot of like

Yeah. And people that you know out to go, like, do things with. Like, you don't need a massive circle of people that are, like, so close in your life and not in the party scene. You also need to kind of, like, sit back and reflect on all the other people that seem to have a lot of friends. Because it's like, do they really have a lot of friends? Or are they just the people that they go out with at night? Like, are you having, like, the self-reflecting moment where you're like, shit, I don't have as many friends as the girl next to me. Because, well, maybe is that girl next to you just going out every weekend, drunk?

drunk with like a bunch of people like are those real friends no not necessarily they're just acquaintances that like they go out with I guarantee they're probably not going and like doing random things like hanging out or what are I don't know what people do on freaking college on the weekend or during the week anymore but like you know what I mean it's like those aren't true real friends like are they is that person gonna have all those people that they were at the party with

there for them when they like need it when they're like crying at their feet or something like you know what I mean so you need to realize like it's okay not to have a big ass group of people if you're just gonna have a few one or two friends that are going to be there for you when you like need it like mentally for like venting emotions whatever it is but um I was at a parties like I was a college athlete so like that helped me tremendously with making friends so I

not necessarily like sports but if you can join clubs join a join a group clubs are like very big you can do that but also college isn't your entire life and so you have to remember that there's nothing wrong with your friends in college right now being your college party friends yeah do you know what i mean it's just college you're young that's fine you're gonna probably get an

and make friends that are not living that five days a week party life. Like college is not your whole life. So I think rather than...

being so in your head and upset about like the kind of friends you have have fun with what's like what's there in the moment like make make the best of your if you if you feel like you have no one that's really there for you like definitely like join a club like reach out to but if you like have your like one two three people that are there in your life and you're sitting there feeling like you need more you really don't yeah you really don't to make you anyone feel any better too is like yeah in college like

I had, like, a good, like, group of people that I was hanging around. But honestly, at this point, like, I really only talked to, like, two or three of them. Look, I had no friends in college. Still. And I graduated two years ago. So...

it's everyone grows everyone goes on their own paths in life and you're not gonna probably stick around people from college as much as you think you would y'all you'll probably be in touch but like guys i live across the country now like all those people from college like they're across the country so just continue to realize like what's really really important and obviously friendships are important but like at the end of the day like y'all are gonna end up graduating too and maybe you move across the country too and you're not in as touched with them as you were so it's

don't be so hard on yourself also i don't know what grade you're in but if you're like a freshman i feel like everyone's just trying to like party and do that and as you get older i feel like people might you might actually like find the people like you're with but i'm like if you're a freshman people are literally just probably trying to go out and party and do nothing else okay i really like this one because i just i feel like you really hit home how to find your self-worth after being damaged

Okay, one, you need to like get out of the scenario that that happened in. Whether it's like a place, maybe it's a relationship, a living situation, a job. Get out and find it in something different. And if it's not that easy for you to get up and leave, like you need to find it in something different. Take up a hobby, get a pet, like getting a dog. Like, you know, that's something like yourself worth, like you...

Like you are someone's like, I don't know that gives your day. Like, like it gives yourself like a purpose. Like you are there like for something else beside yourself, but like get out. You can't, um, like, um,

Oh my god, what's the quote? It's like you can't like grow in the same place like that hurt you like You need to I don't know what that quote is. But yes, I agree That's not exactly like the words but like the premise is like you can't like Like how do you expect to like get over something in the same exact place that like for you? so I think if it's

Like make, make a drastic change. Like, like do, do something different. Yeah. Like do something new, do something different. Literally in every, any aspect. Like, like I said, it could be like a new hobby or like, I don't know. Yeah. Like honestly, so like so many things, at least for me, like with my two like breakups that I went through, like, um, my most, like not my most recent, cause like it was literally like five years ago, but like, um, my last ex-boyfriend, like drastic things, like literally dyed my hair. Don't recommend it if you're like literally going from like brown hair to blonde hair, but did that.

Um, I went abroad. I, what else did I do? I started lifting weights. That was like a really big one too. Like I started introducing myself to the gym. Lift weights, bro. Yeah. That's it. Those like big, big, big things in life. Like I know it's kind of like obviously self-explanatory. Like,

If you're not going to the gym, go to the gym or like go abroad. Like, obviously that's not like realistic. You can't like necessarily just like say, all right, I'm going abroad. But like, just like big things in life that like kind of like change your perspective on the world because like the world is so fucking big. Like stop. Like if say it is a breakup she's talking about and that's the self-damage.

say it's boyfriend from a college town there's the world is so freaking big once you start to explore outside of maybe that college town where like your boy your ex-boyfriend is or whatever it is you'll realize like it's not that deep at all like it's not that big of a deal yeah it's gonna hurt for a little bit you're gonna be a little bit damaged but like you'll get past it a little bit faster than if you were just like you know stay in your home your apartment wherever you are and just kind of like

What's the word I'm looking for? Not, like, moaning. Like, mope around. What? Moping around. Yeah, about it. So, yeah. And also, like, lean into people that actually care about you and know your worth. You don't need to be putting your energy into people that also make you feel like maybe you're, like...

like not worthy, like lean into your family, lean into your closest friends, lean into people that do make you feel good about yourself and do things that you feel good at and make you happy and that you can like hype yourself out for being good at and liking and doing a good job out no matter what it is. This dog needs to like shut the fuck up. He keeps jumping up at me. I'm like go in your crate. Literally. He's like spazzing. But yeah.

get out and do something new and do something different as as much as you can it could be something big it could be something little but there's so much more to you as a person than the one thing that like got like damage or the one thing someone hurt or the one thing someone like said something bad about like whatever it is like there's so much like more to you yeah of course i like the next one me too all right how to become an entrepreneur and not go through the classic college roots

Been there, done that. Guys, I ever since entering college, no matter what it was going to be, I knew I wanted to be an entrepreneur with whatever it was. At first, my whole goal was to be an entrepreneur with graphic design, have my own graphic design company or something like that or just anything, whatever it was because I was always just like, go, go, go. You need to be ambitious no matter what. That's step one. If you're not ambitious, setting goals for yourself...

and constantly working to be like the best self. Like literally when I was in college, I think I had like five jobs. Like I was working, busting my ass, like do what I wanted to do. But you also have to be passionate about it. Like you can't just say, oh, I'm going to do this because I don't want to work the classic nine to five. If you're going in with that attitude, it's not going to work. But if you're genuinely passionate about what you want to do,

You have all the potential in the world to do it. It's like you have to be passionate about the business, not really the money. Yes, of course. You have to be passionate about the thing you want to do, not just how much money you're going to make. But also, I think it's important to know that college... Yes, I dropped out of college, but I'm not just like...

No one has to go ever. It serves more of a place than just the degree you get. Like, it's a social thing. It makes you connections. And also being on your own in the real world, paying for all your bills, working,

That's a lot. And it's real life. And I think straight out of high school, I didn't think I'd really be ready for that. And I feel like college is a buffer of like a transition of being like, okay, you're kind of on your own. You kind of have this like freedom schedule. Like it serves more of a purpose than just the degree you get. So even if you want to be an entrepreneur, there's nothing wrong with that.

going to college for the many other reasons college can help besides the degree. Because let's say you go into like the business school, you can meet so many people. You can meet so many people that may want to partner with you on what you're doing, help you with what you're doing. Professors that may want to invest in what you're doing. You can make so many connections. So it's not just a worthless place like at all. Like if you're like in high school right now, I don't know. I wouldn't just rule it out because you –

want to be an entrepreneur because I think a little bit of a plan B, especially if you're in high school, if you're like 18, like you're very young. Like, and I don't think there's anything wrong with doing, even if it's like community college, I'm not saying like, cause if you're like, I don't really care about the degree, you don't have to spend tons of money going away to school, but like there's something wrong with giving a little bit of a buffer. Yeah.

um yeah there's nothing like wrong with college yeah there's nothing wrong there's nothing wrong with it at all and going the traditional route and like figuring it out then you also have to too like in a really good like aspect like not like in the sense of like taking advantage of someone but like say whatever your goal is to be an entrepreneur with say you want to open up your own boutique okay work at a boutique first learn the behind the scenes like understand what it takes to

Like do it as a part-time job working in a boutique or say you want to open up your own like restaurant one day. Okay. Be a waitress, then be a bartender, like do it all. So that way you can like also learn what it takes to be, you know, an employee at that space. You learn so much, not maybe from the owners ask questions. Like, obviously there are some like really selfish people out there that maybe not won't share their wealth, won't share their knowledge, but like the people you surround yourself with and like the experience you get, um,

depending on like the avenue you want to take, it will help so much. Right. And I also think that the way social media now is, maybe this is a hot take with everyone being like influencers and like working for themselves. I feel like it's made everyone being like,

I don't want to work. Yeah. And it's like, I think there's a disconnect of that working for yourself does not mean you don't work. You work more. The stress is more because there's no, there's no job security. The more you work, the harder you work, the more money you potentially make because you're pushing yourself to do better. And there's no like job security. Yeah. She could be gone. Yeah. There's no benefits. There's no health insurance. Like,

There's pros and cons. And I think younger people now seeing like people at Charlie D'Amelio, whenever they're like, I don't want to work. And it's like, maybe like actually like, like there's benefits. Like we see, like I know people, they work corporate jobs and they know all these people. And it's like, it's just us and our phones. Like there's pros and cons to, to working for yourself. And I think some people just want to like, I'm just going to work for myself. Like because of how things look on social media and they don't realize that

That like it is okay to get another job. Yeah. And it's not like failing to just work a corporate job. Especially if you're like an entrepreneur, say of like, let's say a gym, because that's just like an easy one I can think of. If you own a gym, you're not just like an employee of a gym. Like you can't just go home from work after. Like you have to pay attention to like if something breaks in the gym, you're responsible for that. If someone breaks in in the middle of the night, you're responsible for that. Yeah.

Something's wrong with maybe the software or the Wi-Fi or just like anything. You're responsible for that. So it's like you have all these responsibilities way above of what someone else is doing or working that's just, you know, getting maybe the minimum wage, salary rate, whatever it is. So you just need to also put that into perspective that you are going to be working way more than someone who's just, you know,

Yeah. But if you've already weighed all that out and you're like, nope, I get it. Like I have this idea. I'm passionate and I want to do it. Then literally start it. Like I said, look up other people's stories of how they did it. Listen to some podcasts. Look up. Get into the atmosphere of it. Like I don't know what you want to do, but like...

Make connections. Don't be afraid to ask people questions. People that make something big on their own are so... At least most of them. They're so willing to share and help. I feel that... Ask people. Have those conversations. Put yourself out there to literally anyone and everyone about what your idea is, what you want to do. And then get to start...

like get it started if it's like oh I have to invest this amount of money or like do this or whatever it is like so do you like you're either gonna make the step or you're not yeah and I also do want to say there are a lot of different types of entrepreneurs out there like Taylor said at the beginning like there's the entrepreneurs because they actually love what they do and they love it or they're just in it for the money and like prime example is like

business coaching or like, but like, just like those types of things, like you're not in it because you actually enjoy like doing that. You're in it for the tensions of like, I need an easy, like entrepreneur job. That's going to make me money. So just remember, remember your why. That's what keeps you going. Um, and don't just like rule out college. If you're in high school, like thinking about it, think about it. The real world is like scary and a lot. Mm.

This one, I like this next question because my answer is yes. She said, should I stop taking birth control? I'm on birth control, but for you, sis, I think you should just stop. I want to stop so bad. I definitely want to stop too, but I've been like, obviously we're not really the best to answer this because we're both on it. Like we don't know like the pros and cons of being off, like off of it. I've just heard such good things and I feel like you should do it. No, yeah, of course. We've definitely heard great things, but like,

We also don't know how your body's responding to it, how you are on your period, all of these things. But honestly, if I were to do it, I would have probably stopped taking it by now. It's just... It's the... It's the what if for me of like... What if I don't fit? You know, like I just...

I don't know. He chooses to be loud when we podcast. It's always when I'm doing YouTube videos or if I'm podcasting. He just wants to bark and eat me. But yeah, I just thought this one was kind of funny just because I've been thinking about it and we've talked about it. So I was like, yes, sis, you literally can because... Yeah. You should do it. Also, there needs to be male birth control. But that's another story. Yeah. But also, we do get a lot of questions and advice on birth control too. It's like, we're not professionals, guys. So please remember that. We're literally just...

I'm a 23-year-old girl. She's a 21-year-old girl. We're talking about our experiences with these types of things. We're not going to give you full-on medical advice, so remember that. Yeah, it's just experience, and also you're in control of your own body. You're the one that can call the shots. So if it's something you've been wanting to do, but something is making you feel like you should keep doing it, do what you want to do. You can do whatever you want. This next one is self-explanatory. Okay.

He says, or she says, my bad. My boyfriend doesn't want me to look manly, but I want to look like I can kick his ass. As you should, queen. Why is he your boyfriend? I know that too.

You should want to kick his ass because he sounds stupid saying that. Okay, guys. We put the dog away because he was being literally insane. But anyways, I think you should either... If it's a serious conversation you've already had with him and he still continues to like... That's toxic. That's not your person, right? Because...

don't you kind of keep wanting to look like that and have these goals forever how are you going to deal with that and it's like sad yeah but realistically he's not a person like that's not someone that's a good life partner for you he's insecure as fuck though too he is insecure as fuck definitely if you haven't like had a conversation with him about him had a conversation with him about it do that first right give him like a little bit of chance do that first talk to him but i think it's very simple get that energy out of here

I agree. That's just not, not welcome here. That would be like also very like for any girl going into talking to a guy, that's a very big red flag. So be on the lookout because obviously you're listening to this because you probably are into the gym. You love, you love fitness, you know, you know, the dealio. And if you're not, hi, welcome. Love that. But, um, yeah, big red flag.

Okay, that was all the ones I screenshotted, but I'm going to do a little look-see. Yeah, especially because people have been sending them in as we're going. Which also, too, like, another thing to keep in mind is, like,

You guys, a lot of these are questions that were submitted. So if you had like a question that was submitted, most of the time it's probably been answered on the podcast. Like one of them was how to deal with social anxiety in the gym. We have a full episode on that. We more or less were looking for like advice on things, you know? So obviously too, if you're listening and you're like, oh my God, they didn't answer my like question. In my, in my fitness journey, but my boyfriend invites me to eat out a lot.

How much is a lot though? But you also need to have just an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend. Yeah. How much is a lot? Because there's two, you're not giving us enough information. This could go two ways. He's literally asking you to eat like crap every single night and you're like, I can't be doing that. Or do you think him asking you to go out to dinner once a week is like the end of your life? Twice a week. If it's once or twice a week and he wants to go out and eat with you, that's like fun date time. Yeah. Right? Like, and you can always maybe pick like a,

a healthier restaurant, you know, like you could go get a more like fresh, like whole foods, like type meal, um, rather than like McDonald's or something. So if he's asking you to go out like once or twice, that's really not a lot. He just wants to spend time with you. If he's literally not understanding that you can't go like get Domino's pizza every single night at midnight, then maybe he should be a little bit more like supportive, you know? Yeah. Um, agreed. So that definitely has two different sides to it.

yeah sorry guys we're just a lot of people are asking for long distance advice someone said my boyfriend of four years and i are going to college in the fall long distance tips so i've been doing long distance for a while um it's like hard as hell and you just have to be like really knowing that it's what you both want because i feel like if there's any question that's when it doesn't work and if there's any inkling that you don't know if it's what the other person wants it's probably not gonna work

Um, and you just have to communicate a lot and talk a lot, like make, make times for FaceTimes as if it's like a in-person commitment. Um, that helps a lot. Um, like treating it like it's an in-person commitment. Like, would you bail on him if you said you were going to go over? Probably not. So if you said, oh, I'll call you later, don't bail on that phone call either. Things like that, like treating it equally as important, but also you both just have to be like a hundred percent

And don't be as... If you have to take a little bit of a break, you have to take a little bit of a break. And what is meant to be will be. And you'll come back to each other if it's worth it. But don't stress. Like, you're going to college, so I assume you're in high school. No stress. I literally have no relationship advice, guys. Because I was telling Taylor the other day, like...

not that like my like boy life is any of anyone's business but like I was literally just saying I was like I literally don't even know how to date like how do you do that it's been so long like the whole like talking to a guy like every day or like yeah but when texting a guy or like it'll just flow going it's just like I was like I was like I'm like icked out I'm like I don't want to ever do that queen of the ick I get the ick really easily so if there's a guy listening to this and like

I don't know. You know who you are. Yeah, you know who you are if you're listening to this. If you're listening to this, I get icked up very easily. It's very easy for me to just like turn around and be like, bye. See you later. I'm like, what happened to him? I haven't talked to him in three days. I'm like, oh, that's great. God damn, it's so bad. That's like something I got to work on though. Definitely got to work on that. Yeah, a little bit. You're going to be like at the wedding altar and you're going to get the ick and you're going to be like, oh my God, the way he just took out that ring. Yeah, ick, ick, ick, I'm off. Yeah.

I'm out. Oh, God, guys. The day I get a boyfriend, y'all are going to hate me. This one I think is funny. Like, not funny, but... Okay, because she said, I just quit my job to start an online coaching business advice. And she's not like, do I quit my job? Like, girl, you already quit the job. Yeah, she already quit it. Full sent. Full sent. Like, I don't know what advice to give. You already quit. Yeah. And I assume she's probably meaning, like, personal training coaching, right? Like...

It's not even like, should you quit? What should you do? Like full send. Hope it works, girly. Full send, baby. But yeah. Um, any other ones? I hope you like my singing.

The thing is I can't read and think about the fact that I'm podcasting right now. I mean, those are all the ones that I liked. A lot of them were honestly guys like fitness related questions. If you still have questions, I would definitely recommend looking back on our like almost 50 plus episodes we have because there are so many with so many different topics and you don't want to miss a single one because we've pretty much covered I feel like everything in the

Yeah, that's about it. We're going to do repeats. Like, we're going to go back into different topics in different ways. Like, things will be talked about more than once. But when we do, like, these advice-long things, we want, like, I want, like, your individual, like, nitty-gritty, like, something having, like, you right now. Yeah, with more detail to it. Yeah. So those were the ones that spoke to me to answer. And I hope you all got the advice you wanted. I hope we helped. Yeah. Maybe I didn't. Yeah, I don't know.

But I feel like I did a good job. I feel like we did great. Yeah. But that's pretty much... That's pretty much it. A little bit of a shorter one today. Yeah, that's okay, though. That's okay. It happens. We always gift you guys with an hour-long episode. It's not even that short, but it's just a little bit shorter. But you guys will live. Yeah. It's all right. It's all right. Anyways...

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