Advice for Living in Your Selfish Era | Q&A
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Hello guys, welcome back to another episode. I'm Taylor. I'm Sam. We're doing a Q&A today. Very fun. Make sure to follow us on Instagram so you don't miss out on submitting anything you want to ask for Q&As because that's where we do it on Instagram. Yes. Q&As, posting of all the content, uploading. Sometimes I'm really bad.

with announcing that there was an episode on my like instagram story me too i didn't do it last week um that's the problem too with like our shit comes out on friday and like as you guys know like we're busy people we're busy like i'm doing things yeah and then like not to be like that like annoying influencer but it's like i like to take my weekends off off

so it's like i put so much shit on snapchat yeah but is that like like you might be doing that whether you had social media or not i gotta 100% leave my phone like in my pocket all day but it's like no i want you guys to see my my night out yeah i've been trying to be better about that so nice um segue into a plug to add us on snapchat yeah uh if you're watching on youtube i'll put them in the description if not um

Everything is all on Instagram. Everything. Our social media is everywhere. You can find it all online. And don't even worry. But Snapchat's a really, really fun place. I was going to say, because you mentioned, like, we're so popular. I posted a TikTok clip of you being like, I had so many dates. And me being like, life is hard being so popular. And everyone on TikTok is like, this is why you guys don't have boyfriends. Because you talk about all your shit online. They're like, oh, God. Like, I hate to date this girl. And I'm like...

First of all, you're not wrong. But like... Also, like, I know that I'm going to find someone that loves me exactly for who I am. That's what it is. And I'm not going to settle. So I don't give a fuck if I have a bunch of boys that I'm cycling through and going on dates with and it all flops. Also, like, no, guys, like, you don't have a boyfriend because you guys talk about your shit so much online. And someone's going to have to be okay with that. Yeah. Yeah.

And like, it's my fucking job. Like, it's the same thing as doing like reality TV. It's my job. So bad. But I'm just picturing the one guy. We need names for them. We fucking should have had fake names for all these boys. Okay. So if we want to talk about who I'm hanging out with. My sneaky link. His name is. My sneaky link's name is Justin. Okay. Justin. Mine's Noah. Okay. Okay. Well, anyways, I feel like Noah is.

Loved me exactly for who I am. 100%. And also... But, like, I'm not gonna date him. Well, and here's the other thing. I think the guys online that are insecure... Like, they're insecure. Because no one who's confident...

the girl they like or the girl they're trying to see. Like, so what if I say shit online? Yeah. You know who I am in real life and like, you know, you have me. I feel like some people are so insecure about girls that like put so much online. Yeah. It's like, no, you need to be like,

And what about it? Literally. I still don't know if Justin has ever listened to the podcast. He's probably taking a quick sneak peek at it. Yeah, he told me he didn't. Nosiness. I'm going to ask him when he comes back. Who wouldn't? Yeah, like he just went on. Don't listen to this. You are 100% going to. Like he's traveling right now. He just went on a plane. So much free time. I know. That's when, how do you not listen? What else are you doing on the plane? I'd listen. I know. Oh my God, if I was talking to a boy and they had a podcast. Yeah.

Yeah. They'd be like, have you listened? I'd be like, no. Listen to every single one. Watch it on YouTube. Oh, 100%. 100%. But like... Actually, you know what? Maybe not because guys wouldn't have like the weekly catch up like gossipy part. Oh, it's to listen though. I want to see what you put... I want to listen. I want to know what you said. I know. But like theirs would be more like... How to trade crypto? Yeah. How to trade crypto or like how to...

how to build quick lean actually no you know what i would literally quite literally never date a guy that had like i had a trade crypto podcast yeah no so um i wouldn't i would never be in that situation because i would literally never have what is your boy situation right now taylor oh my god i'd love to tell the podcast so like um i was really like

oh my god like i need to be like single but i was also like obviously like not over my ex-boyfriend yet and like guys it's so weird when you think like you'll never be over something or like that they'll like never be anything else and then there is and it's crazy like you will get over it i get dms all the time like how do you get over it like you will yeah you you will anything in this world like one day you just kind of like wake up yeah like one day things are gone it's not like

And I wouldn't even say like the feeling. Yeah. Yeah. The like obsession with it and like the fact that you think like nothing else will happen. So I'm not gonna say the feelings are gone. Like that's someone I care about. But like.

it's like crazy but like if you put me in a room and we're like which person would you rather like date like it wouldn't be that oof i hope he doesn't listen to this well it's just because i already know it doesn't work you know what i mean like if we were talking like maybe when we like started it's just like i know that doesn't work so why would i want to do that again like that's not going to work i'm gonna say this for any girl listening right now that has like a similar situation as taylor is like you over the last like

four years have changed so much as a person like everyone no matter what because i was in the same position with my ex-boyfriend like same time frame yeah same like age in my life when i broke up with him and it's like everyone grows and like you change as individuals so like the person you were when you first started dating someone is not gonna be the person you were like even like

A year after the breakup. Yeah, I was going to say I've changed a lot in the last, like, six months. Yeah, exactly. So it's, like, don't beat yourself up if you are realizing, like, the relationship you're in now is, like, kind of, like, fumbling because you change. And that's a good thing. Like, you changing is a good thing. And it's, like, part of me feels really bad because he kind of dated me, like, at my fucking worst. Yeah. Like, he dated me at literally my worst. Like, dealt with, like, my mental health was so shit. Like, I was going through so much. So I do, like...

feel really bad that like I had someone going through like all of that and putting up with me at like literally the worst years of my life. And now someone gets to. Yeah. No, he didn't make me my worst, but it's like now someone gets to actually like hang out with me when I'm not. Yeah. Like spiraling. So like, yeah, it's just cool and it's fun and watching a lot of dating reality TV and

makes me very much like oh my god I want a boyfriend yeah like I want to be wifed because I'm gonna this is kind of some of it has to do with like weekend stuff um so he's out of town and I was like it's Casa Amor I was like it's gone I can it's my time so we went out on the weekend which like we'll circle back to but this is like I'm gonna give updates on this it has to be like one long story so I was like

this is my time like we're going out like i can talk to boys like i would never like i'm not the trolls on the internet would love to take this clip and be like see taylor's a fucking whore i would never like sleep with anyone else okay like i'm not disrespectful piece of shit but like i can chat i can shit chat i could let a guy buy me a drink like because i was like if i find other people like interesting and worth my time like maybe i'm not actually into this dude yeah i was like

This is one of the most embarrassing things that's ever happened to me. So there was this really cute guy on TikTok. Like videos got clout for like him being cute. Like I was like, oh my God, like this dude is so cute. And like we matched on Hinge. I was like, I'm going to meet this guy. Like he was out. Oh my God. Like he looks, I have this vision in my head of what he looks like. Okay. Like I have this like vision of the person. We end up being at the same bar as him.

y'all i was catfished i was catfished by a man yeah and i have never everyone always talks about girls being catfished i don't know how guys catfish because it's not like they're wearing makeup maybe there's a tiktok filter y'all i was like be so real like he walked past me and i almost didn't

I like tapped him on the shoulder, but I was like, oh my God, is that him? Like I was like, did I just tap the wrong person? No. I was like, how embarrassing. I was like, do you have like a brother? Is this your brother? Like you look similar, but like, is that you for real? Like, oh my God, guys, I don't even know how to explain it.

i was wearing big shoes too like sure i was in my sneakers and i think i was like taller than him oh my god y'all it was so bad and then we're with one of our friends who knows who justin is because he's been out with us a few times and like all of my friends are very team him like since he wasn't here they are literally like i literally was out alone because he's out of town everyone's like where is he and i'm like why isn't he here i'm like out of town

relax or like even when he wasn't down like he was not with me for two seconds i was like so where is he i'm like i'm allowed to be out by myself first of all like chill with it but i was like no i like him whatever so our friend sees this guy that i met up with and he literally like the stank face on this man's face like he was hiding nothing he was just like justin is 10 times better looking than that dude what the fuck and i was like he was like and i was like

relax. I was like, I'm not staying here. And then he was even like, your friend was kind of looking at me weird. I'm like, was he? I don't know why. Like,

Our friend was like, no, like absolutely not. Like you, like uh-uh. And I was like, okay. Because it's like they liked him. So for me to be like talking to another dude, it'd have to be worth it. Yeah, well worth it. Like some big old 6'5", like super hot bodybuilder showed up. Maybe they'd be like,

yeah okay get it i guess our friend group like if you get the seal of approval from them like that's a big yeah one of them even because that's me they were like hey like because they asked where he was and he was like normally if my girlfriend's being around a dude i hate him but he's a cool dude i was like okay thanks i appreciate that but yeah like if i showed up with like the most beautiful man of all time maybe they'd be like all right yeah i see that you know like good for you but they were like

you're gonna leave like Justin for this dude I was like I was like I will be with you guys in two seconds let me finish up this conversation stay by no we were literally trying to and I'm out yeah they were leaving I was like I will be with you in like three minutes like I just needed to like

I mean like I'm a decent person I was like let me just like wrap up this conversation say goodbye and I'll meet you and I did I literally was like okay bye like and then I fucking sprinted to the next bar but I feel like that was the universe being like no one else is that cool yeah like no one else is that cool like you might see all these guys online like what about all the cute boys I can talk to no they're not no

No one's cool enough. No one's as cool as you think. Yeah. Like, you're not missing out on anything, guys. It was so sad. I wish I had a picture of him. I know. It was bad. It was so bad. And I was so drunk, but that moment in time is one of the only moments I remember. Yeah. And then, red flags all around with the whole friend group, because one of his friends is someone that we met before. And he was like, my friend made out with your roommate. And I go...

Who? Like, who the fuck are you talking about? Like, I don't... What? And he showed a picture of some guy we met once. Sam has never kissed him. And I'm like, no. Never made out with that dude. And I'm like, red flags all around. Yeah. Catfish. Lying. Uh-uh. Why would he even say that? I was like, I want... Yeah, I'm like, I want no part of you and your friends. Like, you might as well have said we fucked. Like, why do you have to lie and say we just made out? Yeah. So fucking weird. Fucking bizarre. Anyways, um...

Do we go into the weekend or do I explain my guy situation? I feel like we should do the weekend first. Whatever you feel goes. You can just tell your story in whatever way you feel. Because the guy's situation kind of happened throughout the weekend. Yeah, well, Sam's guy situation is always like... There's always like three men in rotation. No, but you're just like dating right now. Yeah, no, I'm dating. You are in the scene. You are like...

Dating. Really? Full on dating. Yeah. And I'm not being disrespectful to any of these guys by any means. I'm not sleeping with all of them. No. I'm only sleeping with one of them. And I told him he's my sneaky link and we're going to continue that. But the rest of them, all I'm doing is just kissing them. I'm not doing anything more than that. Because I told myself... You haven't even kissed all of them. I haven't kissed all of them. You're right. You're so right. But anyways, I don't plan on doing that. I'm going to stick to one consistent man because...

That's just, I don't want to do that. Anyways, Friday. Should we start with Friday? Yeah.

We shall. Do you even remember what we did Friday? We went to sushi. Yes. You had like a blank stare for a minute. It took me a second. I was like, does she not remember? It took me a second. Okay. I was like, Friday, Friday, Friday. Yeah. So we didn't drink on Friday, but we did go get dinner with some girlfriends and it was so nice. It's so nice to just have like a girls night. Yeah. We rarely have those and it felt really good to just like make...

solid girlfriends and we were just talking about like you know those times you can just chill and like watch a movie with your girlfriends or like hang out with your girlfriends like on the couch chill relax and it's like we do that with dudes and we do that with each other but like we never do that with other girls really and it's like yeah that'd be so nice actually because we're always watching the bachelor watching love island and like the boys are over and it'll be on but it's not the same it's not the same it's not the same there's certain things like

You can talk about with boys. Like when we were talking, we were sitting there talking about like birth control and fucking periods and acne and they just like... Yeah, yeah, yeah. We're not gonna talk about that with our guy friends. Yeah, or like we'll talk to them about our dating situation but I won't talk to them about like my sex life. No, but they also give the worst fucking advice when it comes to that. Terrible advice. Hunter is the worst one. I'm like, oh, but Hunter, like I really like this one but then like this guy's... But he'll always like...

the opposite of what I want to hear. And I'm like, okay, Hunter, I'm never coming to you for advice. Yeah, not the best advice. And it's just like, I can't go into detail. Like, I don't know, there's stuff I tell you that I never tell them. Like about like,

And it's like girls, it's just different. Like girls, it's easy to just like talk about all that stuff with. Or if we watch Love Island with our friends, they're just like, she's hot. She's not that hot. She's hot. Oh yeah, nice tits. And it's like, what do you think about the relationship? Like, I want to hear the tea. Like they're literally just like, eh, hot. Like, I'm like, oh my God, no one cares if you think she's hot. Like I want to talk about like the drama. Yeah.

Yeah, no, that was okay. Also, before we even skip into that, I totally forgot about our fucking banana bread weekend or night.

Oh, yeah. Yeah, guys, real quick before we get back into the weekend. On Tuesday night, our guy friends come over and Haley. Haley also came, but she came a little bit later. And so our friend group, we call us the Monops. That's our group name. It's like, what, seven of us? Yeah. And so we try to do a game night at least once a week at our place.

Try for our place. Sometimes it doesn't work and um connor brought fucking banana bread that was infused with weed and He literally told me to take like this massive chunk of it and I was like no hell No, I don't trust you So luckily with my intuition I only had like a little bit of it like literally like the size of maybe like I don't even know like two to three inches big and

Within an hour, I was a fucking vegetable. Like I had the worst like experience ever. I never have good experiences with edibles and I've only done edibles twice in the last like year and a half and I'm never doing it again because I was so paranoid. I had to lock myself in Taylor's bathroom and then I went from Taylor's bathroom down to my bathroom and I did not leave for like an hour and a half and then all my friends ended up leaving. But I'm just...

I had to let you guys know my experience. Yeah, it was like crazy. I literally just tried a bite. I was like, I don't want to get high from this, but I want to see what it tastes like. Just out of curiosity. And mind you, the boys had like half the pan to themselves. So I was like, a bite will do nothing. I was literally high, but I actually had like a, I was like a perfect level of high. Um, but everyone else was kind of freaking out. So the experience wasn't like,

And I was kind of alone at night. So I was like, this is weird that I'm just like high right now for no reason. But I was like the perfect level of high. And I kid you not, I had like a bite just to see what it tasted like.

And so the fact that I got high, I was like, how is everyone else literally alive? No, like I didn't go to bed until one in the morning. Yeah, that's nuts. And Michael sent a picture of his whoop thing in the group chat and his heart rate was like so high, like for so long that his whoop indicated that he was working out until three in the morning. And I'm like, if I had a whoop on, that would have been me. I kind of want one. Like this.

It literally said you, Sam, were working out until like 1 in the morning. Yeah, no, it was really honestly hilarious. Like it was really funny. It was really good banana bread. Like Connor's kind of boom. It was so good. Yeah, he's kind of like really good at...

He used Kodiak cake mix. Really? Yeah. As like the flour. Well, I want the recipe. Yeah. Oh, because he goes, I made it vegan so you can have it. And I was like, when he makes you vegan edibles, king. Not even vegan anymore. I'm like, could have put eggs in it. I'm literally not even vegan anymore. But it was...

So sweet. So anyways, that was like happened. Yeah, randomly happened during the week. Yeah, Friday. We're kind of boring during the week. Which is good. Yeah. We don't need to be going crazy yet. No. So Friday we got sushi and then I went to go hang out with my man and then that was kind of it. It was so chill. Yeah, so chill. We needed it because it's Saturday. We needed it because we were throwing a pool party on Saturday and we threw the Rager party.

of the fucking year. And we will continue. Everyone, the amount of people that kept coming up to me and being like, this is so much fun. I'm like, bitch, good, because I literally got so stressed out texting so many people, telling them to come, and I was nervous no one was going to turn up. Yeah, inviting people to something is always iffy, because you just don't want it to be like...

You just want people to like have fun. I want people to show up. It's on like your shoulders. It's like, oh my God. Yeah. And people showed the fuck. There was like 60 people. There were so many people there. Like looking at the pictures, I'm like, that's awesome.

a lot of people and like maybe 60 at one time that's not even accounting for like the in and out of like maybe people that showed up and left there was so many people there um we looked so cute like it was so much fun i just can't believe it was just good vibes like a lot of people in one place having a good time and i also wanted to point out because i was talking with sam about this

I know people like I feel like people think we drink so much when we drink. We both had like two drinks at this party drinks like and the drink on the pours were definitely on the heavier side because you're making yourself like those two drinks got me. Yeah. And like I got a day. This is my rec. This is like my biggest recommendation. This is what I will day drink with. If you see me on a boat from here on out, it's this.

Unless I get the hookup from Sprint Society. That's like my dream like brand for like PR and working with. So unless that happens, you'll see me drinking this. The brand is Bev. B-E-V. They're like wine. I got the like California Rose. I don't even like Rose. That shit is so good. And it's not it's really low sugar. I think they're like 90 calories per

They're 12% alcohol. They taste so good. The cans are pretty small. They don't make you feel bloated because I don't like really carbonated drinks because then I just feel like gross. Y'all, 12 out of 10. Those are literally...

my drinks of the summer from here on out they're so freaking good so i had those that got me feeling right but yeah it was really chill because we knew we were going out later so we weren't on like a crazy mission to have a bender and it was so fun like it was like pretty i was pretty you were yeah i know you were choice so michael made me my drink and i think this is gonna be my new drink when i'm like drinking and making my own drinks because you obviously can't get this at the bar

But you're going to get a cup. You're going to do some tequila, ice, and then you're going to use a seltzer, like a Topo Chico, like seltzer, like an alcoholic seltzer.

use that pour that in and then top it with cranberry juice and my god it's a strong as fuck drink but it's so good yeah a lot of people do a little a little um tequila in their seltzer like some people even just open their seltzer and like add it in there yeah so that's what i did and i had two of those the second one i had what what or no the first one i had wasn't even that good because i used like we got this like

diet cranberry juice. It was fucking garbage. It was so gross. But we tried to be like... But then somebody... One of our friends brought a regular cranberry juice and I was like, fine, I'll just use that one. But diet cran, not a chance. Yeah, we were like, oh my god, let's get diet cranberry. Health queens. Like five calories a serving, period. Yeah. Y'all, you gave me a sip of that drink and I was like, that tastes...

God awful. It tasted like peanut butter and jelly. That was so gross. Don't buy diet cranberry juice. It was awful. Especially from Target. The Target brand one. Don't get that one. It was literally trash. And then we went out at night, rallied, got home, cooked dinner. You were skipping so much. What happened? Well, I'm trying... I wanted to talk about, like, my guy's situation. Oh, I just feel like they didn't really do much at the pool party. Kind of. I feel like your guy's situation was, like, at nighttime. Yeah, but, like... So...

I had, okay, so going on Saturday, I had two of the guys that had been talking to my sneaky link and then the other guy at the pool party. And then I knew I wanted to go out later that night because I had the other guy that I previously went on a date with the day before we went to the gym together.

who I wanted to meet up at night. So the entire time at the pool party, I just kept telling myself, like, I'm not going to put my attention fully into either of them. Like, whichever guy wants to give me more attention right now, like, he wins. And I realized, like, literally halfway through the fucking party, Taylor comes over and goes, so which one? And I'm like, neither of them are fucking doing anything. Yeah, he's literally like,

neither of them are talking to me talk to a single one of them right now and here's the thing because one of them noah like knows he has it oh he he's the worst he looks at me he goes i'm never gonna text you i'm never gonna talk to you like yeah he's the one playing hard to get i'm like bitch i'm the one playing hard he knows that he has in the bag so like why would he come and talk to you and then the other guys just like an area he doesn't really care that much either so it's like no one was like

Fighting for it. So then I decided, like... After I realized that with Taylor, I was like, wait, none of them are fucking trying. So then I realized... I was like, you know what, Sam? Just go fucking do it. So I saw one of them sitting on the edge of the pool. So I went to go sit with him on the edge of the pool. And we were talking for, like, an hour. Just, like, sitting there and getting drinks. Like, he ended up making me my second drink and whatnot. And then we decided... I was like, you know what? We'll all go out after this, like, together. So...

Then that's how we left the pool party. And I was like, you know what? I need to go home. I need a shower. I need a change. We need to like regroup because it's go time, baby. It's go time. Shower, dinner.

hair and makeup boom we were ready to freaking go straight back to the same apartment complex that we just came from really pulled it together everyone looked stunning pulled it together we all did so great um we literally left at like six we regrouped all together by eight like everyone was with it i knew i couldn't stay because if i stayed at the house way too long i would have gone a bit yeah yeah yeah no you gotta be out you can't stop even hayley called me hayley was like when are you going back i need to know when you're going back because if if not like i'm a little

literally going to bed right now. Yeah. Same. Like, let's go right now. Yeah. That's why like normally day drinking, I cannot stop or I'm going to bed, which almost did happen to me because I did stop drinking for quite a long time. And the first bar we get to with our friends, I'm like literally sitting at that picnic table falling asleep. I was like, I can't be here.

yeah i can't be here i was like i'm so fucking tired and you're like wake up i'm like i'm trying like if i stop drinking i fall asleep saved me i stopped drinking i fall asleep but if i keep drinking i'm gonna black out so you know you gotta pick your battles and i'm not trying to black out so i had to like just not drink and then you know we got we got a little bit going i was still tired as fuck but you know

The energy of everyone else was coming up because everyone else got a few drinks in them again. So it was fine. We were vibing. So yeah, Sam had her espresso martini. So she was ready to go. Yeah, it was so good. And then obviously, as you guys know, I have a flask on hand. So I was using that throughout the night. But yeah.

We had not been to Latchkey. If you guys know, that is our favorite fucking bar in the world. Like we love going there. And we had not gone there in like a few weekends because it's been so busy. So it was around 9 p.m. And we were like, you know what? Let's go to Latchkey right now before the line gets too long. We get over there. The line is so long and it's 9 p.m. I'm like, what the fuck? So we go up to the bouncer and luckily the bouncer is the same bouncer that has been there. Like every single time we go there, he knows us. He doesn't know my name, but he knows me and he knows...

Like who I am from all the encounters we had. And he looked at me and he go, I will. I go, do you remember me? He goes, yeah, there's, he goes, there's no cute boys in here right now. And I go, Oh my God,

Oh my God, you do remember me because every time I go up there and he's IDing me, I ask him, I go, are there any cute boys in there right now? And he's always like, no, I'm like, I'm not on that side of the field. I don't know. Like why? Why would I know? I was like, you can just tell me if there's attractive men in there. So he let us right in and like we like I kind of felt bad. We skipped the line because our guy friends were like following behind. They're like, okay, we're coming.

And we like literally gave no fucks about them and just skipped the fucking line. Well, we had other guy friends in there. Yeah, and like they were already like, we don't want to go there. So I'm like, I'm not waiting for you if you don't even want to be here and you're going to leave in two seconds or go somewhere else. Then why did I wait in line with you? Especially going to the front of the line with a bunch of guys and us. We were not all going to get there. No, so we got in and it was like... The girls finessed. Yeah, it was like, who cares? We're leaving their ass behind.

waltzed right in. Really amazing. I hope we can do that every single time. Me too. I think after this Sunday, we can. Yeah. Because we were, I was chatting it up for him for a while and then also, we'll get into that. Yeah. So, we went in and like,

met up with our friends that were there noah was there sam was trashed by the way noah's the sneaky link yeah no sneaky link she's hanging out with him um we're partying it up with all of our friends one of our friends is like literally in love with me and was like yeah literally spending the whole night like attached to my best friends with noah so he keeps being like come on like double dates it would be so cute so obsessed with me it's cute though

And then, so, anyways, so the one guy that I told I was meeting up because he didn't go to the pool party, I told him we were at Latchkey. He ends up showing up to Latchkey. I'm, like, surprised because the last two weekends we had gone out, he doesn't show up. He's, like, for the boys at night. He never is, like, for the girl. Like, he's never, like, chasing a girl when he's not. He's always for the... But for some reason, like, this past weekend, he...

He wanted to go out and, like, meet up with me. And he was there. He showed up. So, meanwhile, I'm trying to... I'm bouncing my sneaky link. I have my other guy texting me who was with Hunter. They ended up going to another bar. And then I also have him there. And it's just, like, it's so funny because, like, I just go back and forth talking to each and every single one. Yeah, back and forth and back and forth and texting the other guy and back and forth and back and forth. Meanwhile, I was just, like, with this man that was, like, literally obsessed with me. And, like, I was staying, like...

fair there was just so much going on that like sometimes i'm just like our whole group stands on the picnic table stands on the picnic table and picture that so that's also i feel like when i go there i don't even like end up drinking that much because getting a drink is so hard and like i'm so p2 going p is so hard because i don't want to drink that many drinks and then we're posted up on top of a picnic table i don't want to like get up and down yeah so like unless someone's bringing me a drink like when someone's like do you want to go get a drink i'm like

Oh, sure. Like, it's just such a force to get over there. Which, I mean, ends up being a good thing because, like, then I'm, like, I don't end up drinking that much because it's just so inconvenient. But, like, there was so much going on that I was really just, like, enjoying the tea. Like, especially from up on the picnic table. Like, you can just see everything. Yeah. So I was just, like, vibing. Like, having myself a night. And then it's all this back and forth of if we're going to leave or not leave. And then we decide to leave. Yeah. The bar. But it's impossible to call an Uber. Right.

Literally impossible. There's no fucking service in Austin, Texas. Like I really can't. Apple pay wasn't working either. So like I usually can order Ubers like via Apple pay and like it will just like like the car goes through through the Apple pay and that wasn't working either. So like I was yeah, we had no service, but we had these latchkey hats that this guy really wanted because this guy bought us these hats and they were really cool.

this guy's trying to buy it off me and he's like you got it for free just give it to me i was like no i like my hat and then i'm like you want a hat deal call us an uber and i'll give you my hat because we literally had no way of leaving like it was either this or we're walking home like no phone was working to order this uber and they were like okay deal but we actually want to go to where you're going so we'll just get in the uber i'm like okay whatever we get in the uber our uber gets in a goddamn car accident

So I was sitting in like the backseat with this random guy because there was two random guys. It was, yeah, two random guys called this Uber. Yes. And I just fucking get like knocked over. Yeah. Our shit got rocked. Like, fuck, what's going on? And I'm like blackout in the backseat. I'm like, what the fuck? It was crazy.

crazy and we're like let's leave like okay we're out of there you made it two blocks down the road literally literally two blocks down the road so then we get out call another uber took forever to get to the second bar with the uber fiasco but we finally get there hanging out this is where i meet um catfish this is where sam is very drunk uh very drunk i literally made every single person we know

Guaranteed to me that they were not going to let her drink Any more alcohol and you kept being like no Because I was with one of the guys that like I'm going on a date with And he kept wanting to buy me a drink And I kept I said no once But then I think he bought me one

I don't remember. No, I don't think he did. But no. But you like you just kept being like, no, why? Yeah. And I was like, shut up. And Taylor looks at him and goes, do not get her a drink. Yeah. I was like, don't. Like she was like really like down bad. Like I should have videotaped it. But like I'm a good friend. Like I didn't want to embarrass you. So whatever. Like and then I show up to the they leave when I'm talking to Catfish Man and I meet up with them.

and one of sam's boys is like leaving and i'm like oh sam's here like why are you leaving like that's i didn't know he was there because like we were we've all gone to like a few different bars by now so i'm like oh it's you i'm like why are you leaving like sam's here and then he was like oh no i keep walking sam's literally like making out with someone in the middle of the floor i was like i was like oh my god awkward i was like oh no we didn't see i was like

Because I'm like Sam's here where are you going I'm like oh Hello So I'm like Sam and this boy are booed up Our friend Hunter and this girl are like booed up I'm literally like

this is so fucking lame I was like I don't want to be here and then it was so funny because I'm trying to order an uber because I know we need to get the fuck out of there like I know you were fucked up I was like we should not be here we need to go home I'm ordering an uber and I literally probably look like a pissed little I'm oh I mean I always look pissed but I actually was pissed because I was tired and bored so I was like I want to go home

and then the bartender taps me on the shoulder he goes that guy over there got you a vodka soda what i look over and one of our friends i literally met at the pool parties across the bar like waving to me and i was like oh thanks like because like i don't know if he just did it to be nice or if i literally looked so pissed and upset because i was just so tired but i was like sick and then i ended up leaving with that cup in the like i walked out with it i brought the drink home

remember that do you remember no i don't remember i literally had like i brought it home like the cup was like on the island like i didn't realize like i got out the uber and i was like how did i leave with this like i feel like normally they're like you gotta throw that out but no one saw so like impressive yeah i finessed and left with the drink but we didn't really do much with that bar i was literally just up against the bar yeah i was next to my friends bar like

Making out with him. Yeah, both of the people I knew there were, like, sucking face with someone else. Yeah. And I was just, like... It's funny, too, because, like... I love making out in a bar, though. I was jealous. Hunter... I was, like, I wish I was making out in a bar. Yeah, Hunter is, like, best friends with the guy I was, like, making out with. And, like, I just knew Hunter was so hyped. He was, like, yeah. He was, yeah. Like, setting my friend up with my friend. He was. He's, like, the love match or whatever else. Yeah. So they were, like, doing their thing, and finally we just got home. And that's what...

And I knocked out. I went to bed at probably, what, like 1.30 in the morning? And the next morning, I wake up to a text from the lovely...

Noah and he was like do you want to go to Trader Joe's at 8 in the morning I'm like are you fucking nuts like going to Trader Joe's right now no not happening so I end up falling back asleep for another hour and then 9 a.m. rolls around and he texts me again and he's like do you want to go to boozy brunch and I'm like you're actually insane like you think after a whole day of day drinking I want to go to a boozy brunch I'm like not happening so then I fall back asleep for another 30 minutes and then I wake up to another text from him

Or actually, you know, a phone missed phone call from him. And I'm like, you know what? Okay, Sam, like get up, like go take a really cold shower. I took the coldest shower really possible. Like on the, like the handle thing of like the cold water, it was on the coldest setting. And I just sat in that shower for like 10 minutes on like with the cold water, just hitting my body.

and i get out and i put on some music taylor's still sleeping i'm blaring music i'm getting ready and i'm like mentally preparing myself to go on like what i think is like a date i think i'm going on like a bruisey bruisey brunch you thought you were going on a date yeah i thought he was asking me to go to brunch with him to abba like i he when he was texting me he didn't make it seem like there was a bunch of them going oh that's really funny i know so i'm like thinking to myself i'm like okay like

Whatever. And then whatever, Taylor ends up waking up and I'm like, I don't really want to go. Like, I'm just going to hold this off. Like, it's not happening. Maybe later we can do something. But then Taylor gets a phone call from the man who's obsessed with me. Yeah, the man who's obsessed. Yeah, he's like, we're at brunch. Like, guys, like, come to brunch. And I'm like, no. And I'm like, it's on speaker. And I'm like, oh my God, is it a double date? And he was like, no, I wish. But there's gonna be like five of us. And I'm like. Yeah, and then he's talking to Sam. He's like, Sam, I have a crush on your friend. I'm like, I'm on the phone, dude. Yeah, you get it.

And I was like, okay, fine. We'll calm. We'll be there. So we pulled our shit together. We got there by 12. We didn't drink, but we just wanted to go just like socialize because something that I need to do that I realized I needed to do in order to be like proactive for the rest of the day is like get out of the house hungover. Because if I don't, I will sit on that couch and I will not do absolutely nothing.

Jack shit for the fucking entire day So I was like I need to get out of the house for a little bit and then After we can go to the grocery store and then i'll come back and like meal prep and everything Yeah, but turns out we were having way too much fun at bruisey bunch They were just making us like have the hangover giggles like I was like cracking up at everything So we ended up just bar hopping with them. We went to a bar So we were on south congress and we went to another bar After brunch and they ended up buying us like all around his shots. I'm like, whatever like

I'll do one shot. One shot isn't going to do anything. Yeah, I'll do one shot. And then we were playing like games because they had like a little arcade section at the bar and we were playing games and stuff. And then we ended up going all the way back to Latchkey around like 2.30 in the afternoon. And we got some like tacos from the food truck. We were hanging out, vibing. But then I was like, you know what? We need to leave. So we ended up leaving at that point. We went to Trader Joe's. And later in the day, my sneaky link came over.

Yay. Sunday was so fun though. Like having fun, like being out at bars and not drinking is like something that I'm like can proudly say that I'm good at. We were also like the only people in both the bars. Yeah.

Like, you just need to be with the right type of people. I know they were all drunk, but like, they're not the type of drunk. Yeah, they were trying to get us to drink, but they weren't being like rude about it. Yeah, they call themselves professional fun havers. Yeah. They kept being like, we're professional fun havers. Yeah.

And like they understood like they tried. They put the effort. They tried like a lot. Yeah. To get us to drink. But like they weren't like mean about it. Whereas there's some people that are like mean about it. And I'm like, no, like I'm not drinking. They just wanted us to have a good time. Yeah. And I'm like, don't worry. Like I'm having a good time. That's what I kept saying. They were like, have fun. I was like, I am having fun. I'm fine. Like chill. I think they realized that though. Like soon after. Like they're like, all right. Like they actually are. Like I can't like drink. If I'm going to drink on a Sunday. Okay. Like.

If I'm going to casually drink on a Sunday, I could maybe do if you want to drink wine at night or get something really good. I can't drink a tequila soda just to drink a tequila soda on a Sunday afternoon. You know what I mean? Especially after the day before we had a pool party and went out. Yeah, gross. I could have done it if I had a casual Saturday night, but no, I can only do... It has to be the plan. If the plan the whole week is boozy brunch, then I'll plan for that. But I can't just...

wake up and like they were drinking like an espresso martini like ew yeah I know gross literally gross they even handed me like a mimosa well actually no it was just champagne they didn't even put fucking juice in it and I took like two sips of it and like I was like like I'm shitting yeah we were like we want coffees and they're like espresso martini I was like no coffee I wish I took a picture of that bottle of

champagne because it was so fucking good. Like, so good. Look on, like, their menu. Maybe they have a drink menu. I know. And I was, like, I was also wondering, too, because, like, the boys were low-key, like, bawling out on that menu, like, buying a bunch of shit. And I was, like, I want to know how expensive, like, this bottle of, like, champagne is right now because, like, it was so good. Well, I wonder, like, I'm just going to, like, look. They probably have a brunch menu where, like, if it's... I wonder if they're bottomless. Yeah. They might not be. But, like, our weekend was really fun and...

I mean, the week was just good, too. Yeah. All good, all around, nothing crazy. I still need to figure out, like, my boy situation, but as of right now, like, I'm going on two dates, so I have my sneaky link, and, like, my sneaky link is just a sneaky link. There's nothing to it. I, like, I have so much fun hanging out with him, but I don't think, like, I would ever date him. Like, he's just not my type in that sense.

But the other two guys like they are kind of like my type like they're like gym bros like they they also like to have fun on the weekends like in that sense, but I need to make I need to see what their intentions are because like I don't want to be fucked over, you know, so I will let you guys know because I'm going I'm going on dates with both of them this week. So hopefully the dates go good. Yeah. Yeah. So this week's episode is a Q&A like we had mentioned. So I kind of just wrote down like a good amount. There was like over like five

70 submissions. I don't think we're going to get through all of them. I'm so sorry, but I took like general, like ones that are like, Oh, like,

This is kind of similar to the other one. So like hopefully you can relate to them in that sense. So let's get into it. So you ready time? I'm so excited. All right. So the first one says, I love that y'all support bouncing going out here for the feral weekends. Thank you for being so real. Of course. But what would you do to not feel like the crap the next day after drinking? I always feel so weak in the gym and have really bad anxiety the next day after drinking. Yeah.

So anxiety wise, that to me was something of getting my mental health under control. And kind of I took a step back from drinking for like two months ish where I was kind of going out and not really drinking or literally having like one or two drinks. Like I really was never like getting drunk because like I realized my like amount of anxiety reduced.

It wasn't necessarily an issue with like the drinking, but an issue with like my overall mental health. So I kind of needed to like, okay, like why is this happening? Like, why am I so anxious? How can I like make kind of like reel it in and like have less anxiety overall? And that definitely really helped like taking kind of a while to,

really really narrow in on my own mental health like i stopped drinking for a little bit got out of a relationship stopped taking birth control like i really like narrowed in on like okay let's like fix my mental health because at the end of the day it's probably part of a bigger problem um and then the other thing for me now that like i do drink again now like i know drinking too much blacking out will always give me anxiety always so i am just like not pro that i don't really fuck with like blackout culture like sometimes you accidentally like um

blackout because for me personally my memory goes when I drink so quickly like that like I will forget after drinking without that many drinks like for some people not remembering or blacking out takes so much alcohol and for me it really doesn't take that much alcohol so really like understanding like

That I need to be patient and not allowing that to happen because I will never feel good if I black out. So just like overall putting a limit on it. And then I don't really get hangovers. So I can only really speak for like the anxiety stuff. I don't get like physical body. Yeah, I can definitely speak on the hangover thing because I feel like I have my regimen down.

So I would honestly say too with the whole like anxiety thing with alcohol, I was in the same boat. Like it wasn't actually the alcohol. It was more just like

I needed to take a break as well because mine went from being like social anxiety at the actual night at the bar to then it slowly transitioned into being anxiety. So it just came in like waves for me. But for the hangovers, my new thing is taking showers, like cold showers. This new thing I do now is taking showers. It works so well. I didn't used to take showers and now I do. Cold showers. Cold showers.

really fucking ice cold showers but if you don't have okay this is not like an ad or anything by any means but water boy specifically i fucking love for electrolytes it's like three 300 milligrams of electrolytes zero sugar so like amazing but you can do any electrolytes you want like it doesn't really matter and i try my best the night i'm going out like that night drink it and then the next morning drink another one so you're preparing going into the night you already are

hydrated and then like the next morning drink a bunch of electrolytes and then i also take some tylenol and then um i do my skincare and everything and do not lay down like try your best like stay up stay moving because if you don't you're gonna like lay back down you're gonna feel like shit like i stay up i will play my alexa i will play music i will dance around i will like

I mentally tell myself that it's going to be okay and then it's okay. Yeah. I can't because if I lay down, it's game over. Yeah. I don't get physical hangovers yet, but I will say though for the anxiety, I would take a little bit off and like really get your mental health like under control. Yeah. And take a little bit of a break and you can still go out. Like I was literally going out and not drinking and...

Or like I said, even like if you just don't want to... People be like, why aren't you drinking? Literally get like one drink, like a beer and drink it for like four hours. Like drink one drink. And it really helped to kind of have a little bit of time to like narrow in on why I was so anxious. Yeah. Next one is every time I go out with my friend, she says that I'm being trashy because I made out with one guy. What should I do? One, does she say this like drunk to you? Because like...

she like is this like drunk conversations like when you're making like when it's happening because like then it might just be like stupid and like talk about it maybe she doesn't really like mean it and you're just like having drunk fights but if it's something she says like on the regular then you need to like really talk about it and make sure like she might be trying to come from a good place like try to have a real conversation if she's your real friend because like if she's just throwing the word out there like trashy just because when she's drunk she's

Like you say shit you don't mean at the end of the day she might just be like worried for what you're actually doing and like mistakes you might be making which is valid like you know maybe some people need like obviously I'm not for like slut shaming your friends but if you have a friend that you genuinely think needs some advice for what they're doing that's not necessarily bad. Yeah and like if it's happening every weekend you go out or just like every time you make out with someone like.

It's like, I don't know if they necessarily really mean it because they're still hanging out with you. You know what I mean? Like, if someone genuinely thought someone was trashy, why would they want to hang around them? Yeah, I would guess if she's saying it drunk, she probably doesn't actually mean it. But you should just talk about it because maybe, like...

Maybe there's like a reason for why she's just like concerned with like maybe people you're hanging out with, guys you're giving your attention to. She might just be concerned for what you're doing, which at the end of the day is like you would want someone to like...

tell you if you were like doing something wrong you know what i mean because like at the end of the day drunk girls do embarrassing shit and if you're being embarrassing with dudes like maybe your friend needs to tell you but like you're probably not if you're just making out with a dude every now and then like i love making out with a dude in a bar like you should do that but i mean i don't know your situation but making out with a dude is fun and you should be able to do that i do that all the time i love making out with a dude but like i think if she's really your friend just have like a heart-to-heart and hear her out because she might just be looking out for you yeah

Next one is I'm moving to Austin in June and I don't know anyone. I'm struggling with my female friendships my whole life and I only have ever had one to two good girlfriends from where I'm from. I'm 21 and I really want to make good friends and have a lot of fun. Can you guys talk about how you made girlfriends in Austin other than each other? Love the pod so much. So we don't have a lot of girlfriends. Yeah. But...

being in situations where there's a bunch of new people and friends of friends is so key. Like where you're at these pregames where you go on someone's boat, you go to someone's birthday party. I don't know. You go to all these situations where there's random people. Say hello to people. Be nice. What's your Instagram? Do the whole thing. And then what was I going to say? I was on Bumble BFF for a little bit. It kind of helped with like,

knowing faces when you go out. So like there are surprisingly a lot of girls on Bumble BFF. And then if you match with someone on Bumble BFF, it's kind of the same as if with guys on Hinge, it's like,

Oh, I matched with her on Bumble BFF. Like, maybe I could go up to her and have a conversation. Or you just feel comfortable when you're at, like, a party setting and you see a familiar face. So, like, even, like, the apps, as cheesy as it is, will help. Yeah. Another thing is we have almost every single time we meet girls, I feel like they always say, like, it's so hard to make girlfriends. It's a very common thing that you're feeling. And we've realized...

meeting girls and being like oh my god like we should do coffee one day and then they're like oh my god yeah like DM them and plan it like no one's gonna think that's weird there's always a fallout with plans there's no one's gonna think that's weird but like try like try to like ask like they will probably say yes like literally I think every single girl we've met is like yeah it's hard to make girlfriends like they want girlfriends and they're like down hanging out every single time and there's obviously like it takes a little bit but once you have like one mutual friend

let's say you meet some girl at someone's pregame one time or someone like goes to your gym, like you have one interaction with a person. If you're at a bar and you see them go out of your way to be like, Hey, like even if they're like, like a little bit away, it could be easy to just be like, Oh, I think that's that girl from the gym. And like,

not do anything about it, but like go say hello. And also another thing too is like in the same sense is like hosted pregames. Like if you have like a small group or like anything, or if like your apartment complex is having a pregame or just, if you know of any pregame, go to those pregames because even in the same scenarios, we've been to so many pregames where the same like types of girls are always there. And even just like that really quick, like

Like good to see you. Like I know you your familiar face It does go a long way because then eventually like down the road when you maybe see them three or four or five times like you'll end up having like Longer conversations with them like when we had the pool party This past weekend like one of the girls we ended up having way longer conversation with because we had now at that point seen her like our third or fourth time and

The conversation will get somewhere else more than just like the surface level. Yeah. And don't overthink it, especially since you said, because she said she's moving to Austin, right? Yeah. This city is so friendly and so many people just trying to make friends. And there's a lot of new people doing the same thing. Everyone just moved here. Everyone needs friends. No one has a tight, solid friend group here. I mean, they do, but not like to the point where they're not

Looking for more friends. Yeah, everyone wants to be social like always like adding our friend group just had 60 people at a pool like there are people trying to make friends and meet people and do new things 24/7 so if you were moving to another city I'd be like, I don't know like how much advice to give you but because you're moving here Literally, don't stress like do not stress. I imagine you go to the gym like if you go to lift and

Dude, people there are so nice. You could literally meet a girl at the gym and be like, do you want to work out together next week? They'll probably say yes. Like people there are so nice. You can, I promise you, like since you're moving here, like you will be good to go. Like go out on the paddle boards on the lake, chat it up. If someone invites you to anything, just go. Yeah. Yeah.

This one is the really long one. So bear with me. It's a long story time because they got a lot of history together. So my best friend of eight years who I'd consider my Sam to my Taylor has recently stopped contacting me. A couple years ago, we both discovered that we were bisexual and had feelings for each other. And we eventually got into the most perfect relationship which lasted over two years. Our breakup was messy. It happened drunk and she admitted that she was not intentionally, which is very confusing for me, but I got over it.

Um

But I do miss having a best friend that I enclose sister-like relationship. It's been four months since we last spoke. I know you guys can't fully relate since I'm assuming you guys don't have the hots for each other, lol. But I was wondering if you had any advice on how to get into reaching out to her if it does...

If I can, any good idea. Or simply self-sabotage. Like, she's asking for self-sabotage to reach out to her. Does the best friend dynamic no longer work given now she's my ex? I also wanted to say that your content has helped me and empowered me to do more than you know. Especially during the breakup, I can't tell you guys how much I love and appreciate you. Okay. I did not know where that was going. And then, all I have to say is I think it's the same exact thing as dating...

guy friend like it just because like you were two girls that were once friends and now dated it's the same exact thing as any time you get in a relationship with someone that you're friends with when you make the decision to date someone that's your friend you are fully running the risk of ruining it that's just what it is like you are going to ruin it or it's going to work and it didn't work and i don't think you should read out yeah the one i think it's self-septosh

I will come I will come for this in like a different viewpoint Now, obviously my ex-boyfriends are both across the country. I'm not near them But to be fair, I dated both of them for about three years and then one was four years one was three years Now I know you said you've only been broken up for four months. That's so fresh Like or you said you haven't talked in four months like that's so fresh. Um

So I would just give yourself more time because I know from my standpoint, if I was home, those guys, my ex-boyfriends are in my friend group back home. So I know if I was home, I would have to be civil with them. I would have to talk with them. And I think at least one of the exes I'd probably be friends with.

I think being civil and being in a group is different than like her being like your best friend and your sister again. Cause I just think like, obviously I have no experience being like in a romantic relationship with a girl, but this is like where my head's at when I'm like, like sisters with someone, right? Like that's your best friend. Like thinking about how we live together. Like if you want to go back to that,

I don't get how you could do that knowing that there was romantic feelings. Because when you're friends with girls, like, you get ready together. Like, you change in front of each other. You do, like, quote unquote, like, kind of, like, intimate things. Like, you're very close when you're, like, girl best friends. Like...

I mean, or any type of best friends. Just very close. But I just think, like, I don't do those things with, like, my male friends because, like, we are both straight. And that's, like, that'd be weird. And I just think, like, it would be really hard to balance on, like, okay, are you hanging out as friends? Like, are you on a date? Do you know what I mean? Like, I don't know. To me, that would get blurry, like, really quick. Like, of it being, like...

okay now you're gonna hang out alone like go get coffees at a date like when you used to do that you were on a date so now are you friends i don't know i don't think like hanging out in that really really really close dynamic that you were before can really occur in my opinion anymore because i'm just thinking of like my exes like i couldn't be close friends with them like that can you be civil and like

Friendly yeah of course I think you could also though like too if you do Really still want them in your life because that's you have Known them for eight years like that's a Big chunk of your life so like if you Do you want to keep them in your life like there's no problem With like going to dinner or like maybe Once a month or Something like that like along those lines Where it's like you're just catching up and trying to keep each other In your lives that's fine No I don't know like Would you go to dinner once a month with your ex-boyfriend When I'm home like we do catch up Yeah but like

It's been so long. But like dinner alone. Yeah.

I mean, I just, I mean, I don't. This past time when I went home, I didn't though because he fucked, like he did something very disrespectful to me so I didn't want to do that. Right, but you were also okay with like hooking up with him, which I guess if that's like what she's trying to do. Like, I just think if you're trying to like move on, you can't. Yeah. Like if you're like talking to someone else, you can't do that. Yeah. You can't go to dinner with your ex-girlfriend. I don't know. Everyone's approach on this is different. Yeah, but like you're not, I don't think you're going to be like her best friend again. And also eight years is a long time, but like I've had long girl friendships that,

were very long that they're not friends anymore and that's like okay like it sucks friend breakups suck and it's a friend breakup and a real breakup like that must be really really awful and i'm really sorry but like this too shall pass like you give yourself more time yeah four months like jesus christ four months like that's still like really fresh yeah give it like two years like four months

Yeah, I don't know. That's definitely interesting. All right. Next one. My boyfriend has his own house and wants me to start to move in. I would love to, but he wants me to pay half the mortgage. Is that fair to be paying half even though the house isn't even under my name? I want to help out and pay rent, but half the mortgage seems like a lot. We've been dating for a year and a half, and I'm 25. I don't think you should pay half the mortgage.

i think there's like okay i've actually i was thinking about this the other day and i asked you about this yeah when you're live with someone i've never lived with anyone but i'm like if i'm splitting everything straight down the middle and not just like you cover some things you're covering like whatever straight down the middle then i kind of feel like like what are you my roommate like we then like we're splitting rent how we split rent but it's like

Is it not your man? Like, and if he bought the house knowing his financial circumstance, if he's paying the mortgage now, just him and like that house fits his financial circumstances, you did not agree that that house was within your financial circumstances. That was his purchase. Yeah. And obviously you live there. So I'm splitting like,

okay, like, chip in for this, buying groceries, paying the utilities. You obviously split things. But if he just asked you, if he asked you to move into his home that he pays for outright on his own right now, and, like, you're going to get married, I don't think just being, like, 50-50 down the middle, like, I don't think that's fair. Yeah. I would say it also depends, though, like, how you, like, utilize the home. Like...

Like I feel like every relationship is different but like if you're bringing in like if you're bringing in a like a dog if you're gonna be taking up like if there's a three bedroom you're gonna be taking up two of the bedrooms like what like what is the deal what is the scenarios in that sense then I can technically see it but like if you're literally just moving in as like a quote unquote roommate in that sense then like

I stand with that. Yeah, I think if he's asking you to move in, you don't automatically need to share it 50-50. If splitting it 50-50 is what's going to work, sweet. Great. That works. But I don't think you need to split it 50-50. I don't think that's fair because like I said, if he bought that house knowing his financial... Why are you paying for a mortgage on a house that has nothing...

It's not yours. Yeah, like if he's already living in it and he's already been paying that mortgage, then you already know he can do that. He can pay that mortgage. Yeah, I just think that's definitely interesting. And I've been thinking about this because we've talked about like, oh my God, when would you move in with a boyfriend? We've had these conversations recently and I was like, let's say I start dating this guy.

My next lease. So in like two years, like I probably live with it. Yeah. Like, cause I feel that's how quick, like, right. Like why wouldn't you like, what doesn't that like after you're dating for like a year, I feel like you'd move in, but it's like, if you buy a place together and you're like, Oh, this place is in our budget. If we split it. Perfect. That makes sense. But like,

Let's say I was I don't know if I was paying rent somewhere and I knew I could pay all the rent and I was already paying it and I picked a place and it was my budget. I don't think it's fair to be like not move in pay half. Yeah. Because you're dating you're not a roommate. A roommate yes. Like you want to move there you pay half but like you are together.

I agree. I don't. Yeah. I don't think you have. I don't think you pay nothing. Like, I don't think. Those situations are so interesting because it's like, I've never been in those situations. I can't wait for the day it happens, though. I'm so interested. I don't. Yeah. Like, we've never done this. Like, don't take like, obviously don't pay nothing. Like, you don't just get to like live for free. Yeah. But like, there's different ways people talk about this on TikTok all the time. Like wives of NFL players, because everyone's like, he makes all the money and the wives are like.

And maybe you make more money than him. I don't know. I'm just like giving an example. Like let's say he's paying more money for where you live. Like there's like there's so many ways to contribute to a relationship that are not like financial. Yeah. Like there's so many ways to like support someone like you could do like boys are gross. You could literally do all the upkeep of this house. That's like contributing to the home. Yeah. Like we were even saying like when Taylor and I were talking about it we were like

like i don't really expect to pay like the full like our 50 of the mortgage but like if i i work from home so like i have more free time on my hands like i would go to the grocery store and like i would buy the groceries like would i expect him to like pay 50 50 on the groceries if i wasn't paying like the full mortgage no i would just go to the grocery store i would get all the groceries i'd probably like meal prep or something if he's like in the office all day like

that's how I feel like I would contribute in that sense because it's like I have so much more free time like he doesn't need to worry about like cooking and go to the grocery store if he's like gonna be work from nine to five yeah it's definitely interesting I think before you're married because when you're married your money is both

both your money like your money is just like your money both of your money it's not really like one person's paying kind of thing i mean like some people do like that like i don't but for the most part it's like that is just your money like as a couple so definitely before marriage that's definitely super weird um and good luck and i would hate to be in your situation but i don't think you'd you have to pay 50

All right. Next one. I go to college with all my best friends from high school and I made a new college friend. Now they are all pissed that I made new friends when they didn't. Summer is coming up and we're all going home and I'm nervous they aren't going to speak to me when I don't really feel like I did anything wrong. They're lame and don't worry about that. That is so catty. One thing I do need to say, and this goes for anything across the board, whether you move, go to school with your friends...

It's important to make new friends because it helps you learn and grow as an individual. And like, you'll learn new characteristics about yourself through other friendships. Like the way Taylor and I met and like the way she has grown up and been raised and the way I've grown up and been raised are like kind of different. So like, it makes me learn like certain ways where I need to maybe like approach certain things or like do certain things. So it's like, I learned myself like,

how to be more of like

well well well yeah you just people yeah because it's like you can't be around the same people you've been around since you were like 10 years old now there's nothing wrong with long-term friends i have no long-term friends and that's probably a red flag so it's super cool that you have friends from like high school still in your life dope but like they're kind of fucking lame and you kind of have nothing to worry about because you are making new friends yeah so it's important to have new friends like it's so important you don't need to deal with like

they're mad at you because you don't have friends i'm a big on like once you're out of high school grow the fuck up like you're gonna start issues over that you're that is so pathetic when like reality isn't that a good thing like your friend made a new friend like she probably has friends like everyone make new friends and then you can all be friends and then great like everyone gets to be social like

You can't be mad at someone because they made a friend. And at the end of the day, it sucks. And I'm not trying to be like Debbie Downer, but it's really okay if maybe now you go back home and they're not your best of friends anymore. It's really okay. Don't have hate for them. You don't need to fight with them. But if that's not...

your ride or die girls and now they're just like friends that's okay you're like growing up that's fine yeah it's like not it's not a big deal that happens to like i feel like every most people you don't need people mad because you made friends yeah even like the same thing goes it's like when you get a boyfriend like some some of your girlfriends will just disappear because now you have a boyfriend your time is more taken up by like a boyfriend too yeah um but yeah it's

So hopefully that helps. Yeah. You literally are making new friends. You're fine. You're doing it for you. Yeah. Selfish girl ever, no matter what. Literally. Next one is, hey, besties. During the time where you both were stuck in your eating disorders, did you notice that your libido was noticeably lower and then saw it improve as you started to gain weight? I'm currently at about a body fat of a level of 10% and have zero sex drive. It did.

It never bothered me up until recently and now i'm wondering whether my body composition should be could be the cause i'm on the pill But I guess I wouldn't have a period otherwise so probably not a lack of hormones Thanks so much for sharing your experience and being vulnerable Uh, yeah, I didn't really know I had a lack of sex drive until right now. Like I literally want to have sex all the time. Yeah so When I was in like the peak of like

My disordered eating being super underweight. I had a boyfriend at the time and I also was on the pill. So I also don't know if I actually lost my period or if it was just the pill that was just doing like withdrawal bleeds during my sugar pills. But one thing I will say is that looking back on my relationship with my ex-boyfriend, I fucking hated having sex. I hated it.

So I had no sex drive. It felt like it was just like so forced, like didn't really want to be doing it. And now I've been off of birth control for a year. But even before then, I really started to realize like what a sex drive was. And I was like, holy shit. Like if I had this sex drive when I was in my relationship, like it probably would have been so much better. But yeah, I would definitely say like it.

Like, being underweight, being in your disordered tendencies has a very big role on your sex drive. Yeah, I really don't know, like, exactly. Like, I think my sex drive is higher now after, like, gaining weight. And, like, now I'm off the pill. I think it is. I don't really, like, part of me is also, like, maybe it's just the difference of, like, no sex.

people not in the sense that anything was like wrong before but so you get comfortable and now it's like exciting like maybe it's that so like i don't know if it's really like difference in like sex drive or like this is exciting now and not like the same shit i've been doing for like three years like maybe it's that but like i i think i find myself more like actually like oh yeah like i want to have sex right now i feel like before it was always like if the guy like a dude wants to have sex and i'm just like sure and now it's like

No, I want to. Like, I literally, when I was breaking up with my ex-boyfriend, and I was in, like, the peak of, like, that, he literally messages me. I had blocked him on everything. So he messaged me on WhatsApp and said, fuck it. I don't give a fuck. Your pussy's broken anyway. Yeah. And that, like, stuck with me for a really long time. I was like, damn, like, I suck. Like, I don't have a sex drive.

Like he said my pussy's broken Well it is very common to Have a broken pussy Because you're underweight

sorry we're not laughing at you like the girl that submitted her story I'm laughing at myself because it's like I'm not even fucking kidding like when he said that I screenshot it I kept that screenshot for so long and I would show it to all my girlfriends being like look what he said to me did you go to the gynecologist they were like is it broken no I just knew like I well at the time I like I just like I kept convincing myself and telling myself that like I just wasn't sexually attracted to him but then like

I don't know. Like, if I were to go home, like... Like, I'm sexually attracted to him now, but it was just, like, I had no sex drive. Yeah, that's definitely, like, you're gnawing in your head about that. That's a real thing that happens when you are too underweight. So, like, you are probably 100% valid into... That's what it is. Yeah. And 10% body fat, too, is... That's, like, bodybuilder. Yeah. So... Um...

Yeah, so hopefully it helps on that. And then the next one is, I want to obtain a certification like the CPT or something similar, but no idea where to start. 23, graduated from college with a degree in tech, but I love fitness so much and want to make it a side gig. However, I would also work a remote full-time job, so I have...

Have to work around that. Where does a girl start? How do I make a business of this? Who should a girl trust to become a strong, educated background in fitness? I've been working out for six plus years now. Not like I'm fully clueless, but please help me.

got you girls um i will say anyone taking this advice right now this can go for anything when it comes to a side gig like it doesn't have to necessarily be fitness it could be literally anything like remember when we talked about the soap oh wait sell your soap sell your soap queens like if you have a soap business like fucking sell that soap okay but um yeah we were kind of in the same boat with this yeah and like i was i was like gig yeah but like i was gonna like really tough love it like yeah over here

So like don't get offended okay But like maybe get offended because maybe it'll like Boost you to be like yeah light a fire Under your ass like maybe a little bit offended okay Like bear with me You can't be waiting for people to tell you what to do Okay like And like I get it like you just asked because like we put it Like I'm not like coming at you like that hard But you can't be waiting for people to tell you what to do No one Told me what to do I saw someone else go through something called NASM So I googled it

And I bought it and I did it. Like just got a full, you have to full set, like whatever you want to do to be successful and proactive in a business. Because if you don't even trust yourself to get started, how are you going to trust yourself to keep doing it? You need to trust yourself that like you listen to this, which means smart, educated, cool. You're probably dope person because you listen to this. So,

fucking go out there like you literally just said like she's like you're a smart girl you have a job and all this shit you can do it you can do it go on nasm ace whatever buy it do it like boom get that out of the way really easy to do so easy you'll finish it really really quick you can pass the test so fast and then in terms of making a career out of it there's so many different ways um

You can just go about marketing yourself to your own clients, like, literally in your neighborhood and in your hometown. And people... There's always a...

audience to sell health and fitness to in terms of being a personal trainer health and fitness will never be like out of style people always want to be fit you can find customers where you live you can get a job at a gym you can get a job coaching fitness classes you can get one of those or you can apply once you have your cpt there's a ton of online coaching jobs like um where you can work as a coach under people you can apply for one of those but beware of

the sketchiness but there's so many opportunities to coach in the fitness space that are fairly easy to get into as long as you are just proactive about putting yourself out there like as long as you're proactive about getting your shit done and going into places and applying you'll be straight yeah like

One thing that Taylor and I notice a lot is in the DMs, we'll get a lot of questions on like how to grow a fitness page or how to start a fitness page and how to do all these things. And like Taylor said, like being proactive is the most important thing. And

Another thing we like will always get asked is like how to do very specific niche things. Like how do I edit this TikTok or how do I do this? And it's like we weren't like going and asking people things like we were doing our own research. Like you need to be like putting in the work, researching, Googling, like watching videos, watching tutorials. Like you cannot be like hand in hand with someone that you look up to. Yeah.

expecting them to like hand you every step by step instruction on how to do anything and like i said this goes for anything so like just do the research get the job done do not expect anything to ever be handed to you yeah i would literally go to fitness classes and then ask the people at the front desk if they were hiring and what the process to like teach their look like yeah and i literally just wanted to like work a front desk job which i ended up doing like work and i almost started training somewhere just by like applying online like i would literally just

ask like and put myself out there even like with the cpt my parents would always be like how do you know what you're doing and i'd be like i don't yeah i'm just like lock myself in my room for like three hours a day and just like do the quizzes do the things like i joined facebook groups that were people that were also taking their like cpt like just like putting myself in as as much like

Useful Resources as possible and not cutting myself short Yeah, and if getting your CPT is obviously your first thing and then if you want to be an online coach like definitely um Look into maybe like joining like a company as long as it's a good one. You don't want anyone Taking too much money from you You don't want anyone being shady toward you and then things to look out for with that are the things you would look out for with any other sketchy job, right like you want like a clear contract and

You want to be just not in a sketchy situation. Nothing should be hidden from you. You want to make sure you align with the values of what the coaching company like believes in. Like, obviously, if you believe in things we believe in, you wouldn't want to join a coaching company for like a keto coaching. You know what I mean? Like, you don't want to put yourself in a situation you don't agree with.

um just look for like a good company with good values and then gyms are always a good place to start and remember wherever you're starting that's just where you're starting yeah and another thing this is the last thing i'm gonna say about this is like if you start with it as a side gig and you are continuing to be successful with it as a side gig

that means and that shows that you're really passionate about it because if it's a side gig and you kind of fall out with it and you don't keep up with it and you're not really paying attention to it that just goes to show that you're not gonna probably be as successful with it as you would expect yourself to be because you can't even keep up with it as a side gig yeah like if it's a side gig

And you're successful with it. That means you are truly passionate about it. You are truly loving what you're doing. And you one day could have maybe it could be like your full time thing. Yeah, you can make like a really good living out of personal training. I'm not talking like being a content creator, like being a personal trainer, putting in the hours, being a trainer can be a really solid living. Like I follow a lot of people that that is their full time job and they

do it because they take themselves very seriously and i feel like that's like you have to know that you are putting out a valuable service you have to know that you are worth something and you have to just like market yourself and be your own like fucking cheerleader and market yourself and know you're worth something and like charge we need to charge and do your thing and it's like a very real career um it like people can go really far in that even like teaching classes like

You could teach like three classes a week. That's only three hours. Like you can do so much with the CBD. Yeah. Like that's why like, I mean, it's not the same, but like I teach dance now and that's like so fun. Like you can go teach like berries as a side gig. Like you can like do shit like that. Yeah. Next one is going to be advice on when people ask to work out with me. What I really just want to be working out alone and that is my time to self-reflect. Just say that.

Yeah. Just say you like working out alone. I low-key really hate gym dates, but I will say I need to go on at least one gym date to evaluate how they work out because like that's really big to me. It's a big part of my life. And if they're not like super into the gym like I am and like,

don't have the same vibes as me in the gym then like i just know it's not gonna work out but if it's like a girlfriend like gym whatever like there's no problem like going to the gym at the same time but not working out together yeah you could be like yeah you could be like if someone's trying to hang out with you and make a plan be like i really like really only like working out by myself but we can go together and like grab lunch after yeah

Or like other way around. We can go get a coffee. Yeah, yeah. We can go as a pre-workout and then go to the gym together, but then do our own thing. Yeah, whatever it is. Like something like that. Like so easy or like maybe, I don't know. You can do little things that you finish your workout, like do abs. Like, you know, just like that. Like, cause the gym like is a very social place. And like, obviously you're making friends with people who are into fitness are going to want to work out together, but there's nothing wrong with that. Yeah. I realized now I really like working out with people, but I like working out with people in a sense of,

to like push me and almost like coach. Like we don't need to chit chat. But I love working out with someone that's going to be a good workout partner and like motivating. But like, don't be trying to like talk. Yeah, I hate it. I hate it. This one's for you, Taylor. Oh,

um i mean i could answer this but just fuck that um how to know when to end a long-term relationship and it's been long distance when you still care about the person i've been struggling with how to end a relationship without hurting the person that i still love but i am no longer in love if that makes sense okay i get this question in my dms probably once a day it's always how do i know and then like this long paragraph of why they know that it's over you know what i mean it's always like how do i know if i should break up with them

Now I'm going to tell you every single reason that I'm dead set certain that I should break up with them. And I'm like, you already know that you should break up with them. One. If you're asking that, you know. If you're thinking about it. If you're asking that, you know. Because never once in my relationship when things were going well was I like, should I break up with this person? That doesn't happen. No. If you're thinking about it for longer than like two weeks...

You should probably. You know. You know. Like, it's not one random fight where you're like, should we break up? And then you wake up in the morning and you're like, oh, no, it's good. No, if you're continuously thinking that, you should break up. And it's long distance. Queen, that is the easiest. Not the easiest thing ever. But like, that's how I got over it so fast because you literally live in different places. Oh, my God. You never saw them. You literally don't see them. It's like the people are always like, what's your advice for getting out of a long term relationship? I'm like, move to a different state.

Full proof really works. And then as far as hurting their feelings, that's what I went through a lot because like the last thing I'd ever want to do with my ex-boyfriend is hurt their feelings because I care about them so much. And like, I just never wanted to hurt anyone's feelings and be that person. Like it ate me alive being like,

he's gonna hate me like i'm gonna be like a bad ex to him like he's i'm gonna he's gonna like resent me when like i thought nothing of good of him that like really fucking sucked and it was something i really had to deal with but talking about it we kind of got to the point where we were on the same page um and it was kind of very much like we shouldn't be neither of us are happy and we deserve to be happy so we shouldn't be together and

And it took a lot of getting on the same page. So I would try to get to a mutual agreement. Like, don't just, like, leave them high and dry. But if it's at the point where it's really not working, like, really coming to terms with the fact that you're not happy. What I told him that I think this is what clicked in my mind that, like, made him kind of agree. I said...

We're like excited about like a future we might have together. And we really liked like our past. Like we have so much history. But right now in the present moment, we're literally there's nothing really that we're getting from this. Except for like the idea of like one day we'll get married and like, oh, it was so good. And like the years that we were dating when it was good. It's like, OK, but like in the present moment, what is there for you? Probably nothing because you want to break up. So, yeah, like it took a little bit of getting to the same place.

And then it was mutual, but definitely initiating the conversation. You're doing more of a disservice to him by dragging him along if you know that you're out of it.

It's not fair to drag someone out like that. And he did not like me for a little bit because there was we didn't speak and he saw some things going on that he had different ideas of in his head. Then we finally spoke and I communicated them. He was like, OK, that makes sense now. But he did hate me for a little bit. I was like, I thought you hated me. And he said, I did like for sure. But I just explained myself in certain things. So we were able to kind of like squash that. And now there is I don't think he hates me. Yeah.

But you can't put other people's feelings above your own. And at the end of the day, if someone's mad for a little bit, they're mad for a little bit. But you know it's right and they'll get over it. Yeah. Yeah, I don't know. But you can't. Like, you might make someone upset and that's literally the hardest part. But you did. I promise, like, it'll be okay. And, like, if nothing really happened, they're not going to hate you or anything. It'll be all right.

Last one. Feels so much shame after getting with people. I feel like boys only see me for my body, and if I get with a boy, they don't see me as a girlfriend materially anymore. Example. Got with a guy on a night out, and we kept talking on Snapchat, but he would only text after 10 p.m. asking what I was doing. Finally said, I would love to do something other than seeing you at night, and he stopped replying. It fin-

It's finding it really hard to balance being carefree with getting with people, but also protecting my peace. Advice on shame around getting with people. And then she puts in parentheses, I'm Irish. So getting with people is also hooking up. I used to do that too. But I kind of have been like dealing with this in the sense of like...

Like, I am dating... I have always been in the scene of dating looking for a boyfriend. And it's really fucking hard because...

Guys are immature. Like I hate to say guys are immature no matter the age. I thought to myself, oh, I can date up like I'm going to start dating and going on dates with guys that are 27. I even was dating or not like dating, but like going on dates with a guy that was fucking 30 years old. And I thought he was going to be looking for something more serious.

But sadly enough, like that's not the case. And I kind of had to take that step back and like protect my peace, quote unquote, like what you said and like not hook up with guys because I just wasn't feeling comfortable

I'm morally right for myself like knowing that like some of these guys were not looking for that So i've been going into more of like the dating scene of like, okay I'm gonna go on dates with these guys i'll make out with them But i'm not sleeping with them like we went out two weekends ago and one of the guys that i'm going on a date with later today is

I have still not like slept with him, but we've made out and it's like I literally left that one night at like midnight and he was trying to come out to the uber with me and I literally had to like look at him. I was like, no, no, no. Like I told myself I'm being good tonight. Like I'm going home. Like it's not happening. And like I felt better doing that going home and not sleeping with him than I did about like a guy that I hooked up with like a few weeks prior and like we never spoke after it's like

uh you just need to know what you feel better doing obviously there's a time where you can go through that phase of like hook up after hook up after hook up because i feel like fuck it like girl like why do guys get to shame girls for doing that like girls can have the hookup scene too yeah you can do whatever you want um but if you don't feel good doing it it's also okay to go in phases like you might have been in that phase and then you realize you don't like it and maybe a month from now

You realize you're fine and you go back into it. Like, you're allowed to, like, go through phases where you care more or less about certain things. But I would agree. Recently, like, I also just kind of felt like when I was... Like, I'm not hooked up with a lot of people. But...

I was just kind of like meaningless like sex with people like kind of like doesn't make me feel good like and I and it takes me a lot to get comfortable with someone in that way so it's not even like good and not being on birth control I'm like I don't want to risk having a kid with these random people not they're not even that random but like with people I don't give a shit about like it was just like a lot for me and I was like I kind of don't like that like and I don't want to be doing it so I think I realized I'm definitely more of a like

I'd rather be kind of like with one person, like settled down type of girl. And I think that's like totally fine. And like, so like advice in terms of finding someone. One, if these guys...

Are making you upset because like they're not into you in that way and they only want to text you a 10 Don't make that make you upset like you don't like them So why do you care if they don't want to text you? They're not the right person for you. Anyways, good like they're not what you're looking for Done don't make that get you upset. You just know that's not what you're looking for and

don't let any guy also make you feel like just because you do sleep with someone doesn't mean like that's all you want like you're allowed to sleep with guys on the first date and also want to date them yeah like i always get hate comments on tiktok like that like well she let him hit on the first date and like and he's into me like who cares so like if that's like

if guys are gonna treat you like that like you didn't make a mistake or like you didn't fuck up or you're not like gross or you're not like you didn't do anything wrong they are just not looking for the same thing as you so like if you're on hinge or something too you can filter out like your dating goals and some people put like long-term relationship yeah but fucking guys lie about that shit right but like you can go back and look at that shit and it said like after guys like there was one guy who literally was moving in four months and failed to mention that until like

the third date yeah and i'm like your fucking prompt says looking for long term like don't lie to us right now like yeah you just i feel like at this point like if you are in the scene of wanting something serious there's no problem with being straight up right at the beginning also don't waste your time and there's no problem with expecting someone to show you that they're

100 into you right at the beginning either like i'm so like hard on dudes that try to get sam's attention like i'm always telling her like literally fuck that he should be begging on your feet to hang out with you every single day and if he's not like then why is he around like like it's just like little things like he should be literally trying to hang out with you oh i'm not like that who can fuck him he's not then he's not you're that's how you are if you need that yeah then

He should expect to have to give that because that's how you are. And it always people are always like so many girls are like, but I want guys to like me like no, but you don't even like them. Why do you want that guy to like you? You don't like him. Yeah, he sucks. Like that audio. That's like he's not the love of your life. He's just a guy hit him with your car. It's like that like fuck him and someone should be giving you.

You will know, I feel like fairly certain, not necessarily if they're the one that you're going to date and marry, but if someone is giving you real attention within like a week. You know what I mean? Like it doesn't take that long to be like, is this dude just trying to fuck or is he like actually giving me real life attention? And some of this stuff is so small, but it's actually like little things like when they have like,

real manners towards you and like really seem like they're like remembering things you say and like trying like remembering what's important to you i feel like you can catch the vibe of like is this guy just trying to sleep with me or is he trying to at least uh have like a long-term situationship with me like keep me around as someone he cares about i feel like you can tell that pretty fast yeah protect your peace protect your peace you don't owe anyone shit

Yeah. And like just be upfront, like ask people upfront. Yeah, there's nothing. There's literally no problem with that. Yeah. I honestly respect a guy when he asked me that. Yeah. Upfront. And there's also no problem with.

like giving you don't need to sleep with dudes like if you want to make out with a guy and even like go home with them and like see there you don't have to sleep with them like you don't need to have sex with anybody so do whatever you want you are in control yeah yeah no literally you are when it comes to sex like you are in control of everything you like have that guy wrapped around your finger yeah anyways I had to pee really bad I'm starving

Yeah, I'm not as hungry as you because I had breakfast a little bit after. Yeah, I'm literally so hungry. It's unreal. I hope we... I'm sorry we couldn't get to everyone's things, but obviously, too, with all the advice on everything, like, I feel like we answered well-rounded questions. So take some of the advice, even if it wasn't your submission, and, like,

Let it sink in and let it like really reflect on what you asked. Okay. Yeah. This episode was an hour and a half. Good. Our episodes have been so long. So long. Five fucking five. We've been killing it with the times on the podcast episodes. Yeah. One thing about us is like we love to fucking talk. We talk to each other all day anyways. Oh, one thing about us. We say that all the time. Like, we say the quote, one thing about us, but we know everything about each other. Either one thing about us, one thing about me, like...

One thing about us, we talk all day long. So like half these conversations would have happened regardless. Yeah. But it's like, yeah. But this was a lot of fun. I really enjoyed it. I'm so hungry. I'm actually going to literally die. So thank you so much for watching. Appreciate you. Subscribe on YouTube. Follow us on Instagram. All the things. Love you. Adios. Bye, guys.

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