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83:上海|持有中等生心理的生活

2024/8/11
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Sijia: 本期节目探讨了在上海生活的中等生心态。中等生指的是学习和工作中不突出也不落后的人群,他们容易被忽略,缺乏个体存在感,习惯于自我反思,在工作中按时完成任务,不争功劳,不抱怨。在上海这样竞争激烈的城市,中等生面临着多重困境:激烈的竞争使他们难以脱颖而出,高昂的生活成本增加了经济压力,快节奏的生活和长时间通勤使他们难以平衡工作、兴趣和社交生活,心理压力随之而来。他们既希望通过努力提升自己,又害怕努力不足,从而产生自我怀疑和焦虑。 Sijia还谈到了国内外对Gap year的不同理解,以及由此带来的压力。在爱尔兰,Gap year被普遍接受,政府会提供失业补助,而在国内,Gap year期间的成就和收益更受关注,这使得处于Gap year的人面临更大的压力和焦虑。 Gaga: Gaga分享了她作为上海待业一年的经历,以及她对中等生心态的理解。她认为自己之前的决策都是基于中等生的心态,即从众,隐藏在人群中寻求安心。她谈到了自己大学毕业后因为没有谈恋爱而感到自卑,以及对爱情的理解。她认为爱情最好的状态是能像小孩子一样,在对方面前放松,并有时间探索自我。 Gaga还分享了她对Gap year的看法,以及在Gap year期间的经历。她认为国内对Gap year的理解与爱尔兰不同,国内更注重Gap year期间的成就和收益。她谈到了自己经历了三次裁员,以及在裁员期间的焦虑和颓丧情绪。她建议被裁员的人先慢下来,不要急于找工作,先与自己对话,接纳自己,不要苛求他人的期待。 Gaga还谈到了她对高敏感性格的理解,以及它对她的生活和工作的影响。她认为高敏感性格让她在工作和生活中有很多优势,但也让她情绪波动大,容易内耗。她希望接纳自己的性格,包括它的优缺点,并温柔地对待自己。她还谈到了她对家庭环境的看法,以及她如何处理与家人的关系。她认为来自父母的肯定很重要,即使她已经30多岁了。

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What is the definition of a 'medium student' according to Gaga?

A 'medium student' refers to someone who performs averagely in academics, neither excelling nor falling behind. They are often stable, obedient, and complete tasks on time without standing out. In the workplace, they follow instructions without seeking recognition or causing trouble, often blending into the background.

Why does Gaga describe herself as having a 'medium student' mentality?

Gaga identifies with the 'medium student' mentality because she has always followed societal norms without standing out. She avoids conflict, doesn't seek recognition, and often hides in the crowd for a sense of security. This mentality has influenced her decisions in both her personal and professional life.

What challenges do 'medium students' face in big cities like Shanghai?

In big cities like Shanghai, 'medium students' face intense competition, high living costs, and a fast-paced lifestyle. They struggle to balance work, personal interests, and social life, leading to psychological stress. They often feel self-doubt and anxiety about their future due to the overwhelming number of choices and directions available.

How has Gaga's perspective on life changed during her gap year?

During her gap year, Gaga has shifted from a 'medium student' mentality to exploring her own interests and possibilities. She has started a podcast, engaged in side hustles like 'accompanying photography,' and focused on self-discovery. This period has allowed her to break free from societal expectations and find her own path.

What advice does Gaga give to those who have been laid off?

Gaga advises those who have been laid off to take a pause and not rush into finding another job. She suggests using the time to reflect, explore personal interests, and focus on self-care. She emphasizes the importance of not letting societal pressures dictate one's decisions and to embrace the opportunity for self-discovery.

What is Gaga's daily routine during her gap year?

Gaga's daily routine includes preparing a hearty breakfast, working on her creative projects at a coffee shop, exercising, and engaging in hobbies like building puzzles or photography. She values the flexibility and freedom her gap year provides, allowing her to focus on personal growth and self-expression.

How does Gaga describe her experience with love and relationships?

Gaga describes her experience with love as a journey from unrealistic expectations based on TV and novels to a more grounded understanding. She values a relationship where she can be herself, explore her individuality, and have mutual support without being overly dependent on her partner.

What is Gaga's view on the concept of 'Gap Year' in China?

Gaga notes that in China, the concept of a 'Gap Year' has become competitive, with people focusing on achievements and certifications during this period. She contrasts this with the original idea of a gap year, which is about self-exploration and taking a break from societal pressures.

What does Gaga hope to achieve in the next three years?

In the next three years, Gaga hopes to find a sustainable path outside the traditional work structure that allows her to support herself through creative endeavors. She aims to continue exploring her interests, avoid self-criticism, and make decisions that align with her true self.

How does Gaga handle the pressure from her family regarding her career choices?

Gaga handles family pressure by not disclosing her current employment status to avoid judgment and criticism. She focuses on her own goals and avoids engaging in arguments with her family, choosing instead to manage their concerns through periodic communication.

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本期节目探讨了中等生的定义以及他们在上海生活中的困境。中等生通常学习成绩中等,不突出也不落后,在学习和工作中可能面临缺乏目标、动力不足等挑战,但也具备适应能力强、情绪稳定等优点。在上海这样的大城市,中等生形态的人面临着激烈的竞争、高昂的生活成本以及快节奏的生活压力,容易产生自我怀疑和焦虑。
  • 中等生的定义:学习成绩中等,不突出也不落后
  • 上海中等生的困境:竞争激烈,生活成本高,快节奏生活
  • 中等生的心理特点:适应能力强,情绪稳定,缺乏目标和动力,容易自我怀疑和焦虑

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中等生是指在学术成绩和表现上处于中间水平的学生,Ta们的成绩通常不突出也不落后。中等生往往表现出一定的稳定性,不会过分抢眼或引人注意。中等生在学习中可能会面临一些挑战,例如缺乏明确的目标和动力,或者在某些科目上需要额外的支持。然而,Ta们也拥有许多优点,如适应能力强、情绪较为稳定、人际关系良好等。

在大城市生活的中等生形态的人往往面临多重困境。激烈的竞争使他们难以脱颖而出,生活成本高昂增加了经济压力,快节奏的生活和长时间通勤使Ta们难以平衡工作、兴趣和社交生活,心理压力随之而来。Ta们既希望通过努力提升自己,又害怕努力不足,从而产生自我怀疑和焦虑。此外,众多的选择和方向使他们对未来感到迷茫,难以找到适合自己的发展路径。

本期节目录制于:2024年7月5日

——本期成员——

Gaga:《巷子里的猫)》主播之一,本期节目后期剪辑的神仙嘉宾

Sijia:很典型中等生心理的“学生”,不突出也不落后

——本期话题——

01:31 Gaga自我介绍,身体健康状态和运动爱好

04:16 为什么会想给这一期内容取“中等生”心态呢?它的定义是什么?

15:29 有关Gap的讨论

31:07 Gaga当下的生活状态

39:38 在互联网裁员潮的当下,有什么心得想分享给处于同样情况下的听友吗?

43:38 善于倾听的Gaga是如何成为今天的自己的呢?

58:52 儿时成长环境里,获得肯定和鼓励是件很不容易的事

1:12:11 对三年后的自己有什么期待吗?

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