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CM 268: David Robson on Overcoming Loneliness

2024/6/17
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David Robson: 本书探讨了建立牢固社交网络的科学方法，强调共享现实感、自我扩展以及克服社交焦虑的重要性。他指出，无论性格如何，我们都有能力建立更牢固的关系，这只需要练习和勇气。他还解释了三种不同类型的社会关系：支持性、厌恶性和矛盾性关系，并强调了矛盾性关系可能带来的压力。此外，他还讨论了表达感激和欣赏的重要性，以及如何克服‘好感差距’和‘谦虚炫耀’等社交障碍，最终目标是建立更健康、更充实的社交网络。 Gayle Allen: Allen 作为访谈主持人，引导 David Robson 阐述其在《连接法则》一书中提出的观点，并结合自身经验与 David Robson 的观点进行探讨。她对共享现实、自我扩展、不同类型的人际关系以及表达感激等方面都提出了疑问，并与 David Robson 进行了深入的交流。她的问题和评论帮助观众更好地理解了书中提出的概念，并引发了对自身社交关系的思考。

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No matter our personality or how we feel, we can build stronger relationships with practice and bravery. Shared reality, the feeling of mutual understanding and experience with others, is key to connection and improves health. This shared reality can manifest in many ways, from shared backgrounds to intimate thoughts and feelings, and is supported by neurological mirroring.
  • Shared reality improves health, reducing susceptibility to illnesses.
  • Intimate thoughts and feelings are crucial for close relationships.
  • Neurological mirroring supports shared reality.

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Social connections are one of the keys to a happy and healthy life, yet few of us learn how to build them.

If we’re lucky, we have family and friends who model them. But even then, our biology equips us with cognitive biases that can get in the way.

Fortunately, award-winning science writer David Robson has studied the research. He shares what he’s learned in his latest book, The Laws of Connection: The Scientific Secrets of Building a Strong Social Network.

In this conversation, he talks about the biases we hold and how we can overcome them. It’s a terrific resource for rethinking your approach to social connection.

Episode Links

How Learning about the Science of Shyness Helped Me

The Big Idea: Why You Shouldn’t Be Afraid of Being a Mess

Interview with Marissa King on Social Networks and Social Chemistry

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