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#135. Old Friends That Hurt

2023/11/7
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Justin和Aric探讨了困扰他们的“老朋友”——那些反复出现的消极想法,例如自我怀疑、害怕重蹈覆辙以及时间流逝的焦虑。他们分享了各自的梦境和经历,并讨论了如何通过正念等方式来应对这些消极情绪。Justin提到他梦到无法阻挡的怪物,象征着他对重复悲剧模式的恐惧。Aric则认为梦境反映了潜意识中正在影响你的事情。他们还讨论了如何区分内疚和羞耻,以及如何接受而非仅仅满足于当下。Justin认为困扰他的是未能达到他人的期望以及时间的流逝,这让他感到内疚,而不是羞耻。Aric则认为他的困扰源于自我怀疑和对归属感的担忧,以及有时过度关注自我。他们还探讨了动机的复杂性,以及正念在应对这些挑战中的作用。最后,他们讨论了“一对一”朋友的概念,以及如何保持和发展亲密关系。 Aric认为梦境反映了潜意识中正在影响你的事情,并探讨了如何通过正念来应对消极想法。他建议在意识到消极想法时,用“你好,老朋友”的方式来承认它们的存在,并尝试放下它们。他还用音量比喻来解释如何避免被想法控制,并以自我怀疑为例说明了这种现象。Aric还讨论了在播客中如何避免因为自我怀疑而影响表现,以及如何将事情看作体验而非表演。他认为,在与Justin的对话中,他们能够达到正念的状态,并讨论了正念的含义和如何练习正念。Aric还分享了他对内疚和羞耻的理解,以及如何区分它们。他认为,内疚感是关于你对别人的行为,而羞耻感是关于你对自己的评价。最后,Aric讨论了“一对一”朋友的概念,以及如何保持和发展亲密关系。

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The episode begins with a discussion about 'old friends' that torment us, such as self-doubt and unmet expectations, and how they keep coming back despite our efforts to avoid them.

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Today Justin and Aric reflect on inner demons or "old friends" that cause torment, such as self-doubt, unmet expectations, fear of repeating hurtful patterns, and the feeling of time slipping away.  We discuss acceptance vs being content, guilt vs shame, and mindfulness.  We talk about our awkward friendship and explore what makes a "one-on-one" friend.  We also talk about the limits of human perspective, when false assumptions collide and zooming out across time and space to see the larger context around people, events and conflicts rather than a narrow recent view.


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