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We learn from our mistakes, but sometimes you don't need to fix your mistake. That mistake tells you you might not do the same thing again. 比如说我当然知道我选错了合伙人, 我当然知道就是我地面关系没搞好, 那我也可以选择不去搞那个关系, 以后不选这方面的东西, 就是我必定非得 overcome 这个 mistake. 这个是我最大的 take away, 我觉得就是不要总是和你的弱点去死磕。
Hello everyone, welcome to the Cultural Coalition's "Bei Qiang Nan Diao" This episode, we will continue to learn about Crystal's experiences and achievements in the education field And as a popular network on TikTok and Xiaohongshu She will share with us how she has established a connection with the audience And in the short term, she has gained four million fans Let's get started
That period of time is probably the most free state I have ever experienced in my life since I was young. On the contrary, I think this period of time is
I felt like it was very eye-opening. Because I was asked to study well at home since I was a child. You have to be ambitious. We have a saying in our family, "The wise will advance to the next level." If you want to play something, you have to be ambitious. Our motto is that you can't be without ambition. I found that I could be happy in life. But at that time, my brain was not so clear. I also thought about it later.
I felt that it was actually quite easy. I found out at that time that the kind of life I thought I had before, I thought I had to live in a particularly good apartment. I must dress in a more bright and beautiful way. I have to do my nails, I have to do my hair, I have to go to the gym, I have to do my face, I have to get my scalp taken care of. There are a lot of things that I feel like I need to do. I found that it's not really necessary. I also
过得还可以。 所以从那个时候开始, 我就发现我好像不太那么需要花钱, 同样的也是因为确实比较不能花钱, 我就激发了自己的潜力, 就发现其实自己在物质需求这方面, 没有那么多的刚需。 然后同时呢,因为我创业失败嘛, 我的好闺蜜,我的大学同学, 他当时在北京的一家三十度, 他在三十度工作,
She is a 30 degree literature teacher. She cares about me. To be honest, my friends care about me. They think that I am being attacked. I failed in my entrepreneurship. I have a lot of debt. Do you want to eat with me? They are all...
I think
Very interesting. Your work is very interesting. And I think it sounds like a group of very liberal, very open-minded people are working together. Because before, during my entrepreneurship period, and before that, in the film industry, the people I met every day were more traditional or more...
How to say it? I may not be able to hear others' opinions. And they are more persistent, more stubborn. And after graduation, I hardly met any people who came back from studying abroad. Because my circle of friends is also a more traditional circle. I was so curious. Is this okay? Because I was in...
I was in the film industry. I actually taught some students to apply. I said, "Do you think I can try coming to your company?" He said, "Sure, write down your experience." "I'll talk to the boss about it." "Anyway, the company has training." I went into the 30-degree business. After you started this industry, you think this industry is quite different from what you did before. I think actually, from the moment you started,
But
But sometimes you don't need to fix your mistake. That mistake tells you you might not do the same thing again. 比如说我当然知道我选错了合伙人, 我当然知道就是我地面关系没搞好, 那我也可以选择不去搞那个关系, 以后不选这方面的东西, 就是我必定非得 over,
I think this is my biggest takeaway. I think you shouldn't always go to the bottom with your weaknesses. Because I found that I like to talk to people. Including when I open a store, I also like to get feedback from customers. Tell them how to play, improve your experience, etc. Including sometimes when parents open a third store, sometimes parents will throw the child in here. He goes to play by himself. Then I
I was very satisfied with this. After I came to the study industry,
This is a place where you can
I don't really care about what others think. Because applying to the US university is actually a way of teaching you how to show your strengths, how to see your own strengths, and how to show them. So if I can do that,
I can better understand myself, and I can better understand my children and my students. So in this process, I not only gained a lot of satisfaction, but also learned a lot from the stories of students, and I built a deep connection with them. Another important thing is that I learned a lot from my students
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不是那个 popular kid 对吧或者说担心自己考不好或者有的人说甚至是说就是原来最好的朋友上了高中之后开始排挤自己之类的就是会有很多这些问题那其实这些问题很多时候我通过
和我的学生,包括还有逃课的小孩,爸爸妈妈都非常优秀,但是小孩就是不想学习,干什么都不想,就想退学,或者就想在家里躺着,一提到考试就崩溃,就会有很多这样的小孩,然后其实在这个过程中,我最开始我是很抵触那些
I understand the perspective of parents. But in the process, I think I'm a teacher. Parents should listen to me. I try to change and persuade parents. I understand the perspective of parents. I understand the tension and dynamics.
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然后我自己回家, 有的时候就会和我爸爸妈妈进行一些探讨, 或者是吵架, 有的时候是比如说, 我的小孩也跟他的父母吵架了, 那我回家我也,
I also found out that sometimes these things come into your personal life. But slowly I found that my perspective is also growing. Because I started communicating with my parents, my parents also began to understand me more. So in fact, in the past few years, when I was studying in this industry, I think the biggest takeaway may be this.
and he showed me that many problems that I used to think were problem-solving were not. And there is another factor, because my colleagues are really cute. For example, when I start to make some more absolute remarks, my colleagues always refute me with a very exploratory perspective. They say, "I don't think this problem is like this." We will start to discuss it in a lot of academic ways. I think this is also
and the best benefit of gathering together as international students.
So I'm actually quite grateful for this work experience. And it also made me know more clearly who I am. Because I ask my students every day who they are. In the process, I have to ask myself as their mentor, "Do you really know who you are?" Because some children are really sharp. Many people are very sharp. There is a child with a special idealism. He will tell me,
"Crystal, you graduated from a prestigious school, you worked so hard to get here, but you are still a deep learning mentor here. Don't you think it's tiring to make money?" "I don't want to live like this." "Do you really want to live like this?" I was so into it that I really wanted to live like this.
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给我带来了很多很 precious 的学生, 他们也会给我进行一些探讨。 所以有的时候我就心想, 如果我不能,
fully live myself out of my life. How can I ask my students to do this? They are still teenagers. I think I should do what I want them to do. Otherwise, I won't ask them to do this. I started thinking about this. When I started thinking about this, I couldn't stop. That's why I might be
and decided to leave the industry. There are many opportunities. For example, last year, I had a chance to work with a partner from another company. Many other companies have been looking for me since I joined. I don't know why.
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I had to face my true heart. If my career choice is to pursue my own career in this field, I will definitely do my best. I will definitely invest a lot of time in it.
I was thinking, "I've been investing so long in this, I'm starting to feel like I'm going to retire." I felt like I was going to make money and accumulate wealth. To be honest, I came to the company for two years before I paid off my debt.
But I felt that it wasn't that hard to make money. And I think I'm not bad at learning. I can do it so well in a second. I think I'm okay. So I started to think about whether I should leave here and try again. Of course, there are many repetitions in this process. I am actually a person who is more anxious and less secure. So I took a long time to make this decision. But
可能就是气急还不够,但是到气急足够的时候我就会愿意 move on 了。 我觉得你真的喜欢就是,是一个很好的习惯,一个就是去反思自己做的行为,包括你不停地在问自己这个当下或者是说这个东西是不是我想要的, 再去包括从学生给你的一些反馈也好,让你自己的一些思考也好,因为我正好最近在看这本书叫 Designing Your Life,
然后就发现其实好像这个过程中 我们没有做太多的思考 这是最可怕的 我觉得你特别好的一点 你就要你的那个第一份工作的老板告诉你 花长时间去思考 比你快速的去做一些 所谓的行为上的行动啊 那种非常简单的 但是又花时间 但是你觉得是
时间我把这个事情做完了就好,但其实你没有真正认真去思考自己到底想要什么。 所以你其实从第一份工作里就给你了一个特别好的一个漫赛,然后把这个漫赛一直延续到现在。 我觉得就是给你的所有的这个到可能从电影行业一直到现在教育行业,包括你未来的一些计划都有一个非常好的铺垫。 但是我觉得这里有一个很大的误区,我在很长时间里都在一个误区里。
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I think it's more
比较毁人的,因为这个方式的思考会使我止步不前,我就会觉得我什么都不懂,我什么都没搞明白,I haven't figured out anything yet, 那我就没法做任何事情,但是后来我发现真正有用的这个思考,它其实是,
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真正的大疼的那些小孩,他们其实就是非常尊重内心的,他们很知道自己是谁,他们知道自己想要什么,基于他们内心的 truth, truth about themselves,他们才去了解这个世界,去看这个世界,因为他们需要,所以这个世界有用,而不是说,而不是说我觉得我要获得那个外界的什么,
credentials or resources from outside. So I go back to what I should do. I think his what is called the promotion mechanism is different. He should be observing myself and understanding myself, accepting myself, and seeing what I want. This is what I need, not saying that I want this and that. So what do I want to do? Don't let yourself become a puppet of thought. Don't let yourself become a zombie who has to do a lot of things.
其实我都在想说我下一步到底怎么样,其实又进行了很多空想,虽然现在跟大家聊天感觉好像我想得很清楚,好像我很,但是其实过程是,
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I was in a hurry and addicted to the game. Please give it a try. Because I decided not to go to start a business with my friends at the beginning of last year. I think my body was relatively stiff after I got it. I had a fever for three days and two heads. It was inexplicable. I thought I had to take care of it for a while.
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Kind of reached a consensus. They all think that you are in such a bad mood. If you are very stressed out, if you are very unhappy, then we would rather you not do this job, right? Or just don't do these things. You are still happy is the most important thing. I found that in fact, a lot of things I used to think of them as something that was not true. I used to think that they really had to let me be a person. I am a qualified daughter, you know. But after the reconciliation, I thought that
I want to try these things I want to play. One of them is the game in Salda. I spent maybe one or two months, I was crazy addicted to Salda, playing every day. In addition to working with existing students, I was playing other times, and I was not picking up new students. I felt a little deeply, if I am very...
curious to explore the game world, to see how to solve this problem, how to solve this problem. It's always very interesting. But when I started searching for the formula, I found that there were 40 sets of clothing sets. How to get one by one, how to get one by one. I started to order those things to look at, and I was crazy about it. When I was crazy about getting those resources, I found that the game was not fun.
Then I thought, then I thought, then I thought, then I thought, then I thought, then I thought, then I thought, then I thought, then I thought, then I thought,
I should play my life game like this. So in the process, I suddenly realized that I wanted to make life decisions like this. Then I look back at the decisions I made before. I think they are very interesting and fun.
So I can continue to do it. I want to ask a question. As a net celebrity who is said to be a fan of Douyin and Xiaowangshu, your username is very interesting. How did this name come about? Actually, the name is like this. At first, I was called Yu Jie Jiang because my name is Jiang Yu Jie. I just changed it to Yu Jie Jiang. I made a
- Flowing with that wave.
But during this process, you can feel a kind of balance. You will feel as if you are breathing with nature. I think that kind of feeling is very magical. So I hope that I can do this in my life. Every difficulty or every obstacle is like a wave. If you are afraid of it, it can roll you away. But if you feel that the wave is coming, I will go and rush it.
Right? This feeling is very different. So I hope there will be such an attitude in my life. At the same time, I want to separate it because I think Siliang is also very good at this. Because I used to be a very standard good student.
I always wanted to do everything well, well, well, well, you are not good, you are just an ordinary person, a mortal. But then I found that this would lose balance. I may have done a lot of things well, but I don't have a high evaluation of myself. I think that this is also what I learned in my studies. I think the three most important things in life are actually a good body, a good mentality and a good mental appearance. I think these three things are very important.
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But because you described the feeling of surfing just now, it really is like that. It really gives you a very, very, very happy feeling. Yes, yes. It's also because of surfing. I would say that even if I don't master this skill, I can still love it. So I think it should be like this in life. I'm happy, isn't it? I have to take an exam to say if I can surf or not.
你是从什么时候开始在做视频平台的? 然后你因为我知道你其实已经累积了很多的粉丝了 那你的内容你主要都分享一些什么样的内容 你觉得什么样的内容的反馈是最好的?
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I don't want to let this task to pressure me to do content. I may still want to do whatever I want to do. So I started making this video after I failed to start a business. At first, I was on Douyin. I want to be a person who fits my personal image. A person who is more funny to ridicule some social phenomena. I may have done it for two months on Douyin. So I took some pieces of the story. I accumulated some ideas
foreign
encouragement.
They would laugh at me. But after they finished eating, there would still be a lot left. Then I would take all of these packages away. We would think about some jokes on the spot. We could even use this to make videos. Including, for example, sometimes I would cook at home. Basically, you can only cook at home if you spend 500 yuan a month. All of your...
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It's just that these strange worlds are all pretty funny.
They thought it was better to shoot these videos. Then I thought, why not share my failures and experiences? So I started shooting. Actually, I've been working on Little Red Book for more than a month or two. I've got more than 30,000 views in a month. Now I have more than 40,000 followers. I think the core is that you are sincere enough. What you say is...
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I was so scared. I was the only one in the world who couldn't sleep at night, didn't want to do anything, and wanted to beat the king every day. I didn't understand. I was so lucky to earn a million during college. I was so annoyed. Then I started shooting. All my topics were about this.
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I feel like I'm still being chased by the data. Once the data is uploaded, I will be under pressure. So I decided not to update regularly. I just shoot as I want. If I don't want to shoot, I'll just forget it. In this way, I am more interested in my own mental health. And then maybe the things that are taken out like this, the people who really watch my content will like it. If I keep outputting, but more and more,
反而可能不利于这个自寝长久做下去。 我说的我要去翻一翻你的那个小红书的视频,我觉得你说的点特别对,就因为其实社交媒体带给我们很多的 anxiety,你觉得每个人都只发好的那一面,但是我们每个人都非常清楚生活不是这样的。
就没有人真的去说我们面对的一些挑战和困难,这也包括为什么我们想做这个 podcast 也是一样,就告诉大家。
Thank you. I don't know what I said that was useful or not. If there are any other specific things you want to talk about, you can ask me specifically because sometimes I can't think of anything.
你可以聊一聊就是未来你有哪些计划,那你说,因为你现在有想法,就想要可能离开这个教育行业,那你之后有些什么样的计划吗?
因为这些小孩越来越接触更低龄的小孩,今年申请的小孩和四年前申请的小孩,可能他们成长起来的那个教育的
背景会很不一样。 四年前的那些小孩, 可能他们有的是高中才接触要出国, 那个时候他们会比较 authentic 的 去了解自己想要干嘛。 但是就有的可能初中想的, 但是现在我们现在以及以后 再去服务的很多小孩, 他可能简历, 就从幼儿园开始就在讲, 我的领导力怎么怎么样, 我对 community 有很多的 service, 的这个 spirit 怎么怎么样, 其实他那个东西就变味了。
So I started to realize that the so-called "being yourself" hat is actually based on the idea that I want to become a successful person. So I want to leave this industry. At the beginning, I wanted to do a studio that I recognized as valuable. I only want to learn about myself in this process.
and open the link between you and the world. Because applying to a university in the US is a very special thing. It's very different from applying to a university in China. Because they really want you to know who you are. And during this process, they will ask you to think about a lot of things you've never thought about. Why did I go to school? Why did I go to the US?
然后我以后想成为什么样的人, 或者不想成为什么样的人。 但是我就, 就虽然我想做这样的一个 studio, 并且我这个 studio 的想法, 获得了很多家长和, 就是游戏行业的一些朋友们的认可。 但是后来我会发现, 这还是一个帽子。 因为,
He must have come to you for the sake of the result. Otherwise, he would not have gone to an international school to assist him in applying. If he really needs to understand himself in this process, he may only go to a life coach, right? Or a therapist.
Right? So I would think that if I really want to achieve my goal, I might really have to run away from the process of studying. Then I can't study. Then I might only do some moments of youth life. A mentor who brings you some inspiration at a critical moment. I can only do this kind of job. I don't want to be in the middle of it.
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So I think it's better to leave this industry. If there are people who come to me for study abroad, I hope they value more the spiritual exploration I have with you in the process, rather than asking me what competition I want to play and what school I want to go to. I hope they will be able to understand
而不是以第二个目的为主的。 所以这是为什么我说我要离开这个行业。 而 life coach 本身它就是一个 case by case 的一项事业, 它也没有办法规模化,我也不想规模化。 所以我就想说这部分就随缘干, 随缘干,有缘分介绍来, 那我就干,没有缘分那就算了嘛。 同时呢我还想再花多一点时间去 explore 我自己,
I was trying to do it before, but I didn't try it for a long time. Because now, to put it bluntly, the study abroad industry has brought me some economic foundation. I also gained some recognition from my family. I have to say that the recognition of my family is still very important to me. I found out that I am actually such a person. After I made many peace with my family, I found that I am more willing to try some new things.
I'm doing cross-border e-commerce because of my current partner. I had some experience before, but not much. I'm curious how to do it well. At the same time, he needs to do marketing on content. Some people help him tell the story of the brand.
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I don't know. But I think I'll try it out. Just try it. Life is just playing games. I really like your mentality and some of your thoughts. You want to be a therapist. You want to do life coaching. And then you might want to try e-commerce. I hope you can continue
That's okay.
Thank you, Crystal, for sharing your interesting story with us. We hope you enjoy listening to her share her life experience. If Crystal's story touched you, please share it with your friends and family. Let's share interesting stories together and learn more about each other.
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