English Talk #2 : Self-Love
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Everyone has a past that makes them insecure or easily discouraged. One way to deal with our insecurities is to love ourselves. Self-love means that we love and accept everything inside ourselves, including our inner child or our inferiorities. Self-love is the first and forest step of love before transforming it into another.

If we have a partner who loves us, but we don't love ourselves, then all his praises will seem meaningless. Your boyfriend/girlfriend tells you some healing words like ‘you are so beautiful, dear’ but we feel that we are not, we deny his/her statement because of our insecurities, then those good words will never be enough for us to be comfortable with ourselves. Or otherwise, we try to love our partner, but we couldn’t get the reason why our partner loves us, because we haven't fully understood who we are. So when our partner leaves, we seem to lose our way.

I know this is not an easy thing when it comes to life partners. But if we rely our happiness on clothes, bags, traveling overseas, then we will not be really happy and we can’t love ourselves completely.

Self-love is a part of our love for the self and God. If we already feel enough, accepting everything that belongs to us, we will feel that people’s praises are no longer necessary, and no one can drag us down. This means that if we can do our self-respect, we will sincerely praise others without expecting that person to praise us back. And we will keep our words from hurting or judging others because we felt the hurt of being judged, and that feeling grows our empathy. We don't want to be hurt, that's why we don't hurt other people.

It is obvious that people who rarely praise others, often give negative comments to others. But sometimes, they do express negative things to others, because maybe they had not appreciated and loved themselves yet. The way a man interacts with you reflects the way he interacts with others in his life.

So, just believe that if we love ourselves, it will arise our sincerity to love and accept others.