English Talk #1 : How to Deal With The Insecurity
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Feeling insecure is natural, everyone has felt that way. I also often feel insecure. But in some cases, feeling insecure for too long is not good. ‘Ahh I'm ugly, why is my nose like this, why am I having acne, why are my cheeks shaped like this, why am I so thin, why am I so fat’. Thinking about it too long can harm us. Insecurity kills us slowly. We should get rid of such thoughts.

I can understand the feeling of inferiority from being compared to one another, especially to the closest people. It sucks, and sometimes it makes us lose control. When it happens to you, you should look for help, whether it's looking for healing words or hearing stories like this. And you also definitely need someone next to you to cheer you up by saying something good such as "hey you are worth for everything". But in case you don't have those kinds of people, or maybe they can't directly say those words to you, so I am here representing them to tell you, "hey you are worth and you are more than what they say"

You may be really trying to make yourself looks attractive, to make it looks better, when in fact it's just an illusion. For you all who suffer from weight complex, you must be really hard to jog or run or work hard to look slimmer, to look thinner. But when you become really thin and slim, what do you get? Are you satisfied? Have you had enough?

In another case, you try to improve your appearance by buying good clothes, jackets, shoes. Those may change your look to be better, but in the end, your look is what relies upon inside yourself.

So the first thing you need is self-acceptance. You know, the beauty standard itself has no limit or specified requirement. People are born different, with their own beauty and luck. But after all, a good appearance will be a waste if you do not have a good heart. So, even though this world has been too cruel for our reality, your smile, generosity, and good resilience can be the strongest beauty that not everyone else has.

First, feel free to tell everything that burdens you. Then, accept those burdens, remember that you are worth for any happiness. As life goes on, you will get used to them.

For those of you who may be pushed away by your friends, or not finding them good to you, just because of their physical judging of you, just leave them already. Why? Because you are more precious than them. Sometimes, they really absorb into you, like ‘eh, look at how fat you are, uh, look at those acnes, your pimples are spreading everywhere’. Those things should be really hurt you. But no matter how many friends you have, no matter how close you are to them, no matter how intensive your relation with your parents, you will end up dealing with yourself. You are the one who will be the hero, who can light up in the dark within you. Finally, what you should do now is ignoring those words.

Now, look in the mirror. Look at yourself, and say “you are beautiful, you are great. And I am proud of you "