This title is much more ominous than the conversation. Today we discussed a new take on an old theme at the What Is Humans? Podcast…Expectations. In a recent conversation that Nvidia CEO Jensen Huang gave to a group of Stanford Graduates he wished them pain and suffering. You might be thinking that sounds pretty malicious who would ever do such a thing, but Jensen thinks otherwise. High expectations are often born out of circumstances in which we are expecting certain things to happen. Outcomes that have almost always been there for us, given our effort, our upbringing or a myriad of other inputs. When things like this go exactly according to plan, it kills the resilience that we naturally build inside of ourselves, and that was what Jensen was aiming at.
Resilience comes from facing obstacles and getting up and trying again, continuously pushing forward with vigor. This resilience is what Jensen was looking for. Selfishly, this felt so good to hear coming from the CEO of one of the most successful companies in the world currently. An individual that was wishing pain and suffering on Stanford grads, what could be better? While there is some satisfaction in hearing this, there is also an application factor that we have to acknowledge in our own lives. Have we at home been exercising our own pain and suffering. Putting ourselves in uncomfortable nearly impossible situations only to become stronger when we inevitably fail because of them.
We have talked many times about getting comfortable being uncomfortable, but this should just be more evidence that we need to double down on such things. Use your own pain and suffering to better yourself and constantly seek it out. Fan the flames of your relationship with failure and pain, and we will all surely become stronger because of it. The moment that we start expecting things to happen because of this or that we become soft and less likely to bounce back when things don’t go our way.