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CM 276: Mary Anderson on Success without Stress

2024/10/6
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Mary Anderson: 本书的核心观点是帮助高成就者摆脱压力和焦虑,实现成功与幸福的平衡。作者指出,许多高成就者因为追求完美和外部认可而身心俱疲,忽略了自我关爱和积极思维的重要性。书中提出了八个关键策略,包括追求卓越而非完美、积极的自我对话、建立健康的人际关系、保持好奇心、应对不确定性、庆祝胜利、培养感恩之心等,旨在帮助高成就者建立更健康的心理状态,享受成功,并持续发展。 作者强调,思想、感受和行为之间相互影响,形成一个循环系统。通过改变消极的思维模式,并采取积极的行为,可以改善情绪,提升幸福感。作者还介绍了三种常见的认知偏差:非黑即白思维、妄下结论和应该式思维,并提供了相应的应对策略。 在人际关系方面,作者建议选择那些能够提升能量、带来积极影响的人,并采用自信的沟通方式。此外,作者还强调了明确目标、确保目标有意义的重要性,并鼓励高成就者庆祝胜利,享受成功的喜悦。 Gayle Allen: 作为访谈主持人,Gayle Allen 主要负责引导话题,提出问题,并对 Mary Anderson 的观点进行总结和补充。她与 Mary Anderson 就书中提出的各种策略进行了深入探讨,例如如何克服完美主义、应对不确定性、建立健康的人际关系以及培养感恩之心等。Gayle Allen 也分享了她自己的一些体会,并与 Mary Anderson 就高成就者普遍面临的挑战进行了交流。

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Many high-achievers experience chronic stress, self-doubt, perfectionism, and burnout despite their ambition and drive. The lack of self-care and unhelpful self-talk are key factors contributing to their unhappiness.
  • High-achievers often struggle with chronic stress, self-doubt, perfectionism, and burnout.
  • Relentless pace and lack of self-care are significant issues.
  • Unhelpful self-talk and chronic negative self-criticism exacerbate the problem.

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We often assume that stress and anxiety are the price we pay for success. Yet these feelings can lead to burnout and self-doubt, two debilitating outcomes that can get in the way of the very achievements we’re striving for.

This is a pattern psychologist Mary Anderson often sees in her high-achieving clients: their very success has left them so scarred that they can’t enjoy it, let alone build on it. The good news is that Anderson has developed a set of research-backed strategies to get us unstuck. Anderson shares these stories and strategies in her book, The Happy High Achiever: 8 Essentials to Overcome Anxiety, Manage Stress, and Energize Yourself for Success – without Losing Your Edge.

I walked away from the book – and our conversation – with tools to rethink some of my own limiting beliefs. I bet you will, too.

Episode Links

Perfectionism Is Not Healthy or Sustainable. Here’s What to Strive for Instead

5 Ways to Find Relief in a Moment of Overwhelm

Staying Determined on the Way to Achieving Your Goals

Interview with Michael Gervais

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