Adam Wright | Anti-Diet Culture Coach, the Problem With Fad Diets, Why We Need To Break Toxic Diet Cycles.
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What's up guys, it's Sam and Taylor, and we want you to put your shoes on, pop open that energy drink, and go. Hello guys, welcome back to another episode. I'm Taylor. And I'm Sam. Today we have a guest. We have Adam Wright. He, we love Adam Wright. We love Adam Wright. Adam Wright stands. Oh yes. He never misses. I don't think he knows that we've.

really really really like his content yeah like we like actually adore his content he's such just like a kind sweet person but like never misses like has all the right opinions like doesn't miss so stay tuned for that because i'm sure we're just gonna rant and get into it about just like

in the industry. But before that, we're just going to catch up. So take it away. Weekly recap. This past week was a lot of fun and I honestly took a step back from social media. As you guys know, last episode, I didn't have a laptop. But then going into this next week, I had my laptop.

But then my family was in town and I was like, you know what? I just want to enjoy quality time with my family and not like worry about vlogging and then worrying about editing it when I'm not with them for the few hours I'm not with them. So I just kind of took a step back from that and just enjoyed time with them. It was a lot of fun, but I'm tired. Hosting people is a lot of work. It

It is a lot of work. It was a lot for me to like coming back from my like time off home and then David came here and then your family was here. So it's just like a lot of like off time, like over two weeks. But I feel so like in my grind right now, which is good. It almost like I love time off because then getting back on feels like really, really good. Like today is like a work all day type of day. And I'm like, I like need that because as much as I love like

sleeping in like going to the beach like grabbing this going to the pool like I'm like it actually is gonna feel nice to like get shit done the whole entire day yeah for sure I feel like too it kind of makes me not in terms of work but like be very like appreciative slash thankful for like a home-cooked meal too like eating out every single day I was just like oh my god I can't wait to like make my own dinner so like when I finally made my own dinner last night I was like oh

This is amazing. I love it. So, felt good. Yeah, I totally agree. Making all...

food at home just like feels really good you know it's gonna fill you you know it's not gonna make you feel bad yeah and it's cheaper yeah but let me tell you though i did eat good this past week i ate so good i brought my parents to or i guess my whole family i always say my parents but my brothers were here too and i brought them to our favorite restaurant bar peach which is downtown so damn good like i'm not even kidding i like

Like I'm not usually one to get like Korean barbecue or like that type of food. But because my brothers were there, like I kind of stepped out of my comfort zone and got like these wings and like a few other things. I was like, this is so good. But where else did I go? Blue Sake Sushi. You guys know the hype with that. I have one of you guys DM me on Snapchat yesterday, swiped up and was like,

girl like i i listened to your wreck and i went there and it wasn't that good i was like i was so mad i was like no i swear it's good and she goes i only got one she said she only got one role so hopefully that one role was just like not the best but i'm not even kidding it's my the best sushi place in austin but i'd have to agree um other than that it was a lot of just like hanging out having fun doing like awesome things like we went wakeboarding which was super fun we're gonna become pros oh yeah no like one of my life goals is to be like

good at wakeboarding, even though like I'm the kind of person that like I don't really like fuck with the falling over and then getting water in your nose and like the whatever. But something about being good at something like that is kind of fun. So yeah. But think about it this way. The better we get, the less of that is going to happen. Well, that was our first time going. I hadn't gone in, I want to say like four or five years, like with my ex-boyfriend up at his lake house. That was the last time I've done it. So doing it,

This time around, I was sober, which was great because last time I did, I was not sober and I couldn't get up. But then our boat guy gave us these pointers that I never thought were going to help. But instantly, that one little change I made the second time I went, I was able to get up and I was like, hell yeah. But we just got to get good at getting outside the wake. Yeah, it's hard though when people are giving you pointers on something when you know you're supposed to do it, like you're trying to. He kept being like...

push your feet hard like into the board and i was like i i am like i'm trying like and he kept being like you gotta push harder and i was like i don't know how else to tell you that i felt like i was using my whole body's force to push on that board like you can keep telling me over and over again to push my feet harder but i'm giving it my maximum effort i was like this is my max like i'm trying like trust me like i'm we're in this i'm trying and then

He swapped my board out because he was like a lot of girls find this board easier He was like I don't like it and I think it's hard but a lot of girls I can get up on this one And I was like, okay, so I tried it out and it was like way easier way better It was like thinner and smaller. It was like a piece of paper. It was so thin but it was really easy like Yeah, I liked it way better. So I like that one but then sam's dad Oh my god guys, my dad's like a whopping like

Sorry dad but like he's a big guy So we were not thinking he was gonna get up by any means And like he has a bad back He has like he can barely feel the bottoms of his feet from chemotherapy Like all this like mess up shit like with his body So I was like there's no way he's getting up Like there's no way

Me and my two brothers. I was going to say, mind you, your brother's like a college athlete. Like you played sports. Like we work out like blah, blah. And it was like, we all went and we all couldn't do it. The first time we all went, none of us got it. None of us could get it. And he just hops in the water. And the first time he goes, he gets up right away. And he is zooming on that thing for like, he could have stayed on that for like 20 minutes, but he ended up just getting off because it was like hurting his hands or something. And he just wanted to let go of the rope.

But I was like, damn, like this was impressive. And I knew I was not going to hear the end of it for the rest of the time being here. So the next morning he texted us and he was like, just so you guys all know, I'm like master wakeboard now. That's all you can call me by. I was like, great. I'm about to go to the pool right now with him. He's not going to stop talking about it. Like it was wild to see like all of us like in shape, like in our 20s, like ready to go, like failed miserably. Couldn't freaking do it. And he literally was flying. Like he gracefully got off too. He didn't fall.

Oh, and it's not like... He let go and was like, I'm done with this now. And let go and just like kind of sat in the water. And I'm like, what? Like we were all like, what? What the hell? And the driver was like, he's going to get it. Like I can tell the way his feet are on the thing. Like he's going to get up. And they were right. And then so then when I went...

like after like your dad had done it i was like okay you said you could tell by his feet he was gonna get it so what what do i do with my feet yeah i was like how do i fix my feet because you knew just from his feet so have like correct mine and then he told me

like how to do it but yeah it's fun it's a good time yeah let's also keep in mind too this was on a sunday so we had already been on like a three night bender and i that whole entire day the boat wasn't even till three i was so hung over all day and somehow just being like stepping foot on the boat the hangover went away i was like ready to go i was like this is so much fun but yeah it was a long weekend we had first thursdays which i

If you're from Austin, Texas, you probably know what that is. But if you don't know what that is, basically the South Congress Hotel like shuts down the bottom floor of the hotel, like the lobby, the back, everything. And it just turns into a massive bar and just people our ages from like 6 p.m. to 9 p.m. just like.

post work drinks social hour but the music is so loud to the point where you can't even hear a single word anyone is saying and there's nowhere to sit so it's like I it's a Thursday I want to be here to like socialize and enjoy it not get hammered listen to loud music and not be able to sit down it's the worst event I've ever been to and I'm not like I literally just don't get it to get a drink

Insanity to get a drink. A six ounce drink is like $15. Expensive. You have to like push and shove. We were standing there like because it's like a

it's it's giving like college bar like it's just a swarm yeah and this guy's like what do i like what do i do are you in line i was like oh no we're not in line but you gotta push yeah and he was like i'm like i don't want to i was like you you you need to go yeah i was like if you if you stand here and like let you you're not gonna get i was like you you need to assert yourself yeah and he was just like oh my god like really like i was like home homeboy you gotta you

Yes. I was like, if you stand back here, you're going to be here for five hours. Like, you know, a little excuse me. You got to get up there. And they're expensive. And then it was so annoying. They have a drink menu and we ordered. They're like, we don't have that here. Go to the person next door. So we're like, OK, we'll go to the bar, even though we just waited to get up here. We waited for so long. Then so we have to go to another place. Like, oh, no, we don't have it. It's far all the way outside. You have to walk all the way outside to get another drink. It's hot as hell. I mean, mind you, I guess first Thursday is not.

In the summer. Wouldn't be hot. But it's the music though. The music is so freaking loud. But it's not like you're going to be dancing. Yeah, no one dances. You're all trying. Everyone's standing in like empty rooms trying to have conversations. Basically what you're doing is grabbing a drink, walking around for two minutes. You finish the drink and then you talk with your group of people in line to get another drink. And that's all you do. I only got two drinks that whole time we were there. We were from like there from like six to eight, I think.

8.30, I don't even know. We got back... No, you went to the grocery store at like 9.30. So like we got back around 9.00 and...

I had two drinks that entire time. I could have had more, but I knew I was like, this is not the vibe. I don't want to be here anymore. And they're expensive. Yeah. Like they're not cheap at all. And we got like these canned drinks that were like cheaper and we're like, oh, we'll try them. They're like canned like cocktails and they were the most disgusting things I've ever had in my entire life. Yeah, they were really bad. They were so gross. I got like the tequila Paloma one and I thought it was going to taste like a tequila Paloma, but it literally just tasted like a seltzer water with like

minimal tequila with a weird appetizer. I don't know. The margarita kind of tasted like the ocean. No shit. But, um, that I would even consider going out, having two drinks or not even drinking and just like going out, dressing up and being in that environment. It's so draining. Even if you don't like, I wake up the next morning, like hungover and I'm not hungover.

Yeah, I don't know. I just kind of like hate every second of it. I don't like it. Like and last time we went there was this huge mishap because we got there earlier than our friends and they got there late and we were alone the whole time. So we hated it. And I was like, okay, this time we're going with like 15 friends. We knew a lot of people there.

David was here. I was like, okay, I think this is a more fair of a shot because we're not alone. I have all my friends here. I got my boyfriend here. If it sucks this time, then it sucks. And it did suck. Yeah. I really want anyone from Austin, Texas listening to this right now to please DM me and let me know your thoughts on First Thursdays because...

We can't be the only ones going crazy because I feel like our friends, that was also a good amount of our friends' first time going. And they all woke up the next morning saying, wow, that really sucked. But like our other group of friends was like hyping it up so much. I'm like, what? I don't get it. So let us know if you live in Austin, Texas. But then Saturday night,

Friday night. Oh, sorry. Friday night. That was the night my brothers were in town. They were so tired. They woke up at three in the morning for their flight and had, well, actually, so four in the morning their time, 3 a.m. our time. So they had been up forever and traveled. So they were so tired. We only lasted until like midnight and came home. We had a pregame at our place, which was nice. My parents got to meet all my friends. But yeah, that was, was that the night? Which night was it that my brothers threw up?

that someone threw up in the sink yeah saturday saturday night like so we woke up sunday morning guys calling my brothers out so hard right now i woke up on sunday morning after being out on saturday which we did like the same bar scene the night before came back well i came back did i even tell you that

I left them out. You left them out? No, but like they told, they said I could. So I was so fucked up. Like I was like drinking, having a good time. You left. So I knew you were back. So I was like, oh, I can leave at some point too. So I Ubered back. Alex gets me in the Uber. Alex looks at the Uber. Like Alex just confirms that like this is my Uber and that like I'm in a safe car and I'm going to get home. He had my location. He was watching me the whole time, which Alex, shout out to you if you're listening to this. I freaking love you. Like you're like my big brother.

But so I left my brothers out, but I went up to all my guy friends. I was like, please keep an eye on my brothers. I have their locations, but I'm probably going to pass out. So just keep an eye out. So my friend Tyler and Alex, they like both had been texting me updates of my brother's little time, like being like,

Like they're leaving or they're home like just stuff like that. So I went to bed but the next morning I don't know what time they got back. It definitely was super late and they were really quiet because I left my door open. My bedroom is on the floor of the kitchen so I left my door open so that way if they did come home I would be able to hear them and I just like have that confirmation okay like I can sleep deeper now because I know they're home.

And I didn't even hear them. So I slept through the night and I wake up in the morning to bring Mac on a walk and I look into the sink and there's throw up all in the sink. Trigger warning vomit. Sorry. It was the most disgusting thing I've ever seen in my life. I was gagging. Like imagine waking up hungover.

And like you have like that cotton mouth from being hungover. You know, I'm thinking, do you ever get that? And you just go over the sink because you want to go get your water and stuff. And you just look down, there's throw up everywhere. And it was, it smelled so bad. The boys think no one recalls doing it, but they were like, it had to have been Sam because she wouldn't have cleaned it if it was ours. Oh, so you really, that is so, I didn't hear them say that, but that is so annoying of them. They would never clean. They're boys. They would not in a heartbeat. Hmm.

But wouldn't I clean it that night when I did it? You know what I'm saying? Like if I were to throw up, I would have thrown up and then cleaned it or at least done it in my toilet.

Not my sin. That's what, because then I, David had already left. And I was like, just by chance, like last night, did you like venture to the kitchen and throw up? He was like, if I was going to throw up, I'd throw up in your toilet. And I was like, yeah, like, because I live like a floor above. Like, why would you get up, walk down a flight of stairs? Like when I have a bathroom, like that doesn't make sense. I'm like, it wasn't me. The thing is the boys have like done that before back home. Yeah.

Like, they've thrown up in my sink. Well, not my sink. Like, my family's sink before back home. So, I know it was them for a fact. So nasty. Disgusting. It was definitely Zach. Zach blacks out so easily. Like, the first night he blacked out and fell asleep in the Uber. Like, you guys are a mess. Insanity. But now it's wholesome time. Yeah.

I'm getting my life together truly today. I did yoga on my balcony. Crazy. No, you don't understand. It felt so good because listen to this. I've been saying like in I used to be on my like, oh my God, like my health grind was like the most important thing in the world to me. And like obviously it still is a little bit like I know to the average person like I still go to the gym a lot like I'm vegan like to the average person. They're like nobody you like do healthy things. What are you talking about? But I used to be

In this shit i'd go on Miles and miles of long walks and do like yoga in my backyard like she's like I was in it Okay, like I had this like journal over quarantine. I was like health wellness mindfulness to the max and

And I was like, that used to make me feel so good and I would just get lazy and not do it. And I hadn't done it in like a year. And I was like, I need to go back to like that. And I was talking to Sam about it. A big part of it is that when I was very, very into it, part of it was because I was so into it because it was a little bit disordered. Because like I worked out so much and like walk so much because I feel like I had to. But then also part of it was because I did really like it. I'd listen to like a whole podcast on my walk.

And like I would do yoga yoga with adrian on youtube if you guys do yoga, you know who that is She's like the og person that does it on youtube love that girl I would like do one of those and i'm not even kidding for like a new a new woman It would feel so good and I was really really sore today everywhere So I did like a stretching one. I just like stretched it out because I was so sore and it felt really good

to like do that like again on like a two-mile walk. It was a vibe because it was a rest day. So I just did that instead of lifting and it felt really good. Back in my wellness girl days.

Quarantine girl grind except it's not quarantine. It was also also having nothing to do couldn't leave my house So I had to like come up with something and that's what I did. So i'm just like pretending i'm in quarantine Yeah, I am really excited I should have mentioned this before but my parents brought me down my feel lucky stick and my whole feel lucky bag Like they checked the bag brought it down on the through the airport. So One of you guys dm'd me on instagram um

about AFL Hockey League in October, and I'm going to be joining that. So I'm excited. I think I'm going to a boxing class next Tuesday. Yeah, October's so far away. Now that I'm thinking about it. It is, but it isn't. Like, August is going to, like,

fly yeah like it's really gonna be so fast i was just thinking about this too i feel like i'm talking to you guys and i'm gonna get like an immediate response like you guys are gonna respond back right away but again let us know on instagram if you guys were down maybe once a month to do not like maybe like a mix of a run slash walk club and like we can meet at zilker maybe like once a month because i know like people have things to do like if we plan it out really far in advance like we could work our schedules around it and like maybe like

Is this aggressive, but like a 5K? 5K is not that much. It's only like three miles. No, I know. But like for the average human that doesn't really run, that's kind of a lot. Yeah. Well, I mean, if it's like a run, walk. Yeah. See, that's what I'm saying. Like I wouldn't run the whole thing. I mean, I used to see when I was talking about my health grind, I used to run like three miles at a time. Not now, but now I'd probably like definitely run. Would you do that though? I would do it like once a month.

I would be like waking up at the start of each month like looking forward to that date. Yeah. And it would also help us to like meet more faces because I know there's a lot of people that live in Austin that are always like, I hope I see you out. Yeah, that's why I'm really excited to like go. Like I really was like wanting to do like a class and stuff because also just like

having like other accountability people because like obviously we have each other but like even a bigger circle of like let's do this let's do this like yeah i'd love to like go to the park with you and walk like even just a bigger circle of people like that yeah it's just nice to have because i

Our friends are party animals. Yeah, they are really bad. I told them there's such a bad influence. I can't remember the last weekend. I haven't like every weekend has been like two nights of drinking. But it's been fun. Yeah, no, for sure. It's been fun. But we just need a break. That's why I'm also doing for this month three nights drinking, preferably none. But that's like.

That's like really ambitious because FOMO. But I'm giving myself three. Three is once a weekend plus one sober weekend. I already know this weekend is going to be the sober weekend. Oh, 100%. So 100% this weekend is a sober weekend. And then for the rest of the month, it basically only be once a week. If that so.

Yeah. Yeah. Oh, guys, I got my TikTok account back. Big news. I got my TikTok account back. My TikTok account is restored with all the people on it. I have it now. Freaking wild. It's like a time machine. I opened it. I had eyelashes. I was stalking it. I was like... I had eyelashes. Like, I did...

And so much, I made a video, there was like a trend going around, which is like perfect timing where people were like, what I've been up to recently. And they put like pictures and I was like, oh my God, this is perfect because I should post this because no one knows what I've been up to. This account has been dead for March, April, May, June for five months, for literally five months.

and i'm scrolling back in my camera roll to find things i have to go so back in my camera roll like i was like five i got a cat i was like so much has happened in five freaking months yeah i was like what do i even put in here like i don't even know like it was literally like traveling back in time looking at it i was like this is what i used to do that engagement on that account was just crazy i was looking back i was like well these videos have so many views crazy

I need to get back into my TikTok. Am I taking a break on it? I don't know why, but... I made like three TikToks today. I think it's just because I don't scroll on TikTok, so I don't really know what to post when I go on it. See, on... This is...

When on my other account, so like my I'm still going to have my other account, which is going to be like my backup because I clearly need a backup account. That one has nothing to do with trends on it. It's literally just random videos that go viral of people like talking like no trends whatsoever. I don't know what's trending sound. I don't know what dance nothing. Now this account.

my main one my for you page is like the trends and the ideas yeah so i feel you on the like i didn't know what to really post either like if i wanted to post i'd have to dedicate like 10 minutes to going to like charlie d'amelio olivia ponta like going to like the big people do that yeah but like my for you page i kid you not is like just a girl being like

Let me tell you about the time I got like robbed last week. And I'm like, Ooh, like, like that's my for you page, not trends. So I literally dig for the trends, but I'm, I will accidentally scroll on my main one. And I'm like, Oh, this for you page is so boring because like,

No offense. Like, it's just like, I like my interesting little stories and viral videos. And like, my For You page on the other one is like fitness. And I'm like, I want to see something that's going to make me laugh. I know. I know. I hate the fitness For You page. Yeah. My other account is just like makes me laugh and is entertaining. So I scroll on that one. Speaking of like TikTok and stuff, I did want to talk about this because I get quite, quite aggravated by this. Quite aggravated. Quite aggravated. And that is that...

You guys put content creators on like different platforms than they need to be. Like I'm the same human being as you listening to this right now. Like there is no difference between me and you listening other than the fact that I have a platform to like share lots of fun, interesting things in my life. So I, I, my biggest pet peeve is when like someone comments on something and be like, why as a creator do you think it's okay to do this? And like, so I posted what?

So I'll give you an example. So yesterday I posted a TikTok and it's like a transformation of me doing lat raises. And the girl comments like, why do you think as a content creator it's okay to do such fast-paced reps? Like you have people that look up to you. Like why are you doing such fast-paced reps? I thought you were going to say something like actually like,

Fast reps? Like I thought it was going to be like, why do you think you can say this? Why do you need to add fast reps? So my point being is like, why did you have to add in the fact that I'm a content creator? Like, why couldn't you just come to me and be like, why are your reps so fast?

why did you have to point out the fact that i'm a content creator you know i mean like it just like i'm no different than you also the video wasn't here's how to do a lateral lauries yeah i know it wasn't in the video was sped up and so i go so she really didn't know it was sped up i commented saying i commented saying the video i go it's sped up and then someone comments after and goes no it's not there's a guy walking in the background it was only sped up by a 1.5

And 1.5 like for an exercise is like a lot, a lot. And then like the person in the back is walking normal, but it's only 1.5. They could have been like, like barely walking. I want to go watch the video. So that's what, that's what I'm doing for my YouTube people. That's what I'm, that's what I'm watching. And so I go, Oh my God, I go, I go. So then I, I just delete the comment. Cause I was like, it's getting like way too many likes in this, like this comment does not deserve the amount of likes it's getting. It's annoying. Like,

I just because I'm a content creator doesn't mean I'm any different than anybody. I don't know. I just that's my biggest pet peeve when people address an issue that I've done and like say that's because I'm a content creator. I don't know. But yeah, my video is in fast motion because I was trying to fit in as many reps as possible into that short clip. So I sped it up a little bit.

And I go, it's in a 1.5 and they're like, no, it's not prove it. I was like, you know what? I'm just going to delete this comment. That guy did walk past kind of quickly. And also those reps aren't even like that fast. Also, here's my fitness hot take. Everyone's always coming for the speed of things.

I don't think everything has to be so incredibly slow. Like I was doing like, I'll get that all the time. Like let's say I'm doing a shoulder press and someone's like, slow down. Like, what if I want to like try to just go for as much like power as I can get? Yeah. Like,

What if I wasn't trying to go slow? Especially if I'm doing like 12 reps. I am not taking my sweetest time for 12 reps. Yeah, there's a difference between like rush. And we've said this before. If you're actually working hard, not every set is going to be picture perfect, textbook perfect, tempo. Like you're working hard. Yeah. Also, you got a comment being like, why do you never go past 15s? Because it's lateral raises and you don't increase by five pounds on like lateral raises.

I commented back on that one. I go, why are you comparing to me? Like, why does it matter what weight I'm using? Has she seen? Why do you never? As if she has a video of every single lateral raise set you've ever done. I usually do. You will use 20s. I use 20s. That's what I usually do. When I do a drop set, I do 20s and then 10s. But I always record myself with the 10s because the form looks better. I'm not going to post myself doing the 20s and then get backlash being like, maybe drop the weight you've...

You're doing it too... But then you being like, well, I don't post the 20s. People will be like, well, post the 20s. And then I post the 20s and say, you're way... There's too much weight. You shouldn't be using that. Oh my God, guys. You can never win. Never, ever. Literally ever. It's so bad. So that's hilarious. That's my little two cent rant I had to give. But other than that, I'm just excited to get back into this week and be more on top of everything because this past week has been a lot. Agreed. Do you want to...

do a little segments. I would love to do the segment. Okay. Um, for our highs and lows of the week, my high is that my room is a little bit more together. I got nightstands and I put my bed in the spot. I want it. And like,

All I need to do is hang my TV, get a bed frame, which I was telling Sam this. I have quite the dilemma because I have full memory of putting my card on the website, pressing order, doing all of that. And I can't find an order confirmation for the bed frame anywhere. So I have to go through my debit card statement and see if I purchased the bed frame or

Because I can't find it in my email. But once I get that and stuff, my room will be put together. But it's like halfway there. And I love it. I love my nightstands. My nightstands bring me like immense joy. So that's my high is my freaking nightstands. And my low...

Say your hi first so I can tell. Okay, my hi is obviously that my family was here. I've been living here for a year and a half, and this is the first time my brothers have been able to see where I live. They absolutely loved it. And they actually said that they wanted to plan a trip coming back in the fall when they can come with my cousins, which I have three other really close guy cousins, and I would consider them my brothers. So I will have five basically brothers staying here again in the fall. Amazing. Get ready for that.

Yeah. You and me. You said that the other day. You were like, yeah, my guy cousins are going to come stay here. I was like, oh. Yeah. Hopefully they can make it work. But our house is so big that like. Yeah. It's like so chilling. My low is that now officially me and David are a thousand miles away. Again.

So, that fucking blows. But, I mean, it is what it is. And flights are so expensive. Yeah, that's like my actual love, that flights are so ungodly expensive. So, I might have to fly in like an hour away, which is like, that's what I had to do in Florida anyways, because the closest airport was an hour and a half away. But that's just inconvenient. Yeah.

and annoying but the prices are out of control expensive they're like over 600 to fly from austin to greenville south carolina that is absurd like for a 600 flight i can do something so much cooler i was literally looking when we were looking at the la flights it's the same price to go to la first class oh let's do it and i'm like and you're telling me for 600 i can fly to south carolina like back of the plane like that's not even with like picking a seat yeah

that's crazy what the hell yeah no yeah so i hope that goes down because it's really crushing my mood yeah speaking of that we're trying to go to la at the end of the month i have i love going to zoo culture i don't know i want to go to zoo culture and then i have like a photo shoot that i want to do at the end of the month so maybe see us in la but my low is gonna be fuck i had it in my head why did i forget god oh maybe it'll come back to you

Now I'm really sad. I know. That really sucks. Yeah, no, I can't remember it. Yeah, give up. That's really unfortunate. Okay. Well, other than that, I was going to say that both of our pets have been bad boys. Mac ate so much of your brother's stuff and he ate the top of Mac's, of David's Tito's hat. Yeah.

oh and he got another one he was very like it literally at the top of like you know a little top that's on like a baseball cap like a little circle thing he just ate it off like ripped like the fabric and he was like oh my god and then he was like is that noticeable i was like not really but he was he like loves that hat and the hat was like technically free because my sister bought it for him she's like i'm gonna get another one and he went and got another one out of his too and i was like well like you can have your new one as like your nicer hat and that one you can bring like on a boat like yeah you can bring like

Where it might, like... Fall off. Like, get, like, a little messed up. And I have two of these, like, cats. And, like, yesterday Phineas broke a cup. They're just...

They just think they can run this house. They literally do think they think there's a minute of the house. They really think they run this house. It's like they need to like pipe down. Yeah, not okay. They need to pipe down. It's it's truly uncool. Like we pay the bills. We buy the food. We pick up the shit. We we do it all.

they'd be nothing without us literally where would they be anyways oh my god wait speaking of my tiktok being like a time like a time dude this freaking video max in it it's like kind of at the end but like oh is he really small he's so small like like look how little he is mac is so he's such a nugget i was watching it i was like oh

at that he was so little that's crazy I know I just thought that was funny oh look how small he is speaking of Mac I don't know if you saw my Snapchat story which add me on Snapchat guys if you haven't already I've been doing a Q&A today and someone asked like are you scared for Phineas and Mac to like separate and then I responded saying like

no not really because like i'm hoping my boyfriend will have a dog and everyone's swiping like boyfriend you have a boyfriend i'm like no i'm speaking into existence guys like eventually i'm hoping my boyfriend will have a dog already so i don't have to buy another one and then for me in terms of them separating phineas is a kitten right now but once he hits like cat age like a year a little bit over a year he's like gonna be totally chill probably never really

yeah and you know with mac again because once he's like like the hyper stage will be over and he'll be like all right yeah and also i think you have the kind of the same mindset as me like you're gonna get another dog well not another dog you're gonna get another yeah you're gonna get a pet yeah so i think i will never ever no matter what have just one dog in a house i will make sure there's two just because i've grown up that way

And I just love seeing pets bond relationships with each other. I think it's the cutest thing. Yeah, I had one dog and I always like wish she had a friend. But yeah, I always had one animal. So anyways, let's get into this episode. I'm very excited. Me too. Adam Wright. He is a anti-diet culture counselor. He's an owner of a online fitness community. So you guys can check that out on his Instagram. But other than that, let's get right into the episode.

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Alright guys, we are here now with Adam. We are really excited for this entire episode. I think we're going to cover quite a lot. But before we get into it, Adam, would you like to kind of give a little basic intro for yourself? Sure. My name is Adam Wright, Adam Wright Fitness on most every platform. I've been a personal trainer for 10 years. Started, you know, like most trainers do in a gym and then sort of graduated to online

online, which is great for me because I get to work with people all over the world. I think in large part, thanks to TikTok, that's kind of what made that possible. So that's probably where most people know me from. But what I do is basically I help people get fit and the

you know, like most personal trainers do. But the biggest thing that I do differently is I help people escape toxic diet culture, which is sort of what we are going to talk about today. So, so yeah, that's, that's me in a nutshell. Yeah. Would you say, cause obviously TikTok is where I come on you and I feel like a lot of the girls listening have found you. Would you say that's kind of where your content on that platform started and it kind of just progressed and you just kept going with it? Or is there ever at any point on TikTok that

something else that you kind of had as your niche or was this just always your niche? It really has not been my niche the whole time. It's sort of been, it's always something I have really believed. I mean, I used to be really overweight myself. I used to be like 260 pounds. So I've gone through a little weight loss journey and I know what it's like to be on both sides of the, you know, the spectrum, but yeah,

No, I mean, when I first started TikTok, I was doing, you know, I wasn't doing dance trends, but I was doing kind of like, you know, humorous, funny videos. And that's kind of like where it started. But eventually I...

you know, it's very easy to grow on TikTok and people really kind of found my content and resonated with it and what I spoke about. And what they really resonated with was, you know, this idea that, hey, you know, you can be healthy and be in any body size and, you know, you don't constantly need to be told that you need to lose weight and, you know, you should, you have to be dieting at all times and all these things that we've been told like,

our whole lives and we're constantly bombarded with. So I just sort of leaned into that. I said, you know what? People really like this and they need to hear it. And I don't think it's talked about enough. So yeah.

I'm going to start, I'm going to talk about it. Yeah. The one thing I do notice on social media is people are very sensitive to these types of topics because they can obviously correlate with like physical and mental aspects. So that's why I feel like people are really sensitive with it. So when we do have someone that like you does an amazing job of like being so stern on your opinion, but also at the same time, seeing both ends of it, I think you do a really good job with getting the message across on your platform.

Right, because I think as a coach, it could be hard for some coaches to say, you don't always need to be in a diet. You'd always need to be trying to lose weight. Some coaches might have a problem with that because then how do you sell, let's say, programs to a client? Because if you're trying to sell, then you…

to make the most money, tell everyone they need to be on a program, tell everyone they need to lose weight because that would bring in the money. So I see how for a lot of trainers, that could be a hard balance of building like a trusting relationship with clients to trust that they're getting what they need and not just being sold programs to sell programs. Yeah, absolutely. And that's the hard part because, um, you know, I've had, I've had people have a problem with me as a coach, as a personal trainer saying, well,

you know, how can you be anti-diet culture and also tell people that they need to lose weight? And I say that that's the disconnect is that I don't tell people to lose weight. But a lot of personal trainers, I mean, if we're being honest, our entire industry,

revolves around toxic diet culture. I want to say toxic, but just diet culture in general. That is our, you know, we are constantly surrounded by it and to a degree, I'm sure to a large degree, are involved with it ourselves and it influences us. So it is hard. It's hard to find that line. And I struggle with it too, of, hey, how do I help people become their best, healthy, happy selves?

And also not tell them that they need to change their bodies or, or do this or do that. Because that's not really my, it's not my place. It's, I think that's, it's, it's a hard line. It's a, it's a fine line that I constantly walk, but you know, I think it's important to hear other people and hear what they're telling us. And I learned people from my, I learned things from my followers, you know, because they experienced things as, as,

you know, as you know, a large population of my, a large demographic, my followers are still fat and still dealing with that. And so, you know, I constantly learn from them. So I think it's, it's important for us as coaches, not only to just say, Hey, you need to do this, but also to listen. And that's how we learn too. Yeah. That is a really good point. And that's why I kind of did a little bit of digging on your what is it? Adam Wright fitness.

online so I did a little bit of digging and I really loved how you kind of approach things with like why your mindset is so important and I loved you kind of have you go over and explain that whereas like the bad type of mindset to have and the good type of mindset to have not only with like fitness and like food just all the different aspects and how you can kind of change those mindsets

Yeah, well, I think first thing we probably need to do is define what diet culture is. And so I would say that diet culture basically is, it's not the act of dieting, but it's a belief that like weight, shape and size matter.

usually thinness is more important than your, your psychological, your physical health and just your general wellbeing. And it influences a lot of,

Things in our lives, how we speak, how we talk about ourselves, how we feel about ourselves, what we wear, what we eat, you know, what we do. And mindset is huge in that because it really affects our self-image. You know, again, how we talk about ourselves. Oftentimes I'll see that people kind of fall into this.

all or nothing mentality. I kind of put it in. So mindset's big because I tell clients a lot.

When they first come on, what we often deal with is like they're thinking like a grandfather clock. They has that big pendulum at the bottom. A lot of times they will kind of swing one way and then one day they're all in. You know, I'm going to I'm going to go to the gym today. I'm going to do all my cardio, be there for three hours. I'm going to eat perfectly. And then if they screw up at all or something goes haywire, they, you know, don't make it to the gym that day or they don't have enough time to to do their full workout or whatever.

you know, they, they forget their pre-workout or something, something goes wrong. They didn't plan for it. All of a sudden it's all out the window. And they, you know, that, that pendulum swings the other way and they just throw it all out. So the reason mindset is so big is so that we don't really fall into that trap of, okay, I'm going to, everything's going to go really well or, or it's going to go terribly wrong. We find that middle ground and realize that success is just about,

that moderate, I'm like, shoot for mediocrity. That's what we're looking for. We're not looking for you to be perfect because nobody is. And you set that expectation.

you're going to be disappointed when you don't reach it. Yeah. I liked how in the graphic that you had on your Instagram, you said one of them was, I need to work out to burn that food that I ate and changing it and saying, I need to exercise to keep my body strong and healthy. And I think that is such a good way to like look at fitness and kind of change things because I know at the very beginning of my fitness journey, personally, like my main goal when going to the gym was to burn off the food that I was eating or just like constantly in a cycle of like,

The workout was actually a punishment rather than I'm going to the gym to become stronger and healthier. So now that I've transformed into that different mindset, my workouts are so much more enjoyable. And I think that's really important. I love that you said enjoy that you enjoy the workouts because that's a huge way that we can sort of get out of that mindset.

toxic mindset of, you know, this transactional relationship between food and exercise. I think that finding something, a workout or an exercise or a class that you really like is a great way to kind of start that mindset shift too often. I think we link food and exercise together. Um, like, yeah, I, I, I didn't earn, or I earned this food, you know, I can eat that or I have to burn off these exercise or I have to burn off these calories.

So yeah, I think that's a great way to do it. Find something that you like to do something that, um, is just fun for you, you know, makes you feel good. It's not necessarily about changing your body. And then also, um,

you know, just setting fitness goals rather than weight goals. I think that's another great way to change that mindset. Weight goals is definitely a big one. Like I used to be so fixated over the scale and like the numbers of everything. And once I got out of that, which my question kind of for you is like,

With Lumetta clients, you've seen how was it that you were able to get your clients out of that number fixated cycle and push them towards more of like, I just want to be happier, healthier and not focused on the scale.

You know, it takes, it takes a lot of reminding. I think that's why having, having a coach, you know, for, for a lot of them is, is important because many of them are surrounded by people now, their families, their friends who have fed into that negative talk about, you know, well, it could be a number of things, but it's,

It's really important to talk about, to constantly be reminding yourself or have somebody remind you, you know, surrounding yourself with people who sort of make you feel good about yourself rather than talk down to you. Because, God, I don't know. I feel like that sort of positive thing

self-talk is a practiced skill. It's not something that's just going to turn on or off like a light switch. It takes a lot of effort to get out of this. They could, if, if, if diet culture was easy to leave, I mean, nobody would be here because it's not a fun place to be. Yeah. I would definitely say just from my own experience and Taylor, obviously put your input in as well. It's like, like you said, like having the coach or just having someone there to like constantly like

Not necessarily reassure you or just kind of be there by your side if you needed it. Because if you're alone in that state, it's very hard to get out of it. Yeah, and I think the influences of people around you are huge. In high school, I was surrounded by a lot of girls facing the same issues of me of just wanting to be really skinny and not eating and skipping meals to go to the beach and all of that toxic stuff. And I was surrounded by girls who...

did that all the time and had no shame in it you know would tell me if i looked so skinny um we'd go get food and they'd be like oh i could never finish that like i could never like eat all of that and then when we first hang out and we got lunch we both like cleared our plate at the same time and i was like this this feels good to me this is positive to me that we both and we were about to go to the beach and before we went to the beach like we got chipotle bowls ate them all and went to the beach and i was like oh my god my other friends

would have never ate all that food before going to the beach and bring a snack to the beach like and eat. They literally wouldn't eat. I'm from Miami, so we're at the beach all the time. And if we were like in a bathing suit, they weren't eating food. So that day of like, oh, my God, like there's girls you can hang out with that don't live like that. We'll eat a whole Chipotle bowl and put on a bathing suit and take a picture. It's refreshing. How old were you when that happened, Taylor? Like 18. Yeah.

See, and a lot of this, the problem is that it does happen at that age and even younger. You know, I mean, this is something that affects people in elementary school, in middle school. You know, it's constantly on, especially now that, I mean, when I was in middle school, you know, social media wasn't a thing. But now it's everywhere. It doesn't take long to...

run into this stuff as a teenage girl on TikTok. I promise you, I'm sure you guys probably know. And it's scary. It's scary because they don't know better. You're at a very impressionable age. And so when you see that, you know, you need to avoid carbs, you need to, you know, fast, you need to, you know, burn off your calories or whatever. You're just going to believe it because why wouldn't you? You're 15 years old. Yeah. Especially to like,

because a lot of people's like parent influence, like I feel like, like in our generation, our parents were like the generation of like the very toxic diets, like not necessarily like the influencer promoted diets, but like the, the ones you pay for, I don't even know the names of them anymore, but like the commercials on TV to like do the diet and like they pay for it and they buy it. And they, my, my mom did a diet one time of like

with my sister with all they ate was like chicken and rice and broccoli and they had to take like appetite suppressant drops and they paid for it like they went to a nutritionist and they paid for it and it's like i didn't know any better i was just like wow really strict diet you're on good job like yeah it's kind of like it looks good in a way because you're like wow like you're being really like you're so healthy like look at you

Yeah, and it's frustrating because, I mean, you're right. It's not just social media. It does come from people.

in our lives of authority. I mean, we're talking, uh, doctors often doctors are some of the worst perpetrators of toxic diet culture. I think I've ever talked with, um, or heard about. Um, I also hear a lot of stories from PE teachers, you know, Oh, my, my PE teacher told me that I needed to, you know, burn off. It took me like, it would take like 20 laps to burn off two M&Ms. And they still remember that in their twenties or thirties. And, um,

You know, it's disappointing because that stuff lasts a lifetime. It really does. It's indoctrination. Yeah. It's hard to come out of that. I think one of the worst I've remembered slash seen from previous clients of mine is like the weight or like weighing yourself in the doctor's office and the doctor telling you maybe you need to lose some weight, you're overweight, you're at risk, like all of those things. And I just think that is crazy and so out of line that they can even –

see those things to you just from when you want to scale it. Yeah. That's, that's insane. And oftentimes it doesn't have anything to do with the reason you're there. Yeah. Yeah.

I just had a client go in. He was telling his story. He works with one of my coaches. And he made a TikTok about how he went to the doctor who's having cataract surgery. And he's slightly overweight. But he's been losing weight. I think he's 20 pounds down from where he started. And he went in and he met with his doctor. His doctor was a substitute doctor, I guess, for that day. Just for a pre-checkup, like a pre-op for his cataract surgery. And the doctor...

Didn't care that he had been working with a coach that he'd already lost 20 pounds. Didn't even ask him about it. What he did was prescribe him a shot of Ozempic, which is a weight loss drug for diabetics. He's not diabetic. And administered the first dose there in the office. And, you know, he went in just to have his eyes checked.

So it was frustrating and he felt bullied and he felt, you know, violated. And it was really, really sad and upsetting. And yeah, so and that happens way too often. I've heard some real horror stories, you know, from people I've spoken with, from commenters on my videos. It's a cycle and it starts with people who are very impactful and meaningful in our lives. We're supposed to know better.

who have, unfortunately, very little training when it comes to weight loss. Wow. Doctors and other sorts of authority figures. I'm shocked by that. Yeah, I know.

That's crazy. And I'm happy we didn't talk about that because obviously for most of this episode, we're going to be talking about social media and it's good to address the fact that it does happen outside of social media, whether it's your doctor's office, dentist, I don't know, you name it. But I kind of want to jump into talking about all the TikToks, all the examples of diet culture, because I think it's so important that we do talk about specific examples because some people listening right now may not even notice that, oh my goodness, like this is so bad. I don't even know why I...

saw this TikTok and maybe agreed with it or...

was going to attempt or whatnot. There's just so much out there. I used to back in the day when I first started my Instagram, I used to be huge on diet culture. I used to make so many tick tocks and stitches duets, but I ended up stopping doing it because I got way too sensitive to the fact that people thought I was like bullying the person of me too. I was like, you know what? I can't do the controversy. So I stopped doing it, but I should put that, um, highlight on my Instagram backup. But, um, some of the previous ones that you've done, um,

One that I saw that I really liked was the exercise needed to burn off a McDonald's fry. So there was a guy, he had McDonald's fries in his hand and he was like, this is what you need to do in order to burn it off. And you just completely cut them off and address the whole situation. So if you want to give your kind of input again to here on the podcast of what your opinions are of addressing a food and saying, this is how to burn that exact meal off.

Yeah. So this guy's made, he's made several videos about that. And I just, I actually just posted, I just reposted one that went super

super viral about another coach in a very similar situation talking about how many jumping jacks it took to burn off an Oreo. And it's this idea that a food is only worth the amount of calories that it takes to burn off. And there's no other intrinsic value in this food. And it's just silly. We don't need to be teaching people, especially personal trainers, we should know better. We should not be teaching people that they need to constantly chase the fork with exercise. And

All it does is create an irrational fear of food, a resentment towards exercise by using it as a punishment. And then oftentimes, if we're their coach, we're giving them an incentive to lie to us about what they're eating. And we don't want that. We don't want them to lie to us. No, I didn't have anything. I don't know why I didn't see results this week. Well, okay, because we told them if they ate an Oreo, they'd have to do so many jumping jacks. Yeah.

I think it's also a bit of a lack of like knowledge and like intelligence on the trainer to not even account for like that your body also like burns calories on its own. And it's like if you went trying to do jumping jacks for every single bite of food you ate, like what about your basal metabolic rate? Like what about your non-exercise activity? What about...

all like your tde like all the calories you burn through a day that like you burn anyways like it makes it seem like burning calories is only through like jumping jacks it's yeah it's only done through exercise yeah and not that you're just you're burning throughout the day yeah you're right it's it is it is a lack of

education on the trainer's part. And unfortunately, it is very heavily believed. And so what I really try and do, and what I try and help other coaches do, including the ones that work for me, is we try and just teach people that it's okay to eat the foods you like in moderation. If you can fit it into, like if weight loss is your goal, and it's not for everybody, I mean, diet culture

It doesn't matter if you're trying to lose weight, gain weight, anything. But if weight loss is your goal, we can totally fit the foods that you like into your daily calorie goals because of your BMR, TDE, all that stuff. So as long as we can account for it, you can eat it. It's not a huge deal if you have two Oreos. Yeah. And this is where I like to ask you, what are your opinions on cheat meals too? Because

I personally and Taylor, we kind of stand in the same position of we just don't like the idea of cheat meals. I don't understand why you need to have

A burger and fries as a cheat meal when you can totally have it within your macros throughout the day. So I'm assuming you're probably going to say the same thing, but. Yes, we are on the same page. Yeah. All it does is really immoralizes food. It implies that you're doing something wrong by cheating it. You know, you're, you're, you're bad because you, you know you know, the rest of the week you were good, but today I'm going to be bad. Yeah.

Because I earned it or something, you know, that's usually the theory behind it. And so, yeah, it really is. It really is sort of, it can be dangerous. I feel like it's, I don't think it's inherently dangerous, but yeah.

The tricky part is really what that sort of is, is an excuse to binge eat. And so you sort of fall into this restrict binge cycle. And at the very least, that's disordered eating. And at the worst, that's a full-blown eating disorder. So you have to be careful because if you are very restrictive all week long, and this is, you know, I'm like a,

mesocycle. We're very restrictive this whole week and then the weekend we're going crazy. Those are my cheat days. That's exactly what you're doing is you're restricting and binging. And that's not a good place to be at. It's not sustainable. Yeah, there's these Instagram graphics. You've probably seen them. I see them like all the time. Maybe on Friday I can find input on the podcast Instagram story of what I'm talking about. But basically people write like the week and they put like

A salad for like Monday, like it's like what you think is going to happen. And they put the salad emoji for like all seven days. And then it's like what you like because you think you're only going to eat salad every day. What actually happens is like you overeat on the weekends by like 2000 calories. And then it's like, but if you were realistic and it's like a salad, a donut, another salad, like just mixing in the random foods in the week, it was like you would have hit your calories just fine.

And it's like a stupid little graphic of like emojis and food, but it's 100% correct and makes perfect sense. And it might be hard to get the visual. I've just started seeing this new thing on TikTok, Instagram called calorie banking. Have you heard of this?

The idea, it's the idea that you can, so let's say your average goal by the end of the week is 14,000. Okay. Your average calories by the end of the week, 14,000. So what you can do is you can have, you can sort of save up your calories by having less Monday through Friday and then Saturday and Sunday, you can go more because you, you know, you ate a little bit less and that is on paper, uh,

that can work, right? Realistically, if that's what happens, yes, it should work. But it's sort of, again, that excuse to binge and restrict. And I'm seeing more and more posts about this calorie banking. I don't, I don't love it. For some people, maybe it works. But I would never recommend something like that to my clients. Yeah, no, I don't. I now that you say that I've heard of it, but I've never heard the term for it. But I totally agree. I feel like

Now, I feel like I've said this all the time, but you got to keep in mind for like where someone is in with the relationship with food. Now, if you are in a very sensitive area with relationship of food, something like that's not going to work for you. But if you are very good with food and you are kind of not have like cheat meals, but like you're able to in a healthy way, enjoy more food on the weekends rather than during the middle of the week. And I totally think it's OK, but.

For the most part, I just don't see the need for it. Yeah, I'm I think it was your video that you did one time like the little skit. It could have been someone else, but I think it was yours with like someone being like, but I'm just so hungry at night. So I save my calories for nighttime. And it's like you're hungry because you save the calories and didn't eat like that's why you're more hungry. If you would have just ate, you would have been fine.

and what I think with the calorie banking is the reason you want to go so hard on the weekend is because you've spent the last five days just dreaming about food, and if you would have just ate the food, you wouldn't have wanted it, which is the place we got to one time. We got donuts, and I think you wouldn't pick them up. I didn't eat mine, and you ate yours, and I left mine to eat the next day, and someone commented on my YouTube video where I posted that. They were like,

you just like had a donut in your house on the counter and didn't eat it. Like, like how did you just leave it there? I was like, well, cause I got to a place that I don't need to have a donut just cause it's Saturday. I could eat the donut Monday if I want. I just didn't want it. Like, and when you put such strict,

on what you can have and when. Like that comment shocked me of the girl being like, oh my God, like you just left it there and like waited until you wanted it. I was like, yeah, I just waited until I wanted it. It didn't have to be because it was Saturday. I could eat on Tuesday. I could eat on Wednesday. I just didn't want it at that time. Yeah.

Yeah. And that is such a common, that's such a common thing. Not you, not you, you're uncommon being able to not have, not eat that donut. It wasn't forever. It was not forever. The people that I speak with and even myself to a degree, because I mean, if I'm being honest, I still struggle with binge eating disorder, you know, that stems back from high school. So that's, that's something that I have struggled with and still struggle with. But yeah, I mean, it's very, very common thing to,

You know, I can't buy this. I can't have it in the house because I'll go crazy. But the problem is that what we did, what's happening there is we sort of are putting our food, our vices on this pedestal of saying, oh, no, it has so much power over me that I can't even be in this be in the presence of this thing or I'm going to go nuts. And unfortunately, what happens, we never let ourselves have these foods is when we do that.

we go just bananas. And so

It's sort of, again, that sort of restrict and binge cycle. In fact, I just made a post about sort of what you're talking about, Taylor. You know, I said the more frequently you actually have these foods, and it sounds counterintuitive, but the more frequently we have these foods, the less likely we are to overeat. So if you have a small bowl of ice cream twice a week, you're a lot less likely to eat the entire pint on the weekend. Yeah.

because we've just you know hey it's just a I have ice cream twice a week I don't need to go crazy yeah exactly and I'd like to say it did take me a while to get there this is not something I've been just born with and naturally given that was like it took me like

a long time to to get to that point and a lot of like hard hard work yeah it is i was gonna say like i always went from like i was very restricted and then i studied abroad and when my time abroad i was introduced to so many different foods and cultures and stuff and that's when i spent like a good amount of time like binging and i ended up getting quite a lot of weight but

from those like two time periods it ended up when I got home being a restrictive binging, restrictive, it was back and forth. So I went from restrictive to binging to then a cycle of both of them and I think what it was for me realizing that I didn't have to fear any of these foods is that like two days later after actually enjoying the foods whether it was mac and cheese I had for dinner or just anything that was a big fear food of mine was

realizing and reflecting, like actually sitting down and realizing that that food I ate did nothing to my body. Cause I,

for the longest time I used to think that all these foods that were labeled as bad were really so bad for my body and that it was going to cause these horrible issues. I was going to gain tons of weight or whatever it was. And I took the time to actually sit down and reflect and realize that like, if anything, it kind of benefited me because I was so restricted that like when I actually ate that food, I had a little bit more energy. My workouts were a little bit better. So for me, it was like the mental sit back and realizing that this food was beneficial. Yeah. And,

And that is, I think that was such an important thing to, to remember for, for us. And then also for the viewers, it's like, guys, food does not only have one purpose. It's not fuel for your workout. It's not just sustenance. Food is, is so much. It means, you know, it's about emotions and culture and taste and having a social life. And it's okay to, to,

have food because you want it, not just because you need it. Oftentimes we definitely don't put this food into like, um, Oh, I've totally lost my train of thought. Hold on. Anyway, uh, let's go back. What were you saying? I was just saying like,

You were kind of going off of what I was saying about being abroad. I was introduced to more cultures, different types of food. When I was abroad, I didn't want to miss out on any of that, but I didn't know how to control myself in those situations because I came from such a past of restricting that when I introduced myself to it, I didn't know how to stop. I would eat it and I literally did not know how to stop. I remember where I was going with this. The biggest thing is that we assign this...

morality to food and it's good or it's bad and it's healthy or it's unhealthy. We sort of dichotomize the things that we eat. And the reality is that health is a spectrum. And this is what I tell people a lot. Health is relative.

You're not healthy because you ate an apple and unhealthy because you ate a brownie. It's not that simple. If it was, then weight loss and health would be a lot less complicated. It's really about your overall diet. It's about what your lifestyle looks like.

You can, you can be healthy and eat brownies and you can live a largely unhealthy lifestyle and have an apple as well. You know? So it really is a, an accumulation of things and not just one, just one thing. I actually was doing a Q and a on my, or I'm sorry, my Snapchat earlier today. And I had this one girl and she asked me, she's like,

I really want to like have a social life and go out, but I'm absolutely terrified of the calories from the alcohol and the calories from the drug food. And yeah,

I was I realized too I was like this kind of correlates with what we're talking about of just like the fear of like calories the bads and not really looking into and reflecting on life and how important it is and like like you said the memories that are made from you know going out and eating food getting drinks with friends like what is more important and I honestly think like

Obviously yes, finding the balance of the two, but you don't want to come into a point in your life where you're so restricted that you can't even hang out with your friends.

I like to say memories over macros. I'm going to make a t-shirt memories over macros for sure, because there are things that are more important than life and, and making, I promise a big event in your life. Let's say you go to your wedding, you know, and you, you, you are not going to remember 20 years down the road, what weight you were at your wedding. What you will remember is the people you surrounded yourself with, the

that you know how much fun it was you know how you know how handsome your husband was or whatever it's not about okay how did I look in that dress it is it may seem like that at the time but down the road there's way things way more important honestly with that too like I've done some reflecting too even like in past years looking at photos of myself and being like wow

I really thought in my head I looked a certain way that I did not like. But then you look at the photos, you're like, I don't know why I ever thought that. Like, you get so wrapped up in your head in the moment, whether it's like body image, the food you're eating, the uncomfortableness from like the food that the amount of food you ate, whatever it is. And then like even three months down the road, if you look back on that, you would not remember. Even I'm going to give an example that just happened when we were just before filming this podcast. So I made a TikTok video.

And I redid it like three times. I was like, I look a little weird in it. I was like, like, it's not the most flattering. I'm not looking the best. And then I looked back at the drafts and literally posted it right. Like this just happened. I posted it right before we sat down and I looked back at the first draft that I took before I redid it. And I was like, I look fine. I was like, this is a good video. Like, why did I redo it four times? I was like, this one.

I look just fine. Like, where did I think I like look bad? And that like, yeah, sometimes it takes like months, but that one literally took me like a good 20 minute reflection of me being like, see, and this is good. And this is good to acknowledge and appreciate because I mean, it still happens to us. We are, we are victims of diet culture, the same as everybody else. It impacts everybody, everyone. Yeah. I think it's just trying to,

Like, I feel like it's not getting rid of the thoughts completely because it's depending on how long they've been with you. You know, it's hard to completely ditch them. I think it's just putting, like, logic and reasoning, like, first. Like, I don't know. Like, not letting your fear and the emotion and the good and bad go, like, havoc on your brain when you can just use, like, logic of, like, it's only one time. It's moderation. And, like...

go about your life with the facts that's what just helped me is just literally using the facts like um like we were talking about with the food with like the good and bad food something that like happened we realized it's like what like when we first moved in like i don't know there's time we would always talk about it how we realized the bread we had and the rice cakes we had had basically the same macro label and for some reason people think rice cakes are like

healthy low calorie food the bread had the same calorie as the rice cake that we had in our house but people think oh bread bread will make you make you fat quote-unquote unhealthy and we're like it's it's the same like if you use factual logic they're both like it doesn't matter but the ideas of like the nonsense gets so in your head that you can't even focus on the fact that like wait these literally say they're the same calories so what am i doing and the bread probably tastes better and that

And there's so much misinformation on social media, on the internet in general. You know, people are talking about, oh, it's going to spike your insulin and all this stuff and, you know, spread over the rice cakes and, and people don't know what to believe. And it's, it's frustrating as coaches because, you know, I hear people say,

you know, repeat and regurgitate what they've heard from this TikToker or that TikToker. And they were wrong to begin with. And so now we have more misinformation spreading and, and those, those videos tend to go ultra viral, have three and a half million views. And some people, that just makes our job harder. Now I would love to dive into like your opinions on the difference between hardcore discipline and, and,

no, actually you're restricted dieting. Cause I know you did a TikTok of someone that had really plain ass chicken, like no seasoning, no nothing. And everyone in the comments and even themselves was like clapping for themselves because they were doing such a great job hitting their goals with such basic food. And I'd love to hear like your thoughts on that. Cause personally, I think that's type of restrictive dieting is a little bit toxic.

Yeah, I agree with you. And it's, you really have to consider a lot of things to figure out like, okay, what is, what is discipline and what is disordered? Maybe that's kind of like a better way to put it because, yeah.

I think that, so for example, I have a couple of coaches who are bodybuilders, they're bikini competitors. They are very, very strict and very rigid on their cuts, on their preps. But they also work with clients who come from my page, right? Where they struggle with going all in or all out. They struggle with these diet culture beliefs. And so-

Those girls have to really, you know, find that line of, okay, this is what I do because this is my prep, but you normally shouldn't, right? Most people, general public shouldn't be doing this. So it really does, you really have to consider who we're talking about. For the people that I work with, general public, 99% of people, for anyone who's listening, who's not a bikini competitor, you don't need to be weighing your food at a restaurant.

you don't need to eat unseasoned chicken, right? That does not mean that you are being disciplined. That means you're being overly restrictive. I think discipline is just, I think it takes more discipline to eat the foods you like in moderation than it does to cut out all foods and, you know, only eat broccoli and chicken breast, honestly. Because

Those are boring. Nobody wants to eat nothing but chicken and broccoli. You could do it, but it's kind of suck. It takes more discipline, I think, eating one cupcake and not wanting to go back for a second and third for most people. And the difference is we're going to be able to do that over a long period of time. That is going to take a lot of work rather than your chicken and broccoli diet, which might

last you a month and then you just you know you can't take it anymore and you binge out on everything else I think it's hard over social media when people see one thing of someone's life and assume so much about their relationship with food or make blatant statements about what's diet culture and what isn't because like one thing the prep is a huge one people think everyone that body built is like disordered now I'll never understand that because to me it's like any other sport you know you train hard for your sport

No matter what it is. So I think it's the same thing. But I also think it's so interesting where like some people think, you know, something in rice for every meal. So plain and boring. And like some people would get sick of it in two days. Then I think of people like my boyfriend has zero attachment to food. Perfectly fine relationship with food. You know, eats when he's hungry. Doesn't eat. Eats what he wants. Doesn't eat what he doesn't want. Like...

Like, clean relationship with food does not care about anything. Like, it blows my mind. Like, I'm like, so you just don't like...

I don't know. Like to be so non-attached to food is like crazy to me. But he does kind of eat just like steak and rice, chicken and rice often. Just because that's what he wants and it's easy and he doesn't want to cook. And like it's just crazy to me that there's people that live like that. So unattached to food. And someone, if he was like, here's what I eat in a day, measuring out chicken and rice, people might be like,

you're just like like you have a problem he's just like this is just what i want to cook in my college apartment because it's easy that's a really good point you know what i'm saying yeah like because it's so i mean that's not a lot of people but there are a lot of people that just have no food attachment yeah yeah and i don't want to i don't want to i agree with you um

is easy to assume a lot in one video or whatever. And I mean, I think that kind of just happens with social media. Like that's just kind of like,

That's how we do it on TikTok. We see one video, we respond to it. That's how it happens. Not a lot of context a lot of times. When I make my videos, I try and just speak generally rather than attacking that one person. Although I have been known to do that at times. Sometimes it's warranted. Yeah, sometimes it is warranted. But yeah, yeah.

I think it's important to realize that for the general populace, we want to be able to eat the foods that we like within reason. Whether that be chicken or rice, hey, if you like it, you want to have it every day, that's perfectly fine. But you also shouldn't feel bad about going out to eat. You also shouldn't feel bad about going on vacation and having a nice meal or going to a birthday and having a slice of cake.

But there's such guilt and shame attached to those foods for a lot of people, especially people who struggle with their weight, that they just can't even enjoy themselves at any occasion. Yeah, I agree. It's bad. It really is. Yeah, it's – I mean, and I agree, Hunter, like what you said a little bit ago, that the scale at the restaurant is – I think I know what TikTok you're talking about. Like that video of the scale at the restaurant was just –

If I was their server, I'd be like, can I switch tables? Yeah. Can I go to somebody else? I'm not doing that. No, yeah. It's too much. I think it is definitely really important to understand the difference between disciplined and disordered because some people can get really carried away with thinking, if they are being disordered with it, thinking that what they're doing is really, really healthy because there will be people out there that see it that's,

Like, oh, wow, like that's really disciplined. That's great. That's awesome. And then they get even more carried away with it. It's very dangerous. Yeah, the hype up from the other people is insane of how it affects them.

people like we've known people who let's say we know that they're maybe going through some disordered habits and they post a new diet prep or whatever it may be on instagram and other people are just in the comments like so proud of you like keep going you're killing it and we're like

Wow. Because they only know the person, let's say, through like... They're in a giant echo chamber. Yeah. And they only know the person through like a screen. So, I mean, the people commenting don't know, right? Like you're just trying to support a friend. Like they don't know the ins and outs. But let's say you've seen something in like one end of it that when you see the comments hyping someone up and supporting someone to keep going and you're so disciplined and look at you go and look at the progress and then on...

another and sometimes i'm looking at someone like they're they're like destroying themselves yeah yeah for example there's one that i the one that i fervently remember about a girl i think she's a fairly young girl maybe early 20s or something like that who had talked about she was doing like this i think it was a 72 hour water fast or she didn't do anything but drink water for 72 hours she lost this much weight and it was you know her before and after and i'm like

This is a giant red flag, people. This is a problem. But her entire comment section is like, oh, wow, tell us more about that. How'd you do it? Like, is it okay for, you know, a 13 year old to do this? Things like that. And I'm like, what is this video doing? It is, you know, if you did this under the supervision of your doctor, that's one thing. But now you're posting it for

millions of people on the internet to see. And this is a disaster. It really goes to show how bad the internet is. It's so bad. I could write out a massive list of just examples of that type of stuff. It's so bad. Yeah. I mean, I, like Sam said, both of us used to

sometimes make videos being like, kind of like videos how you make, you know, stitching someone and talking about it. Props to you for taking the heat on it. We kind of got a little bit pushed away from it. But I remember one that I did, this was like a year ago now. This girl made a video sharing. Now, it wasn't her diet that she made up. So no fault to her really, other than the fact that she's who I saw post it. It's some guy who like coaches models and had this whole plan. And it's like,

No protein before after workouts because you don't want to get too bulky no eating after a certain time No, the the list it was it It was like my jaw like hit the floor when I watched the video. It's like what is this? It was crazy It was so bad and I stitched the video And I was like this is like literally going to end up putting teenage girls in the hospital like this is really not okay and people were like

People like do what works for them. Like, like she's just trying to like better herself. Like, how are you talking down on someone that's just trying to better themselves and like get healthy? And I'm like, no, like, and it's just hard. Cause like, that's not the point at all. I'm not talking down on the girl for wanting to get healthier, telling girls to not eat after 3 PM and never eat protein. Cause they're going to get bulky. It could seriously land a 13 year old girl in the emergency room quickly. Yeah.

Yeah. And again, the end against because they don't know about it. They're going to try whatever they want because all they want is to be thin. And that's because going circling back to the theme today, diet culture glorifies thinness. Yeah. And it tells it tells anybody that it's worth it at any cost. Yeah. Whatever it takes to get down and be thin. Do it. Yeah. Disorder. Do it.

Skipping meals, do it. Drugs, do it. Weight loss pills, whatever. Sorry, go ahead. No, I was going to jump into the yo-yo dieting because I feel like that's a good kind of way to segue into that because –

what you're saying is like trying so many different new types of dieting, which can lead into a very bad cycle. Um, so yeah, would you want to, do you want to jump into what you were saying or do you want to? Yeah, sure. Yeah. So yeah. So yo-yo dieting is basically weight cycling, right? It's a, it's a, it's a pattern of dieting to lose weight and then you regain that weight and then you diet again, like a yo-yo up and down. And, um,

It's sad because a lot of times when you weight cycle like that, and we're not talking bulking, cutting, right? We're not talking about like 10 pounds here and there. We're talking like 40, 50, 60 pounds up and down. The problem is, well, one, that does a massive amount of damage on your heart and just your body in general to keep doing that.

But it's frustrating for them because they're like, well, it worked before. Why is it not working now? And that's when you have, you know, that's when they go back to, you know, fad diets. Well, I did it once, so I'm going to do it again. And you're just stuck in this massive cycle. And it's frustrating and it's dangerous and it's really unnecessary. That's the problem. We're not, we as coaches need to do a better job

helping people realize that they that they are not they don't need to take these massive extremes to lose weight and it's just sad the amount of people that I talked to who told me oh yeah I I've lost weight you know four or five times I just can't keep it off yeah okay we've got a lot of unlearning to do mm-hmm yeah no so for someone listening right now can you kind of explain what

for a client or a listener that has been doing the yo-yo dieting, maybe doesn't realize it and they're gaining weight, losing weight, gaining weight, losing weight. Will you kind of explain to them why that is, why they are constantly going through this cycle and what's actually happening with their bodies? Yeah. So, so things that I see, uh, in people who yo-yo diet a lot, uh, in obsession with a scale, um,

And specifically that number on the scale going down every time. They don't care about potentially gaining any muscle, which often is the result, hey, of maybe a little bit of weight training. You know, your weight went up because you added some muscle. They don't care. They want that weight to go down. The need to see fast results instead of

more slow, sustainable results. Overly restrictive diets, making certain foods off limits like carbohydrates or sugar or fat. That all or nothing mindset that we've talked about, where people just go all in and they go crazy and they do everything right for a certain amount of time and then something interrupts that and they go all out. All of those things are really big contributors to yo-yo dieting. Yeah.

I think what's really important is what you said about like the damage that it puts on your body, like the physical damage, because that was a big thing for me. I think getting more educated on just how bad going through those cycles of restricting and all that is for your body now.

Most of them, the facts that I knew that I was told are focused on like women, like women, like you're going to lose your ability to have kids. Your hair is going to fall out. Like your, like your bone, like you can start breaking a hip at 35 years old if you fall. Like organ damage or like things like that that are like,

It's real. And I feel like at first I was just like, oh, but whatever. And I think once it hit me that, wait, that's actually real. And I don't know, just seeing how and getting more educated on the physical damage and not just like, oh, you're going to be upset that you gained and lost weight, but what's actually going on that is it worth...

not really being like mobile by the time you're 50 because you destroyed your body. And it's ironic, isn't it? Because most people think, well, I'm losing weight and that is healthy. But in reality, it's not always. It depends on the method behind it. It depends on, you know, how many times you have done it. Being healthy or being thin is not always equated with health. It's just not.

Yeah. And I think a few of the really big like diet culture slash yo-yo dieting is

that I see a lot of girls our age or just like in our demographics or anyone listening, honestly, it just would be the keto diet, intermittent fasting. And lately, a very big one that I've seen has also been carnivore dieting. And... Oh, my God. Yeah. I'm plant-based, like I eat vegan. So this carnivore nonsense... Me too. ...of like eating the raw...

meat, I really can't do it. I really can't. You can thank the liver king for that, right? Yes, I really cannot. Yeah. So these are just some of the big ones that we've seen. And one thing that I really stand by is like looking at that diet and think to yourself, is this going to last me the rest of my life? Am I going to be doing this lifestyle, this type of eating for

Till I'm 80 years old. And if you're going to say no, I just don't see the point in eating that way because you want to be eating for fun, memories, enjoying it. So I would obviously love to hear your opinions on like all of these fad diets. And yeah, just kind of give your input. Yeah.

Sure. So, okay, you talked about keto. I have to be careful because fans of keto are big, big fans. They will come out. They will come out for sure. I have made my thoughts on keto very clear on TikTok. But the way that I kind of like to explain it is think about if you were going on a 10 mile run. Okay.

Losing weight is this 10-mile run. You've got two paths you can choose. One, you have a nice, comfortable path. It's great weather. You're in comfy shoes. It's not too rocky or too hilly. Or you could take option two and you're running across rocky terrain with no shoes. It's extremely hot and you're in the middle of summer. It's like you can choose either way you're going to get to where you want to be. But one path is a lot easier

more difficult. It doesn't have any additional benefits. And that rocky ass path is your keto diet. You may get there, but I mean, why? I don't know why. I don't like keto because it's extremely challenging. It's going to leave you with a terrible relationship of food. And although it can work,

It's only because you're in a calorie deficit. So why not just do a regular normal calorie deficit instead of giving up all the tasty things in this world? Giving up carbs is just silly to me unless you have a medical reason to do it. Yeah, and then they just replace everything with cheese. And I'm like, how do you think that that's –

That's like less volume for the cat. Like it just doesn't make sense. Like when they're like, here's a keto snack and it's just like cheese. I'm like, you could have had a way bigger snack. Yeah. You just ate cheese? Yeah. My brother did keto, not to call him out. He doesn't listen to this, but he did keto like a while ago and he lost a lot of weight. And I would try to tell, this is when I first got into it and I would try to tell them and my whole family that,

I still always try to convince everyone, but I'm like, I'm like, it's literally not the keto. It's just the calories. Like, I don't like, why are you doing this? Why are you doing this? I don't get it. Like, and he's like, but it's working. I'm like, okay, yeah, I get it for now, for now. And he ended up like gaining the weight back and is like back where he was. And it's just like, it's frustrating because when people are so diehard on like something like that, they just won't listen. Yeah.

And it's really interesting because their definition of success is different than mine. They'll say, well, it worked for me once before, so I'm going to do it again. I say it didn't. It didn't work for you once before because if it worked for you, then you wouldn't be having to do it again. My basic success, I think it's sustainability. That's success to me. It's not whether or not it worked. Any fad diet will likely work at first.

Of course. Yeah, I think the same thing. I would tell him, no, it didn't work. I think the same exact thing. It didn't work. Yeah. Like, one really big one, like I said, is the carnivore diet that I've been seeing for, like, a while now. And I just...

same thing like why get rid of all the bread and all because it wasn't fruit yeah carnivore is things that you if you were just living out in nature like all you could get well some people like there's a girl on tiktok who like literally like some of them are strictly like animal protein only like there's a girl on tiktok who eats she's like for breakfast she eats like

butter in her coffee and like a steak and like no vegetable no fruit no right like all she eats is animals like paleo to the extreme yeah yeah i just can't i i

I just don't understand. No nuts or seeds, just meat. Yeah. I just don't understand like the desire to do it. I feel like people get on, they get on a high of seeing results that they think that they love their diet so much, like enjoying it with the foods that they just completely forget about like,

Anything else any other diet any other food they just are seeing the results and they're like this is the diet for me I'm doing this forever but then they actually don't realize that they may need to end up doing this for a while because if they end up jumping back into like regular eating it's it's going to be a hard jump to jump back into just eating how you were before and

From that very, I don't want to say restricted diet, but yeah, it is a restricted diet. I think what's interesting about the carnivore diet is, I know some people probably obviously do it for weight loss, but I see a lot of people doing cardio carnivore diets as like a just health thing. Like maybe they're already jacked lean, like they don't need to lose weight and they just think it's like,

like healthy they think they're getting rid of like toxins and this and this and it's carnivore diet and it's so good for them and it's healthy like and it's just like an internal health thing and like to me that's like an another part of diet culture besides weight loss of just being so consumed by like no processed food no this no that like

You're going to go that far into thinking you can't eat processed food that you're eating raw liver for breakfast? That's wild. Raw testicles, yeah. It's like you can eat something in a package. I promise you it's okay. You're going to be fine. A couple crackers is not going to kill you. Yeah. It's frustrating. It's...

And, you know, and then people with giant platforms like, you know, a certain giant podcaster who do, you know, the carnivore diet and rave about it.

They don't help our cause either. Everyone's going to follow it. Yeah. So, you know, it's a constant battle. It's a nonstop source of content for me. Oh, yeah. It keeps this podcast running. We wouldn't be here without it. Yeah. Right. Right. But it's, you know, from the client's perspective or from our viewers, it's frustrating. What the heck am I supposed to believe out there? Yeah.

Yeah, I totally agree. And for I kind of want to wrap up this podcast by just kind of asking, like, what is advice you would give someone trying to get out of that constant style cycle of the yo-yo dieting? What would be the first steps for them physically? And then what would be the first steps for them mentally?

I think that it's important to remember that for most people, exercise and health and fitness should be an important, it's an important part of your life, but it doesn't need to consume your life. I think it's really important to remember there's other aspects to living, family, relationships, career, education, hobbies. There's also more to health than just physical health.

There's mental health, spiritual health, emotional health. Your life does not need to revolve around what foods you can or cannot eat. It doesn't need to revolve around how many times you went to the gym that week. For some of us in this field, that's how it is on a day-to-day basis. But for 99% of people, you don't need to live like that. As far as ways to fight diet culture, I think physical steps are...

I think making exercise, like you mentioned earlier, Sam, a part of your life, you know, doing it because it's good for you. Yeah. Doing it because it feels good. I'm not doing it just because it's going to change your body. Um, I think stop putting, uh, uh,

stop putting weight loss and leanness on this pedestal of this is what I always need to accomplish and stop revolving your life around those things to the detriment of your health and your wellbeing, especially your mental health. I also think that focusing on what your body can do, being neutral, like you've heard body, a lot of people have heard about body positivity. That's a hard place for a lot of people to be in. What I think is a good middle ground is body neutrality, which is, Hey,

I appreciate what my body does. I may not love it all the time, but it does a lot for me. My legs keep me moving. My lungs keep me breathing. And my muscles help me get through this workout and it feels nice. Those are small things we can acknowledge to help kind of get out of this, okay, I need to eat or I need to work out because I ate. As far as mental steps, you wanted to kind of talk about

mental ways to fight diet culture. I think that avoiding harmful forms of social media. Yep. Yeah. I was going to say that I was going to throw that out there. Yeah. Especially people who, you know, make you feel not even, it doesn't even need to be their intention, but you know, there's so many different niches and parts of TikTok, Instagram, whatever. If somebody makes you feel bad

Even unintentionally on TikTok or any other social media, unfollow that person. You don't need that negativity in your life. You don't need that. Like if it made you feel bad, okay, you know what? I'm going to kind of reevaluate who I follow. Yeah. Huge. We've talked about this before because on TikTok, you kind of are just scrolling and you can see everything. Yeah.

TikTok, we tell people to block because you don't want them to just pop up on your... Smart. What is it? For you page? Yeah, yeah. So you don't... Like, you're just scrolling. They're not popping up on your page because they'll keep popping up. Or there's the not interested button, but I don't even think that works that well. You have to press not interested, like...

a lot of times so i think that's really important is the social media block because that's like the biggest factor with also muting on instagram yeah like if there's someone that you're like oh i can't unfollow them because they're like my friend or family member like that's going to cause an issue you can just mute yeah don't gotta see it absolutely i also i you know

I also think it's really important to reevaluate and rethink the relationships we have in real life too. With friends and family, who you surround yourself with really can make a difference. Now, it's not always easy to remove people in your family. Of course. But in that case, it's really important to set certain boundaries.

yeah i'm sure that hey you know wait i don't want to talk about it this needs to be something this is a hard no for me we're not we're not discussing this yeah i agree 100 being very vocal on the things you can and can't talk about around you know yourself like family wise i think is really important i've had to do that in the past yeah and i had to do that with friends like i said before like in high school girls talking about that like

My friend would try to justify her eating habits to me, and I would try to, like, you know, educate her on it. And it got to a point where I said, I cannot do these conversations anymore. Like, you cannot talk to me about this. You can't, like, tell me what you're eating or not eating. I can't do it. I cannot. I'm like, I tried to help you. I tried to, like, acknowledge it. But right now, for me, can't hear it anymore. And, like, you just got to be, like, straight up honest about, like, it's just not –

It's not something you can deal, especially when you're like in a place where you're like almost like out of it, like you're almost healed yourself. It's like the one thing that someone keeps saying to you. Got to cut it. Yeah. 100%. Yeah. Well, it's hard. It's hard to do. Yeah. Thank you so much, Adam, for coming on. I think we covered so much. And this is like my favorite topic of all time. It also makes me want to get back into those TikToks. But

Not quite yet. Bring the heat. Yeah. But, um, everyone listening, you guys can go plug your Instagram one more time. Adam Wright fitness. W R I G H T. Awesome. And are you taking clients at the moment?

I am. And I also, if I fill up, I have a team of nine incredible women coaches who also speak the same language that I do. Awesome. We love that. All right, guys, check that out and be sure to show his Instagram some love. We will be posting him on our podcast today. When the episode goes live, you should see that and he'll be tagged. But other than that, I hope you guys enjoyed and thanks for listening. Bye. Bye guys. Bye. Bye.

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