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I called it.
Hey guys, happy holidays! This is your host and good friend Nikki again and welcome back to this channel! I hope that the energy of the full moon can make you guys feel revitalized and recharged. And considering the fact that it is still around the Mooncake Festival, today I have picked a song named "Moon Sea" as the background music and hopefully you guys can enjoy it still.
And actually I didn't plan to update my channel until after the holiday is over. But seriously, planning is the weakest thing in the world. You know, just now I was sitting there watching some TV show and also I had some snacks at hand.
For some reason, you know, all of a sudden, neither the show nor the snacks seemed appealing enough to engage my attention. You know, inspiration just came, you know, inspiration just dictated that I had to do the job, you know, updating a new episode just today. It has to be today. So here I am. And I guess inspiration is fundamentally the ultimate boss, right? Yeah.
Anyway, what I want to talk about today as what you guys have already seen in the title is the power of repeating. I don't know if you guys have seen the movie Good Will Hunting. It is a very nice movie made in the year 1997. And in case some of you guys are just too young to have watched it,
Here, I'm gonna briefly introduce the storyline. Okay? So it's a story about a young man named Will, who is smart and intelligent as hell.
But he is so, so deeply troubled internally as well. He had such a huge lack of a sense of security because of some childhood trauma. So growing up, in order to protect himself from being hurt, he basically keeps his heart closed to everyone, even to those ones who wanted to love him.
So as you can imagine, this sort of personality will only leave him alone. And at the same time, he is going to hurt a lot of people who hold good intentions, but who don't know well enough about his defense mechanism.
But, you know, a movie is a movie. I mean, the man, Will, is very lucky, you know, in this movie. He has got some help from a man named Sean, who is a shrink, you know, like a psychiatrist, I guess. And they had a conversation like this. You see this? All this shit. It's not your fault. Look at me, son. It's not your fault. It's not your fault.
I know. No, no, you don't. It's not your fault. I know. It's not your fault. It's not your fault. It's not your fault. Don't fuck with me. It's not your fault. Don't fuck with me, all right? Don't fuck with me, Sean. Not you. It's not your fault. It's not your fault. Oh, my God.
You know, Good Will Hunting is a great movie in a lot of sense. But this scene where Shang repeatedly says "It is not your fault" impressed me the most.
it's not just the words, you know, it's the fact that he repeats the words. And this holds a very strong power, like a sharp sword, piercing through all your defenses, and directly getting to the heart. I mean, you can imagine that in this movie, the character Will might already have heard a lot of times of, it is not your fault, from a lot of other people.
But he never took it seriously because he knew that those who said these words are just saying them as a pleasantry of some sort. But when Zhang, the shrink, repeats, it is not your fault for the third, fourth, fifth, or even the eighth time,
It carries a strong power because he is showing that he means business. And he hopes that will can take these words to heart as well, which can dissolve the ice that has been built in there for so long. So
You know, this movie, this fact of repeating, you know, the power of repeating just got me thinking, you know, I think in our daily life, we have not fully utilized the powerful tool of repetition well enough. For example, you know, every one of us at some point is told that we are a good person that deserves to be loved for who we really are. Maybe sometimes we tell ourselves this too.
But actually, I think a lot of us do not really believe it. Because too often, we still get so paranoid at how others might perceive us. And we still do things that indicate that we base our personal value on how much we have satisfied others' expectations.
And this is toxic, you know, because essentially our value should come from the courage of being ourselves. And it should come from doing the things that we think are right to do. So I urge you guys to repeat for a hundred times, even for a thousand times, that you are a good person that deserves to be loved for who you really are.
I repeat once again, you are a good person that deserves to be loved for who you really are. Tell yourself about it. Tell yourself some more times about it. Even repeat it every single day. Keep it to your heart and make it become your personal mantra even.
Because after this, I think that some good things like self-esteem can finally come along and you will be happier and more fulfilled. Definitely, for sure. Today, before I go, I also want to point out another scenario where the power of repeating can be used.
Well, you know, it can be used on learning. You know, for example, so many students of mine are seeking for the next shortcut of improving English. They are always on the hunt for new materials and new textbooks and new techniques and so on. But actually, the trick is repeating.
I mean, if I learn English through watching a TV drama, let's say, I would watch every episode of it for at least three times. You know, first time, you know, I watch for the content and the second time for the language, including vocabulary, you know, collocations, etc. And then for the third time, I think I will be soaking in the sense
of the episode and the emotions of the characters as well as the entire vibe of the episode, you know? So I think in this way, I will never have to be worried about running out of the learning materials. But at the same time, I get to learn better than anyone else can. So yeah, there you have it.
This is everything that I want to put in today's episode. And thank you guys still for listening and supporting this channel. And I guess I will catch you guys later in the next episode. And bye!