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053 孤独不会侵蚀我的内心

2024/10/27
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主播:十月尝试了染发和攀岩等新鲜事物,但这些尝试并未能有效缓解中年危机带来的冷漠、孤独和空虚感。染发带来的新鲜感和自由感是短暂的,攀岩则让她直面了恐高,但这些体验并未能转移她对现有困境的注意力。她意识到暴露疗法需要针对正确的方向,而她目前面临的挑战是人际关系和工作中的困境,而非简单的恐高或他人目光。 主播:她反思到逃避并非解决问题的办法,反而会让问题持续存在。寻找捷径的可能性很低,且不可控因素较多。她开始尝试坦然面对问题,并逐渐认识到自己可能只是经验不足,而非能力不足。通过练习和锻炼,可以提升能力,解决经验不足的问题。在人际交往中,她尝试自然地表达自己的想法,即使其中可能包含一些不完美之处。她意识到“出来”是一种能力,指将想法付诸实践,只有将想法付诸实践才能检验其价值。 主播:电影《蓦然回首》让她意识到可分享心灵的重要性,并反思自己目前缺乏这种可分享的心灵。她渴望找到可以分享内心感受的人,但目前仍处于寻找的过程中。她从文章《世界とはぐれて》中获得启发,即使孤独,也能珍惜每一天,孤独不会侵蚀内心。她最终选择以坦然的态度面对现状,即使带着犹豫和恐惧,去面对问题也是一种选择。

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Why did the speaker decide to dye their hair orange?

The speaker decided to dye their hair orange after seeing AI-generated images of themselves with red hair, which they found surprisingly appealing. They wanted to try a lighter hair color after having dark hair for 30 years.

What was the speaker's experience with rock climbing?

The speaker, who is afraid of heights, tried rock climbing for the first time on a beginner’s route that was about 10 meters high. Despite initial fear and discomfort, they managed to complete the route, though they found it physically exhausting and challenging.

Why did the speaker feel that trying new things didn't help their low mood?

The speaker felt that trying new things like dyeing their hair and rock climbing only temporarily distracted them from their deeper issues, such as feelings of loneliness and a lack of deeper meaning in their life. These activities didn’t address the root causes of their emotional struggles.

What did the speaker learn about facing fears and social judgment?

The speaker learned that while exposing themselves to fears like heights or social judgment can be empowering, these fears weren’t the core issues they needed to address. They realized that their deeper struggles, such as loneliness and lack of purpose, required more introspection and honesty rather than just external challenges.

What is the significance of the movie 'Look Back' to the speaker?

The movie 'Look Back' resonated with the speaker because it depicted the journey of two characters who shared a deep connection through their creative work. It highlighted the importance of having a 'shareable soul'—someone with whom one can share vulnerabilities and experiences, which the speaker feels they currently lack.

How does the speaker view loneliness after reading the article '世界とはぐれて'?

The speaker found comfort in the idea that loneliness doesn’t have to erode one’s inner self. The article emphasized that even without romantic relationships, one can still cherish daily life and create a sense of belonging. This perspective helped the speaker feel more at peace with their own feelings of loneliness.

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本期节目回顾了十月尝试的新鲜事:染发和攀岩。染发过程虽然充满意外,但却带来了新鲜感和自由。攀岩则挑战了恐高,直面恐惧。然而,这些经历并未完全摆脱低落情绪,反而凸显了中年危机的困扰:冷漠、孤独和空虚。
  • 十月尝试染发和攀岩,获得新鲜感但未能摆脱低落情绪
  • 将染发和攀岩视为暴露疗法,但方向可能错误
  • 中年危机体现为冷漠、孤独和空虚

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莽撞染发,丧胆攀岩,以及因为《蓦然回首》大哭的十月,即将结束了。尝试了很多新事情,但最让我沮丧的事情进展甚微。人际关系是这样,职场也是。一边安慰自己是经验不足,一边慢慢诚实面对自己的逃避,也稍微把眼睛转向应该面向的地方。

未来还没来,我们也只能在当下做出选择。即使还没有什么把握,也在犹豫即将持续下去之前,迈出不知道是向前还是向后的一步。很想获得可分享的心灵,就像《蓦然回首》里的藤野和京本能够照见彼此那样。看起来是一个非常遥远的难以抵达的坐标,但不管怎么样,想先在忘记现在的心情之前,把话说给你听。

 

🙀 试试危机

  • Highlights

00:49 十月也有努力地在尝试新鲜事之染一头橘发

04:30 恐高的我居然勇敢攀岩(十米新手版本)

08:58 再好玩的事情也没能让我逃离中年危机,因为 what you resist persists

13:43 即使还带着犹豫,让自己的话自然地流淌出来

16:23 「出来る」:任何形式的「出来」都是一种能力

18:49 《蓦然回首》:从封闭的心里走出来

21:07 藤野和京本:可分享的心灵的抵达

24:13 孤独不会侵蚀我的内心

 

  • 相关资料

📖 文章

《棋类、博弈和人工智能》 by 李喆 from 《格》) 逃离,如果是被迫的,或许创造也是。每一次逃离都让我们更加清楚自己不是什么,每一次创造也让我们更加清楚自己可以是什么。当原有的秩序崩坏,人们逃到最后的堡垒中,发现许多界限都隐隐消失,一切价值都期待重估。黑暗之中,不知名的花草正破石而出。  

《世界とはぐれて #3》) by 銀の森(ぎんのもり) 恋してなくても毎日を愛おしむことはできるんだって、孤独が心をむしばむことはない。  

✍️ 文字

崔庆龙关于「心理源自于可分享的心灵」的阐释)和) 我们都知道一句话说出去以后,另一个人能够有所感受,并且给我们回应的那种感觉。它会让我们想要分享更多,想要探索对方的经验世界,也想将对方邀请在自己的世界里,这两个世界在相互重叠的那一刻将创造出一个全然不同的新世界,那便是第三主体,它是我们心灵可以访问的新区域,类似于你遇见不同的人,就会有不同的自我感,这份新的自我感又会为你新的遇见贡献影响。  

🎬 影视

《蓦然回首》)

 

🎧 播客

《No.56 做一个废物也是没那么容易的》) by 得意忘形

《67. 和张春一起的心声特辑:堂堂正正地做一个「身弱之人」》) by 展开讲讲

 

  • 音乐

FINAL ONE - haruka nakamura

 

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